Karen Slaps DEAF MAN for IGNORING Her! - IDontWorkHereLady Reddit Podcast 

Exactly. If I was there I would be so peeved with that Karen. I wouldn’t even think twice before stepping in and stopping this incident.

Its been shown time and time again that people should treat workers like people of authority.

When the first fist or hand flies it’s go time for me

IKR!!!!!!!!!!

Right imagine that defense " your honor I only slapped him because I thought he worked there"

that mom probably drinked and smoked while he was still in her belly

Its basically like if your kid is like mom I'm hungry feed me and the mom is like no I'm not feeding you yet I'm not done giving you a hug like? YOU GOTTA FEED YOUR KIDS

Bye bye hubby

Seriously, Does the husband have severe brain damage?

@@cedric3973 ikr the husband is always taking the mom’s side which is a huge red flag

Let's hope she's financially able to 🙏.

No one deserves to live in that kind of house hold

The husband is probably gonna be abuser towards the op and her child. The op needs to get out of the situation N O W or this can be a horrific situation.

definitely a product of a Karen

@@spoon4732 indeed, she married a Daren

He is not a jerk; he is an abusive narcicist.

D i v o r c e

@@West_Coast_Gang D i v o r c e

Yea totally agree

Facts

Amen to that

Her reason was "he ignored her"

Even if they have your wife's name in their mouth? Lmao

That's exactly what I thought.

Your right

Get out while you can

hahahahah

OOOOOOOOH ROASTED 🤣🤣

Seems like people love incomplete families in your country

@@1mol831 Better an incomplete family than one ruled by narcissists. It's not difficult to imagine an endless series of conflicts if she allows her mother in law to have her way.

@@DJoseph-sp4ij your choice. It’s a culture thing after all.

​@@1mol831misread your comment as "incompetent" instead of "incomplete" made it funny to me

@@doggo_lover257 I have a great life. It just sounds like people like incomplete family

Fr

She's acting like it's her kid fr

they seem young and didnt use protection

Well you clearly aren't emotionally stable enough to have a husband, so I don't think you'll need to worry about that anyways lmao.

@@wake6000 I'm definitely capable of understanding my emotions. I don't understand why you pulled that outta your ass 🤔

@@wake6000 Well you ain’t sound so mature either, not really your place to talk about responsibility. You talked like the wife and children ain’t your after marriage. The wife is stranger to the family, if the husband can’t connect both side together, he has already failed at being a husband. Btw I’m male and married, my wife and my mother do fights but I have never disrespected either of them, our relationships are still good.

@@wake6000 The grownups are talking please leave, you clearly aren't old enough and Mature enough to be discussing this topic.

Technically, the mother in law was causing her to neglect her child. And the husband sided with his mom??

#1 Wow this Karen was completely insane!! To slap someone and then slap them again because they try to sign to you ! Then go after you again after store personnel come in !! She needs some serious jail time to save others from her !! Ladies in jail will be happy to give her a different perspective on how she acts !! Poor guy ! I hope his sister makes sure Karen goes to jail !

Hell has a special place in my heart for people like her🙃

Mommy’s boy Three rules of marriage I follow 1. don’t marry a mommy’s boy that has a mom like that 2. Don’t marry someone that is crazy (as in Harley Quinn crazy) 3. Don’t marry a bitch

No she's not the jerk. She married a huge mama's boy and she needs to run and run far. Not only will this never get better it will only get worse over the course of their marriage. These people have shown her their true colors and she needs to believe them.

He's a mama's boy. The relationship is doomed.

really??👍👍👍

you better not be lying man ... cos if u are I'll shake my head in disappointment.

You did the right thing

Gigachad.

You're a Chad for helping that old lady

Agree I would divorce his ass and have full custody of the child I don’t give a crap

I think that the op and the husband should get a divorce. Why is the op still with him. He has no care for his own child nor any respect for the op. He didn't even try to talk about it nor try to understand the op.

@@misterlattc agree

THIS!!!!

She should stop when she’s says no and she is not the jerk the mom is

That’s why people like Milfs so much

So, you come in at 4th place at best. Sounds like a bum deal. Who makes you a priority? Marriage is a scam. Why any man still chooses to do it, especially with how the laws are, is beyond me.

