I cannot believe she sang this in the 60s . At the time it was even more fucked up than today for women and , she fucking performed her ass off. She’s so brave. What a legend.
Went through sixties seventies and eighties always got my options across without using that language. I always got my point across loud and very clear.
@@cozytown5540what are you looking for in comments of this song? if you think this masterpiece will bring down the world? go back to your bunker and stay offline weirdo
@@beliciaT It's not a masterpiece, it's a piece designed and written to inflame male and female relations. It is a declaration of war on a functioning society. The singer only liked women anyway, so what business did she have singing about men? You're just too naive and ignorant to perceive the deeper truth
Just thinking about how restrictive life for women had been in the 50s and early 60s. A teenager approaching marriage and womenhood would have felt like a prison sentence in some ways. Maybe even more for a lesbian like this singer who didn’t even have the romance with a husband to look forward to. The freedom of youth went double even triple in these times. And she was determined to be herself every second of it. You can feel the triumph and power in that line. It makes me emotional too.
@@exequielwelz I am proud of people like your grandma who paved the way for brave girls to work and make money, I support them and the content they produce on OF.
she's actually incredibly nervous walking in. she walks in looking at the ground and looking unsure. she killed this performance, but the beginning would indicate nerves.
This is a very brave song for her generation where women were still considered as properties of men. Salute to you Ms. Lesley. Also for reminding women like me of this generation that I don't need to be owned by a man.
Its always soul crushing to go back in time and watch a performer (especially one this beautiful)who is no longer with us sing a line like "I'm young and I love to be young, I'm free and love to be free". That "something dreadful" waits for us all.
as long as you've loved, been loved, and achieved along the way - then yeah....the ultimate awaits us all...as for me...I'm gonna have a beer, wait for the grandkids to arrive....because I've cooked dinner for them, and go out with a blast. You enjoy every day thomasposey.....
Thats a bleak way of thinking of it, my man. My perspective is always that they are so lucky to be young, to experience youth to the point that they express it in singing. Enjoy the life, we are young and love to be young, we are free and love to be free !
@@meme678 that is not true at all. I wish people would stop making up bullshit to give a good song some kind of false meaning to fit their political views. Its not about gays, its not about race. Its just a fucking song. John madara and david white are both pasty white boys
@@puiwenlamlam2691 You can give a song your own meaning, But dont go around telling people what the creators of the song had in mind just to fit your beliefs, its fucking stupid
People say that the fact that this song was written by two men somehow makes it worse but I say it makes it better because it means two men were actually aware about the whole situation happening
I just heard on a podcast that the woke think that the past, the 60's and 70's was a sort of Saudi Arabia, when in fact women and this kind of messaging wasn't nearly as revolutionary as people imagine. I am not saying there hasn't been an improvement curve but it's a little mythological. It's the same energy as K.Harris being Vice President is treated as groundbreaking/stunning, but, for example, C.Rice at Secretary of State, which probably holds more actual power as an office, is sort of background noise, forgotten about. I am no Republican, I am from Scotland, but it's interesting to note it suits the messaging more of this holy struggle through the decades to imagine an exaggerated image of the past. This song was written by men indeed. Not cause he was part of some cabal. Not because it was so revolutionary in that era as you have been lead to believe. If you imagine the past as a much less heated period than in your head, this song is actually written about a girl who doesn't like a bossy possessive boyfriend. That's all.
@@ottoneiii4353 He's referring to the time. The time when even the people of color didn't get much freedom. It's good to know there were still people who didn't think like the majority of their own community.
A powerful way of saying "I'm a human being, just like you, treat me as such." Man, woman, one color or another, gay, straight.....who cares? We ALL have a common denominator, HUMAN. Go and be the change you want to see in the world.
@@sunbae4197 you are wrong about that. I graduated from high school in 1964. We all loved this song. You are trying to put the emotions and hatred of today into an era where that didn't exist. Things were entirely different back then and just beginning to change! Not all the boys back then were male chauvinist pigs!! LOL That was mostly the older men like our fathers generation and older!!!
@@sunbae4197 - No, not true. Did you invent that? John Madara and David White wrote it in 1963. Leslie recorded it on the Mercury label and it reached # 2 in early February 1964.
It was written by two men and was produced by Quincy Jones. It was also a top 10 hit, which is to say it obviously appealed to ALL kinds of humans. Still does.
