What women want 

I like how Lex is seeking relationship advice so he contacts the leading American evolutionary psychologist on dating and sex. This is a resourceful man!

Men want a woman without a history and women want a man with a future

'What women want' clip is 2x longer than 'What men want' clip, interesting.

High confidence High potential Intelligence Moral decency Leadership amongst other men Physically attractive Eye contact Good dress sense All things I’ve found to play apart in females being attracted to a man

If a woman has an affair, she no longer loves you. See through the lies and move on.

- What do women want? "Who cares" - Roger Sterling, Mad Men.

People here are saying humor is the best. But what if you're automatically funnier if she likes you? I've found this to be the case. Some women say a guy has to make her laugh, but if s girl likes you she usually will laugh at the littlest things. So I would argue that attraction causes men to have more humor in her eyes, not the other way around.

Never sign a contract with someone who gets rewarded for breaking it

I've always thought these conversations have a funny element to them; Women are all around us, they're in our families, they're in our work place, they speak the same language, they could presumably give us all these answers, but they're either totally unaware of the workings of their own mechanisms, or can't reliably interpret them, so we have to hypothesize about them as if they're a different species that we can't directly communicate with. There's something absurdly silly about it all.

Be a man of value to the world. Do the right thing without letting people walk all over you. Be a leader and have good morals. Also, being detached to the outcome and not being needy is huge. After years of studying game I’ve realized there really aren’t any shortcuts. You just have to work on yourself and become a man who has earned the right to choose the women or woman he wants.

"Why does boob size matter?" "This isn't something I've studied..." "Scientifically." "Yeah." Legend.

'This is something I haven't studied directly... Scientifically' We need more people like this wonderful man in the scientific society. He is funny and honest and tries to loosen it up as best as he can. Such a good chemistry in this episode. Calm, collected yet really compelling in a entertaining way. Thank you!

Hearing Lex say "cushion for the pushin'" made my day

Chris Rock already covered this in one of his standups- 'What do women want? -'Everything!

Yes I want to be attracted to my mate and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm not into superficial status. My goal is to be healthy and I've always had a curvy/slim figure.

As a guy. Have integrity. Stand on your principles. Work hard. Be humble. Learn a martial arts discipline and remember - nobody gives a shit so be yourself and live your life as happy as possible. Peace ✌️ ya

When I was learning guitar, I learned to play songs by ear. I was absolutely obsessed with music and I just *had* to know how my favourite riffs and solos were played so I could feel the power of playing them myself. Eventually I became able to hear exactly how almost every song I heard was being played as I heard it. Now I am like a junky, 99% of music is not interesting enough to keep my attention. Disenchanted with music I spend far more time chasing a song with something that will give me a novelty high than I do listening to and enjoying music. I have a feeling the more we learn about mating psychology the less viscerally we can experience it. We weren't designed to understand implicitly the things evolution drove us toward enjoying. I sometimes wish we could go back to just enjoying life in its complex simplicity.

As always, another great interview from Lex👏🏼👏🏼

“Maybe we are not good at selecting, or maybe we’re not good at monogamy.” Or maybe we are not good at commitment anymore, and people don’t have same values and morals. And our Gods now are money and pleasure. Meaning people prioritize these two (money and pleasure) than marriage and partnership.

He said women don’t like a Mr. universe type body, please don’t translate that into wanting more of a dad bod

Wow what a cool dude. I like that he gives examples in pretty much every question. Makes things very clear to put in perspective.

It is interesting to witness so many celebrities trying to wear absurd looking clothes, signalling that they are high status and different from the regular folks. Essentially what they are indirectly signalling is, I think, "Look at me, I can survive and thrive despite looking this absurd."

Like men, all women want something different, and that different changes depending on mood, so don't get too caught up in what they want, worry about what you want. If your mother was a narcissist, then chances are you'll be attracted to a narcissists who catches you in her web.

He didn't say women want dad bods...smh... He said women want on average lean and muscular guys but not as swole as pro bodybuilders... Please don't alter your guest words.

Dude Lex Hileious questions, " Do women care about biceps, thas what I am asking", Love it bro

Lex talking with a floating head. this is what i singed up for! oh and the content is nice too

If you guys are really into this subject, I would suggest to add the sociological aspect into the mix as well. One of the best in the business is Stéphane Edouard. He is French, but if you could get his videos translated, you gonna make tremendous progress in your understanding.

Lex asking the best questions and I'm here for it.

The sound Lex makes at 8:56 is an acceptable response to just about anything

He is so wise and articulate, i can listen to him all day! Plus it seems like the interviewer is making and asking these questions for himself to get laid.

