I am amazed by the times we live in. A man from Oklahoma can reduce a man in the west of Ireland to tears with his song. I count myself lucky to be able to hear him.
American country music is rooted in Ireland and Scotland. My family is English/Scots-Irish and from appalachia. When they migrated here they brought the music and storytelling with them, bluegrass is a perfect example of this. Many families remained in appalachia, I still have family there, but many migrated west when the government offered "free land" to encourage Americans to settle the west. Oklahoma was one of the first territories to offer the land, so many poor families migrated to settle what was then still hostile land. It was a long, hard fought battle with plains indians. Just think about the courage that it took to uproot their families into the unknown for a better life, not once, but twice. Once from their homes in Irleand and Scotland, then again into a territory that was known to be hostile towards the English. It takes a special kind of people to make those sacrifices, right or wrong. The only thing they had to remind them of the homes they left behind was their music and stories, and we can still hear it today. In my opinion its one of the things that makes America a special place, or it used to anyway. So many different people bringing pieces of their culture with them and making it uniquely American. Music has always bridged the gap, from the Scots-Irish mountain music, to American blues with its sound changing from region to region. Its all soul music and tells beautiful stories of pain and perseverance if one is willing to listen. Sincerly, A brother from West Virginia
I never thought of it in that way but I get it! Indifference is worse then hate ,isn't it though. Especially when its so bad that being ignored hurts so bad that youd settle for hate just to make it stop. I've been there. Its nowhere I ever wanna be again.
You can see some of the men in the crowd deeply relating to this song. Some people would have you think all men are indifferent and jaded. Truth is most of spend all our lives wishing someone would be that strong shoulder for us to lean on when we're down on ourselves. It's not entirely evident to me that men are volatile dangerous creatures. We can be hurt too. Resilience and invincibility are two different things.
I'm a fellow of similar size, and actually look just like him beard and all, and there's a couple lines if even said before hearing this song, "I'm the kind of love that's hard to look at" with battling crippling depression and self confidence levels almost none existent I can relate to it. Every single word. That line means so much more than physical appearance, it's an emotional line that only someone in that emotional pit would understand. I'm so dam good at sorrow from all the depression issues. It's just one of those songs that hurt but help.
Hang in there Dusty. As much as it hurts to be alive sometimes, and no matter how cruel the world may be, I have to believe that the act of living is still worth it. Focus on your strengths and the people that love you, and fuck all the rest. Wish you all the best. Cheers.
It’s music man, some hits ya right in the heart and some don’t. Makes ya realize u ain’t the only one feeling it and feeling the same way. Best wishes to ya brother.
How you holding up man? I really hope you’re still hangin’ in there. I know it’s tough sometimes to see the bright side of things, especially when you’re in such a dark place. I’ve been there for almost 2 years. Just remember, it takes pain to appreciate joy. Bad times are only temporary.
Man, I care enough to cry. This song is one of those that have lyrics so profound, you're shocked someone could put it into actual words. There are honestly very few songs I would call masterpieces. This is one of them.
Tanis Mech definitely. Break my heart sweetly is is right there with it. Incredible writer. But what separates legends is how it’s delivered. And he’s perfected it because it’s intensely real to him. And at the same time it’s completely effortless.
Nicholas Williams I bet it hurts that you will never create something this beautiful in all of your pathetic life. Mediocrity always lashes out at talent.
This song found me while I was at my all time lowest. Back from two tours overseas in the marines, through ptsd and a marriage that I destroyed because I chose alcohol and drugs instead of therapy, no hope in sight. The darkness finally broke after I went to in patient and intensive outpatient therapy for the better part of a year. Now I’m two years sober, in the first healthy relationship of my life, re learning the guitar and Jiu Jitsu. To anyone reading this who is gripped by trauma or addiction, it’s never over as long as there is breath in your lungs. I overdosed multiple times and was revived with Narcan. Now, my partner and our children live with me in a new house on a mountain top. Never give up on yourself.
