Jehovah's Witnesses: Dating & Relationships 

Amen! Sentiments echoed and without an "echo chamber" of a high control kingdom hall environment!

Us all.

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🙃🙃🙃 They are not completely crazy.🤣

@Ranetta Maxwell well I'm worldly but I'm a virgin still at 25 and I'm faithful, honest, kind, I'm decent person but not to the standards of the society. There are a lot of lonely women in the org that are waiting for there elder Superman to marry them but it's never gonna happen there are more women in there than men. Also not to mention the men there are no prizes. I'm 25 and some women were going to there 40s not even married yet and they are nice women good women. I personally just wanted love but was never gonna find it cause I was not baptized and doing enough there talk about sad. Also I believe a women and man should be 50/50 if she can lead let her lead if I can lead better than her I'll lead but what's important is that I love her and she loves me but that's just me..

@Ranetta Maxwell I mean if I loved someone that much I'd go through hell and back for them.. but as for the JW girls in there I'm not gonna break my back trying to impress them by being "spiritual" going to meetings etc screw that.. but yeah never say never.

Your story is very like mine. Dated a disfellowshipped JW for 2 years. Im not a JW. I was left worse off after that relationship. I had to leave him for similar situations you described. I met my husband though and i am very happy now. It was such a long story with so many issues at the time. He never saw how he hurt me on so many levels and im sure to this day he still doesnt accept his negative part in the relationship. Like in tge video, it felt like i was constantly being groomed by him, spiritually and physically. I used to have to stand in a graveyard when he popped into his family home..i was only 19/20 and he was 26/27 so i was soooo naive!

bull. Many jws have envious marriages. Thats what the BIBLE teaches is good basis gor marriages. Look. The jws are the first to say before this stupid woman on this video that nobody is perfect and some are hypocritical. But that is not what they promote, the show what the Bible says on marriage. So dont sit there and say dont marry a jw etc thats just stupid. Its not 50 50, its 100% in a marriage and you wermt no saint neither!!

@@queue555 a marriage should never have a foundation on just being from the same religion to marry that's wrong. It just causes segregation it brings this whole narrative of "us vs them" the us being JW's and the them being outsiders. I was an outsider and wasn't even allowed to pursue someone I liked just cause I wasn't baptized that's wrong even if I was baptized and a JW that doesn't even mean I'd be an adequate husband or boyfriend..

He also fine as hell 😂

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Great point

Damn.... To on point!!

Yep.

quietstormaps I am worldly and married to a JW. Did the congregation or elders ever try to get you to divorce your husband because he wasn’t a witness?

@@Ilovesummer123 No they didn't, but, because I was married to an unbeliever, I felt that they didn't deem me spiritual enough, if that makes sense. I think those that are married to unbelievers are definitely treated differently, as if we could easily be corrupted by our spouse, and for that you never felt like you really belonged. There was pressure, however, to "talk" to him about "the truth" as much as possible, and my husband did attend a few meetings with me and even had a few bible studies, but it wasn't for him and I never resented him for it. I was kinda glad to be married to an unbeliever because I felt I didn't have the same pressures as other wives. If I didn't go to the meetings or comment or study, my husband wasn't reprimanding me for it, lol.

quietstormaps I’ve gone through the same. Funny thing I always thought my children will make their decision when they grow up too. Weirdly didn’t listen to my own advice until later. I needed to mentally grow up to not believe in JW nightmares!!

@@quietstormaps I have a question for you. Were you all ready married to your husband before you became a baptized Jehovah's Witness?

@@apostababelindajames7461 I married him while I was disfellowshipped, lol, and got reinstated a few years after we were married.

Among the high control cults or churches, it's pretty obvious to any who reason things-out, that the Witnesses are the worst of them.

