My ex wanted that, he was my first bf i never rlly understood it until i would be getting my friends opinion on shi and everything he was saying in the beginning i'd do, until i realized that their opinions n them knowing everything was ruining shi between us😭
@bella_querida that sounds like you told the wrong friends. They should only help you sort through your thoughts and give you advice on how to talk to your partner
@@bella_querida that happened to me too 😭 it was to the point where my friend liked him behind my back and told him lies, my other friends were just causing drama. Shit sucked
You still have to do your kids a favor and make sure they don’t turn out like a giraffe. You have a duty to the future not your own desire. Even if the partner isn’t worth it. At least the kids bring value to the market. Worth the trouble.
“You call yourself ugly, because some one else called you ugly” that cut so deep, especially because that’s something I am going through, and my girlfriend. I tell her almost every day how beautiful she is but she still doesn’t believe it. I hope one day she realizes how gorgeous she really is.
Awwwww you’re a good boyfriend please keep telling her that even if it seems she doesn’t see herself that way keep saying it to her it means the world for her to hear that from you youre a good boyfriend thank you for seeing the beauty in her keep treating her right and being kind to her i wish you guys nothing but the best in life
That’s the same thing for me. She’s the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met, and she still denies it. I’ll never stop telling her how beautiful she is though
What's crazy for me is that I've hear a lot of people call me handsome or cute, but I find it difficult to believe that at times, I don't even remember anyone calling me ugly yet I feel that way about myself.
@@watchyourback8877Bro i feel you. For years I’ve been held back by this feeling that I’m not good enough, that I’m an ugly son of a gun. Thing is, you gotta reach out to yourself and prove those voices wrong, cuz at the end of the day, those voices don’t matter. It’s what’s inside you that matters. I only realized this like either June or July of this year. And let me tell you that I feel better than I ever have been and I am a better man for having gone through that. Here’s a life lesson: Any challenge that you face in life has meaning, and that meaning is to learn from the hardships and learn from the mistakes. And I encourage you to make mistakes, since that’s how I believe we grow as human beings, even more so than if we are always right 100% of the time. Because, if we’re always right, we never really learn anything. I know I rambled on a little too long so sorry about that 😅. Anyway, I hope whatever I said here helped you in some way.
This videos timing is crazy. I just broke up with my 3rd girlfriend a few weeks ago. She is kind caring, and listens, but highly unstable and bipolar. We broke up because she didn’t feel ready, which I 100% understand. Today she introduced me to her new boyfriend. He took a puff of his vape and blew it in my face. When I came home I was not sad, depressed as I normally am. I was determined. I made a vow today to change myself for the better. I’m 278.2 Ibs, 43.7% body fat. I’m going to change my life today. 4/24/24 EDIT 5/2/24: Dating this super nice girl after grinding for weeks. She's so amazing. Thanks man! EDIT 5/8/24: Yeah... dodged a bullet with that one. She was wayy too fast. Guess I'm back to the grind! EDIT: 6/14/24 Summer has been going for some time. been working a job which involves me moving heavy stuff around, so that's some good movement throughout the day. I need to get back with my gym bro so we can start getting that summer shred on. Not much weight wise has changed, I still need to weigh myself, it's been awhile. But yeah! I'll be coming here time to time to keep updating this post for you guys. Reply to this whenever so I can be reminded of it, my memory sucks lol. EDIT: 9/3/24 By popular demand, I'm updating this lol. Thanks for all being along for my life lol. Anyway, time for the meat of this update. Life has been great. I've started taking prescribed Adderall for my ADHD, and stuff has gotten much easier for me. I've been working out, though I've discovered my weight plateau is 290.2 Ibs, which means I can't physically go over that unless I totally gorge myself, which is good! I'm currently pushing my music career, trying to get some internships with some game companies. I know it's cheesy and cliche, but check out my RU-vid channel, I post original songs, some Friday Night Funkin' content (though I'm moving away from that community as a whole), and I have my twitter linked to it, which is where I'm sharing updates on a comic series me and my friend Joseph are developing! So yeah, life is going well, and I hope it's going well for all of you too. Sounds crazy, but I love you guys. Stay cool! ☮
There's this girl. She is amazing, I feel so comfortable around her. Smart, creative, compassionate, fun and so remarkable. But, I feel like I have way too much on my plate (exams, work commitments, etc) to start something. Part of me is scared I don't give her the time she deserves, IF she even feels the same, but I'm equally scared I miss out on the opportunity to be with someone like her.
