Jay Shetty: 4 Simple Rules For The Perfect Relationship! 

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Everyone should ask themselves why tf they would be in a relationship with someone if they don’t want to be present with them! Like, that’s so fundamental to human connection.

The Actual 4 Rules: 1. Experience something new together 2. Learn somenthing new together or apart and share the experience and the knowledge with each other 3. Serve the world together. Do something good for the world together. 4. And sadly, watch the telly together >D... but I guess it's generally Entertainment

To me, there's nothing called 'A Perfect Relationship'. It's a team work & it needs consistency. That's the thing. Physical presence or intimacy is important but true connection that takes place between souls is beyond that.

Jay, I love you explanation of “ watching tv”! So true !

This is probably the most realistic and valuable advice about relationships. Thank you great channel, wonderful context. Every interview is very informative, wether I agree with certain opinions or not!

I can't find more useful podcast regarding relationships than this specific podcast. Thanks a lot man! your words are such a big help.

This is so great advice!!! It is the only way to make a relationship work, to be more concious about it and more present. Love you both!!

Jay Shetty's advice on nurturing relationships by going beyond just watching TV is incredibly insightful. He highlights the importance of conscious, quality time spent together. It reminds me of my coach Lisa Haisha's did to me, where she encourages me to transform routine interactions into opportunities for deep connection. By engaging in new experiences, learning together, and serving together, couples can truly grow and evolve. It's a valuable reminder to prioritize the quality of our relationships and invest in moments that matter.

Wow loved ur podcast. It’s the first time I’ve heard a talk on long distance relationship for the first time and it has realy helped. Thank you

1000% this is exactly the type of relationship I want to have and create. It takes effort and creativity and two people willing to live at a higher form of living together ❤❤❤ Hope God blesses me to have this.

Been in a relationship for 8 years now. We've spent time apart, spent time together. We're not engaged, but from experience now, I can say it's not easy at all. If you think it is you're not thinking from a conscious place. If you are a couple that claims to love each other, like REALLY love each other. The attraction is there, you're going to places, doing things together, meeting each others families, it's never going to be easy. You will always have to work for the love. Always. Thank you for this show. I've only recently started watching and it's already helping me in my personal life.❤❤❤

Jay gives real practical advice that couples can use in their relationship ❤🇿🇦

❤❤ this is what it means to be with someone you are head over heels in love with.. to want to be better and make them better as well... I would love to find this in my next relationship because it wasn't present in the last 2 .. and that's equally my fault as theirs sadly.. you just don't always realize it or are too comfortable in the moment

Jay I absolutely adore all your episodes- so valuable

That was so good. Saved video for future reference (and gf). Thanks :)

Jay is a great human not only for his knowledge because of his heart ❤️

Smashed it man! Feeling more productive and motivated to become more efficient with my time just by watching! 🙌💜

Love these extracts

This was really helpful, thank you both !

I'd been dating my girlfriend for 5 years and we only see each other during the weekends and it's the best thing ever since it gives us the week to miss each other and then be super happy to be together, but I agree it should be conscious and deliberate

No matter what peeps saying.. this is dope!! Glad for the perspective. With anything course, pick what u like n leave the rest.:)

Excellent advice to help others together.

Yes! Serving together! ❤

Excellent guidance on essential necessities for nurturing relationships.

Thank you!

My partner and I moved into with only dating for 3 months and we’ve been together going on 4 years. We do watch specific TVs together but we also enjoy going window shopping together and trying new restaurants together. He love the gym and I do my best to engage in his love for the gym. Currently pregnant with our friends kid. He is my best friend and love spend a lot of time and just being in the same space together as well since I work from home

Omg, Jay is a walking, talking wisdom. Thanks for your contribution and consciousness!

Just subscribed to the channel cox this are things people are going through and yet not talked about

Amazing advice

Omg now that I'm thinking, I have a great relationship ❤

thank guys

W shetty, the TV things hits hard, inspired to reread the book - live like a monk

Jay Shetty is getting very seriously open up in his podcast and interviews

This is great

I feel like this advice is great for a young couple with no kids but for the rest of us with young kids we’re always exhausted and sleep deprived.

This is gold I had two kids very young - first at age 16 & second & 22 I’m just grateful for this wisdom and knowledge from other people in the world willing to share experience for us all to improve Thanks guys. Thanks for the comments too Wishing happiness and vibes for everyone this touches Lewis

PLEASE get Deli alli on

Totally agree ✨✨✨

Jay is Really Raw ❤

I really liked this.

Do you have to communicate your partner not to use their phone/laptop when they are with you? If I have to communicate that to someone for me it immediately means we don’t have the same values. I went once on a first date with a guy who was using his phone. I didn’t tell him anything, I just decided not to see him again.

