Life Hacks for INFJs 

Jesus loves you ❤️ Please repent and turn to him and receive Salvation before it is too late. The end times written about in the Bible are already happening in the world. Jesus is the son of God and he died for our sins on the cross and God raised him from the dead on the third day. Jesus is waiting for you with open arms but time is running out. Please repent and turn to him before it is too late. Accept Jesus into your heart and invite him to be Lord and saviour of your life and confess and believe that Jesus is Lord, that he died for your sins on the cross and that God raised him from the dead. Confess that you are a sinner in need of God's Grace and ask God to forgive you for all your sins through Jesus. Jesus loves you. Nothing can compare to how he loves you. When he hung on that cross, he thought of you. As they tore open his back, he thought of your prayer time with him. As the thorns dug into his head, he thought of you spending time in the word of God. As the spears went into his side, he imagined embracing you in heaven. Jesus longs to be with you.

Jesus loves you ❤️ Please repent and turn to him and receive Salvation before it is too late. The end times written about in the Bible are already happening in the world. Jesus is the son of God and he died for our sins on the cross and God raised him from the dead on the third day. Jesus is waiting for you with open arms but time is running out. Please repent and turn to him before it is too late. Accept Jesus into your heart and invite him to be Lord and saviour of your life and confess and believe that Jesus is Lord, that he died for your sins on the cross and that God raised him from the dead. Confess that you are a sinner in need of God's Grace and ask God to forgive you for all your sins through Jesus. Jesus loves you. Nothing can compare to how he loves you. When he hung on that cross, he thought of you. As they tore open his back, he thought of your prayer time with him. As the thorns dug into his head, he thought of you spending time in the word of God. As the spears went into his side, he imagined embracing you in heaven. Jesus longs to be with you.

Do it! I used to doubt it as a teen. Now (very much not a teen) I can vouch for the gut feeling, it IS right. On that note, you can just say "No" to things and people when your intuition tells you to but you can't justify it rationally. You don't have to explain yourself.

I am ENFJ and feeling this 👀👀👊🙏

Omg same... i'm always thinking "hmm maybe i'm being too quick to judge and i should give it a try..." Sometimes giving it a chance can deepen your perception of the world and open your vision to some new terrible or awesome patterns 😅

this is me when I know the answer to the question but I don't say it and someone's else answers it.

This is me though too. And agreed don’t be like this.

It’s amazing how much of a difference stock phrases make. You can craft them to be perfectly fitting for how you speak or how the people you’re speaking to will react to them ~ Nathan

Oh, and now since discovering what it means to be INFJ, I understand why I have such a visceral loathing of 'it's not my job'. The 'visceral' effect itself comes from instinct, and the idea of that kind of blunt, shallow rejection of need from a work colleague is clearly at odds with INFJ selflessness.

Noted 📝 and going in the stock "compassion NO!" bank. Thanks

Exactly! And when we face this kind of people, what I learned we need is the will to spare ourselves of this kind of relationship. I'll nourish relationships I have accordingly to my ability to feel respected and valued in it. I cannot afford to have relationships without being true and gentle to them, so if in one of them I'm certainly not getting the respect I (today) know I deserve, I better use my time and abilities differently.

My ISTJ partner is similar to me. We have our own to-do-lists. They don't have time constraints, but they're prioritized. If something needs to get done a certain day, we make sure to do it. But if some things don't get done, it's not a big deal

Hello alone, I am time

Exactly. Video caught me with first one and now I'm watching it whole.

This is interesting. It’s cool to get another type’s take on these things and how they relate to the INFJ. As you might imagine, most of the people watching this video are probably INFJs. It’s nice to see that these things line up with your experience! ~ Nathan

I actually don't have a purpose just a bunch of hobbies that I love to do. Idk just setting my eyes on one thing for the rest of my life sounds like torture.

Autocorrect estj

Hard/earned wisdom! ~ Nathan

​@@Ekolite I can spot quality with no effort at all. I'll tell good wool or silk from a mile off. I can tell if a cotton knit has polyester in it even if it's just a few per cent. I'll easily tell if a piece of furniture is solid wood or veneer-covered. I can very easily tell crystal from regular glass. It might not sound like pattern recognition but I think it is. From more typically pattern related things I'm very good with words and grammar. I come up with etymology for words and then when I check, it turns out I was correct. Grammar is just maths, it makes sense. And when it doesn't, it doesn't, but it still follows a pattern. (Both in foreign languages and my native one.)

Have you noticed how both feel like pattern recognition habilities that fit well in Ni, but not so much for the rationale that belongs to concrete logical understanding of functions like Te? Neither recognizing fake content nor low quality furniture is something that can be resolved with a single question, both need more abstraction, and more patterns involved in the equation. I like how this pattern recognition we excel can be very useful in scientific thinking, but mostly because it's aware of broad, complex patterns, the very kind that is needed to understand well all kinds of human and social complexities. Etymology itself is very logical, almost like math. However it has more of a chaotic human flavour on it 😉

I am really disappointed by people I thought would be good at pattern recognition when they can't even recognise the basic ones which doesn't need intuition.

It makes me feel so guilty and then selfish but the again.... I have accepted myself as selfish now!

INFJ - Whiny over-thinkers that suck at making decisions. 👎

We relate will to one another so that is not surprising to me at all. My INTJ male friend and I are almost mirrors of one another. Opposite, but identical at the same time.

Not surprising. It's very general

Hope you enjoyed it! ~ Nathan

@@lovewho Would you ever consider offering a Training Course on the 16 Personalities?