Brandy Pope Johnson I am also going through the same

@@terencekoch4589 At the top of the list anyway

"Weird mentally challenged" - YES Tanaea! That is a🎯🎯🎯 spot on description of what that watchtower organization does to the men. Many of the women too but the men, being in the minority in many places throughout the organization with the centuries old underlying misogynistic CULT-ure creates mindset mentalities of always "trusting in Jehovah's 'organization', and basically giving our lives over to organizational dictates. Now if you as a JW woman marry a JW man then you're forced into submission to be subjugated and oppressed in many cases under how watchtower applies the "headship" "principle" - consciously or subconsciously. That's how so-called "spiritual families" were judged and ranked essentially. The cult goes so far off the path of decency and normalcy and with the fear-mongering, obligation-burdening, guilt-tripping and shame-blaming, that creates this "weird" and "mentally challenged" culture - both individually and collectively with how we're told by the JW CULT-ure to act and comport ourselves. It takes away our natural personalities, especially the good portions, to put on a fake persona the "higher" a "brother" goes and robs us of our authenticity - and we didn't even realize it until we're out looking back at the indoctrinated Cult members we once were.

Tanaea please enlighten me as am a nom JW married to a JW that has been reinstated for a year. So in the congregation he is considered condemned? Will he not make it to their so called Paradise? How do you think his congregation views him being married to me?

I'm glad I never married in the Cult Tower and the reason why an elder warned me and told me about the Pedephiles Problem in the early 1990's I new I was going to leave and I hope I could get out before I died and I did March 2017 last month Amen

@@Ilovesummer123 Being reinstated as a JW is viewed as a "positive" in a congregation's eyes as that's what they, on occasion, actively try to do to those of us no longer going to meetings or in a disfellowshipped "state" status is get reinstated and/or reactivated as opposed to "inactive" where one no longer goes in "field service" to turn in time reports to the elders. Since it's been one year for him since reinstatement the congregation probably "lifted restrictions" they normally keep a reinstated member on after 6 months to one year such as being able to comment at meetings or have a "privilege of service" like carrying a microphone or "being used" in reading the watchtower or opening/closing with prayer or "conducting" a field service "arrangement" to "take the lead" as a "brother". So a reinstated brother/sister can now generally converse with other JW members having taken the "step" to get back into "good standing" as a member congregant. So he's no longer condemned like he was before in a "disfellowshipped" status. And in the eyes of JW elders & rank & file he is "back in the race" on the road to "everlasting life" and is viewed as having better chances of surviving Armageddon in order to be in the JW "Paradise". If he was dating you a non-JW, he being a JW, the congregation and his elders especially would strongly disapprove of the relationship and actively discourage it likely trying to break it off, however, they know they cannot force someone to stop. But the elders, once they get wind of it will give "strong private counsel" to the JW about dating non-believers dropping scriptures about "marrying only in the Lord" from 1 Corinthians 7:39 or "not becoming unevenly yoked with unbelievers" - typically the JW elders will line up a mid-week "Local Needs" talk to the whole congregation to condemn it without actually naming the congregant engaged in dating the unbeliever. Yeah, it gets that deep! And the labels like "good standing" are very Scientology-like. For being married to you now already they view the marriage as a permanent, everlasting done deal - decision's been made legally and is also scripturally binding on him with the two of you being married so, in my personal observations of these cases, having been a JW in Chicago and Wisconsin 25+ years is a "good" elder will encourage him to be a good husband, love you, and treat you right assigning you "honor" as to what they call women "the weaker vessel". His congregation and elders, IF they're "scriptural" minded, will expect him to stay married to you faithfully unless adultery occured, typically the only reason allowable in watchtower for a "scriptural" divorce. If it's a new marriage to a non-JW I've generally seen most JW congregants just accept that - "sisters" are to view him as off-limits/off the market. While they won't view an "interfaith" marriage quite the same way they are supposed to respect it. Some individuals cases have varied though. My 2 cents worth - hope that helps. And expect that you may feel some pressure at times from the JW congregants to "offer you a Bible study" or invite you to go with him to meetings with gradual attempts to convert you. I saw a lot of that in Chicago when one was a JW marrying a non-JW or either a boyfriend/girlfriend or either hubby/wife becomes a JW, the pressure is put onto the non-JW sometimes mildly, sometimes more intensely, to recruit indoctrinate. That can go on for years, decades in some cases I saw.