​@@smithsmith1956 I think they meant- when its time to start a family, their priority is the family their building first and not someone out of this family they are building (Like Cousins, Aunts, Niece, Nephews, Parents etc) Ofc still take care of their family (that is out of the one their building) and care for them and love them and be there for them when needed (like if their parents is sick- they have all the right to take care and visit them) But The story was about The OP having Issues with her Mother-in-law and her husband- because she was suppose to feed the baby every 2 hours but her mother-in-law made it difficult for her to maintain that routine and end up in that controversy and it ended with her Husband siding with the OP's Mother-in-law (The Husbands Mom) and an argument between the OP and her Husband (I believe was this was story #3 at 5:50 ) So I think they didnt mean for it to put it as if they were the 4th, I can see why you would think that but they also didnt say any numbers like "The kids 1st , My wife 2nd, and then my mother 3rd" so I also dont know how you get to that conclusion of the husbands/man should be 4th in the relationship/marriage. Because Relationship/Marriage or Not we should still be the priority- so saying that they "come at 4th" place is like saying that even if its an abusive relationship they should still stay because "Kid and Wife Priorities" which should not and should never happen. But we should know when to put priorities in the right time or balance our priorities. Not just always put ourself first Because in a relationship we are suppose to be in sync- both participants in the relationship/marriage should be or rather have to work on it together and priorities each other (but not forget about themself ofc, should be a balance of both prioritizing the other and ourself too) in which each should take care and be there for the other half of the relationship. Since that is suppose to be what a healthy relationship/marriage is, a friendship/relationship/marriage or just simply an acquaintance relation needs both participants to work with each other- sure maybe it could work if only one of them works on it, but it wont be healthy and or balance. So if a family has a kid, both of the parents should be balancing each other, not just the husband and not just the wife, both should also know whats best for everyone in the family including themself. (Tho I do agree with what you say about the laws- its quite... messy- and messed up)

@@smithsmith1956 in his own priority list he comes in last yes, because he isn’t selfish. His wife will place him second though, the same as he places her, both equal behind their kid. That’s the deal. Mutual love for each other, combined parental love for the child. Marriage isn’t a scam, you’re very cynical. But you do have to pick your partner carefully.

@@AtheAetheling Not cynical, a realist. Marriage is a scam, just look at the laws and how they're geared to take everything from the man and gives it to the vvomen. It's a wealth transfer scheme. 67% of marriages end in divorce. 80% are filed by the vvomen (thanks no fault divorce). It's a scam. Period. And you should look into some evolutionary psychology studies. The wife is not putting the husband second. Almost no wife will. It's usually the kid, her, her parents, (usually mom then dad), then the husband. It's really rather depressing. I sometimes wish I didn't go get that degree. But I'd rather arm myself with the reality of it all so I don't get taken advantage of myself. And "not all" is not an argument. The exceptions do not disprove the rule. And you shouldn't make decisions off the minority. If you were to go skydiving and the instructor said your chute had a 67% chance of not opening, would you still jump? Because not all the parachutes are defective right? Not all.

@Kokeletso Tyobeka ?

@Kokeletso Tyobeka this isn’t reddit.

Not to mention that it's teaching the baby that when they cry they won't get their needs met = abandonment.

well idk if the story is true but there are people think lowly of the employees and treat them badly

What happened to gently tapping someone on the shoulder for attention?

Employee or not for someone not knowing you're there gives no one the right to hit anybody!!!

True

Because "the customer is always right" mentality. Whoever thought of that phrase has never worked in customer service and businesses need to stop thinking that the customer is immune to being wrong.

Again if her mother is allowed in there then the mother-in-law should be otherwise neither one unless there was previous tension between the two that wasn't mentioned then the OP is wrong in that story

@@scotteckert3955 So women are supposed to let people they're uncomfortable with stare at their vaginas?

@@scotteckert3955 because of course other people mothers is the same as our mother.

@@scotteckert3955 you people think it all woman is ok with someone seen they vagina ? She wants her mother and her husband because she trust them to see her in that way, it’s not a party.

I agree fully with the op @EeveeQueen15 ur completely right!

I wouldn't be surprised if the OP and her husband actually had issues before that.

I'm NOT understanding what is wrong with ppl who'd be in a scenario like this.GIVE THE BABY UP TO BE FED!!!!

Power trip to start with also it was a common occurrence for the mil to make the op BEG FOR HER BABY wtf

Yes. I would have just snatched my baby back.

Lmao If i was the husband I'd be like "Sure, and I'll be too busy going hunting that day, Robert Baratheon style. Have fun!"

