The comments here are so missing the point. There is no problem with men who cry, the issue is that after a first date with someone you don’t know at all, and the waterworks start after a first date?! I find it so hard for someone to not get the “ick” from that. I’ve dated men and we will have a heartfelt tear filled conversation after a FEW dates in, and it can become meaningful and lead to a longer term relationship. But after a first date, c’mon, that’s a lot to take in. No one is shaming anyone. If anything, Lamorne was gaslighting her for a very brief moment if you listen closely - no hate because I think it all came out as a supposing to be a funny bit. Listen, we love a guy who isn’t so macho and is in touch with him emotions, but let’s get to know one another a bit more first! Geesh 😅
Yes, give me a guy who will cry over the dog being killed in the movie, absolutely. But a guy who uses tears to manipulate me, saying "I thought I meant more to you than that" after a first and only date? Hard pass.
Yeah I get you, but her problem clearly was with men that cry. She got grosse out after having seen or heard the man cry, didn't want to talk to them anymore after and ghosted them. Just an emotionally immature person or someone who still believes that men who cry portray some sort of weakness. Why would one ever get 'grossed out' by someone crying? If it is so soon it would be a but much indeed, but I didn't get that as being the biggest problem.
I saw your comment after the 8 minute mark so I kept my eye on it while thinking to myself "It's a poster, it's not gonna move...they must be tripping or something if they saw it move..." And then sure enough IT MOVED! So unless my 67 year-old mother slipped me something without me knowing it and I, too, am tripping, there's definitely something going on with that thing! 😹
Place ya' bets folks. When do they get him to do a Denzel impression. Lamorne is a quick 'yes, thank-you' when he's on a pod, and I'm heading over to Lamorning After right after this.
I love this podcast but the amount of mid roll ads, longer sponsorship announcements, and shorter calls is scaring me. I hope it doesn’t become a shitty commercial thing
People do need to make $ to make quality production possible, so at least they make them fun. And you can always fast forward. However, I do agree about not liking shorter calls.
With you there. The general flow of the earlier ones. I was digging them and was so hooked. Lately, I feel less pulled in. I love you guys so much-continue doing you. Just happy to know I’m not alone in that feeling and hoping you all find a good rhythm! ❤
Why is it now I'm realizing why they cast JB Smoove as Winston's (not) long lost father? The "I am F'n up their bowels" made me feel like I was watching a bit on Curb.
Like i get being weirded out bc its the early dates- youre still basically strangers but its another thing to say “deeply disgusted” as lamorne said, she needs to grow up
I’m plus one-ing Portia’s issue. This is not a weird thing that no other women have experienced. 😂 Jake’s advice was spot-on. Lamorne’s advice…lol…not as helpful. Who the hell wants to stick around for date #2 when the guy cries on the phone after date #1? Get outta there, Portia. Jake’s advice is solid. Use that wisdom moving forward!
Gracie's professors sound insufferable, stuck in that academia bubble, with a little bit of a power trip. You never know what practical applications you might stumble upon while making your tokyo drift go cart! Thats how the scientific process of discovery works, its full of unexpected turns!
Thanks so much for time stamping the ads,now instead of skipping them,I can start from the beginning and watch them all in their entirety! A true podcast Godsend! 😘
I know, how cliche to have Lamorne on as a permanent host. Plus he’s starting his own. Buut. This isn’t just star power. It’s genuine connection. This is what we want. We NEED the 3 of you. Period.
I didn’t really see it as shaming “men who cry” in general. If anything it was the when/how soon Jake and Gareth considered weird. As for shaming, Jake said to joke shame the prior dates as a way to for the caller to get across to new guys that she’s not into that type of guy. While Lamorne’s response was “grow up” and pretty much repeating that in a variety of ways. I kind of wished she’d given more than one example. Because the one she gave, the guy sounded potentially manipulative. Like he was trying to guilt her into going through with a second date after assuming she was blowing him off altogether. Otherwise, why leave the voicemail? Personally, I’m all for vulnerability and communication. I’ve experienced people who seemed to communicate that way, but they were terrible at listening. That’s what the example reminded me of. Also, Lamorne was right, the caller has some growing up to do if she’s generally “disgusted” or “grossed out” by men crying. But is it that or that they’re crying so soon and/or for no “good” reason??
@@checksanity totally get what you’re saying! And understand that the situation is also very specific in the way that the guys who are crying are doing it really early on and for strange reasons. I just didn’t love the comment about shaming them for it or calling them “little bitches”. I feel like a younger male may misinterpret what’s being said and could feel shame about it.
@@hannafournier2321 Ah, I hear you. That occurred to me as well. However, based on the ages of their callers, it seems like their audience is in the ~23 to 40+ age range. I have a hunch their female audience is who makes up most of their 20s demographic. Meaning, I don’t think there are too many impressionable young men that specific concern would apply to. A lot of messaging these days encourages young men that it’s ok to be vulnerable. Hopefully, enough to balance out that type of misinterpretation. Plus, if anything, this episode directly and indirectly defines appropriate/ideal parameters for men to cry while dating.
Wrong 😑 we love men who emotionally regulate themselves. meaning they can cry if they need to, and they can keep it together if they need to. they’re not repressed or an open wound. blubbering on a 2nd date is not okay unless you happen to stumble into a topic about a deceased loved one or something and even then, not blubbering. you should have done some counseling on your grief and be a little more together on a date. and if they just died why are you dating??! So basically, no it’s never okay for either sex to be a complete mess on a public first, second or third date or really ever. work through your shit people and cry with your friends and loved ones and therapists not unsuspecting strangers.
There is no way to be not grossed out when men cry. The emotion men should show is anger in a healthy extreme to where it fuels their passion. Crying for compassion is a womanly trait.
But to be honest I’m not sure if shaming is the right way, because that’s still giving attention and validation to their crying in some form. I ignore it all together. Tbh can’t be kind to everyone it’s impossible.
And I liked his switch up at the end, but women don’t want to be the men in the relationship. Most women want to be dominated. So telling the woman to dominate the man into not crying is turning her off 😂😂😂