@@lindiasanders3948 Congratulations on getting out in 2017 as that was the year I finally truly started waking up as well, last going in "field service" formally in May 2017 working a cart right before going to one of the three days of convention. The child sex abuse cover ups with journalist Trey Bundy's reports after the Candace Conti verdict were the tipping point deal breaker for me, especially seeing this was and is an industrialized, pervasive, systemic problem having gone on for decades being swept under the rug with watchtower keeping it's own hidden database of JW pedophiles & child abusers in-house listed on their own records with many not turned over for law enforcement to investigate.

Most of it confirms what I was taken through

Absolutely

I was the girlfriend similar to that, (but omg(osh) NOT controlling like her, my BF was abusive) back when I was 17&18 and did that only out of complete ignorance over how dating should really work. Because no one taught me. I had to learn later on in life, with my current husband, that your supposed to pick a marriage mate based on who they ALREADY are, not based on some fantasy of who they could be all the while trying to change them. I honestly was ignorant to dating&relationships due to my poor upbringing. I have learned since then.

They are not suppose to be dating outside of the JW organization

I agree, she knew what she was getting in to. I'm sure she is active because she is afraid of been shun. Dating a "worldly" man on purpose is not tought by JW. It's true what they said keep the marriage in the same religion or it's gonna be a nightmare. They always preach about it. When they married worldly people these become victims of the WT. Emotionally they will be destroyed.

SHE WAS PROBABLY TREATING HIM THE WAY SHE WAS TREATED. SHE ONLY RESPONDED TO HIM, BECAUSE SHE SAW AN OPPORTUNITY. AN OPPORTUNITY TO ABUSE. SHE WAS RIGHT. SHE WOULD NOT HAVE CHOSEN HIM, YET HE CHOSE HER. SHE IS NOT GOING TO CHOSE SOMEONE SHE THINKS IS STRONG.

I grew up in this cult till 17. Have you seen what single JW men look like? If you see an attractive single JW man, he will be getting disfellowshipped for messing with an outside woman. That's why the women 'recruit' outside men. I got a mom and 2 sisters who did this exact same thing. Both sisters started divorce proceedings and mom is with a lying pastor.

@@TheParrottpr She did not know what she was getting herself (or him) into . You have to understand how badly wired you can become, from being raised like that AND on top of not learning how to properly pick a date and behave when dating. I say that because I was like that (but not nearly as controlling like her) from being totally ignorant and socially behind in so many ways :-(. It can take years to change ones self/ mindset to know better and do better. We didn't use a church to make my mom happy, but used a priest, to make his parents happy. I was not a JW (But my mom was ,and she started studying&taking us to KH when I was 12) at the time of marrying however it was what I supported, even though I wasn't living it.

LOL and thank God!

Cynthia Gale Same here. My husbands JW family are batshit crazy but yet look down on others.

He does, I agree! He's animated, articulate and very passionate. I believe he'd do very well.

The Worldly Spouse i love your videos. Im wordly married to a jw. Can i email you with questions to help me in my situation?

@@Ilovesummer123 Are you trying to reach Critical Thinkers, if so, it's exjwct@gmail.com.

@@Ilovesummer123 tws "AT" um "DOT" att "DOT" com. It may take some time for me to respond, but I will make an effort to do so. Lots going on in my home life and work.

THATS NOT THE POINT HERE! WHAT HE NEEDS TO DO IS FOCUS ON HIMSELF AND HIS CAREER!! HE WOULDNT BE IN THIS SITUATION.

