Let Yourself Be Skinny 

that makes me feel so guiltyy

shes the gas station commercial lady at the gas pump dude. seriously, check out her later videos. Speedway advertises her

Ikr

I guess we all need it🫥

real

You got this, too?

Because skinny is coming back😉

Lol

Just eat natural foods that nourish your body and don't leave you craving crap. Do you see any fat animals in the wild? No. Slim and fit is our natural state.

@@Neophemawalruses are pretty fat.. also whales need to be to stay warm.. and wombats are pretty round

​@@Neophemathere are fat animals..also humans are animals and can be naturally skinny or fat lol

@@NeophemaI seen fat animals out in the wild 😭

thats a dumbass quote 😭

@@soshisushi7421 not really. a lot of women center their lives around becoming prettier.

real

Real

Honestly this video hit home for me so hard but when it comes to success and following my dreams. I am so afraid of my own abilities and my own vast potential for success that I recognize- because I know it could leave me isolated, and I feel alone, and I don’t want to be alone forever, so I sabotage my own abilities that I know will lead to envy because I want to be loved. I’m afraid to be as talented as I am. I like this lady, even if her video was about being skinny, for everyone they have their core values and the self sabotage and fear of being beautiful is real. She’s wise.

Frrr💀

Yes there is much more to the video;) I am glad you stayed and heard the underlying message 🖤

never water yourself down to make others comfortable❤

This is what i needed to hear today❤

thank you

Oooooh That. Now that comment helps me Lol. For real tho.

❤

Beautiful

Who wrote the first one?

What poem?

Maybe some inner child prompts?

Congratulations you found the key. Fat is a sheltering mechanism of the body to keep you safe from outside stressor or trauma. Once you let go, you allow yourself to be safe in your body, you shed the fat.

Here to tell you you're still allowed to be stressed out and unhappy when you improve your looks by weightloss, which might give a little comfort. Not a very encouraging comment perhaps but what I basically mean to say is, allow yourself to take one step at a time. These things aren't as attached to eachother as you make them out to be, it's just whatever you improve about yourself makes it's a little easier to deal with other areas in your life that need improvement. Gaining weight might have been a disfunctional coping mechanism, connected with your belief system at the moment, but not getting your whole life together at once doesn't make you a failure.

“Why am I afraid of living the life of my dreams?” Keep it going !

Congratulations bc youre being very honest with yourself!! Not a lot of people have the courage to admit to this. Its not only being skinny or whatever of course, but any “good” thing that we have an excuse for not doing. Nothing wrong with being fat but i feel like most people dont truly want to be, they just find excuses bc its scary to change…

Yes!

THIS🖤

learn how to count kcal?

@@Bankai90 yes but counting and sticking to it is a different thing

So I think it’s more about discipline

@@roksanarudzinska7737 well discipline is better than luck

You may have some sneaky triggers that you don’t register yet… journaling could be very helpful for you: if you’ve reached your goal, look carefully when you find yourself doing something like overeating fast food for example. While you’re eating it, think about what was happening before you made the choice to buy it, where you eat it (ex: alone in your car, or with others), how you feel while eating it, and then how you feel after. The act alone of creating awareness around the situation can help a lot. Sending you lots of love💖

I hope you get your dream body, you deserve it🙏🏻

me too❤

I felt this.

Bet

Let’s goooo!

You're not. I hope your wedding day was beautiful.

this is exactly how I feel today, I just turned 18, I am my no means fat but I would love to be thin, and beautiful but I'm somehow scared women will be mad at me for being thin, I am never mad at other women for being beautiful or thin because I realize that it takes a lot of intention and work, but for me I feel like I'm betraying some of bigger friends and I don't want them to be jealous of me, I don't want men to hit on me, but I still want attention and to know I'm desirable, I feel like I'm going crazy its a daily struggle of deciding if I want to be thin or stay the same and satisfy my family and friends.

I so hear you...and I recorded this so long ago. I might use different words today, but the essence is the same. Allowing ourselves to experience and express ALL of who we desire to be. I hope you had a stunning wedding day!

This is so real. I totally feel you. Your are beautiful for the simple fact that you know and speak your truth. ❤️

@@ElegantFemmehi What are Frenchy and Indy? Where do these terms come from? Or where are they used? I have never heard them before. They sound like psychology terms?

this is so amazing. i will journal about "can i let myself be happy?" because i think thats a beautiful journaling prompt. i dunno if im ready to do the skinny prompt, guess im afraid of that one

@@SaphiraLeander you can. Realize, think and feel what it would be like to be skinny. “I got to buy all these new pants because my old ones don’t fit” How would your lifestyle change? Maybe you would go for a walk, run or workout each day? How would your nutrition change? Making healthy meals, having quality food. Realize that right now you are a healthy person, you are skinny, and your decisions you make going forward will follow that change of mentality.

