Lex Fridman on True Romance and soulmates 

I agree. Overthinking and over idealistic - won’t do Lex good for this aspect of life.

I disagree. I think they overlook the complexity or it isn't a primary passion. I think dumb people with limited life prospects cling to the small things that might actually make their lives worth living. Basically, hard work beats talent when talent doesn't work hard. Completely anecdotal, but my experience has indicated that, unless people are smart, they think they are smart. Dunning-Kruger. Dumb people will not see the difference ;-)

What a long winded way of saying that he has autism

Haha. Tell me about it...

@@liangli-wei9316 What was it like discovering youtube in 2021? Never mind... I know... "new email"

Good that it worked for you but the probability that there is NO ONE in a world of almost 4 billion females who wouldn't be just as good or even better than your current wife isn't very practical thinking. Doesn't mean that one shouldn't hold on and make the best life of what he/she has got but the "one and only" line of thought, to me seems like a classic Disney fantasy.

In the early stages of romance, maybe. Long term these issues become serious and significant if they begin to impact the other but the perpetrator isn’t prepared to own the issue and work on it. It comes down to taking personal responsibility. A lot of people, maybe most, believe that relationships are a green light to be the worst versions of themselves with no accountability. That’s why many relationships fail. The ones that work have two people taking full responsibility for who they are and their impact on the people around them - partner/spouse, children, friends, colleagues etc. We are all imperfect but it’s dangerous to be blind to one’s imperfections, and it’s never okay to continue in them blindly.

@@pricejoss Agreed - the point is that you can't blame your partner for your feelings of disappointment. They are not 'perpetrators'. Accountability is a two way street.

@@Solistastyle Absolutely but people can behave in ways that are very damaging regardless of one’s self worth. Self worth and self esteem are not a cure-all for another person’s behaviour and their failure to take responsibility for it

@@pricejoss another person's behaviour and their failure to take accountability for it is about their issues and their journey. If you have self respect and self esteem, and the other person is crossing your boundaries and impacting that, then the issue is your boundaries. If you maintain your self respect/esteem, the wrong people just drop off. You don't even get into any unhealthy relationships. If you get into an unhealthy relationship where you compromise your self respect and self esteem it's a boundary issue and you need to look at why you are doing it, because it's your boundary issue. That's why it is so important to cultivate a healthy friendship before getting romantic - so you can identify these things. Ultimately in a good quality friendship there is a mutual respect for boundaries as a starting point.

any books or resources on this you'd recommend?

Interesting context - thanks Mas

​@@bobbynw438Erich Neumann "the fear of the feminine" (btw Neumann was a direct student of both Freud and Jung)

A worthy fav

What movie is it?

​@@MoneyAli75True Romance

Great Movie Great cast

Same , the line where she says that’s so romantic arghhh

This is an astute observation that deserves many likes. Thanks for sharing this; otherwise, I might have been misinformed. I don’t know how the movie goes. If what you're describing actually happens in the movie (and I don't see why you'd lie), then this Divorce Lawyer, James Sexton, is completely off the mark. It seems he doesn't quite grasp human nature. He's placing someone who's actually a loser on a pedestal. So, when Drexel tells 'Clarence Worley' (Christian Slater) that if he had seen him casually enjoying Chinese food under those circumstances, he would have thought Clarence didn't have a care in the world. This is just a clever comeback line added to briefly make him seem sharp. This is done by an extra supporting actor, momentarily enhancing Drexel's menace, and just a set-up for Clarence to have his ultimate say and shoot him in the head. And James Sexton thinks Drexel’s cute quip is cool and an important life lesson on negotiation? WHAT? The one who says "I didn't eat because I'm not hungry, and I didn't watch the nudity because I saw the movie seven years ago." is the real bad moth*rfv*ker. Clarence don’t give a fuck about what Drexel thinks. Clarence is not intimidated by anyone or, at least, certainly not by Drexel. A real moth*rfv*ker is not gonna eat when he’s not hungry with food that he might or might not like to appear he doesn’t have a care in the world. He eats only when he wants and what he wants. What on earth is this divorce lawyer James Sexton seeing? What the heck is he teaching? Then what else is he wrong about? Is this his worldview? If so, it reflects his life philosophy and behavior-a facade, someone pretending to not have a care in the world. It means James Sexton stuffs his face even if he is not hungry with food he might or might not like so he can like appear he doesn’t have a care in the world. He gives a sh*t way too much. Those who are misinformed about this scene would take his flawed advice. And he cannot be an effective divorce lawyer either. I've always had reservations about James Sexton's approach, particularly his choice of examples and what he emphasizes. It often appears too simplistic. He states the obvious a lot of times. There is no depth. His aggressive style of communication may be what gained him fame.

He's been an attorney for 20 years, specifically in divorce proceedings. He's just seen too much and is pragmatic. Peoples misguidance into very unfortunate situations in marriages and all that.

I think he’s pushing back on the idea of what ppl think a soul mate is. He’s saying that it’s crazy to think that this person will never disappoint you and will instead always do the right thing and say the right thing at the right time like they do in the movies.

@danielglan1920 Nothing is perfect in this world, we see those flaws as times to grow and learn together...it's a matter of perspective. Destiny will bring our truest counterparts when we are ready to give reciprocal love to one another. Sometimes we get impatient and choose the wrong person for us too. It's gotta be a soul/heart connection. If we expect things to be like the movies we better check ourselves lol

yes its good to believe and so do i..life must be magic

I thought I was the only one. Hahaha

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nahh broo