I was in a relationship for 4 years in college and as soon as i shifted to delhi for my upsc preparations he left me in a brutal manner I wasted my entire year thinking about how can he leave me etc etc I was literally begging him to come back , dropping 1000 msgs It was so depressing Sometimes during metro travel i did not realise that i have crossed extra stations It was such a bad time But yet a turning point in my life... I will suggest If someone wants to leave u Let them go Dont force them to stay with u Cry and just let it go but dont give so much time of your life It wont benefit (Everything happens for a reason)
Hlw sis!! My situation is almost similar to yours. I am suffering a lot rn. Can u plz tell me how did you control your emotions, mere se nhi ho rha 😭😭. In between studies also, wo moments flashback krti hain when everything was good and that hurts like hell.
@@rajrahul6662 i understand Ap meditation kia karo Breathing exercise to control your mind Because mind apko baar baar usi ki yaad dilwata rahega jab tak ap use control nahi kroge Mind ka kaam he distract karna hai Maine spirituality ka sahara liya in sab se bahar ane ka Dhere dhere mai spirituality mai aisa kho gai ki mujhe chezen samjh ane lagi ki aisa kyu hua etc etc Time lagega but ap ek din zaroor theek ho jaoge
What a perfect timing of the video. In my college there's a boy and at first he texted me. He was interested and he used to text me often but then I started liking him sooo much. Then as sir said if you give a lot of importance to someone he thinks that he is out of your league. He started ignoring me. I am also the person 'jisko bohot jor ka pyar hota hai'. I now feel very lonely and insecure. As sir said chase your goals,money,status and health not any random boy or girl. Thanks sir❤
I can relate to each and every word of your story.... difference is that I experienced this in my college as I started liking a girl and i chased her madly and got attached to her emotionally and after 4 months of spending time with her .. confessed my feelings to her but unfortunately got to know that she was already in a long distance relationship for 2 years and infact in these 4 months she didn't feel that I was having feelings for her. Now everything is fucked up .. after knowing all this she said that we can be good friends as earlier it used to be ....i agreed to do that ....but after 1 month i realised that it's not possible for me to act like a friend.... every time I meet her i put a filter of a friend...and suppress my feelings which is very painful... So ya ..i can say love is something which should not be chased...if it has to happen it will happen and that too mutually....so it will be better to focus on our goals and keep ourselves occupied with our work.. Lastly bs itna kehna hai ki har cheez ka ek waqt hota hai har cheez samay ke sath hoti h...pyaar ka samay aana hoga to aayega but pyar ka peecha mt krna kbhi bhi 🫡
I have been doing the same since past 12 years with UNWAVERING DEDICATION without caring a damn for my self-respect. Still failed! So, Chetan Sir is right. NEVER EVER CHASE ANYBODY! Who so ever you put at the pedestal, she will always be out of your reach. So do not put her at the pedestal. Bollywood Movies have brainwashed our youths. There is Nothing called 'True Love'. The mantra of life -- " Nobody Cares" Work upon your "SELF". Impress only your "SELF". That doesn't mean you become Selfish. Have compassion for others, but also love yourself
It is obvious if you will care too much for someone his/her value will Increase and your value will be decreased and he/she will run away from low value towards high value. 😄 So always increase your value continuously, become valuable.
Exactly Chetan.. it's very true. And I guess 98% of the viewers can relate to this. When maturity hits you, every individual says," yaar mein kitna chuttiya tha."😁... BTW Thanks for motivating. God bless 🙏🏻
Now I Am 29yr, Did Engineering at 23yr, Struggling Life Due To Some Lack Of Skills The Failure Realised Me This Great Lesson Then Move Forward, I Am Living A Social+Spiritual Life With The Art Of Living Movement.... 🙌🏻🙏🏻🙂
@@KalpWork Same story as mine. I passed out from NIT jaipur and than didn't get a job for almost 15 months and than finally got a job in Amazon and now it's been 4 years i am working there.
Sometimes RU-vid don't recommend the videos what we want but shows us those videos what we need. Thanks Chetan Ji for your valuable lessons based on real life.🥰🥰
@@ChetanBhagat1 but the sad and funny fact to me is that I didn't chase love, but love chased me. And at last love grabbed me and broke my heart also. Then what should I say?
@@genuine1783 that's what you thought, like chetan sir thought ki "itna baat kar rahi hai", she is liking me. But actually me girls want emotional support, its not like she wanted to impress. She only thinks of you as a friend.