That was such a stupid and rude thing to say to her MIL, she was definitely a jerk. She said that like males have the ability to give birth

I mean, it's rude, but it's funny. And I completely agree with the advice that was given: if the husband cannot support his wife's decision regarding their child, or her request for privacy, isn't that a red flag that he will continue to not support her decisions in their marriage? So then what kind of a marriage do they have? Couples should communicate with each other and find a solution that works for both of them, but in this case it kind of comes down to who the woman wants in the delivery room with her. I mean, *she's* the patient.

@@danelfernandez6571 that was the point. Men will never understand the pain and stress of childbirth. They don't carry it in their wombs for 9 months while being miserable all the time, having morning sickness, back pain, just the worst possible time ever. They won't have to spread their legs in a compromising and uncomfortable way for everyone to see and try to push the baby out for 1-2 hours. All of this is what the mom has to go through. So she's in her ultimate right to choose who can accompany her. If only her own mom and husband will make her feel okay, then so be it. The MIL is genuinely awful cuz not only did she not take the "no" for an answer and further pushed the question, she deliberately asked this in front of everyone so she'll (look to be) in the right in any outcome....as we unfortunately witnessed. The poor mom to be was 100% right. And the husband is pathetic.

Same I am sarcastic as hell so yeah this had me 💀 Her husband at the moment when his mother kept insisting should have shut it down before the OP felt she had to say what she said so she and the husband having some talking to do if he won’t support her then I say goodbye sir. Having someone in the delivery room that your uncomfortable with can complicate a birth and guess what if a nurse or doctor realizes who is making the mother uncomfortable they can and will kick that person out because you are putting both mother and child at risk during a medical procedure even dads can be kicked out.

I think that time he was a jerk cause he did not know that it was his food

@@greenwrath9655 but he also knew it wasn't his own either

@@greenwrath9655 It's a fridge. not a store shelf. No food is going to be in there for no reason. Dude fucked around and found out.

exactly

What pisses me off is the people thinking OP is the jerk. You don't steal people's food. Maybe OP needs to steal everybody elses lunches.

Being just as much of a grandmother also isn't the point at all. People being there is for the purpose of giving support to the woman giving birth, and she wanted just her husband and her own mother there.

I doubt the husband was there in the end if they had issues before hand

Hey you are 100% correct but it seems I don't really get why what she said was so bad, yes her sentence was was something impossible and now think that, yes telling someone to do want they want in a way that's impossible it's kinda weird (because you telling them to don't do it

@@ftude836 Her words would come off as passive-aggresive by saying yes but only under a condition that we know won't happen, like you mentioned. I would personally say it's not that rude of a thing to say or do normally but in this particularity case since she said it towards her mother-in-law, which in theory should be respected (tho not necessarily true in all cases) this makes it even more shocking for her to be showing a bad attitude towards her mother in law. Tho the husband's mother was clealry pestering her about something she didn't felt comfortable so I can see why she would wan't to put a stop to her.

@@mica4977 oooh ok it makes a little more sense if you think like that, that she was saying towards someone who you on most cases should pay respect, and especially if we take at acount that she was in front of her husband's whole family, yes, she was kinda rude to them too

@@ftude836 Yeah makes it worse that she said it in front of so many people.

The sentence that originally came to mind was "you can still see the baby while I'm in the recovery room". But nope. She had to be a giant ass. The subreddit is "am I the jerk" not "am I legally in the right" and for the former question, ESH. The MIL for pestering and the woman for her comment.

You just don't slap anyone, period.

U goofy af if u think anybody other than God come before my mother

@@RyanStaySilent_ you're literally 10... 99% of people would choose their OWN child over their mother.

@@torik02 fr

@@RyanStaySilent_ You do know that a newborn need to be fed every 2 hours for health and growth. Plus the child needs both the nutrient and antibodies from a mother's milk. A newborn has a very low antibody so it's very important for a child to drink a mother's milk. If the mother didn't feed the child all the time it's equal to child neglect and the child will be taken into custody.

@@RyanStaySilent_ fine, just never marry or have kids.

apparently

My mother in law did. This with my first child. I supported my wife when it happened. I ended up kicking my mother in law and her husband out. My father in law was nearly kicked out that day as well. (Note: my wife’s parents both divorced and remarried.)

Legit, gets more messed up when you think about how the mother knew the baby needs feeding ...babyes cry and visibly show their need

You mean malnourishment, 2 different things.. Not starving to death.

