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Love Bomb - drama on coercive control & toxic relationships 

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How do you know when a relationship is toxic?
Skye and Danielle are excited to go to university in Brighton, but then Skye meets Jake...
Love bomb is an educational resource used to create discussion with students & train teachers on coercive control/toxic relationships. If you would like this resource delivered at your school/organisation, contact: info@integrateuk.org
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@vkrgfan
@vkrgfan Год назад
I hope they are going to start showing these movies in schools to teach children to recognize abusive behaviour.
@camillehomez1894
@camillehomez1894 11 месяцев назад
That's a good idea. It's so crazy though for me to have been involved romantically with 3 narcissist, I look back and see the patterns were the same now that I am out of it. But when I was in it, I couldn't see the difference. I think in addition children really need to know their worth and value themselves. We learn to override our thoughts and feelings in family relationships, school situations etc. thereby causing us to repeat the patterns in romantic relationships. ❤
@sfozardmccall8
@sfozardmccall8 11 месяцев назад
Don't you think parents should teach this 🤔. School should just educate how to survive and support curiosity in this society but I do support teaching emotional intelligence.
@radrew684
@radrew684 11 месяцев назад
What happened to parents teaching their children instead of trying to be their best friend
@DeboraSampy-eb4nx
@DeboraSampy-eb4nx 11 месяцев назад
Yup they need to 💯
@Taniaheart371
@Taniaheart371 11 месяцев назад
💯I hope so… because ain’t no telling they want us to be sleep
@ayamempress1579
@ayamempress1579 11 месяцев назад
If someone shows up to your house uninvited... AND you didn't tell them where you live, its a trap. Run!
@smilealwaysnatasha3423
@smilealwaysnatasha3423 11 месяцев назад
Yea I would be creeped out
@ibabechanel
@ibabechanel 11 месяцев назад
#stalking
@heyitsmyTeeTa
@heyitsmyTeeTa 11 месяцев назад
THANK YOU!!!!!
@c3909
@c3909 11 месяцев назад
Even when you told them Ayan..no one is supposed to come uninvited to our homes. That's abusive. That happened to me , even to leave at your door undesirable gifts like roses or something else .. that's not normal behavior..
@starember4558
@starember4558 11 месяцев назад
Right Thats some creepy Scary stuff😳
@viastephtop
@viastephtop 9 месяцев назад
Immediately, you see a girl with dreams, with aspirations, with goals and confidence. He knew what she wanted, what her dreams were, and he dismantled it one by one until he was the only thing in her life. And since he's over the top nice to literally everyone else in her life, she feels like she can't say anything or else she "ruins it" and....ugh. Yeah these people are awful. This stuff needs to be shown to children in school.
@user-yq8fv5nb1v
@user-yq8fv5nb1v 7 месяцев назад
my mother is a narcissist and she did the exact same to my life.. i was raised by my grandmother for my first 10 years, had many friends, social life, loved school, friends, sports, being outside, every social event, was outside every day. she then divorced my dad when I was 10, dragged me into her new bf's home (mind you, I wanted to live with my dad!), isolated me there completely, I wasn't allowed to leave the house, take the bus to school, invite old or new friends, she wouldn't allow me sport activities, wouldn't allow me to use the phone there (there was no cell phones back then, nor computer), the only thing I was brought to and from was (a new private) school. Later, as a teen, she destroyed the first relationship with a really great guy I had, she destroyed my plans for the future job-wise, all while playing the great, hard-working, single, successful mum who does everything for her only child, "she loves soo much". while secretly telling me I am destroying her life, I am the reason why her men leave her, the reason for the divorce, the reason why she will one day die, I am hurting her soo much if I don't tell her everything all the time,.. Even at age 20+ she called me several times a day, controlling everything, if I didn't pick up instantly she would write me 5-10 messages telling me she is soo worried, she can't even concentrate on work, why would I do this to her, then her sisters and mother, my beloved grandmother, would call me, telling me they are soo worried, what happened,...etc. Her friends would always blame me for being "difficult" and paint her as the perfect mother and me as the ungrateful child. Her father, my grandfather, did too one time when I mentioned an incident when she took me for a hike in the alps wheni was 5 or 6 years old, and forbade me to eat or drink before and during the hike, saying this would "ruin her perfect hike" until i fainted in the middle of the mountains and strangers had to help get me down there - he called me ungrateful for mentioning this incident, stood up and yelled at me across the table and said "everyone makes mistakes". When I didn't do exactly what she wanted, I would get punished by this emotional torture, guilt , shame, lies being told about me, etc.. If I would leave she would tell me she can't go on without me, can't live without me, "you are everything I have", "I am doing it all just for you", etc... It's really hard to get out. And she, too, destroyed every chance in life I had to get out , prosper.. LIVE
@alli13941
@alli13941 7 месяцев назад
This was tough to watch especially since I've had a similar experience.
@The_don_barbie
@The_don_barbie 6 месяцев назад
My life literally described. But no empathy from others
@ShesAbsurd
@ShesAbsurd 11 месяцев назад
If you feel like it’s going too fast or you’re being suffocated you’re probably being love bombed. It can be hard to “reject” what seems to be kindness and love, but how you feel matters most. Don’t let anyone drop little insults on you either. I was in a relationship like this and I was so brainwashed and miserable
@exquisitemusiclover
@exquisitemusiclover 11 месяцев назад
Your gut feeling usually presents itself, but we consciously choose to ignore it because receiving all the love makes sense at first.
@ShesAbsurd
@ShesAbsurd 11 месяцев назад
@@exquisitemusiclover oh absolutely. It presented itself within the first month with him wanting to talk to me ALL day. One day we were on the phone for 12 hours. I’m not kidding. I thought “how lucky am I to have someone who wants to talk to me so much?!” But also, “geez I kinda want to live my life and not be glued to my phone” Trust your gut always
@Seven11seven7
@Seven11seven7 11 месяцев назад
men love negging
@bhoddd
@bhoddd 11 месяцев назад
He used to criticise almost everything I did later on in our relationship. He also didn't have the best relationship with his mom so I guess he resented me automatically. Sickening I know. Glad I got out
@grace2.026
@grace2.026 11 месяцев назад
I was in a similar situation. I’ll never know for sure if he’s this type but asking me to move in with him just after 2 weeks . Wanting me to meet his mum in a month just felt so wrong. Too fast. I felt like I was suffocating and being forced into commitment. He let his temper slip one day. And I called it quits after a month. It felt like it was too much. He always wanted us to be together which is great and all but it just felt wrong.
@thecitizenjoan
@thecitizenjoan 7 месяцев назад
That line “nobody will ever love you as much I will” kills me. There’s literally a billion other people on earth that could possible love you.
@itchyscratch3829
@itchyscratch3829 6 месяцев назад
No doubt the sort of thing said in the "devalue" phase
@user-pr5gn6ko7p
@user-pr5gn6ko7p 5 месяцев назад
Starting for loving yourself
@ladennayoung2939
@ladennayoung2939 5 месяцев назад
The response should be good. Because what you had to offer wasn't genuine and true love anyway.
@OphiuchiChannel
@OphiuchiChannel 5 месяцев назад
Does he believes it ?
@AWholeVibe96
@AWholeVibe96 4 месяца назад
@@user-pr5gn6ko7p💯
@abbykoop5363
@abbykoop5363 Год назад
So easy to see in a film like this. Not so easy to see in real life most times. This happens way more than we'd like to believe.
@Sigma2HisAlpha
@Sigma2HisAlpha 11 месяцев назад
People sometimes choose not to speak up when they see it happening to others
@noneofyourbuizness
@noneofyourbuizness 11 месяцев назад
​@@Sigma2HisAlpha and I will add that people that have been through trauma and are not aware of it fall more often into these kind of relationship.
@NatalieZii
@NatalieZii 11 месяцев назад
That’s why it’s important to raise awareness about it. However, it is a known fact that insecure attachments are more likely to fall for love bombing as people who have experienced healthily paced relationships know that actually getting to really know someone and love what you know takes time.
