Jordan Peterson: Men who marry witchy women 

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Well youd fail buddy

I feel the same way. Everything seems important to me but you can't write down everything.

Audio recorder.

Stephen Hughes that’s because you’re low in the dominance hierarchy

Basically you confirm how true is that you teach ppl how to treat you.

Thats so lovely to hear Janie.congrats🙂

He clapping cheeks on the side tho

It's either you clap em cheeks or prepare yours to get clapped by the law.

May I be so bold and ask your opinion? Did he teach you through words or by example? I tend to be direct about how I want to be treated while trying to be calm and honest. I like strong women but it doesnt go well sometimes and they shut down or go into attack mode. It seems they arent used to it. It might be a generational thing or Im doing it wrong.

Cynthia Marquez Why do you always have to wake me up by farting on my face saying "wake up and smell the coffee!", Cynthia?

Specially when they're not present. respect is even more important when your partner is not there !

Cynthia: "it's a QUEEF NOT A FART!"

Lol hey guys... 😏 Did U see Cynthias playlists?? "Stripper songs"...

Tell that to my buddy's wife.

She is right, I'm glad I reached the point of maturity to understand that.

I preach this to my kids...and also the importance of getting along because everyone goes their own way and this time is precious...even tho annoying lol

Priceless❤….this hit me hard! Because this is the foundation of a loving family and community.

The best way

Sadly , I absolutely can't fanthom this level of love. For my parents , brother and son off course, but I've never seen it between my parents/grandparents and certainly never experienced it myself. Truely remarkable.

Why is the dude with a woman like that

Because it’s such a common thing, my wife and I do it all the time for our own amusement. She’ll out of nowhere say, “He never listens to me, you know. I tell him and he never listens to me.” so I’ll say, “Well if you ever said something worth hearing then I’m all ears. Plus it’s not my fault you snore so much at night.” So she’ll say, “I snore because I’m so nervous because you always hit me in your sleep!” Oh yeah? Well I only hit you because you won’t shut up and you need to learn your place! etc. And on and on we go. The look of sheer terror on people’s faces is absolutely hilarious, because they can’t tell if we’re genuinely angry or just messing around. On a side note, we never ever ever get really angry and argue so it’s always the latter.

@@nightblade628 LOL marriage is all about being in on the joke together :) Big difference in goofing nicely versus goofing because of repression!

It’s all in the tone and delivery on both sides.

It really makes me cringe so much when people put their own partners down to others. Even without the deeper psychological persepctive it can be decribed simply as trashy behavior.

Nathan Smutz - I was also thought this by my mother. My parents now 80 still love and respect each other more than any couple I know.

So true.

Yes and i had to step in a few times when my mum spoke down to my strong dad i know its not my issue but i had enough and made it my business (before kermit meme) massive difference in their relationship

redeemer l glad you were able to help them. I face the exact same situation with my parents, but I don’t have much luck when stopping my mom. She gets so blind with anger and starts going on a rampage. Now she talks down on me. But it’s so true, when woman talks down to her husband, he loses confidence as a man.

Nathan Smutz "Making fun of your husband takes away his strength." Good words & true. I would also say the same goes for making fun of your wife- it depletes her sense of self and hence ability to love. I have seen it enacted both ways & each time i think; What are they doing? Do they WANT a failed relationship ? And what could be better than strong successful one?. Thats a prize worth working for.."

leapsplashafrog people do it all the time tho. It’s part of the desperation mindset. Abusers LOVE their victims to have a desperation mindset.

And a lot more complicated than that also. Do you assume that we are all almost the same? There are millions of different influences affecting factors.

Sorry, we may be almost the same but our experiences aren't, therefore we can become so different :/ idk how to word that accurately tbh

It’s suicide bro

Well, it depends. In a run-of-the-mill bad relationship, sure. But in a seriously abusive one, the abuse short-circuits the victim's ability to think and act on their own behalf. They're conditioned by the abuse and threat of more abuse to think and act only for the desires of the abuser. And sometimes, an abuser outright tells their victim, "if you leave me, I'll kill you." There's really no way to blame a victim in a circumstance like that.

Good for you for being honest!

God I wish most women in their youth possessed at least this level of rationality. You are awesome🎉

@@imanilovely176 perhaps where you're from but in my country we're getting our act together as men. Its a culture that recently popped up where we take care of our own narcissists and psychopaths if they ever think they can do whatever they want and get away with it. For the women you know how they are. You can't say anything negative about them and if you do they'll just publicly shame you, "You're just jealous you can't get a woman at my level, " "You're just broke and have nothing better to do with you're life, " "no you're just a misogynist and you're bitter about women because you got rejected, " I remember talking to some of my female friends about young girls on Instagram and sadism, narcissism and psychopathic behavior. They literally just insulted me for saying something negative about women even after citing statistical evidence and some biological facts. They just wouldn't pay attention to anything I'm saying it's really appalling. And social media has enable such narcissistic mindsets, far much more in women than in men and it's alarming. So guys stopped caring about women issues, which I think isn't the appropriate way to go, and started focusing on the young men. The system pays more attention to young girls. There has never been talks or responsible masculinity empowerment campaigns organized by the government as far as my parents experience in the education system is concerned. Even I when I went through the system not once have I heard about such a thing. Even in universities its all about providing opportunities for women. Nothing for the guys at all. And so my generation and the previous generation realized this and people began coming together using platforms like Twitter and RU-vid to promote masculine values passed down to them by their fathers and local communities to young men who struggle with finding meaning or purpose for their lives. So that's nice too. Plus we had a civil war in 2007 where politicians used unemployed and uneducated young men as their soldiers. So mothers were fed up of losing their sons in meaningless fights and the men are tired of being used as political pawns. So we have come a long way

You sound so very pleased with yourself, getting the opportunity to put a man in his place.

