Charlie bestie I don’t know if you’re neurotypical or not but boy are you pleasant to watch as an autistic person. Your channel is one of the few seeing channels that keeps me engaged, so grateful for your videos!
same here, I got the double trouble AuDHD and boy does she match the kind of energy I have it makes it so natural to watch her, she one of the rare cases where I can easily follow and understand the process right away without getting confused or bored. Also sure rare to find a youtuber where I don't need to turn on 2x speed to stay engaged.
2:20 It was so satisfying to say “Remainders!” Like I’m watching Dora the explorer and then to hear the correct answer repeated back - I laughed so freaking hard
Thank you SO MUCH for your brain rambling. Your recognition that just because something "isn't logical" doesn't mean it's less important to recognize. This very much identifies what both my husband and I are learning about ourselves in our 40s.
Oh my goodness yes! It seems so important because of the emotional attachment even though we logically recognize the issue at hand isn't the actual priority or problem.
A tip from a lactose-intolerant yogurt lover: if you make your own yogurt, you can leave it to… ripen? Ferment? Culture? for longer so that the critters that turn the milk to yogurt can digest all the lactose, so you don’t have to.
True, and you can also leave shop-bought yoghurt until it's close to the use-by, then all the lactose has become food for the culture and it's easier on people tummies.
Not only are you making complete sense, it's like you're explaining my ADHD brain to me! For me, adding physical disabilities into the mix makes for complexities upon complexities. Thank you for giving us a glimpse into your brain process and how you're learning to work with your brain. This video was absolutely delightful. ❤
I was thinking exacly the same in terms of ADHD. I felt like Charlie was talking about my brain. The only difference is that right now I'm not able to make myself do anything (because of some comorbidities) so it's really nice to see someone actually realize their plans 😅
@@izoldakombajnistka THIS. All this. Oh my gods it's so validating to see someone who Gets Stuff Done who also struggles with at least some of the same stuff I do. (ADHD w/ chronic disabilities here, so man is it hard to get the brain to shut up.)
Looks at you taking care of your mental health!! My mom flew out to help me organize my place because I'm buried under my layered brain and layered piles of possibilities 🙃 It's pretty embarrassing as an adult but it helped my mental health and she liked being able to help make my daily life easier. Very grateful for her. She too told me to do exactly what you're doing, I need to complete something so I can get a win under my wings.
This dress is amazing! I'm definitely going to make a dress inspired by this, thank you! Pleeeeease show your simple projects! I'm not a beginner, but it's so nice to watch those videos too! Just because someone is "leveling up" their sewing skills doesn't mean they have to make projects only for that level. Keep the simple ones going, they're just as fun to watch as the other ones! 😍
Nearly every therapy session I've ever paid for has been less useful than this. Thanks for proposing some ways of processing that you've found useful. And explaining them the way they make sense for you. They're pretty applicable to me too - in ways that a lot of therapists just... aren't. Because what they had signed off on, as things they're allowed to teach people... just aren't a good fit for me. Or they're explaining it in ways that don't help. So... thanks. I appreciate you internet friend.
Ms. Charlie, you see us, but I see YOU. (Not in a creepy way, I just realized what it sounded like xD). Thank you for sharing your "Parfait Brain" with us. I have a severe Generalized Anxiety Disorder diagnosis and that "weird" is my brain. Every. Single. Day. (With added adhd). I know what it's like and you are a champ. I rarely comment (see above disorder), but I thought this was more than worth mentioning. Thank you for making, sharing and just being you.
Anyone else get low-key stressed when Charlie is sitting at the "coffee table" chatting and gesturing wildly with the pin dish right under her hand? Like one good flail and that dish is going flying. Just me? Okay. - - Also it is so nice to see Link living his best life as I grieve the loss of our (over 15yo) lab. Yes I wanna see all the puppy cuddles and butt skritches. It helps.
Condolences on the loss of your furry friend. Link is one of my favourite of the many RU-vid dogs I watch, he is just adorable. And no, you are not the only one feeling stress over that pin dish. 😁
👏👏👏yay for using your platform to be open about mental health and even more kudos for being brave enough to be vulnerable!! The crunchy-parfait brain is so relatable and in general with your videos that talking it out loud to figure it out is part of why your content is so good-yes like everything on the internets it might be curated and edited but your videos have a rawness that is too frequently left out, thank you! 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞
I enjoy being a lone also. Watching your videos is like visiting a friend without the stress of wanting them to leave. Love the dress. It is simple but elegant. I say wear it around the house if you want. You can never have too much swoosh.