@abbykoop5363
@abbykoop5363 11 месяцев назад
@@NatalieZii I agree. I was emotionally neglected and still really have no idea what "love" is supposed to feel like. So when I was treated like a princess at the beginning I got swept right off my feet. Then you always remember that beginning, and believe that it can be like that again.
@keeshakhan7136
@keeshakhan7136 11 месяцев назад
​@@Sigma2HisAlphaYeah I was going to say I call people on what is not making any sense to me. And if they continue that behavior then I can't deal with you
@teresa18870
@teresa18870 11 месяцев назад
Seeing Skye’s whole demeanour change throughout the video scares me so much. She was so full of life and confident in herself and then towards the end of the video you can just see the life leave her eyes.
@GridSeer
@GridSeer 9 месяцев назад
My best friend lives this everyday. It's too late to fix it
@monicaramirez51015
@monicaramirez51015 9 месяцев назад
Omgosh this is me and I just need strength to get out!!!!!
@kwetsephetla3597
@kwetsephetla3597 9 месяцев назад
@@GridSeerit’s never too late
@kwetsephetla3597
@kwetsephetla3597 9 месяцев назад
@@monicaramirez51015I pray that you receive the strength to leave that relationship ❤
@phoenixmode6909
@phoenixmode6909 8 месяцев назад
That's what 36 years with my ex did to me. It was awful. Im divorced and in therapy now, because I couldn't take any more. I lost Me, and I want her back. Im beginning to see glimpses of her now and again, but between childhood neglect /emotional abuse, and the toxic marriage during my entire adulthood.....it's just so damn hard. I know I will get through this, I know I will find Me again. But I'm still so tired, and still isolate frequently.
@TheSlong123
@TheSlong123 11 месяцев назад
This is narcissistic abuse. They start with the love bombing, then they start to isolate and gaslight you, then while they're out cheating they're saying you're cheating just because you went to work, they apologize ONCE, and never again, even when they'veblackened your eye.. Those red flags and that feeling in your gut. LISTEN TO IT. RUN!!!
@teelajam
@teelajam 11 месяцев назад
They never apologize, they say what YOU need to hear. They are never sorry. My narc just brushed he's cheating under the carpet (gaslighting) and then tried to make me feel sorry for him. #lividlavidaloca
@whosebuilderandmakerisgod
@whosebuilderandmakerisgod 10 месяцев назад
this is 100% what I experienced
@vsmith113
@vsmith113 10 месяцев назад
All happened when I was in my early 20’s🤦🏽‍♀️
@kseke25
@kseke25 9 месяцев назад
Interesting about them apologizing just once and never again after that. They would rather gaslight you.
@bollagurl
@bollagurl 9 месяцев назад
They also make sure to treat everyone else great
@Chloeeezyyy
@Chloeeezyyy 11 месяцев назад
This is why it’s up to parents/guardians to build up child’s confidence. People with less confidence are most likely to be targeted.
@racheloshaksmusic
@racheloshaksmusic 11 месяцев назад
Or believe in Jesus and get their confidence from God because these days parents are too busy with work and bills and even their own insecurities than to build their children up.
@Chloeeezyyy
@Chloeeezyyy 11 месяцев назад
@@racheloshaksmusic both are supposed to be done. That’s why the Bible says to train up a child.
@racheloshaksmusic
@racheloshaksmusic 11 месяцев назад
@@Chloeeezyyy Yes sister both are supposed to be done, but the truth is it isn't being done as it should.
@ashleighdzuda8331
@ashleighdzuda8331 11 месяцев назад
@@racheloshaksmusic THISSS ONE!!!!
@blackbatman3152
@blackbatman3152 10 месяцев назад
@@racheloshaksmusicNo. Just No.
@ba8501
@ba8501 11 месяцев назад
The first clue was when he showed up on the doorstep with flowers. No boundaries. Young people need to be aware of these types of relationships. It can save a lot of heartache and abuse. It can be hard to see how toxic it is at the time.
@buyop9441
@buyop9441 11 месяцев назад
Thank you for your comment but I disagree with you (hopefully in a good way). I do believe there are boundaries - the abuser’s. Everyone sure enough needs to respect theirs. But abusers expect their victims not to have any boundaries or for them to be really weak.
@ba8501
@ba8501 11 месяцев назад
@@buyop9441 Yes exactly. I think to clarify what I meant, the abuser showed up like that because he didn't respect her boundaries. These types will tend to test you to see if they can get away with certain things. Then it escalates. Narcissists hate people with strong boundaries. That is one sure way to get them to move on.
@damongirl66
@damongirl66 11 месяцев назад
The younger me would have been besotted and flattered by the attention. The older me will tell them to go away. I didn't tell them where I lived, they didn't call first, and I am busy with my friends.
@sandycheeks1580
@sandycheeks1580 11 месяцев назад
🎉 YES 👏🏽 Big red flag 🚩 She didn’t tell him where she lived. But if one does and the person brings flowers, it’s not a bad thing! Gifts 🎁 are nice to get & receive.
@carolinekamya2339
@carolinekamya2339 11 месяцев назад
hollywood ...smh
@hightopv1352
@hightopv1352 11 месяцев назад
His purpose was to ruin her and her dreams. Be careful with guys and people that stop you from achieving your dreams.
@ascend555
@ascend555 9 месяцев назад
Exactly
@stuff1784
@stuff1784 9 месяцев назад
*and girls
@hightopv1352
@hightopv1352 8 месяцев назад
​@@stuff1784Absolutely.
@Badm00nrRising
@Badm00nrRising 4 месяца назад
That’s what they do
@stephnunes3996
@stephnunes3996 3 месяца назад
so true :( currently experiencing this. wasted all my 20s. now into my 30s im realizing how much ive lost. sucks
@juliem1674
@juliem1674 11 месяцев назад
This happens in non romantic relationships too (toxic friends, family, work situations, religious settings ect So be aware❤
@keeshab1173
@keeshab1173 9 месяцев назад
Yes with friends too!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Fake friends is what they really are. They love bomb you too. The same cycle.
@ladyofspa
@ladyofspa 9 месяцев назад
That is so so so true. Can be a parent. Being controlled can be from anyone. Get support if it's happening.
@twasadream496
@twasadream496 8 месяцев назад
Even if the abuse is happening online, it can be just as harmful. I never realized you could develop ptsd after experiencing online abuse until just recently when I started going to therapy.
@whateverlolawants
@whateverlolawants 8 месяцев назад
True. I had a few friends like this when I was younger. Looking back, it's easy to see how toxic and insecure they were, but it was hard to tell at the time. Especially because they could be fun sometimes.
@juliem1674
@juliem1674 8 месяцев назад
@@whateverlolawants I hear that🫡 Yeah, I had a few of those.... glad I'm wiser now.
@happyclappy1805
@happyclappy1805 11 месяцев назад
the gaslighting my goodness....I dated a guy like this when I was 21. A real yoyo character trying to isolate me, bring down my self esteem and act like he was doing me a favour even though I was/am accomplished, well spoken, well educated and well loved by my tight circle of friends and family. It's easy to be shocked that family and friends in this movie don't seem to notice Skye vanishing but alas...these abuses often happen in plain sight and if a guy is charming enough to everyone else, it can be hard to even convince them that there is a problem. Thank goodness my family clocked him and I ran and never looked back.
@triinpokk9198
@triinpokk9198 11 месяцев назад
Killing Skye slowly, thays what it is.
@thecitizenjoan
@thecitizenjoan 7 месяцев назад
Don’t let anyone make you question your reality
@Mmhashbrowns
@Mmhashbrowns 2 месяца назад
My first love did but that’s not love
@idc129
@idc129 Месяц назад
This.
@SunshineAndStarrs
@SunshineAndStarrs Год назад
This is real! Knowledge is power. Learn everything you can about toxic behaviors, red flags, emotional and mental abuse, love bombing, and narcissistic personality disorder. Gaslighting is hideous and destroys your heart and soul. Reclaim your power and don’t stop learning everything you can on this. You will always learn more on this as long as you keep educating yourself. ☀️🌟💖
@purplecarnations2578
@purplecarnations2578 Год назад
👏👏👏👏
@kekecampbell812
@kekecampbell812 Год назад
So true!