Mr Shetty's whole philosophy on relationships is based around his own life and situation, and how he "wants" to view life. You could say this is inevitable, when someone gives advice, but actually the people worth listening to or reading for advice - who put themselves out there to give 'advice on love and relationships' to the public - are precisely the ones who do not give a perspective or advice rooted in or from "their personal" situation. e.g. Esther Perel, Matthew Hussey. Mr Shetty is a confident and articulate communicator. This does not make him an authority (at all) on love and relationships.

These words should be spoken in all the regional languages and regional accent for all the people in India to understand better.Such an important conversation this is.

What works for some may not work for others. One doesn't need a seminar or podcast to understand that couples need to get out and explore new things. It's not that hard.

What are questions to ask self or of the relationship, before deciding to marry?

My favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much

True connection does not require reconnection after time apart. It will not be broken due to distance. When both of you meet again after time apart, it will be picking up where u left off, like you just saw each other yesterday.

He says a lot without saying much.

I see my friend going through this and tbh its not looking good. I hope he moves back to live with her again and not just move abroad for money.

Start at 7:30

That’s exactly what our loving creator has communicated 2000 years ago at 1 Corinthians 7:5 “Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent for an appointed time, so that you may devote time to prayer and may come together again, in order that Satan may not keep tempting you for your lack of self-control”.

My grandparents and parents seem to just do relationships easily... Parents 30+years, grandparents were 50/60years. I'm not aware they schedule time apart, schedule how to watch tv, or even schedule dates half the time. Sometimes as humans we try to be too clever, if you love each other that much, I believe it will work unconsciously 🤷🏾‍♂️ Perhaps I'm naive, who knows, but some of the stuff he's saying sounds a bit perfectionist/unrealistic for most couples.

I think it’s problematic to describe any relationship as ‘perfect’. The idea of perfection is thought created and thoughts change moment to moment and I believe it’s problematic because it puts unrealistic pressures on people’s romantic relationships

I don’t want a perfect relationship. I wanna be left alone so I can make and eat a perfect grilled cheese.

I’m not dismissing any of this advice at all. But am I the only single person who wants to stay single even more after every interview or speech I watch about how to make romantic relationships work? 😂 Good grief. We don’t have these kinds of conversations as often about friendships. Why is romance so frigging hard?

The offended people in these comments didn’t even watch the video 😂

Use the right language! Go on holiday not take a vacation your're English 😉 I do like jay Shetty but nothings wrong with just being together watching the TV!! I also think if his relationship is so important and intimacy is so important why he's jetting off for months on end - jay you need to set boundaries with your career then perhaps you wouldn't need to spend energy fixing the damage done from being apart. Moments, memories and love are the most valuable precious gifts. Focus on those jay not your tours. These days with technology you can work from home etc. Not trying to argue just like to think about the issues and come up with my own view.. have a beautiful like my friend x

Relationships are bad when some people have baggage from the previous relationships....

This is really cool because many couples in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints will serve in the temple together, doing sacred ordinances on behalf of those who have passed on. It is a great way to serve others and always brings me closer to God. I can only imagine how much it brings couples closer together. It's like God knows we need to serve together to improve our relationships. Like He's omnipotent or something. Lol ;)

I’ll stick to Esther Perel and the Gottmans to learn from when it comes to relationships

Perfection is enemy of réal relationship, for me : attraction physical and intellectuel, each is being him self and lots of space to each other and for being together, i never look further or think too much, if i care for à person if i send love and forgive then for me it is à good relationship ❤🎉

After 3 years of trying my long distant relationship ended at the weekend. All because I questioned my then partner about being alone with a maid. When he had said to me that he couldn't be alone with any female because indian society won't accept it. This wasn't about cheating this was about him saying one thing to me then doing the opposite. But he kept changing his story. One minute he was within the same house as the maid , she offering him tea the going about her cleaning. Which I had no problem with at all. Next they just exchanged keys. The next she only offered tea of an evening which baffled me. So I wondered which story it was So when I kept questioning him he called me sick in the head. Said im the reason why men keep secrets , I'm toxic and controlling. He's also said im too sensitive and I shouldn't hold onto baggage. He had told me to leave to topic alone its finished with. And when I asked did he mean to go back to it at a later time when we've cooled down . He said no. When he says it's finished it's finished. Which I said I weren't ready to move on just because he said so. We had started talking again and so I still had the awful words in the back of my head. So I asked him does he still think im those things he had said to me. He said yes and doesn't have no regrets. I said he should say sorry and he said , I'll say sorry for upsetting you. But not for them words I think he called me. Though in the same breath he said they weren't that bad nor did he swear at me. He even said if I hadn't questioned him so much he wouldn't of got so angry and said it to me. Fast forward a few days and finally got a sorry and he said he has never asked for an apology for my behaviour that let to his outburst. And that I'm not like indian women who don't hold onto such things. They would build the relationship not let it go. I said you let your ego and sharp tongue get in the way. Which he has told me before. And he said an indian woman would break down his ego. I said you shouldn't have such an ego that it needs breaking down and I'm glad im not and indian woman. That needs to walk on egg shells. I said we both need to work on ourselves. Then he said he has nothing to work on and even his friends say he doesn't need to go to councilling I ended the relationship which he keeps adding the the message and previously he's ended it multiple times. And I said we have tried for 3 years we are both different. We both see things differently and we just don't match. We've tried it's time to end and let go . Andveven said I dont hate him My god after rereading that it's so exhausting. I wish he would of worked at it because I know even I need to work on myself and rebuild on myself. But I'm not gonna be in a relationship were I feel I can't be open about my feelings or have to pick and choose words so he doesn't take offence if I have a problem which what he said or did. He even liked other eomens photos on fb and commented how lovely they are. And when I said I found them disrespectful because some were half naked. He said his fb account had been hijacked and he would pick and choose which ones were him and which ones weren't. And then said they should be left in the past. Even though he always said to me he didn't like public displays of affection and was careful of what he said to my photos very rarely liked or even sent hearts. So glad though its over I can look after myself now and start to make myself happy again Sorry for the long post Rant over

