Glossary: Katie - Katie is Katie Steven Fields - Katie's caseworker Allison Kaplan - Katie's new therapist Jackie Keller - New Foster Mum Mark Keller - Jackie's husband and science teacher Diane - Daughter in highschool Matthew - Son in Highschool John - Foster son (16) Whimsy - the dog Susan Cummings - previous foster mother (the poo in burger meat one) Karen Miller - previous previous foster mother (tied Katie to chair) Patreon link - www.patreon.com/mylittlethoughttree
sometimes it's difficult to imagine how things could have been different for you when you were a kid going through something rough, what would you have said to little you in those moments? it's hard to think of something that would really have been helpful if you'd never heard or witnessed an example. this video, this is a wonderful example. this is a great series
That “yeah, no” exchange brought an infectious smile to my face. I’m going to New York from Indiana, away from home for a year. I’ve been pretty sad leaving my friends and family, so thank you for bringing a smile to my face :D
It's interesting; I was sort of the opposite of Katie. I was withdrawn, hyper-vigilant, and afraid of anger--mine or others'. And yet, I could have benefited from hearing what the therapist said to Katie, "It's okay to be angry." I had a lot of repressed anger and hurt, which led to depression, and was in my 40's before a therapist helped me to release that hurt and anger. It was a major step forward for me. PS--Love this series.
i relate to katie in some way. i was stuck in a very toxic friend group at the ages of 10-12 . things like breaking my trust in almost every context, tearing down my self worth. i can’t remember much from that period, but i remember mostly the feelings. over the course of those years i just stopped trying to be close to people. took me years to relearn how to trust. i understand katie “pushing at the pillars” it felt like “they will hurt me at some point, why not now” sorry if this comment is a bit messy, i’m not the best with words
Gotta admit, I teared up watching that first therapy session. It's the first time we've seen something like genuine joy in Katie. Not fabricated to appear sweet, not smug because she "got away" with a bad thing by abusing the rewards program. Just... Simple joy, no strings attached.
I think it's funny that the way Jackie's dialogue is written sounds just like the advice for acknowledging children's feelings in other parenting books I've read, I love how well the Psychologist Talk lines up between different sources
I do wish it was, to be honest, then making these videos wouldn't dent my luck in the algorithm. Nonetheless, I'll keep making them because I love them and hope, with time, more people pick it up
I’m happy that therapists like this exist, and I wish there were more like them in the world, if not just people with the same amount of empathy involved, for children or people like this in general.
Sometimes I forget this isn't a real case! Even still, I'm so glad she has finally settled down into a house that in the future she will feel calm and safe in. She really has great people on her side and I'm excited about what you have to say next :D
Raising a child in general must be very hard. Helping a kid like Katie would be extremely hard. This is a fictional case, right? I wonder if all this would work so well with real life cases
It is fictional yes, however the psychologist who wrote it has spent decades doing this exact sort of work with real people and many of the experiences, though altered to help confidentiality and make the story a bit more clear, are based on real experiences he had with people
Every time I watch a new episode I get choked up! This time it was during that therapy session, the empathy was overwhelming! haha. I'm looking forward to seeing even more progress on Katie's part, and her being able to accept love and feelings of safety from her new family.
I just found your channel and have binge watched all Katie videos. Thank you for making such important and thoughtful content! So happy I stumbled upon this! I’ll be looking forward to your future videos 🙂
Watch one other video on your channel and algorithm would not stop recommending me the series by you and I'm so glad that I checked it out. Fantastic work man thank you.
Ah, I'm so happy to see Katie getting the kind of help that will make her feel safe and cared for! I love this series. Wonderful video covering the techniques used! Thank you so much for continuing with this book, MLTT! On a side note, I really liked the bouncing gait in this video too; watching it felt very upbeat and positive. Perfect choice of footage to complement the topic, seeing that things are improving for Katie now. :)
I had a fight with my teenager and let it escalate.. Seeing this makes me feel a bit ashamed for not handling it better.. Caught me at a very low point and i didn't let the argument go.. In fact made it worse... I was and am so disappointed with myself.. I usually apologise if I am unreasonable but in this case I was not but still could have found a better way...
I wouldn't be harsh on yourself. No parent ever gets it right every time and, though it's early into the story, Jackie will show the same imperfection herself. Don't scorn yourself over it. Just trust, even if teenagers rarely show or admit it, they care too and that everything can be repaired
Found your channel today and went through this analysis series so quickly. Love your stuff! I am studying to be as an occupational therapist specializing in children & youths, so this kind of content is just up my ally. So happy I found your channel!
I´ve just binge-watched the entire series (13 episodes at this point) and joined you patreon because of it. And I told myself that it would help if I created some engagement here for the algorithm so I am commenting the videos now, which I usually don´t do Thank you and I want to assure you that it´s great and important work.
I like in the "Yeah/No I won't" interaction between Allison and Katie, they're not only playful but they're more specifically *playing at being disobedient*. That's something I've found myself doing a lot with my toddler too and I feel it's got to be something powerful for children, maybe even more for a child like Katie for whom opposition to adults is such a constant experience. Like, if children (and all playful animals really) use play to practice certain behaviors in a safe setting, the thing about defiance and disobedience is that it's *never* safe to do. By its nature it's always going to make your adult caretaker upset, and that's inherently unsafe. So insofar as children feel the urge to experiment with defiance and disobedience - and why would they not - it's always going to come at a cost. Unless the adult caretaker explicitly allows it by making a game of it like Allison did. I think it's interesting too how she set up hugs as the "punishment" in her game - I'm not watching all of these videos in order but I got the vibe that Katie doesn't really do hugs or physical contact, is that right? If so it's kind of an interesting way of offering them in a way that makes sense to her - she's not really being hugged, she's being "hugged" in a game where hugs are a punishment, which is both a humorous, playful inversion (everybody knows people *like* hugs, they're the opposite of punishment!) but also low-key how she actually feels about them. So they're good for the game, of riding that line between realistic responses and obvious fakery that makes a game effective, and as a side-effect Katie gets a (real) positive experience of being hugged.
I think the fake playful punishments she mentioned if she spilled the milk again would've made me retreat emotionally. Possibly push away physically....
I know you say this series might not be as popular, but I would listen to anything you make because your voice is so soothing ! I listen to your vids all the time in the background : )
I love this series. I've been watching since the beginning. The adults that interact with Katie, especially starting with the last video, are so amazingly wise, especially Allison and Jackie.
It’s called routine children even though they didn’t like it and as adults you know someone don’t like it were in a routine whether we like it or not as children and adults
As someone who has ptsd from childhood abuse this makes me sad because it makes realize on how much i missed out on developmentally/attachment wise. I tend to self isolate