U can't hide lex, I see u taking notes

So basically they find you the most attractive when you're the most independent. Where nothing is holding you and you don't depend on anything nor anymore. Got it.

When my kids asked me why people have sex, I replied, "to procreate". That's my story and sticking to it.

Simple, they want someone that's handsome, 6ft or over , and has money

Dad bod is real!! And also more relatable. We aren't perfect, you aren't perfect. There is a connection and understanding.

Lex's face when he is told that 70% of the side girl fall in love. I was told many years ago from a girl, "my v is attached to my heart".

We all have a image of a perfect mate reality is we settle with what we can attract.

On behalf of all the dudes, thank you Lex for asking the right questions

Where do you get good jeans? Is Lucky Brand still considered good?

Even women don't know what women want, it depends on the day of the week.

In regards to the penis size question: In most cultures, the sex organs are covered until just before the sex act. By that time, most women are already moving forward with sexual intercourse. So, unless the male’s performance is underwhelming, I doubt penis size is a concern - unless the male is on either end of the size spectrum.

Hypergamy is real.

Its super easy and complex at the same time. Most women want stability = For you to have recources for her to use when she needs it for whatever it is. YOU cant make a woman happy but she needs tools och toys so she can be tolerable.

My man Lex taking NOTES.

13:04 - Variability in female anatomy should not be discounted. The old saw that "all vaginas are the same" is simply not true. The female reproductive anatomy is greatly varied in size and shape. To put a fine point on it, some vaginas are snug at two fingers, and other can accommodate an entire hand. It appears that female "size queens" may simply be looking for "the right fit". Too be sure some women love the novelty of a "large penis", but living with one on a day-to-day basis is not preferable. And yet, around this very point a Madison Avenue marketing industry has developed to cater to male insecurities about themselves. The human psychological condition is frail, vulnerable, ultimately self-centered, and perhaps our greatest existential undoing.

I have no clue what they want, man. But for sure the whole flowers, chocolates, teddy bears and romantic dinners angle doesn't work because I have tried it a lot and failed spectacularly every single time. They just get used to it and it doesn't impress them at all. My favorite was that one time when I organized a candlelit dinner on one of the rooftop buildings in my city and the entire time she wouldn't stop talking about her hilarious dance class instructor who always used her to demonstrate the moves to the class and told funny jokes and invited her to help him with his other classes. Wow I was so happy I spent so much time and money on organizing this event so I can hear about some other dude hitting on her. Trully riveting experience.

So satisfying to hear someone talk who knows what are men and women.

8:20 lol😂

I think the boob thing, or the big boob thing, is at least partially connected to clothing. That is breasts are a dimorphic signifier, but are largely covered up by clothing. So men's attraction to big boobs is partially because they stand out despite the clothing and get men's brains all revved up. But if we were all running around sans clothes, the size of boobs might lose some of their power.

Dr. Buss is correct re. "size" mattering. It's correlative to a woman's physiological needs, I believe. The "size" only matters in terms of how it "fits" with the woman's anatomy and response. Every woman is different. Keep the faith. There is someone that "fits" everyone--- physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. :) In terms of height and breadth of shoulders, I see it as also correlating to the woman. I'm a tall woman with broad shoulders, so having someone taller with strong, broad shoulders is attractive. Women want men to be *more*. That's my theory. Ha. Taller, larger, smarter, more emotionally self-possessed, more secure, more of a leader, including spiritually. Did I mention smarter? ;) Someone she can look up to, be stimulated by, feel safe with, and be proud of. And I don't think this is age-dependent. I'm over 50 and nothing has changed.

This guy knows his stuff.

One thing to consider regarding the perception of a woman on a male body is the status in which the person is living in if the woman is in a state of constant seeking of survival compared to a woman living in a healthy environment one might lean more on muscle bound men to be more reliable than the other.

Great video I wish it was a longer discussion , I’ve listened to David Buss speak before & has interesting points. I would like to add that dealing with affairs (generalizing) 70% women who’ve had affairs do build an emotional connection hence falling in some fashion of love. And affairs that female teachers have with young men can’t because of the young man’s status or earning potential. I believe it’s a desire for novelty. Women and men differ when it comes to long term monogamy. Women on average tire of monogamy after 1-3 years factoring in a history of having many sexual partners, men who tire of sex after is generally 9-12 years. For women oxytocin is a bonding hormone and like dopamine it’s addictive. After a high number of partners it effects bonding to a degree. For men it’s vasopressin that is the bonding hormone. This could be argued against but the release of high amounts of oxytocin for women during sex and breastfeeding is an element in pair bonding. The amusing point about oxytocin for men it causes the penis to become flaccid after completion. The mention of penis size, an average size of erect penis is 5.1” and many women don’t prefer a large penis during monogamy so the itch to have a hung partner might be for a one night stand or an affair. This is probably more biological I’m male so I don’t know. Fashion is interesting because of the color red having a sexual appeal and of course the studies done on how high heels accentuate a woman’s appearance and appeal. The points about a man being a provider, some of the material I’ve read a woman (again generalizing) prefer a mate to have earning potential for the future. Interesting is the fact that around 30% of households women out earn men in America (age differences, health and children also factor in) so I don’t believe all women want a rich man but someone who has potential to acquire resources. So not to offend all women about pair bonding, multiple sex partners and oxytocin. I find it interesting that heavy pornography use with men and how vasopressin is a male bonding hormone. Pornography could probably lead to ED with men being more visually stimulated. And a lot of the data can be found from the NIH, Brookings Institute, and colleges.

