We going to call this "It's Not Just Us". Please let us know what you think in the comments section. Shawn and Katie Links: Instagram - / shawnryan762 - / katiejeanwilliams
Absolutely love the idea. I was laughing so loud at some very relatable parts of this, that my wife and I started in on our own "it's not just us" stuff. Stay classy lol.
Yall are doing great. You're both awesome. You're both the best parents to your kid there ever could be. Your feelings of being protective over your little one are natural and good. Momma is gonna be Momma bear and boys will be boys. This is a healthy verbal reconciliation of the two.
Classic examples of why kids need both parents. Moms will be protective(sometimes overly) and dads will allow learn by experience (sometimes overly). Awesome to see you both discussing it openly. It may well save your marriage imho. Thanks for being good examples for us all.
I'm a young guy with no wife, and no kids... But I loved these kind of videos! The honesty from the both of you is super wholesome. A guy like me can learn a lot from these discussions.
Same, man. 28 and never had a girlfriend. Partly due to figurin out life as I go and makin mistakes that cost me a few potential relationships. Also partly cause I ain't found a woman honestly worth the effort. I don't by the "All" talk......"All women are....." "All men are......" A women think........" But it's definitely hard to find the kinda woman I'm after in today's world. Thankful to see a relevant couple givin relevant advice through personal experience in a logical, adult, level headed and rational way. Tryin real dang hard not to be jealous!
@@singlechristiancowboy - hang in there Cowboy. Don't give up. My son is 29, 1 girlfriend at 20.. She is his baby/mama, bi-polar (untreated) and is a NIGHTMARE. It's taken him several years but he is finally getting interested in girl company again. He told me last week he would definitely take it slower, get to know the girl and wait before taking it the next level. Good luck!
@@cbvickers4044 Thank ye kindly. Sorry to hear about his situation and especially sorry fer the youngin. Wish folks would follow God's word in what to do and how to live, but not everyone does or will. Even at that, It'd be a heap better if they sort out whether they can live together or not BEFORE they have any youngins. That way, it keeps the youngins from bein subject to a unhealthy relationship they didn't ask to be in but have to witness and deal with anyway. I get envious of good relationships I see, but I'd heap rather be where I'm at than in the WRONG one.
This made my husband and I laugh and hug. We are about five months ahead of you, and we have experienced all of these things. The over protective mom is REAL, but it does get better. I said “it’s not just us!” Multiple times during this story. Hahaha thank you for sharing. Please keep this up.
You are just new to this, you all need to give yourselves a break, you are doing fine. I’m sure some of your own reactions, are a surprise to yourselves at times. It’s actually, fascinating, and kind of cool. Growing and learning together, is a pretty profound, incredibly deep experience. One of the best of life.
Can totally relate. 28 years with my bride Hang in there, you're doing exactly the right thing, being honest, talking it out, and giving space. BTW, the name you came up with is brilliant.
This is like relationship/marriage advice without it being intended that way. If only more couples would have such open and honest communication like this, more would be saved. You two are so brave to share your personal couple/parenting experiences with the world. Thank you!
As a son of divorced parents it’s really refreshing to see u guys have disagreements and understand where each other is coming from, I think that talking things out, and talking about the uncomfortable stuff is what keeps a family strong. Your son is very lucky to have parents that want to get better as people for the purpose of raising a great young man. Keep it up bro I love all your content and u help a lot more people than u think
The best part of parenting is that kids will slowly and methodically rid you... of the worst parts of you... which is you! [meaning: selfish you, self-absorbed you, impatient you, arrogant you, etc, etc] Shawn & Katie are fantastic. Hope they have many-MANY children.
Great series name! When Shawn said "I'm gonna go get him" I was waiting for Katie to say "Be careful!" 1st kiddo is hardest because you are learning - - source of a LOT of funny stories, but a lot of growing together too!
My parents wouldn't let me ride my bike past the end of our street. A few years later my little brother could ride all over town. So yes, the first one gets more protection, also more time with parents.
I haven't laughed that hard in awhile. I feel like this definitely is every relationship, great episode keep them coming. And no advice, you guys are great parents!
Reminds me of a cartoon I saw once. First day of kindergarten all the moms are peering through the school windows....... by the first day of 3rd grade they are peeling out of the parking lot to be, ANYWHERE else! You guys are new parents, you'll find a balance. I've been a single dad for almost 14 yrs , I was super paranoid at first, that gave way to laughing at ALL of it. Mine gets more interesting all the time. BEST JOB EVER!
