Marriage And Money - Dave Ramsey Rant 

Do you know how gangster that sounds

Robert Reidy 🔥🔥

Thank you

Good on you :) keep it together that way

Whose goal?

Yeah, what a stereotypical generalization. Oh well, ignore that and just take it as there are different relationships people have with money for different reasons. Know your partner and which one they are.

I have a cat

MsMaxinejoy Isn't that what hookers motto is, NO MONEY NO HONEY. Since when has marriage become legal prostitution? I was sure that is not Gods intention.

Joseph Mauricio Flores You obviously lack reading comprehension, so let me help you with that. She is basically saying that if the person you are dating does not want to discuss finances, when you're dating, it's likely that they won't discuss it when they are married. That's actually happening to me now, my husband gets very angry & defensive when I talk about our finances and I wish I had known this before. Sometimes we're afraid to ask these questions because we don't want to come off as gold diggers....but these are important things to take notice before committing to a lifetime relationship that could end up in divorce. Also you don't have to be so offensive, you could have stated that very differently and the question still would of been the same.

@@teesmeteespring.comstorest9135 This month, my engagement came to an end. The big issue came down to the finances. We'd discussed the amount of credit card debt we had along with some particular accounts we (or I, rather) have but she never wanted to go in depth. Before meeting her, I had a mutual fund, IRA, brokerage accounts and retirement plan. The earnings and accruals before our marriage date, I wanted to go to our children's education should I die prematurely. She did not like this plan and said she was entitled to it, which she would have anyway had she become a widow. My stipulation was that if we ended in divorce then there would be no split of retirement funds. We each would walk with what we brought in. Because of her greed, avarice, selfishness and deceptiveness, it brought a swift end to our relationship.

You correct!

I wish id known this years ago. Once i found out i tried to fix his debt, but he was lazy and now im paying it off because he lost his job (it would have been a WAY lower amount to pay if he had listened to me years ago).

So hard being married to someone self employed

How did it go? It's been 2 yrs.

Good job

I would much rather hear that from a woman.He is 100 percent right about the barking chihuahua

I always say Dave is the conservative father I never had ❤️

Cuzin Angel yes hun but people LIE ;)

You need 13 years of school to go to college and not 1 class to get married or have kids smh

Big Red right. I wish their was a law but

Actually marriage is very bad. Especially for a man. No one should get married. The divorce rate already proves this. And it doesn’t matter if your financial situation is good or bad. Whether or not you both have a lot in common. You will still get divorced. And the statistics proves this. And of course if your married and go through bankruptcy, you’ll probably get divorced, but then you still would have got a divorce anyway.

Matthew I am so sorry you have been unlucky in love. They say there's someone for everyone. Hope that is true and you find The One soon. It's been 8 months hope that's happened. There's nothing else on earth that compares to finding the one you were meant to be with.

EXACTLY 💯

Beautiful.✨

Jessica Ramirez That’s the truth though. I been there. Thank goodness the thought didn’t last.

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Devise a plan for yourself. That's what I'm doing! Sad to say but it's the truth. It's amazing how much confidence you regain when you have the "freedom" that comes with money. Money won't make you happy but it WILL give you options which you need if you want out. If you were j/k please forgive me for the serious reply 🤦🤷 I just empathize with people who want to leave & feel financially trapped. I'm going through it myself right now. It's typically the last thing the other person has left to control you with but, as Dave says, once you start doing something about your situation, it's amazing how much confidence you regain. When you have confidence you can get clarity and start deprogramming yourself from all of the terrible things someone has made you believe about yourself. All of that negativity has warped your ability to take action. Women can be sneaky and methodical if we need to be so do whatcha gotta do! Stash enough cash to help you land on your feet when you hit the road or send him packing. There are a lot of great channels on here for support. They really helped me along the way and they can help you too if you want it. Again, if your comment wasn't mean to be taken literally, I apologize for the lengthy reply. 😬 Hopefully this will still help someone else if not you ♥️ Blessings, love & light ☀️

Glad to know I wasn't the only one laughing at that comment

Yep

Carlos Pereira Nice! Some 'men' don't believe in stay at home mom.

Thanks Dave, I needed to hear this as well, preach it brother.

Very nice Carlos.. glad to see such men exist

Divorce her ASAP. Tell her nothing, go to courthouse first thing tomorrow & make it happen.

Divorce rn. U deserve better

And men stop acting like deaf mutes when she speaks her needs or truth softly to you for years and you just shut her down and pull boss man rank on her, and then wonder why her volume goes up. Dude, the worrying should start when she goes silent as she is already OUT.

False? You're sure?

That's a beautiful advice

wise grandmother, you single?

Andrea Bird he been thru it!

*brought

I'm more like a man money is self esteem to me!

+meinside99 True that! The roles are definitely reversed in our household. Newly remarried, the both of us. She used to make six figures, and has had some setbacks in her life. I have always been "scared" of money and afraid of being broke. I've never had a whole lot. So its an interesting flip of roles for us. No matter.. We will win with money! God Bless Dave Ramsey and his ministry.

If you really want liberty/freedom, don't get married, as a matter of fact, don't even bother pursuing a relationship with anybody! especially you men, if you like keeping your property and spending all your money only on yourself. I hope you take my message to heart. There are so many single mothers out there it's unbelievable.

ir10031981 Pretty sure your words are falling on deaf ears-the guys can't hear you over all the testosterone flowing! They'll listen once low T has set in, lol!

