When I was 20 I made a U-turn at night... on the highway. I had missed the turnpike and was kinda drunk /high. I just didn't feel like driving to the next one. So I turned and did 300 metres. Had four people in the car with me. Could have all died and then some. To this day I reckon that to be the worst decision of my life, but I've learned so much from it. I quit drinking and smoking cold turkey, and found God. I am a very fortunate man, and I will never cease to remember it.
I really love how he doesn’t care what the person did really he just has some level headed pragmatic advice and never passes any judgements. We all need a jocko
I have gotten straight As my whole life, always had a job, and have a consistent workout routine, during covid i starting failing two classes this semester for the first time, this video helped, but i still wish i could just work like a machine
That point at 5:15 really struck a chord with me. I embarrassed myself in my professional life a few years ago and let a lot of people down. I still think about it almost dailly.
When I was in my twenties I went to college but it didn't work out for me eventhough I ditched parties and everything. But it's life, that just wasn't for me. There is still a life to be lived.
It's so easy to loose perspective. Ironic actually. I struggled for years dwelling on a personal/professional mistake that I blamed for eventually having to leave my past career. Was a one time shot that I blew. Funny thing is while I never got to be where I wanted with this limited window of opportunity, I was still a better person afterwards and had grown as a result of this failure. And even though that was years ago and every now and then it comes back to haunt my memory, I am still a better man now than I was prior to making that mistake. That said as long as you're continuously moving forward and growing that's all that matters. And it's so easy to forget that.
I had my dream job and a string of bad luck, bad decisions, and personal issues resulted in me quitting. I keep reliving and replaying everything that went wrong almost every day-4 years later. I have what 99% of folks would say is a far better job/career and STILL have been reliving /recanting that old job back. This segment and what he says really hit home. It’s about reframing and reflecting. It sucked and didn’t work out. It’s done. Learn from it and take that with you. Thanks
That’s some excellent perspective. When you compared the person’s mistake other people’s mistakes, it resonated with me. I needed to hear that in this moment. Thank you.
I can recognize my mistakes and learn from them but when I fail at shit it eats away at me. It's probably my greatest weakness. When a mistake is all on me, and I'm not talking about Extreme Ownership, I mean when I really fuck something up, I feel horrifyingly insufficient. Lately with the help of media like this podcast I've been able to stop the avalanche of self abuse before it gets too bad. Just detach, bros. Focus on getting better.
Great lesson Jocko. I invested in a real estate, so happened titles were fake and it was all a scam. It thought me a lesson, I take full ownership of my mistake and I keep thinking life could be worse! Love the podcasts!
Jocko is a prophet. Attened the live show in NYC 100% worth it. Humbling experience to meet one of my heroes in person. 🇺🇸🇺🇸 He took time to take pictures and sign autographs after the show too btw
In his words, Jocko is showing how a good family can be a grace, and still some don't value it. God, when I listen Jocko I understand Jordan Peterson, and I see how everything is connected.
This video is good. I made a mistake that cost me a dream job that came effortlessly. I feel like life finally gave me the chance to turn my life around and i blew it. I have hated myself ever since. I may never get such a job offer ever again. It just hard to move forward when things around you just keep reminding you of your failure. I see friends get great jobs and open a new chapter in their life and I feel like I don't deserve it because when life gave me my chance, I was to careless to realize it.
I love this. I've had the opportunity to mentor new employees to my work who are also new to the industry, and I always try to explain to them (regardless of how bad) any problem that comes up is a learning chance. They felt bad one day because they set off the fire alarm in the office. I had to tell them "don't worry about it, let's continue. It's not worth worrying about" and it's true! We don't have time to worry about our mistakes. Learn from them, and Cary on. Do better.
I so wish I would have had the chance to hear these things when I was 13 years old. Life has been good but could have been so much better. I learn something new everyday listening to your podcast.
Hits home, im so lucky that i have recovered from some of my mistakes. I cut it to close in years past. Trying to pay attention now. Now I get upset about losing money. Not ruining my life.
Hey man. I feel what you're going through. I know it's been three months, but I wanted to check in on you. From one stranger to another. How's it going?
Got denied from being shipped to basic, was 1% over the weight limit have 2 weeks to fix it. Was bummed out feeling sorry for myself. Not giving up going to grind harder now.
Still stugling with a car accident that was my fault... i ran a red light, i was looking on the road but at the moment i was day dreaming, the person ended up T boning me but it was my fault. This happened last year, and till this day when i drive sometimes I'll hyperventilate thinking about the stupidity of myself to get into such an accident.
Christ is the greatest example of Extreme Ownership! Micah 7.8 Our enemies have no reason to gloat over us. We have fallen, but we will rise again. We are in darkness now, but the LORD will give us light. Faith and Discipline will carry us through doubt and failure!
I've tried a lot of things in my life and failed at damn near every one. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. But when you miss 99% of the shots you DO take, you have to question whether you belong on the court. I just can't say 'good' and get past my failures any more. I'm not quite ready for the 115 grain debrief, but damn close. Can't see how to move on. I wish I had 1% of Jocko's resiliency.
You do have resiliency, you're still going despite your failures. If you get to old age and still havn't made it (in whatever way that applies to you) at least you can say you never quit. If you're going through hell, keep going.
Missed a chance with a pretty stellar person. Stopped dwelling on it, took it as flattering, and allowed it to change who I was. My standards went up, my drive went up, and who I wanted to be became clear. Move on. Next mission. Stay focused, get after it.
I did some bad molly 3 years ago and I'm still borderline schizophrenic from it. I related to this lol. Mistakes you'll never get back. I lost a part of myself with those drugs.
