The Beauty of Marriage 

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I love this kind of content from you Dr. JBP. Listening to your lectures about aspects of life has really improved me

Salute to you Sir

Thank you Dr Peterson.

this is truly amazing approach. 👏

In a perfect world thats beautiful and the way it should be...but its hard today when men are already addicted to instant gratification and porn, theres no way they can love a woman properly.

​@anniamarie3809 Pray. And have faith in God's guidance. Let the Holy Spirit work in your life thoroughly. Go to a church you can bare fruit. There are good men and women but they are "hidden" and held by God's hand. Not everyone can see them and reach them. Be yourself the women you want to marry if you were a man. The same applies to men: be yourself the woman you want to marry. Godspeed!

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​@@anniamarie3809Can't really lump all men in that group.....your literally saying 50 percent of the population is broken and not marriage material. On the flip side though most women have been ran through quite a bit these days, and offer very little in a marriage these days....both sides can do better too....

@@stevenbacon5027 male feminists are fake. Female feminists hate what they want and need. Women need a father, brother, husbands guidance & protection in this world. If they don’t have it will go insane. Men need female nurturing and play. Realizing what we need is key to happiness & mental health.

Kiitos for your sharing. It helps. Have a good day. X

The feminists who are not crazy say you need a good supporting man.

My late husband and I had the same kind of relationship. I miss him every day. He calmed my anxiety and panic attacks.

The caveat is the right man, a man who will cherish you, respect you, protect you and love you for who you are.

Did you work during your marriage?

@@maralsahedova4197 Grown children who have produced 18 grandchildren. I am sure that happened with no “work” from her 🙄

@@maralsahedova4197 I get where you are coming from. I had to divorce someone who expected me to be a cash cow. I'm never doing that one again. If a guy cannot support you, he does not deserve you.

Congratulations!

How many times did he sleep with another woman? And how many times did you almost divorce?

Nah, it's pretty easily broken. I don't condone a threesome/polygamous marriage. Yuck. Even with C in the marriage, it is W that typically breaks it. C is fundamentally useless garbage in a marriage, and makes it a threesome. What G ultimately eluded to from that verse is Himself being in perfect relationship, the 3-in-1 - that is pretty narcissistic. Please reread your bible and note that the first thing Eve did after being created is to hangout with the dvl, plot her upgrade process to G status, and manipulated A. This is F nature before consuming "knowledge" and before the fall. Wake up my anti-Christ.

Amen

Ecclesiastes 4:9 two is better than one

Amen

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May God bless your souls🙏🏿❤😊

@@nk4sii thank you 😊 may god blessed your souls and love ones

I constantly pray to and thank God for my husband ❤

Because you would be homeless on the streets

@@TheConqueror009 Do women live on the street before they get married?

@@dearbrave4183 as a woman no I was never on the streets sadly men are though…

@@TheConqueror009 we get it you hate us women

God bless you Tracey 🙏😊

You are going to be a wonderful husband and father some day ❤️

>Things that will never happen

@@Milestonemonger I pray I will be!

@@jpetras16 Not with that attitude.

@@lb9817 I don't know man, chase your dreams while your still independent, if you get marriad be sharp that your wife isn't cheating on you. Tho i wish you all the good luck

Wtf, no tnx... You understood it very badly, also there is a psychotic nuance in your interpretation.

@@mmmppp555 I am pretty sure that’s what he means, he explains it in detail on many occasions, he says if you are with someone but don’t want to get married you are basically keeping your options open and seeing if a better option comes by… marriage means shutting that door, there is no other person and no more searching.

There shouldn't have to be a exit door when you married the right person and if you know this and believe this in your heart and mind , you should be able to take the challenge and devote whatever it takes to make the marriage succeed

@@mmmppp555 no and no.

Tell that to a woman who’s husband beats her and molests their kids….so theirs no exit door?!

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Imo u won the internet today LMAO

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I am happy you are happy. I do hope you both know that your life is possible because of sacrifice and hard work from both of you. He is not the only one making a sacrifice, and certainly not the only one working hard. Blessings.

@@ep5185 thank you. 🥰 I guess we never see work as work when we’re doing things we enjoy.

Would you still loved him if he didn’t earn enough for you to stay home? I’m asking genuinely

I'm blessed that my husband works hard so that I can stay home and homeschool our three children.

That's the path. Good for you both.

Yes absolutely true marriage is about witnessing things

Same but I'm the wife with all the issues. I'm so glad to see how much Jordan is helping us all.

