Kids Don’t Deserve Cupcakes?!? | Mocktails with MommaCusses 

Hi, as a 33 year-old woman with cptsd due to childhood trauma, I wanted to thank you for all of your content. I have a child now myself, 5 yo, and it amazes me how much mothering I didn't receive... simply watching you and your daughter interact. I am forever grateful for these examples, that I can tuck away for later, so that I can be a better mother to my son and be the mother I never had.

Gwena: No one likes chewing their drink. Me: slurping up Bubble Tea.

Playing AITA with a teen to encourage open communication is such a lovely idea!

I love the way these two interact with each other and how they are so understanding of each other.

The spider man one I feel like the fact he gave her plenty of warning that he wanted it at a certain time indicates he DOES know how to share, better than the sister does. This is the line he should have taken with his Mum.

The AH in the Banana cupcake story was Mom. And here's why. The way her child reacted when he noticed there were no more, told me that Mom has catered to his every desire since day one, and he's never been on the receiving end of a consequence. Her response should have been to stop that crying, screaming BS and taking him out of the shop. My mother taught me that I wasn't the center of the universe, and if I wanted something I would do what it took to get it. ❤ Love you both working together ❣️

WOW, the Brother is NOT the AH for 2 reasons: 1) It's his game system and cartridge. He bought it with HIS money. 2) He was generous enough to let his sister use it in the first place, but then was also aware enough to give her ample time checks. "Hey I need you off in 45 minutes..." both nights. That sister is an AH, and Mom is wrong for taking her side. I think his statement to Mom was 100% on the mark, though it was blunt, he is right. She has no authority over the use of HIS game.

The moment that Abby is muddling the Mellon and Gwenna is fighting the urge to snatch it is hilarious

Banana cupcake story: That was a great opportunity for mum to teach her child how we can't always have what we want and redirect them to another option. Indulging her child's response might mean they struggle with emotional control later in life. It's okay for kiddo to be upset and their feelings are valid but even if we are disappointed, it doesn't mean we should get something over someone else.

I love this. Does Abby even realize the critical think skills she had to use in the AITA? No it wasn't life and death but you could see how she was raised to think about the situation and consequences.

Best mother daughter duo on RU-vid

I love how you are so open with each other. I am turning 16 this year, just like Abby, and I also have a very understanding mom. It's nice to see that people are communicating with their children in a way that doesn't hurt or humiliate them. Watching videos with Abby always brings a smile to my face, 'cause she's really cool and mature and it's just awesome to see that in the new generation. :)

Absolutely good on dad for going to the beach. Oldest needs special attention with a new baby around.

The AITA about sharing drove me nuts! Birthdays are the only times my kids get solo gifts, bar rewards which they earn themselves. They are 2, 4 and 5 and EVERY ONE OF THEM knows that if it isn't yours, and you don't have permission, you leave it. And when the owner asks for it back (We encorage giving warning, which OP did) we give it back, because it is not yours. It's done as a way to drive home an extention on concent importance. I have never done the "Oh, my kid wants something of mine so I'm going to give it" so they know when they ask, they're likely getting a no. They appreciate being offered and don't just expect something that isn't theirs. The boys are neurodivergent (Possibly the daughter too but she's mild so apparently only I care...) so I feel like it is extra important for them. In high-school there was a lot of people just invading space, touching and taking peoples things and since I had 0 space/boundaries or privacy at home I thought it was normal, and I was somehow stupid for feeling violated. I never want that for my kids. Idk what the heck was wrong with the mother in the story. The OP gave so much warning. If all 3 of my littles can process "We come off at 5pm" for screens, and a "Finish what you're doing and come off screens" at 4:45pm, surely teens and adults can process that when the property isn't even theirs?

I love that you and Abby played this together and that you let her weigh in before talking AND that she feels comfortable enough actually weighing in instead of giving an answer that would match yours. That says a lot about the openness and mutual trust and love that you have for each other, and it makes me happy. ❤

Gwenna way to make a well rounded highly insightful respectful self aware teen! Hats off to ya❤️

Im so surprised with Abby and how she can evaluate and assess different situations. You’re doing an amazing job. When I was 15, I was clueless. Had a really hard time because of many bad decisions.

Love this! Abby is so mature and uses reasoning & critical thinking so responsibly. If more 15yo were this insightful! Imagine 25-30 yo! Great young adult!

