Another goal: to win even when you lose. As with wresting and dialogue, if your goal is development and strengths, losses can be the seeds of future growth.
Thanks for sharing! I commend you, confrontation is not easy.. balancing values and diff ppls interests is not easy. It's fascinating how standing your ground when you're in a leadership role enables others to confront their own values (e.g. enabling a parent or kid to think abt their priority of winning). It's also interesting the difference btwn recreational sport and competitive sport. I'm just wondering, if your 3 values are winning, fairness (equal time playing), and fun, whether those values are equally important or if winning is still slightly more important
@@RightInChrist Yeah I'm just thinking if winning is 2/4 of the pie and fairness and fun are each 1/4 of the pie, it doesn't mean it's not balanced. Just like when you bake a cake, just bc there's more flour than sugar doesn't mean it's not balanced
@@SofaWrld2 I can say that some players and parents do not agree with my decisions. I personally have been someone totally focused on winning for most of my life and so I suspect that one weighs more subconsciously. I have a friend who told me about their rule that everyone plays half the game and so I stole that rule for our team. I can say that I can't make all my kids have fun all the time no matter how hard I try even if that was my only goal. One thing I should also communicate in the future as a coach, is my goal to encourage the kids to learn how to be a good team member for our small team and for the league as well.
@@RightInChrist Gotcha yeah it does sound really hard, not just hard to put into action but hard how it can weigh on a person. Everything you're saying makes sense tho and your thoughts and ideas and actions sound like the thing to do. I suspect the rest is time! Consulting other coaches sounds like a good idea too - that reminds me of what was Paul saying the other day, don't try to be too original lol Encouraging other kids to be good team members is a great opportunity for the kids too 👍 But yeah, don't be too hard on yourself, it sounds like you're a great coach
For the love of the game, with exception of players who can juke, soccer is a wonderful team sport. Kick and run strategy is not primary to team formation. Knocking the ball in player triangles is fundamental. I remember having a coach from Scotland who would break us up in practice into groups of 4. In a static equilateral triangle 3 passing the ball around + 1 monkey defender in the middle. Once the 3 get the ‘keep away’ together the triangle moves up the field. Was nothing like extending futball possession in games to bring the team together
@@jamesRHenry523 I like that. I've worked something similar (called rondos) with the team. But the group of 4 and eventual moving makes perfect sense. Thanks!