Funny thing about parfait: my husband started recording TikTok videos about board games and he wanted a fun image to use when he said the word "layers." He asked me what I thought: parfait, of course! That's what he thought too, and was somehow surprised that I also came up with it. Parfait now also means "I love you" in my house. My brain has been doing similar weird things of late. I think your mental health dress project is glorious.
So real about the hair thing and always being aware of it! This happens to me all the time but being too aware of my fingers/ toes touching one another. Takes all my mental energy to try and ignore it, makes me wanna crawl out of my skin fr fr
Oh that’s soo true, I was laying down watching this and I cannot feel my left hand pinkie and ring finger in the normal way, it’s like my fingers are in a glove you know it’s there you can feel it there but the outside is numb, so I’m forever trying to pull of a glove that does not exist and this time my finger nail on my pinkie was annoying me until I realised the darn nail was half an inch long😳 I have always kept my nails at 4mm at the max 2mm at minimum and here it was half an inch long. I hate filing that nail because I cannot feel it like my other fingers it’s like running your fingers down the chalk board 😭😭😭😭 at every stroke of the file. Arrrrrr
out of curiosity, does wearing gloves or toe socks help? (if ya even can, cause I am on team "socks bad" and will subconsciously kick socks off when I'm not paying attention. )
On the outside chance you aren't already aware, a Google search for "neurodivergent managing sensory overload" should pull up a bunch of very useful tips and techniques for managing sensory distractions like this so you don't need to spend such a large chunk of your attention budget actively ignoring this kind of thing 😊
Reflexology for tension release or maybe massage by trained pro and chiropractic care has helped me. I could touch my head but putting a brush of any type to my scalp was excruciating. Base of the back of the skull pressure point release has been very helpful. Just an idea.
This dress is stunning! One of my faves you’ve made. And I relate to the brain chat. More mental health chat please! I also love the tip to talk it all through out loud. That helps me a lot too. ❤ you’re allowed to feel bothered and stressed by stuff. Renovating a house and your partner being away a lot are both completely normal and acceptable things to be bothered by! (And even if they weren’t, you’re still allowed to be bothered!!) Also your dog is adorable, I love all the butt scritches. 😊
I must say, I love the time you put into your captions! I have a hard time hearing speach when I can't read lips simultaneously, so your videos are perfect. I feel like I'm part of the secret captions club. 😊 Thank you. 💕
I love your channel so much. It's so comforting to watch someone not be afraid to go "What if I just do this?" I love watching your videos while I crochet! I also adore the bloopers at the end of every video
Yes, the dress IS fabulous and swooshy (and those SHOES OMG) and beautifully done! But the talk is relatable and helpful and cozy, and I appreciate it just as much. And it is seriously a good reminder about the "out loud" thing, which I know in general but constantly forget.
100% understand and sympathise. about a year ago, i had to start having weekly meetings with myself, just so I could stop getting to this point so often. my issues take a turn each to air their grievances, and we try to come up with a solution. it's been a game changer for me really. I do sometimes have to shout over all the chatter to be able to call the meeting to order, but it's worth it. I hope you can find a way to deal with the noisy brain too. love the finished dress. looks gorgeous!
Awesome crafter storage tip: IKEA have a three tiered rolling wagon named RÅSKOG (Raw-Forest). A supersuper useful trolley for all the small stuff! They can roll from room to room and help keep things in check.
Cute flowy black dress & strappy sandals. (I knew you must have shoes, lol.). That plunging neckline could very easily be an after 5:00 cocktail dress, with the right pearl accessories, like a choker, earrings & bracelet & small clutch bag. Also regarding the wind noise check to see if your fireplace flue is closed. (If it's open it will effect your utility expenses.
Jeesus Charlie, I feel ya. 😅 So many things that you just said are things that I have also struggled a LOT with and use the ecxact same coping skills for them. Those feelings are valid. I think a lot of people get stuck in qualifying if the "brainhurt" or "weirdness" comes from a valid reason without realising that it already is here. Some people drown in 3 meters of water and others drown in 3 kilometers. It does not really matter how deep the water was, the situation is still the same. You feeling weird is completely valid and the things that make you feel weird are valid. ❤ With realising that I am ADHD helped me to find more coping skills that work for my brain and not against it. 'Cause, in the end, if there is a way to do things that help your brain instead of hurting it, then why the heckity-hoo not? Might help anyone reading this too.