@galaxiyamoon
@galaxiyamoon 11 месяцев назад
Very true, also study up on toxic family dynamics and how that leads victims to seek love, and safety in the arms of abusers.
@bliss252
@bliss252 11 месяцев назад
At the very least, pay close attention to how a person makes you feel and DON'T second guess yourself. If it made you feel off, it doesn't matter if it was "a joke" or maybe they didn't mean it or any other "maybe..." excuse you may think of. You felt how you felt. That's all there is to it, and there's a REASON why.
@c3909
@c3909 11 месяцев назад
@@bliss252 totally agree 💯💖
@victoriababer3380
@victoriababer3380 11 месяцев назад
It’s sad how scary these people can be in the moment, and the second you stand up for yourself they run away like the pathetic people they are, on to the next victim
@olikah4667
@olikah4667 11 месяцев назад
That is what narcs do. The moment u stand up for yourself, ur perspective changes and u see the truth: they are weak, pathetic humans.
@Kallah_DaughterOfYAHUAH
@Kallah_DaughterOfYAHUAH 9 месяцев назад
YUP!
@solidcatink
@solidcatink 8 месяцев назад
exactly
@Burgrbish
@Burgrbish 8 месяцев назад
not all the time, some of them are true demons and standing up for ones self only makes things worse
@sph1226
@sph1226 3 месяца назад
That's exactly what happened with my 18-year marriage.
@xrystal89
@xrystal89 11 месяцев назад
The first red flag to me was the scene of her spending time with Jake and the picture of her mum talking about her being late AGAIN. Skye seems to have a good relationship with her mum but spending time with Jake causes her to break the rules-not just once or twice-but repeatedly? When someone truly cares about you, they encourage you to respect your relationships and the people you love, they don't constantly sabotage those relationships and have you doing things that they know you aren't supposed to be doing. Never let someone convince you to break trust with your loved ones...that's how isolation starts. And then they can have you to themselves and do whatever they want without outside interference.
@stuff1784
@stuff1784 9 месяцев назад
If you think this can’t happen to you, life will humble you when you least expect it.
@sooaboutthat..5439
@sooaboutthat..5439 7 месяцев назад
say it louderrrrr. i never thought and then bam!
@bennyblairz5991
@bennyblairz5991 4 месяца назад
I don't think this will happen to me haha then I saw what u wrote haha
@alweston01
@alweston01 3 месяца назад
; It’s so bad, one of this hardest things ever. The one time I stood up for myself, and I said everything very respectfully, he didn’t read the message and never contacted me again. They’re weak.
@ClandestineGirl16X
@ClandestineGirl16X 3 месяца назад
Amen to that
@anothergirlinasweater
@anothergirlinasweater Месяц назад
YES
@semplybalanced3210
@semplybalanced3210 11 месяцев назад
Remember “butterflies in your stomach” is NOT a sign of chemistry & excitement. It’s your “Flight or Fight” response to immediate danger. People get this confused with attraction or love @ 1st sight, simply bc the person could be physically attractive. A person shouldn’t make your heart flutter, they should make your heart calm.
@mariancounsellor
@mariancounsellor 11 месяцев назад
Not sure that’s 💯 accurate. You can feel butterflies in your stomach when you’re excited. We can also feel a rush of positive emotions when we receive praise, compliments or positive feedback. That’s different from an adrenaline rush which is mostly associated with fight or flight.
@kaiserchief9319
@kaiserchief9319 11 месяцев назад
Wisdom
@cardiyansane1414
@cardiyansane1414 11 месяцев назад
Wow interesting perspective
@Diyanibeats
@Diyanibeats 11 месяцев назад
I think you might be right because I had butterflies with my last two boyfriends and I wished I listened to my gut and never gave them the time of day. I wouldn’t have experienced trauma , abuse, or became a single mom, but I learned from it, I don’t regret my children and most importantly I healed from could have broke me… amen
@nope_n0pe
@nope_n0pe 11 месяцев назад
YES YES YES ❤
@preciousthomas8009
@preciousthomas8009 11 месяцев назад
This is why learning yourself and how to love yourself first is so important. All these years and I’m just getting this and understanding why I was so open to these types of men. Annoyed I let it go on so long but grateful I finally see
@getachew.
@getachew. 11 месяцев назад
The goal isn't to love yourself, humans are incapable and can't perfectly love themselves, but rather deceive themselves of the true love we need from Christ. Love is selfless not selfish. Humility is key not self love, your value should be from knowing the Creator of the universe loves you and sent his son to die for YOU🥰 "The LORD is with me; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?" Psalm 118:6 Have a blessed day hun 🤍
@preciousthomas8009
@preciousthomas8009 11 месяцев назад
@@getachew. I don’t believe what you believe. Respectfully
@SoPerfectYasmin
@SoPerfectYasmin 11 месяцев назад
@@getachew. you’re dangerous, hun 🤍
@SereneDivine23
@SereneDivine23 11 месяцев назад
You are not alone. I believe these type of guys have predator behaviors that they mask in the beginning. Congrats on taking the time to learn yourself and have peace within ✨️ Blessings along your journey of discovery 🙏🏾
@sensimania
@sensimania 11 месяцев назад
That's one of the reasons why they like em young. Easier to manipulate. People don't usually tend to "find themselves" until their late 20s or early 30s.
@makeapennycry
@makeapennycry 10 месяцев назад
I once had a boyfriend who told me all his friends said i was ugly but not to worry because he thought I was beautiful. He hated me wearing makeup and was crazy jealous. I am so glad I was able to avoid that hot mess.
@KingofgraceSARA
@KingofgraceSARA 9 месяцев назад
You, ugly? 😂what a lie from the pit of hell. Thank God, you dodged that ugly liar! 😘😘😘😘
@ladyofspa
@ladyofspa 9 месяцев назад
People are nuts!!! Congrats on saying no to this
@mikealalee2889
@mikealalee2889 Год назад
It's awful to believe someone could treat someone else that way.
@Seraphim7
@Seraphim7 11 месяцев назад
Oh, Believe it. They’re demons. These were my thoughts, as well. Until it happened to me.
@Angeloflight7
@Angeloflight7 11 месяцев назад
Heartbreaking
@CurrentLetdown
@CurrentLetdown 9 месяцев назад
Believe it.
@sailore182
@sailore182 3 месяца назад
@@Seraphim7this is what we need to stop saying. “These people are demons”. These people are humans with unhealed wounds from childhood. I’m not using that as an excuse, but there’s definitely a pattern with abusive(or narcissistic) people. Rather than dehumanize and dismiss them we should also figure out a way to help these people so they won’t continue to hurt others. Now if it’s your partner acting this way towards you then it’s not your problem to fix them the best solution is to leave the first time around. But if there’s a family member or friend you see exempting such behaviors(even if small) let them know straight away it’s not okay and get them professional help if possible.
@redwoods7370
@redwoods7370 Год назад
It’s so hard to recognize and resist when you are being love bombed. It’s good to check in with an honest friend or relative you trust to give you an honest assessment and opinion. Then it’s important to listen.
@bluebuffy5
@bluebuffy5 10 месяцев назад
💯 So important to take on their advice
@ShockResistor
@ShockResistor 4 месяца назад
Im lucky I tolerate no bs and can see right through facades even when a young girl.
@blackbird45
@blackbird45 11 месяцев назад
most films, series and books romanticize and eroticize toxic relationships and abusive partners and many men and women, teenagers and adults take this kind of relationship as a model.
@xletragedyx
@xletragedyx 3 месяца назад
💯
@blackingingerpurrin
@blackingingerpurrin 11 месяцев назад
I’ve been loved bomb numerous times and it’s to the point that I don’t trust or cannot accept when people are actually finally “nice” to me😖
@bhoddd
@bhoddd 11 месяцев назад
Date yourself first. Trust me that'll teach you so much about yourself and how you'd want to be treated in a relationship. All the best love!
@gingerrivas5354
@gingerrivas5354 11 месяцев назад
I know what i want but monsters keep coming...
