This guy told me one time while dealing with another girl at the beginning that he thought I’d be his peace. I thought that was a punch line he was just trying on me. He was already distant. Called me once every other year. Not until I reached out and all this in the friendship that I thought we had came up.. Huge turn off!
Red flags...💔 Sleep with you on a first date. Not committed. Doesn't give you a break. Brings up marriage/ loving you Who brings you to date and ask who's paying the bill?. Quick to talk bad about their ex Tells you he doesn't trust women easily. Who asks you to be his peace. He's always busy and you hear from him once or 2 a week. When he just disappears. When he comes over at night only. Or calls at night only. Still learning thank you🙏👌💕
@@KillEmAllAndKeepMovingif you don’t trust women then stay single. But don’t play games with peoples lives and emotions it’s that simple. There are a ton of women looking for stability..honesty …loyalty…fidelity etc so if that’s not you then be fully single…however that’s not what men do…they say the don’t want anything serious ..they say they don’t trust women yet they still want the perks of being with a woman while being nothing to the woman’s life that’s positive just bunch of headache and drama.
@claudiarainone5548 people are creatures of habit. They like consistency. You will pick up on it. Most people are hiding something and that something Is usually a flag. Everyone wants to present as the angel.
10 Red Flags 🚩 1. Ready to sleep with you on the 1st date 2. Openly telling you he doesn’t want to commit 3. One that doesn’t give you a break 4. Brings up love & marriage on the 1st date 5. Ask you out & convo about who’s going to pay 6. Quick to talk bad about his ex 7. Tells you he doesn’t trust women easily 8. Ask you to be his peace 9. Who is always busy 10. Disappears
I just called off dating this guy last week. We were dating for a month and he "loves me" and wanted me to be his wife. This was after i told him that i don't want to get married. He would call me everyday and always ask where i was. If i said i was home, we would continue having regular conversation. If i said i was out somewhere, he always wanted to come where i am. I told him that i didn't want to date him and he immediately talked about what "I" was doing to him is wrong. What I was doing to him????? I blocked him and then 2 different people told me that he was married.
Sometimes they will call you while their spouse and children are inside of the house or at the store. They will also pretend to be divorced or a single parent.....
@latoyalexander and where are they, in the car if they own one, or on the road? Then when the family is at the store, it makes sense he is calling from the house.
@Katrica670 No actually inside of the house at the same time as their wife while the wife is inside of another room watching TV, sleeping or running a business. They will say that their on the phone with a family member, coworker or friend if asked.
also the one who won’t talk about the ex at all when you ask what happened. My narc ex pulled this until I investigated and found out what he did to her ( eventually did the same to me ). Scary how he’s the perpetual “ Mr nice guy” soft spoken in public and you’d never guess he has a over face in doors
Yes, the one who pays the bill at restaurants with friends, but struggling to pay his bills. The one who thinks he’s a comedian every where he goes, but sarcastic with his family. Screaming at his kids but in public goes out of his way for strangers. Watch out!
GREETINGS FROM ARKANSAS SOME OF THIS IS VERY TRUE AND A MAN WHO TALKS BAD AND TREATS HIS FAMILY PARENTS WHO IS STINGY AND TALKS BADLY ABOUT THE POOR THE WEAK AND THE HOMELESS OR THINKS CERTAIN WOMEN ARE UNATTRACTIVE AND MEN WHO DO NOT TRULY LIVE FOR GOD....A BAD TEMPER AND ANY TYPE OF DRUG USE MJ AND OTHER DRUGS CUSSING IS ALSO A BAD SIGN
When you connect with your true self it all makes sense. If you are true to yourself and what you want emotionally, you’ll be in a desperate situation…and you can save yourself if you lean into truth. Discernment is very very important. People tell on themselves in the first meeting but you’re not vigilant enough to see because you’re stuck in desperation mode evaluating the situation for yourself emotionally instead of logically. Train yourself to not respond emotionally first and you’ll see a lot.