Love the new dress - it's gorgeous and fits perfectly. Also loved the chat about screwing our heads back on and taking the time to figure out why we're out of sorts. And of course, YAY for Matt's return. Happily awaiting the next step in your sewing room - I'm sure it will be terrific. The voices in my head are screaming out organizational ideas and that you should watch Shannon Makes episode about her amazing table. It's big, it's on wheels, it has a top on which you can pin fabric, it has shelves for fabric, trim, patterns and such. One woman put a power strip on hers so that she can also iron on a pad Some people op for the ability to raise and lower it - my point is that you will figure stuff out that suits you, not some other Maker. Best wishes.
Thank you for frankly and openly discussing your mental health in public. More people need to do this. It helps destigmatize mental health issues, which we all have at some point to some degree. Way to use your platform for the greater good. That may not have been your aim, but that's one of the outcomes.
It's a really great dress, and I think making the simpler, wear around the house if you want, kind of projects is just as important as the big fancy ones. Perhaps even more so, since most of us have more loafing around the house days than big occasions
I definitely relate to so much of this. Between all of my big craft projects, working from home (so not leaving my apartment very much), not much opportunity to see friends in the area, and a partner who works a very stressful job, sometimes the brain soup gets a little too spicy. Thank you for articulating all of this in a way I haven't really been able to. I'm gonna make a small, fun crochet mushroom or something now
I am right there with you on the crunchy, buzzy parfait brain recently. Thank you for sharing your methods to help you work through. 💜💜💜 Blessings to you for peace and happiness!
the living room table shakes because it is lightweight and on wheels. If you like working with it in the living room investigate if you can lock the wheels somehow.
2 things: 1) I totally relate to the brain parfait situation 2) the dress turned out so pretty! 10/10 would love to have that magically appear in my own wardrobe ♥️🤌
For the record, I could watch you make those random dresses every week for the next 2 years and not get bored. It is fun to watch. So please, go ahead. This one turned out very well, it looks lovely on you. It would also look lovely (and possibly more day wear) if you did the black skirt on the bottom and the floral on the top? Loads of other options with that elastic. Culottes? Full length and floaty. Oooh, I am having too many inspirational ideas for someone thousands of miles away from a roll of that elastic! 😂 Thanks Charlie - love from England xx
So glad to watch this! Sometimes when I am sewing I begrudge having to stop and drink water ( I am on medication that necessitates it). I was thinking the other day I should get one of those caps that could hold my cans of water and has straws so I could drink hands free and my sewing wouldn’t be interrupted. lol glad to see I am not alone!
I'm rather new to your channel, and I've noticed several times when I've gone, "I so get that," to something you've said off-hand about how you interact with the world or experience your environment. This video brought on a whole new level of, "I completely get you." I feel like we are mental twins in so many ways, and it's extremely reassuring to get that I'm-not-the-only-one validation from listening to you talk about your mental state and health so openly. So... as someone who often struggles to topple the tower of stress, I thank you for the affirmation and encouragement that you put forward here. Just knowing I'm not alone in the struggle gives some small relief.
I like what you said about emotions as layer cake, and getting to the source...also, not immediately dubbing the 'off' feelings as depression. Very useful, thanks!
My favorite thing about dogs is that they don't seem to know what to do with their heads when getting cuddles. They just become an Adorable Wiggle Floof regardless of the amount of dog or the amount of fluff on the said dog. I love it. I may be missing my mother's dog just a little bit. Thank you for including the puppy in your videos edit: omg the puppy jumps!! They go boink!!! Just a straight up hippity hop! So cute
Not gonna lie...I want to make a dozen or more of these for daily wear. I'm the type to get dressed to go to the store, take Kiddo to school, or drive Hubs to work, then change as soon as I get back home. Everything you make on your channel inspires me to actually start sewing my own garments, rather than cycle through the same few things that are comfy, which wears them out so fast.
Your LBD turned out so cute! Thanks for chatting. I feel some of the same things and it helps when you realize that other people can have similar thoughts and feelings 😉 bless you!!