Thank you so much for this Chetan! I needed to hear this rn. I'm ultra-sensitive and over-emotional and have been making the same mistake over and over again for past 15 years or so, just because mujhe bhi "bohot zor se aur bohot ganda wala pyaar" hota hai, even when the other person is just using me when they're bored or lonely.
Hey buddy, my name is Aanchal too😅😅😂 I am doing that same shit As I am too sensitive I even love a person when I know he is just using me but not any more🙃
Sir this really cleared my mind that , chasing love and getting rejected is just a small thing and everyone experienced that,it lights the weight in my mind ,really thanku for this video for showing us the right way at right time ❤️❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
The best thing about internet is that we can connect to many great minds like you, in a matter of seconds. And I think that’s something to be proud of.
I can't express how much these videos boost my self confidence and give energy to face the problems in my life. Such an inspirational videos these are...
दिल से बोलुंगा चेतन सर आप मेरे जिंदगी के रथ के सारथी हो कृष्ण भगवान जैसे जो समय समय पर मार्ग दिखा रहे है. आपके वजेसे बोहोत बदलाव आया है यार मतलब छोटी छोटी चीजे है लेकिन ऐसा लगता है कि इन्हीं चिजो से life मे बोहोत कुछ उखाडुंगा,बोहोत self confidence जो चूर चूर हुवा था वो अब धीरे रास्ते पे आ रहा है. Thank you sir ❤️
What a video sir ! I don't know why RU-vid recommend this video but its totally matching with my current scenario ! Thanks sir its a grt life lesson. ☺️
Chetan sir aap jaise bohot hi gine chune log hi hai, jo real life (ground) me hone wale situations ko discuss karte hai, ye bohot jaruri hai, aap log nahi samjhaoge toh kaun samjhayega young generation ko, aapka ye initiative mujhe bohot achha laga, thanks
This is really true sir , the same situation I have faced in last 2 months without reputation, money and status love is not so easy that I think. It is totally waste of time to chase love.
Yes sir !!! Experienced such an exact heartbreak this year (2022). Only because I chased love like an IDIOT. Now I think if only I could come across this RU-vid video days ago !
Haha...i like the way narrated your teenage life. And that is the beauty of life endowed with teenage phase, because whatever we do, 1. we do in full innocency 2. We do with pure heart without any second thought and judge. This tells most of human undergoes through same type of episodes.
आप जबलपुर आये यह सुनकर अच्छा लगा,और सिर्फ आपकी वन साइड लव के लिए यह सुनकर काफी हँसी आई। ऐसे जुनूनपरस्त लोग ही दुनिया बदल सकते है। (यह लाइन आपके लिए नही हम नए लोगो के लिए है) जब मैं जब 2007 में BE 1st Sem में गया था,इंग्लिश में तब जुबान और हाथ दोनों तंग थे(हिंदी मीडियम वालों के नार्मल लक्षणों में से एक यह भी है) तब किसी ने कहा था कि आप चेतन भगत की नोवल पढ़ा करो ,आपकी अंग्रेजी सही हो जाएगी। मतलब आप नॉवलिस्ट से बढ़कर है हम जैसे लोगो के लिए। 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Thank you so much sir..I was just like you..chasing love..now I turn back n see what I did..I spoiled my career..my other priorities.....I am big emotional fool ....trying hard to set my goals and accomplishing it..♥️
I chased a girl and lost my self respect Then I love myself and get back respect. Nothing is more beautiful like confidence,self respect and self love on a man's face!