I can't tell you how many times we have seen this among our peers. My husband & I say..."well, you married the person and procreated with them. Must be something you liked about them." If this man's ex was really that horrible, his kids will figure it out all on their own as they grow up - you don't need to hurry it along. My SIL's boyfriend used to make his kids call their biological mother "scumbag Lisa" when they were at his house. I HATED that. Guess what? HE doesn't have a relationship with those kids anymore. He also isn't with my SIL and left behind 3 kids with her. Very troubled people we live around. My husband & I have a rule - we don't hang out with divorced people. They are some of the worst behaving adults around.

I'm surprised the wife didn't yell at you to mind your business lol.

@@mac1bc I think she was just stunned at the profundity of my observation. Plus if she had, it would have just been all the more obvious how wrong she knew she was.

A double edged sword

James Edward very powerful observation

Who cares what women think anyways?

Yet millions of people do it all the time. It's a cry for help, and the help comes when they hear your exact statement. Drop the subtleties, and bring them back to the planet. When I was a young and stupid bastard, I complained about my spouse. My friend grabbed me by the shoulders and said, "You do know that it's all your fault, right? You chose to suffer."

the alternative, and saying look at me, I'm so happy she's so great almost seems like a facade. because if you're not saying im an idiot you're saying im so smart! Im so smart! in know its a false dichotomy but it seems like everyone is on one extreme or the other

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The repetition of the behavior shows that they are trapped in a cycle. If it bothers you so, are you going to rip them out of their stupor into reality? Change others or change yourself? Change yourself to make the world better is the answer Jordan Peterson gives. You stand at a place higher than those you denigrate.

Unfortunately, some "bad behaviors" are rewarded by society, so it may take a tribe to do something about it. Complaining is seeking resolution and while it paints a person maybe in his worst light, silence can do more damage than anything.

Duh. If this isn't obvious you made some interesting choices in your past

That is a RUSH to judgement.

That’s readily apparent in the sentence itself. Duh

@@David6.3 Who are you referring to?

Michael Craig the original post.

Well those are done with consent on both sides for entertainment and also personal gain.

Those partners usually have monetized channels and both benefit from the views. But the concept is faulty-to make money from undermining your own marriage.

I agree!

Yes.

everything you do has (invisible) ripples coming back on you in a relationship . you should actively think about that/ mark them in your journal/ notebook. it will be worth having them in your mind

Bobby White Interesting. What does she do? Is she working in academia like Jordan?

Ruth M. She studied Art at McGill but later became a kinesiologist and is working on a technology that uses lasers to cure arthritis and nerve problems. It sounded really complicated and interesting.

Steve Stevenson stop watching porn and go read a book

Wash your Benis

Bobby White was she sitting in the front

K 😭 stop lmao

HAHAHA!

@@hun3chick01 I'm just saying, turns of phrase will be the death of me.

K 😂lol

Should've consulted your crystal ball

Well said.

Tell that thousands of women complaining about men on twitter

@@barryallen8307 and none of those women are married, are they? Surprise, surprise...

Agreed. You dont air dirty laundry in public, and you should speak to someone trusted about your issues. Sometimes you say your issue and people give you that "no, i think thats terrible and why". Other times they give you aperspective that you havent thought or seen and helps you realize your mistake. This is only possible if you are honest with them, they trust you and you them. Otherwise, it could go up in smoke.

Glad you found courage

Yeah, there is obv a difference between dirty laundry and legitimate threat to one's mental and/or physical wellbeing. Props to you for getting out of that situation, and worry not about misjudgement from others, for God sees everything! Stay safe out there!

I'm guilty of staying silent. What I'm learning is when you do this it gives your partner the idea they're a great partner at all times when it's quite the opposite. 🤔

You don't have to talk about while in a relationship. You can leave .

That and your sports car

The King always aligns with his Queen. And vice versa

Alecia Sawyers Perhaps somewhat too simplistic. People are complex: they don’t always show who they are or even know who they are which also means they can change. Not all people who marry abusive partners expect that to happen for example. You might argue they do but it’s a smug all knowing psychopomp who asserts that from a position of well it came to pass so unconsciously you did. Too easy too facile and possibly shy of the mark.

@@johnevans8416 a lot of it depends on how free the person felt at the time of making the choice. Free person always makes the right choice and you will know it because you were free to choose) So abusive partnership can be the outcome of how much one resents his own limitations.