I appreciate this a great deal ~ Nathan

Most people relate to characters because they focus on surface level information - the ‘what’ aspect. What you do, say, wear. There is a smaller portion who focus on ‘how’- that gets you somewhat closer to the truth (but not quite there). A super small circle pay attention to ‘why’. Which allows for full information integration and understanding cognitive process that translates into personality type. Technically, you can relate to any fictional character regardless of type if you find that character to have other things in common with you like: approach, motivation, communication style. Explaining aesthetics and hobby triggers mind association and conditions the mind to believe in that link and that link only without checking for context. Also, people use words interchangeably. So, unless you can find the true meaning of the words and/or actions, you may “attach” personal meaning and context to things and get further from the truth. There are certain things that you can/should consider = words that are connected to the ‘why’ of cognition. Ni - abstract reasoning, depth of ideas. Te - metrics, hierarchy, systems. Fi - internal sensitivity. Se - width of sensory experience. Internal functions are about depth when it comes to processing information. External ones are concerned with width. Hope this helps.

Curious, what do you mean? Did they completely miss them? Bcs I might procrastinate and then have to rush like hell or pull an all-nighter or do something unhealthy and ridiculous but I'm NOT missing that deadline. So if you are presented with the fruit of my work you would have no idea how much anxiety I've kust potentially put myself through. If you are my husband and you had to watch me scramble, you might struggle ;) (I don't do it daily, but occasionally it does happen.)

@@pitulanekThis is the reason why I'm trying to improve my worst functions, it can be so stressful.. and they can be improved, when you get used to it

@@pitulanek It's just an endless cycle of "I'll do it this weekend! - sent last weekend." It seems like they're more interested in convincing me that they care about the project than actually getting results. Edit: Oh, and I have seen people leave things for the last moment and it's often very obvious they rushed it.

When there is deadline there is no purpose.... I am not just saying it anyway I won't be able to do something with a deadline it's so hard.

@@JesterOfDestiny Hmm, I'm not really sure that's an INFJ quality as much as just poor work ethics ;)

I have been having difficulties with time management as well because when I schedule something I never feel like doing that. Even after observation there is never an exact time for me to do a certain thing. Guess I just have to list what needs to be done and do whatever feel good at any time. It still feels sad tho-

@@user-cc3le7tz6z yeah and most of the time, I just go with the flow on what I feel like doing.

I'm having a go at setting boundaries at work. I've always despised the line 'Its not my job.' (makes my skin crawl), but I needed to achieve a similar effect, so came up with 'that's not my area of responsibility, perhaps someone in XYZ team can help you with that.' It's been a month and I'm pretty proud I've managed to use it successfully a number of times, with zero backlash. Yay Me!!!

@@tinamitchell7496 thank you for your idea!!

@@jupeter24 Best of luck!!! Not an easy thing for us to do esp if it is something we have a lot of knowledge and experience in. I'm also resolved to reducing the number of fu.c.ks I have available to give away over things I don't have control over (reducing unnecessary frustration) and lastly, one from my management mentor (an INTJ), allowing people to make bad decisions so they can learn from them, rather than my usual desire to not want to see others fail.

On one hand, I'm a terrible person to help you with this, as this was the kind of issue that I had the most hardship to face and do better, so I still fail at the same steps sometimes. On the other hand, the fact that I've faced this struggle constantly for more than a decade makes me very aware of this, and understanding of many details of this struggle. So, I recognise your issues as similar as the kind I've faced some years ago. Not only hardship in getting in touch with intuitions, this seems like hardship in getting in touch with your actual feelings. Being able to see multiple perspectives is great, powerful and enriching. But the only perspective that will make you see meaning in things, is your perspective. Your values go beyond just harmonizing these perspectives, in there there's what makes you feel better, happy, meaningful. For me, the things that truly have meaning, are able to get me off from being worried about every single person and value on the room and the city. True meaning makes me truly forget these things, and I get sick when so much worrying get in my head about doing the (socially) right thing, literally sick, depressive. When I'm happy and healthy, I'm able to see the values I have towards things in front of me, while also being very sensitive to these multiple perspectives. But, importantly: they NEVER take the front seat. They're important to me, but they must not override me. Because when they do take over, what I feel is what you describe. I feel indifferent, I don't have a why to do stuff. I have understanding of a lot, but *no reason to be*. It's not enough for me to do what is right, and correct to others. This doesn't sustain as fuel for my existence. Real fuel needs to be my own feelings. Connection with my own soul. And intuition is the next step. I believe a way to describe it is: it's your feelings and experience whispering on your ears stuff. Whispering whatever may be. But getting in touch with intuition is something that came later to me, I think in order to hear the voice of intuition, you need to acknowledge the power and to respect the rightful position our feelings have in our lives. As you give reason and logic a side role, you give space to hear what you're feeling, what is your perspective, among that many others. Your perspective is just one more. But it's just as special, no one can desire, defend, value things in your life as you may do.

@@metametodo Thanks for sharing your perspective (the irony lol). What you’ve mentioned is true, especially getting in touch with your feelings. There is a disconnect from my emotions and feelings, and being around people and too long further exhausts my brain. So, that’s something to work on. In case of intuition, it could be a byproduct of being attuned to your feelings and values. Hopefully, I’ll reach a stage wherein my intuition does not get convoluted due to my internal debates.

I’m inclined to agree. Also an INFJ with ADHD, and while the type seems to align more with ASD from what I’ve looked into, there’s a handful of us with ADHD as well. Some will say it’s counterintuitive, and that ADHD is more in align with high Ne types, which does seem to ring true, but that’s kind of how I feel. Like a walking contradiction, fighting the good fight to achieve my goals 😂 Nice to meet a like minded person

Unconscious focused INFJ's

I’m an INFJ who doesn’t have ADHD. I do have Anxiety though and it does seem like a lot of us do.

@@kyerinn You are right about anxiety...all of INFJ I know have anxiety

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