Recently broke up with my long term girlfriend. On my way to work this morning, i unfortunantly have to drive by her house, and i seen a Guys car in her driveway. Broke my heart. I get home after being bummed all day and RU-vid reccomends this to me. And ive never had words and a tune that matched everything i was feeling but couldnt explain
I know that bite. I know exactly what you felt. Its like that sudden horror in a scary movie that gives you a temporary panic. Jumps up within your chest. Like a knife. Only this one doesnt fade away with laughter at the joy of being scared. This one turns into pain. I love ya man. Good vibes your way. You will find happiness. Its just not yet.
Come down from your mountain Oh, I miss your holy shoutin' These days I can't make you make a sound Take me to the times where We'd look up to the skies and Climb up there and draw the thunder down Now I'm forcing myself into What you've already been through But darlin' I can't help the way I feel And you need something stronger A drug to kill the hunger And ease the awful pain of living here Well I'm the kind of love that hurts to look at Maybe we should take it as a sign When I'm strung out on leavin' Exaltin' all my demons And you don't care for me enough to cry I dreamt I'd take you with me And you'd say you forgive me And we'd live out some easy ancient song Now where I am unattended In a splendid love's remembrance You lost the mind to even do me wrong And I'm the kind of love that hurts to look at But once I was enough to make you try Now I'm underneath the rubble Tryin' not to feel the trouble And you don't care for me enough to cry So here's to hopin' I can change tomorrow You wanted hard as nails, cut and dry But I beg, steal and borrow I'm so damn good at sorrow And you don't care for me enough to cry
My favorite part of this video is the "been there" eyes of every person in the audience. Heartache is transcendental. This 31-year old man has touched the hearts every generation that is currently prominent with this track. That's something every songwriter yearns for.
Buddy Tyree I was thinking the same thing. The attention of the audience is palpable. And it’s not the attention that so many artists these days try to get with a rowdy crowd and artificial enthusiasm. It’s real! And you can feel it!
"You lost the mind to even do me wrong"...... that line right there is very deep and I didn't even pick up on it the first probably 10 times that I heard this song. That is one empty feeling in having someone that means so much to you not have any emotion for you good or bad.
100% agree. I'm trying to hold on to a love that Im afraid is lost, and I would give so much to have her scream at me rather than the apathy and complete indifference I have been feeling.
yes i do i did and you even warned me 15 yrs ago and now i find yes i did not cry but now i am .....not alot because im cold and know this pathetic age is nothing and you already dead...but Ihave faith that reaches way beyond me or you ....sorry but i died alot and AINT NUTTIN BUT GOD must be exalted so my friend I BATTLE ON R.I.P. Rick Spradlin-Ben SPAIN-Charlie Daviidson...Johnny Yocom......
All those looks and nodding heads. It's one of those few songs that can't be written by just thoughts and rough ideas on what feelings are like, but had to be from experience. I overheard this at the office, I had to look up some of the lines that stood out to me and found him. It really hurts to listen, but it's so beautiful.
This really hits home 😢 I've been near impossible to love, especially when it comes to loving myself. I break my own heart before someone else can💔 damn good song John
I honestly love your posts and always enjoy reading them in my lonely spare time. I'm so sorry I invaded your privacy, but I'd love to be friends with someone who could share such sensitive post content, which means you're a woman of integrity. I wanted to add you but sending you a friend request without your consent is inappropriate because I'm a public figure and it wouldn't take much either, I'd appreciate it if you send me a friend request now so we can be friends and text better here on RU-vid
I thought the same thing. Its like the realisation of it just dawned on her. She didn't care enough, or at least never showed it when it mattered. Just gut wrenching sorrow in that room
This song explains in words that I never could of my feelings in a relationship that I thought in the beginning would be forever. Marriage. Family. In the end, John Moreland made a song for all of us men out there that have gone through a relationship we found out in the end to be the biggest lie, out of all the lies, and mistakes made. Man...I thank God for this man and I thank God for finding this song. Most powerful song I've heard in a long long time
...cheers my man. Its been a year since my break up.7 years of something i thought would last forever...every godamn words hits like a train. Youre not alone in this.