@@deamerican49352 You can starve without starving to death tho Malnourishment is more specifically about nurishment, wich technically you could be without starving... If you were trying to survive on rocks or something Malnurishment as a simpton is generally seen as phisical manifestations of these

Seeing genitals > Seeing a human being being born Priorities

But it does kinda seem like favoritism. Both her mom and the husband would be there, but not the husband's mom. I understand completely why his mom would be upset. And she absolutely was a jerk for her "clapback". There were a lot of better ways, but that was definitely one of the worst ones.

@@MrJr1976 the mother needs to be comfortable in the delivery room. Is she’s stressed, it can cause a delay in labor and cause issues,

@@gothica3605 Here's an easy solution. Have only the husband be there and both mothers in the recovery room. Instead of making the totally rude comment she did. She can blame it on hormones or whatever, but she NEEDS to apologize then offer the recovery room.

@@MrJr1976 the hell she does. mil put mother to be on the spot, in public. was rejected multiple times and continued to not take no for an answer. husband and mil owe mother to be apology. mother to be needs to divorce and ghost

it was a self entitled choice tho. All because she doesn't share blood with the mother in law. It is the sons baby as well. And the fact that her mother is gonna be there is very fishy. To feel stressed out because the son's mon is in their means there is hatred there. We have to be bigger than blood. Bigger than our egos. But still, the son should not have tripped out that bad. But it was disrespectful what she said and hes being petty. this whole thing is a drama shit show.

@@JuJu-he8ck this isn't about ego. Do you want a person you don't know that well/aren't that close with to be there when you're giving birth for 1-2 hours in the most excruciating pain possible while in a compromising and uncomfortable position? HELL TO THE NO! She'll have doctors and nurses there, she doesn't need another pair of curious prying eyes on her! You clearly sound like a man so of course you'll never understand.

@@JuJu-he8ckno it isn’t. If I was giving birth the only person that I would let in would be my mother. Because she is the only person I would feel safe enough with. Giving birth is one of the most painful, compromising, not to mention possibly fatal event in a woman’s life (I actually have increased odds for the fatal one due to a chronic illness that runs in the family). I don’t want anyone to see me like that except my mom. If I was in OP’s place I would have immediately removed the husband from the list (hospitals have this list that says who is and isn’t allowed in the birth room and only the woman’s wishes apply for obvious reasons) after he said that.

​@@JuJu-he8ckno, it's not because she doesn't share blood, It's because she has known HER own mother for her entire life, and also did you know, her mother most likely also birthed her? 😱

If you need help you need ask. And embarrassment is a lesson that will stick around for a long time. I sorry that he was forced to make an impression on someone who is old enough to know right and wrong and what you are supposed to do.

Still a jerk. I know that its an intimate thing that most people would like to keep private, but explaining that in a thorough way was the right way, maybe say youll think about it and say no in private. Was the MIL out of line? Yes, was she a jerk? Also yes. Also, you dont disrespect your husband's mother in her own house just because you're pregnant... its not a get out of jail free pass, you can still be called out.

Perhaps Jerky but mil was asking at the dinner table in front of the whole family if my relatives was doing that shit I'd actually throw some food at them and tell them to shut up (yes I know its not better I don't care you don't talk about things like that at the dinner table ESPECIALLY when you've been told no)

like this yea i got slap twice and pushed but thats my fault i should of just said no to my disability and heard her talking to me

@@unknownpainting4788 Dude he can't hear.

@@theeclipseforestplays6409 stupid I know

@@unknownpainting4788 Then why did you say "and heard her talking to me"? That makes no sense since he's deaf.

@@theeclipseforestplays6409 it was a joke about him telling his disability to just stop being a disability and hear her

The op is clearly the jerk

she needs to run for the hills

I consider disabilities as Inconveniences

@@darthjarjar223 yep I don’t have a disability but a friend of mine has a problem with her jaw I think I don’t know what it is but she has trouble speaking sometime I don’t think it hurts her she’s friendly and nice

@@darthjarjar223 They can be inconvenient but I think it's bad to think of them as just that, especially seeing that there are people that don't struggle that have it, there are deaf people living like they aren't deaf, I mean even cats that are paralyzed from the waist down act like they are any normal cat. So they can be inconvenient but not all the time, they can be inconvenient when you first get it (If you weren't born with it) and can be inconvenient with people that don't understand the no parking spaces in parking lots, and don't forget Karens, but otherwise they are normal people that just have a different way of how their body works

@@zuruaeclipse good point

It was so obvious that he was not the jerk, though.

