I can't wait to meet my husband❤for now let me work on my relationship with God and also work on myself because my future husband deserves the best version of me! I believe that he's also doing the same 🥰
Man so lucky. I wanted a husband for so long and I've been searching and searching for a man to love me. What I found was a homeless, divorced guy, who had a seven year old he didn't have custody of and had anger and drug issues and homelessness at 32 and he was 40! That was in 2016. ...Then at 39 I tought I'd give this guy who was my same age and who also lived with his parents, etc I thought we had a lot in common but yet he left me six months later! Ugh... so now I'm 40 and I don't know if I have the energy anymore to keep looking 😞 Men have disappointed me one way or another. The guys in between just wanted me for sex and not get to know me or want anything serious. You all are very lucky and young 😞. But at the same time. Maybe God's telling me it's not everything to be married? It's also hard work to be a wife and then later on a mother. Raising children is very expensive as my ex would put it... the cost of living is out of this world especially if you don't have a good paying job. The competition for jobs are through the roof, especially good paying ones! At least that's what I believe. I reached a point once, when I was dating that last ex, before I met him, that people in the Social Services building getting Welfare, they are smart and get babies and get pregnant and have families even though they can't afford it because they KNOW that being young is only one time. You can have money ANY day, but you can't always have babies and children! ...I don't know.. is that the right observation? Lol. Food Stamp families... I don't know. It's so hard and hurtful to put myself out there but I want to do it still. I really don't get how others have been able to land a guy and show him off to family and get the ring, etc! It's all I've thought of since I was young I think lol. I think that's on a lot of women's bucket list lol. Being a wife and mother and having a family.
Hold on to Gods promises, age is just a number. I manage a small group in my community for our mature members and one of our ladies was married this year at the wonderful age of 82 years old. With God all things are possible, keep believing!
You're right. This advice is spot on. I love the book tip, I've gotten asked what am I reading many times. I was at a cafe once and saw a guy reading his bible!!!! yes, with a highlighter and everything. Also the high end supermarkets right around 6-7pm, they come right after work. And if you can get to the gym super early, like 5-6am, is when a lot of serious men workout then they go to work afterwards. Also, take a random golf lesson or the grill section of any home depot, crawling with guys!!!
All taken noted. I’ve been in a lot of horrible relationships. A lot of abuse , lies, putting the man always first. I wasn’t in any godly relationships. I lost myself once after the first person I truly loved. I’ve had meaningless s*x with some men. I feel scared about my body count. It’s around 30 😢.. I feel ashamed of it. I really did have negative and evil spirits in me. But the last relationship I was in, thought me I never had to do any of that. But we’re not together anymore, because of physical abuse on his end and mistrust on my end. Him being selfish, he wasn’t a man of god. I tried to stay with him but for some reason god kept showing signs that he probably wasn’t the one. I kept repeating the same cycles from my previous relationships. I’m healing now & keeping myself for me. I hope to one day find the one .
Don’t allow the enemy to condemn you, come to God with your sins and confess each one, repent for them and turn away. Jesus said “blessed are the poor in spirit for theirs is the kingdom of God” (Matt 5:3) when you see your bad state and mourn over it, you have a heart that is truly repentant for your mistakes. Bring it to God and let Him wash you clean 1 John 1:8-9 NKJV If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. [9] If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. You are forgiven ❤️ shame was put on the cross! Keep praying for God to heal you and prepare you for the one 🙏🏽😊
@@sincerelynellymartin thank you so much girl for the reply. It’s been over a month and a half and I’ve been just devoting myself fully to god and my family. I stopped everything that was related to sin. My heart just couldn’t take any of it anymore. I’m so glad I came across your page. You’re beautiful & amazing. Thank you for being you and doing what you’re doing! ❤️ I hope any other female going through this has hope 🙏🏾✨💕
Remember we are renewed in Christ! We aren’t defined by our sin but by God and a true man of God will understand that without judging you. Yes you have a past but so do we all so don’t let the enemy keep bringing to remembrance things God has already forgiven and forgotten. I do think you need some time away from relationships and men in general so you can instead spend the time building your relationship with God. Reading your word, praying, worships, and asking God to prepare your and the man meant for you. Ask him for better discernment and to be able to hear his voice more so he will order your life according to his will. Focus on loving God more than anything else including the idea of a good partner and he will provide you with the person he has for you. He may not be what you had in mind so ask God to change your type/what you find attractive to fit what he has for you. I wish you the best and know that you are renewed! Stop letting the devil whisper lies in your head. Nothing can stop what God’s will is for you and if that involves a husband then he will make a way. Trust in him! :)
I think when we focus on the kingdom of God and his righteousness being built in us and God cleaning our sanctuary God will plan the event when we are ready.