Right I’m a woman who is already skinny due too fast metabolism I’m taking the advice for other aspects of my life

i don’t understand what i should journal out though

Love that for you

I feel like when ppl tell me I’m losing weight, I start to subconsciously think "they think I’m fat, or they thought I was fat and they’re noticing my fat is lessening” and this starts to make me feel sad, that they noticed I’m losing weight bc they initially noticed I was fat to begin with, and then I guess I revert and sabotage myself bc I feel bad that they’re noticning? Idfk 😢

​@@okaywhat123pretty accurate

​@okaywhat123 omg same happening to me , specifically when my in laws do comment on me loosing one or 2 kilos I go and eat like crazy and gain 5 or even 6 more than before 😢😢😢

@@okaywhat123 Someone at work said I'd lost a noticeable amount of weight and I found it encouraging and have lost a bit more weight since then. She probably thought I was fat before. I know I was.

So funny - I’m the same. In fact when she said to journal about it, I immediately thought “someone would comment to me in my weight loss, meaning it as encouragement, but I would be so embarrassed and just quit”. Why are we like this?!

So writing magically drop the. Weight?

@@urlmellowyes

@@urlmellow I think what this is about is that journaling about the topic creates a healthier relationship with food and therefore people will "magically" drop the weight.

​@@urlmellowYou sound like someone who has never journaled. It is therapeutic, you allow yourself to really connect with your inner self and you start being more conscious about a lot of stuff

@@YukiKunikida I’ve journaled before just not often but maybe I should more

exactly its not about any special body type, its about the deeper allowing without limits! Cheering you on!

I so hear you...it is truly about allowing yourself to be all of who you desire to be. Others may get activated when they see us living our truth, but holding our truth back doesn't support them either. Sending you love

@@ElegantFemmethank you ❤️

Wow! Cheering you on.

oh I am so glad it is supportive to you.

This was me and I lost half the weight so far. Intermittent fasting and 1200 calories of healthy food works

Did you allow ur self ?

Same, I am now 20lbs heavier and i am so unhappy. I was so happy, when I was skinny I was so confident. I am letting myself be skinny and do not worry what other people think

You are ALLOWED! You can feel safe in the body you desire to experience. Sending you so much love

​@@ElegantFemme"you can feel safe in the body you desire to experience " you hit the nail on the head! Thank you!

17 yo and I completely agree with you, I’d say my way of feeling about myself is kind of different but about the subject of male gaze I agree with you at a 100%, I feel like having lived as an obese person really makes you see the bad side of some people, you don’t value them much so they won’t be afraid to mistreat you or to not give you so much attention, I really think it has helped me to be stronger in a way, to just understand that people will never really like me as they’re too stupid to understand that I have worth even as a person suffering from obesity, and in the same way, it made me disguised by most mens, the fact of objectifying women so much and litteraly disrespecting them when they don’t correspond to their beauty criterias just makes it impossible for me to actually believe that they are on the same level of intelligence and maturity as me, I don’t regret because overweight even tho it has caused me a lot of physical and psychological pain, I just feel so much detached from people now, and I can’t even imagine having a deep connection with someone who may disrespect me or being ashamed of me if I would simply have more fat in my body, and in general not pleasing their eyes. Before starting my weight loss I actually was actively looking for a man who would love me and be proud of me with and without my fat, and I can tell you, even though I’m younger than you, that even though you may be more ugly, undisciplined, more poor etc… when you’re fat, people still DONT have the right to disrespect you, being fat doesn’t mean belonging into a category of people with lower worth, we’re just normal people, with different bodies, we shouldn’t be ashamed or regret our habits choices, even our mistakes that made us fat, we need to be proud in order to evolve , because God Nevers makes mistake in our destiny, if we experienced a situation, we were meant to learn something from it !

We’re not just fat, we are people, we are souls, we were not supposed to be products of beauty , we shouldn’t fall into that societal thought of objectifying our bodies just like it has objectified our lives in order to create them abundance

@psychedelia5402 u worded this so perfectly

Omg never found someone who had the same thought process as me… wow. We should be friends

Five years ago I started therapy at my highest weight (109kg), I didn’t know why I couldn’t lose weight. Until after a lot of therapy sessions I found out that, one of the reasons I didn’t allowed myself to lose weight, was that if I did so, I was going to feel attractive enough to be in a relationship, and that scared me so so so much. It was true! I worked on it, I lost the weight, and found a loving partner

I can relate..desperate to be curvier...thank you.

hi girl, how tall are you?I am also 105 pounds but still I feel so fat like a baby elephant after eating a little more and sometimes when im stuck somewhere ,cannot eat and extremely hungry then I feel like im weak and thin.I don't know what sort of mental disorder is this..I keep my eyes on calories a lot which is not very beautiful.

