Lex Fridman on losing love 

Took the words out of my mouth brother, I'm taking whatever comes my way, but I broke myself for my last career and relationship and it was never worth it.

Last few lines very deep. I too feel being less resentful , understand life is not a zero sum game, and accepting anything beautiful like a morning sunshine, smiling and striving is a great approach in life. But hard to accept lex pov completely. For example, when my gramma was alive I loved her but I felt fear of loosing her; Now she is gone I still love her But now I feel grief and pain. But pain is easing as days passes.

Wishing the best for you brother

I wish you a good life my dude🙏

Sending positive energy your way, Michael 👊

@@MM-qg5xh Gonna have to respectfully disagree with you. Love is an endless spectrum of varying shades. It isn't one size fits all. Not so black and white. Most love is conditional. Rare for adults to love each other unconditionally. Prove me wrong:)))). And I was wildly in love with my soon-to-be-ex-husband - especially the first several years of our relationship. Also, I'll try not to tell any kids that their parent loves someone else more than them. I would never want to hurt them:(....Xx

but you did not literally die from a broken heart because your typing on youtube, i feel also that someone who has loved or cared for something for extended periods suffers no different grief than any other person, i think its foolish to say oh 2 adults who loved eachother separate? "thats nothing to someone losing a kid like i did" your words, anyways my heart still feels 12 years later after losing love, so im not sure what you mean lady, your statement is confusing and i read it and felt compelled to reply, just being the bad guy

​@@rogerclemmons8652 Very astute assessment. EVERYONE'S experience is different... does not mean their pain isn't as real as yours.

@@rogerclemmons8652 Hi Robert - Actually, I was resurrected. Grace everywhere. I'm very grateful. Anyway...just like love, there are varying degrees of grief, and I don't minimize your grief in any way. However, IMVHO---losing a child is quite possibly "up there" as far as grief hierarchys go...Have you lost a child in any way? If yes, I would ask that you please share with me the secrets to your remarkable strength. I could use it. Thanks in advance!

@@estherdeutsch3508 loss is loss, dont know why your asking me for secrets to remarkable strength, welcome jesus into your life your not the only one to lose a child, its a part of life thats where my remarkable strength comes from, with the knowledge that the average person is a complete coward, they might be a decent person, but they are cowards and because of this families have to sacrifice their children to war every single day, because people are to scared to stand up and be uncomfortable, and until they do, they will be fine sacrificing every one else's children, just as long as its not theirs

Or not having an ability to love....which many people seem to have.

​@@RandJ1996they are Sigma

Still struggling.. bad. Crazy this comment was a year ago. That's sad man

Aww i hope you get better soon life is hard ​@@darianwillis8520

Still going threw it.

Well said

Amen!

Sad to a person with scizophrenia that he is in control of his mind.

Tell her! Life is short. From reading your post, she equally enjoys speaking to you daily, you clearly have a lot in common potentially even how you feel about one another.

I feel for you. Don’t give up. Like the U2 song, you still haven’t found what you’re looking for. AND THAT’S okay. Don’t give up on yourself or on finding love, because in doing so you only prove that person correct in leaving you. Be strong and live your life. Go on adventures and be open to meeting new people. If you move on and find happiness, which you totally can, not only will you be glad it didn’t work out with this person, but sometime down the road that person will reflect on their relationship with you, check your social to see how you’re doing And suddenly feel jealous that you’re living your best life without her. Don’t let pain be your defining factor, let resilience be it. That’s within reach.

Same here. Haven't been romantically involved in almost a decade. It's too hard 🤷‍♂️

Good on you for taking time to be single and rebuild yourself into a better person and better partner. The pain will recede into lesson and character, as long as you construct your own personal goals and abandon theirs. Every breakup is the right move. Even if it guts you, that was the only way forward.

That just means you need to be more selective in the future and see if theyre the type of person to ghost prior to developing real feelings for them. I think some people dont have high enough standards or dont think about relationships in that regard. Then they develop attachment and feelings by proximity overtime and they get surprised when some thing like being ghosted happens.

@@PhaedruS007 amen

That's it. As he stated, you're better to have feelings that aren't so wonderful, then none at all. This is the experience in all it's glory... the good, the bad and the ugly.