@camiojeda1927
@camiojeda1927 11 месяцев назад
I’m so sorry 😣 I consider myself a generous person, but I would hate that these awful people are making others think that guilt tripping and love bombing is how relationships work. You deserve genuine kindness and respect and I hope you’ve found a strong support system that love you exactly the way you are and give you presents 🎁 without an ulterior motive.
@blackingingerpurrin
@blackingingerpurrin 9 месяцев назад
Thank you guys ❤️❤️ that really made my day .. I wish the same for you all too
@lalat5899
@lalat5899 8 месяцев назад
Take advantage of the gifts and compliments but never get comfortable, always have two exit strategies(literally and figuratively). Your trust is in your wings not the branch that they are. 😂😂❤❤
@ruthanyasi8290
@ruthanyasi8290 11 месяцев назад
My ex used to do the same thing. He would talk about something like I should know and I'll be like, 'oh, you never told me that' and he'll be like 'no I told you don't you remember?' Making me feel like I'm losing my mind or I don't know what I'm saying.
@mismiserables
@mismiserables 11 месяцев назад
This felt so surreal to me. I had an ex that said the exact same thing...I mentioned his behavior to someone once and they said he sounded like a narcissit. It's so weird they all use the same tactics.
@ruthanyasi8290
@ruthanyasi8290 11 месяцев назад
@@mismiserables Yes. They are not even creative
@wayumin
@wayumin 2 месяца назад
Wow, that's a pathological liar. What?
@lexcorp213
@lexcorp213 11 месяцев назад
I was love bombed and gaslighted by my ex then he discarded me like trash. I saw the signs and still stayed longer than I should have. I was self sabotaging. I am back to my old self now after half a year smh.
@iflaziart
@iflaziart 9 месяцев назад
I'm so happy for u sis
@basicradical3581
@basicradical3581 5 месяцев назад
Half a year? 1 or even 10 years. You always deserve to be and enjoy yourself
@theguynextdoor4978
@theguynextdoor4978 5 месяцев назад
"You'll never find anyone better than me" or "no one will love you as much as I do" are very classic phrases from narcissists . Doesn't matter if it's a male or female narc. Finding back to ourselves is WAY better than staying in a relationship like this. I hope everyone who's trapped in this prisonship will find a way out someday.
@lizzy6319
@lizzy6319 11 месяцев назад
It's scary how realistic and common this is.. I escaped an almost "relationship" like this. The guy just appears in my life, gets close to all my close circle of friends, even church friends, volunteers at the same place I volunteer, everyone thinks he's so nice.. but only by God's grace he didn't get a chance to destroy me. I prayed about the situation first and God gave me dreams!!! Warnings!! To avoid this man. And at first I didn't take heed but the more I spent time with him I couldn't deny something felt so wrong inside. My gut was telling me stay away from him.. sooner or later I noticed him making bad comments about the things I love to do.. criticizing me.. trying to pull down my confidence.. and do I kept a distance and now he's bitter gossipping about me trying to get everyone else to hate me because he failed his mission. My God! These people are evil. Girls if your gut is telling you run, you run!!!! These narcissists are envious evil demons that hate you for simply being you.
@teresa18870
@teresa18870 11 месяцев назад
Praise God you listened to your gut and thank God He have you those dreams to warn you oh my days!!!
@judithunaegbu3776
@judithunaegbu3776 9 месяцев назад
To me I see them as the fallen angels…angels of darkness…Evillll…
@LauraJohnson-gn8ww
@LauraJohnson-gn8ww 9 месяцев назад
Well I married one and boy I pray to get away and God work ot out
@jaslyn5501
@jaslyn5501 9 месяцев назад
So so true.
@whateverlolawants
@whateverlolawants 8 месяцев назад
​@@LauraJohnson-gn8wwI really hope you can get away. Better days will come.
@NaetheNatural
@NaetheNatural 11 месяцев назад
Oh hell no !!!! Why was her mom not paying attention to her daughter becoming a shell of her natural self?!!! ……the signs are there PLEASEE don’t miss them with the ppl you love & cherish . This happens way to often so we need to protective our young girls & boys so they know how to get away from monsters like this!
@__rm307
@__rm307 3 месяца назад
Some moms prioritize having their kids in relationships.
@NaetheNatural
@NaetheNatural 3 месяца назад
@@__rm307 it should be all moms . That’s my point . Kids didn’t ask to be here .
@melchiorlise2466
@melchiorlise2466 Год назад
I am autistic and I am very lucky to have a very supportive mom and friends who takes care of me. No behaviour like that will go unpunished because I always have an armada of people to advise me whenever I have a romantic interaction. So if I cannot tell something is strange they will, and ask me to step aside. I hope everyone can have loved ones to advise them too, so that they can see when the relationship is turning abusive and extract themselves as soon as possible.
@shinebabyshine.
@shinebabyshine. 11 месяцев назад
So true! You're blessed to have those people in your life and so am I 💓
@MomMom4Cubs
@MomMom4Cubs 11 месяцев назад
I lived on the other side of your mirror for 38 years, until I broke the mirror and climbed through. Treasure those that support you! It seems like life is so.much easier when your mother loves you and won't gaslight you so you can't tell she can't love you. You seem like you're grateful and appreciative, and that makes me glad!
@melchiorlise2466
@melchiorlise2466 11 месяцев назад
@@MomMom4Cubs Sometimes it makes me very sad to think that not everyone is lucky enough to have a mother like mine, I probably wouldn't be able to have a normal life if she wasn't here to smooth everything down. It devastated when I discovered as a child not every mother was like that, it seemed deeply unnatural for me that some mothers could hurt their children. I am sorry yours failed to give you the love and protection you deserved. You seem very strong and resilient and impressive, but it is still unfair that you had to be your own safe person. I hope you have other people in your life who value you and support you, even if they are not your blood.
@melchiorlise2466
@melchiorlise2466 11 месяцев назад
@@it_butters_the_bean2343 Thank you, you are very kind !
@nadiah3664
@nadiah3664 11 месяцев назад
how good for you
@prismonthethehorizon5793
@prismonthethehorizon5793 9 месяцев назад
This is really triggering for me, people need to also need to understand the cognitive dissonance that comes after all the mental abuse and manipulation and the trauma bond! I live in a state of disassociation, forgetting all the cruel things I've endured... these videos are great for understanding how abuse happens!
@missjaszmine1068
@missjaszmine1068 8 месяцев назад
Some of his control is coming from the fact that she gives a damn about him, does not want to hurt him, or offend him. If she were able to surround herself with some safe people, even if that means law enforcement and domestic violence professionals, and with their guidance and support, turn the volume down on her empathy and really not give a s*** whether he hurts himself or not, a Huge percentage of his control over her would dissipate. They weaponize your empathy and the fact that you care. That's one thing I've learned.... to stop playing my position, to stop playing the role they expect me to play. A lot of what they do is dependent upon the target giving a damn.
@HealTheWhitneyWorld
@HealTheWhitneyWorld 9 месяцев назад
If your partner even flinch or buck up as if they want to be physical towards you, don't spend an extra second in that relationship. Love & domestic violence don't go together.
@carolecochrane8173
@carolecochrane8173 4 месяца назад
Your so right, that's not love.
@ksazobafit....2216
@ksazobafit....2216 3 месяца назад
It's crazy coz I know and know of women who insist they want a guy who threatens to hit them or bucks at the like he will, they like feeling like he could hit them and I just don't get it, you raise your voice one time and I'm out I don't care
@melodyclark1944
@melodyclark1944 11 месяцев назад
This could be great in a drama tv show. I've seen a lot of pointless drama and I've seen physically abusive relationships but nothing like this.
@gigiarmany4332
@gigiarmany4332 11 месяцев назад
Yes..wonder why these important issues dont get adressed, but they keep making these silly series
@lizanna6390
@lizanna6390 9 месяцев назад
Coronation Street did a coercive control storyline. But you are right, one example is not enough.
@carolecochrane8173
@carolecochrane8173 4 месяца назад
That's a very good idea, young people need to be taught the signs of this behaviour, first and foremost you should never let any piece of shit put you down and try to control you they are nobody's just some random crap you stumbled upon. Tell them to do one. 😀 stand up for yourse!f.
