Jordan Peterson: Why Marriage is Important FOR YOU! 

Once it involves the government it becomes total shit.

His advice stings at first, but then it haunts your noggin for days and it makes sense. It still hurts, but like the soreness after a work out, you know it’s a building discomfort, not the painful sensation of deterioration.

I've always seen marriage as a spiritual unification with a person, with the good, bad, and ugly. But that's what made it so rewarding. Facing all aspects of a person, and have them accept you at the same time. Even a best friend couldn't compare to a title like that. It's a beautiful thing when two people aren't idiots.

I always wondered what was the incentive for marriage besides having a child until now I haven't found any.

Thanks for the Wisdom. Taking the leap and proposing to her on christmas!

In my situation professor, theres a difficulty of having someone right away , but wanting i notice that when i support someone that become first right for a good reason to sacrifice cause our almighty knows about that not in manevolence or resentful reason , maybe for the benefit of other people too , the reason why i am still sacrificing for will and allow it again even just for meantime or time being for godly work that order should understand what karma is been taking for ...God bless professor jordan Peterson and more power.

Society: Young men are not marrying. How do we address this? JP: You see, some fairy tales have this archetypal…

No one gets married unless there is something about a relationship someone thinks will improve their own well being. No one marries to sacrifice themselves for someone else's wellbeing. People have needs; emotional, physical, psychological, social, financial. Marriage is supposed to be the whole package. These are the reasons people get together. If these are needs you have get married but be prepared for the possible consequences. You are not born married. You are born a complete human being and that is enough without marriage.

My folks have been happily married for decades. They are both strong characters and have winners mindsets. Theres one thing in common for people that have failed marriages, or think that the union of love between two people serves no purpose: a weak lover's attitude. Man up like my father or woman up like my mother. Bad marriages happen when one of you becomes weak and only thinks about themselves and "how can this benefit me?" When you have that idea about marriage, you've already lost. Marriage is a blessing to glorify God. Everything else will come. The moment you forget about God in marriage or in life, don't act surprised when things don't go according to your plan.

5:35 Originally Groucho Marx's famous saying: "I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member."

Man, i love Jordan Peterson! Never wanted to get into psychology so much until I started watching his stuff!!! 😂

Find me a good woman that wants a Christian marriage for life and I'll be happy to get married. Until then, it's not even an option.

I have no incentive or obligation to marry, and neither do you.

5:30 my guy spittin fax

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In the Netherlands, 2 people in a loving relationship can do the exact same things as a married couple. And when 2 people decide to marry, they have to choose/pick one of two 'regimes'. That chosen 'regime' decides about everything when a divorce is about to happen. And on top of that, the Netherlands have a 'no-fault' divorce system. Same-sex marriage is allowed legally since 2001. Divorce is relatively cheap, easy and fast. Oh and babies born without being married are all legal and legitimate.

Friends and family who married young and had kids have spoken to me privately to *warn* me: "Don't do it!"

Just came here for a different perspective.

From which lecture is this?

What about *Marriage Contracted By State Law* ? Do I need that too? 🤣👌🏻

Can someone explain in simple terms about marriage.

“I think it’s ‘fuck-see-ah-nuah’. Although, I think I may have the pronunciation wrong.” Yea, man. You might lol

I've been there done that period no thanks!

Due to our current circumstances, were unlikely to find someone better, unless you have a magic mirror that connects you to NBA players

not everyone can find someone

4:22 But I also can't run away from myself.... so I don't get to run away regardless.

Man, JP looks like he has aged like 20 years in the last five years.

Where Was this lecture??? College campus??

Marriage is important if each side never try to change other side. Couple have their own flaws, couple must able to accept and no avoid it.

Dr peterson, your arguments are always convincing unless the ones reguarding marriage, theyr not that good!

Living with a person before marriage is much better than not knowing the person beforehand. This is what happened with my parents - they divorced after 15 years of being married, their personalities were clashing, they did not know how to communicate with each other. I married my husband after 7 years of relationship, we have grown and have made mistakes. It's refreshing to be married to him after all this, it shows that we made it. Sure, there will be problems and conflicts but what we have learned in these 7 years is how to talk through everything, showing each other our perspectives. This is why he says most people who have lived with each other before getting married divorce, not all people.