The alliteration wasn't ruined! It's "Mocktails with MommaCusses ft AITA with Abby"! 😁👍

“So cringey.” “Shut up and muddle your melon.” Lmfao 😂🤣

"shut up and muddle you melon" this line will forever live rent free in my head 😂😂😂

That mocktail sounds really good. If you want to get extra fancy, maybe put some tajin or salt along the rim. Both of those are pretty good with watermelon on its own.

i love that you are both open and honest while holding boundaries. Thank you

Seeing the mother-daughter relationship I’ve wanted and want to give to my future child one day is so heart warming and so inspiring! Love the content! ❤

More Abby content please! She adds so much. You two vibing is a good time.

Re:Spider-Man - He gave her plenty of warning. Sis agreed to the time. Time came, she didnt hold up her end of the bargain. Mom should be on the daughters case for not holding up her end of the bargain and then whining about bro enforcing his boundaries.

Please make more videos like this...I love the way the topic is discussed not just one person forcing their own opinion on the other...their was wonderful discussion...You have raised your daughter very well...

Thank you for spreading how to be a gentle parent. I was emotionally neglected an abused by my parents. They both only had a high school education. Mix that with my mother being the kind of person who cannot be wrong. I am fortunate I loved the field of psychology and took myself to counseling starting age 18. I got a masters degree in speech pathology. Mix that with not having children until I was in my 30s, I did not repeat the same mistakes as my parents. I wanted my children to know that I love them for who they are and not for who I want them to be.

You two are awesome together! Story 2 and 3 are the reasons why we have so many initialed brats. I also got my daughter to ask about touching dogs before interacting with them, and you never go towards the face even if they seem nice. Love watching your channel.

"wait, are you wearing watermelon makeup? yes cause we are making watermelon drinks. your so cringy!" she is hilarious

Ya'll are a riot! Thank you so much for showing us that there are some cool moms out there and what a positive relationship between mother and daughter is. ❤

i love yalls relationship. i have cptsd and depression and ive just been watching u nonstop. its the onlly thing making me feel safe rn

What a really cool way to connect with your teenager. You spend oneon one time together and get to explore how she feels about potential life situations that might cause conflict in a safe non threatening way! Inreally like the waythat you parent!

Genuinely loved this! Your mother-daughter dynamic is wonderful. You’ll both love having videos like these to look back on. I’m really close with my mom so this reminded me of what our relationship looked like when I was a teenager (i.e., open communication, trust, respect, and so many laughs). I don’t ever watch content with youth/children, because I find almost all of it to be inappropriate and exploitative, but you and your daughter have clearly discussed boundaries for content together and it makes it all the more enjoyable to see. Best wishes to you both. ❤

The Dad with the older son, go, spend as much time as you can. My husband passed away from cancer when our son was 4 yrs old. Life happens, time is fleeting, precious moments need to be made!

Great vid. My dad was a police dog handler for most of my life. So we grew up with the same understanding of dogs that you taught your littles. However, the police had a tent at local county shows (weird that London areas had county shows now I think about it). I’m the tent were the fast cars and motorbikes that the kids were allowed to sit in/on, the police horses and dogs. Yes, they are trained track & attack dogs, but they are also family dogs and really are comfortable around littles. Oh my god. I’ve just realised my dad used us kids to train his freaking dogs, i mean beyond hiding us in garbage bins for them to find us. He used us to teach the dogs to be good with Kids!!! Im 50 & that’s only just dawned on me. Holy mother of a cow!!! Anyway, the dogs had to be trained to be good with other peoples womb fruit because they are often in crowded areas and not all people understand to ask. My dad had a side hustle using the dogs to help people overcome their fear of dogs. We have a rescue who is super anxious around strange dogs on walks. So we are very careful with him when other dogs walking the kids approach us. We move to the side of the footpath, doggo sits, we stand in front and get his focus completely on us. We also have a yellow ‘anxious rescue’ lead. But it’s amazing how many dog owners don’t know the significance of neon yellow and orange leads. That’s got worse since people have got first dogs during the lockdowns. But im totally with the last person being a ‘not asshat’. The mother shouldn’t have made a decision like that when it’s not her dog in the first place, but to be fair, she may not understand the dog as well as the dog mama. Keeping other people/animals at a safe distance from your dog is protecting and being mindful of your dogs wellbeing. That comes first over the happiness of a strangers kid. Sorry, not sorry. ❤

This was such a fun video. I found you about a year ago when I was first pregnant. No I'm a new mama with a 3 month old baby. And watching your videos have helped ease so much anxiety and given me so much realization. I love your version of gentle parenting and your sense of humor. You've raised an amazing daughter and seeing the bond you share and the mutual respect you have for each other is truly beautiful. Also thank you for the mock tail recipe, looks delicious 💚💜🩵💛🧡