Fr! It’s good to put yourself in place where God is able to work but right now I’m focused on becoming a Godly woman and loving God more than anything. I used to be so wrapped up finding a husband and love instead of appreciating the fact that I already have the best love in the world through jesus. Right now I am just working to become who God ordained me to be and when God brings me a husband he brings him. Either way I’m going to be ok because I have God and that’s all I truly need.
I have but he is " happy" with his girlfriend whom ...both are collecting the" wages of sin which is death"...so Im waiting in the wings hope of for the final culmination of the death and end of this so called relationship
I was doing purpose paying rent across the street was his store ...whose lights attracted me like fireflies... And I needed a diversion from my life as it was spiralaling out of control,plus i was interested to know about who was running tbe business . As I live in neighborhood walking distance ...and I was curious about who owner was because I was...aware of several previous stores and business types
Same situation and in my case after living in sin, they just got married😢. So please be careful. Don't wait around for this as it could end up badly@@Jennifer-xl5fh
I am moving to Florida too! I am leaving friends and surroundings in California. I’ve been just me and my Bible. And I am so happy to have found you. 💗
Powerful! I found your channel by accident but to think about it - is not coincidence at all since I am hearing this and so timely. Truly a blessing. Watching from Indonesia.
You’re right. I’ve been guided since 2022 by spirit, visions, signs, etc to relocate to Boston. I’ve never been there in this life/this parallel universe. But I’ve been shown that I’m going home by moving there. Love is awaiting meet there. ❤ So, I’ve been moving in silence. 🤫 My house sale Closes today! 🎉 I’m moving in two weeks. I’m very grateful and excited for this new life. I’m trusting Source and myself. I’m ready for this new beginning.
Sounds Fantastic and I am dating online and we feel in love but have not met yet. He is working outside of the USA and got injured in the hospital now. Please pray for him and I. Get through this Situation and we'll get married when he returns to the United States. Thank you I love your video
I wish you both well and him a speedy recovery. I hope you have seen him through a video call and that he's not asking you for hospital fees. Be weary of such men claiming to work abroad and having some sort of difficulties to scam you.
@@leratochristina1260 in p Everyone is telling me the same thing but I don't think he's trying to scam me I really believe after all this time he is in the hospital and he does have his own money but for whatever reason he can't get the card to work out there He's not asking me for no money
New subbie!!!! Beautiful words…. I am divorced 😢however what you share is absolutely beautiful…. I was divorced during the time of no social media, dating apps etc…. So the proximity was how I met my husband (college ) ❤you are speaking TRUTH! Keep sharing and I definitely will be sending this out to other singles I know! 😊
Lol 😂 @ 1:54 with Arnold randomly peeping in! Girl I LOVE your channel and so glad I’ve found you! So much wisdom for God’s people in the financial and love department that I’ve been trying to get clarity on for a while now! God for surely sent me here to YOU! May God continue to richly bless you Queen! ❤
I go to coffee shops, I go to parks sometimes, I travel internationally and go to church, to the gym, …I don’t know what’s happening 😩. It’s all in Gods timing
wow just like me and my best friend when we were single. Many thought it was over for us as we are both very accomplished. My dad was my sounding block. Got so much support from him. It helped both of us too. So we kept hope alive - we did a lot of intl travel, cafes, gym, and church. Not so much parks though, as my body attracts bug bites. Fortunately, our hubbies are amazing! Keep your head up, he will come soon.
