Maureen's Face looks so peaceful now. She doesn't look distressed and her face has filled out. It's wonderful what the love of her to have siblings has done for her.
It's so sad 😢 She keeps trying to find proof that her Mother cared for her but she will never find it. Her Mother was not cutout to be a Mother and probably suffered from Mental Illness. She needs to move on and enjoy the people who do really care for her.
While Maureen's mother turned out to be a cold lady, I think it's beautiful she was able to find and connect with her siblings. Finally, she has two people who understand her story and feelings, better than anyone else ever could. She doesn't have to go through that alone anymore. I wish all three of them could have had a happy ending where they found their mother was a kind and loving woman. At least now they have each other and I hope together they're able to create a loving and lasting bond and get peace in their hearts. They all deserve it so much. No one should ever feel the hurt they've felt. When they show Maureen crying I felt the sadness in her eyes and I just wanted to give her a big hug.
I really appreciate the compassionate comment’s regarding chemical imbalance’s, especially after giving birth. The person can be so depressed and unaware of what is happening. Thankfully there is more education on the subject today and help.
Maureen is such a good person and so are her sibling’s. After reading the comment’s I agree the mom could of had post partum depression untreated or some kind of chemical imbalance.
A friend of mine had a terrible mother never wanted him ,when she was old she called my friend and told him she was dying , he said are you she said is that all you can say , he replied no actually i have always been told a mothers love is never ending, he said I always wondered when dose it kick in
Seen this story heaps of times. Amazing the mother hung around as long as she did for the 2 siblings. She took good care of them for quite a few years it seems before she left
I'm afraid it's not that simple. Maureen still believes there might be a deeper reason behind her mother's actions, even if it's only a slight possibility. While it could well be that her mother just wasn't cut out for the job of being a mother, there could be a possibility that a much bigger, untreated, or unknown problem could have influenced her mother's actions. As Maureen says, we'll probably never know for sure, and it's unlikely someone else will come forward, but I remain open to the possibility, even if it's a small one.
@@weltonvillegal6258 I had an adoptive mother who was a nasty piece of work. I met my birth mother, and she behaved like a mother should have. Not all adoptive mothers are great either.
Something missing in that woman! So glad the three siblings seem to be all there and able to love and make attachments to each other. Hope they are all able to forgive their mom so they can get free of bitterness and have a wonderful ongoing relationship with one another.
Maureen's approach to her discovery is admirable. Despite hearing only negative things about her mother, she remains confident there might be a deeper reason behind her actions. While a typical reaction might be, 'She never loved you or your siblings; that’s why she abandoned you all. Stop wasting your time on someone like her,' Maureen holds onto the possibility that there’s more to her mother's actions rather than assuming she was simply a bad person.
I eventually found my father had married four times and none of his children had that many good memories of him . However the more we found out about his past , orphaned at a year old , split from his older brother and then brought up by a distant relative in a country not his birthplace , war action , it at least partly explained his nature . How much was due to his nature or poor nurture we will never know.
Yes mother is very important.. But also father as well.. Why nobody blaming or putting a burden on selfish man.. most of them are scaping from taking any responsibility for thier family care.
That is so true. Most women love their children, but it's the bond you share is that's missing. That bond is why you put your child first above anyone and anything else. I believe my mother loves me, but she sucks at being a mother. I don't feel any kind of connection to her.
My nan did exactly this to my dad and my uncle. My dad was a toddler and my uncle was about 4 months old..she just up and left with her boyfriend leaving my grandad to be a single dad.....she cane back years later but she was never forgiven. I loved her dearly but even i could never comprehend how a mother could leave her child of there own accord just cos she wanted a child free life
Yeah postpartum depression or trauma. Maybe she didn't have a loving parent herself, so she didn't know how to be one for her children. Maybe she, too, was abandoned as a little child. The fact that she went on to work as a nurse on the maternity ward is really astonishing. It seems that she could deal with babies but not with older children. And she was working with new mothers every day. She was confronted with the theme of motherhood all the time. There must be something behind this...
