It’s Too Long For A Child DEBATE | Goddess Braids Tutorial | Human Hair 

I had no idea that length of hair on a child was controversial. Seems like a strange thing to be upset about! Good for you for doing what you and her want to do, and ignore anyone's negativity. ❤

It's crazy that the too long for a child statement is typically made about black girls and coming from black women. Yet the same women will fawn over the long hair of another type of child. This comment section gives me hope that we are growing out of putting additional constraints on our children or negatively labeling them when they are only doing the same as children of another race/ethnicity. I love seeing moms like this who move off their daughters joy and happiness instead of cultural bias.

My sisters would say crap like "that's too long", "that's too colorful", "that's too blah blah blah." She pulled the "that's too long for you" card after she did my hair for middle school one day. I'm up in the mirror admiring the weave that almost touches my butt and she straight up cut it right in half. *My hair was naturally that long,* the weave just made it look thicker while it was straight. I was so *depressed.* I didn't have time to take out all the hair glue before school so I had to go out with this solid chop line and static hairs sticking up everywhere.. Any confidence that style would have given me just straight up wilted, and it ruined _any_ confidence I had before it too, lol. I take the weave down after school and my natural hair looks just like it. I hated her so much for that, I couldn't even. That's the first bit of jealousy I have stored in my cognitive memory. I couldn't wear her earrings with the hair either. "They were too grown for me" when she was only a grade higher. When my hair curled up after the crappy chop job it actually looked pretty good. "The mother" comes along and scrapes my hair into this tiny ass ponytail every morning because we couldn't wear fros without looking like "ragamuffins." The same woman who had short hair and wanted it to grow so badly. Perm and Puff Ball was all she spoke. It was a natural girl's worst nightmare in that place. (Bonus Story: I had this time where my hair was so dry from "The Mother's" neglect (she didn't want me to tend to my own hair tho 🙄) so I tried to sneak and comb my hairs with water.. she comes in and tells me to stop wetting my hair because I'm not a chia pet.) 💀 My experiences growing up with insecure black women, in _and_ out of school: Anything that makes you look or feel good is too old or too young for you. There's nothing that should make you feel good about yourself in this whole god-damned world. You won't hear anything like it from any other people, I swear. No other families have this hair issue where a young girl could have "too long" hair. Sure, there's parents who give their girls bobs, but it's nothing like what *we* do. We're always worried about what other people think and say about our kids that we make them live in such an uncomfortable, expressionless environment. I hate us for that. I honestly do.

I never associate length with being "too grown" when it comes to little kids. My only concern is safety because some kids with longer braids I've seen have had their braids caught in doors and on other objects😓. One little girl was running, and her braid got caught on the playground when she jumped off, and the entire braid ripped out😢. That's my only thought when I see younger active kids with really long hair and braids. 💕But this style turned out beautifully! And it's not as long as I've seen on some kids. I've seen some to their ankles.

Being of mixed Polynesian heritage, my hair was to my knees (natural length as a kid) as was my daughter and all 4 of my sons. So I don't see anything wrong with her wearing this length. It's beautiful❤, and when she's tired of it, it'll come down easily.

I've always thought a good rule of thumb regardless of hair type, is if kiddo can look after their hair at an appropriate level, and parents have the time and/or finances to support their child's haircare where required, then there's nothing wrong with changing things up (be it length, style, colour, or whatever else!). And it strikes me in particular given how long your daughter has to sit while you do her hair like this, that she likely has a lot of respect instilled in her for the time and maintenance required, especially given she asked for it. Looks so good!

I've never heard someone have to defend the length of their child's hair. Why do people think they have the right to be upset about your child? People out here are wild. I think it looks beautiful, you did a wonderful job.

This style is too cute!! 🥰 This video dropped just in time. My 13 yr old daughter watched the video with me, and wants me to do her hair exactly like this. My daughter had very long hair, so I always had to make her braids longer. It’s nothing wrong with your daughter having long hair. My daughter was begging me to do a peekaboo dyed pink. I finally agreed to dye her hair for her. I don’t think long hair will make them “fast.” Long hair shouldn’t change a thing. They were more than likely “fast” from the get go, if that’s the case.

As an old white North- European woman I don't know why this came into my feed but it was good to watch. My mom just cut my hair very short so it would not be a hassle combing. Very well done.

You're daughter is growing up so lovely Her hair is growing so fast and beautiful as well. Keep up the great work.

I let my daughter get her hair long and she loves color. 🤷🏾‍♀️ it's just hair. She gets "kid friendly " styles so I guess it balances out.

The fact that people seem to only associate hair length with “being too grown” for only black girls specifically is highly disturbing.

