Looks like the marriage is over  

Damn I ain’t know it was 7 years

My sister was married to a man like that. He just wanted to control her, leave her isolated and alone. He was only happy when she was miserable.

They married genius… there’s no abuse or infidelity… and there’s a child involved you’re supposed to work it out…. Marriage is a lifetime commitment not only when you’re happy

Either she should divorce or go to marrige counseling or they will destroy their childrens life

⁠​⁠​⁠@@chucktaylor4859so,,,, all that monologue,,, only for the wife? Husband goes scott free when he doesn’t want to fix his marriage.

She needed to get over it because there was no real issue with what he did, he might’ve had minor trust issues from his past so asking for a DNA test was not a problem at all while she decided to never tell him that she fell out of love with him, that is an actual issue in their marriage that requires marriage counseling.

I agree.

​​@@imsocentral2872this is an asinine take unless you don't know how babies are made. Because he's accusing her of making one with someone else. At a time when she was vulnerable and suffering. But more importantly he completely failed to notice the effect that he had on her and that she was suffering for five fucking years You say he had the right. Fine that doesn't give him freedom from consequences

@@HorizonHunter82 He didn’t accuse her of anything which was said in the video, he just doesn’t know

​@imsocentral2872 the step of requesting a paternity test while married implies that the husband didn't fully trust his wife and/or suspected her of cheating. That's what sowed the seeds of the wife's resentment, and she wanted to try counseling earlier on, but he refused. So it was allowed to fester by both of them for 5 years, until he brings up wanting another kid, which blows the lid off everything.

Oh wow.. that is a possibility...

Some men are sadists so this can definitely be a possibility

Or having the baby will keep her occupied so he can continue or start new with a mistress. Wife would have two kids to take care of, which means too busy to worry about husband.

@@heatheraucoin5832 exactly bro . They are so selfish and cruel . Society needs to normalize men taking part in growing the kids rather than only woman being the only one responsible for the kids

You nailed it!!!! Some men will purposely start asking for a second child not because they want one bit they want to humble their wife who has started to take care of themselves again.

Now that is simply untrue. Yes, some men can suck but the majority of them are great people. You can’t force all of them into one group just because one bad person.

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They'll go to therapy and go through the motions but once people like that get comfortable again they go back to their old selves.

@@smokeyplays3452it’s not just one bad person, it’s a common occurrence. Y’all always say stuff like this despite the problem happening multiple times to different people. It’s not right to generalize every man or person, but let’s not sit here and act as if it’s just one occurrence.

@@just_apotato I understand that this happens a lot but y’all can’t put us all in one group just because a few men in the total population are terrible people

A maid not a wife

We don't really know that From what it sounds, they both sound like bad relationship partners Do you think she should leave him? But I also think it's very clear that she's not putting in any effort either Says she's doing all the duties of a wife but she's unhappy about it and she is just going through the motions And she also said a relationship. If you could call it that I don't think they were ever in a good relationship

​@@jackiebiskan4748 if you ever to choose the lesser evil. it would be the wife. So your argument is valid but useless. Because he is the one that fcked up. She wanted to fix it after he was an ahole. He refused. And honestly she should have left but I know from my own experience that it's not that easy. So I genuinely think she is 100% innocent.

Yup!!!! Dealt with that for 28 years! Don't do it... You'll, still, end up in divorce. Just with zero.

Not clueless, just an idiot who thought his manipulation tactics would work. And they didn’t.

Yes there would be no suspicion but you can never know, a lot of people have been cheated on, divorced and forced to pay child support for children that aren’t theirs, I don’t think it’s unreasonable when that has spiked in popularity

all that says is your guilty. since it was proven by dna tests that 50% of men are raising children not their own. California family services and Berkley proved it. technically its 33% in conservative rural areas and 66% in liberal cities so the rough average is 50% overall. women will never understand the difficulty of men. at least you know your child is 100% yours. DNA tests should be mandatory. the only people who would argue against it us cheaters and the side dishes they hop in bed with.

@@togsanaokay, but then you need to accept that your wife is going to feel betrayed that you accused her of cheating? Like sure, go off and get tested, but don’t be surprised when it’s YOUR turn to get checked

@@marslopyge okay? I would have no problem because I have nothing to hide, people don’t understand people can never be too sure, you make it sound like he would be happy that she was cheating on him but in actuality he would be devastated

@@togsanaif they have those kind of issues and trauma prior to the relationship, then they HAVE to bring that up in the beginning of the new one. They should ask whoever they’re dating, ‘hey because of things I’ve gone through in the past, if we get married and have kids, I would like to do a paternity test. Is that something you’re comfortable with?’. Then the Woman can decide if she’s down for that or not. You can’t just spring that kind of thing, on your pregnant wife nonetheless, and think there will be no repercussions.

Th u mean no trust? These tests can save u a ton of legal work if there is ever a divorce , or lead to one of its not the mans cuz duh. There is nothing wrong or.dostrustfull with that , its just safety

I believe for most such things genuinely come off as blindsides. Hence the desperation because while one spouse sits with the problem for months and has time to process it, the other does not. "but he should have known" - men are not mind readers. Clear communication of what one needs goes a long way.