Alecia Sawyers and does being single mean you're wishy-washy?

Wow couldnt agree more

He should talk about it aswell

@🥰 that is just a horrible thing to say and it is your fault for not taking any birth control Now that the child has been born it is your responsibility like it or not Dont make his/her life worse just cause you think yours is more important

@🥰 oh my bad your comment came off kinda selfish im sorry for that Wish you well for your baby 👍

Yeah you’re literally bragging about what a failure of a parent you are😂

But sometimes the hurt is too deep and needs to be expressed. I'm in a situation where my ex did me wrong and even while healing I'm still paying the price. I didn't speak up then but I'm speaking up now.

This is a double edged sword. You shouldn't talk too much about exes with a new partner anyways but only talking positively about them might lead to your partner thinking that you liked them more. Especially if you and your partner have disagreements regularly.

good for you. thats hard to do bit it's also considerate to the friends. they are likely not interested in talking about her anymore. I have two close friends who split and still want to talk about one another (after sooo much discussion already, literally years) and that only puts me in an awkward position.

That's very considerate of you. But I agree with @Snicolemidlifeliving. I was being quiet for years about my ex narcissistic boyfriend after we broke up and I couldn't get over it. After I started talking about it to my closest friends, everything magically started to unfold, and I started to heal. Honestly I don't know what is right or wrong, I guess to each their own.

shaunarochelle, perhaps you could steer the conversation away from their beefing about each other and ask for more positive or happy happenings in their lives. It’s setting up boundaries. If they’re constantly looking back into their lives, then they’re not moving forward. Maybe they need to discuss their problems /stuckness with a counselor or such so that they don’t repeat the same faulty ways of relating in their future relationships - break the cycle and grow

I empathise. My mum does it and I don't understand why she doesn't leave. I learned too, my mums way isn't the way.

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@nothing back there is no point in fighting with someone who already believes that they are wiser and smarter then you from the start like most perants with a mind set like that plus people who ate set I'm there ways are not about to change for a single person not even a child they will manipulate the child back to the way the parent originally had them

@nothing back I do agree but as humans we have to chose are fights wisely taking a fight you are going to lose is suicide and waste energy which is where I'm coming from

@nothing back : the most intense person on yt ever

that's so sweet. I think every woman wants a man who speaks this kindly about her

"If you object to it, and you do it, you're complicit" Jordan Peterson in this video just exposed why he's a coward and a hypocrit as he did just this with the 💉💉💉💉

​@microfarming8583 oh no really?! 😮😢

Awww… sounds like your wife was able to see your heart right away and she was able to stick around while you took the time needed to grow into it. That’s cool! Congrats on 51 years. 👍🥰👍

Hope I can say the same thing in the future. I hope you’re still kicking and well.

We live in a society.

We need more strong men for this exact reason! Glad you have him!

Don't speak about yourself negatively. You certainly were not "ferrel" and there are plenty of people who dont know how to cook. Your boyfriend did not train you, I'm sure you would have learned things for yourself, had you not met him. He helped you that's all.

Great comment

this is me with my partner. he was severely neglected. how can i hold that against someone when they want more for themselves.

Thank you! You've saved me a lot

Agreed! Thank you for the reminder!

this is a fantastic summary

Well put!

Well summarised 👏🏾

#BlameAWoman. I can't tell you how many husbands are drunkards, drug abusers, domestic abusers: physical, verbal or psychological, excessive gamblers, greedy, selfish, pornography users, adulterers or criminals. But you blame wives bc you are a #misogynist.

You liar! You got that from Timothy Gordon. Fraud.

They're jealous and insecure pieces of excrement.

I remember working as a waitress and cringing every time I opened bottles of wines to two couples at certain tables and watched as one of the husbands or wives put their partners down or made fun of, in a way that humiliated, them for the sake of trying to be funny and entertain the other people at the table. Truly cringing.

It's also incredibly disrespectful.

I think it’s part of “we accept/ seek the love we think we deserve”. The whole relationship was probably built on that kind of disfunction, so while it may be cringy to watch from a distance just imagine that every facet of that relationship is tinted with that same toxic energy. It was cursed from the get go.

I just sat thru a Memorial Day cookout with a woman who did this the whole visit. And it was shame because she had traveled 5 hours to show up (her husband is up in our town in their seasonal cabin growing a garden while she stays in Long Island). We never really see her & had extended the invite so that her husband could entice her to visit him. It is crushing, too, because we adore her husband & he is such a stand up guy! He never says a word. She starts every visit off with complaints about random stuff, but then she picks little fights with him or tries to tattle on him. The other guest at the party was a pathological liar & braggart. It was fun event!

Karl Ahnee Agreed lol 30 seconds in, I knew this was not on my wave length

@@suedesteele4455 u watched it tho

Karl Ahnee right? 😆

I had my hopes up but alas

How is this misleading...?

Have you told her your mistakes and asked for forgiveness?

Same...I am an idiot I dont deserve her.

To, The Unhuman One, it takes guts to admit a mistake one has done to one’s partner and real maturity to want to express better actions towards them. You should be proud.