@@POTPOURRI.1 Hey girl! I am 5'4. It sounds like you might need to do some shadow work, love! is it a self-image issue? If it is, I would look at ways you can heal your self-image and start loving yourself for exactly the way you look NO MATTER WHAT. We've ALL been conditioned to think we are not beautiful exactly the way we are!! You can try somatic healing practices: Eat when you're hungry and stop eating when you are no longer hungry... Have a conversation with your body.. ask what it needs and give it that! Remember, you are not your mind or thoughts. Any beliefs you;ve been conditioned to have can be deconditioned but it starts with you and self-love. We need to train the mind that we want to be HEALTHY, not bigger, or smaller. Being skinny doesn't mean being weak and eating a little more doesn't mean we're fat.... these are false beliefs. I hope that helps🧡

I’m 5’4” like you, weighing around 90 pounds soaking wet and I have had a similar experience. With so many overweight people projecting onto me, I started trying to force myself to eat more, follow stricter workout regimens and wear larger clothing to hide my body. Then I had to consider the source. These ppl hate themselves. Why would I take their own lack of self love personally? I am working on loving my natural slimness and being grateful for the beautiful life it affords me. 💕 Of course, this can be taken to extremes, but my doctors have never had a concern for my body. This is simply how God made me. 😊

@@tendingmytiara I love this!!!! "this is simply how God made me." YES. Thank you for your comment, love! ❤

All this could be solved with exercise. I used to be quite chubby in high school. I started at home exercises and it changed my life (I’m not even exaggerating). If you don’t like something about yourself, do something about it if possible. When you look good you feel good imo

this video and these comments are so toxic, u dont NEED to be skinny to do all these stuff period. if you want to be more healthy eat better and exercise more but all this is not NEEDED to live a happy life and love yourself and stop judging ys, youre so frustrated and i assure you are focusing on the wrong aspects to fix

I'm not perfect, but everybody thinks I am (don't know why), the envy, the passive agressive comments, etc is a lot for me. When I gained weight people seemed to enjoyed it, and behave as if I was more easy to get along, more approachable, but my behaviour was the same as when I was skinny. I'm now losing fat, looking slimmer and have the feeling of being more vulnerable because I'm feeling lighter, smaller and found out that I gained the fat I lost because I was scary to feel vulnerable. I am now developing skills to feel I'm safe in a smaller and lighter body.

perfect lol looks like gods blessed u in the perfect life cards

@@user-mj3vm2kb5t yes thank God I'm very grateful ❤️

Same. Most of my family members are overweight and I only post my body pics on my close friends story so they don't feel bad because that's how I used to and sometimes still feel... From now on, I'll allow myself to be skinny, healthy, toned, sexy, and confident!

From personal experience other women find it threatening …

I am so happy to hear this! It's amazing how when we start to feel good, we will limit ourselves from the next level. Having the power to identify this is HUGE! Bravo.xoxoxo

Sameee unfortunately but remember we can back on track🤍 Good luck on your journey✨

This is me. Right down to the fat middle kid. I'm choosing to switch my identity. I allow myself to be skinny, even if they judge

SOOOOO Good!

OMG THIS! 🖤

I am so happy it served you and that you allowed yourself to take it deeper. It's so freeing! Bravo

I have tears reading your message!!!! THIS is what it is all about. Freeing ourselves and allowing ourselves to live the life we truly desire. I am cheering you on! BRAVO

😂😂❤

You are awesome, and you will get there❤. Take the power back, do not give in to those who say "you looked better when you were plump". Let them say whatever they want, keep going with your routine, keep improving

Wear BULKY CLOTHS -- sometimes -- and stand up straight and proud of yourself in a healthy kind way. Bulky CLOTHS givex you the advantage in many ways. I wish I had known this sooner. I can weigh what I want and live my best life. No one will say you're too skinny, or be jealous then.

they just want to compare themselves with you to make themselves feel better! don't listen to anyone but yourself!!

No one's opinions about you should matter to you except yours. Not even your spouse's. Especially if you are bettering yourself. Are you happy? Then let yourself be happy! You're amazing. Remember that.

@@priyar2902 this ^^

There is physically no way you looked too skinny at 130 being 5’2”. I am 5’6” and 130 just looks like a normal weight on me, maybe leaning into being considered thin. Those people were most likely trying to tear down your confidence because they knew you were doing well and being healthy.

Your critics are probably all overweight themselves.