I promise u if she actually digs u she will understand your schedule. And probably find it more attractive than a dude having all the time in the world
Talk to her bro. I felt the same way, just too focused on myself to introduce a girl into my busy life. But busyness can get lonely. If you feel like you found someone that can grow with you and be a helpmate and not a distraction, take the risk. That’s rare these days
Relationships are commitments. They’re not meant to have a consistently increasing slope, there will at some point or another be certain things you have to overcome. If you really like this girl and fumbling her isn’t an option for you, tell her. Let her know that at the moment you can’t give her all you want to give, but that you intend to and are just facing obstacles. If the love is there, even if there’s some distance between you the attraction remains the same. If you genuinely have no way to make it work atm, still let her know. Like putting the rs on hold basically lol, for lack of better words. Point is, don’t overthink it too much. What’s meant to be will reach you even if it’s in the midst of two mountains, and what’s not meant for you won’t reach you even if it’s between your teeth. You know yourself and your situation best. Go with your gut on this.
@@peripheralvision9976 I did it. Told her how I felt and how I can't fully give all that I can for now, but in the near future. Thankfully she said yes! Thank you for your advice, my heart is so full.
i think the worst part about losing your first love is not only is it your first heartbreak but it’s the first kick in face that you got some shit to fix for the next person. It ain’t easy but it’ll all be worth h it
Love isn’t based on feelings , it’s on decision. It took me 3 months to realize I was in love with ex situationship. Always remember their’s always going to be a badder girl. But no girl can ever understand you both mentally nd physically then the one who’s trying.
Honestly Shimon, you losing the thought created another good analogy. No one is ever always perfect, and in a lot of cases relationships arent perfect. but you were honest with us and yourself, communicated that and still moved forward. A lot of people, especially with your growth would cut that part out in favor of fake perfection. But you kept it in and still had confidence in this video because you still believe in the rest of the words in spite of the brain fart. Like in relationships, if something happens you should be honest with yourself and your partner about and of those slopes. The key is moving on with confidence in the relationship, when you bash it to outside people, youve lost the confidence of the relationship in yourself and want the validation of others.
I just ended a 10 month relationship, bc of my bf. I told him i can't be in a toxic relationship,and i dont feel loved like i did before. He told me ''i treated you like this because i tought you would never leave me. Please don't leave me,i will change.'' And now i don't know if i will ever want to be in a relationship again, im scared of being treated like i am nothing again.
It sounded like your bf just said all that stuff to keep you to stay in a relationship where he felt in control, a relationship should never be one sided its good you got out when you did But if you are scared of getting into another relationship where you'll be treated the same then you should definitely wait a while, focus on yourself so that if your mind ever changes things will hopefully be better
Im sorry to hear that. I know about sociopathic behaviour very well as I have dealt with symptoms of male patheticy, as I have some of them. I wan't you to know that YOU DID INCREADIBLE dealing with it. recognizing his behaviour early on means that YOU ARE SO ready to find somebody special, because that power to escape from such a personality is something almost NOBODY can do. for now, take a while off dating for your own sake, you have dealt with something Awful noone should go through. you might be scared, but know there are many good guys out there, and with your ability to recognize such tendencies I KNOW you will do great! good luck onward and I hope you will feel better
You endured 10 months with an awful person. You will meet someone better that will treat you better. You deserve better. Take some time in healing yourself and when you’re ready you can be emotionally available
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
i have been in such a situation. i love my woman and unfortunately we separated about two years ago, but i could not let her go, so i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back, now we are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
i feel like video is more suitable format, actually, like you feel like you’re sitting next to your best friend and talk about life and things, i’ve had that friend and that’s almost exactly how it feels
I love that u keep it all as one clip and don’t edit out when u get sidetracked. I do the same shit all the time when I’m trying to make a point, often times never coming back to it lol
"Never let one action blind you to the countless moments of kindness they have shown you." What he is trying to convey and he did it so well man… -3:22
I feel like there should be a disclaimer that if you are in a toxic/abusive relationship then you 100% should talk to friends and family about it for support. Some people are really good at gaslighting/manipulating you into thinking that issues in the relationship are normal when they are not. Of course I would never advise you to talk badly or insult your partner to your friends, but if they hurt you it helps to seek support.