Are you still together? Were you allowed to change and still be together?

Awww ❤

Then u will get pregnant. That's what happened with me and my husband. ❤ I'm 36 and still want to have another baby for my man...our first baby is perfect

@ThatPart322 I'm on the non hormonal iud so I won't get pregnant. I actually don't want kids. I'm happy for you though ❤️

You are very very fortunate.

if a man ever told my this i would stomp on his toes and spit in his face

Women don't have that kind of common sense.

That's so honest and beautiful. Hope you and your gf have grown better now :)

What is wrong with your partner pointing out that you are wrong? This is not something that you should be particularly embarrassed or secretive about. Anyone can point out to me if I’m wrong, and if they make a strong case then I will accept the new information gratefully and change my opinion. This highlights a typical flaw in Peterson’s teachings. The rule he casually puts forward there is the wrong rule, based on a wrong principal which is “that I should be embarrassed to be corrected by my wife.” That is just ego based nonsense in my opinion.

Mitch Waller It's about respecting your husband or wife. Maybe if you point out that they are wrong in a respectful manner, they won't care, probably they will be proud to be with such a polite person in public. I know I would.

Easier said then done. If you got to make investment in someone's Growth make sure that person's is you frist and your children if you have any. And there are many growth investments that have supreme Roi besides finance that person needs to work on cuz finance if you have the basics and is just the icing and cherry on a grand cake. Most ppl just see the icing and sweet cherries not caring about what put them on that high pedestal that dazzles all the untrained eyes mouths and they wonder why they are always straving in the places food can't reach.

Amen!

REMEMBER MEN, if a woman bullies other women, if she's part of the 'popular group', she shows arrogance, superiority and jealousy towards other women. ESCAPE. She'll do the same to you after settling into the relationship. She'll lure you first a a pick me up girl. If you have some sexist thoughts on women, she'll pretend she support that to lure you in. So change your attitude too so that you do not attract such women.

Can't when they are narcissists and everything you day is considered an attack on them but I understand what he's saying.

@@brandonbodwell1274It’s not all about what you say, in fact, it’s more about what you do and how you do it. Calling someone a narc seems to be a popular copout these days.😢

and what about disagreement?

@@ronmar555 Disagreeing with someone doesnt mean you have to have a spat? What kind of disagreements do you have

I agree. No matter which way it comes from . I knew a couple , guy did coke (red flag duh) so he was disgusting anyways. Women late 20’s had a xchild already and just had his twins. At a restaurant he comments on how chubby she was, need to slow down ordering. Fluffier than you used to be!!! -it was so disgusting I was appalled. On top of it, this woman was a terrible person to, a self centered narcissist whom kicked her child’s father out of his life unless he would be with her. rich southern girl with DUI and assaults charges on her . Terrible person seriously. She was just as disgusting as him, and yet I STILL thought it was appalling and she should leave. Public humiliation of a partner is a no go NO MATTER WHAT

taothewanderer of course. Both ways. It would be just as appalling if she said that to him. I strongly think great couples, are partners. Never let your partner down or put them down. It’s your teammate, your training partner, your best friend. Definitely both ways in my humble opinion.

ronmar555 I If the disagreement is respectful or even playfully intellectual where you work through the disagreement as if it were a thought exercise...I think that would be healthy. But if one partner gets upset and can’t entertain opposing ideas, we’ll then what’s the point. What an unhealthy one. Though if they are fundamental beliefs, then maybe disagreement isn’t something worth entering into. Fundamental beliefs about life, morality, etc.

same happened with my mom. It kills a woman's spirit and she has bouts of anger at times.

@Luke Dixon Narcissists have no empathy. I have empathy towards animals which is why I'm vegan

Yeap, my ex husband embarrassed me in public, few weeks later he the separation papers.

@@jennylynn9668 I find that kind of behavior healthy. In a (relatively) free society for the abuse to happen two conditions must be met: someone inflicting abuse and another one accepting it. You did not accept and that's good, although I'm sure there were plenty of signs that things were not going so well. Terminating a marriage only because of a single mistake would be extreme.

Jordan spent so lot of word in order to avoid feministic censorship to explain simple thing: kick out a bitch from your life. Seems Canada has less freedom of speech than Africa. Shame for Canada.

or just immature. i know cause I was like that when I was 16, i just assumed that was the way things were supposed to be (not good role models either).

I'm mesmerized myself! Absolutely amazing

Absolutely beautiful

You're awesome.

I hope you know that your loyalty and honesty is that of a man’s dream wife. I hope your boyfriend also knows that. I wish you both a happier life ahead of you both.

@Thomas Serrano I'm sure your correct also but I seen the subtle disrespectful moments before the marriage. So it happens before.

@@theresacaprasecca9893 Exactly it happens before. Never turn a blind eye or give the benefit of the doubt in the beginning. Speak up. Benefit of the doubt is for people who have built trust

People tend to show their real self after marriage and kids. Marriage is a gamble.