Your wife saw that you cared about your flaws. Bad husbands don’t care about their flaws, they only look outward and lash out. Congratulations on your marriage. With your attitude, I’m confident that you will make it to the intended conclusion of any successful marriage.

@@geoffreyokrongly916 Wow I didn't see it that way, thanks man! Much love!

Oh, you call it chirping. I call it endless babble.

@@andysedlak1534 then don't listen ya dingus

Peterson says some good things, but he's entirely inconsistent in regards to marriage where, on the one hand, he will rightly point out how unbelievably devastating the divorce process can be on men and the dangers they face and then, on the other hand, he'll shame people for avoiding relationships involving legal contracts by claiming they don't "trust" each other and that they're "planning for it to end." His care for young men and their suffering is in stark contrast to his seemingly cold, judgement of their avoidance of suffering onset by marriage. He's pushing for men to slay the dragon, get the gold, and share it with the community, not realizing that there is no longer any gold, and the community worships the dragon. To continue advocating for men to slay the dragon, regardless of the reality of the current situation, is morally wrong. Marriage, in its current form, isn't the institution he fantasizes it to be.

@@latt.qcd9221 When you say "marriage in its current form", do you mean our modern Western concept of marriage? Then reject that concept and look for something immutable. Are you looking for guarantees? A man goes forward without them, knowing there are greater purposes in life than self-preservation or the avoidance of suffering.

@@mchristr You can't simply "reject the concept and look for something immutable" because marriage is inextricably linked to the State, no matter how you try to arrange things. Signing marriage documents? You're linked to the State. Live together for a long time without a marriage document? You're linked to the State. Not to mention, marriage today offers absolutely nothing for men and women don't bring anything to marriage. You can fantasize about a new "concept" of marriage all you want, but that won't mean it will exist or that such women will exist. If you're signing a contract that says that the woman will be rewarded if she breaks the contract, then, yes, I'm looking for a guarantee that she *_can't_* do that because that's wrong. It's impossible to completely avoid risk, but it's foolish to take on unnecessary risks that bring no reward.

Goes against everything Jordan just said here.

He didn't touch as much upon it in this clip, but civil marriages present a unique paternal and maternal combination that gay marriages will never ever achieve. Further, a child NEEDS that parental love from both a mother and father. Each is so vastly different and they complement each other in critical ways.

if you're religious, you already know what truth is

Yes, but up until so many years ago, most people didn't divorce. Especially not at the rates of today. Why? Because people valued marriage. They respected marriage for the lifelong commitment that it is supposed to be.

@@amyb7823 That is not the reason most people did not divorce. Today, most divorces are initiated by women. In the past, many women could not leave awful even abusive men because they were financially dependent on them. People still value marriage today but they also value not staying in an awful relationship just out of tradition, duty or lack of financial options.

@@rosieposie9564 Yes but why do women initiate divorce more of the time? Much of the time it's due to infidelity. And why is that? Because there are lot of women out there who are willing to have sex before marriage and sleep around. There is also a lot of temptation online- OnlyFans, access to prostitution, pornography etc. This is not good for marriages and for families. Another reason is that women are in the workforce now along with men, not staying at home and tending to the children which is a full time job in itself. A lot of women don't receive help from men in this area because historically women are the ones who tend to household responsibilities. You can blame men for this or you can look at it as society being so critical of more traditional ways of living, critical of men being the leaders of the household and women being stay at home moms that cook, clean and tend to the home that it puts a strain on marriages today. Truthfully, society has also changed economically to where middle class society requires both mom and dad to work full time. That's also an issue. I also don't think it's fair to just blame men and just say well men are abusive and it's all their fault. It's also more socially acceptable to get a divorce now and it's just too easy to give up, divorce and start over. There's no incentive to stay and work out any problems. Women just feel excessively liberated and unwilling to work out the issues. Why should they? They can just get a divorce, get alimony, get child support and start over. I don't believe it's an exclusively men only cause for the problems with marriages today. It's an overall societal issue.

What's the situation with mikhaila's ex?

@@kirtley4660 she allegedly cucked her husband with Andrew Tate

One of the sad truths of life is sometimes your kids turn out to be the opposite of you, ask Marcus Aurelius.

She got back with him I believe

If you've made your mind up to commit than just get married. This is circular.

