Ladies, avoid THIS type of man! (Men don't watch this...) 

I can see you 👀👀👀

bad hygiene!

If she can't use her brain

When they try to hide their phone... 👀

I can only imagine what this is goin to be about. Cuz I was that man for 45 years. God touched me February 24th 2022 and changed me now forever. Now I truly truly love my wife and everyone that I see in this world.

I hear man change every 5 years!🫤

Amen

Absolutely 💯

​@@wagderlinroman1432sad, we are to everyday..grow together

Soo true 👍

yesss

Yep

You ain't lie!! Omg thank you❤ confirmation

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Absolutely true

When you are healed and single it’s actually not hard at all. I pray everyone that has not been married yet get to experience that season before joining to someone else.

🗣️ looooouuuud

Tell me about it!!

Word!

For realssss

This is the one!!!!

Your name is My husband and I name together lol his name is Sydney mine is Michelle

Totally! Dealing with that too.

Actions speak louder than words.

Exactly

It's not when you let God guide you what is hard when you go against marriage and have no discipline in you in the marriage when you should have learn that while you was single.

TRUE 👍

Being single can be beautiful and satisfying as well, especially when your focusing on The Lord. ❤

@@ScarlettClark-id5it i agree

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Exactly

I can agree to this

My supervisor is like that, I don't think she's happy unless she's in control or bossing someone around.

Turn off for sure

Yep a narcissist 😅

You’re not alone with this thought. I unfortunately had my ex kid and till this day he swears his idea of making millions real quick will happen. No accountability of how to keep it coming or start it but everyone “hinders” him. My daughter and i are thriving in our community and he’s still with his mom.

God bless you Queen 🙏🏾👑

He sounds like a narcissist

I been there it hurts but that pain of realty has made us stronger and wiser

This was good stuff.

🙏🏾💯🫡

If you hellbent on leavin that legacy then you aint got that hunger yet. My Brother

Yessss

⁠@@johnwilkes01I think this comment goes over a lot of ppls heads. Very profound, very true. Thank you, My brotha

Yes

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Facts

Women always use the "controlling" word to say, THEY are the one not doing what they should be doing, and the man having to tell them or remind them what there role is.

These type of men cheat the most

Well, this man has some intelligence, but when he starts teaching that men rank higher than women in marriage for the sake of "flow" or because the bible says so. I drop out. Women have come too far and have worked hard to be automatically put in a lower position than her partner as soon as she says "I do". Just be respectful to each other. Equal partnership. Learn to get along with humility and mutual respect. You don't need titles and no one gets the last word!

Yes

That, and two people working for the same thing. You can say you want the same thing but if the effort on both ends isn't there, it's just empty words.

😂 sheesh this is on point 💯, but take it easy on the cooking part 😅 as long as the man can grill and bring im the food

So true, spot on . I been through that and saw the signs too late so sad

Video games aren’t all bad. I have a relationship with God but I’m also a gamer. I wouldn’t mind a man of God that I could game with instead of going out all the time.

Exercise and not liking animals aren’t red flags z maybe deal breakers… but red flag means toxic behavior.

@@rocachick860 that is a good trait of a wife

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For Some men, the only thing they can leave in anyone is their weak sperm.

Yeeeeeeesssssssssssssss!!!! This is it right here

Thank you for explaining this, I got a little confused on that part.

God is love though. you saying he aint enough ? stop soaking up things that conflict with who God is .... .. the whole reason why mankind fell was because they stepped away from God . he is the only one that does hold stuff together. its a matter of people trusting in love (which is Jesus himself) to do what he does. most people look to themselves which is how you end up with hard marriages and hard singleness like mentioned here. let love hold it together , if it doesnt hold its no love in it, because love never fails . PERIOD

@@Sassymaria777 I don't think you fully grasped what he meant when he said that "marriage sustains love". The concept of love within the relationship is NOT the problem, it's the COMMITMENT to keeping that love alive. And having that commitment is the key to sustaining your relationship/marriage with your significant other. This quote was never about doubting God's love or what He can do to sustain a marriage, this is about what YOU can do to keep your marriage alive. Because again, God can do ANYTHING, but He also won't force you to do things you don't want to do. That's the essence of this quote.