First child? Prepare for alot of heartbreak amongst the wonderful lasting memories. Fact is you cannot protect them from everything. That thought alone breaks your heart. You guys are doing an awesome job. Grow with each other because you are going to need each other. Don't be afraid to let the kid play in the mud. More upset and heartbreak to come so protect yourselves when it happens. Stay strong in each other and guide the best way rhat you can. God Bless you.
love this. I'm 46,I'm 4 yrs older than my wife. we've been together since she was 16. she's the love of my life. I don't deserve her. u gotta fight for that shtt. we've gotten thru weight gain,kids,missing hair,jealousy,money problems ,drugs alcohol on my end and she's fkn rock solid . love how u 2 talk about this stuff in public. thats how real love can last. its a battle man. but it's fkn amazing and hard to explain if u don't have it.
Sounds like a rich, eventful, deep, beautiful bond. Now it’s time to enjoy some easier times. Some reflecting. Have fun together, appreciate every moment. It was worth it.
agree…however he could meet her half way and say that he might he a little too sensitive…this seemed to resolve with her taking apologizing and taking full responsibility for their “disagreements”
It's the first little one. Lol this brought back memories. Wait till the 2nd kid. All these little things won't matter, he/she will eat dirt and you two will say does it taste good.
We love it!! Keep this up because we love you both and we do agree with you both , most married couples act like this. Please don't be helicopter parents, I am 60 years old , I grew up with no seatbelts, no helmets on bikes, my father put me at 3 years old in his lap holding on to the steering wheel me driving down the streets of Oklahoma city. My friends did the dumbest crap and yes we got hurt but it made us stronger and smarter. Thank you for letting Sonny just cry it out. Babies are real smart and they will rule over you once they know they have you wrapped around their finger. I know this has been addressed before but when you felt alone in this upside down world, I wanted to slap you and say wake up. There are more of us than the minority that is trying to shove this crap down our throats. We are the common sense majority but they won't let us speak. So hang in there! Much love! And yes we have been praying for you. And PS. my wife says you and I are the same person in different bodies. I took the Red pill 30 years ago and I am the biggest control freak in the world and a political junkie. 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
OMG....43 wonderful yrs this month. Trust me (lol) with grandkids she still shoots me down then kicks me.....it's wonder. I hear your sense of humor. Great stuff!! Love this. I am in!!
UFC champion Cain Velasquez shot the man that was raping his son and he's facing 20 year's in prison and rapist is literally getting away with it scot free! Any good protective father would do the same, but the justice system is broken
I really enjoy u two ..finally a couple of people being real not fake...it's worth time listening ...u guys got this...two things live and forgiveness very important...she brings out your soft side shawn...I've seen those photos of u when u were a seal.. watching you ..that hard Part of you..know when to be gentle and when to be hard...thank you ..for this ...cheers from an 58 yr old school metalhead from Kansas city...
This awesome. Getting a healthy laugh out of this because you remind me of my wife and I!! Those little things we say & do that exasperate each other. But at the end of the day all is good. Just no cartwheels!!
What is the purpose of a family? Families are central to God's plan for His children. They are the fundamental building block of strong societies. Families are where we can feel love and learn how to love others.🙏❤🙏
You two are doing great things! Keep doing what your doing and making great memories. As a 50 year old, grandfather of 6, I can now sit back and enjoy watching "new parents" and remember the fond memories. BTW, the momma bear thing never goes away. LOL
Love it…keep ‘em coming! It is never a bad thing to work through (and not around) issues/problems/new situations. And sharing it makes the whole tribe smarter and stronger. I assure you both, it’s not just you. Wishing you peace. 🙏🌻
This is great. Reminds me of myself and my SO it’s all about communicating and space for each other. Its a learning curve but it works with the right person. You guys have it. This was a breath of fresh air to see you guys not hide anything and just be yourselves. It’s hard to find on social media these days. I loved this it’s good to know we aren’t all alone In the normal day to day stuff. Being with someone forever and spending that much time together there will be arguments and disagreements. At the end of the day keep the respect and be able to talk through stuff is everything. I loved this.
This is healthy and great to share. This is what being new parents looks like. I’ve lived it too. The unhealthy version of this disagreement is when you both say nothing and just quietly resent each other.
He’s alive! You’re doing your job!!! I remember how scared we were coming home from the hospital!!! I was thinking I’ve just got to keep this little thing alive!!! 9 years later… it’s a blessing!!! Congratulations love this!!!