I was 18 the first time i went overseas, but the difference was my mom would try and take me places when i was younger, whether it was walking to the library or grocery store. This mom sounds like she wants her kid to stay dependant on her, because otherwise she would have offered to take them on a family trip that's similar to the place they want to go to, like go to the Smithsonian and take the metro to get there. Telling an adult not to go will either result in resentment or run away like this kid was preparing to do. The flat out refusal to not listen to the kid's feelings is what they did wrong, his reaction wouldn't have been so bad if they took the time to listen. My mom was still terrified id get lost but she didn't let that fear stop me from having an experience. And because i was used to finding my way i was able to lead my group back to the meeting point even though it wasn't the same route we came from. You cant stop kids from having experiences, you can only prepare them.

In the ps5 discuss, the brother also warns the sister that in 30 minutes - I want the game. Giving her 30 more minutes to finish up what she's doing. #brothersnottheasshole!

I raised my daughter by myself, we had so much fun, she is 31 now and every time we are together it's still like mothers day.

I like that you two are discussing life situations that come up IRL, and the ramifications of behavior and decisions. Brava.

If there had not been a past history of trips to the beach with son #1, I would be on Mom's side. But there is, and son #2 is obviously much younger than son #1, and dad's right, he won't care now if he wasn't included. Let's check back in in a couple yrs and see what's happening on Father's day when he is older. ❤

I love this “friendship” so much!! You both remind me of me and my mother and now me and my son. Love to watch you guys so much💛💛

Omg, yall doing AITA is like the convergence of my all-time favorite sides of RU-vid ❤ I loved the mid video chaos. If this was something yall enjoyed, I would definitely watch more of this.

Not Abby giving the death state to her straw when she was struggling to get a drink

Getting the giggles and being unable to continue is so relatable.

I got a cocktail with a silly straw to cheers with you guys, it was delightful! Also I just love how you broke Abby at the end, she was laughing so hard she was laughing on mute😂

Yooo 10/10 love the dynamic and I love how Abby is so good at speaking and getting her point across, well done!

I freakin love you two and you give me hope for my generation and the newer ones as well. You're both so damn humble I love it. Keep being you Gwenna and Abbi.

This is a great video. Love the two of you hanging out and laughing. Good job!!!

Love your content and the interaction that you have with Abby. She is such an amazing young woman. The fact that you both value each other's opinions and can show that parents can have serious conversations with their children to discuss issues that most wouldn't. Can't wait to see the next bit of content

I love this - what a wonderful way to have meaningful time and conversation with your kiddo. You're amazing, Momma! Thank You for sharing (and for the fun idea)!

This relationship reminds me so much of my sister, mom and I growing up. You can see the friendship here, I love you guys so much ❤

I'm a pregnant mom who has been craving a fancy drink lately and I just wanted to say thank you for this. I know there's other videos on how to make mocktails but this is just so perfect, you doing this with your daughter.

I love the way you tease each other, laugh with each other and genuinely enjoy the other's company. ❤

1. Absolutely love the genuine fun you and your daughter were having. Made me laugh and was just so healing for me. 2. As someone who at 29 planned a trip for my 30th bday to see the aurora borealis (which is something I have said for the last 20 years I would love to go and see on my birthday cause it falls during that time of year) and then mentioned it in passing to my mom I’ve got it all planned and she tried to bring herself on the trip, include other people and then try to move the date to a day that was not my birthday so it’s more convenient for her… I 100% feel that kid’s struggle.

I think i would like to have this tradition with my baby when she gets to this age. It seems like a really nice way to open up natural discussion and a genuine dialogue between you and your child. It also creates a regular safe space in which it is only you and your child having real discussions where their input is valued as that of a peer rather than a child to a parent.

Mocktails with Momma cusses and my teen Abby. Keep the flow going! This reminds me of stuff me and my mom would do. 😂

Re dog: You’re allowed to be disappointed that the dog cannot be petted! However, its choosing what is safe for everyone. It’s safe for the dog who is not comfortable around children to feel comfortable. It’s safe for the child to not be missing part of their face. It’s safe for the mum of the child to not deal with the emotional trauma of their child being attacked by a dog with her consent that wasn’t actually hers to give!

I absolutely love the relationship you and Abbi have! Truly hope I have this kind of relationship with my kids as they get older. You're the best

Enjoyed this episode. Glad you are going to continue. I enjoy your humour and Abbie's willingness to participat. She is one smart cookie.