There are clearly aspects of both gene gathering and mate switching in women's psychology. We must bear in mind that human psychology developed for a troop (as in group of gorillas or other apes) lifestyle. Monogamy in the form of a single partner for life was risky behavior. A man--even a strong man--could die at any time. A woman without a backup plan had an uncertain future. A woman who had other men on the side had options in the event that her primary died. Let us bear in mind as well that a woman during our troop lifestyle time--more than 95% of human history--spent a lot of her time pregnant and with young children in her care. She would be engaged in a never-ending quest for security. This security would take many forms at many levels, including her social standing in the troop. Her strategies had to be flexible enough for her to adapt to a wide variety of circumstances, given that our evolution took place under conditions that are somewhat static from a birds-eye view but intensely dynamic from the perspective of individuals. Illicit sexual relationships, or non-monogamous sexual encounters sanctioned by rites and rituals, would have functioned as a glue binding the troop together. Obviously, non-monogamous sexuality would have been only one of the glues binding a troop together, but this form of cohesion would have functioned distinctly differently from strict hierarchical and other forms of cohesion, as well as reinforcing those means of cohesion by dint of operating in a different dimension. Human beings are complex and adaptable, even as we try to impose rigidity for the sake of security. I would go so far as to say that human sexuality is only partially about reproduction. The social aspect of sexuality is extremely important because it helps create opportunities for women to have the maximum number of surviving children with the maximum variety of men through the establishment of social dynamics that enable the troop as a whole to survive the various stressors that would have been in effect throughout our evolution.

She feels safe, she melts

“Do women care about biceps is what I’m asking.” 🤣 lol

Sense of humor always worked far beyond abs in my experience

He asks a man who wrote a book about sex relationship the most common questions and the guest failed to answer any.. :))))) .... This was so funny... Thanks for sharing!

Thanks Mr. Lex for this

Lex, you are the best :) ahaha questions you asked made my day

he didn't say they prefer a "Dad bod", a Dad bod is big but not in great shape e.g. Louis CK or Ricky Gervais. He said they prefer LEAN in shape men - think Ronaldo, David Beckham as opposed to Dwyane Johnson

The attraction to dad bod is not at all about repulsion from narcissism. It’s 100% about indicating long term stability and access to resources

Lex killed me with these questions 🤣

Mating is an emergent property of one not wanting to be alone. As such it is not sex per se. Instead it's about companionship. - Wald Wassermann, Physicist

I think we as humans need to recognize our inherent vanity before we can truly make ethical and proper decisions in relationships

Women simply just want a smart, sensitive, sweet, 6'4" muscle bound Abercrombie model jock billionaire who lives to fulfill all of their needs and wants. Is that too much to ask?

Reading the title i thought this video had no ending

Storing in others is how to when friends and influence people

Lex is a 10 in every way!

Women are attracted to the law of sixes: Make six figures Be six feet tall Have a six pack Have at least six inches Have six weeks of vacation Pretty simple....lol.

Why does there appear to be some kind of competition between the 2 hypotheses, it seems obvious there will be a mixture of both reasons/incentives at play?

It’s all about connection we are energy

I’m in my 30s and don’t feel like I’ll ever find a partner at this point. Every decade or so the expectations get higher and higher from what they think you can do for them and it becomes increasingly taxing as a man to try to keep this whole charade going. The most peace I had in my life were the years where I was completely single and not looking for women to be in a relationship with. Worked on my goals and dreams and tried things that I otherwise would not have. I feel like humanity still has many evolutionary road blocks that it needs to get over because it doesn’t mesh with our current cultures.

Can we see a video called what women provide (and what can they expect in return?)

Jeff Foxworthy mentioned the switching hypothesis in so many words

Interesting info. Maybe now we will finally understand their code

Best question ever: "Do women care about biceps?" Hahahahahahaha XD Excellent!!!