Welcome to parenthood kids! The toughest job you're ever going to have. You both are doing great. Especially talking things out. Cheers to your beautiful family.
One thing I have learned is that when a Dad says "what about this or that" its because he saw an opportunity for a really great moment he was going to experience and share with his child. Shooting it down can be a little heart breaking.
You guys are great parents. Thanks for being vulnerable and this is good therapy for couples in a down to earth way. One way to take a moms overly concern though is to interpret it as her care for you and her family. It’s so easy to take negatively but most of the time the motives are pure. If she didn’t say anything, then I’d start wondering if she cares. God bless you in this new venture.
It’s because your both tired….tired people fight more. My wife and I just had a baby also. And we’re going through the same things….you’ve literally said all the things we argue on.
@@pekarr1 As the other comment said, you're the weird one.. They are talking normally, and maybe they would sit next to each other if it wasn't a youtube video. For me it's more weird when couples sit in front of a camera and turn their heads towards each other and look at the screen in the same time..
These are the best! I’ve watched all these but my wife and I are on a trip and I’m letting her listen. The trials of marriage and raising a family. Have to love all of it
As a father of 5, and definitely not perfect... loving thoughtful conversations like this are the way to get through these situations. You guys are, and will continue to be damn good parents. It's not her against you or you against her its both of you for each other and what's best for the kid. 👍
Parenting advice: 1. Give/show them more love than you think they need 2.Don't do anything for your child that they can do for themselves 3. Don't let them do anything that make you resent them 4. Let them talk to you / listen to them (like a coach not a authoritarian ruler)
THE WORLD NEEDS THIS RIGHT NOW. PLEASE MAKE MORE EPISODES!!!!! AND THANK YOU FOR YOUR SACRIFICES AND SERVICE YOU MADE TO THE AMAZING COUNTRY I LIVE IN!!!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
This is awesome! It reminds me of your mindset video talking about how to "build confidence in public situations" video! Having the confidence to throw it out there is the best thing you can do to increase inter-personal communication
Love the concept, Shawn and Katie Jean! It's definitely aptly named "It's Not Just Us." We had two kids, but they were nine years apart. It was a lot like having an only child twice. Things we thought we did right with the first, didn't work at all with the second. Thank God there was no internet or social media to judge our mistakes or drown us with unsolicited, "expert" advice. Great guidance from Jordan Peterson is his Rule 5: Do Not Let Your Children Do Anything That Makes You Dislike Them. It seems to have worked for us (and our kids), despite being ignorant of the rule when we were in the child-rearing trenches. God bless you both--and your Wee One!
This has to be one of the best videos!!!! Of all time. Dude you guys are awesome. You guys need to keep these stories going. It's not just you guys. That's is SO TRUE. It will help yalls relationship and thousands more. I can tell how it's also a little difficult for you guys to talk about. But that's how we can see the sincereness
As young man seeking to join the marines who would love a family, im glad to see the big bad seal cia guy can eventually have a family and life outside of the contractor world. I for one love this and as an incredibly idiotic person at times love the advice and example. Thank yall. Really.
This is both refreshing and heart warming to hear from the three of you. You're such an amazing couple and you're perfect for eachother. No bullshit or fakery whatsoever. It's down to earth and real. This is what everyone needs to be like or see exists.
You both are great parents, correct that, mommy and daddy...... disagreeing is good for relationships as it will help you learn as you go. Most important is to enjoy each other and your children because they grow so quickly.........bubble baths today and he will be driving tomorrow.........my youngest is now going on 17 and I'm just 44 so it makes me miss those younger days when they needed me more........anyways you guys are doing great 👍. PS what you may need is another baby?? A girl for mommy and a boy for daddy!!!!!
I appreciate your willingness to be vulnerable and have REAL talk in front of the camera. THIS....THIS right here can help sooo many people in THEIR relationships. My wife and I have 3 kids, 6 grandkids and have been together for 30 yrs. One thing I've learned; keep it upbeat, fun and go with the flow. Parenting is rewarding and the learning is flexible. Don't be so hard on yourselves. You have a Budweiser; a new baby is harder, buy ya got the tools to make it. Enjoy Sonny and enjoy each other... everyday! Semper Fi
Absolutely normal struggles of first time parents. It’s a good sign of a strong marriage that you can sit down and work through the frustrations. It gets easier, then harder, and goes through this cyclical cycle. Communication and your marriage needs to always be a priority!