+Gee Meggers - let's do it then! :-)

Eat the best food, because your body deserve the best food and eat it in conscious. Nourishing the body is giving love to it, that’s why it’s better to do it consciously.

So powerful!

You deserve to be fit and healthy!❤

100%

I feel exactly the same and I think it's because of social media and the 'body positivity' movement and the ED obsession and how everyone who 'diets' is automatically accused of promoting an ED and not eating enough. I feel that fitness influencers are lying too. They say they eat these BIG potions at every meal + snacks and still have the body of their dreams bcs if they said the truth they would be cancelled for promoting diet and ED. It's all so confusing.

It's all about allowing ourselves to live into our truth, and I totally agree not obsessing is best. There is an updated podcast on this here podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-91-body-image-real-talk-the-love-the/id1611435615?i=1000652988869

💯💯💯

we are here for a short time; everything takes time...or we can see it as allowing ourselves to participate in the life we desire.

nice

Same, thicker legs too. Skinny is not my goal. But, this video is from 2012, people were obsessed with being skinny then. Not too surprised.

​@@Mii..Good god, the point is not the skinnyness this applies to being jacked to.

@@user-us3jy2mb5r What are talking about? That's literally her point, being skinny, slim, you're just talking.

​@@Mii..why'd u click on the vid if its not what ur looking for?

Sending you such deep love and acceptance. There is so much here...please find the support you need and also know how loved you are.

Don't be afraid girl, if you lose the friends because you got fitter, they were never Truly your friends in the first place. Focus on being the best version of you, and whoever wants to go from your life, gracefully let them go. Don't ask questions or don't look for explanations, just let them go. You deserve to be fit without having the fear of losing people from your life. True friends will stay in your life, and will even want to improve themselves because of you. You are a beautiful soul, be calm and go with the flow, you will be alright ❤

I so hear you and this is such a vulnerable thing for us to admit. We play small for this exact reason. Inside of Elegant Femme women share with me all the time that they went from feeling like a little girl to a woman. It may be so helpful for you to start with The Femme Design Assessment and activate your FemmeTypes so you can begin to trust your power. Www.ElegantFemme.com/FDA Xoxo

You can wear BULKY CLOTHS sometimes whenever you need to. Its a fun thing to watch how people treat you differently. Dress how it suits you.

You are so right. I’m glad that someone agrees with me in this comment section because everyone seems to support this without questioning. It’s like if everyone’s a brainless lamb in here. Also, this video can be really triggering to some people. Asking myself the question, why am I not allowing myself to be skinny is just equivalent to asking why did I eat today at all. And this video, the question makes me even more guilty about eating, pushing me even more into my ed. And I know that I’m not alone. This is so dangerous. Eating is not self sabotaging, we literally need to eat to STAY ALIVE for god’s sake. I’m so tired of being a part of this system where I’m killing myself to fit in this stupid standard.

im so glad someone said it

the deeper meaning of this video goes far beyond and nto allowing ourselves to express all of who we are without upper limiting. I created this 11 years ago;) and would not name it the same today...but the message has helped a lot of women to let themselves embody what they desire. It is not about being skinny...as much as being whatever truly honors you. There is an updated podcast here podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-91-body-image-real-talk-the-love-the/id1611435615?i=1000652988869

I so hear you...and I agree. The deeper message of the video is to support letting go of any upper limits.

This is for yourself. Would you say this to a woman if they wanted to become jacked and have great muscles and show them off? In a way you sound mysognistic harping on the fact that making it sound like the only reason a woman would want to look a certain way is for men. Gross.

+Stefanie Allen Do it for yourself! It doesn't matter what other people think! Good luck!

+Stefanie Allen You're perfect just as you are.

Absolutely! It is about gifting ourselves full permission to be all of who we are and not holding back 100%

This is EXACTLY the opportunity. We can change it with anything we desire. Can I let myself be rich? Happy? Healthy? Aligned? xoxoxo

Yes it is a way of procrastination and self protection. But you need to want you when you're skinny.

obviously she's not referring to the mentally ill.

Create a goal of self acceptance in your natural body. Freedom from the prison of control and manipulation. Unapologetic self acceptance is the goal.

That's because your mindset needs a reset and your attitude towards food needs to change. You need to develop healthy attitude towards foods, get certified as a nutritionist, educate yourself about nutrition, what It will do is, it will change your perspective towards food without being afraid of spiralling down the rabbit hole. Simultaneously, learn to meditate and get into mindfulness. Meditation will shift your mindset into a healthy one and will make you mentally secured, which will in turn positively affect other areas in your life.

Wow seeing this reflection from a video I did 11 years ago, brings me tears! Sending you so much love and cheering you on!