Transitioning away from fast fashion is HUGE baby. Maybe you can do the opposite. Find your local ethical dressmaker, spend time choosing your favourite piece, get measured and fit, etc. show us how to choose a lifetime wardrobe one little piece at a time! Love you Pat, our timelines have been so similar and you’re one of the few creators I’ve stuck with thru all the years.
I did stop to follow her because she is so into fast fashion. Once in a while I do return on her channel. I am pleased to hear she will transitioning away from fast fashion.
Girl I almost had a heart attack!! For some reason! I guess it’s cause I started watching her in high school and her relationship gave me hope that my tastes are ok and interracial relationships are ok and not to worry what people think 😊
The entitlement people have to influencers relationships is weird. If you’ve been following Pat for years you would know she stopped making family content 6/7 years ago. Also, life is about trying new things, she has the means to do it. Stop projecting yourself & issue onto others, people do this alot with influencers/celebrities
Patricia. U scared me! I thought u were about to tell us yall got divorced. 😢 i really respect that you keep your marriage private when it comes to social media! Such an inspiration ✨️
I totally agree, when I finally posted that I was engaged that was shocking to even folks close to me as I hardly post anything about my relationship online. Some things are just meant to be cherished in private.
42 years old here, I started changing everything at 38 and I finally feel like I’m happy with where I am now. It’s not easy to unlearn and relearn/reimagine a different path forward but cheers to you on the journeys . So happy that you’re giving yourself the space to evolve into the woman you are meant to be fully. ❤❤❤
Your post inspired me! I'm 38 soon to be 39 and I have been stuck in various transitional cycles for what feels like YEARS. I want an abundant life I love. I'm going to go harder with God and embrace the little or the lot and do my part but I feel so much better after reading your post. Thank you!!!!
I've found my people!!! 40yrs old and transitioning to my better self. Definitely wondering if I was starting too late. Thank you ladies for commenting and here's to us having smooth, successfully journeys!🥂
@@ksweet87 remember that There’s no race happening.-one step at a time. One foot in front of the other . Start with being very honest with yourself about where you are . Give yourself grace and respect for making it this far but acknowledge that you want more - and that is OK. It’s ok to want more, different, bigger, better. But there is so much beauty in what is present now-don’t overlook the little things that bring you joy . Finally speak as kindly to yourself as you would to anyone else. We’re often so hard on ourselves in the process of changing, but that is not necessary. You’re not lost really . You’re on a journey to a new level and it’s scary sure . But so much more is ahead-be encouraged and excited about the positive possibilities. 💜
I applaud you for realizing how social media can affect your personal life and being smart enough to protect it like you do. We do not need to know everything. I love your conviction and way of moving in life, your strength and smarts is so inspiring.
They definetly broke up, she is living in her new house, and she is keeps on saying am a mother, auntie but never a wife. I respect that, because break ups are hard. All the best.
I understand and love that you are keeping your relationship private. It's so healthy for you and your family. I just wish you wouldn't click bait about something being wrong with your relationship. Many of us hope the best for you and may have worried, wanting to support you, if that was the case. I know that's not everyone, just be kind with the click bait subjects if you don't want that kind of reaction or to center your relationship.
I have no idea were this comes from people don't start looking old until approaching 50. I'm also in my mid 30s and people are also shocked. they think when you hit 30 you will wake up with deep creases in your face.
Please keep on keeping your private life PRIVATE, especially with your relationship. We don't have our names on your marriage certificate so it's none of our business. Glad you Mike stay together and many more happy years. I love the woman you've evolved into, the businesses and life you've built for yourself. You are such an amazing inspiration!
It’s fascinating to me to watch your evolution Patricia. At the end of the day, you’re very level-headed and have a lovely personality, so you’ll remain at the top of your game. I’m at a later stage than you with family stuff (mid-50s, three almost fledged kids) and my RU-vid channel is growing really fast…you’ve been a big inspiration on many levels. Thank you ❤
As long as you stay married to Mike you can do whatever you want sis! I was scared for a minute... And yes, protect your family from negativity! People are crazy on the Internet! To be healthy and at peace, it's the most important! By the way, keep an eye on the news we have a few protests in Paris...
@@roxywyndham Of course she's free to do what she wants! Do I really need to write it down? Really? Use your brain! I want the sister to succeed professionally and personally with or without Mike. But it's obvious I want her marriage to work! Who would be soulless/cold enough to wish a divorce on someone? THAT'S WEIRD! You're exactly the type of person I'm talking about...
the way you worded it though made it sound like she can only do what she wants as long as she’s with mike. as if she needs a man to live her life freely. that’s weird that you would come for them like that when that’s clearly not how you wrote it. this is the internet ppl can’t read your mind and don’t know your intent, so no nothing is obvious here
Thank you for your transparency. I'm 38, a wife and mother of two and can relate to you more than you know. I'm definitely getting more into my self care through therapy & exercise and even considering a tummy tuck next year.
