Baji I respect you a lot and have been following for a long time. First I think every mother wants to be home with their children but many are not able to because of various reasons. Being able to stay home, or not leave the house to work is a privilege. Even back home, poor women have been working for centuries only women with means had to struggle to leave the house. Secondly I have to agree with your daughter and Soni about the power dynamic with parents in south Asian countries. Children are viewed as commodities, old age insurance and not as individuals with their own needs/wants/desires. Individual desires are mostly quashed for the “greater good” of the family. This I think is terrible! In foreign countries, the children are viewed as individuals and although it may seem selfish, it shifts the power dynamic. Independence is encouraged and children are expected to be members of society be depending on parents forever. There are many many families whose kids stay close and take advice however advice is not given unless asked. I think to generalize and say the whole western society is in pain and on fire is incorrect. Our society is on fire even more, we just don’t see it. There’s a lot of evils there as well. They may be different than here but one isn’t necessarily better than the other. 🙏🏽
It’s quite true because desi parents want to live their childrens lives too. They never feel their children are capable enough to take their own decisions. I think if your children can’t take right decisions then you have not raised them well.
بہت سچی اور کھری باتیں کی آپ نے دونوں طرف لحاظ ھونا چاھے بچوں کی بھی عزت کریں بات جو ماننے والی مانے اور اپنی بھی عزت کرائیں مگر بات پھر تربیت پے آ جاتی ھے کہ ھم کیا کر رھے ھے اور بچوں کو کیا تربیت دے رھے ھے عورت جب ماں بنتی ھے تو اس کی ساری توجہ اپنی اولاد کو پروان چڑھانے اور اچھا انسان بنانے میں گزر جاتی ھے
Salam Bajia kia zabardast Ap is Society ki Picture Present karty . Ma khud In sub Chezo ko Face karahi kb hum baray hua. Kuch jo krna dia ho. Bus zindgi guzr rahe. Na Shadi apni marzi krna di. Dil bhi nhi Chata ka Inko Pyar Kare lagta ni ka yeh hamra Real Parents ha.Bus Allah Hidayt Da bus Parents hona ka Power ko Misuse Karty. Too Bitter Reality. I Cried Listening your Talk. You are Lucky ka Ap Yaha sa Move Hogyi. Stay Happy and Healthy😊
Hello how many times I felt that you are speaking exactly those words which I wanted to say.... In my opinion us Society main bachon ko Jayedad samjha jata hai ....😢 Its realy sad but jo aapki beti ne kaha wo kaafi hadd tak sahih hai I came to Germany long time ago or hamarey ghar main bhi same discussions hoti rehti hain ....Its healthy ....Insaan seekhta hai even chhotey bachon se bhi😊
Bs ek misal h ma bap ki bat na manne k liye America ka ek town h jo zombies ka town kehlata h .. agar parents na sambhale toh Mann mani krne Wale bacche zombies hi ban jate h .... Isliye parents ki sarprasti bht zaruri h .. that's it ap ne apne bacchon ki tabiyat bht hi cultural andaz se ki h isi liye ap k bache farmabardar bne h zombies nhi bne
bajiyaji culture ki baat nahi hein, ghar mein reh ke aap ko aap ki soch se aap ke bachcho ko paal kar badey karnen the aur aap ne kiya.. koi log ko bahar ja ke job karni padti hein tau voh log galat nahi hein, voh log bhi sahi hein. as you said sab ki apni apni soch hein.
Too much expectation and emotional blackmailing in. Desi parents, parents keep children held back and dependent on purpose , my view only others may disagree.
Piyari bajia ...walden ki mukhlisi or mohabbat ka talluq education honay ya na honay se nhi blkay unki qurbaniyon se hay...mohbt bagair kisi silay or tawaqqa se h....maa baap kai raza agr kisi bachhay k faisly k liay hogi to beshak bazahir wo raza woh dunyawi lehaz se ghalat lagay lakin Rabbe Pak us faislay ko bachhay k haq mn behtareen kr detay hn...jisme walden ki raza hoti h uspe Rabb bhi khush hota h..kamyaab beherhal wohi olad h jo walden ka farmabrdar h...bat dirf samjh ki h...
yehi toh fairytale hai ! reality ye hai k maa baap ko apne bachhon ki tarbiyat karni chahiye jab tak bachha maa baap par dependent hai. ek baar wo kamaane nikal jaaye toh maa baap ko uss par apni marzi thopna ban kardena chahiye kyunki wo responsible nahi hai ab uss bachhey k liye. maa baap bachhon ko apni milkiyat samajhne ki jab galti karte hain, problm wahan se shuru hoti hai. farmaabardari ka hukum bachhon k liye hai. bt maa baap k liye bhi toh ekhaam hain k bachhon k saath kaise rahein. koi maa baap se b poochhey k wo kis khushi mein wo ehkaam nahi poore karrahe! 🤨 they act like entitled adults who are free to do as they like, wid no accountability to anyone ! WRONG!