^^ he mad? Lol

@@RAZASHARP there was no ambiguity in his message, I clearly comprehended it. I would never speak to adults in the manner you spoke to him or me. But , I'll speak for myself if I decide to sing the ABC song in the comment section, it wouldn't be a darn thing you and your disrespectful response could do about it. You got me confused with a child.

SweetD Nosmoke Ahhh no...you’re just overthinking it. It’s not that serious 😭 By the way there’s a lot of things that I do that you wouldn’t do and are capable... so what does it matter that you will never talk to anybody like that what’s that got to do with me

@@RAZASHARPAbcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz next time won't u sing it with me😂😂

this guy did his homework- we encourage anyone leaving to do the same because it will result in a full CONFIRMATION that this is not the truth in 2020 one has no excuse to not know this is not the truth JT

He seems like a nice, thoughtful guy, not a "devil" in any way. The devil/angel analogy you're using doesn't seem to fit.

He is her second “worldly” husband. Why does she keep looking for love in all the wrong places? He is extremely smart and deserves way better than her.

Theres just as many devils in the hall as in the world. I know because im married to one of the JW brother devils

@@crispmom u missed it. I meant that from the standpoint of a Jehovah's witnesses, all outsiders are evil. But it's out of the evil bunch that they go to pick a mate when they can't get the Jehovah's witness angel in the kingdom hall that they actually wish for. In my old congregation, the eligible bachelors were so few that the women started going out of state to bring in husbands. Some even went as far as their home countries to find a mate to bring here. Those who wouldn't do that simply dated non witnesses, those who they see as condemned to death at Armageddon. So yes they see non Jehovah's witnesses as devils and certainly see themselves as angels. At least they behave as angels in the hall.

@@Ilovesummer123 indeed! Is there any deed that exists in the world that Jehovah's witnesses don't do as the rest of the world?

Damn fairly????

Eddie Murphy all the way lol JT

You like brown chocolate?

Sis, I was thinking the same thing 🤔🤔!

@@aliciawarrenjohnson7652 lol right. We out here single single ready to mingle heehee

@@Isa-Amor yasssss 😆 lol

@@alwayspure7709 I like all kinds of chocolate😏

Thanks for watching and thanks for your amazing compliments and feedback!!

David Wicklin I did the same stopped listening to Mary mary and yolanda adams even though the music was so uplifting

@Geechie82 How is mainstream christian music (i.e., Mary Mary and Yolanda Adams) "demonic." It's not, unless you happen to have some pretty extreme beliefs.

Where did you find that listening to Gospel music was a disfellowshiping offense? Smh. I don't agree with a lot of what JWs do but they have Never stated this. They are against debasing music and entertainment as all those professing the be Christians should be. Some Gospel music goes against their belief system and would naturally not be listened to. Most of the issues involving JWs stem from their members being self righteous and making up their own rules 🙄

@@lady6164 In my Chicago JW congregations, that's where. It was stated from kingdom Hall talk platforms, in field service discussions, and if you look into the publications such as their "Keep Yourselves In God's Love" book the language about intermixing with any kind of what watchtower deems as "false religion" such as doing contracting work on repairing a church is severely condemned to a point where a judicial committee can be formed to explore reproving and disfellowshipping options if a person doesn't "leave false religion" and where I came from LadyEllington, even as a "walk-in convert" at 20 years old in 1992 becoming a very devout Jehovah's Witness for 25 years if we got caught listening to "Christendom music" like gospel music, those JW elders would be on us like white on rice! I should tell you about the time in the late '90s where I was helping a JW friend get moved - he had a Michael Jackson Thriller LP album slip out of one of the boxes we were moving. Well one of the JW elders, who also happened to be his original study conductor, saw the album and immediately said "you aren't supposed to be having a Michael Jackson album!!! He's a disfellowshipped/disassociated JW who left the faith". Total instant arbitrary condemnation!! I got the same for some of my own music collection when I had my initial study period between 1992-1994 before getting baptized. I can't make this stuff up! Why would I having been a devout JW for 25 years? Maybe it wasn't your observation or experience but it was mine - and I use to take pride in condemning "Christendom" and "Babylon The Great" as a devout JW having twice been a Ministerial Servant, gave public talks, took "the lead" in field service, etc.