Marriage looks super dumb to me and then people go ahead and celebrate it commitments are harsh and requires courage but people look excited about it either they are too adventurous or super dumb

The fact that 3 years ago he mentioned the whole Disney and woke thing...and now in 2023/24 it's a thing.

Marriage is the #1 cause of divorce.

I went into the wrong major. I should have make psychology my major! ... So interesting...

5:08 you aren't mentioning the vandalised children. So many of us from broken homes our sadness is seeping into mainstream society.

Is sex outside the marriage is good thing or bad thing?

My parents are hoping and praying that someday I get married. Sometimes I feel like they're pressuring me to do so. If I were to get married, I'd rather get married out of will, out of desire, and out of choice. Not out of pressure. Not out of manipulation, not because my parents, friends, or churchmates want me to. To be honest with you, I don't want marriage for my life and my future. The choice is mine, no one else. What I have in my wallet is none of my girlfriend's business, what I earn is none of her business, my email password is none of her business, my medical records are none of her business. Besides, what's wrong with a man honoring God with his singleness? Lots of brothers and sisters in Christ tell me things like "God has better", "God's timing is perfect", etc. I feel like I'm being pressured and I don't like that. Especially the baptists. They are the ones who mostly touch you with that subject. What is their problem with someone being single, happy, living for Christ, and honoring God with their singlness? What's it their business how a single man enjoys life?

JP: marriage sucks but I’m married so I want you to be married too 😄

Twice failed.

How do you know it’s important? What if you are lgbtq or have different perspectives on relationships?

Listen, if you are a man, there is literally no hurry to marry early. It literally doesn't matter if you wait until you have an established career at age 40. You have no biological clock

There is no point of marriage with or without marriage.

We cannot carry out this grand experiment if there are locusts eating the ants. #DeepStateLocusts

Never sign a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it. Plus: never take life lessons from fairy tales. I's gone too far.

BECAREFUL MEN , THINK HARD IF YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED. It's a bad bet , According to The National Center for Health Statistics , Women in all 50 sates, Women who file for divorce put the figure at 70%; This figure rises to a staggering 90% when women are college educated.

Modern marriage offers no benefit to a man, and tons of risk.

Thats way the rule is no s€x before marriage or else most bums run away and the women is alone with the child

This is why it takes me a little longer to get to sleep - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-PIFZ7ZK4je0.html

There is no benefit . Women are the unhappy sex partner

I am a non-immigrant spouse in United States. I wanted to get divorced but my husband doesn’t want to pay! He filed a petition with I-864! My husband just married me so I can work in the United States and help my family!! It’s not a real love so no need to change last name!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 Marriage is no longer HOLY! A lot of foreigners will use fiance visa instead of work visa to enter United States of America and to get a job! Fiance visa is a smart way to enter USA rather than expensive work visa. Also, marriage visa is not recommended as maybe you get married in a country where divorce is no possible..😂😂😂😂😂 I recommend foreigners from other countries to marry an American just to get a job in the United States of America for work purposes!!!! 😂😂😂 Also my husband is paying less taxes now that he’s married!!! 😂😂😂

Man + woman = 1

If you’re single, i’m a 35 y.o. monogamous, naturally born woman with no children, who would love to be a traditional wife. I’m putting myself on blast so don’t be shy yall! lol 👀😅

JP has this one (and do much more) wrong. The best thing is, when you stay with someone and have all that without the coersion of marriage.

One can always walk away (check divorce rates). Marriage makes men beta and benefits women distortionatley (especially in the U.S.) Marriage makes a man submit to his women and the governing body which instantly makes her less attracted to him. Most men that marry fear being alone and want a woman to dictate to them. Men that marry the wrong women often wreck their lives while limiting their options. Marriage is a contractual agreement that gives women power over men in exchange for reliable sex and children but most men end up in sexless marriages and often lose custody of their children.

Nope. Not feeling your statement.

No incentive whatsoever. All risk, no reward.

He should try stand up comedy

I really appreciate and respect JPs perspective on this subject, but as lawyer, my advice, 100% of the time, is to not get married. Todays legal framework all over the west does not encourage healthy relationships between men and women. Marriage in the 21st century just isn’t a good idea for either men or women.