I was looking for a comment saying that in the last story everyone was in the wrong one way or another. I can understand all 3 points of view: 1. I can understand the wife being frustrated with her mother-in-law not taking no for an answer, although the way she snapped is not the right way to go about it. Also it is ultimately her decision to make who is there with her. 2. I can understand the mother-in-law being frustrated that she isn't allowed in the room, but she was way out of line by not only dropping it on her during a family dinner but also not taking no for an answer. 3. I can understand the husband siding with his mother to an extent, after all the wife's mother is allowed to be there, but he responded in a disgusting way and should have sided with his wife. The situation was escalated by the wife, and could only be saved by the husband... but he didn't.

​@@kayschut9327nah. MiL and soon to be ex-husband were in the wrong. Never mess with a pregnant woman who can already be short fused.

@@cybermainstream Everyone did something wrong here. Being pregnant is the reason she freaked out, not a justification. As I said, the only one that could save the situation was the husband.

The worst part is that “the customer is always right” is never used correctly, it was meant to say customers decide what sells I.e. if customers start buying turkey stock more turkey, it had nothing to do with customer service

To me only time it is for repairs is what might have happened am their home

Not just America.

@@deathgodshewasanillusionin6893 Indeed. It is a capitalism problem.

@@xemnahort2 yep! The full quote is, "The customer is always right in matters of taste." Has nothing to do with letting any ole fucker walk all over you.

Besides the use of stepmother, I think k you meant mother in law? I'm 100% agreeing. But also, if mama says "give me back my kid" you do it.

That is how the OP responded. She did nothing wrong she has the right to choose who she wants in the room. Her mother being their is a big moment in every pregnant woman's life.

@@bluedragonfox are we forgetting that that baby is the husbands child too?

@@Phoenix-vb2us It's his baby too, obviously, but its HER body. He's not the one the baby is coming out of, and he's not the one with his legs spread to push their son out of. Having someone other than your parent, partner, and doctor seeing you in such a compromising position sounds awkward and embarrassing. The MIL could always see the baby right after, it's not about her.

Also, isn't the whole point about having people in the delivery room to help the mother? So obviously she picked the two people who mattered most to her and would make her the most comfortable. It's more than just the baby's first moments that goes down in there. Both mother and child are top priority.

@@theycallmedaddy1307 yes tbh i would feel pretty awkward and uncomfortable if theres other fam member other than my mom and my husband.

She didn't do it for stress bro. It's clear her intentions as you can hear in the way she replied. I get what you are saying but she did it for self entitlement. Look at the way she responded. She said when your son gets pregnant then you can be in the delivery room which is absolutely disgusting. She's doing it because of an ego thing. It doesn't hurt to have the other grandparent in there. If someone feels stressed cause of that there is hatred towards that person even if it's a small amount. The only reason she's not allowing her is cause they don't share blood. It is 50/50 it is the son's baby as well. They need some internal spiritual work to see that to feel uncomfortable because of a person who wants to support is ridiculous.

​@@JuJu-he8ckshe replied to that after consant badgering from the mil when she was already told no.

​@@JuJu-he8ckit's a privacy thing as well. MIL can stare at her sons privates for two hours but she's not entitled to stare at someone's Privates, who does not want to have her see their privates. Her own mother birthed her, changed her when she was a baby, she already saw all of that because she produced OP. Mothers are the primary caregivers to their kids, and if their kid is in pain then the mother should be there as comfort if the kid wants her there. The MIL could be some rando from the street staring at her privates while she is in pain. Birth is a vulnerable situation for the mother-to-be.

Which one

Story 3 not 2

what one was this

sad charges

She is the jerk here. There is no reason to refuse mother in law in recovery room

too many of these stories people are overly nice and get walked all over. It's refreshing to hear one where the guy having his food stolen messed with the guy doing it and embarrassed him.

@@frozenfresh6406 I agree with his justice

Ya I wouldn’t be surprised if they got divorced

I think the mother to be was quite gentle with the way she turned her mother down. She was polite at first and then used pointed wit on second asking. The fact the MIL run off crying suggests she is either manipulative (crocodile tears to elicit sympathy or she is genuinely upset and will be an overbearing MIL as in number 3) either way the mother to be is not the arsehole but her partner certainly is.