@@joepisacreta3822 Where did you get the idea they weren't getting married? I mentioned studies about MARRIED PEOPLE and the effects of prior cohabitation on divorce rates. I'm talking about people who move in together AFTER they commit, but BEFORE the wedding. The study found that prior cohabitation does not raise divorce rates for those who committed before moving in together.

@@joepisacreta3822 We will do whatever we want to do, weirdo.

@@mmmppp555 Yes you will I have no doubt. Godspeed.

@@lorrilewis2178 I don't doubt the statistics - and that's good news as far as it goes. My point is that the category of people who don't move in together before they are actually married (not planning) probably overlaps almost completely with the those who take marriage and sexual union to be a sacred thing, and I think there is good data to suggest that these folks have more fulfilled and longer lasting marriages *citation needed* I'm aware and I can dig a couple up and post them here.

I lasted 38 years. It was incredibly lonely and frustrating for the last 18. Good luck… it’s not always in your purview to make it work. 😢

That's hard, to grow a spine later on in life, when your first one was removed ever so diligently. The most important people in your life inadvertently 'told' you, that you cannot cope. That you always needed their help. Thus making you some sort of victim in the world, without them fixing everything. That's simply crippling. BUT, you can grow your own spine! And you start with anything, that interests you, that is a small challenge, but not too hard. For instance: go volunteer at the local pet shelter. Find out, that the doggies look up to you and are grateful for your presence! Take the time to drink that good feeling in of being needed yourself. Your self-confidence will grow bit by bit. Just start with something you can imagine to like doing in a way that makes you serve others. For in serving others, be it handicapped children, lonely elderly or abandoned doggies, you'll find that you ARE having worth! For me, personally, it helped tremendously to start to understand the gospel of Jesus Christ. That God actually Wants me. So much even, that He paid a very high price to call me His own child, by the shed blood of His Son Jesus Christ on that cross, where He bore the sins of all that believe in Him, to be who He says He is: the only way back to a proper Father: father God. To love God above all else and learning to love others as myself, I grew out of adolescence.

It's been almost a year since you wrote this, so I hope you're doing ok. I just stumbled upon your comment. And I wanted to tell you: no, you're not lost. You're young and have more than one chance to get out of any crisis. If 11 months ago you were here in the middle of a crisis watching this kind of video, it was because you had an impulse to get better. I really hope you are better in the present moment, and I also wish for you to listen to that impulse and take those chances. Good luck, friend!

There's a channel called HealthyGamerGG that's kind of cleaning up with Jordan started for me. Jordan showed me what was wrong with my philosophy, so I knew I needed help, and that other channel has given me the pragmatic understanding to make real progress. For a lot of people Jordan is enough, but not for me. That other channel is another licensed therapist. His passion point is helping gamers, but his stuff is helpful to everyone. He answers Reddit posts, has live therapeutic conversations with streamers who consent to having such conversations live so we can all learn together; it's a great resource. He has a yt channel and streams on twitch. I hope your life is better

Andrew Tate?

Wutt?? Who cares

LOL

What exactly resonates with you?

@DaveJMorten I grew up in a very strict religious home, that did not allow me to express my personality and eventually realized the only way to grow and feel good about myself was to leave and discover myself outside the constraints and pressure of the community. Elsa's story was about identifying the problem in her life, leaving a situation that was oppressive to her, allowing herself to discover her talents. Even as she discovered her talents, she still felt bound somehow to the world she left behind, so in frozen 2, she had to venture off and discover how she is even more unique than she first believed. She eventually grows into her own and fully embraces herself to the point where she is happy with her relationship to herself and the world and really thrives. That is my goal.

Sounds like you got a good take-away from the movie. Thanks for sharing. @@shaina--musician

@@DaveJMorten sure:)

I mean, I don't know anything about you. But you could ask yourself why that is happening. Sure, you can half-hazzardly come up with an unproven explanation like "maybe it's not for me", but I doubt you could learn much from an explanation like that. It's ok though, you are not obligated to learn anything from that, as long as you have something else that is a worthy source of light that you can attach yourself to.

@@JavierGomezX I've spent much time thinking about it, I have a lot of childhood trauma, by the time I cure it I will be dead if that's even possible to cure it

dont give up! never! send you some ♥! greez from a random guy from switzerland.

@@Daneiladams555 Then maybe seek hope in another source. I am biased since I am christian, but in my experience and that of millions of people world wide, attaching yourself to God and seeking his wisdom can bring you that fulfillment. He is the one that founded the intitution of marriage after all. Regardless, I hope you find what you need, but you need to keep seeking in order to find. To quote some of the wisdom I am telling you about: “Keep on asking, and it will be given you; keep on seeking, and you will find; keep on knocking, and it will be opened to you; 8 for everyone asking receives, and everyone seeking finds, and to everyone knocking, it will be opened." Matthew 7:7, 8.