@Belinda Babette what a revolting piece of trash YOU are. You know NOTHING about post partum depression. Crawl back under your rock with your fowl mouthed ideas
I grew up with both my parents, both suffered from traumatic childhoods. In the end, my mother made my childhood really difficult. This due to the traumatic youth and a personality lacking the so needed empathy. So, I had an awful childhood, but it was due to her nature And nurture. Leaving or disliking a child can't be easy, but sometimes a mother just can't... Don't misunderstand me, I don't condone. But I realize why see couldn't and I can, I don't have her exacts feelings because my nature is different. So, I dislike her for doing so, but I understand that she felt different....
tonyparisfilms1 yes, thank you from me too. I always wanted to know if it worked out well for Maureen. It's amazing how "caught up" you become with these families, because you always want a happy ending, and that isn't always the case. It's called l-i-f-e lessons and we all have to deal with the good and the bad while we are here on earth.
Maybe she chose her profession out of a guilt of not caring for her own babies and just couldn't express herself to Mike and she when she met them. Happy the 3 have each other.
That could explain it except the marriage certificate they show is from the marriage of Maureen’s parents Cecil and Monica in 1946, before she was born in 1948. By today’s standards, and to some extent the post-WW II era, Monica was quite young when she married for the first time at 19. When she married the second time (1950), presumably after getting divorced, she was still quite young at only 24. Sue was born in 1953 and if Michael was 2 yrs older he would have been born in 1951. That makes me wonder if Monica had an affair, fell pregnant with Michael and left rather than tell her husband what had happened.
We may never come to know or understand how the nurse became, apparently, cold, bereft of maternal feelings. I would suggest the possibility of her being born into a family much like herself; sad if true. Perhaps, a failure in the genetics??
Maybe she chose her profession out of a guilt of not caring for her own babies and just couldn't express herself to Mike and she when she met them. Happy the 3 have each other.
As an adoptee, both my mom and dad were deceased by the time i was able to locate them. I know exactly how Maureen feels. That missing piece, no matter what it might have been, is still missing and always will be. Even though she has siblings, the relationship is just not the same as a mother daughter relationship.
what about all the blood families who are together & HATE each other, how do you explain that? or indifferent to each other? or wish they had been adopted by someone who wanted them enough to adopt them? Adopted children should understand that looking for a parent who gave them up may not be a happy ever after story, there are many different reasons for giving them up & they may not react well to being found especially if no one in their present lives ever knew they had a child, it could be a huge secret & you are opening up a whole huge can of worms they don't want to be opened! Should be very careful what you wish for it might just backfire in your face. Be happy you were wanted, adopted & loved! Lots who are with biological parents are abused, not loved at all, not every human makes a good parent, look at all the MONSTERS that are in this world! Something to THINK about before you feel all rejected, there are children who WISH they had been abandoned by the horrible parents who " raised? " them. WISH they had been SAVED by someone.
Dianne Priestley you are right in that there are biological siblings that hate each other sometimes. I know a few in that position. I guess they just have differences like anyone else, biological siblings or not. I put a lot of thought into all the things you mention before I started searching. I really just wanted to know where I came from and what my heritage was and I think every adoptee should have the right to know that if they want to. Every woman who gives a child up for adoption should understand that the child may some day come looking for her with a lot of questions. Secrets seem to have a way of coming out eventually. She should prepare herself for that. For me personally, I wanted to know my heritage and some medical information. I have 11 full biological siblings, my mother died from complications of diabetes and the majority of my siblings are diabetic. I am not diabetic but with the knowledge of diabetes I can hopefully prevent myself from being diabetic. As of now, at the age of 72, I still am not diabetic. Perhaps having this information will allow me to avoid this disease. Keep in mind that not all adoptees live a happily ever after life so please don’t say they should be happy they were wanted, adopted and loved. There is abuse in adoptive homes too. Please don’t forget that when judging the reasons an adoptee should be happy with what they have.
Maybe one just finds out and as diappointing as it may be One has to move on. Otherwise, yourlife is screwed in many ways. This coming from an adopted child.......I met my BirthMay she now RIP. Mother Yes I lked her.......My Siblings not so much. I think my birth Mother should have refrained from having children........I suspect she was devoid of that 'Motherly instinct !'