he gave 5 out of 10 red flags. no commitment, disappeared for days, was there for the benefits only))) and yeah tried to sleep with me on the first date, pushing several times and backing up after i firmly said no the 3rd time i left him and the trauma bond, feeling better a month later... trust me, it works. if u'r going thru sth similar, please be strong, it does get better, there's a better u at the end of the journey :)
My ex took me to measure my finger, he was always the one to mention the 💍 not me!…I waited to see if it would ever manifest. 6 years later…🧐 He was all talk and no action and he wanted to be the MAN and LEAD? How he expected me to let him lead, when I could never trust his word. Talk is so bloody cheap and will cost u years of wasted time
It's exactly how it works:).you heal....and after that hard work, you will find yourself to be much more discerning, boundried up.....and won't take anything less than u really deserve. It's ok to be single. Many of us are now preferring it🎉❤
Every time I hear you speak, it saddens me because it seems like the state of Men these days is almost hopeless. 😢❤️🩹🙏🏽 Thank You for the enlightening though. 💝🙏🏽🤴🏾
Yeah they're honest, but then starts acting like we are together, giving mixed signals. Never again will i entertain that notion. Broke my own heart with the back & forth. He wanted me to be with him & only him, while he did him and of course lied. Smh
No7 😢 i was there....i broke up with him 4 days ago, we've been fighting and forgive each other but it never stops. So i decided to leave him. Thank you Kirk 🙏💞
My ex had all of these traits. He was rude to waiters just to not foot the bill at restaurants, he would never have money but all see something he like at the mall. To make it worse this guy I recently mentioned marriage after having 2 conversations I told him right of the bat, I don’t think I’m the one for him to try and date he’s already talking marriage in the talking stage. And other little nuisances in his way that he watches me and notices every , little, detail about me. It’s giving major turn off vibes, Deleting and blocking
This was a red flag for me I just met a man within two months he stood me up twice first time he said he was sick after I call and asked was he still coming. Next time he stood me up he didn’t call me like the first time. When I asked he why he didn’t call to let me know he wasn’t coming, he said I didn’t have anything thing else to do. I was furious . I said to my self he didn’t value my time. So he doesn’t value me. I hung up the phone. He kept calling and calling me leaving voicemails, so I blocked him. Just to let you know I never slept with him.
I saw your other video about men who pick women to prey on. It was just timely in my life. Met a guy who was my sister's friend. Said he liked me. I never knew what it was about him, but my guts didnt trust him. Turns out he was also professing love to my sister. I feel so validated for not trusting him and giving him a chance. What a loser. Ladies trust your guts amd don't break principles. This man was already naming "our" kids.😂 It was so fake and senseless. I hadn't agreed to date him. He said if I didn't agree, he'd die or become depressed. What a narcissist. I'm so mad at my sister for introducing us.😢 God bless you for being so wise and keeping it real with us ladies.
Wowwwww!!! Kirk I've be apart of all of them an totally miss read them, I took it as they were so into me, an of coarse when they got what they wanted, they left or only kept me as an option. Wow ❤ so stupid
I think it's important to learn yourself based on past relationships and environments, whether positive or negative, and what you really value from the whole of your life experiences and what you might want to try differently this time. It's like planning an exciting journey and getting better at being purposeful in interactions that you take time to value. But the first person you must really enjoy for years, decades should be getting to know yourself best!! I listen better to people and ask questions based on things that are important to me if I'm investing my time..
Thank you for all your great advice. You talk facts that can help a lot of people who are trying to navigate their way through this thing call love! 🙏🏾👍🏾♥️
@14:35 that's soooo weird! I know someone who opens up to me, tells me everything, well lotsa things bout most subjects, but does Not ask me any deep questions. He is also super duper private, so....👀🧐🤔
@@trudy-annsmall9600 but what about the part where he's soooo private that pretty much nobody knows his life, yet he is sooo open amd vulnerable with me?
@@Katrica670~ he appears to be safe with you, however, a relationship is reciprocal. He’s not asking you meaningful questions, which makes him selfish or he doesn’t care. Either is a not good. 🚩
There is a reason for that. Alot of people are on a special assignment to play a role in your life. Your life is complete open and his is closed. What's behind the door? People are sick.
When you're on relationship 10 but they're still harassing you about 5 relationships ago because they're bitter & can't move on in life without trying to keep other people stagnant on bs. When they walk away from you but look back to see if you're chasing them YEARS later. When they neglect their responsibilities but want you to feel bitter & sad about it. When they have morals about what they expect from you but exhibit the most questionable behavior. When they're OBSESSED don't even try to make sense of their problem because there is none. They just need help period
Agree with every single thing you said, except for it’s not weird to discuss marriage on the 2nd or 3rd date if you’re from a traditional or religious background and you prioritise marriage.