@initakalneja6626
@initakalneja6626 5 месяцев назад
You know what is most heartbreaking being with a narcissist? No one believes you that they are evil and hurt you. All because they put this "i am nicest guy/girl what you would ever wish for" in front of others and they genuinely believe them not you. End of film absolutely broke my heart, guys, if you notice first red flags, DO NOT ignore them and get out of relationships.
@anothergirlinasweater
@anothergirlinasweater Месяц назад
Thank you so much for this comment, I feel validated.
@helenculling9130
@helenculling9130 2 месяца назад
It can be friendships who will gaslight you sometimes as well. I lived as a lodger with another lady when I was 25, and it seemed great at first. She made me believe we were close friends and that she wanted to 'help' me, when we ended up chatting about life and experiences etc. In the end I apparently was really forgetful, and was someone who was 'strange.' Apparently most other people didn't forget the things I did. Analysing any and every little thing in my life clearly pointed to the fact I was struggling with: insert blank. These things became annoying to her, but nonetheless she wanted to make our living situation work. Holding on to my sanity and my own sense of reality, I sat her down and told her that this wasn't working anymore. She cried and said she was really upset. I questioned why she was so upset if I was that annoying to live with, and was just calmly telling her I would move out. She became nicer for a while, but then the nasty behaviour started again. She said that she was genuinely worried about me moving out and living by myself and indicated that I can't run a household and deal with this and that. She may as well have just said that I needed her and that I couldn't live without her. I was cooking one day and she was giving me a whole paragraph about what I was doing wrong, to the point that I began to cry while eating my dinner. None of that seemed to bother her. I packed up my bags and left the next day at 5 in the morning, knowing that if I stayed there any longer I would lose my head. Fortunately I had my parents to go back to. I have never had to see her since. I have learned that it is always okay to trust your instincts and your safety. No matter how fun, nice or popular this person is or what positive things other people say about them - if you feel you are losing your sense of reality, self or feel scared and unhappy, it is not your fault. You are being manipulated and it is not okay. True friends will make you feel happy, safe and comfortable. They will celebrate your wins and love you. You deserve the best 💕💕
@dianamachado2415
@dianamachado2415 Год назад
Your first concern was show his love bomb offering flowers, post beautiful photos to show how they are so happy. after he started to plant doubts in her mind about other people say about her. The last was show to her mother as he is so nice boyfriend and convince all family about his good intentions. Now he is an abuser with her and violent but her family and friends already are convinced about how nice he is to her. My advice is: don't let anyone get in your life without get to know you well, at least only be friend and keep your 👁
@mariancounsellor
@mariancounsellor 11 месяцев назад
This was very realistic and great acting. Unfortunately, too many people find themselves stuck in these types of relationships until either someone close to them intervenes or something close to a near-death experience happens. The type of men who do this, don’t ever stop because it’s a game that they get a buzz out of. Thankfully, there’s more information and support out there now.
@AngelasTravelAdventures
@AngelasTravelAdventures 11 месяцев назад
This is why we need to know what real love is.
@racheloshaksmusic
@racheloshaksmusic 11 месяцев назад
Jesus Christ is real love ❤ Because sometimes even parents fail to show you real love.
@stuff1784
@stuff1784 9 месяцев назад
How would someone who grew up in an abusive home know the difference? I fell for someone like this because my dad is a covert narcissist who still emotionally abuses my mother to this day. They have been married for 25 miserable years.
@racheloshaksmusic
@racheloshaksmusic 9 месяцев назад
@@stuff1784 know Jesus Christ instead. God enlightens us and Shows us true LOVE through His Son Jesus Christ. If you explore the New Testament bible,you will see it there. If you read 1 Corinthians 13, you’ll see true love explained there. Since the fall of mankind through the sin of Adam and Eve, the first woman and man created, the world fell from its glory and started to fall away from God’s precepts, hence now you see all sorts of toxic families. Parents are too busy or they lack the knowledge to teach you properly. Don’t limit yourself to humans that can die at any moment in time. God will never die because He is Spirit. He loves you. He made you in your mother’s womb
@Superchick.Marie777
@Superchick.Marie777 Год назад
Oh please for every young lady that watches this … RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN. 🙏🏼❤️😭
@lauraparker2139
@lauraparker2139 5 месяцев назад
People should know that this happens with friendships too. I made best friends so fast with this girl who totally love bombed. Loads of compliments, encouragement, fun plans, I’d never felt so confident and loved. But in a short time (about 3 months) it turned into negative comments about my weight, convincing me my boyfriend liked her, telling me people didn’t like me, turning people against me before I’d met them, all sorts. Never had such low self esteem, and took so long to recover.
@ATLmodK
@ATLmodK 11 месяцев назад
If I had known to see that love bombing was a bad thing, I could have saved myself 10 miserable years
@one-day-at-a-time4134
@one-day-at-a-time4134 10 месяцев назад
I hear you, I hope life is treating you with kindness 🤙🏼
@susmitachatterjee4107
@susmitachatterjee4107 7 месяцев назад
This is exactly I feel.
@williamj.dovejr.8613
@williamj.dovejr.8613 4 месяца назад
Hell, I could have saved twenty years and a ton of money.
@ohmoflife1
@ohmoflife1 3 месяца назад
@@williamj.dovejr.8613ditto!
@GradKat
@GradKat Год назад
Oh God this made me feel sick. I had to keep reminding myself that Skye wasn’t a real person. The situation is very real, however. I hope this film can help someone, anyone, to break free from a relationship like this.
@purplecarnations2578
@purplecarnations2578 Год назад
Today I won’t even put the rubbish out without triple layering my lipstick first!! 👄 💄🤣f***k the narc!!!
@infiniteroyalty
@infiniteroyalty 11 месяцев назад
This can trap a person their whole life it’s a kind of slavery that’s hard to get out of because your emotionally and energetically bound to them they are so smart they don’t show this until your hooked some woman don’t see this side of men until they are married with a kid(s)
@kaylees1072
@kaylees1072 10 месяцев назад
This is very real. All of this happened to me over 24 years. I would hardly wear make-up because he said he didn't like it. He would say i only dressed up to get male attention after having 3 babies. During dating, after marriage, after 3 kids, after separation, and now after divorce. Him saying you know what others say about, but I defend you everytime. This was just said to me recently by mine. It's so hard to break free when you lack confidence, esteem, and worth in yourself especially when you have been broken down for so long.
@gaylepilgrim309
@gaylepilgrim309 11 месяцев назад
The sad part is: the family adopts them because they see one side of them and not the unhappiness of the girl involved...
@kyrareneeLOA
@kyrareneeLOA 9 месяцев назад
Run for anyone that makes you doubt yourself. Or even run from someone that puts others down often. You deserve more💜
@lilmama16ification
@lilmama16ification 7 месяцев назад
Worst feeling is seeing your family get close to your abuser and show them the love you desperately need but they won’t give it or you’re too scared to say
@ndunyamunene8161
@ndunyamunene8161 Год назад
I was once here, it took intense therapy and learning to love myself to undo years of narcissistic abuse.
@Prizzy999
@Prizzy999 11 месяцев назад
Girls, women must start knowing their own worth and stop forgiving this s****y behaviour from men. Nobody has the right to gaslight, threaten, or stop anyone else from pursuing their dreams. If you meet someone like that, run away as fast as you can and know you're worth love and respect, always!
@raversfantasy8873
@raversfantasy8873 9 месяцев назад
Happens to men too.
@FatherZed696
@FatherZed696 8 месяцев назад
A bit harsh woman are just as bad ..let's keep it a human thing
@dunemae
@dunemae 3 месяца назад
@@raversfantasy8873Notice how no one said it didn’t. Why don’t you talk about men’s issues on a video about that if you actually care about it?
@johannesvonsaaz3987
@johannesvonsaaz3987 2 месяца назад
​@@dunemaethis is an educational video about gaslighting and coercive abusive within a relationship it's not only specific to women. Men go through this same stuff
@mrjordan411
@mrjordan411 Месяц назад
Women do this to men too.