Several years ago, I saw Lesley perform in a nightspot in Northampton, MA, a college community known for its open views on sexuality, politics, etc. She was absolutely terrific. She still sang great, was open about herself, offered self-deprecating humor and seemed as relaxed as could be. I went away highly impressed about not only Lesley the singer, but Lesley the human being. How I wish she was still around.
Thanks for the flashback --- The nightspots of North Hampton are amazing with the type crowd they attract. I'm in Pennsylvania, straight, but do appreciate lesbians, a best friend was one. Back in 1992 I was in North Hampton for a week hunting dinosaur footprints by canoe up river above Turners Falls, on the Connecticut River (came home with some nice stone footprints and memories). I was camping north west of town in a State Park. There were 3 night clubs/bars that I'd hit at night, amazing memories of all three - it was "Taste of North Hampton" week. The one night it was so foggy going back to camp I could hardly see the front end of my canoe on the roof of my white Lebaron coupe. I had a serious buzz on from a great night out and thought I must be insane driving like this through the mountains on a winding forest road back to camp. But, being an INTJ (tested genetic mastermind) I knew I could to do it. All I had to do was drive 30 minutes or so, blind and buzzed, and keep the car on the road until a State Park sign announced my turn onto another road. It worked, I found the camp. 🙃. The only problem with North Hampton was the early curfew, I think it was 1am when the bars had to close. I could have gone to 3am no problem. 🤘😎👍
@@trevorjohnpatrickwalkerYou think driving "buzzed" which is being intoxicated is a fond memory? It's a reckless, selfish thing to do and I hope you aren't still driving under the influence. 😑 2:03
I am confused about what you think was accepted - a woman singing about independence - and we are talking about your parents era - not the middle ages! Sweetheart that time era is one generation back and we are all open minded about woman power - SSMH
lol I wasn't referring to a woman singing about independence. I was referring to a woman who encouraged independence and took that action. Woman, despite legally having freedom, were and still are ridiculed to some point. So I didn't know back then that songs like this could be accepted considering how potent the bigotry towards woman was.... I'll let that "your parents era" thing slide. Even though this is 5 and 8 years before my parents were even born. I guess that's close enough...
DanceMonster when I heard the grace version. I thought that sounds great just like a song from the 60s. Only just discovered it actually is a real song and after listening to this original, the original is superb!!!!!
This is all the more fantastic when you consider that it was recorded in 1963, when most songs by female singers were doing some version of "please be my boyfriend". Gore may have recorded the first "girl power" anthem.
Grace did a good job with the cover, but when you think of Lesley Gore's version and how ballsy it was to do this kind of song at this time, you just can't beat the original.
She's such a revolutionary. She lived in a time where women were supposed to be submissived towards men and all the songs were something like "I only got my man". She's a fresh air
I don't think she was even aware she was a lesbian when she recorded this song. I could be wrong, but... you have to understand the era. Ellen dated men for years until she realised.
Corinne Waters Or she could be "independent" and leave the man instead of telling him how to treat her. He's clearly not the man for her, so instead of the constant bitching, she should just leave. If this was a real life case and not just a song, of course. :)
not all of them, you just know the talented ones whose talent made them known till today. There were surely hundreds of the untalented ones who are not remembered these days.
The rawness, feedback in the mic, static...combined with pure talent, passion, conviction. THIS is music. You live the moment as if you are right there next to her. Wow.
You can really see how she feels: starts off a little nervous, then brave then confident and happy. That's a powerful song. Givin' me the chills over here.
I didnt read her starting as nervous. It felt like she was getting in character of someone speaking up for herself after having someone control her or tell her what to do. Slightly pissed but confident in speaking up.
For me, it is her greatest performance. Why? Because, everything is just right in this performance. Her hair, her smile, the facial expressions, her voice, the film chambera, the sound during the recording, the enthusiasm of the audience. Everything just perfect.
One of the greatest pop songs ever written and the delivery was out of this world... a very progressive song for the early 60's; most songs were about love, this was rebellious, way ahead of it's time.....or right on time??
This is one of the greatest songs. It was heading to number one on billboard and ‘IWant to Bold Your Hand’ by the Beatles took first place. What an injustice!
When Lesley Gore first heard this song, she thought that ''it had an important humanist quality''. "I don’t care what age you are - whether you’re 16 or 116 - there’s nothing more wonderful than standing on the stage and shaking your finger and singing, ‘Don’t tell me what to do." ~Lesley Gore
Ive really though its the final Song from Car Scene at End of Kill Bill !! But thats a another ! This is but much better for a happy Tarantino Movie End for these Time !