@@videosforcatsanddogs214 I disagree. If it "shows up in marriage" it means you didn't do your research on your partner to begin with, or not to the extent you should have. All relationships start off with everyone on cloud 9 and on their best behavior. One has to give the relationship time, especially since most people today are in relationships for the wrong reasons (escapism). Sooner or later people who use other people as a form of escape, as time passes and the relationship is no longer providing any novelty - which WILL happen in every relationship - then one is faced again with themselves, and THAT'S when the projections start, and that's when the mask falls. If this is happening to people only in marriage, it's because they themselves are the narcissists who eventually got bored, or they didn't see the signs early on, or got married MUCH too quickly, which often happens when people are on emotional highs, rather than giving it time to see how the partner behaves during difficult times. Plus, most men are desperate just to have a girlfriend these days, so they end up bending over backwards to extremes, without comprehending how they are the artisans of their own destruction.

Hi, which book this lecture derives from. Thanks

@@rocagt05It's twelve rules for Life - an antidote to chaos.

Music&Arts Haltern A man that has been accused of hate speech for several years. It is certain that different people will always be misjudge for those who lives under the common standards that societies have imposed. I love this man.

I can't go a day without listening to him. JBP is totally fascinating. How on earth does he manage to speak so in depth about absolutely EVERYTHING. And I mean EVERYTHING!! Thank god for that bill C16!

I borrod it from the library....not paying for that crap....and couldn't get through the pompous banality...

Bravo !

♥️

If you object to it, and you do it, you're complicit" Jordan Peterson in this video just exposed why he's a coward and a hypocrit as he did just this with the 💉💉

thanks for the summary

usually, if you have a couple minutes of patience, dr peterson does an excellent job of bringing his lectures full circle. but dont listen to me... how does the saying go? cast not pearls before swine.

To be fair, he did actually utter the words “witchy women” when initially bringing up the complaining husbands ...

The presumption is that they chose their partners though, plenty of people just act on instinct. Such individuals may have personal gripes with their partner but find it comfortable to stick with them for physical desires. I don't think this is necessarily good, but it can be the case.

Thanks :)

thats a good way to think

Without acknowledging it happened and choosing to let them go, you’re choosing to follow the belief that education cannot contribute to conscious behavioural change.

Totally agree! Basic common sense doesn't require a conversation. If you love someone, you stand up for them and you won't allow anyone to humiliate them, let alone doing it yourself!

No, not necessarily... some people are oblivious to their actions, until you point them out. or grew up in dysfunctional families where these type of things are normal. Healthy discussion is always a must in every healthy relationship.

It depends on the situation. I accidentally upset my partner by recalling an example from a previous story he told that he didn't find flattering to him at all (he had punched someone), but I didn't realize he felt that way about the matter until he told me. Sometimes you do need to explain it to the person.

All bets are off when after 23 years she will never even listen

BE good. And choose spouses accordingly.

So true.

I really need to learn this rn

If you object to it, and you do it, you're complicit" Jordan Peterson in this video just exposed why he's a coward and a hypocrit as he did just this with the 💉

How?

J B 🎈🎉🎊 I hope you find a man that makes you feel secure. “Mama’s boys” are the worst.

@@cleopatra2462 Aww thank you 😘

If you grab a pliable guy you have to have the strength to mold him.

@@bene3443 he wasn't pliable

Did you make it known how you felt or did you expect him to mind read ? Women tend to internalize and want men to pick up how they feel with gestures and looks . In most cases that won’t happen and so you need to be clear and concise about how you feel . If you did address this issue did he refuse to see your side or was he totally dismissive? It just seems a shame since as you said he wasn’t terrible on his own accord it was just his family that was the main problem

@Jayson Jayson I guess she means that confronting your loneliness is less of a problem than dealing and sticking with a person that makes your life miserable. So if you are afraid of confronting being alone, you will be enslaved by others. I don't know, that's the way I interpreted it.

Force yourself to become comfortable being alone. It will take time and the first year (or more) will be hard. Most of us have an ingrained panic about not being in a relationship and never confront that fear. But once you do, life becomes so much easier and relaxed. It took me 3.5 years of being single to reach that point. Now I have zero desire to ever get married, as I can objectively see it for what it is. I'm happy to date, even the same person for life, but I will never legally bind myself to another human via the state. I came into this world alone and I'll leave it alone, and I may enjoy being with certain people I meet, but I no longer NEED them. Too many people use other humans to fix some flaw or gap they have in their lives and become dependant on them and miserable as a result. People need to grow up.

@@LDT7YI think you are smart enough, which is rare in people, to know that being in a relationahip just to avoid comforting your fear of being alone it only creates suffering in the long run. But this is only the first step of maturity (which, again, is rare to find). There is something else here, the possibility of living a life with commitment and responsability, intimacy, respect, care and openess with another person. A true marriage. Not just a pretended/purely social/economical marriage. A true marriage, when ying and yang are met, where union is what matters, a right, decent and propser relationship that serve both to attain higher levels of maturity. Otherwise, living a life without commitment, with having the possibility of runing away at any time or when things get hard, is just living a teeneger life when older too. And that's nuts. My two cents

I respect your opinion, but I'll have to agree to disagree with you here. I don't see chaining yourself to another human via a state backed legal contract as somehow being more meaningful and 'mature' than choosing to be with a person because you want to be with them. I'm not sure why remaining with someone because of love rather than legal requirement is 'nuts'.