@skylark1772
@skylark1772 11 месяцев назад
Sometimes you experience a thing and think it's just you. It's way more dangerous than you can imagine. The chills of recognition. Thank you for this amazing illustration.
@captainjaneway80
@captainjaneway80 7 месяцев назад
Listen to your intuition. She can tell something’s not right but not listening to herself. Plus he’s gaslighting her to make her confused.
@chisomibeh1697
@chisomibeh1697 2 месяца назад
When I found out that she turned down her opportunity to Brighton to stay with him... I YELLED!!!!! IM STILL GAGGED!
@AnnaB-hx6gr
@AnnaB-hx6gr 11 месяцев назад
I pray for all woman who are in same or similar situation 💔
@hill600
@hill600 9 месяцев назад
The gaslighting…. The lack of boundaries… this is scary
@armita175
@armita175 10 месяцев назад
I can’t believe how accurate this is with my old relationship I couldn’t even break up it was so hard and everyone said „just break up“ it’s not that easy you think you met a person who will make you happy and have fun with and it turns out he ruined your mental health and you will be so confused that you don’t know your own worth anymore
@Jess-kn8vl
@Jess-kn8vl 9 месяцев назад
😢💜🕊
@sooaboutthat..5439
@sooaboutthat..5439 7 месяцев назад
thissss ...
@carolecochrane8173
@carolecochrane8173 4 месяца назад
When someone starts playing mind games and being abusive, they are definitely not the person to be with. Don't put up with it.
@user-fy8vc9jk3b
@user-fy8vc9jk3b 11 месяцев назад
Very realistic. Scary but shows how subtly these relationships start
@JayJ111
@JayJ111 5 месяцев назад
He was slowly breaking her down. Making her think she was crazy. Run fast, these people become obsessive and will waist your time. Their intention is to break you down so you don’t leave them and isolate yourself. Prayers up, so glad I saw this film 🎥 🙏
@HoneyBunRoad
@HoneyBunRoad 11 месяцев назад
Omg the gaslighting: "how much have you had to drink". on my birthday, we went out and i wanted to take a pic of us with his phone. guess what he said? ''if i unlock my phone, the things you'll see will make you cry'. so obviously that completely ruins my night, ive been drinking, im angry, i start getting loud & want to go home. in the morning he asks "what was wrong with you last night, you need to stop drinking so much".
@USNMelDaria
@USNMelDaria 11 месяцев назад
I so glad i have my father, because I think I avoided a lot of things because of his talks!! 🥰
@tinaferr
@tinaferr 8 месяцев назад
Yep this is a huge factor ❤ hope you still have a good relationship with your dad
@KAye633
@KAye633 5 месяцев назад
Me too! My dad is the best. So thankful.
@higherperspectives5081
@higherperspectives5081 9 месяцев назад
Pay attention to the red flags people! Don’t paint the red flags white! 🚩 Why are you showing up at my house uninvited? Why are you getting mad for no reason, not trust me and trying to intimidate me with your body language. Don’t make excuses for weird behaviour? I’ve done that and then you find yourself feeling trapped and alone. Don’t let yourself get there ❤️
@blackroyalness9780
@blackroyalness9780 11 месяцев назад
Crazy the mom didn’t even notice her daughter growing distant
@Jess-kn8vl
@Jess-kn8vl 9 месяцев назад
People often get into narcissistic relationships if they have a parent that is one.
@blackroyalness9780
@blackroyalness9780 9 месяцев назад
@@Jess-kn8vl makes sense
@grace2.026
@grace2.026 11 месяцев назад
I was in a similar situation. I’ll never know for sure if he’s this type but asking me to move in with him just after 2 weeks . Wanting me to meet his mum in a month just felt so wrong. Too fast. I felt like I was suffocating and being forced into commitment. He let his temper slip one day. And I called it quits after a month. It felt like it was too much. He always wanted us to be together which is great and all but it just felt wrong. When I decided to end it I was scared to just end it. That also showed me that I was making the right decision.
@Cookiedesigns254
@Cookiedesigns254 8 месяцев назад
I’m so happy for you! You shouldn’t be scared of your significant other. I had to learn fear is not love!
@whateverlolawants
@whateverlolawants 8 месяцев назад
You absolutely made the right choice.
@carolecochrane8173
@carolecochrane8173 4 месяца назад
Well done you did the right thing, what a creep that's scary, I can't believe he would think you would do that after such a short amount of time, you don't know him from adam.
@gir7206
@gir7206 8 месяцев назад
Growing up I would see movies or shows like this and always thought to myself, I would never be in that situation. I'm too strong, too independent. It took me 2 years to escape my abuser, I had to flee in the middle of the night with just the clothes on my back and my little dog in a carrier. Move away from the city I grew up in, away from all my family and friends to escape his stalking. He had integrated himself into every part of my life, there was no where left to hide. All my previous attempts failed.I went to a women's shelter out of the city. It can happen to anyone, at any age. There is help out there for you, there is a way out. You are loved, you are worthy, you can break free. ❤
@Samaraesart
@Samaraesart 2 месяца назад
This needs to be shown in schools.
@almostmybedtime
@almostmybedtime 8 месяцев назад
I like how they showed instagram/social media pictures they took to show that on the outside she may look like she’s having fun and that there is no abuse, but in reality their relationship isn’t what it seems
@stormluna5136
@stormluna5136 5 месяцев назад
The Christmas scene where everyone's together laughing and smiling and she's sitting there depressed, and you feel too afraid to say anything, I felt that. I've been right there with an ex partner where everyone thought he was great and we were doing good, both our family and friends smiling at us and the few people who could see his true colors, I eventually got isolated from them or convinced they weren't healthy friendships. No one else knew how bad he was treating me behind closed doors cause in public, he absolutely love bombed me by telling everyone how much he loved me and wanted to marry me etc Absolutely the worst relationship of my life and I'm so thankful I eventually got out safely.
@jazdj04
@jazdj04 11 месяцев назад
Omg that literally happened to me before! 7:56 He rushed me because he thought I was "looking" at some guys! That was the first date! I literally walked home and never called him again.
@gigiarmany4332
@gigiarmany4332 11 месяцев назад
good instincts..thankfully
@breaklunner
@breaklunner 11 месяцев назад
I, like Skye, found myself unknowingly in a toxic relationship with a love bombing narcisisst because I didn't know what "it" was (this short film is all too familiar even down to her essence fading and her voice becoming practically silent by the end). In my toxic relationship, my life as well as my opportunities in my career just passed me by (I became a shell of a person just like Skye). He started off cooking for me, cleaning for me, hugging me when I cried to telling me I was the "b-word", the "c-word", and that he wouldn't care if I died. The light in my eyes faded and every day there was a barrage of insults and emotional abuse; he would emotionally abuse me daily till nearly 4 AM in the morning (I barely slept and constantly would get into car accidents; my life was a mess but I was so numb). He even started to push me. One day, he discarded me when he found out I was pursuing my Master's Degree. He couldn't fathom being with a woman so educated and not yet broken by his insults, so he left me. I was grateful to god though and blocked him on every platform. In my healing state, I started to feel again. I started to regain the light in my eyes. I started to smile again. Nearly 5 years later, I'm living in a luxury apartment with my dream job and making six figures and learning more and more everyday how to love myself. If you are being abused, please leave. Life is better when you're safe and loved. Thank you for sharing this short film because love bombing turning into abuse can really sneak up on you if you don't know what it looks like.
@healingpoisonbreak9984
@healingpoisonbreak9984 11 месяцев назад
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. That must have been hell. Congratulations for getting out of it dear. I wish you the best❤
@breaklunner
@breaklunner 11 месяцев назад
@@healingpoisonbreak9984 You are so kind for commenting this. Thank you for your loving kind words.
@TheBeccasol1
@TheBeccasol1 10 месяцев назад
Thank you for sharing this and inspiring so many hearts 🤍😊
@mayreacts8030
@mayreacts8030 10 месяцев назад
Am happy you found yourself.