PLEASE KEEP THESE GOING 🙏 We have the same struggles in our relationship. I really look up to you shawn. So these will be a tremendous help. Especially my wife watching this with me. We love it. 👀 God bless you guys
You guys are awesome..such open honesty. Mamas are overprotective because of Love...it's hard for men the first year because a mothers instinct is all about her pup..even though it may be just a bubble bath." It's not just you"😊 thankyou for all the raw honesty and sharing❤❤
It’s tough sometimes as a dad to feel connected to the child, so when an idea gets shot down by mom, it can feel a bit personal. Me and my wife have had to talk this out more than once. The big take away is that we both love our daughter and have nothing but good intentions, and we just need to work on better communication with each other.
Keep hovering! Please keep hovering! We are in a world where the evil wants our children younger and younger. Fight that evil by hovering! There’s going to come a time when you won’t be able to! Hover! Hover! Hover! Great segment. Thanks 🥰
You guys are doing a great job and the honesty you guys share is the key to figuring everything out. And if you want the hovering to stop, just have a second one and there won't be enough energy for that!
For me this is mostly a trip down memory lane, but I appreciate having my memory jogged and I truly enjoy the whole dynamic!! It kind of feels like the more things change the more they stay the same. Love ya guys! 🌻🐝
You two can talk, smile, and laugh and reflect on your situations, i respect that a lot...that's exactly what you two need in my opinion. I believe it will make your both stronger and closer in your relationship.
Happy to hear this! I've been a fan/follower of Shawn and V.E. for 4 years now since the first video I watched(Panama CIA story time) and have enjoyed every upload since. I like hearing from Katie and your discussions as parents, being the father of a 2 year old boy myself, I appreciate your thoughts and values of raising a child. It would also be cool to hear more S.R.S. recaps from you two as you have in the past. I'm thankful that "Its Not Just Us" may become another source of content added to the channel. My family has had some setbacks this past year financially but once we get back on track my goal is to join and support your patreon. I believe in and respect your work. Keep up the good, honest, important work Shawn. Thanks
It warms my heart hearing y’all laugh. My wife and I have been married 5 years and we have never had a full fight. I grew up with my dad always fighting with my mom. So my wife and I have disagreements but we just talk it and move forward even if we agree to disagree
I can't like this video enough! As a father of 3 boys this was defiantly an issue with our first son. Seeing you guys work it out by talking and not just letting the issues build up is awesome and shows how great yall are doing as parents. It's crazy how resilient children are but as new parents all you do is worry, not sure if that really ever changes but it does get better. Love the vlogs!
You guys are doing great! The fact that you both communicate and resolve issues before they get blown up and respect each other is a recipe for a healthy marriage. It's your 1st child...you will raise him the best you know how. Its a new and great experience.
Great title....loved the topic of this video. "Discussions or disagreements" whichever you prefer to call them.... Just remember in the end it's ALL about the love you share with each other and your son.
I love seeing this. A respectable adult not overly serious conversation. This is how it’s done people. Good job to both of you. Congrats on your marriage, son and business. This is why I watch. The content is, real, quality, content.
Too funny!!! You both are awesome! It took my wife and I a long time to get to solid debriefs. 4 kids later all grown up and survived the two of us, this makes my sides hurt from laughter!!!!
Thank you for being so vulnerable with us! It’s refreshing to see a couple talk about their squabbles in a candid and honest way. I will definitely listen to an audio podcast.
This is what's happening right now with me and my wife. So glad I saw this because I have been feeling the same way, "well imma just do me and wait until she is older," it's definitely difficult but we have been talking more and my wife can see the problems and we have been working on it. It's been about a month since we had our first conversation and things are finally starting to get a little better. But thank you for sharing. It's nice to see we are not alone. It's crazy how things change when you have a child.
This was great! My wife does this same thing. I have to constantly remind her that I have a perfect track record of keeping our kids safe. This video helped me, because of how your wife explained why she “hovers”. My wife has never been able to articulate this. It is natural “momma bear” instinct. The mother of our children cannot help this natural reaction. Thanks for this.
This was a really good segment. I've been following you for awhile now and i feel this was something new that could help a lot of couples with communication issues. You always put out outstanding content. Keep up the good work👍
Great stuff. I've been married 33 yrs. 3 kids. Life is hard but that's how diamonds are made. Keep talking and you are not alone. Shepherding a child's heart is a great book. Love the show and your transparency. Thank you. JD