Yay for mental health! I love it when a simple project can help to reset the creative brain. And the way you explained talking through the layers of stress was super helpful. I will be using that technique in the future. Oh, and fruit. Fruit goes in a parfait.
I love your new creation - it looks so swooshy ❤️ Not every one is willing to discuss the thoughts they have but I'm so grateful you do! We all go though this to one extent or another and to have someone share openly about what they are going through makes us all feel a bit better. You work through these times of life while creating a closet full of beautiful clothes to wear and show the world you are beautiful inside and out!
I totally hear you on the feeling your hair thing, although for me when it kicks in I start feeling them all at the /root/, and that is...less avoidable. 🤣😭 The balance I've had to find is how to feel what I'm feeling, allow it to bother me, but continue on with what needs to happen while being in that headspace. It's a super-hard balance, because I'm absolutely a stiff-upper-lip type, but knowing how to exist alongside the not-great feelings and not let them affect other people too badly is really how I can keep going.
Thank you so much for this video ❤ I love the way you talk about mental health things without making it heavy. Often when I'm not feeling good myself I try to avoid videos that are about that, because they make me go into my head even more. I'm glad I decided to click on your video and watched it, it did help. Especially in the end when you're talking about "feeling like you shouldn't feel like you do". And thank you for showing how powerful it can be to create something and how that can influence your mood. And how much freedom can come from going into those lower layers in your brain and acknowledging them, regardless of your shame or annoyance about them. I really love the way you're creating ❤
Awesome dress. My husband describes the brain thing as having loads of browser tabs open and all of them alerting at once. That’s certainly what it feels like sometimes
“Stress Stack” is *such* a fabulous phrase. I’m so impressed you were able to sift through to the base layer because I struggle with that myself. The dress turned out beautifully!!
The dress looks fabulous! And YOU ROCK!!! You make me laugh, cry, totally understand and am thankful, I’m not the only cuckoo on the block! 😂🩷. Happy Easter!🐣🐇
You remind me so much of myself, and it really really helps me to hear you talk about your mental health issues, coping mechanisms, and solutions. Thank you for sharing these parts of you so openly. It makes a world of difference for my own thought patterns. 💗
The dress came out great! It’s beautiful on you. I totally get that feeling of angst when you don’t have your studio! Glad that you found a workaround. It’s also a good sign for your relationship when you miss your special person.
Ms Charlie, i hope you always know how much all of us love and admire you and cheer you on your such an amazing and gifted (don’t argue, i said your gifted, accept It bc I wholeheartedly mean it) person and you are such an inspiration to many of us who watch you
It’s wonderful to see you and your fabric attitude. Only sewers and quilters understand this compulsion. I use secondhand fabric to make quilts like my grandma did. Refreshing broadcasting, ❤️❤️
Just wanted to say thank you for the care you put into your captions! Some of the things you do, like specifying when it’s video-you or voiceover-you speaking (which is fantastic for lip-readers) go above and beyond what’s expected for professional captioners and I am incredibly grateful. If I could make a tiny request, though, do you think you could have the little [message] at the beginning/end as actual text on the screen? When the audio and captions don’t match, it (unintentionally!) assumes the viewer can hear well enough to tell the difference. I love the extra messages you leave in your videos, but the current format is less accessible to your deaf/HOH audience
Oh my gods , the dress is so pretty! Also, my brain lately works along the lines of the memefied "... x number of tabs open, two of them are playing music and you don't know which they are..." Super distracting in addition to the outside chaos produced by two tiny humans. So I feel you so much on the psychology level. Best wishes and thanks for the video
I know it is an older video by now but I just wanted to say I really like your videos and your style of videomaking and dressmaking. I have ADHD and what you say about your voices and weird moods is super on point for me, it is how the brain works! It is so nice to see someone that is just making and creating the way they want and not planning it out like the next masterplan for solving quantum physics. The dress looks beautiful!
I adore how a simple design, is such a statement! I am adding this video to my inspiration folder! And thank you for sharing your current mindset and challenges with us. How you use "weird" rather than "stressed" makes a lot of sense to me because I can get stressed if I am out of my routine, and aren't able to make a plan, or well thought plans can't be followed through because of external factors. I am going to start seeing those periods as weird, or odd, and keep "stressed" for other situations. I also relate to having trouble leaving things incomplete, or not liking when something is there and I can't work on it just yet. Also, scheduling! I make up plans, or I scheduling things, and I recently realized those things become set in stone, when I was the one who set deadlines or expectations, and no one else is affected if I don't or can't do the thing at that set time. Just thank you, so much for being you and being so generous and creative.