Here because I screwed up. I froze up when it came to my school work and will likely fail 3 of my 4 classes considering I have 4 days left and half of all the work still undone. It would be physically impossible to write the amount of papers, 2 speeches, 2 final projects 4 math sections (with quizzes) and a final all before the 31st. Realistically I can pick one class. The school work isn't even THAT hard.. I just froze up because of anxiety and perfectionism... And now I feel so ashamed. I am having such a hard time accepting that I let this happen.
I don’t wanna be around family, I don’t have many friends and I just feel like a fuck up im falling apart slowly and I’m hanging on to something I’ve lost my grip on
Nice. Failed Nursing School twice. Bugs me every day. Been 18 and 9 years. With all my credits I salvaged a bachelor's degree in science. A pyric victory at best. But I guess it is better than a pyric defeat. Now pushing 60. I see how lucky I am. Invested well. Never quit going to work. Coworkers said more than once unsolicited. Glad you are still here. Wife kicked me in the ass. How many people would kill for Honorable discharge from Military? Looking forward to enjoyable retirement. I just wish I could have shut off the defeat years ago.
God l relate to that guy a lot except my butch ass failed pt. I was too lazy to do my own pt. I didnt know anything about pt and my unit rarely did it.
This one hit a little too hard. But I hear it. I get it, I hear it, and I'm gonna implement it. It ain't gonna be easy but will be rewarding without a doubt
I lost my job as a school safety in nypd and I lost my promotion to become a police officer for testing positive for off duty marihuana use despite marihuana being legal in NY state. I’m now studying data analytics, crypto and investing in my education to make better life choices for me and my family
Personal inquiry, hypothetically if you feel like you were "illegally convicted of a crime" due to "fabricated evidence" against you, but no one believes that is the case, how do you come back from like that? What recourse should one take in a situation like this? This instance resulted in a loss of not only my ability to get "adequate opportunities" but "discredits my character"; how does someone build their "reputation" back up in a constructive way when the odds are against them?
For anyone who is struggling with life. I wanted to kill myself last year. It felt like I had demons in my brain manipulating my mind. I couldnt think clearly. I couldnt choose my thoughts they were being put into me. Everyday it got worse. I barely ate, barely slept, I was dying. My brain hurt, I was constantly getting light headed. The world didn't look the same anymore. It didnt matter how anything looked even if it was beautful, everything looked like hell but I didnt want it to. I wanted to help people, I always have but there was a constant opposition that wasnt coming from me, I couldn't fix my mind. I was afraid to trust God but I knew if I listened everything would be okay. I failed two semesters of college because of this. One of the few friends I had died and because of this problem I couldnt be the brother he always was to me while he was alive. Then my nephew got a really bad sickness. If he would have died I would have died. At the time I felt like I failed alot of people, because I did and I felt like I had failed him, I didn't feel like I deserved to live. It didnt feel right. I tried to fix my mind so I could do better in this life but it only got worse. God healed my nephew from a disease that should have killed him. Real authentic bible following Christians prayed in the name of Jesus and my nephew was healed. Even the doctor asked us if we believed in God because he said my nephew was alive by some miracle. I didnt kill myself because my nephew survived. I kept going but my mind was still messed up. I kept letting people down. Eventually I got fed up with myself. I got to the point that I didn't care what happened to me. I disregarded myself completely for the sake of others. Even though my mind was absolute hell I read the bible, I prayed and trusted God. The more time I spent with God the less, worry, hate, anger and paranoid I got. I learned to love people that I had no reason to love. I dont want to hurt people. The only reason I still do mma is for my coach that got killed. The last thing he told me before he died was that he couldnt wait to see me in mma, I feel like I have to fight, I know he didn't die for nothing, it wont be for nothing. Eventually my mind was free from all that hell, it took awhile only because I had a real hard time trusting in God but once I just let go and trusted God no matter what I became free from all that mental hell. I have mental clarity now. I have peace, I can breathe. I know alot of things in life dont make sense sometimes but I promise you there is life in Jesus. All of you matter. Dont listen to anyone who tells you that you dont. You are more than significant. theres a guy named dan mohler on youtube that explains the gosple of Christ very well, Look up Dan Mohler- what is our purpose
Рикардо Карденас I have been kinda going through that since 5 months ago.. everything I look at or think about just isn’t the same ...I don’t know how I was even happy before...something triggered this madness for me but I thought I would get through it by now but I keep getting worse not even trying to get better..i just feel like my best life is gone and nothing left for me here.
@@southbound_rc go see a specialist, they did wonders for a friend of mine that tried to commit suicide. Now, 4 years later, he is following his dream of making a movie and is filming it right now. It's never too late
Lambdacode I know I did but I gave up to easy I took meds for a couple weeks but stopped cuz my pride I guess that I don’t need them I went to therapy but wasn’t consistent...I have so many excuses I guess I know I’m wrong I don’t blame anybody for this but me but now I’m at the point where I feel like I’m just to gone I could go on and on about why I’m so messed up...Thanks for the advice tho idk man I was never like this it just sucks I ruined a lot of things since I been in this shit Hole...look at me complaining like a bitch...
@@southbound_rc I understand man, been in a very bad spot for about a year myself, almost dropped out of college. I'm lucky enough to have a good family that supported me but ultimately it was me that had to step it up. I grew tired of my excuses and started working out again, at first at home because going out was too hard, threw away all those sugars and started eating well. In a few months I was me again. I fell a couple of times since then but never that hard. Just try to focus on the good things if you can and resist, things WILL be better!