@@JavierGomezX im a taoist,i don't believe in god

Very creative.

@@JordanBPeterson I know. 😎

I think that happens because a lot of people see getting married as the start of "happily ever after". They buy into the idea that marriage is the end state, rather than the beginning of something new. And if once you get married everything is just supposed to work out perfectly, why would you work on yourself any further?

It shouldn't be like that. Marriage should never be a competition with the outside world, There's no "shackled." You totally don't get it.

Happy for you. May your marriage continues to grow in strength and love, respect and happiness. My story in short is exactly as Jordan described for those who live together before marrying. I never felt he was 100% committed and he became more and more difficult. We lasted 27 years until I learned that he had been having an affair for 3 years.

@@charmainerichter6954 Well I'm very sorry to hear that, it sounds like the kind of person you wouldn't have wanted to marry. It has less to do with living together and more about the person you choose, imo. The guys I lived with before my husband were just not good choices for marriage even though we lived together for years, I could tell it wouldn't last and cut ties. It just seems it's harder to tell the kind of person someone is until you've lived with them. I know of many marriages that failed because couples moved in together after getting married and found they couldn't get along on most issues and fought about how to keep a home, eventually leading to divorce. I'm going on 10 years next month and while we get along and have everything in common, marriage is still and should be work. Especially once the physical aspect fades and you only have your feelings about each other and your respect for each other to rely on. Once someone loses respect for you in the relationship (like by cheating or lying), there's no hope.

I think Jordan means the majority of couples sacking up

I don't think there is a human being alive, of either sex, who does not want to be loved. To want only to be desired is an indicator of emotional immaturity. If young women are taking advantage of modern freedom, it is natural, but it is not going to satisfy them in the long run.

@@rosemaryallen2128 that’s the issue, the large majority of western women are emotional immature. And they stay that way until they hit the way in their 30s, they’re all used up, and chad no longer wants them. Then they finally all of a sudden want to “settle down” and find a nice guy (beta) to take in all her problems, care for her, care for another guys kid, and be her emotional trauma pillow.

@@delix8869 In the past, it was the men who had all the sex they could get, and then settled down into marriage. The answer for the modern male is to make himself irresistible. Which means going to the gym/cultivating his mind/dressing with care/keeping an attractive living space/etc., all of which create the greatest turn-on: CONFIDENCE. Don't blame the girls. Blame yourselves for not getting your act together.

@@rosemaryallen2128 I already do all that. My question is why would a MAN want to date a immature women in the first place. It’s not mens fault that the large majority of modern women are immature girls. A smart and confident man would never marry in the first place cause he’s smart enough to avoid that and not ruin his own life.

If all women were immature and stupid, marriage would be a dreadful fate indeed. Have you tried dating one with a PhD? Are you so selfconfident that you can discuss existentialism or why Tchaikovsky is often banal? And if you are so sophisticated, why not take advantage of all the available sex anyway?

Except many people are good actors.

​@@ladycactus110 I agree. I'm a struggling actor myself. The public have unrealistic expectations because of television. Thank you for being down to earth, it's refreshing.

Very sorry to hear this willowstar

@@JordanBPeterson I struggled for a bit but then I found I could do more each time. I don't seem to be able to change who I am. It's a good thing because I like me. I was worried this trouble would harden my heart but that's not happened. I did lack some direction though. I've found a path I intend to follow. Things I've learnt listening to you and others have set me straight again. I still find I'm living outside of community though. I don't fit in anywhere. Which makes finding another mate really difficult. I talk to people with ease just I think they look at me as though I'm too much. I find a lot of men very superficial.

Are you white?

@@jon2067 why?

@@willowstarfeather just curious

why did you lose respect for them?

Amen!

I'd rather thank his parents for fucking cause thats more realistic lmao

Amen!

You mean thank the rabbi apparatus that rot intentionally both side of the political aisle by joo bols h evick on the left and jo o zlonlst on the right, launching the wrecking ball of destruction of the west a little further to the extreme every time ?

There’s nothing good about such a farewell. Work it out, snakes.

Lmao

@@TheStraightestWhitest tell me you have never seen a vagina...without telling me you have never seen a vagina.

"mistress" :)