@n.n9035
@n.n9035 10 месяцев назад
I wish this was possible for me but I'm pregnant with my 5th child.. Stuck overseas with him..
@lalat5899
@lalat5899 8 месяцев назад
Stuff like this is why I love my “craziness”😂😂 Yes I was emotionally neglected as a childhood, I had to live in a world of fantasy to survive, but I always knew what I wanted and deserved because of those fantasies. When the guy stopped providing those fantasies, I dipped. I didn’t catch the manipulation all the time, but manipulators use the same playbook(con men only use cons that work). Once I start noticing I was able to catch the pattern early in men. Through therapy I’ve been getting better at coping with my past and present and using tools to feel my own needs. I feel so sorry for people trapped in these cycles. One thing about it, you have to stop seeing the person as doing you a favor for being in your life. Stop centering the status of your relationship. Another thing I think help me from not going too deep into these relationships is loving my own company. And I never believed love should be hard or hurt, I already experienced that in childhood. Anyway, may this reach someone. You are worthy of love that encourages you to be your best self even if that’s not with them 😊❤❤
@juneelle370
@juneelle370 8 месяцев назад
❤!
@jaymitaylor9937
@jaymitaylor9937 Год назад
She’s so pretty 🤍
@leilahas
@leilahas Год назад
She is ♥️😩
@Tashi298
@Tashi298 11 месяцев назад
The blink that Skye’s friend gave her at the 10:37 mark after her bf chimed in made me cry. It was so subtle but powerful to me.
@SoEffortlesslyFabulous
@SoEffortlesslyFabulous 11 месяцев назад
Is this learned behavior? I am wondering how someone so young could act like this. This is definitely something that should be shown in secondary school and colleges.
@erievhs
@erievhs 11 месяцев назад
He learned it from his abusive parents, gaurdians, teachers, his ex etc. When someone is abused enough they become the abuser
@racheloshaksmusic
@racheloshaksmusic 11 месяцев назад
It's demonic oppression, it's spiritual which is why many doctors cannot explain its root. It can also be taught/learned behaviour from their own parents growing up.
@quriOusmOOn
@quriOusmOOn 10 месяцев назад
@@erievhs sometimes but not all the time.
@ladyofspa
@ladyofspa 9 месяцев назад
Likely learned, and developed from a dysfunctional life over all.
@CupidsOfLina
@CupidsOfLina 2 месяца назад
Such characters don't even love themselves
@BlackArtistsGetPaid
@BlackArtistsGetPaid 11 месяцев назад
Great film, but it was difficult to watch. So many relatable moments. Thank God for therapy and friends. I am still scared to date, but I am getting better at recognizing end flags. Much love to the actors/creators.
@racheloshaksmusic
@racheloshaksmusic 11 месяцев назад
Trust Jesus to guide you. ❤
@rachelo8294
@rachelo8294 11 месяцев назад
Never give up your life and education for a man.
@indecisive.dice.roll.325
@indecisive.dice.roll.325 9 месяцев назад
You know the film's good when it triggers you
@musicbyarnica
@musicbyarnica 11 месяцев назад
wow so good! the first red flag was him planting insecurity in her and planting himself in her circle so that when she brings stuff up, they can be like wowww hes such a great guy, what do you mean? hes SO nice! and then her loosing herself bit by bit :( heartbreaking
@olayinka_ekky
@olayinka_ekky Год назад
Wow, I am so speechless, I have been with narcissist in my past but don't really put mind to it, I never knew about coercive control type of narcissist, I met someone and this was exactly what happened to me, I almost lost everything including my soul, twas like trying to steal my soul or my essence, I was isolated but I kept fighting with love, what made it worst was the fact that my parent too was a type of narcissist and eventually they both coexist to kinda weigh me down, my advice is don't let anyone change who you are, regardless of the pain or all that I went through cause it made me feel like I was dead or crazy, always believe in love, nothing they can do to take that away from me, I have been angry sometimes for being an empath cause we attract the worst type of people, energy vampires, manipulative people and all types of crazy, I always learn from it though but now definitely I am a proud empath. I will continue to love cause now I am much wiser, although prevention is always better than cure, I really loved her though while she was there for the control and manipulation, love is great lol. One love always. So help me Lord AMEN.
@morgansmith5093
@morgansmith5093 9 месяцев назад
This!!!!! Amen love and light to you
@toouniquetobe
@toouniquetobe 8 месяцев назад
I have recognised the toxic behaviours in myself. But I have developed intrapersonal skills to manage my relationships. My mother being a narc - I found ways to understand her, distance her and accept her. Narcs do not just occure by accident. If you are mature enough, you can guide them, or at least build the walls against abuse.
@jaeshasway
@jaeshasway 11 месяцев назад
We have to do better as parents, friends, teachers, influencers. There’s no reason why children should be susceptible to this type of predatory relationship behavior in this day and age. I never cared about what other kids said at her age. I was also bullied when I was in elementary school. I told my parents, who didn’t brush it away like her mother did. I was taken seriously and my self confidence and protective instincts were reinforced. I never allowed the behavior of children or even manipulative adults to intrude into my life. This guy wouldn’t have even chosen me because he would’ve known better. Teach kids to not just say, but think and feel…#Iamnottheone 🙅🏽‍♀️
@cookiegirl891
@cookiegirl891 10 месяцев назад
This
@ladyofspa
@ladyofspa 9 месяцев назад
Agree. When patents don't know that Predators are everywhere your child will get eaten alive! This young man was testing her from the moment he met her, seeing how eager she'd be with him coming to the beach, how excited the flowers made her, how she brushed off people talk bout you. Her standards esteem was already susceptible with her mother, and I noticed she was over weight... it's Suttle but the grooming/ testing starts the moment you meet someone, keep your self love, esteem, requirements high.
@Cookiedesigns254
@Cookiedesigns254 8 месяцев назад
I love this! Your parents raised a badass that cannot be f*cked with ❤💪🏽
@makemyburdenlight
@makemyburdenlight 9 месяцев назад
This was a great start to spreading awareness, but still needs some work! I especially love the beginning and how nice he was. Many abusers don't have red flags when you first meat them, they come across to everyone like fantastic good guys. They don't start to overtly abuse someone UNTIL the victim is invested and forms an attachment (and on her part it is a healthy attachment). So I wish the video showed more of the happy moments and how great an abuser can be, which is a crucial aspect. Sadly, I think people without lived experience will watch this video and think "He's clearly obviously such a jerk, why does she stay? There must be something wrong with her for staying with him". This type of victim blaming needs to be eradicated, but it's hard to educate people on anti victim blaming if videos like this aren't painting a more accurate picture. It would have been better had it showed they were happy, connected, and in love, they were for weeks or months before he started with the overt tactics. Also, I think it's important to point out that most of these abusive examples in the video were overt examples. Instead, I wish they showed more of the subtle micro ways abusers choose to abuse. Like how happy and up beat and sincere an abuser can sound while simultaneously saying a backhanded or sarcastic comment (and of course it's usually "just a joke"), but then can turn around and build you up in ways no one else has. How special they can make you feel, and you'll feel on top of the world, even after abusing you. How they can sometimes cry and come across so genuinely sorry for being mean. How they make you think they are your best friend who knows you so well. How they convince you they love you so much and have your best interest in mind. How good they are at making their argument sound so logical that even your friends, therapist, or family would agree with him, etc. For example, in the video they could have had the abuser get out of the car and tell the girlfriend "Hey, be careful walking near guys on the street. He was checking you out and was really sketchy, and I don't want anything to happen to you. Next time I'll walk you to your door, I don't want you to be alone". Most people would think he was just being nice and looking out for her because he loves her so much. Then over time he might start with "Hey that guy next to you was a creepy, and I don't want you to get hurt. So you may not want to draw attention to these guys". Then the victim will ask "How am I drawing attention?" (since the abuser is great at getting the victim to interact, which will sometimes be used against the victim, like "Well, you asked" etc), to which he replies "Oh you know, like that lipstick you're wearing. You're just so beautiful, it's no wonder guys will look"... etc. THAT would have been a more accurate and effective depiction of how sneaky these abusers can be. Anyway, I did appreciate the example of gaslighting when he said she gave him her phone to hold onto. Little things like that (sometimes even more subtly) happen very often.