Spent four years in the family devil’s court. Never get legally married. Instead, cohabitate if you want a long term relationship. If you want to have children, the man should own the home which levels the playing field considerably in a possible custody battle. This may sound harsh, but it’s the family court’s fault for making legal marriage extremely risky to your livelihood. No one should ever commit to their corrupt arbitration services, through a marriage license, in the event of a split.

Jordan Peterson is great but he is wrong about marriage in today's world. Marriage holds little value for successful men - the odds are in favor of divorce with the man being penalized with custody awarded to the female, child support (which the female can spend in any way she wishes), denial of visitation rights (on the whim of the female), the likelihood of losing half of his assets and lifetime alimony in some states. Oh yeah, females file for 75% of all divorces. The government marriage contract and government divorce laws favor females in a big way. No thanks.

Stupid title. I hope you share your profound wisdom with the world's monks and nuns.

Why America is so screwed up in 10 minutes

I want a Christian marriage for life. I’m a woman .

no one should ever get married until there in their 30's and those that want to stay single stay single

I'm a fan of JP, but this is bad advice. Any man who has assets or any kind of potential should never marry. He would have be young and naive or a a complete idiot.

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WHY MARRIAGE ISN'T GOOD FOR YOU Now that is a much easier argument to make. Hell, you wouldn't even have to argue it. Also, if "Hell is other people" just wait until one of those people divorce you, then you'll know what hell really is.

No its not.

For me, Marriage, emotional relationships are overrated and blind! You don’t need anyone really, don’t make them rule and fool you by this stupid outdated rules, attachments, and affiliation! If i will do that one day, then something real, rational and realistic will be the reason

“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.” Arthur Schopenhauer To hell with traditionalists and conservatives and Peterson who sold us lies

Marriage is horrible

Marriage is not important to me and never will!! I prefer to be alone and enjoy my life with no drama and stress.

Jordan, you are out of touch with the modern world and how the courts work. I know this is an older video, so perhaps your views on marriage have changed, but this is not what men/young men should be hearing.

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Uh no. Sorry doc.

People denigrate getting married and having children... But like, what else are you going to do with your life that is even remotely as meaningful as that? Sure, some people have careers that are deeply meaningful, and they devote their whole lives to that, and that's great, too. But most people that are so anti-marriage have mediocre or mundane jobs, self-indulgent hobbies, and don't want to give up what they perceive as freedom in the pursuit of something with transcendent value.

Why do people let him get away this garbage? This is so flawed it's unbelievable. Is there a source for the claim that "the prince also represents the woman's own unconciousness"? He does this all the time. Claim things without backing it up.

Lol you guys in the comments are so dumb. Really. You don't even realise you don't necessarily even have a problem with marriage but with the fact that finding someone that you could be married to is hard, because it is a struggle. And you can be damn sure you've got as much to figure out as the next person. You find someone who's committed to solving the problems that life presents you with, together, with you, and on her own. And you never really just find that, you find someone who's willing to do it with you, if you find someone like that, how the hell is marriage bad?

These anti marriage comments are pathetic considering the man speaking has known his wife since they were teens, when he was a no body , and have been married for decades!! But you all insist it's not possible. You bought into the anti family bs of postmodernism..good for you. Good luck being alone with your precious money.

Marriage is risky and dangerous for both (males are the losers in court)... But it's worth it because you might get lucky. Better to risk the pain of a divorce for the potential benefit of a great spouse.

so people need to be forcibly bound in mind and body to be-able to have a life....unfortunately Mr Peterson i cannot agree with you. if you are in a true loving commitment with someone, you shouldn't need chains to stay there, and if the person leaves maybe they return as a better person and maybe you return as a better person, MAYBE THEY DON'T but regardless you have developed with someone who if they do love you as they say they do, will stay in your life, perhaps for greater, given they are choosing that and not enslaved by it. life is a learning experience where you may have others you can rely on...maybe.

It’s no wonder Peterson falls into bouts of depression, his whole view life starts through a lens of hopelessness. Life is NOT suffering Jordan. Life is life, suffering is suffering - two separate concepts. For those who take their own well-being seriously, life is a joy. I would not go to him for psychological help.

Worst advice you’ll ever hear !!

Marriage is Created by God. His rules are what matter. Do you desire to follow His laws? If so, a good reference is 1 Corinthians Chapter 7. Study and read carefully. Know that all that divorce are stating that they Do Not Follow GOD!!! His followers follow His Laws. Regardless of local jurisdiction you find yourself in.