You haven’t covered all the situations couple face. Kids play a major role and change the relationship dynamics

the comments r hilarious

Lots of toxic comments. Just curious, why do you guys consume this content? Or do you follow Steven but just dislike Jay Shetty?

Please I need an advice. Is about my distance relationship. We are together for 3 years by now and we saw each other 2 weeks in total. I feel very sad day by day and I lose hope that we will end up together. How to reconnect of we love each other but don't have enough financial support to visit each other often? and now I wanna go there in India again...I am from Romania. He still didn't come to visit me just I go there 2 weeks in 2023. He promises he will come in 2025...but feels so much time 😔🥺

Finally‘ since 2013 I hate watching TV…

The inspiring depth of this content is a call to action. A book I read with related messages changed my life's direction. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

If I had eyes like that people would listen to me too lol

He says that watching TV together is bad and breaking your relationship but then tells you to listen to a podcast together

Three days un-phoned vacation at least 3 hours from their home together per month because they didn't want to wait for their annual vacation. Must be nice to have that freedom.

We watch RU-vid alone separately, which doesn't create intimacy at all.

I only counted 2 things, taking time apart and not watching telly, did I miss something? Also I noticed he doesn’t wear a wedding ring…hmmm

as a single, i am taking note.

Watching tv together is The most intimate chillest time with my man Feeling his heart beat while i lay on his chest and I get to caress him For hours while we watch something interesting or funny = pure bliss Do you and what feels good to both of you I just heard the first minute cause I was curious Choose your lover with your heart That’s it

Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, i wasn't going to let my marriage of 18years crash.

2:14seconds into video; Why do Yiddish you refer to your wife as "that person".

Who is watching TV in 2023… genuinely .. I’m almost 30 and I don’t know anyone my age who watches Tv or has in years

Is it always women who complain that their men are not spending time with them? Or it’s the same for both and we’re not talking about it??? Could you or someone comment or talk about this point please ?

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Surfing lol. I bet you do that on a Wednesday evening. What about every other day??

Keep your videos short like this n we will watch em all. Skipped so many of your videos coz they are too long.

With all due respect this is the very FIRST time Jay is talking and not even getting anything of what he is saying😶😶

This is such basic advice… who just gets up and leaves their partner without planning or discussing when or how long the time will be. Relationships definitely are in danger if this is podcast worthy advice geez

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Stop chasing this there is no such thing. Everyone has flaws and you do to and because of that chasing perfection in you guys being together is rediculous. Rather aim to better yourself and grow with your partner

I think Jay Shetty will never use perfect to describe a relationship.

I don't watch tv

Nothing wrong with just watching TV with your partner after a long stressful day, stop complicating things!

This guy speaks a little of sense.

Somehow I kinda stopped watching TV and nonsense entertainments almost 8 years ago, just saying :D

I dont think it’s Helpful to be apart too long it is Hartful ☹️

Sorry but I won’t take any advice from someone who hasn’t had children with their partner/wife/husband. Try and run a business or work full time and have 3 children especially if you haven’t got your family with you in the same country. Also, try and go through lockdowns with 3 children and running a business at the same time making sure it doesn’t fail or when your partner goes through a mental breakdown when you have young children to look after.. then it will definitely test your marriage!

Is it just me or does this seem like advice for incredibly privileged people? I get that we can all come up with our own rules, but 3 days a month together with no phones, an annual vacation, spending extra quality time together at the equivalent of time spent apart and joining each other’s work trips where possible sounds like too much of a fantasy to even slightly relate to. Who in real-life has that amount of time and flexibility to play with ?

sometimes he has an indian accent, sometimes he has a British accent...which one it it entrepreneur bro?

i feel like this guy is talkinf to rich guys, which need to fear they lose their wife cheating to an richer guy, because he couldnt get her to sattle and commit to the relationship to 100%.

Does not exist

I don't think it's helpful to be apart too long . It is hurtful. 😢

No one is perfect so where did he come up with these 4 simple rules and the factor everyone is different in there own way an the more you do for someone it never good enough