I honestly love your posts and always enjoy reading them in my lonely spare time. I'm so sorry I invaded your privacy, but I'd love to be friends with someone who could share such sensitive post content, which means you're a woman of integrity. I wanted to add you but sending you a friend request without your consent is inappropriate because I'm a public figure and it wouldn't take much either, I'd appreciate it if you send me a friend request now so we can be friends and text better here on RU-vid
Anyone else who have cried like a little girl in the crowd if you were there?.....if there was ever a performance I wish I could have seen live it would be this one.....lucky people in this video.....he poured his heart out
The way you can grasp the true emotions that nobody really wants to speak about. It’s honestly immaculate. The heartache and emotions you can make somebody go through just from listening to your songs. That’s something artists spend decades trying to capture. You do it in every single song you’ve ever released
Can't listen to this song without crying, every fucking time. Can't stop listening to it either. Sums up my last relationship perfectly. Cheers to sad songs and love.
God bless anybody that's hurting shame on anyone That Beats a person down when they are hurting you're not a man or woman or even a human being when they do that it's evil and cyber evils even more evil than a punch in the face
Music is an incredible thing. Look at all those human beings just being there, listening to this man’s pain. They’re all relating to it. Every single one of them. And every single one of us. There are few things that humans do that can do that.
God damn it I love this song and artist. Never met this man, but his songs have been with me threw the darkest times. Feels like he's an old friend. Would drink a brew with him any day of the week. Give this man a Grammy pls.
Quality. Actual quality country. Not that commercial radio crap that's being called "country" these days. John, your tone is spot on excellent. Actual quality lyrics. The real stuff. Way to go.
Dude. John. Keep doing what you're doing. Truth and beauty from your pain. Songs like this will live on. Performances like this will live on. I for one can't stop listening to this... I know for sure it'll be with me for the rest of my life. Thank you for this song.
A song where listener and artist can rejoice in each others sharing of pain. Heartbreakingly beautiful. This song means so much to me, as I'm sure it does countless others. Thank you John, for sharing, and being who you are.
It is indifferent. It is apathetic. It’s being lost on a road at a point with no landmarks, you can’t go back alone because no matter how far backwards you traveled, you’d never again be in the place you were when things were right. It’s feeling like you don’t have the strength to continue forward. Everyone has pain inside of them. When I listen to this man’s beautiful lyrics, I feel like I’m inside of pain. He’s so truthful in such a poetic way that if this music doesn’t move you, you may be at a point in your journey where you wouldn’t recognize yourself in a mirror.
"i could've left you, you know. Hell i probably should've by now. The problem is i can't. i don't wanna. How could i when i'm looking in the eyes of all i've ever wanted?" most people forgot what it means to have a heart, don't let yourselves be another one for that count.
I'm a 43 year old man. When I heard this the first time, I hit my knees and bawled like a baby. When you realize what this song means, it hits you like a million lightning bolts. The love of my life and I are still together but yet I miss her. I'm so lonely. I constantly hurt her in ways it feels I have no control of. All I want to do is make her smile and laugh. She's my everything. It kills me I can't or it feels like I can't give her happiness anymore. Yet she won't leave my side. I just need to know she still loves me. I'm a good hearted man. Faithful, loyal, work hard, but I have demons. Everyone does. They always say if you love someone, set them free. If they come back, it's meant to be. I'd rather die or hurt for the rest of my life so she won't hurt anymore in any way. Damn, this song knows my heart. If anyone else is in my situation, I don't care what others say. Go with your heart. If you care more for your loves happiness, set them free. Love hurts but it also is pure bliss. But the what ifs are the hardest part. What if next week things get back the way they used to be and you're both are on top of the world again? Trust me, I know how you're feeling.
