He said “I can afford the vices but I can’t afford the consequences”. Real talk. Put it on a bumper sticker or the title of a book. We all needed to hear that. Great podcast. Thanks Hardly Initiated.
Omg. This man almost brought me to tears. I wanted to shout. His wife & i suffered from the same medical condition and my husband did the exact opposite of what he did. And I mean EXACT opposite. Needless to say we’re no longer together. But whew this man here let me know there are some that do grow up out of that lifestyle.
This man exudes exactly what women want. Outspoken, has a reasonably moral character, and holds himself to a high standard. I’ve been saying for many years that the type of women who are virtuous or choosy about who they sleep with aren’t generally looking for a man who sleeps around. Women who want to wait until they are in love or for marriage to have sex are not looking for promiscuous men. Obviously, she views sex as a sacred union, so why would she compromise her integrity on a man who doesn’t value sex or preserve his integrity? I always steered clear of men who slept around because they were sending a message about who they were that didn’t resonate with a my values. It’s not even about a religious aspect, but rather a self control and and confidence in doing something despite what their friends might think/say. That’s hot. What a great guy!
I agree with you are correct! However it's a man nature to want to have sew with women! I can accept. The problem is men tend to look down on a woman's count! He wants her to be a virgin! The truth being a virgin is not natural! So both men and women need to stop looking at each other's sexual past, because both of you a grown adults, it's part of life!
I’ve come across Hardly Initiated recently and have watched a handful of videos. One thing that rubs me the wrong way is the double standard about “body count” between men and women. The hosts have openly shared the importance/benefit etc. of a woman with a low body count. This is the first speaker that has said it as it is . If a man wants a woman with a low body count, then the man needs to hold himself to the same standard. You can’t ask for a specific kind of person and be a hypocrite and not be that person. “Be who you want to meet!”. You can tell there is some conviction going on.
@@TunisiaAli It may be too late for grown men, however, it does need to be taught to the younger generation. They are out here being careless with of direction. Our community is failing and fast!!
They also said that they understand the women have a past too and went to college 😂😂😂😂…. They just keeping it real and I think that men… Especially if he is realistic that he understands that you have a past, who are you today… you must become the person you wanna to be with/marry…
But honestly, it’s a physical difference. Women get stretched out and etc whereas men bodies don’t change from sex! Men are projectors whereas women are receptors!! Women carry that man’s spirit after sex and men leave some of themselves with women! There’s a difference!
Jeremy is so awesome! I love how he speaks about the hardships in his marriage and then talks about how it helped him grow. This man is very humble. I believe a lot of men can learn from him
He didn’t sugar coat anything, nor did he lean to one side, he maintained himself balanced as his marriage is. Loved that he is passing down the process of how to become a true KING not just some X-pill man on how to escape the matrix but a KING that leads to a Godly home.
This man made me cry when he talked about his nine month fast. That really touched me. There are some great men out here. Y'all are giving me hope and restoring my faith
I loved the section about comparing the way another man can motivate you versus your woman. It truly is completely different, a strong man can certainly be successful by surrounding himself with likeminded men, but a great woman will certainly increase that hunger to create and provide 10 fold.
This episode blessed me. As a woman, you hope that men like Jeremy exist. Today's interview is the proof. I suffered five miscarriages in my marriage. I lost the ability to have children at 38 years of age. My heart and mind were shattered. I felt like I was losing my mind slowly. My ex-husband expected me to heal quickly and get over it. I couldn't do it. I'm hopefully waiting for the right person for me. Thank you so much! I'm listening and sharing.
FIVE MISCARRIAGES?!?? Seriously, my heart goes out to you. I had one for the first time a couple of months ago, and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Cannot imagine going through that 4 more times. I hope you will find a man who loves and respects you more than your ex husband did. And if you don’t mind me asking, were you ever able to have a child?
In our marriage with my good black husband, I am the one who benefited a lot of personal, spiritual, emotional, mental and character growth. Yes these type of men do still exist.Just be a woman they needed to be found by them.