@@LDT7Y Exactly, but if you onserve my messy attempt to communicate my idea, I was actually saying that the pretended, just social and economical contract called marriage is not a true marriage. For me marriage is the voluntary decision to be and remain in union with a person, and because a relationship is not only about being happy, is also about maturity and responsibility, both man and woman need to really commit to each other. So in hard times, in rough times, in times of temptations, in times of confusion, disappointment, weakness, sickness, and you name it, you will be there too. So both individuals involved share happiness and also sadness, joy and also depression. And in that, in that intimacy, openess, committment and love, grow and fullfilment can happen. Having a partner just becuase now i feel "in love" or because now you gave me pleasure, with no real commitment and passion, is living inmaturely. And living a life without really, really relating with someone else, deeply, is not living fully. And if you allow me this last thought: I believe that the spiritual path of human beings, the ying and yang, the union of opposite poles, female and male energy combined, is there so we can get closer to "God", or closer to what "Existence" wants us to live and florish with.

That's nice :)

I mean . . you shouldn’t be a liar on the first note & everyone should have free agency over their own feelings (autonomy). Respecting your partner doesn’t mean disrespecting yourself and what you stand for to save face. It’s about mutual respect, you may both have different roles but equally important in the contribution to making the relationship & possibly foundation to your family structure, so it’s important to not undermine and value each other

I have said "thats not how it happened" when an ex was talking embarrassing shit about me...then I fired back with do you remember when you were that drunk you ate lasagne off the floor with your hands and burnt your mouth. Was never gonna work out.

Same rules as the mafia

Narcissus husbands!

God bless you all in Jesus's name

Ppl like you and your husband are very rare these days

Blessings to you my beautiful sister. May God lavish love on you and your husband today and forever.

@Your call is not important to us Fruits, Veggies, legumes primarily. The female, back when we were hunter/gatherers, subsisted primarily on berries and nuts. The female biology is very different than the male biology. Women's biology does extremely well on diet primarily of fruits, veggies, nuts, and beans. Fruits can have all the caloric content of carb-based foods, and legumes tend to have as much protein and b vitamins as meat. Not to mention plant proteins tend to boost estrogen, keeping a woman healthier in so many ways; Like Regular ovulation Clear, healthy skin, nails, hair Efficient digestion Restful sleep More effective fat burning All of which combined result in (gasp!) No more fibromyalgia. The moral of the story? Don't be a gluttonous piggy

What little time you have is high quality. Probably higher quality than people who have ample time and destroy it.

Yep...i was 'captain save a ho'...red flags everywhere....completely my fault

Yeah, me too. I found out the true meaning of the saying, "Love is blind." The sex was great, which is why I didn't break up with her when I should have, but man, that sex was awfully costly! (In money, in stress and confusion, in strained relationships with friends and relatives, in self-esteem, embarrassment....) I'm OK now, many years later, and I can laugh at my youthful stupidity. Met a really nice woman and really appreciate her.

Broken hearts are for assholes...

You lack humanity if you never feel heartache. Or maybe you just haven't had the experience yet of losing someone you love.

Dan Henry I feel ya, tell me about it. I’m a single dad with three kids, from two lousy women. I was attracted to them, and attracted to the delusional fantasy of a life with them. I was in love with the dream, but not the reality.

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Very much so.

thank you! the title i dislike, even though i agree with what he's saying in the video

maybe he was listening to the Eagles.

All of this channel's videos titles are.

Lol I hate loving them crazies too. Lol

@M B Ass is in, boomer

I think I continually make this mistake...

I don't really think that is usually how that played out

At least cavemen didn't have to pay alimony.

Your face is like a cartoon character. It is beautiful

I say it can still be a healthy thing to have conversations with trusted friends about difficulties your facing in your relationship. Sometimes we need some support and open ears to make sense of things and process our feelings. It doesn’t always have to be a betrayal. I’d say it really depends on their intention of discussing with other parties. Is it to get validation and have a good bitch about your partner? Or is it to just feel heard and seek supportive advice?

@@caitlyndevos9066 It would be decent to discuss the problem with the involved person in private first. I have noticed that people confide in me with their problems, in that problem-solving way you refer to, and I think it is because I don't talk about persons who are not present, and say nothing about them which I haven't told them first, but rather not.

@@robbert4968 simp

​@caitlyndevos9066 Alao, sometimes a person wants to see if they are overreacting or being overly sensitive themselves. I have asked a 3rd party if I was being too sensitive about something based on hiw I was feeling.