Love isnt always enough.. We need a balance of everything to be content and at peace with our life's. The best kind of love is the one which empowers you to rise above from your failures and short comings❤️ lovely video sir❤️ a big fan of yours ❤️
U always make videos which the present generation wants....it happens with me that whenever I am thinking about something u make that video within 3 weeks... thank you sir
Honestly, going through something similar right now. Was in a relationship with this guy, I treasured him, a lot. I would do anything for him. I'd always walk an extra mile if that put a smile on his face. One random day he breaks up with me saying he didn't have "feelings". I was shattered, kept thinking what did I do wrong? I did everything from my part, maybe I wasn't enough, I kept asking him for reasons, begging him to stay. When I couldn't stop being overwhelmed I tried contacting his friends and family about this because that affected my health in many ways, I couldn't eat or sleep. The end result? He trashed me in the worst way possible, saying I'm worthless and clingy and that he didn't even want to see my face, and blocked me from everywhere. I was blank. I thought, I was just doing everything for him to come back to me, what did I do to deserve this treatment from him? Absolutely nothing. It's just that, I tried too hard. Maybe he stopped having feelings because I became pretty ordinary, "foolishly in love" with him. Maybe that's why after he left so suddenly, I felt as if my life has come to a dead end. I felt lost and miserable and humiliated. I kept thinking, why? After everything I did, how could he leave me that easily? Am I that easy to forget? He's so unaffected, smiling and laughing with his friends like we never even happened, while I'm here, crying all day long. I'm still in the denial phase. Even though I know that, what meant the world to me, meant so little to him. But I keep consolidating myself saying he must be guilty too, what if he comes back? Even though I know that I'm being a doormat and treating myself like an option which is always open, I can't stop feeling perplexed and anxious about it. Maybe when I get out of my "denial" phase and finally acknowledge the "acceptance" phase, things would start looking little less gloomy than it does now. ❤️
I can relate u completly as I'm going through exactly same situation not even a bit different...I can feel the pain...it's hell..hope we'll be fine soon❤️
All of this so much resonate with me..& now after listening to you I feel like this it's not only happened with me every one has gone through these tough times & even after that they have become more successful in life as you sir... thanku from my heart for making these types of video's God bless you always sir...😊
I am so thankful for this video because when I love i love really hard and the thing is it never worked ..i always gets disappointed when it comes to love..this video taught me a lesson . At this age i don't think i would chase love again .instead let me build my money , respect,and health .😊
Thank you sir, whenever I chased for my love, my love always move faster than my chase. In this process, I used to spend countless hour for waiting her. Ultimately I didn't get my love and wasted a lots of valuable time of my carrier's. Thank you for motivating us
Thanks for the lesson, it's best for the youth now a days. I wish ki in our time we can get these kind of thought so that we never run behind the girls or boys (for girls) and waste our most valuable time which will never came again 😔😔😔
Chetan i m 25 year old. I was in a bad relationship and i was not letting it go , because of you i am now out of it ,you really taught me how to think practically in which i was always chamanlaal ,now whenever i feel miserable i thinks chalo Chetan ko dekhte hai wo kuch btayega ,thanks a lot for being with us .
I used to be an IDIOT(lived in the fantasy that chasing love is the most important aspect of life or in other words I thought that I am not a worthy person if I can't win the love of a girl) but with the passage of time I came to realize what Sir has shared in this video. Really an eye opening video for the Indian youth. One must instead work on getting well skilled at his/her field of interest and improve the quality of their life rather than wasting time in chasing love(which in most cases is the seeking of validation and acceptance meanwhile who knows the person being chased is also struggling with similar issues.)
We love your videos Chetan Sir. These are really worthy videos for us. I love when you slap the boys for not changing their lives by chasing Goals and dreams
You are genius sir...Your "Daant" series is like medicine to our bakwaas thoughts,ways of living,overthinking and over rating to those things which actually does not even deserve attention.
uncle aapane bahut direct aur Sahi baat bole hai, main bhi yahi feel Karta hoon aur mere friends ko aise hi advice deta hun jab vah ask karte Hain but koi seriously nahin leta. kyunki sabko Gyan Dena hai kisi Ko Gyan Lena nahin hai.Thank you 🙏🏻
Every teenager has same problem sir💯 Thank you so much for sharing such good point of view ! I'll share this information to some of my friends who are also suffering from this LOVERIA DISEASE😉
Today only I subscribed you and ended watching 3 videos of yours. I didn't know about your RU-vid channel. I am happy that I found your channel. Love from Nepal 🇳🇵
Seems universe has a msg for me and Sir you are that angel 😇. I am going through the same chase o love nd ldka but that ladka is considering himself kya main itna khas hun jo ye mere peeche pdi hai. Thanks a ton for showing me the right thing to Chase❤
Thanku sir, I was also doing this stupid thing in my life for last 8 months or more than 2 years, But after listing to you, I have a clear path, which I can see properly 😊
The actual Funda, of the person generally, who chasing you finds something better in you than what he/she poses so don't focus much on them instead on yourself. Thank you sirrr for meeting up us with the reality . We hairbreadth escaped from ruining our lifes
Thank you so much sir, I hope we'll be able to avoid this mistake, also just one suggestion you can also make mistakes series that you made in your life so that it will help youth like us to avoid those..
Always love you Bhagat Sir Aka BigB. Its a best way to learn from someone's experiences as life is short to wait for such events to happen & then learn on your own as Chanakya have well said.
Thank you so much sir, you are a roal model for a person like me. And now you are making these kinds of life hacks for us. So great. Thanks once again.🙏
That was a very heartwarming and a beautiful as well as a TRUE message to every unaware person who feels and who thinks that love is considered the most important possession one could have,ignoring every other important aspect of life.Thanks a lot sir for sharing this TRUE message to us.Love from odhisha