You are so right about being careful with dating and friendship bundles... what I got from your example was that people you think who are your friends or who you think are her friends may try to get in between your relationship. Love is a battleground where people do all sorts of things to get with who they want, be that your partner or even you. When youre in a moment of vulnerability, its so hard to tell what the friends are thinking when they give the advice or comments that they do...
You’re my new fucking favorite creator. You’ve got so much experience and it shows, thank you for sharing it from your past and pain with us. It don’t matter how bad you screw up an analogy or whatever, you just speak the truth
This is a very hard thing, because you have to be careful that your partner is not manipulating you. Those of us who have been abused really need to take time to heal from the parts that are hyper vigilant because that will cause more strife with both people.
growing up i really struggled with my own sense of self having my siblings practically raise me and then take off when it was time for them to grow up and leave, i was conflicted constantly and never thought for myself. until i realized no one would understand me better than myself. it’s definitely a learning curve. thank you for being vulnerable. ❤
Dang i watched this video too late. My very first love broke up with me over some issues and it was even the same month as the first time we met. Ik I'm guilty but he's just as guilty not telling me he was loosing feelings and the reasons why. Our whole relationship was built on love and one of the most important, communication. But he screwed up not communicating anything to me, where i would've listened and fixed myself, but he just didn't. 2 weeks and a few days later, i still long for him, miss him, love him. But its so hard when he's giving all the attention he used to give to me, to a new girl he just met, he doesn't like her in that way, but still. He has no more attention for me. Its all for that girl. Let this be a lesson guys. PLEASE if you feel like u want to end a relationship, communicate. Communication is key, talk it out, ur problems , listen to each other, and try to fix ur mistakes. I'm so depressed these days at school and i wish i could go back in time to fix bad habits. If they're a good person, pls pls pls keep them. My Owen was so good, and I let him slip away... I love you Owen ❤
This is actually what ruined one of my closest relationships and I feel like while it might've been the right thing to do, I still wish I was able to keep it in house as you said. This is something I definitely needed to hear and I'm glad that you are trying to give advice on this especially WITH experience so that it doesn't sound like you don't know what you're talking about. Thank you for making this video man, much love and I hope you have a blessed day and so on.
I really wish I knew you in person bro. You seem like such a chill and down to earth guy who gives such a great perspective. Keep doing what you’re doing brother!
I just found out your channel and man woah, you're a good guy, an older brother that tries to help other out, I really wish you all the best for your future and may God bless you brother
Despite you losing sight of your point, you looking back to see how that related to what you were saying was an impactful metaphor in itsself, its the part of the video that hits you the hardest- the hair started standing up on my arms. You perfectly demonstrated that, you need to stop and self reflect on yourself in a relationship, because you can get trapped in the looking forward so much that you can't see what's happening around yourself. This was beautiful. You, in this aesthetic with talk that's real and your approach to teaching as well as learning, is beautiful. I went over your points in my head saying that I already knew them and thought about the words you'd say next, knowing I- at one time- had thought them myself. The most impactful part was you looking back on where you had been going, that was the biggest lesson I needed to have known within my last relationship, may she rest in peace, two years of a relationship ending with her death in a car crash two and a half weeks prior to me finding this, as well as sending this message. I pray that everyone here take in the words that are being said in this video, because they are truly valuable lessons you'd have to learn the hard way eventually. As I once did.
communication is so important. understanding what your partner wants and needs is essential for making a relationship with them work. i recommend y’all ask y’all’s next partners these questions: 1. what do you want/need in a partner? 2. what do you need to allow others space in your life? 3. why do you want a relationship? these are also great things to ask yourself. knowing what expectations you have for what kind of a man, woman, or person you want is so huge. it helps you raise your standards and know your self worth.
I love the first note “not talking bad about each-other” simply a small thing of words with so much meaning , I mean it allows for each-other to grow and learn about it each-other , instead of arguing with each-other , learn from each-other and become better people all together .