*I am a hairstylist and I was doing a blonde hair color on someone. I had some left so🤷🏽‍♀️ I didn’t think it was wrong to put the rest on my 7 year olds hair!😂😂😂 I definitely bought pics that year and it’s hanging on the wall at my mom’s house. I say if the mom doesn’t say it’s too long then it’s not too long. In black culture we don’t get to wear our hair down until EASTER (I’m hella busy this week😂) or another holiday. I always wondered why. Anyway why can’t our girls wear their hair however they like? The fear they’ll be “fast” is the reason These braids are gorgeous❤* *She’s 23 and thinks it’s funny because I won’t put color on it now😆*

So much to love here. I love the energy of watching a mom love her daughter with this intensity. For me, there is something so healing about being able to love my daughter at a level that I did not receive, myself. It’s like the prayer of St. Francis: “it is in giving of ourselves that we receive.” I believe that people who say “too long” “too colorful” dare I say, “too pretty” - those people feel an inner resentment related to something they feel they did not get, but wanted as a child. In order to make their experience okay within themselves, they want others to be denied. I will also comment as a mom to a 13 year old girl. Your daughter is obviously an adored angel. And that is what God wants for her and for you. ❤

Thank you for this video I was in tears watching this, to see the pure love here and the mother/daughter bonding 💜💜💜 it took me right back to my childhood with my own mom. When I was little I had long beautiful hair that went past my butt. It was my mom's pride and joy, she loved to sit and brush it every morning and night. We really bonded during those times and it was an opportunity for me to experience the true love and care my mom had for me. When I was 9 my dad married my step mother and my parents were going through a really nasty custody battle. At the first opportunity, my step mother cut all my hair off all the way to my ears.. I had never cried so hard... she's a nasty woman and she "didn't have the time to take care of my hair" I was 9 years old and could take care of it myself and she knew that, I knew how to use the detangler and a brush. My mom made sure she taught me how to care for it on my own for the times I would be at my dad's. But my step mother was jealous of my mom and she knew how much it would hurt her to see her baby's hair cut to her ears. When my mom picked me up that weekend I got the haircut, she took one look at me and flew into a rage. My step mother smirked at her so my mom punched her in the face. She ran into the house like a coward and locked the door but that door wasn't about to stop my mom, she picked up a brick from the garden, the front door was glass and she smashed it in with the brick and chased my step mother around the house. I think the most my step mother was expecting was to make my mom cry, but she found out who my mom was that day... she put a restraining order on my mom and for the next 6 years took immense pleasure in doing any and everything she could to break me down and make me cry. I started calling her a witch to her face because I swear that woman THRIVED off my tears.. I ended up leaving at 15. She completely destroyed my relationship with my dad for sport. It was fun for her. To this day we can't stand eachother and I'm 31 now. But seeing you put so much time and love into caring for your daughters hair and seeing the two of you bond, and you building a strong foundation for your daughter by helping to build her confidence and teach her that she is beautiful and how much you love her really reminded me of those times with my own mom and I thank you for that. I will cherish those memories with my mom for the rest of my life, and your daughter will too 💜💜

TIL that people, for some reason, negatively judge children for hair length?? She looks beautiful with her braids and I love how confident her smile is! You did such a great job. She looks like a princess and I bet all her friends will be jealous! It’s so sad that you have to defend the character of a middle schooler, a literal preteen CHILD, just for trying out hairstyles like all of us did as kids.

No such thing as hair that’s too long, in my opinion. My daughter naturally has hair grown long enough to sit on, so a little longer than shown here. She’s 10, and has only had one real haircut - just small trims occasionally. Our deal is she can do whatever she wants with her hair as long as she cares for it properly. Your daughter’s hair looks great!

How can anyone think length of hair has anything to do with age????? I've seen little Asian babies with hair past their waist! Beautiful job this is so 😍 & you are amazingly talented I wish my parts were that neat even when just parting it down the middle for only two braids or buns etc lol🤣🤦‍♀️

omg her posing at the end, she’s so cute, you can really tell that she’s happy with it ❤️

This is stunning and I don’t think it’s too long. Very age appropriate if you ask me!

Child, I could watch you part and braid hair allllll day and night long. It's so soothing to watch along with listening to you explain what you're doing. Idc if you doing straight backs with stitches, I can watch you do that, too! I just love your work! Absolutely phenomenal!!!!😍😍🥰🥰💋❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 Btw: absolutely LOVED the outcome of your daughter's hair! I think the length suits her very well. Younger people are attracted to length and it looks just fine on your daughter as well. She's absolutely STUNNING!🩷🩷😍😍😘😘😘

I used to ask for long braids when I was small, I learned to be conscious of it when exiting doors or using the rest room by the time I was 6.

Her hair looks amazing! You did such a great job with her braids! Kudos to her for having the patience to sit through the hours of braiding!