@obscurum6
@obscurum6 9 месяцев назад
Also the way the abuser uses fake vulnerability to pull the victim in. They will plead for help, advice and support. They cry and say they are sorry, that they can only change if the victim "believes" in them, when that is really a way to blame the victim later by saying "I would have changed but I felt you didn't believe in me". 🙄 They will tell the victim that they are their saviour and say "you can't leave me,I can't change without you". They make the victim co dependent. You're right about the subtle ways they con the victim.
@kooliecurlz93
@kooliecurlz93 11 месяцев назад
Honestly we must all use some critical thinking. I think her family and friends really failed her here. Once your friend starts withdrawing and it’s unlike them get curious, ask questions, show up even when they insist you shouldn’t. Her mom dismissing her when she asked if people talk about her, why didn’t she ask where all that was suddenly coming from? Inviting that boy into your house and that’s when the change in your child started and you don’t think to question it? He preyed on her and it’s so common especially for those who have a hard time saying no. Remember NO is a complete sentence, always.
@racheloshaksmusic
@racheloshaksmusic 11 месяцев назад
Many friends and parents fail us because they have their own problems to worry about, which is why I prefer to tell people to Love Jesus who loves them and grow in SELF WORTH AND CONFIDENCE AND WHOLENESS ON YOUR OWN.
@kooliecurlz93
@kooliecurlz93 10 месяцев назад
@@racheloshaksmusic as much as I agree with this it had nothing to do with the video or what I said. I appreciate your opinion nonetheless.
@racheloshaksmusic
@racheloshaksmusic 10 месяцев назад
@@kooliecurlz93 if you agree with it, why say that then😂 It’s an addition to your comment. A lot of people don’t have parents. So one must rely on God and their God-given senses and gut-feelings to protect themselves from people with demons set to destroy you. It will help a lot of people who are in the same situation AS THIS VIDEO. Thank you
@kooliecurlz93
@kooliecurlz93 10 месяцев назад
@@racheloshaksmusic girl shut up! You think everybody has found their way to God or even believe in God? So if they don’t know God it means they should suffer? Yes some people don’t have parents but that wasn’t the case in the video. Some of you people are so insufferable, literal victim blaming but putting God in it. Goodbye.
@ladyofspa
@ladyofspa 9 месяцев назад
Many church goers Jesus believers are often preyed on inside and outside church. We can't pray this away. Can combine many principles and psychology with religion but if your pastor preacher is not focusing on this weekly.... you are food for predators.
@softroo522
@softroo522 9 месяцев назад
I was love bombed for 4 years. He did so much damage to my self esteem. Which was awful to begin with. Abused as a child. No father, single mother. My mom died suddenly while I was with this man. And he treated me even more terribly. But I couldn't bring myself to leave. A year after my mom died. He claimed I cheated on him and it couldn't work. So he left. I was devastated. Come to find out later, he cheated on me. And lots of years later, reflecting on it all. I realized him leaving was the best thing for me. I am married, but still suffer from that trauma to this day.
@aurora_skye
@aurora_skye 8 месяцев назад
You're so strong ❤
@TheBlackRabbit3
@TheBlackRabbit3 11 месяцев назад
So true to life..and you don't even realize what's happening until it's too late. So many young people need to see this 😢
@one-day-at-a-time4134
@one-day-at-a-time4134 10 месяцев назад
Agreed and agreed 🤙🏼
@jazzyj6640
@jazzyj6640 11 месяцев назад
My ex’s name is Jake and that was the first emotionally abusive relationship. 😢 He did the same thing.
@lizzy6319
@lizzy6319 11 месяцев назад
You live and learn. Thank God you escaped.
@carolecochrane8173
@carolecochrane8173 4 месяца назад
Glad you got out, you know what to look out for now. Onwards and upwards. 🤗
@keeshab1173
@keeshab1173 9 месяцев назад
The controlling behaviour was portrayed really well. However, the love bombing wasnt and should have been shown longer. The love bombing is what gets you to this stage, where you are with someone like this. It is full on but doesnt happen that quick. My ex love bombed me for over a year to make sure I had strong feelings for him, before displaying any of this controlling behavior. He was manipulative, but during the love bombing I could not see that. He woukd spoil me with lots of time, affection, gifts and attention. That is love bombing!
@divinely__written
@divinely__written 9 месяцев назад
This is crazy this is mental manipulation and mental and emotional abuse I felt abused watching it. Please don’t ignore the signs if you experience anything like this if someone ever tries to pass themselves off as your world red flag! It’s so important that we understand first who we are and our value so that we don’t allow ourselves or others to devalue us.
@fashionistaT85
@fashionistaT85 Год назад
One word, Triggered! Le sigh.... Good acting & storyline.. The scary part is, this type of abuse can be ever so subtle and hard to detect until you're in too deep. Tip: Create Boundaries and Educate yourself on toxic traits & behaviours. It will help you identify the red flags earlier.
@PrincessCharmless
@PrincessCharmless 10 месяцев назад
Omg the actors in this were amazing, it felt so real! Poor Sky, the way she just became a shell of herself at the end…
@llgrazes
@llgrazes 10 месяцев назад
Amazing and powerful, this should be shown to young women starting at about the age 13. To let them know visually what an abusive relationship looks like. Very well done
@moonshine2752
@moonshine2752 7 месяцев назад
I didn’t realize he was like this. I never knew what love bombing was but now I do
@bugzpudding
@bugzpudding 3 месяца назад
you dontnknow how many times ive been trapped in a relationship, finally am free. will never let myself get stuck again
@jenn8459
@jenn8459 3 месяца назад
Don't worry. There are good ones out there. Took me many many frogs before my prince.
@k27334
@k27334 11 месяцев назад
The scene where it’s Christmas & they’re opening gifts is really important. Like no matter how horrible the narc treats you, you better be there for every holiday & birthday & get them presents..🤢
@lineaalba4035
@lineaalba4035 11 месяцев назад
Although there women who love bomb, I see it mostly from men. In all age ranges from teens to pensioners. Always know your worth, and even if you haven't figured out what happened or what's going on, listen to your gut feeling. Why do you feel down or sad after seeing or talking with them? GET OUT, RUN....DON'T LOOK BACK. STOP ALL INTERACTIONS . You can figure it out later, but not while you're with them.
@shaybelle8495
@shaybelle8495 Год назад
She’s gorgeous. Amazing film.
@galaxiyamoon
@galaxiyamoon 11 месяцев назад
Skye is so beautiful, kind, and wonderful, If I had a woman like her I would treat her like a queen.
@missjackie7983
@missjackie7983 Год назад
NOPE, NOPE, NOPE! At the first sign of negativity I would have dumped his sorry ass! If you aren't uplifting and encouraging and pushing me towards my goals and dreams I don't need nothing to do with you
@elliesings9508
@elliesings9508 11 месяцев назад
Soooooo good!! What a sick manipulator. Abusive. Lying. And she's so sweet she couldn't see it. Emotional abuse is so sneaky. I went from a nice figure to putting on weight to almost 100lbs. My unhappiness manifested into overeating. Please, please let friends see who the true "guy" is in your life. Let them spend lots of time around you both. At some point he'll slip up and they can point it out. Excellent writing/directing/acting!!! Bravo!!! I want to see more
@robertperzel5349
@robertperzel5349 5 месяцев назад
This is so sad, Loneliness in one and the other gets lost in another one.
@suni.L
@suni.L 9 месяцев назад
Parents are so eager to teach their children how to walk but never teach them about their intuition. The little voice whispering trying to protect us.
@obscurum6
@obscurum6 9 месяцев назад
Read the book "The Gift of Fear".
@karolinawalichiewicz4200
@karolinawalichiewicz4200 11 месяцев назад
coercion and control are used by some people to minimize their own anxiety, without them realizing how/why it's wrong to do so or how to do things differently and still get the result they ultimately really want: secure attachment. someone needs to correct them, either from within inside the relationship or from outside
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