"you share your meat and then they reciprocate"

"Women tend to prefer men who are physically fit and well-toned, but not muscle bound." I've been sayin this for a long time. Even More Plates More Dates on youtube said it best. Going to the gym and getting fit is great, and definitely attracts women. But at some point, when your muscles reach a certain size and goes beyond, the only ones who will be impressed will be other men. Most women don't give two shits about overly big muscles. If anything, it scares most of them away. Something like Brad Pitt in Fight Club is the LIMIT if we're talking about attracting women purely from a body composition perspective. Going beyond that is a male gaze magnet.

LMS looks,money,status simple looks is number 1

This video reminds me of a video I watched of two AI robots having a discussion.

Dad bod is out of shape. It's not super out of shape. It's on the level of when a single guy says "I'm outta shape, need to get back in it," the friend doesn't think/say "No, you're fine," but instead "Yeah, getting back into shape after the winter weight is what we gotta do." It's noticeable, but nothing a generic Spring workout routine won't get rid of.

Best mates are those that are best at helping women bring up their kids. i.e. most likely to lead to successful kids in their adult life. Whether they have kids or not, this is the trait that women are looking for the most. It's their judgement of whom is best at bringing kids up, that varies from one woman to another, and at different stages of their maturity, but the traits mentioned here pretty much covers a lot of it.

i lost it at cushion for the pushen

Woman want one thing: *MORE* , never ending *more* , regardless of that it is, if they want it , they want *more*

In regards to the breast question, it's very important to highlight that Human Females are one, if not the only animal to have permanently enlarged breasts, this is a fact. However if you ask why, you might become very confused. Breasts for most animals develop while nursing, the female becomes engorged, nurses her child, and the breasts eventually shrinks back to its original size. The reason for this is because breasts themselves are very encumbering, if you think from the perspective of hunter/gatherers, having 2 spheres of fat bouncing on your chest as you hunt an animal seems very counter-intuitive, so again, why have them? The reason isn't what many people want to hear, but nature isn't concerned with equality. Breasts are one of many commodities women have to attract a male, and in doing so the women circumvents the necessity of having to hunt herself. Therefore, from an evolutionary perspective, the further women 'lean' into developing physical, sexual commodities, the less they will be responsible to hunt, and they themselves will be much safer because again they aren't hunting. Evolution ALWAYS has a purpose, NOTHING is wasted, evolution only progresses if it reaps benefits. The implication of this is that women sexualizing themselves evolutionary, actually lead to so many benefits, that's the route they went down. However for men this isn't just some treat they get to enjoy, they will compete for what they perceive as the most fertile female. This is identified again by the physical attributes of the woman. This again benefits women because this process is a self fulfilling prophecy, the dominate male will conquer the weaker males, ensuring the women gets the male with the best genes. So, although women in modern society hate the idea of being sexualized, it was exactly that trait which benefitted women for the majority of Humanities existence. Other traits include soft skin, women typically have less ridged facial features, wider hips to assist in birth, while doubling as a desirable sexual trait, similar to breasts. Overall it's very interesting to muddle through this, and I could be entirely wrong, however this is my interpretation.

Whatever they want you better withhold it.

16:53 the power of covering… nice one..

I think what they are describing is more applicable to a concept of general attraction. And I’ve always said that money is the language of love. However evolutionary they still can’t explain real love. A woman can be very much in love even with a partner who becomes disabled or poor and cannot support her or the family. Like how do you explain that? I know such instances are real, even I once was so in love that I would be with that person no matter what.

I call it the "Take the Money and Run" hypothesis 🤣

Omg Lex is red from blushing this whole interview😳or is it just that candle getting too hot😂😂😂

I never look into the reason of fashion constantly changing in this angle. Very interesting.

Yes, it's 'mate switching' or as we say in the manosphere 'monkey branching'. The woman's marriage isn't working but she won't make a clean break and be single so she hangs on to one branch (husband) whilst testing the strength of other branches (affair partners) before she lets go of the husband branch completely. Common knowledge for red pill men.

Betrayal eats at the soul of the betrayer.

A little bit of cushin for the pushin ... love it Lex.

10:50 that's just a great way to put it... It's somewhat intuitive but not frankly obvious! Wonderful! To make a spherical cow atrocity here : If you have a fridge keep your meat for yourself, if you don't... your good neighbors are your fridge.. give some to good neighbors; they'll give you back when they have and you don't!

Women of culture, we meet again.

I love that no matter the combined iq of the men in the room that we still can’t crack the code to a woman’s heart

What the f means high shoulder to hip ratio? Of course shoulders should be wider than hip but to what extent?

Very interesting.