How are you dressing? I used to dress half naked everywhere especially at the gym. The FIRST DAY I wore baggy clothes to the gym completely covered up, I met my husband 😂😂😂
Please! Answer me what you said in the beginning of the video.question: How do we know if we are in the right position? Or in position for our husband to find us?
In the video I gave places to go, but also the proper heart posture to have in this process and godly characteristics to be noticed. When I gave my testimony, I explained how it wasn’t like God said “go to this part of Florida”, I just applied everywhere asked God to close doors that weren’t for me and open the ones that were and that’s how I was offered opportunities only in Florida no where else I applied. So I went. By being submitted to God, prayerful, and literally asking God to lead me, I ended up where I was meant to be. But I didn’t know EXACTLY where I would find my husband, so I just trusted God that as I made effort His hand would move so I would be where I’m meant to be. Having faith & trusting God is #1 to not overly obsess about place. Psalm 90:17 NLT And may the Lord our God show us his approval and make our efforts successful. Yes, make our efforts successful! As you do what you can and have faith in God, He will make your efforts successful.
Wow I definitely needed to hear this. Especially the getting ready part. I admit, I will go out looking like I’m from the hood 😂 I will change that today and get dressed for my husband so he can spot me out of nowhere
Wow sis. These are the most practical tips I found on RU-vid. Instead of typical advice of leaning back on your feminine energy but no realistic solution. I will truly find a way to read books outside of my house and pray to Allah (I'm a Muslim) that He will guide me to the place where I can meet mine. Thanks again 👍🏻😄
@@sincerelynellymartinI'm in isolation.... Please advise me sister... I'm from India🙏🏻my father passed away recently, I'm here to take care of my mumma
I am very impressed by your videos. This is the second one that I have watched. You truly are a good teacher. Can't wait to share with my young adult children. Thanks
Thank you, Nelly, for being a good steward to God's calling on your life to teach the lessons He placed on your heart for his kingdom. I am greatly blessed. All praises and glory to the Lord God Almighty.
I love your hair. Anyway ..your method..would it work for older people over 40 with other responsibilities like caring for elderly parents and work strsss?
❤ very good information and thank God and you for sharing your knowledge this was very helpful have a great day as well and may God continue to bless you and your family.
That’s why I liked having a purpose for each place I presented that way it’s not like you’re not doing anything (reading a book, doing work on laptop, taking a walk to enjoy a nice view)😊 also remember the man has it harder, he’s the one who’s going to come up to you and start conversation.
You are a great speaker and very intellectual. I am grateful for your wisdom which you have decided to share with us. Thank you and may the Lord continue to bless and protect you and those you love.
2 more weeks before God starts to move me into a new season. Oooooweeeeh, I cant wait. (10 months of work) Yep, "I know I am in the wrong pond to be fishing for a husband." patiently for my new season. (Mind you, this wilderness season is pretty good this time around too.)
This is ready good. I truly believe God lead me to this video. You have confirmed so much especially my questioning God concerning a new environment. Thank you
I struggle with dressing modestly. Clothes and fashion has always been hard tbh. I thought I was being vain so I stopped putting effort in my appearance. I do like lashes and it makes a difference for me but it’s costly to do those.
