Let's Talk About Being Busy 

That's so true I am still taking my first steps in this path, congratulations!

Oh dear hope you are well

Nice having you onboard.

Heck yeah

That sounded like a painful journey. A wonderful book to explore if you're interested: "When the Body Says No: The Hidden Cost of Stress" by Gabor Maté

We retired early in 2002. We volunteer, travel, see friends, do what we want. No moving van behind a hearse. Tina

@@alanbirkner1958 awesome!

Lol, right?!

Yeees!

We Americans like to scoff at French for example prioritizing down time much more than we do... maybe I’m French at heart; I highly value my free time and rarely if ever feel a need to fill my schedule with careerist block-checking or even maximum socializing

Reciprocation of whatever it is that we give is important. Constantly giving from the void inside that doesn't get replenished as it should by *something* is a painful thing. I did it for many years. Responsibilities fall into a different area when it comes to giving and commitment. These things would often cause significant ruin of some type for multiple people if not given the full attention that they deserve. However, these things especially (responsibilities) can have some of the worst draining effects on us exactly because of the nature of what they are--probably even more so when family is involved. Doing the things that are necessary for yourself to recharge from all of the output isn't being lazy, or anything else that those critical of them might call them. At some point, you'll have to develop the confidence in yourself and your decisions to be able to simply ignore those things that aren't helpful to you and continue about your business. Everyone's life isn't the same, so trying to get to the place where you can find balance and peace is a journey that only you can complete. However, never forget that there are always people along the way to assist you when you need it. Never be afraid to accept the "weakness" within yourself and ask for help. None of us are superhuman. -Love

If she is interested at all, maybe watching something from Mel Robbins could help as well. Her book "Take control of your life" (but she also has videos on the topic) made me realize that perfectionism was my rather unhelpful coping mechanism for stress/anxiety. I can very much relate to your daughter, it took way too long for me to realize that perfectionism wasn't helping me at all, because it disguises itself as just being especially effective.

Same 🥺 lol I was like. You so judgey these days!

Love the poetic touch, you bring to your podcasts and videos, Josh. It makes the message even more visceral 👌

I don't believe Joshua is scoffing at the intentional and meaningful use of technology. Used this way, it can be a powerful tool for connection, productivity, etc. If we choose to spend some focused time watching a video from the Minimalists, that's very likely time well-spent. If on the other hand we watch another hour of hedgehog videos afterwards, that's likely time better spent focusing on creating, connecting, or whatever else is important to us.

@@bradgantt1818 sometimes we need a good series of hedgehog videos for our mental health, too :) I suppose I was seeking a more nuanced approach to using technology mindfully and felt this was more idealistic/general than I could practice. I respect your response; thank you for challenging my comment. I forgot I commented here but I kind of needed this reminder today.

@@kaitlin312 Ha! Yes. We need hedgehogs for sure. And I agree that this presentation wasn't particularly nuanced. More of a Scared Straight approach ;)