Join us as we take a break from our normal format and dig into being a better father. This is something that has been on our mind since we have 10 kids represented in the 3 dads on our podcast! We will be skipping the normal three segments (What's on your mind, top 3, and a good word) and we will be talking about traits and characteristics of being a good father. We are using this article 23 Qualities of a Good Father - Traits & Characteristics written by Jeff Campbell from newmiddleclassdad.com. The plan is to cover about 3 qualities per episode. Since the ages of our kids are spread between 20 and 5, we'll have some insight that will help all of our listeners!
7. Model the behavior you expect from them
Don’t want them swearing at school? Guess what you shouldn’t do in front of them?
Want to teach your sons to be respectful to women? They will model how you treat their mother. Lose your cool every time someone cuts you off in traffic? You’re teaching them to be impatient and hot-headed.
The qualities of a good father have to include you leading by example.
8. Explain to them the “why” behind the rule
How many times have parents said “because I said so” or “because I’m your father”.
Guess what? Those aren’t reasons (at least not good ones).
It’s crucial that kids understand why they are being grounded. Why a privilege is being taken away or even why they can’t watch Saw III.
As Dave Ramsey is fond of saying, “to be clear is to be kind”.
When they understand, they will be more apt to accept it. They’ll be less apt to do it again (if they were doing something wrong). And (perhaps most importantly) they will respect you more for taking the time to explain yourself and not just pull rank.
9. Give yourself a timeout when needed
When we talk to our kids in the heat of the moment we aren’t always in the best frame of mind to deal with them.
There’s NOTHING wrong with waiting to have a conversation until you are in the frame of mind to communicate effectively.
Talking to them when we are angry at best makes them yell back.
Then it escalates the whole thing.
Neither is actually listening to the other and instead just waiting their turn to talk (or yell). At worst, it teaches our kids to be scared of us and being scared of our parents is one of the worst feelings we can have.
Being a “do as I say, not as I do” parent has no place in your description of a good father.
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