I have always been impressed at your ability to leave a project to go eat, sleep etc as it’s something I really struggle with.. to hear you also have that and yet are doing so well was really helpful. Plus the tip about check points will come in handy too! Thank you for making this video and being open with us, you are helping many people
I left the cc on from another video, and now I need to go back and rewatch all your videos with the cc on, love it. Keep on Keepin on girly, you got this!
I love a good casual crafting while brain dumping kind of video. My brain works too fast for journaling, so I talk out my stuff too...whether or not anyone is around to hear. It's reassuring to know I'm not alone in this. The mention of schedule sent me down a thought path that made me realize that's something I'm struggling with too. I like having a schedule, so I can plan what I'm going to do...yet schedules can also make me feel boxed in and out of options and then I shut down in protest. It's tiring...
You look great in this dress. It’s a date night dress but looks so comfortable to wear all the time. You could make it in all different colors and lengths. Now I want to make one.
Your fabric stash is amazing ( so many pretty fabrics). I would have decision fatigue trying to chose between them. I am easily overwhelmed by too many choices and then have a hard time getting started. One of my favorite things about your channel is listening to you talk things through.
The hair thing on the back of the neck!!!! I thought I was the only person who would sometimes fixate on that. I also sometimes fixate on seeing the tip of my nose in my eyesight. And yes to the "must finish X task or get to Y stopping point" before a break. It drives my friends and family bonkers, but it's the only way my brain will relax.
Hearing about how you need to figure out checkpoints before you can stop is sooo relatable. We I have a project that I know I can't finish in a single go, I write out checkpoints and try to just think of getting to the checkpoint as 'finishing' and not think of the larger project. It's hard for me to start if I don't think I can finish it in that go and it really helps. I also have issues with task switching so getting started can sometimes be my greatest hurdle.
oh my god THANK YOU for talking about this. i'm only halfway through the video but i am just so relieved to hear you talking about how a) talking out loud helps sort the brain spaghetti tangle and b) how having one's work/personal space can feel so disruptive and grumbly-discombobulative. I'm right with you there. we're currently painting our whole studio apartment and my one lil work desk is my only island of sanctuary (that can't even fully do its job for me rn). Anyways, feels good (or maybe just less bad?) to have someone else in the world also experience it 😁 but of course i'm sorry you're struggling 😌 oh and also, i've found that talking between all my parts with sock/hand puppets helps make the voices easier to single out :) 🌻 ok, and now that i've finished the video, BIG SAME on sensory things/distractions not going away or not being able to ~get over stuff~ like people tell me i Should.... and that dress is cute as hell 😸 way to go sis!! and good luck with finishing the studio! ❤
I have been watching so many of your videos lately and it has made me feel so much better about "messing up" on projects because I was always so worried about not getting it right, but watching you and seeing that you take it as "well now I know how to do xyz" it has changed a lot of my mind set. You are awesome, thank you for talking and showing how your brain processes all the things both project and otherwise.
Beautiful dress, and wonderful insight into what is going on in your brain. I'm kind of going through the same thing right now. I've been setting up my living room to be my sewing room (I live in an RV so it's small) and then I got RSV and every time I try to do anything I get exhausted! I have so many things to finish so I can use my sewing space (decluttering especially) but it has to wait until I can actually not have to take at least 2 naps a day just to survive. It does give me a lot of time to watch sewing videos, though--there's always an up-side!
I think its kinda funny, kinda sweet all the AuDHD-ers are relating to this. Myself included. Idk if you have a diagnosis or care to get one but a lot of what you said is a very typical neurodiverse experience; looking into adhd might help you and your parfait brain a lot! Either way its good to know other people go through this, thank you for being so open, its nice to be seen
Lovely dress! I know you say it's simple, but I'm still completely in awe because I really struggle with making clothes without patterns. I think part of my hangup is that I'm just now getting to the point where I can more easily find sewing time again (mom of 3 here), and it makes me much less willing to take chances when it often takes me 2 months to finish one simple project and it's so upsetting to have a complete flop. Also, I love your subtitles. I often have to watch with the sound turned down, it's easier for me to read than to listen to this + background noise, and the comments on your music and such are so entertaining!