OMG it turned out so darn pretty!!! I love the end the way she had little mini ponytail on top....really great style on her and what a wonderful mother you are....i remember going to the hair salon with my mom when i was in elementary school and i loved it, she would gossip with her hair lady and i would look through hair style books and magazines and then OMG SHE LET ME A 7 YEAR OLD LOL GET A SPIRAL CURL PERM.....We didn't have a ton of money growing up so looking back and even then i knew that it was a really big splurge for my mom to have paid for that....a mother's love, nothing like it. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

I could watch you do that forever. It’s like one of those calming painting videos or cake decorating, that kind of vibe? You’re soooo talented I’m subscribing right now

Absolutely beautiful! I love that she wanted you to twin with her. You could tell how much she loved it!

This video was right on time. I am doing my niece's hair this weekend so now I know how to lay it out. I think this turned out so beautiful - And not too long for her! Thanks!

It looks so cute!!! The parting on the braids is just so satisfying.

So cute! Mom puts a lot of work into her baby's hair, and it shows. I hope she loves it!

Her hair is gorgeous. If she is willing to upkeep it more power to her! Thanks for showing her a way, it can be so difficult for certain hair types but you're doing awesome.

I love this style on her she has grown so much 😩🥰

She is 11 now, she was feeling super cute with that style ... wow the time flies been watching your channel for a long time..geesh. Anywho I braid also and I call it for me the weight factor, not a sexualization like some people would suggest. If the hair is strong enough then lighter braids can be longer and a heavier braiding style shorter braids, not trying to break necks...lol, I can remember doing my hair when I was younger in Janet's Poetic Justice braids with 13 packs of hair and woosh when you took those out you felt like your heard was missing because those braids were so heavy..lol

Your girls are blessed to have a mother like you who does fantastic hair styles

You are an artist! Your daughter’s smile says it all. 🫶

Very nice,that’s how they are wearing them now and as long as you keep her dressed like a child I’m cool with the long braids

This is so pretty! And your daughter looks happy and confident.

This is so cool. The half ponytail makes this hairstyle so fun.

BEAUTIFUL! She's looking like a princess! 👑✨️

The style is actually so cute and really age-appropriate. Especially the size… it’s very manageable for a tween.

She looks so adorable and happy and confident! You did a fantastic job, mama. :)

Wow...that hairstyle is STUNNING! You are amazing! I trust your daughter loves and appreciates your talent

I am simply amazed at how fast you can braid! I know that the video was sped up for the sake of time but I can tell you are very talented. He hair came out beautiful! I honestly don't think it's too long. As long as you are ok helping her take care of it, I see no issue. Your daughter is beautiful and she looks very happy with her hair!

I love the precision parting so satisfying

I pray your daughter never has to waste a minute of her life wondering what other people think about her hair. (I know the world we live in, but I can still pray right?) This look is so pretty and seems very practical for a kid (especially at preventing the knots that long hair gets so easily). Wishing you both an amazing 2024 with many blessings & happy memories!!💌

Your daughters hair is absolutely beautiful! She looks adorable 🥰

She is adorable! Love her smile at the end of the video!

What a beautiful smile your daughter has! I bet y'all are gonna look so cute at the beach wearing the same style! Beautiful job Mom! Really enjoyed your content.

I love it. It’s a gorgeous hair style for a gorgeous pre-teen. Great job mom.

It looks great and she’s happy and confident wearing it. People need to stop sexualizing children.

I’m so impressed with your skill! The results are beautiful!

She look so cute!! I love the curls. I really love the half up half down. Beautiful work as always.

Look at that smile! Your daughter is absolutely beautiful. ❤

I Love love love the style on her it's a very cool style for her. I totally understand her aesthetic!

You did an amazing job! She looks so happy and the hair is gorgeous! Can't imagine people hating on a child.

I think it's PERFECT for her!!! End of a school year and into summer!!! Preteen, enjoy the young years. She's gorgeous!!!

Listen for those of us who have hair down past our bums, we all know the pit falls of having long hair. The worst is when your on the toilet….. no one talks about what you have to do when your on the toilet and you gotta move all your hair around, wrapping it around your neck so it doesn’t get caught up in your wiping your bum. But I do love my long hair. And I applaud this momma for letting her child have her say on her hair. I have pics of my childhood I’ve hidden for most of my life. When my children have to go through them after I’m dead, at least I won’t be around to hear the laughing. My momma was no hair stylist, but it didn’t stop her from giving me the ugliest bowl cut. If only she let my hair grow long she’d had seen how pretty my hair was. She loves it long and hopes I never cut it.

Her hair turned out so gorgeous 😍

There’s my girl! Duchess, you did a Great job 👏🏾 . I love the style and it looks beautiful on her. I don’t think it’s too long at all. Keep up the good work!!!🥰❤️🥰

Watching this was amazing. I love the color of her hair!

its beautiful and so is she! great job setting the examples that you are.... so many thoughts: dont judge a book, dont put labels on others, be who you are and be proud of it.