I also have had to slowly exchange my clothes to a more modest fashion while still maintaining style and femininity-which dresses for me have been an easy way. I agree lashes are wayyyy too expensive! Instead I got a good mascara and use it for when I want to up the look, but I definitely invest in great skincare products and also do micro-needling about twice a year. The Bible says our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit so hygiene, what we eat and consume (including TV, music) and even how we physically present ourselves does matter. As long as we stay balanced and don’t idolize looks we’ll be good 😊
Can i ask you a little into this topic? I have often found that Many christian women are, what i personally find to be a little obsessed with getting a husband. Dont get me wrong here - love is important. But what i find unhealthy is when we as women mold our lifes around looking for a man - it is especially a trap for women when we who do not feel a super strong calling on our lifes - if you ever have sensed a strong calling on your life you know what i talk about; it is that deep deep sense of purpose what is often found when women are High achivers fx being an athlet, Musician, buisness owner - those those type of purposes where you really know that: this is gift from God and that it has to be stewarded and really worked upon in order to see The full fruit of it - but that is also so fullfilling and gives you the sense of: “wow i was made for this!” When women dont have that - often finding a husband becomes one if their main things to focus on. I am one of those super purpose driven women where god and my purpouse was everything. Yet i still want to find ahusbsnd - ans so when i have tried to be more in “position mode” - doing what you talk about in the video i have found over time that my life and purpose has been watered out bacause it took my eyes of what i was designed to do… So i honestly dont know how to balance it. Only going for my purpose is lonely - but i am also affraid of molding my life around always being open and wife material since god created me for so so much more. (And Please - if anybody in then commentas want to comment - don’t write without nuances and really understanding The message and The depth of it. Thank you) I cannot express it in writing with all the nuances - so please read it in The purest intention as it is written
I definitely think it’s important as Christians to be balanced. I have seen both extremes of being overly obsessed about a husband that your life revolves around it; and then the other extreme of being very career focused and unbothered regarding family. That’s why the key to staying in the middle is seeking first the kingdom of God. As we seek Him first He guides us in our purpose, and that includes doing great things with the gifts He gave us as well as the blessing of love and family. I know for me personally, I was in my career as a nurse and I felt so lonely. Now being married, life is so much fun! My husband came with himself, his lovely family, and a bunch of Christian friendships! Community has been the most heartwarming blessing, I didn’t find this kind of joy in the pursuit of greatness in my career field. Life isn’t fun when it isn’t shared with others I have found. And I feel so supported and helped in my calling. When I’m down I have prayer partners and encouragers. I also don’t feel the pressure of being a sole provider so now I actually have more time to invest in passions. Marriage is a gift and a blessing when it’s orchestrated by God, especially since it’s the closest thing here on earth to show Jesus and the Church. Godly friendships should also be sought! There are certainly many nuances to this as you stated😆 we are always safe putting God first and sitting at His feet as His dear child ❤️🤗
@@sincerelynellymartin Thank you so much for you answer!! So true what you write! The lonetlyness and The blessings that comes with marrige and community - i will pray about finding The right fit where both Can exist. Because yes we are designed for both. Thank you for being inspirering and not being superficial in all of this - you know “ just put yourself out there / or : you are just not ready” - i have Got those types of answers from other christian women - and it just turns me of since there is so much more to it. Thank you nelly - i really liked your content ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for your Video! ❤ Concerning self positioning I dort know if it really matters. Beeing so strategic about it. Yees "good" Guys will probably approach you in a higher ratio, but I do not believe God needs our help to connect us to the spouse he wants us to be with. Going to the groceries, doing this and that...I just do not believe that beeing found is so random...but I may be wrong. I' m just wondering.
@@sincerelynellymartin that’s amazing! God whispered to read into Acts 26-27 while I was washing the dishes earlier. Not sure but he’s been directing me these days very clearly. My boyfriend and I are looking to move to a Christian part of the US, that’s why I asked about Florida. Fort Lauderdale has been on my heart. NYC has become very complicated. As a fellow New Yorker I think you understand what I mean. Finding your channel made my day :) I shared this video with a fellow Christian friend! God bless you.
I LOVE Fort Lauderdale, tbh Miami is too congested and packed now even though I love all the culture and things to do, Fort Lauderdale is right there and also has its own airport. I pray God leads you to the right location where you can grow and prosper 🙏🏽❤️ also, thanks for sharing the video 🤗
