Why Women Fall for Pirates and Vampires - Prof. Jordan Peterson 

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Vampire: Mysterious masculinity (in the dark, unexpecting, cunning) Werewolf: Animalistic masculinity (primal alpha, pack leader, strong, fierce) Billionaire: Status masculinity (living the high life, luxury, comfort, assurance) Pirate: Adventurous masculinity (fear no danger, break the rules, dream seeker) Surgeon: Intellectual masculinity (precise, dependable, trustworthy, between life and death)

Hey ladies, I'm a werewolf vampire billionaire pirate surgeon. How you doin?

I love that billionaires and surgeons are listed among pirates, werewolves, and vampires

“you’re actually blushing, that’s very funny” is one of most favourite quotes

Twilight: one young woman's choice between bestiality and necrophilia

Did you know that if you whisper, 'Dominance hierarchy,' into a mirror three times Jordan Peterson will appear and clean your room?

As an 18 girl, I think there's a lot of relationships where the "I can fix him" mentality can be really detrimental. It's one thing to want to "fix" your partner, and another thing to want what's best for him, you might not always know what that is, but it's important to try and help him to figure that out. Though I totally do get the appeal of helping your partner become a better man, but it's important to grow alongside him

As an engineering student, this makes me proud of my kind and hopeful that my studies might actually contribute to society at large!

We're always told that women want a man they can fix or tame, I'm not sure that's really the draw. The draw is finding a man who has the capacity to be aggressive and dangerous enough so that you know they can protect you and your family, while also knowing they love and admire you enough to never use those powers directly on you.

One word: Wattpad.

As a lady, for me, its not the being dominated or taming a beast thing...its the world. The adventures, the magic, the danger a world like theirs can give. Normal life is dull for most people. Being in a world with Pirates, vampires, or werewolves is exciting and different. Same thing with elves...not traditionally masculine, beasts to be tamed, or dominating. Lots of ladies just loving the difference of a fantasy world and having a man to be with within that world. You remove the special worlds these men come from or the secret worlds they exist in within our own and you get what? Greg the vampire that works in accounting and only feeds on the weekends...not a lot of ladies, if any, will thirst over that. Even the fantasy of being with a billionaire is fueled by what money like that can open up for you. The fashion, travel, status. Its erotic escapism. We just go from daydreaming about prince charming to something with a bit more edge and sexiness as we get older.

I think the whole concept of women wanting to "tame" a man is actually about their egos. Women sleep with players because they want the ego boost of making him settle down and stop sleeping with other women. If a woman can get a hot man who can sleep with anyone he wants to choose only her then that implies that she is better than everyone else. It's all about validation

Telling someone who's blushing that they're blushing does nothing but make them blush harder

One of the terrible side effects of blushing is someone telling you... you're blushing. Oh god.

My girl definitely "tamed" me, I was going nowhere good in life. Constantly fighting, drugs, alcohol and involvement in crime. She saw the little good that was in me and taught me how to make that who I was, taught me to to be a better person and I am grateful for everything she did for me. I still have my vices but she without a doubt saved me from becoming the worst version of myself

"There's no fun in taming someone who's already tame ... plus when chaos manifests itself, what makes you think someone tame is going to be good for anything."

*When you show up to a first date with vampire fangs and an eyepatch on.*

"Of course females are more complicated and thats no wonder because their lives are more complicated". Really intruguing statement, I wish he said more on that.

As a male my fantasy is a government that would just leave me alone with my liberty.

I just sent this to my girlfriend because it's so spot on. She casually jokes about marrying for money first and love second, she was crying while watching Grey anatomy last night, and we've seen all the twilight movies together. I always talk to her about JP and now she's finally going to witness his brilliance lol

I love how Peterson has no problems laughing at people, but its never truly mean spirited

I’m surprised mafia king isn’t one of them

I could listen to this man give lectures for hours and hours.

As a woman, its definitely true that many women are drawn to the idea of taming monsters. Masculinity at its most extreme is pretty monsterous. Women are drawn to that as it is through nature but we also need to make sure the monster is redeemable to some extent for our own safety, comfort, and fulfillment. Also a monster that is tame only with us is the highest level of protection we could have. It also helps us feel special. Its layered. Basically be a beast but with self control and show your softest sides only to her to trigger her nurture programming and also stroke her vanity...and bam she is hooked for life. 😂 unless you found a really crazy one.

I love it when he said “Social scientists would never do that but engineers have no issue with it” 😂

As a wattpad veteran, I can confirm.