I feel you. I'm no christian, but the shared effort in creating such conversations, the love and companionship expressed and built in these conversations are what to me rings close to the 'promised kingdom of christ'

Wish you the best!

Maybe she left you cause you’re a Patrice O’Neal fan💀💀💀

Same boat brother. That gives me solace but also fear. I think our time will come. We were lucky to have love like we did even though our partners may not have been able to appreciate it the same

Maybe you didn't get to stay with her, but at the same time you got to experience true love, appreciate that. it hurts but at the same time not a lot of people get to feel love.

@@orlandonevarez5590 why fall in love if the best part is when it ends then?

Do you mean a loving romantic relationship or just any kind of relationship? There's a sweet child holding your hand if that's you in your pic. That looks like love 🥰

@@hannahmitchell87 Hay Hanna, hope your good. Well iv never had a long term relationship. I dated two different girls for about 1 month each, first one cheated on me and the second Said I was just to nice for her ! Which anyone would take as a compliment but it hurt me because I felt I was been let go for been a good person, I found it hard to get my head round that to be honest. That's my nephew in my picture and he's definitely thr most important person in my life, words can't explain how much I love him ❤️

@@kevrockism That's so sweet to hear about your nephew 🥰 I bet he thinks you're the best uncle ever!! Being dumped for being 'too nice' would be hurtful, I totally get that. It's actually not the first time I've heard of that being the reason given, sadly. I think people seek out relationships they think they deserve, consciously or not & when self worth is low, nice guys finish last. But neither of those break ups were your fault. Your honour & integrity is intact. That's something to be proud of. (As is being a nice guy!) I hope that there are enough rich, rewarding aspects in your life to overshadow the absence of a long term relationship & that someone will see you & want you for who you are, assuming that's what you want. Don't let relationships, or lack of, define you. Continue to define yourself (& be a fantastic uncle!) All the best for your future Kevin!

@@hannahmitchell87 That's such a thoughtful message and I can't tell you how much I appreciate your words. I'm the kinda guy who always looks on the bright side of life, im a happy man thank god and as far as love is concerned if a meaningful relationship is meant to be part of my life story then it will happen when it's meant to happen, I don't chase it any more. Thanks again for your kind words , means a lot Cheers Hannah 😊

@@kevrockism You're more than welcome! Keep smiling 😊

That’s what they may claim until it becomes a reality. I don’t he’d be “ok with it”

@@jpined14 he would bc like other people I know they're individualistic enough that their relationship does not define them I'm too dependent but I'm working on ot

I can empathize. I know the feeling. Don't lose your f*cks!:))) Hugs X

I’m in my mid 30’s. I’ve been married to my wife for several years who I love wholeheartedly. I also love my parents, my sister, my nieces and nephews, some of my extended family and my closest friends. I can tell you that I have enough love in my life that I really could not care less about how real or authentic the love was of a previous girlfriend. It is completely irrelevant to me. I don’t have the energy or time to care. Prior to my wife I dated a girl I even thought was the one I wanted to marry at one point. I was absolutely in love with her at the time. At this point the only aspect of the relationship that has any modicum of meaning to me still is that it led me to the wonderful life and relationships I have now in my life. That’s it. My opinion is that once you end a romantic relationship the best most healthy thing for you is to just severe ties completely and move on (unless of course you have children together… then you have to figure out how to effectively co-parent with your ex for the sake of your kids). Try to learn from any mistakes you might have made in the relationship and become a better person but any further emotional effort you put into it is a complete waste of your time. People get so worried about the past and concern themselves so much about perceived sunk costs. That time is over and beyond using it as a learning experience to improve in the future wholly unimportant to you. There is just far too much that life has to offer to ever worry about the past emotions you had about an ex good or bad. Its took me awhile to learn this but as you get older and experience real loss like the deaths of family members you really realize how trivial some relationship to an ex is.

@@tomw485 Beautifully said, and so true. Someone that I really thought was the one recently ended things and I reached the same conclusion. Just learn from my mistakes and move on. After all, I tried my best to explain my side of things and why I made the mistakes that I did and if they still don’t feel like they’re throwing away something special, then it isn’t meant to be.

Absolutely!!

What's his name? We should go on doubles. Jk lol

Yes! Never found a man a real man that knows what to do with me & all my snazzy energy now that I've nothing to spread it out on! Sigh!

I long to be second

How does it feel

You did it

what's the problem