@@chewie221b no I don’t think you grasp what and who love is . Go read the word . Learn to believe it . Most don’t which is why they won’t have him . Pretty simple

@@Sassymaria777 Ok sassy Maria, sit down and be quiet! No one forced you to come here to give your opinion on what I THINK I GRASPED from what Lecrae said. This is what I got from what he said. So don't sit here and "preach" to me in my comment section about my relationship with God, because I could care less about your opinion if you're gonna talk down to me like that. If you're gonna add in to a conversation, be nice about it, don't crap talk in your "holier than thou" attitude about other people's relationships with the Lord saying that they don't read their Bible. You don't know me and I sure as hell don't know you. So take that attitude somewhere else!

Were you two married? God allows separation for sometime in some situations, but within that separation period we're supposed to be praying for deliverance for our spouse and remaining faithful to the marriage. Divorce and remarriage against a living spouse is not the will of God unless there was a case of someone commiting adultery. God encourages forgiveness and restoration, especially when children are involved within that marriage.

This IS toxic positivity. Its staying in an Illusion.​@@Anointed1s_TV

U deserve better..good, tht U understood n acted in it. ITS Worth it. Believe me.

Why do you love him ?

@@Anointed1s_TV what if narcisism is involved. i am sure God does not want his son or daughter to endure a life of N.A

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@@LecraeOfficial 😐

@@LecraeOfficial impossible 😱♥️

Some thing about seeing this makes me so happy

​@@LecraeOfficialyoooo, I've been watching your story ups and downs for 13 years now while also being on my own journey with the church and God etc. Your story and open dialogue for the past 13 years constantly inspired hope and faith in a God that transcends church

If they are to be the head of the marriage - the leader - it would make sense that they also have most of the responsibility for the success or failure of the marriage. You can’t have leadership without responsibility. I feel like most modern churches (led by men) miss this and harp on how to be submissive as opposed to the actual hard part, which is the leadership.

@@mtc-j9i well put 👏 ❤ thank you

I think he technically meant; Ur men lol 😂😂😭😭

I’m 14 I still ( probably Lord willing) have a lot of my life to go. One think I feel like would help me is talking to someone who’s old and near death to see what they would do different

@placefeature5329 If you don't have any elders in your family you can probably look into being a sitter at a hospice, hospital, or nursing home. You can read to them and just keep them company. Look into it, you probably may need to be a little older but it's a life experience worth having.

True, love should never hurt

It may be your calling to be single ask God for dicernment.

@@carolinpurayidom4570 I honestly believe that. That entire situation was weird. He asked me to go out for coffee and when I got to where we were meeting, I heard tell him this is not that.(God's way of saying no). I was cool with what God told me. I had a lot of things going on in my life at that time. God knows when we are ready. His reaction to me is what threw me off. I wasn't expecting that. Yet, I found out later that he went to our lay Pastor and asked him if he could date me but then he says to me that dating is not his thing. Ummm, ok. He was previously married and was married for many years. I asked him how long he was divorced and his answer was, God is still working on me. I didn't ask him that but some time later he told the entire Bible study group how long he'd been divorced. Ummm, ok. Divorce is a hurtful thing to go through. When two people marry, they are joined together to make one flesh and a divorce tears that apart. That's why divorce hurts so much. It like being spiritually torn apart. The entire situation hurt my feelings but the Scripture says, the blessings of the Lord makes one rich and He adds no sorrow to it. We weren't in a relationship but yet he acted in a very selfish and self-centered manner. One Sunday I was at Church and he saw a ring on my ring finger on my left hand. When he saw it, he told me congratulations. I said what are you talking about and he pointed to my finger. I told him that I'm not married and if I was, I would tell everyone about it. My thought was, why are you concerned about me being married and even if I was, that's none of his business. Like I said, I forgave him but he mishandled me. I'm almost 60 yrs old. I don't have time for that. I was married years ago(my own doing) and it took God years to grow me to where I am today. I am too old to be making mistakes like that. A relationship has to do with our souls and we can't allow just anything or anyone to enter just because we get lonely out we want to have sex. Thank you for saying that. I wasn't looking and I don't look. To be honest, I believe that it was a distraction. I know when the enemy is trying to come for me. When I see him, it difficult for him to talk to me and the reason why it's difficult because he knows what took place. Regardless, he is still my brother in Christ. I'm not mad at him but I'm wise when I'm around him. I've been saved for over 30 yrs. I won't make time for foolishness.....I chose my hard and I love it....

@@carolinpurayidom4570 I believe that and I am fine with that as well....