"Hello. My name is Aleister. Originally, I was a man. A man who helped to deliver children into this world. But, one fateful night, in a war ravaged land, my life and existence changed drastically. I was called upon to deliver the child of a soldier who was called to battle. His wife, a young woman of no more than twenty-five, was in labor when I arrived in their small cottage. I tried my best, as any man of medicine would. However, even though the woman survived, as well as the newborn girl, the hemorrhaging had an unforeseen effect. Little did I know, this woman was secretly in love with another being. A being of darkness. One who had set the transformation in motion before the labor began. The vampirism was in her blood. And, by contact with it, I myself became a creature of night. This is my tale.".

Imagine being in one such classroom with him teaching you in this way, i would surely top the class, no wonder why psychologist and neurologists are so well read and different from other people

"There's nothing sexier than a werewolf... ApPArEntLY" it's ok, professor, it's ok.

I'm gonna write a romance between an innocent sweet debutant and a vampire werewolf billionare pirate surgeon. It's gonna make billions!

I have always been a fan of a good werewolf or vampire romance and I definitely still get drawn in by the level of masculinity they bring. But honestly has I have gotten older, and I am only early 20s mind you, I have realized how much I personally don't want that sort of relationship. I married a man who did not fit into the "needs to be tamed" category because I discovered I wanted to be with someone who wouldn't induce a heart attack by acting out rashly out of protectiveness or just sheer passion. I married a guy who would act but with more thought to his actions and how they could impact our life together. What I am saying is no matter how attractive men that take care of the problem, or get aggressive can be, I myself am way too independent and practical minded of a female to want that outside of a book lol. My man doesn't need to change for me, we will both adapt as necessary.

Such a brilliant teacher!

"there's nothing more sexy than a werewolf, apparently"

LOL he called that girl out

I don't think it's about aggression at all, rather it's about power. You get someone powerful on your side, they will protect you and ensure your comfort. All mentioned are just different types of power.

I like his last statement: "females are more complicated, and it's no wonder, their lives are more complicated" -- amen!

Leave it to engineers to figure this out. "It's for science I swear"

Like watching these videos but would hate to be in that classroom when he's staring into your soul for 20 seconds while talking about sex.

Good content. Always happy with your work

It’s cool that he doesn’t just educate but takes time to learn and more over finds instrumental lessons like Google searches (meaning he is curious about the right kinda things in my Opinion:)

When he said, “you’re actually blushing.” I was like... How can he see my face??!!!

This must be why girls like horses. A wild beast she can tame and ride around on.

Although I do so appreciate your work, and value it highly. Would absolutely love to speak at length sometime. Thank you for the work that you do

I'm 32 and Australian.... I still have some of these explicit romance novels I found as a teenager 😅 thank you for the insight

Dont necessarily have to be one of those. Just have the traits displayed by them: Surgeon: Caring, compassion Vampire: Mysterious, lonesome Pirates: adventurous, do whatever they want Werewolf: big, hairy, primal Billionare: rich, stability

it’s a fantasy no one wants in real life but it’s fun to experience it in fiction without being harmed

My favourite 5 minutes of stand up anywhere! The Marge Simpson gargle of his voice only adds to the titillation. Then he finally says, "Surgeons, werewolves and vampires", and the punchline connects. Guffaw.

great vid

For a second I misread the title as "Why Jordan Peterson falls for pirates and vampires" and it intrigued me enough to watch thr video lmao

I think it's more a 'only soft for her' kind of thing. Throughout history, females have not been very dominant, so having power over someone who has a lot of power is kind of, well, empowering. Knowing that you can influence someone to that level, where he didn't listen to anyone before you came along, it makes you feel special. Even I consider the idea romantic, even thought I know, rationally speaking, that someone who is only nice to someone just because he's in love with her, is a bad partner to have.