That's where I am right now and have been for years now. It's not my Demons, but hers. She keeps Herself on track in life until I'm with Her. Then She slides back down into the depths and before long I am a Stranger to Her. For 16 years I've been waiting for Her. My Love for Her is all I had to hold on to. 3rd time we got together to make a life as a couple. And again She slipped backwards over the course of last year. The way She treated me, the nasty mean things she said and texted me, and then "Ghosted" me. Devestated me. Why She felt it necessary to do that to me for Her to break up with me, I have no idea...I've always told her to be honest with me. And I her. Tell me she's done and I'll go. I've never done or said anything to warrant treatment like that. Eventually, She lost everything she had. Then She called me and wanted to try again. She acted like She didn't do anything wrong and didn't remember saying anything bad to me...I should just get over it and put it behind me... I still Love Her n care about her, but I'm not like before. She Hurt me deeply. I feel I should just give up and let her go. I have nothing she wants or needs. Her last words before she blew me off last August: "You can't be the Man I need to to get the things I want in life. I don't want to see or hear from you again." She had her eye on someone else and it fell thru...but she won't admit it. That's what I feel about her actions. I'm 58 yrs old and I'm too old to keep trying over n over n over again. I guess I'm meant to be alone in this life. So be it.
Damn all these comments, I hope you gentlemen gave these words to your wives. Sometimes it’s just that these things need to be heard. Then maybe get help from a marriage therapist, it did a lot for me. They’ll help you work through the issues you voiced to your wife
I love the honesty and humility in John’s voice. It’s rare these days to hear something that is deep lyrically, rich musically and resonates with the soul. A timeless gift that will be forever appreciated both now and for generations to come. I only wish more people stood still enough to stop and listen to John so that they didn’t need to feel so alone. Thanks John for keeping it real and non pretentious.
I don't know how I got here but this is the kind of country music that appeals to me the most for some reason. That somber and slow music alongside those sad lyrics. And as a guitarist I wish I could fingerpick like this man does. Good song, very good song 😥
Crazy thing is, John Moreland has a very unique style when it comes to fingerpicking. More often then not, he only uses his thumb and his pointer finger.
@@Christian-my4dp I've noticed that! He only use his thumb for the ryhthym and pick the melody with his pointer finger as you mentioned. I guess that is a skill that few guitarplayers can master :) To play the guitar in two different ways AND be able to sing at the same time! This is the type of music that makes me want to learn how to play chords in the right way so-to-say...
Listen to this multiple times almost daily. Wishing I had someone that cared enough. Yet no matter how hard I try, I can't find that person. My ex sure didn't care enough when she hurt me with her lies. Oh well, that's life, I guess.
Don’t wait for someone to care for you, that’s where we all go wrong. Learn to care for yourself so that you don’t have to look for it. Instead let that someone find you by treating yourself well and putting your sanity first. Cheers
The energy you 2 give off is addictive and magnetic. a million memories of people i never thought would become strangers flash behind my eyes And for a second i get to relive it all agan Thank-you ♡
John Moreland you are perfect the way you are man and never forget that. And also thank you for your beautiful soul and music it has given me the strength to keep on keeping on. So at least now you know that you have at least gotten one person threw a hard time and I know there are way more but the most important thing is are you getting by? I hope so man anyway I don’t expect a very busy man to read this or anything but I just wanted to put it out there so if you did then I hope I put a smile on your face as you have for me.
This just hit my soul, hard. This resonated deep within me. "I'm the kind of love it hurts to look at." Such a damn powerful lyric. I'm glad the depths of RU-vid brought me to this. It was what I needed, when I needed it. I have never had a song that I have ever related to more, or bring so many emotions up. The tears fell, and rivers swelled.
She may not have cried for you, but we all have. Beautiful. I hope you can get healthy so I can selfishly enjoy your music for many more decades, you're an artist John Moreland.
I heard this song several years ago and it's taken me forever to track it back down. Kinda nostalgic thinking about when and where I was then. And I needed this song at that time.