This will make the folks around you fairly uncomfortable & eventually get tired of hearing it. It is pretty common to have friends in your cirlce that are divorced or getting divorced these days - kind of unavoidable. And while most friends will be sympathetic, they don't want the constant drivel. Especially if it goes on for YEARs. I know women that are still b*tching about their ex & they have been married to their current husband longer than the first marriage lasted. The point is, you picked the person for some reason to marry in the first place & it takes two to tango. I babysit for a girl who is divorced. Every. single. thing. is the ex's fault. She can never see her complicity in the matter & it is taking a toll on her darling child. I get so tired of hearing it & get really embarrassed that she discussed this stuff in front of her 4 year old.

ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-6V1eMvGGcXQ.html

good, now put it in the description of the video

Essential Truth it starts at 1:02:39 in that link, ESSENTIAL TRUTH

yes, but there's a PROPER time and place to address things.

You seem a bit delusional. Going from trash to hero is a major red flag. No man is a hero. Who the F did he save? You? If so, then you both need therapy cause savior-victim relationships are toxic.

@@valshiro515 He was never trash, I was just looking for negatives so I could fit in with the group. Yes, that was very toxic. We saved each other. His love was the first unconditional love I had ever felt, so I was empowered to cut out my toxic family, recognizing they were emotionally abusive. The way I saved him, well that is his story to tell. Sorry you are so bitter. I hope you find a good relationship one day.

You cannot grow in an environment that makes you sick. 100% of the time when someone becomes volatile it is because they're losing control or they do not like the way things in their partner are changing. Sometimes you get flat out evil. But most people are just too emotionally stunted to be fluid enough for a relationship.

its part of just speaking and keeping peoples interests, you do it naturally or your weird. especially when standing up

Haha. I never noticed that before.

@sarah j. lol

Well now I do...

I noticed 😩😩

Funny cuz thts exactly the words of a hadith (saying) of our prophet muhammed in islam. Quite interesting

If all you ever have to say is nice things then you are being dishonest with others including yourself.

@@blakebunch4485 its about knowing when to speak and how to do it if u want to sincerely help someone recognise their faults sometimes blurting it out infront of everyone doesnt help. Like at all.

@@ayoo9963 I have no qualms with what you said. "Speak a good word or remain silent"... Muhammad A "good" word isn't necessarily synonymous with saying something "nice"

@Martin Luther Amen brotha hahaaha

You don't need his permission to get a divorce; divorce is a civil proceeding and you can get one if you need it. Sure, you may have to switch to a different church but that might be for the better in the long run.

@@EyeLean5280 No. Marriage was not created by man, but by God, and we must not make up our own rules as to when we can/should divorce.

@@Ioannikios174 And different religions say different things about divorce. It's okay to recognize that there are a lot of ways to interpret God's word, and that God never decreed that people have to live in misery.

@@EyeLean5280 There's only one truth, not multiple truths that contradict each other. *Multiple truths that contradict each other = Multiple lies except maybe one or none* Stated another way, either one faith is true or no faith is true, period. As for me, I'll strongly believe that the true faith is the Christian faith.

@@EyeLean5280 you're very naive. To say the Truth has multiple meanings, when these meanings across the world obviously contradict each other, completely contradicted your own side of the debate before the debate even started...

I disrespected my boyfriend in public this past weekend. I was wasted and I apologized for my behavior.I do not even remember what I even said. However, I have a feeling that the relationship will not recover from this situation. A dumb mistake, I will never do again.

I'm sorry too

So am I. But seems to me the conclusion you made is probably not the right one. It's not necessarily the case that we are all alone. We are social animals, and being alone is not the solution to all our problems. We should just get better at choosing people.

So you left, when what you could have done was just tell her about it? Tell her how you felt? Show her that it made you feel very sad? Im not saying you can change everyone, but at least try. She probably was unaware of the damage she had done

@@kobieta3906 Good point, by the way. I also was too quick to condemn her and it didn't occur to me she probably didn't realize what she was doing.

Did you confront your wife about that being embarrassing. She might not have thought it was embarrassing.

And may I add, let your criticisms still be kind and tailored for true progress (not just taking the opportunity to vent).

thats the type of behavior my mother used on us kids. It made us very sensitive to criticisms. She speaks greatly of her kids to others but did excessive critiquing behind closed door.

Wow. You hate him becsuse he enjoys his hobbies. Total witch.

"I’m saying that men go from control by their mothers to control by their wives, and this is the horror men’s lives. And feminism refuses to see this." ~~ Camille Paglia

@@harrisonwintergreen1147 That is a great quote you have posted from Camille Paglia. Where does it comes from? A book or a video on youtube or ... ? Thank you.

Dr. Jordan Peterson*

Vicrim complex it is called.

Witchy meaning manipulative

This is just to avoid feminist's censorship. Jordan spent so lot of word in order to avoid feministic censorship to explain simple thing: kick out a bitch from your life. Seems Canada has less freedom of speech than Africa. Shame for Canada.

nothing really (click bait). he's actually talking about how incoherent people are when they complain about something yet do nothing. And stating how uncool and unethical we are when trashing your friend-partner-lover. Lowering your partner's status and yourself (not trustworthy within nor outside)

@@sergeyfilat4238 Jordan Peterson was publicly accepted on Canadian TV shows and at the university where he teaches after getting in trouble with feminists. People listened to feminists talk trash for a short time but then forgot about it when they got to know Jordan Peterson better. Also: Fuck Russia lmao

Jezebel spirit,witchcraft,the title has a deeper meaning to it

@@UhtredOfBamburgh yeah they tried to misconstrue his arguments and make him look like a sexist. Try arguing in good faith. Also Russia is fine.