No one asked, but I'm here to explain the vampire one in more detail. I don't think it's as weird or shallow as it seems on the surface 😅 It's important to note that women don't typically like *evil* vampires who are actively killing people. Women like *good* vampires. Whether we're talking about Twilight, Buffy, or any of the thousands of other vampire stories out there, women like noble vampires who willingly choose to abstain from human blood. I think this is because the bloodlust vampires feel is a thinly veiled metaphor for sexual lust (or possibly any addictive sin). In other words, a vampire who can control his desire to drink blood is a man who can control his sexual desire. A good vampire represents a man who is strong enough to resist temptation and rise above his nature in an effort to protect others. In my opinion, this is the primary reason the idea of vampires appeals to women (especially the more traditionally-minded variety). Good vampires are men with morals and values. They have the power to hurt others but they choose against it. They don't give into selfish, carnal pleasures at the expense of others, no matter how powerful the temptation may be. Bonus: vampires usually live a long time (because they're immortal), so over the years, they've acquired wisdom, intelligence, and life experience. They're old souls. They're emotionally mature. They're civilized and refined. They typically come from an earlier time when chivalry was the norm. That gentlemanly nature seems to linger within them. The bottom line: vampires represent the female desire for men who can control their actions even in the face of strong temptation, have life experience and maturity, and behave like gentlemen. The interesting thing is that these are completely attainable goals for any regular guy (or girl--I'm trying to work on some of these things myself), and I'm thankful to know many real men who exemplify these qualities beautifully. In fact, I'm blessed to be dating my very own "noble vampire." 😉

I love this video so much.

I generally think that woman just want to feel special to insure that their partner will stay with them .And if you are the "only person" that can "tame a beast" that makes you feel special.

"I was reading this book called A Billion Wicked Thots"

Thank you Jordan for pointing out my weak spots for Dwarven Kings, which you mistakenly left out, Elven Kings, whom you also forgot about, pirates like Capt Jack, and vampires in the vein of Gary Oldman’s Dracula. I’m laid bare but really have no intention of taming any of them!!

I’ve only watched a few of his videos, but his Canadian is in overdrive on this one.

"Literary vampire pirate billionaire surgeons!" - Alex Jones

That triangle he makes with his hands is perfect. That’s what I took out of this video

My main takeway from his lecture: Men of culture bring the advancement of search engine, SEO techniques, and web development. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

At the age of 15 my best friend was obsessed with Jude Devereaux romance novels. She had an entire bookshelf full of them.

Jordan Peterson: "That aggression is absolutely vital -- absolutely necessary" Me: So that's why Padmé wasn't turned off when Anakin slaughtered all the sand people

I love how he pronounces “werewolf” like it’s the past tense of “arewolf”

You can add another one to this - princes. Women love princes as well. If you look at fantasy romances for women audiences the male leads are commonly princes. And I can agree with what other comments have said, I like these types of characters because they make you feel special. I also get a strong sense of loyalty, like this person won't cheat on me or betray me, because I am special and they only love me. And of course, I'll only love them and be loyal too, it's like a fantasy of true love and happily ever after.

Every single Jordan Peterson video is better than the one before. If there is a better professor on RU-vid I want to know who it is?

Interesting that it includes "surgeon" as one of the 5, but if you think about it, it really makes sense. In order to compete in the medical field at such a high level, and to continue doing so, requires an exemplary degree of effort and complex action, which is an abstract of aggression. But where's the danger? What makes a surgeon as deadly as a vampire or pirate? Well, ultimately... perhaps more so than even a pirate, a surgeon literally has the power of life and death every single day... with one cut, they can save a person's life, or they can end it.

When will Dr. Peterson realize professor is also one of the fantasies...

This is so true! Add mafia and ceo on that list as well !!😂 Vampires, werewolfs are billionaire were all point on but I didn't understand why surgeon and pirot were on the list.. (I haven't watched or read anything related to those two so maybe that's why I couldn't relate...)

@1:08 He mentions "Harlequin novels" though Harlequin is a Canadian publisher not necessarily a certain type of novel. I think what he meant was just _pop_ _romance_ novels of which Barbara Cartland was a notable exponent. She published with various companies.

If i can explain from a female perspective, theres something attractive about a male who has the capacity to be scary, tough, sexy (with lots of female options) BUT reigns it all in for you, and chooses you. That a woman would be worth being a better person for.

So, what he's saying is, if you wanna make a relationship seem more fulfilling to a woman, you should initially feign a bunch of character flaws that you later pretend she helped you overcome

It's the flouncy sleeved shirts, bro

As someone who is training to go into the engineering field I can confirm that we just plow right through the ethics thing. It is fun for me to look at that but if I’m solving a problem or doing a project I’m probably not thinking about some ethics question. :p

Dominance and angst. That’s why monsters are sexy. In my experience though, “seducing and taming” isn’t so much the focus of such fiction and fanfiction. It’s more about being desired and pursued by someone more powerful (hence the dominance). And it’s about being emotionally supportive to that being (hence the angst).

I wanna marry a Billionaire Werewolf Surgeon

Thank goodness for engineers and Jordan.