Go for it‼‼🙌🏿, only regret I have is not doing it sooner.. I never noticed how bad my fupa looked in clothes until I had it removed.. My confidence is out if this world..I will always remember my 1st day out post op, swelling gone, no faja.. I put on a regular bodycon maxi dress, and I literally cried tears of joy.. just to see myself in something so form fitting, no shapewear, without lumps, folds, and ripples.. I know it sounds vain.. but to actually feel comfortable, and confident in your clothes after not feeling good about your appearance for years.. makes everything worth it 🎉🎉❤❤
@@tab0108Do it!! Make your body what you want it to be. You’ve made humans. You’ve contributed humanity into our world. Get your tummy tuck girl. You deserve it because you want it xx
Sustainable clothing is what I wanna see more of! Not only to set an example but to inspire the rest of us!!! The art of getting tailored clothes? Hellooo we are missing out
What if the husband did this and the wife stayed home. Would that be ok?? If it was her husband traveling like that and then coming home and back out again. (On FREE PLAY) Would it be ok for him too? How would she feel? How would people look at that? 🤔 Truthful inquiry…..
Not sure if you’re married…but throughout a long-term marriage people change and one of the highest forms of respect, love is to give your spouse the space (within reason) to change and shift. If one cannot agree to that, there is always divorce. She became a mother, wife very young and has been grinding in this capitalist society for just as long, which can change you mentally and psychologically. I believe she’s going through some serious identity issues while recognizing her marriage and family are her foundation and stability.
@@simplydivine77What does that have to do with what I stated or asked? I asked an important question. If it were HIM would this have been ok for him to do? Society is so one sided expecting the man to accept and do and understand and provide etc etc etc. I asked…..if it were HIM……would that same grace and empathy apply and would everyone be so understanding? Marriage is a TWO way street. If a person is not ready for marriage don’t marry because it no longer becomes about you by yourself and what a person missed out on! It’s about BOTH!!!! Even if people change and grow etc. it isn’t just about one person’s mental state and what they missed out on or how young a person was when they got married. SMH!
As someone that has followed you since NaturalHairGrowthShow days I’d honestly appreciate to see more regular degular content. Appreciate you keeping your family life private and you should continue to do that. It would be refreshing to just see regular content or more sit down chats like this. I can imagine because of where you are in life your regular and the consumers regular might be different so getting that balance might be a lil tough.
I applaud you endlessly. Your greatest ability to ‘influence’ is your portrayal of self reflection, evolution, boundary setting and exploration, that’s why I have watched since the early days and will continue to. Well done Patricia just well bloody done x
I used to hate saying my age, but i turned 50 last week and I've realised im proud of how i look for my age. I have a full skincare routine am an pm .I had no work done yet but I'd have botox etc if i needed to. You look absolutely fabulous xx
@@la.femme11i always cleanse serum and moisturize eye cream twice daily. i exfoliate 3 Times weekly. I use the inkey list or the ordinary. I don't believe you need to buy expensive products. Once you keep doing your skincare twice daily . Hope that helps ❤
She can afford it because she has earned it, but there are those who can't afford anything but fast fashion, especially in the financial crises that we are in.
Glad you're doing well but it's truly sad that you feel the need to have botox and fillers when you don't need it yet. Don't let your insecurities win. There are many preventative skincare regimes that slow down the ageing process.
Patricia you never fail to inspire me, I love that you find your own way through life no are not restricted to the boundaries placed on women, as mothers, partners or at work. You remind me that we don’t need to follow the template set out for us. Thank you ❤
oh no not betterhelp! please do not use betterhelp; they are not good at all and can often make things worse! therapy is very beneficial when done right but can make things worse when you have a bad therapist! please don’t use betterhelp y’all look into a local therapist instead 😭
Let me tell you now, you will never be satisfied, you will always want more. You need to find happiness outside of yourself. Something that doesn't need to change in order for you to be happy
We live for roughly 80yrs if we are lucky. Every 15-20yrs we want to change and evolve, nobody is going to be in a constant state of happiness or contentment. The FLEX is being able to pivot when it’s necessary. Furthermore she just spent the video tell us about THERAPY and how it’s changing her, so what do you think that is?
@@michellegove I don't mean personal change, that is inevitable. I mean not being satisfied, Allah is the only one we will be happy with and give solace in our hearts, material and superficial things can't give long term happiness and satisfaction.
@@Tagtraum_ Love and admire Patricia but I have to agree, it seems like we get a "Life Update - A lot has changed" video every few months and it's just a matter of time until the next one. Maybe with this new therapy she's going through, it will finally give her some settlement in her life 🙏🏽
As far as you also make time for your husband and marriage. Everything will be good and dandy by Gods Grace. Some women find themselves and then abandon their spouse that has been there for them all thru. Blessings to you and yours
This literally speaks to me in so many ways. I am currently trying to change my appearance physically through nutrition and exercise. I totally relate to loving the after workout muscle soreness. I’m sore but I always have so much energy afterwards.
These Better Help Ads are so obvious. Whenever I watch a video and they suddenly start talking about therapy, I usually think I bet this is sponsored by Better Help and it is.
I really enjoy(ed) your finance content because as a BLACK woman, I appreciate your journey so much, especially from the content creation side in regards to business and how you've grown through all of that.