Lesley had a terrible case of stage fright. If you notice, most of this song she is looking up into the rafters because she could not look into the crowd for fear of freezing up. In other clips, she looks left and right--but she is looking at friends who were placed in the crowd so she would have a familiar face to look at and not panic.
Great story. She once said that she was susceptible to throwing up before a performance. She also said that if something was hard, it was all the more reason to do it.
She still sang the song pal, what did you to get on records or sing before an audience? Can you do better? Jerk, just tired of your types, never, or ever will you even get to her level. Leave the slamming to other's who were on stage with her. I knew this song way before you were in diapers.
+Steve Cohen It was ballsy. I don't know why this song is so underrated. Should be in the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame and should have been on the top 500 Rolling Stones list.
+Steve Cohen I love this video. She was only 16, and the innocence of her young face belies the strength and power of her voice and the message of this song. Lesley Gore may just be one of my favorite singers of all time.
My mom is a big Lesley Gore fan and she introduced me to her music when I was a kid in the 80s. I love the powerful message of this song. “And don’t tell me what to do, don’t tell me what to say, and please when I go out it with you don’t put me on display ‘cause you don’t own me”.
@Judas Iscariot You are really writing this under every single comment. I guess we all already know that, but that doesn't have anything to do with the fact that the song is true and many womens loved it and could relate to it. So stop with spamming please. Thanks :)
@@stickalabelon405 Yes, that is what I was trying to point out in a subtle way. All of my original songs are autobiographical. My latest is the result of a first fight I had with my boyfriend. Men and their ways can sure spark emotional reactions from us women. Take care and thanks for your response.
Many people today do not know the cultural and political significance of this song. You Don’t Own Me is considered a feminist anthem. Recorded by 17 yr old Lesley Gore in 1963 the song was written and produced by three men: John Madara, David White and Quincy Jones. It reached Nr 2 on Billboard’s Top 100 where it stayed for 3 weeks. Along with other artist works, YDOM was considered a factor for second wave feminism in USA a decade later. In 2016 YDOM was inducted in the Grammy Hall Of Fame. It was Lesley Gore’s last song to hit a Top Ten chart in USA.
A small part in Gore not having another top 10 is that, whilst her 1963 song YDOM is about emancipation and freedom from control, her very next single - The Way Boys Are - suggests that, whilst boys treat you like garbage, that's just the way boys are, and we - women - love them for it. It reached 14 in USA, and her next song bombed to 42nd.
I was in college when she was so popular... you could hear her records playing all the way down the hall ways in the dorms... she was the beginning of WOMEN'S LIB!
And now women get upset because they got hit by a man who was defending himself from her.... Something definitely went wrong with the women lib.... A wrong turn for sure. Maybe taken to far OR lack of iq in modern culture
I love how Lesley looked like the ideal “all-American” good girl, yet she was singing a very controversial and feminist song ( for that time). Love that juxtaposition
Lesley's facial expressions, her emotion, her gestures perfectly bring the song across. It's simply atmospheric. Thank you for such fantastic memories, Leslye. We lost you too soon.
I just heard on a podcast that the woke think that the past, the 60's and 70's was a sort of Saudi Arabia, when in fact women and this kind of messaging wasn't nearly as revolutionary as people imagine. I am not saying there hasn't been an improvement curve but it's a little mythological. It's the same energy as K.Harris being Vice President is treated as groundbreaking/stunning, but, for example, C.Rice at Secretary of State, which probably holds more actual power as an office, is sort of background noise, forgotten about. I am no Republican, I am from Scotland, but it's interesting to note it suits the messaging more of this holy struggle through the decades to imagine an exaggerated image of the past. This song was written by men indeed. Not cause they were part of some cabal. Not because they were cause driven and it was so revolutionary in that era, as you have been lead to believe. If you imagine the past as a much less heated period than in your head, this song is actually written about a girl who doesn't like a bossy possessive boyfriend. That's all. Remember when the facts don't fit your narrative, the narrative arc might be false.
@@monroe2820 it's almost 2021 and you have a fucking deluge of info at your fingertips and you come with this absolute shit take? A literal 6-second google search would give you all the info you need. You're fucking embarrassing and I'm embarrassed FOR you. Next time check your shit before somebody rocks it. John Madara Dave White Look it up. You're at least THAT intelligent enough....right?
@@brentmarlow662 There ya go...look at me, I'm a slut...errrr...I mean empowered woman, yea that's what I meant. Then they want men to fall all over them in their 40's after they've hit the wall, rode the cock carousel round and round and look like a horse's saddle that was rode hard and put away wet.