It's a hard trick to manage, but figuring out that a woman has few or no close woman friends is a definite red flag.

You can spend years dating, she can turn bitchy at any moment.

@@dbmail545 I'm a woman with a few, and almost no close friends for various reasons. My fiance has said that I'm the least bitchy woman he has ever dated in his life. I think you're making a poor correlation here. All you need to do is pay attention to how they talk. Its that simple. Some who is always complaining or seems selfish and thinks the world revolves around them...probably a bitchy woman. Its not hard to see. Most men tend to be blinded by beauty to notice this.

Women with a lot of female friends tend to be bitchy because that's what it takes to be a large female group in order to exist... Men are generally unaware of how to spot a bitchy female.. I'm a female if you want to spot a bitch get as many female friends as you can, dont fuck them dont do any sexual thing just keep them as friends, in less than a year you my friend will be a master at spotting bitchy females vs good women.

@@gregoryunderwood4121 Some are freaks and freaks can be kind and positive. Avoid the bitches they will give you cramping and wind.

"Here I am stuck in the middle with you..."

That's good for you, I'm glad it worked out for you. Probably because, through complaining, you gained perspective on your situation through what other people said to you, is that right? I think Jordan's advice applies to people who have chosen a partner that is suitable for a relationship, and assuming that they are suitable for a relationship and you chose them then you shouldn't be complaining in public because it undermines the relationship that YOU chose. It's important to be able to leave a relationship when it's forming, because then you can freely stay or leave as you see fit, instead of feeling that you have to stay. Instead of complaining in public (i.e. to someone who isn't your partner) you could fairly go to someone you trust for advice, but you have to take responsibility for your opinion of your partner, meaning that rather than stating your opinion as fact you acknowledge that it is your interpretation and you've created it

@@thecurrentmoment yes, take responsibility for your own opinion of someone. Another way to put it might be to be accountable to my own thoughts and feelings about a person or situation. It's a whole can of worms to unpack when you reach radical acceptance about someone who isn't good for you. I've had to learn to accept and take action on how I feel or what I believe regardless of how I hoped, wished, or imagined things would or could be. It's painful, recognizing my own delusions or lack of awareness of self and others.

If you understand how much such subtle things like video titles, when summed up, create and feed stereotypes, you also understand why the “obsessing”.

Until your in one, some people put up a front and likely a lot longer than you realise and that front doesn't come down all that once. Why? Fear, they will have made the mistake of being themselves and letting it all out and at some point they learnt to hold it in, they hold until they think your tied in. Then your realise your in a toxic relationship, openness, communication and compromise will have little effect on the pig ignorant. Stay or leave, its your choice, you will suffer eider way.

How ‘bout “shrew”?

I was picturing Stevie Nicks... 🎶woo hoo... witchy woman...🎶

He said "barbarian witches" as an example, thus, the title 🤷🏻‍♂️

No, this is actually a thing now. Hollywood and Netflix have inundated women for so long and with so many images of witches and witchcraft, we are becoming surrounded by them.

@@zerubbabelsbridge "witchcraft" bitchcraft everyone knows that witches were just the original cosplayers

I was thinking badly about myself 😅 because I was always complaining about my abusive ex's. But I wasn't telling a soul at first.

wms72 not sure about you but it's like... you keep giving them the benefit of the doubt that they're not really that way and other people see only the parts they show. I mean if you/we/I said they were somebody completely different... you'd be labeled unstable, not them. Absolute crazy making.

That's a narcissist.

There are always signs. You just have to be willing to admit to yourself that you missed them.

Some signs are more obvious than others. But if you are dealing with a covert narcissist, they won't be so obvious. What I learned the hard way is to listen to my gut feelings. Our instincts know when something is not right.

noadlor There are always signs. Its up to YOU to take the time to get to know your partner as objectively as possible. Most people walk into relationships and marriages totally blind. Sooner or later the rude wakeup call comes. Our world is so infested with narcissism and sociopathy, its become more of a question of who ISNT. The problem lies with people thinking theyre on the ball. Most are not. It takes an immense amount of humility, a desire to understand the human psyche, and our partner of choice, while making sure we're being objective and not projecting our own insecurities or toxicity onto the partner. Relationships are not easy. But people need to stop taking the victim mentality. Vampires gonna vamp.

I'm unfamiliar with "Bodisatvah" but I agree with you assessment of JP. I enjoy listening to him talk because it's like watching an origami artist. Each turn creates another discovery. It's delightful!

S McGrath well said IMO!

You coud have marital contract you know...

Well put

So sorry you went through that... Your story is definitely a cautionary tale.

Allison B Joyner Bizama. Peterson speaks on that subject in another video, and he agrees with you. Men are discriminated against, and divorce laws are unjust and divisive.