S/O to the MAN in the hoodie … I wish our future generations of men have men like this leading our future young ladies and young men .!!! WE NEED THIS .!! Holds us all accountable AND MOST IMPORTANTLY HE PREACHES WHAT WE CAN DO …and what steps need to be taken …instead of rotating taking points and regurgitating issues between the sexes …. May Allah grant him and his wife fortune ❤️
.....that Tysean skipped over Jeremy's biggest part of his speech that a relationship with GOD is most important thing a man can bring into a relationship, speaks volumes.
Jesus!!!! His testimony is inspiring 🙌🏾 not only to other men but all of us! Discipline and feeding your spirit instead of your flesh is sooo powerful! 💪🏾🙌🏾 Fire episode! 👏🏾
This is what’s up!! Thank you Jeremy Anderson for speaking the truth and being transparent. To God be the glory! We need more men and women living an authentic lifestyle of God’s Word. I could hear the freedom in your voice and spirit. Who the Son sets free-is free indeed. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
On the topic of a virtuous woman and discipline it is so nuanced. I can name 50 women who love God and seek to honor him with their bodies, most of my adult life I have been abstinent and it is by God’s grace and plan for my life. My will power has not been enough. I say that to say whether I am considered virtuous or not is not my focus, but to be with a man who is undisciplined or who I have to be strong for the both of us sexually is exhausting. My pastors advise that if a man is going to lead in that area he has to have his own convictions. My friends who have not been able to maintain their convictions is because of the men whom they trusted with their hearts did not have the discipline and led them into things they regret. I am not saying they are bad men, what I am saying is once a woman gives her heart to a man her body will soon follow, men know this and do what they will with it. And I even know men who have told me they wish they did not coerce their wives to have sex before marriage because now in the marriage there is lack of trust and respect.
1000% "Is he (brother) really going to help your character grow? Is he really going to help you with Humility? Is he going to help you with being selfless?" J. Anderson is a masculine man, certain of his masculinity and doesn't have to throw it around behind the scenes... "I'm going to govern my tongue... be more respectful, be more patient, extend more grace, extend more love, be more gentle." Yesssss, the making of a R.E.A.L. Man... a Blessed Man, a God-Man. Speak Brother. 🙌🏽🙌🏽☝🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Does Jeremy have a RU-vid or podcast...he is spilling real real truth...i felt his realness, i felt his genuinety...wowwwww! im hooked on every word he speaks
Am I trippin? But it seems like each episode gets better and better! If this episode doesn't provoke change in you, male or female, you're not human. To say this episode is that FYE is an understatement. This episode is the Wata (water) of Life, that can quench your soul! My marriage is hard too but it's also hella fly! Just working daily to have more fly days than days wifey and I be trippin, usually over misunderstanding one another! Patience with wifey is my "bread and butter" and constant self evaluation! Wow was just listening to Dr. Monroe this morning! Doc Monroe is so blunt with the truth, you better come with your "thick skin!" 😄
This was by far one of the best interviews I have viewed in a long time ...I love brother Jeremy's honesty and transparency....we need more brothers like him in and out the church ....God bless you Jeremy...hope you are back soon on the podcast....Praying for you...your beautiful wife and children....Pray to God and stay with God ....🙏🙏🙏
Jeremy Anderson just might be my favorite speaker so far👏🏽. He is so relatable, and his transparency grabs your attention. I know his message has saved many lives. Women are known to be emotional creatures, but men are made to feel as if they have to be hard and that showing their emotions make them soft. He has just literally preached to our black men how important it is to find a safe space in other men they trust. Guys, your platform is truly a gift and I love to see Ryan quiet 😅 and hungry for a great message. I am a woman, and I can truly say that your podcast has made an impression on me and my thinking and the moves I make now when it comes to the opposite sex.