This is so damn real my previous relationship ended prolly cause of these exact reasons because she used to talk horrible about me to her friend who was also supposed to be my friend which caused a lot of trouble and led to an eventual end of the relationship. I’m not innocent tho I’ve talked bad about her to one of my friends when I was upset and I regret that because it forever changed that persons perspective on her and you know sometimes you just gotta realize how much influence your words have on other people especially to people who trust you.
Hey man, there is absolutely no pressure in reshooting a video if you get lost in thought. Ik deadlines are apart of staying in business, but never feel like you have to rush and push out an incomplete thought. I really appreciate you and your words of wisdom. Keep going strong, and may God be with you 🫡
He's just said things that been on my mind even tho i've never been into any relationships, but hearing right and smart things from another person always feels so good iykyk. Thank u
its like god sent me ur video, i was just taking advice from lots of people on what i should do with my situationship and i wasnt very happy with what i was hearing
My girlfriend can’t really work up the ‘courage’ to even talk to me at school, compliment me face to face, take a compliment or anything face to face related. I told her if she won’t talk to me at school but she will with others and won’t take compliments at school or generally have a nice conversation with me even if it’s brief, to not text me if she can’t do those things face to face, I told her how I felt and I reminded her how much I loved her. Am I the bad guy?
The conversation I needed. Nothing scripted, no insanely overly edited stuff, no obviously fake crying, no sugarcoating. Just a 100% real talk about reality. It's as if i was sitting there with you just listening and that made me feel so much better.
I sent this to my friend because at the moment she is looking for a relationship, and she told me to fuck off and shrugged it off. People should really understand the importance of being in a relationship. It's not easy to deal with conflicts and problems, and what really hurt me is that she asked me to give advice to her, and she won't take it. Other then that, this video is very inspirational and effective. God bless you.
Just something I wanted to add. If you’re going through a rough time in a relationship (like an extreme amount) then you should tell your friends, cuz real friends will see how to fix the problem and fake ones will tell you to leave immediately. Also if you’re doing something like playing games with the boys don’t leave/drop everything just cuz your girl said to do so, it’s straight up abusive to do that. (Tell you to leave that is). Make sure to make time with the boys too.
Tysm man that was a really wise advice and i ll consider to take that advise cuz damn man you are so right, the relationships is about 2 ppl not what your friends or your mother or father thinks about that
thank you man. I sadly ruined my chance with the girl of my dreams not long ago man because I bashed her behind her back because I was so hurt and immature and now she is hurt and can't heal and I want to help. but that's why I'm here. to learn.
This made me cry. Besides the relationship thing its that outside influences and him telling me how it affects someone and that touched my heart♥️😣. People always wanna mention the bad people always are negative they’ll never bring up the good idk why people hate good idk why people never mention the good its just crazy and dont ever say there is no good in life there is its just never shown as much anymore
Damn I endet a relationship exactly like you described years ago, feels so relaxing to finally life a life with no headaches anymore. I still have trust issues tho...
Bro ir videos have helped me mature so much in the last 6 months im like a whole new person i just finished school im getting extra hours i stopped being a freak im doing so good right now
I really needed to see this today man not just in terms of relationships (although that was helpful) but like this video is so raw and just the knowledge that not everyone’s perfect really hit hard thank you 🙏🙏
One the my favorite pieces, ❤️ I wish you peace, whatever you are doing right now I hope you are having fun. I love each and every one of you. Stay safe
It’s so crazy how you can similar situations with different people. I literally just went through that with my now ex girlfriend last week, her getting advice from her family on our relationship and like you said once that happened there went the relationship.
Thank you for this man. I messed up last time around with such a wonderful girl. Hopefully I can take this advise and do next time right. I don't want to do it wrong this time, I asked her what I did right and wrong and I messed up in one area, so I just need to fix that. I am working on myself and trying to change. Thank you so much. I really needed to hear this kind of advice, I never bash my ex but I need verification that, it is the proper thing to do.
Impressive my friend! I was one of your first viewers 6 months ago and now you got almost 300k subs! Such a thing but I'm growing as well! It's a great time for change. Keep it up and never let anybody let you down! Sending love 🥰
backbiting is horrible thing. i see a lot of stories online and all i see is one side, and the comments validating this person. its a rare skill to have to be able to weight both situations, incredibly rare because you have to come to terms with your own bias. now im not saying if youre being abused dont tell someone, but just what this video is saying, be true to yourself and dont air out dirty laundry, be strong and try to make it work, that is, if you feel the relationship is worthwhile.