It looks good on her. She's so pretty 🩷

Beautiful little girl!! Mama you did such an amazing job on her hair

She already has long hair so the braids can’t be short! 💜

Oh!!! It is absolutely stunning! What a beautiful young lady! And momma is talented beyond belief! ❤

That turned out fantastic. Looks wonderful on her

Absolutely adorable. That’s just incredible!

braiding is an act of love. Beautiful work. Your daughter looks like she feels good, proud, and happy. Well done mama.

She looks amazing, you’re so skillful, well done x

I love when you part the hair so carefully.. It makes me sleepy.. So relaxing

I love her hair Duchess just beautiful great job as always❤

It looks amazing on her! You did a great job

So beautiful!! Thanks for sharing! She looks so happy with it!

Your daughter is very pretty. I really admire your time and patience for being add the extensions and being able to braid it.💜🙏XO

The word you were looking for was staggered. Beautiful job as always ❤

You are a patient and loving mom. And your young daughter is lovely🎉

Oh my goodness she looks adorable!!! I love this for her!

I'm turning 11 to this month duchess braids

I feel like I'm watching an artist! And you're an amazing mother, this was so cool to watch!

You have so much patience to do such a beautiful job! It looks wonderful 👍🏼

It came out great! She’s growing up so fast! You did an AWESOME job!! And she loves it!! Another one well done!👍🏽

I had no idea people put those kinds of connotations on long hair... I think the style is very sweet and youthful especially when she puts them up in a half pony at the end. Hair is so important to autonomy and it's one of the few relatively consequence free means of expression. You can tell she feels good and that's what matters.

I love seeing parents respect their children's choices and giving them bodily autonomy. (Genuinely) I have kids who deal with a lot of judgement and very real safety issues for various reasons and any time I'm concerned about something they want to do or wear having a negative impact when they go out in public, be it that it'll attract judgement from adults or could put them in an unsafe situation or it's culturally appropriative, etc... I explain it to them and let them factor that into their own decision-making. That way they get their own control over their body and I'm not telling them what to do, but they can also learn from the information I have and they usually make really good choices with that information! Also this hairstyle is so beautiful and she looks so happy with it - I love it!

That is a lot of work, gotta admire this style so much more.

I'm hooked on your videos. I've learned so much from RU-vid about natural hair and braiding. I have a practice head too. Keep teaching so people can keep learning and appreciate the beauty of what you do. Thanks. ❤

She looks adorable you did it again, great job GOD BLESS.🙏🏾🥰💖👸🏽👧🏽💯💫

She’s adorable!

I use Milky Way,Saga Gold and Zury hair for weaves and braids.I haven't worn weave or braids in years.

She's georgeous!!!

So beautiful! You did a wonderful job ❤

I watched a couple of your videos so far and to be honest I love how you braid you never picked too much hair and a lot of professionals that called them self professionals need to take that key because they put way too much hair and they don’t understand that that weighs the hair down your natural hair, and it begins to break it off. Your little girl hair looks beautiful. 🦋😘. I don’t know where you’re located at, but I wish you was close to me because I would definitely let you braid my hair. Happy Easter 🐣🐇

Hey Duchess I love how you fix your daughter hair it's beautiful and she is lovely too. 🥰🥰🥰

She is beautiful! I’m loving those braids! I’ve always had long hair all my life but was too tender headed to get it braided. Maybe someday!🥲

This is so cool to watch! Your daughter has tremendous patience! doubt I would be able to sit still for that long as a grown adult haha as far as length of hair, I remember having grown out my hair long enough to sit on in grade six 🤷🏻‍♀️ as long as she is happy with it that is the important part :) Beautiful hair for a beautiful young lady! Hope she enjoyed them as much as she hoped she would! 🎉

Wow, wow, wow!! Absolutely gorgeous!

This hairstyle is gorgeous! 😍

“Age appropriate” length makes no sense. When my child was 6, her hair was at her butt. When I added hair for a protective style it would be past her natural length. It’s really only a debate for young Black girls (people just look for any reason to strip childhood & innocence from Black children). Long hair is associated with health, youth, beauty & cleanliness & we’ve been brainwashed to think our girls aren’t any of those things unless they can attach a negative stereotype to it. I hope the younger generation let’s all of this go.

Beautiful. I love watching the style and talent! Gorgeous

Your daughter is adorable. The braids came out gorgeous thanks for sharing. Stay blessed 🙏

That’s beautiful! Definitely not too long and you can see how happy she is with it. I know nothing about braiding but I loved watching.

She’s beautiful and I love the hair style.