This is the best interview that I've seen in a while. And it's evident that the interviewee's messags were hitting both of the interviewers, esp the one sitting to the left of the screen. I pray that they both take heed and re-evaluate some things. Keep of the great work to you all!
definitely I agree with u....best they had from all those previous men they had...I listen from beginning to end....with the other I just skip but they didn't bring much for me to truly listen cause they seems so fake...
As I continue to listen J Anderson has me in tears... 😢 "Can you be strong enough long enough!" Nothing but God, God is a Keeper.☝🏽 AND the Blessings will contine to flow his way. Obedience is Better than Sacrifice. Only a renewed mind understands that.
Wow!! He's amazing! I'm so happy to hear a man speak about his wife like this. The fact that he considered her health and extended grace- LORD!! I suffered with endometriosis-like pain for nearly 5yrs and didn't even get one ounce of support. I struggled alone and grateful that I didn't give up on my health. This guy is definitely goals to look for in a husband.
So fulfilling to see Jeremy make the sacrifices as a husband for his wife. I’ve been married 38 years and haven’t seen this from my husband. Jeremy is a masculine man though. My husband is very selfish and there are issues. I’m not perfect, no one is but he knows more about what’s on tv than knowing me, sad but true. I spent most of the years taking care of our kids, so when we became empty nesters, the broken really came to the surface.
WAIT WHAT um we'll why don't you just file for divorce instead of saying these personal feelings about your husband to all us strangers um TALK TO YOU HUSBAND 😒
His wife should listen to this and hear the things he really needs from her in between his messages 🙏🏾 I love his discipline, but it’s clear he’s not being fulfilled intimately… I wish them a more fulfilled union so his core needs aren’t sacrificed. Great man!
You clearly aren’t listening to understand. He’s fulfilled and he’s speaking in past tense. He’s just talking on differences. He loves his woman and she loves him!
If you are fulfilled by God then you lack nothing. No one person can fulfill everything you need all the time. I'm pretty sure his wife knows what he needs.
This brother is in complete honesty the good the bad and the ugly! In order to attract positive in your life you MUST live a positive life. No one on this earth is perfect but as this brother said be the Best version of yourself!! God Bless you and your Family and please keep sharing your wisdom!!🙏👼🙏❤❤❤❤❤
Wow!! I pray I marry a man with this much discipline and devotion. Wow!! He loves her so much! He loves God so much It’s beautiful. I really appreciate this level of honesty. This man has the fear of God and the word of God says that “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom”. Praying that God blesses me with a God fearing man.🙏🏾❤️
Wow! This is what I'm talking about...It ain't easy but it is so worth it. Selfless love.... God bless and cover this brotha, his wife, their family, their businesses...everything! Please let the core of the message reach far and wide. God move in ways that only you can and help us do and be better for you and for each other.
I suffer with Endometriosis & I’ve always been insecure about my health affecting my partner… this gave me hope to know that God Can bless me with a man who will love me, regardless of my health issues & get through it with me 🥺🤍
Yes my big brothers!!! You are blessing me, my husband wasn’t perfect when we got together but when I say I was worse, I mean I was worseeeeee so I can relate to your story and it really encourages me to go all in! I would have never thought you were from the streets and smoking back then, God did it for you he will surely complete this work in me! Thank ya! All I want is to be a true helpmate to him so we can do what God birth us to get do, omg I’m so happy , probably will play this back a million times! This is a blessing for real, thank all ya!
Wow this was awesome. This is what it means to be a Man. This is the type of wholesome content that needs to go viral so more guys can see it. Kudos to Jeremy for sharing his journey with us.