Thank you. I have my mind on this girl and this video has been an eye opener. There's nothing else I can say except thank you. Keep doing what you're doing man, great work ❤✌️
tbh idk why i would be typing this out over here, but i js need to let it out. my relationship of a lil over 2 years js ended abt a month ago now, and it was “her” decision, (it was more her family’s I believe) she a month before leaving me apparently start thinking abt the future n was scared abt it basically, that eventually she instead of coming to me abt what was on her mind, she went to her family for their advice/opinion, n basically she js gave them all the bads in me that she could see, but didn’t try to say otherwise to people that don’t know our relationship or even js me in general, n what i was going through or anything. so then they basically told her that it seemed like it wasn’t gonna work with us n she went with it. later (less then a week after her talk) she sent me a text telling me that we needed to talk, but that she wanted to do it in person so we made time n i respected her so i didn’t ask abt it as she asked me not to ask until the day came, which then it came n she broke my heart, in my house n i was so lost n dumbfounded that i couldn’t even argued back or js try to make her see reasoning with what she was saying n then she left. without counting everything i had done for her throughout our years together, n how much i sacrificed for her as well. being her rock through it all from her lowest to her highest, always being there for her showing that i cared n Loved her. but yet still after what she did, I still miss n Love her, even tho at the end she didn’t value me n what i had done for us. for her.
The only person I have ever spoken about when it comes to partner issues is my mom. Mostly because she's one of the few people who won't immediately take my side or amp me up. She really makes me think critically about my grievances and gives me non biased advice on how to approach any issues. Yes, it sometimes bugs me that she does it, but it the end of the day, she's never mislead me. :)
This popped up on my home page right after breaking up with the love of my life. The issues talked about in this are the exact things that led me to ending things. I didn’t have good emotional maturity and did a lot wrong but the main thing that made me do it besides the fights was the people around me telling me I should do it. If I didn’t talk about these issues to other people I wouldn’t have done it and lost the love of my life. The fact that this showed up 3 days after these problems put an end to my relationship is a miracle. Thank you brother.
Man, this video totally changed my view on this topic, You are so real, I feel like You are talking right to me. I am now healing from a breakup and this video helped me infinitely. Thanks for this content man.
damn bro u js made me realise so much. ik u not happy about this vid but if u hadnt released this n sent it out to the world i wouldnt haev seen this and i wouldnt have felt this sense of clarity that im feeling right now. thanks bro
Thanks for sharing this man, it's a bit relieving to know other people are going through this shit aswell. I thought it was just me being fucking weird.
thank you shimon,for the majority of my relatinshio i let my family make my decisions or relied on them to tell me what to do, i quitted but i recently came back to it and now its causing issues in my relationshio. thank you so much, i feel like ur the 1 guy who actually wants me to enjoy life
i’ve been looking at videos on how to move on from my first love and this was on my recommended. he wasn’t treating me like his gf and instead as a female friend. it’ll been 3 months on June 11. it’s still hard. it hurts sb and i js want to stop missing and caring abt him. i’m ready to better myself and to regain my self confidence. after we broke up it all js went away. he helped build my self confidence back, but now it’s gone again. i’m ready to move on and heal and become better. 5/20/2024, 105lbs and want my dream body, bigger thighs, arms and longer hair w/clear skin :) i don’t want a Kim K body, i js want to be in a body i feel happy in.
Hi Simon, I've been following you for a while and every time a video of yours comes out I run to listen to it because it's a blessing and it makes me feel good. Congratulations keep it up because I'm sure your words improve the lives of so many people. Greetings from Italy !!!
Man I just want to let u know it’s a good video from u even tho you may not think so. And it’s the reason I decided to go ahead and give u another subscriber man. Keep up the deep introspective conversations like this cuz I’m completely down to watch and hear more from you
I wished I could have seen this video sooner. I kept asking people I knew for advice about my potential relationships and they wouldn’t follow that advice themselves, I felt stupid after seeing that and I’ve started keeping more things to myself afterwards
WHERE WAS THIS VIDEO IN FEBUARY 😂😂, thank you for uploading this video. It was very needed, I noticed I was allowing my sisters to influence my relationship with my last partner, even though they never had one successful partner...