Amen ❤

I did not gamble. I saw my husband was a reliable man and only after I was sure of that, did I commit and we got married. Marriage should not be a gamble

No what women are doing level up and now these men seat around playing with themselves and looking crazy with they homeboys playing video games. Now these women got 6 figure income and stop having babies with these men and buying home and traveling. Now you seeing they with these Asian men A Tokyo man or a man from the Island they are in Africa right now boo up and they get married overseas to Jamaican men. And they are during International Love. Go my sister's 😊 In one country had to shut down First graders because they didn't have enough kids to put kids in school Women saying okay we just take care ourselves because men don't want too

If that’s your outlook then that’s what you’ll get. Every man doesn’t do that. As a man thinketh so is he.

Okay, then leadership would mean (in this case) admitting this with HUMILITY and allowing his woman to guide him without it affecting his masculinity. Which is then toxic if this is the case.

@Nunya-bp5sw I don't think a woman always wants to be led by a man either, especially when they have the title of leader, over her, while she's supposed to submit. That's pretty toxic to me. I think both genders can live together and guide each other and lead each other. It doesn't have to be a hierarchy.

As a woman, I know for a fact that females mentally mature sooner. Look it up on the Internet. It is true

​@@rockinrollin8306Our Father in Heaven is a God of order. God created that hierarchy for a nuclear family. In the Trinity between God, Jesus Christ, and The Holy Ghost, there is a hierarchy with God being the Head. That hierarchy supposed to be upheld by love instead of legalism. God made man to lead and gave women to help man discern situations. It's our natural function and strengths within society.

Well it's due to sin in the world. Not every boy grew up in wholesome household with a mother and a father. There are a lot of boys being raised within broken homes due to some uncontrollable circumstances like death of parents, divorce, incarceration, and abandonment. Some fathers are just toxic and terrible fathers. We have to get to the root of the problem, sin. We have to fix the things that are accessible to fix (marriages), if we want boys to become men by hold couples accountable to their marriages and treatment of their spouses. We also have to fight against the injustices that fathers face (being targeted and railroaded by the law and government). We also need to be honest about the majority within society not wanting to help raise fatherless children. This is why we preach about the Father to the fatherless, because He is the best example of masculinity for boys.

Thank you man.

It is so true. Many have made marriage, the one they want to marry, or their spouse an idol.

Wow You said it!! It really is idolatry. And an obsession as you say! Jesus has no place any longer in our thoughts. We look to other people and conventions. We don't depend on Him or focus on our relationship with Him.

When you have joy in being single, you have strength to know it's ok. 🙏💛

Show me your ways… maybe it’s hard because I have kids

@@laCarrentals-of9qdthat’s it definitely

It perfectly coincides with something I said to my younger brother. I had a male coworker that would say that all of his exes were crazy. It got me to thinking 🤔. I told my younger brother that all women are crazy. You have to decide what level of crazy you are willing to deal with.

@Holl Don't cheat, don't lie and if you must play never play in your own back yard.

When you treat your partner with the same respect that you want to recieve, it will eliminate a lot of confusion and unnecessary drama.

Do not live a life without God.

Do not lie. Don't be materialistic. Don't be above the Law...😉👍🏽

Don't cheat. Don't lie. Dont string her along. Don't be passive and all the while enjoying the ride while she is doing all the hard work.

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The school system was created by men for boys. So no, the school system wasn’t bias towards women. Women were just given the same opportunity and that’s all it took for girls to get ahead. Not surprising for us women. We already knew of our intelligence. But the problem has always been the burden of childbearing. That’s our kryptonite. Ruins our focus and our future. Specially if you wanna be a good mother. But guys have the advantage in the physical strength, which apparently grants you the power to overthrow those who are weaker than you. That’s why idiotic guys demand respect. Just because they are men. Not sure why they expect it from women but not their male friends. Hypocrites.

God bless you

Well thought out comment

THIS!!

The thing is women were created to help men. Women were not in need of men.

Hope this helps!

@@LecraeOfficial yes it does 👍

You need to have discernment

@@smithrosheka yes I know, I pray for that and wisdom everyday!

Temperament is very important to watch for! I agree...

Respect brother!

Many congregations will not give you a position of leadership if you're not married.

Same here!!!

OMG same here! It was the "wrestle well" part for me too❤

SIR THAT FIRST PART!! 😭😭😭 The looks I get when I tell people I've never dated (I'm in my 30s, btw) and every time I get that stare like, "Something must be wrong with you..." Or maybe God needs me in a space where it's Him and me for a minute!

Thanks for tuning in!

@@LecraeOfficial 🙏

Good luck I’ll pray for you now

Thank you!

I feel this.