Best Yet!!! This is balance and true manhood. This is how a man and woman compliment one another in the best possible way. None of us is perfect. This is how a man shows his superior leadership, maturity and strength. God truly gives a man a family and wife to make him responsible-- to call him to his highest honor. His ability to contain and support his wife is a major strength and the only one that allows her to relax and feel secure. This was absolutely beautiful and will call you 2 men to your best expression of what is in fact your divine purpose--- to lead people to the right path (the siratula-deen) and not lead people astray via the wayward ways of the world that feel oh so good but in the end destroy our souls and cheat us out of the gift of life! I appreciate you Young Men and all that you do!!! Tunisia Ali
Wow!!! What an amazing episode. Biggest struggle in life is Discipline. I felt challenged to step up in my life. Am comfortable in soft landing. Also, his relationship with God is evident on how he loves his wife & how everything else flows in his life. Ps. I just discovered this channel last week & prior to that, I was not not familiar with your work. More people need to listen to this. To the 3 Kings on this table, thank you!!
I love how open, honest, & RECEVING you young men are in the safe space you have created! You all make sure that you learn each and every time from your seasoned guests as young single honest & humble men and THAT is amazing & a blessing! You all are doing great with this space! As a woman I LOVE IT!!!!! Love seeing safe open honest spaces for men! Especially where you all's paths with your guest are so different! I see them giving & you all really willing to receive/learn and grow! God Bless!!!
This episode was the best thing I’ve ever listened too I’m going to have to run I it back. Not only is it wonderful to see a man operating at the level but it convicted me as a woman. Who do I need to become to attract what I believe I deserve! Sure I’ve got some wonderful qualities but what would it mean to be the support system to a real man of character! Phew 😮💨
This was amazing from start to finish, but the massage talk gave me chills. I knew he was about to drop a bomb because he’d done it over and over throughout without warning, but I wasn’t ready for that level of discernment. This just blessed me. I have some things I’ve been battling that I’m ready to give up starting now.
Some of these women in the comments just weird,he stated HIS WIFE WAS DYING PHYSICALLY! He had to help her heal he understands her worth and value in his life it’s not all about what he can receive from her physically,it’s about what they have made and built together! He watched this woman loose kids and all and y’all talking about he deserves better..wow! Y’all wouldn’t even know what to do with a man like this! Don’t worry about what he needs physically! God has blessed him for his dedication and devotion to that woman
Yea, I read the comments while listening and when I heard that part, I couldn’t believe people were condemning his wife! It was HIS idea to stop having sex because he cared about her HEALTH and ENJOYMENT! I know women whose husbands don’t care how much pain they’re in. They feel entitled no matter how their wives feel. So kudos to him for saying they can stop despite her protests.
IT'S NICE TO HEAR. SO MANY BEAUTIFUL WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT. WHEN THERE ARE SO MANY NEGATIVE MALE PODCASTS CALLING WOMEN DEROGATORY NAMES FOR NOT BEING SUBMISSIVE. WHILE DATING. AND SO MANY FEMALES SUPPORTING THEM.. THANKU EMOTIONALLY MOTIVATING! 🙏🤓
This was powerful, I hope there were some men taking notes. This is what a (real) man of God looks like and shows up for his Queen. You have to be the example! You can only attract what you are, 💯 percent!!!
39:50 WOW!! I’ve NEVER EVER heard a man sacrifice the way he did for his wife. HOLY CRAP! He just changed the game. I need to sit with this for a minute lol
"Me and my queen are building a *dynasty*, and that's the difference"-- 💯👏🏻 YES. Can't wait for my King to show up so we can create our empire. Doing it alone, you can't reach the same heights as doing it together.
The name part spoke to me, I’m Christian n South African n we take our names serious in giving purpose to a child. ❤❤❤beautiful to know that there are still good men
Nobody is the idea husband or wife it’s called compromising and figuring it out along the way life isn’t easy and everything is perfect or you aren’t gonna be happy everyday of your life it’s impossible 💯💯
Always nice to hear men talk about relationships ❤❤ what I hear from one of the guys is.. I’m not happy in my marriage because marriage should never be painful, there will be struggles but both should be able to work through it, if you with the right person.
Lot of jewels. Good interview. The glaring point was that “specific woman with specific characteristics” help him self reflect to be better! Thats exactly the type of woman men would love