Been loving the transition ❤ as far WANTED CONTENT, anything inspirational for women trying to juggle it all from school, changing careers, health crisis, etc on top of still being able to show up for your family is everything ❤❤❤ tips on boundaries would be great!
Girl please dont edit like that again, U had me screaming and gagging 🤣 Every time I see update vids I be like "please still be together, pleaseee" Lol
We missed you Patricia! I’m so glad you and Mike are doing ok and keeping things more private. I love seeing you two but I respect keeping your marriage away from the public eye 👏🏾👏🏾
First! That living room is stunning 🤩 I love the journey you’ve been on and more than being a mom, it’s important to enjoy life as well. As we get older, our 13 year old selves want to break out from the restraints we were in when we were younger. She’s free to be out to make her and future her happy. Love this video ❤❤❤
Better help ain’t it and they’re selling our data from that quiz.. hopefully after you fulfill your requirement with them you reconsider the partnership
I very much appreciate your transparency and respect the line you've drawn by not sharing information pertaining to your marriage. I can't imagine the challenges you're going through and hope that you two weather those challenges.
I am so proud of your journey. I have followed you from day 1 and I felt like we were very much alike, child of immigrant parents. Strict parents, very hard working in academics also. Also the good christian side. Like I felt we were the same and i have had the sameee therapy and healing journey. Like i love to see you talk about it
Love the updates, Patricia, and happy your back! Would love a video on first time, affordable, but luxury items/bags for the girlies entering big transitions in their lives. If there's any Black-owned fashion brands that could be shared, that'd be nice, too!
Welcome back. You are young, blessed, beautiful, and brilliant with a lot to offer business-wise etc. I'm glad that you are not putting your personal life all out in the open because the devil hate marriages, and families. He is against joy and everything positive, therefore, he will use the misery of others to make you miserable in various ways. Keep praying, loving yourself, your family, and others, and traveling a healthy path as you are blessed to do. Thanks for taking the time to share a little of your journey.👍🏽💖💖
I absolutely love this positive energy. You do you boo, your internally loving the 40 era. So by the time you hit it. You won’t bothered. Just please don’t disappear completely
Lesson number 1 in life put the oxygen on yourself first then you can put “oxygen “ on your children and partner or spouse second. Without oxygen for yourself you can’t be anything to anybody else. I personally found Better Help has had many issues with therapist not being very good and suggesting people to pray away the gay. 😢
Love this. I’m with you Patricia. As much as I love seeing you, Mike and the kids, I also agree personal privacy is paramount. Appreciate all that you share. Stay fabulous!! 🙌🏾
I go back and watch your first Wish haul from time to time and it cracks me up every single time! Those bloody fish slippers😂 I'm not sure if that helps you with feedback regarding future content or not, but I like the "real Patricia" vids❤
You all not listening what do you mean that “as long as you and Mike are together” several of you have posted this PLEASE STOP 🛑 people grow, change and evolve relationships sometimes struggle and break and that’s ok. The goal is a joyful journey sometimes that’s with a partner sometimes it’s without, if you really love/like or appreciate her then let Patricia live ❤
Yes Patricia!!!!! Can't wait to see more content from you. I love the vlogs, the chatty videos, the advice videos! All of it! I grew up with you lol (I've been watching your channel for 7 years since my early 20s) and you're beyond inspirational. I look forward to keeping up with new great content!
2:10 haven’t watched your channel in a while but I find it interesting this is the video I decided to watch. Only a few minutes in and I’m like this was exactly what I needed!!!
Traveling is the best way to broaden your mind and enrich your life rather broke or boujee! I have done it both ways and no lie the broke way was lots of fun too but the boujee sheets are addictive! Portugal, Hungary, Iceland, Wales, Croatia are all great places to visit. Change is great, if you do not evolve you die. We all started with the quick and the cheap but eventually we realize quality over quantity, I have a couple of things on my buy list but my closet is full of classic things. I stay away from trends unless I feel they will become classics, that would be good to hear, how your wardrobe has evolved. What is in your permanent collection?
I‘ve started studying Law and i‘m 35 …… there is no timeline for anything. There is only right time for you as and individual. We can’t all achieve something at the same time in life
Omg the first couple of minutes described me perfectly! I’m also in therapy because life feels mechanical and full of checkboxes I’m trying to complete in order to live “the right way.” I hope you enjoy your journey of getting to know yourself without the unnecessary boundaries! ❤
Whats so difficult about saying …” for those that are concerned , I am still married to my husband but for personal reasons I have chosen to keep that part of my life private . “ like …it’s not that hard
She doesn’t owe anyone that answer, as “easy” as it may be to say. She said what she said. She’s not sharing those things cause she doesn’t want to, and just because she is an influencer doesn’t mean she HAS to. Even something as simple as that, is not something she owes anyone.
Great video ❤ You’re such an inspiration! I really agree on your mission to buy less. So it would be great to see videos on: - how to style things you already own, - a capsule wardrobe challenge, - how to make curves look good in classic styles I would also like to see your take on: - how to solo travel - how to make friends in your 30s - setting boundaries without becoming the “angry black woman” - how to raise biracial children … and so much more. So excited that you’re back guuuurl 🙋🏾♀️🫶🏾