This was too cute, Abbi had me rollin! Love you two!

You two are hilarious to watch, I really enjoyed this. I definitely hope there’s more Abbi & Momma Cusses sit down vids like this in the future 💜🖤💜🖤

And YES please do more of these. It was really FUN and FUNNY.

I LOVE this mocktail show idea. I mean first, I am 3 weeks postpartum and nursing and love the mocktail inspiration and didn't know how much I needed this lol but second, I LOVE your interactions and discussions.

I hope that my mom gets to the Mocktail stage soon-ish. She is new to sobriety, and I would like to see what she's like working the program. I like a fancy drink and I am drinking for 2, so Mocktails are nice. No rush, obviously. I had a lemon Mocktail earlier today with paprika and cinnamon for the kick.

Loved this! You two have such a great relationship. :) Now, for the AITA with the kid who wants to travel…the missing piece IMO, is he still in high school? I’m not wild about his current situation, as every kid needs to learn to make decisions in a safe environment. My friend and I were just talking about how young/old seniors in high school can be based on cut off years.

Mamma Cusses, you are amazing! Thank you Abby for being on the videos.

It’s really nice watching how you two interact as mother and daughter :)

Love rhis video concept, what a great way to bond with your kid and talk about real life nuanced issues

We allllll "don't don't don't....okay" 😂😂😂

I'm a new mom and I love watching you and your family. You definitely help my confidence as I traverse motherhood ❤️

I've said it before but I have to say it again!! I very much admire the way you parent!!! The relationship you and Abby have is amazing and I can relate, I am very close with my mother and her parenting style was identical to yours. I've never been afraid to go to my mom with anything no matter how scared I was about it or if I had done something I shouldn't have. She ALWAYS made it very clear that I could come to her with anything even if I was in the wrong and her reassuring me of stuff like that just made us closer.

I absolutely love this and yalls relationship! So funny too, I'll definitely be watching more if you guys make them

Sweet mommy and daughter meeting of the minds!!! Love it❤

Love the energy 🥺💜 also the pic of Ab in the thumnail is RAD AS HECK

I need many more of these videos 😁 It was so much fun! I literally laughed out loud 🤣

I love your interaction together. Please give me more of these types of videos 😁

Love watching you both! Abby, girl you crack me up and remind me of my youngest bonus daughter.

You are a great momma. Great creative way to spend time with your baby. And that looks good ❤️

This is my new favorite way of experiencing am I the asshole. Listening to the two of you discus it is great!

LOVE this! I can't wait for more mocktails and chats!

Yall are so refreshing! Im 28 and live 5 hours away from my mom. I still wish we could hangout like this together. My mom is my favorite person/best friend combined ❤ its awsome to see abby so comfortably herself

Hey Gwenna! I just got your book in audio form, and I'm loving it ❤️ I love hearing your voice, it is so soothing. I hope you keep coming back with new material, you are amazing.

This is so wholesome ❤️ I hope I can have this relationship with my daughters when they're teens!

I miss my mother. We were so close and a lit like this. She was the love of my life. You and your daughter make me smile.

😂❤ i love you two! I look forward to more mocktails.

Abby has good taste in fruit. Watermelon is SO SO GOOD!

Yes I want to see more videos like this one, I think you are incredibly funny and it makes my day!!💜🤣

"In my belly" LOL

I love that Abby is joining you for videos, you guys make a great team

So glad y’all started this channel!!!!! You deserve a million trillion zillion views and likes ♥️ please keep adding your content! Amazing!

18:35 you and your daughter remind me so much of me and my mom. We get into laughing fits like this often.

i LOVE this!! you gals remind me of my teenagers and i! so love seeing other parents enjoy their teenagers!!

I’m loving the discussions your having over the “ am I the arsehole” hope you do lots more of these.

Im so not going to be mad i couldnt aleep and arumbled apon your wonderful page ! I e being a hand ful of hours .this had me .i miss spending awsome times with my kids .im truly enjoying watching u all and. The fam time ❤❤❤

This was great! My only comment is that chaos lunches and Roberta aside, Abbie has a mature outlook for her age. Kudos, Abbie!

I need more of this. Thank you.

This one was super fun. Looking forward to more in the future. Because we definitely need more drinks and conversation. ❤

I don't even have kids and probably never will, but I live long distance from my parents who I love a ton and find your mother-daughter content so cute and refreshing. I don't know anything about parenting, but you seem like such a good mom. I can so see your kids having the same relationship with you as adults as I have with my own mom: I"d move the earth for her