​@@Octobris bro no one's saying men have to be mind readers lol. She suggested counselling way before but he didn't want to go then, because he thought it was her issue and she needed to get over it on her own. She clearly communicated her feelings then. Not to mention saying you know your wife won't cheat, but you need to be sure is so wild, he basically told her he didn't trust her or care about her feelings and then asked her to deal with it herself. They don't do anything together or spend time with each other and he's surprised she doesn't love him anymore? Where's he being blindsided? I get your point about it catching someone off sometimes but this definitely wasn't one of those cases

​@@beck01I feel like people misunderstand the 'i don't think you would but I want to make sure' thing. It has a valid reason, most people who are cheated on trust their partners and continue to trust them until they find out the hard way, or never find out and continue to get taken advantage of. And most cheaters use the 'don't you trust me?!' defense when questioned Cheating is an issue for both genders, and cheaters of both use the same excuses/defenses, but for some reason paternity tests aren't ok because only men have to worry about raising a kid that isn't theirs without their knowledge.

@@Omega_1111 if you have doubt in your wife that severe you need counseling. If you let it manifest into accusations l, there's no "I got my peace of mind after the test, so it doesn't matter anymore". At the very least you need therapy.

​@@Omega_1111then she should have snooped on him to be sure he won't give an STD or empty his bank account on another woman " who hasn't let herself go " and leave her in Dept

Exactly. I do think people who have to co-parent should be in therapy. Cuz no matter how much that person hurt you unless it was in a abusive manner, you're going to have to go parent with that person. And you need to try to do that as healthily as possible for your child.

​@@LLandS18 I think it can work very healthy in this situation, because she was cordial so far. She was so cordial, that the dude never even realised that his wife didn't love him anymore. Why would there be problems now?

Couples counseling can also be used as a way for people to amicably breakup.

​@@JyS1991 just because he didn't care enough to realize she was begging him to save their marriage doesn't mean she should stay miserable forever

@1kpennyxx238 I'm arguing against the need of couples therapy for this situation, because they are cordial

It’s because you can never be sure, people have had children, divorced and forced to pay child support for a child that isn’t theirs, with that spiking in popularity it’s not unreasonable

​​​@@togsanaok. If the paternity was so important fine. But why neglect your partner emotionally and act like you didn't just break the trust in the relationship? Then gonna act like it's her problem when you're the one that suggested and wanted it. Then gonna try to fix the relationship you already killed because you want another. It's just ridiculous.

If he has trust issues then he's the one creating them​@@togsana

Wanting a paternity test is normal and should be normalized. If you don't cheat why do you care? It's no different than any other bloodwork. Him being absent is the problem, not the DNA test.

@@War450 he was absent because she pushed him out

One of my biggest fears is raising a child that isn’t mine. Why would t I check to see if he’s truly mine

@@jeremiahsamuels1238because your accusing your partner of cheating. My biggest fear is having my partner betray me, so why shouldn’t I demand access to every device you own at all times?

​@@jeremiahsamuels1238 You can check. You just aren't guaranteed a happy marriage when you ignore her feelings on the matter. And he rejected help. So really what did you expect to happen when you break the trust in the relationship and neglect your partner emotionally? Of course she's leaving.

@@bryn1063 I can live the rest of my life happy without her, but to spend the next 40 years raising kids that arnt mine and taking care of a wife who betrayed me is much scarier than finding another woman

@@jeremiahsamuels1238I'm not saying the test is the problem, i'm saying neglecting your wifes feelings on the matter is, that's a relationship ender. Nobodys saying that you can't have one and that you have to raise a kid that isn't yours. We're just saying when you cause her to feel so down about herself, why do you expect her to have another kid with you?

Then you are brain dead. Asking for a paternity test should be normalized. You people can deal with it and cry about it in the corner. Again if you are so sure why are you denying it. Only shows a lot of yourself are not sure huh.

Leave with full custody. He can visit every other weekend.

@@jcwarner90 nah that’s over the top. He doesn’t seem to be a danger to his child, there’s no need to deprive a child of their father just out of pettiness. He may have been a shitty husband, doesn’t mean he’s a shitty father. If he’s doing what he needs to do parental-wise, there’s no need to deprive the child of their dad. That kind of vengeful, weaponising thinking is weird.

Then her checking your electronic and bank accounts regularly+ a bit of snooping so that only reality that you see with your eyes and prove with fact can show her you're not giving her an STD and your also holding on into you vow of loyalty right?

yeah, she handled it long enough

​@@Rain-qz1qg Also just biological differences. Men accusing us of cheating AND willing to commit paternity fraud instead of...idk abortion to hide the cheating: that's just a biological difference, I can't help it, you know the baby is yours. I don't. I just need that extra security. Women being more wired to leave at a safe time, when the child is older, when you don't need to pay 1,2K/month for day care in order to be able to work: EVIL!!!!!!