I thrown away Watchtower stuff then Church suff back and forth until a Preacher said to me choose which one and you knew what I mean by that. That's was God telling me I see you having a hard time coming to me. I did until I saw RU-vid apostates saying the same things I found years ago. I finally made the right choice leave Watchtower.

That’s marriage in general!! You see movie clips before the movie.

I was thinking the same thing. I was chastising grown women in my hall for wearing low cut dresses showing their cleavage at 7 lol I got baptized at 11...When you're 10 you definitely know something is out of place..the brainwashing starts young...I'm glad Lady Cee dropped some knowledge on viewers about that. Don't be mistaken the kids are the ultimate snitches lol

Dipped AtEleven I knew very little about these people, except that they would knock on your door on Saturday and push comic books on you and ask for a donation.💰of course that was a while ago. Now that the internet is around, and we WORDLY people can see what’s up ? How in the world can anyone be a part of the twilight zone ? To join this nonsense you really would have to be out of your 🧠 ! Even the name Jehovah is not correct. (YAWEH ) correct ! I guess they will find new 💡 a WORDLY demon 👹. Waiting for my fireball on jehooovahs day.😁

Milly Fernandez hey we all need each other to help figure out why we stayed under their control so long How we allowed them to impact us years AFTER we have left many times Now we have the tools Let's keep using them JT and Lady Cee

ExJW Critical Thinker Thank you! I am so grateful for this channel ‘ keep up the good works’ 😊

Its like a movie

So true!!! Here is an example.. When I'm changing through the channels at home and a rap video plays with curse words my wife is silent.. but when I happen to land on a church station I first here her sigh.. Then she leans forward and turns towards me and look and say really??! I say what??! She say it's church stuff!! I say really??!!!! I say You have an issue with this but dont say nothing with the rap video??!.... Lollllll

@@Godly-Beard exactly. But when I was in as a JW I would have been her. Truly sad. Pray for her. It took me almost 10 years after leaving to get out of the FOG. I was PIMO and didn't even know it lol. My husband had it bad with me.

I believe we have similar taste in women. I was a baptized jw virgin and super picky. I moved to Houston tx after graduation and met the most beautiful Afro-Latina ever. She was a virgin too. I banged her out, got disfellowshipped, and now I've been married to her for over 12yrs. Crazy how life works.

Erik., I’ve been watching these ex.j.w.., videos for a while now, and I’m not like these j.w.s in a sense, not judging people.But U have to say these folks are the wackiest bunch of people in the Galaxy !!? ABSOLUTELY INSANE And the funniest 🤣 thing they somehow think they are better than,(WORDLY)people, or what we call NORMAL people. Hmmm., You know this phony baloney printing company, pretending to be a religion, was founded by a womanizer that owned a clothing store, thought he was smarter than everybody else. Well I guess I’ll stay WORDLY with a 🧠, and just wait for my 🔥 on jehooovah s day.🤣

@@kevinwarren1576 wait so you are still a JW? Are you still going to meetings? How old are you? Just curious.. 🙂 yeah the people are whacky never in my life did i find it so hard to talk to people it was either the "devil this or the "devil" that you can't even have a conversation not a normal one at least.. 🙄

@@prettyboyboo6901 well that's good as long as your both happy 🙂

@@kevinwarren1576 Wacky and naive are apt descriptions of who we were as Jehovah's Witnesses. And those of us who have "woken up" can now continue to plant seeds of truth to help the still indoctrinated JW's wake up.

Lol I did that to my now husband. Its the norm if you try to date outside the religion. Lol

Yesssss all the research is being conducted....