Jordan did a video about this tho. Women are attracted to aggressive males because they have the ability to protect them from real danger. The problem is most dudes who are highly aggressive will be aggressive and physical with their women too. What women should be looking for is men who have a strong capacity for aggression but also know how to control it. The thing is that guy is a unicorn as much as a woman who’s self sufficient and can carry her own but can still compromise with a man. Most people fall hard to one side of the the spectrum or the other and the balance that most people desire is extremely rare in both men and women.

Women want someone strong enough to protect and provide for them but “tame” in her presence as to be caring to her and the kids. PRETTY SIMPLE Edit: I’m talking biologically/subconsciously. Of course we should all provide for ourselves

"Vampires..." Damn. "Werewolves..." Damn. "Billionaires..." Double Damn. "Pirates..." Oh sweet Jesus. "And surgeons..." I'm screwed.

One of the things I have learned of what separates men and women, is the emotional response level: Women are far more emotional than men, but the sexual response in aggressive women also becomes more intense… Men are more “visual” when it comes to sex… where as women need a man that can communicate with her emotions… then her sensual side, her “dark” side comes out. Secretly she wants a man to dominate her… but the man must learn this without her telling him what she wants… nor forcing his way into a physically demanding relation. She wants a masculine man that is obedient to her desires.

I literally just got recommended this and I feel extremely called out

The pirate thing is hilarious considering pirates during the golden age were scruffy, filthy, stinking, suffering from a variety of ailments with bad oral hygiene. The smell in sailing vessels of old would make you vomit, these were ships where people shat over the side. Fresh water was also a serious issue. Today's East African pirates aren't much better.

I think the archetype of a woman taming a man comes from a woman’s insecurity. Beauty doesn’t make you special - there are millions of beautiful women out there. But if you can be the one woman who tames a man - who stands by him despite all of the negative things - who makes him see the light - who makes him love you enough to be better - well THAT makes you special. That makes you indispensable to him in a way beauty and sex and even a regular relationship doesn’t. You’ll be the girl who saw the diamond in the coal, the prince in the toad, etc. and when he transforms you’ll have a man that appreciates all that you did for him when no one else would. And if you can make yourself indispensable to a man, then he will never leave you - then you’re safe and he’ll treat you well... At least, that’s what the fantasy is. Reality is often quite different.

When I was like 20~ I loved reading books and I also favoured the 'bad guys', vampires and werewolves. I also questioned why I felt drawn to them and why alot of other women do too. And I think I found an answer that sounds plausible and right to me. I think those bad guys represent things that a lot of women dont have. They represent what some women long for, what might bring balance. Since young age, I and a lot other girls are taught to behave, be calm, show good manners, be empathetic, be good at school, do this, do that, in fact: be a good girl and you'll get praised. I know so many that grow up this way into adulthood. And if you happen to also be a shy girl, books can be an escape from this situation, this world, in which you feel like everything you are and will be is decided by someone else. And then you meet those characters, the bad guys, the vampires, the werewolves. They represent all that: Independence, power, being unapologetic, free, wild, adventurous, special, being egoistical. Thats what (I think) a lot desire about those men. They want what they dont have .

One of the few times i have seen Peterson smile. He should do that much more XD

So I'll grow a beard, wear an eyepatch and a black cape, have cash in one pocket, scapel in the other, go to the club and say 'Aaarrr' a lot and howl at the moon. That should do it!

Me: Yarr, give up the booty! Her: I’m calling the police!

Following this train of thought is evident for me why Mma fighters always have gorgeous wives even when their faces are already scared because of their fights

Makes perfect sense, literature allows your mind to control how graphic a scene is.

Damn, so engineers have cracked the code on us, huh? Not gonna lie, not the group you think about when you imagine the ones to crack the female code.

Men have been simping for mythical women like mermaids, sirens etc for ages.

Dr. Peterson is the father a lot of us wish we had.

It's there a full video? I would love to listen to the whole

"Nothing gets a bitch wetter than a wooden leg, hairy chest and a dislike of garlic" ~ Don Juan

*BEST THUMBNAIL EVER*

from now on, my dating profile description will be: Im a surgeon who made my billions by healing my kind, vampires. But i have a secret of my own i would like to share with the lady who could tame my heart, that im half Vampire half Warewolf and i sail the sea on my weekend to raid the rich and give to the poor.

"Yarr harr fidelly dee, being a pirate is alright to be, do what you want cause a pirate is free, you are a pirate"

I love how he made it about himself so he does not embarrass her That's really smart move

As a female I can say he's bang-on.

AHHAHA YOU'RE BLUSHINGGGG. As someone who lives in Toronto and will probably go to UofT, if he was still lecturing there I would take his classes 😭