We are both ,in each of us.

there's always one

Agree

THIS I agree with.

You’re correct

can divorce without marriage

I was going to post the same thing. Or "in sickness and health".

Ummm....fact check False.

Did you get a house ?!😊

ask for allowance... if u don't work.

I can't forget how I caught my cheating ex-partner. He was a good liar and I had to get evidence... I got help from an ethical hacker... The hacker helped me get his texts and social media conversations he had with other men while I was busy at work... You guys can try him though his Instagram @westhack000 Sometimes stuff like this is very disappointing but with time, things will get better.

MrJamesconn right? Me too. 29,single no kids. Lol some of these horror stories I hear are redic.

AequitasSaints been married for 5 years, 1 child, most beautiful thing ever. It's good to marry someone who has the same might set. MARRIAGE IS GREAT, don't fear

Mr. Jamesconn, don't be hesitant, just be smart. When my current husband and I were dating, and we dated a long time. We did not live together. We found out both of us had credit scores in the 800s. When he asked me to marry him, we sat down and talked finances. I was 65 and he was 67. I had kids and grandkids, he didn't. We both had retirement income. We did our best to make sure we were on the same page financially, for example; How I would or would not help/give money to my kids. Where would we live. How would we pay bills. We set up a prenup. Right after we got married, we had a trust set up that legalized our prenup. To me the principles are the same no matter how old you are or how much money you have. Dating is to find out if you are compatible. Don't jump into seriousness too soon. If you can't ask the hard questions, find someone you can talk to. Do premarital counseling. If there are ANY problems, hold off on a wedding. As Dr. Phil says, find a plan both of you can be excited about. Don't live together, for God's sake use birth control, a child is forever, even if you don't like the mom. If you can't talk to her about Birth Control, you are with the wrong person. Remember, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find the princess. Good Luck,

Marriage is a sucker's bet for a man. Indeed, there IS NOTHING in it for a man to be married because it waives his authority as head of household by giving ultimate power to the State, which has laws completely detrimental to men. More than 50% of marriages end in divorce and over 70% are filed by hypergamous women. It's not worth it. DO NOT GET MARRIED!! Men, you've been warned!

Separate bank accounts.

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Wonder how she faired, with two kids? Some how you solution seemed drastic and the opposite of Daves advice here Slimmy thing to do to those kiddos anyway, and frankly she wasn't too off target you cannot get out of debt by not dealing with it. Seems to me as a big fail. Guess you have zero clue how expensive day care is for little ones it can be a zero win strategy to pay more for daycare than the non working previously spouse makes. This is where being resourceful is key.

@@vickimerritt2832 One kid was 19 the other was almost 18. You sound like a real gem yourself. I got divorced in 87 and swore I would never marry again, and I kept that promise to myself. Marriage has no purpose for a man, it is a suckers bet.

@@vickimerritt2832 The two kids are in their fifties and the X is dead. The Pfizer so called vaccine took care of her.

Nonsense I dont love anybody or anything more than myself…… I come first second n third!!

that's actually not true. more people divorce over money than infidelity

@@blackbutterfly233ify You didn't read my post very well I guess? I never mentioned infidelity. I work with lots of couples (mentoring/discipleship), and my post is perfectly valid.

@@Will-wp2cp Your original comment was to say Dave was wrong and he wasn't. It's been proven time and time again, money is the number one cause of divorce over anything. People think it's selfishness or infidelity but it's not

@@blackbutterfly233ify You are incorrect. It's a level deeper than that.

*together

I think he's talking about during the middle of the storm, him and his wife fought and struggled, but the whole point of the story is that it did bring him and his wife closer (clearly) and it should. Not all couples are brought together by tragedies or struggles, but we should and I think that's what he's telling us to do.

Team706 hope you both are still going strong two years later

Must be white try that with a black woman!

that makes me happy to hear

I have a similar situation where my husband thinks money will fall from the sky because we have an inheritance coming in our lifetime from both sides of the family but what he falls to understand is that people don't just drop dead... they need care and nursing homes which costs a lot of money

Tanya O -For sure. And biting will always be an option if pushed. 😀

@@cattsmahal1005 abusive i see

If it makes you feel any better, the government owes us nearly $1,000 and all I asked him to do was print and sign the paperwork. It's August. He still hasn't done it.

La Dama del Caribe what he threw food at you?

Sadly now, if your working too much, your a bad parent because your not home enough.

wow impressive, if she is a woman i would like to get to her

i was literally just worried about the exact same thing. may i know your FA please it’s urgent?

i think i might have just blown my wedding budget, wish i knew this a month ago

@@gagnecaron658 sure i get it hun. her name is Rita Wildrin Mora, i googled her and reached out to her from her website. Goodluck with your wedding hun!

How do you do this? Does it cost a lot?

Ain't got...but your dad was probably like mine...don't say ain't

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Unless she's constantly pushing you away.

Marriage counseling

It's okay to get married when you're broke (of course you can't have a big party). My mom always told me that an intelligent woman (and man) has to see the potential in a possible life partner. When my parents met my dad was in debt and my mom had an amazing job, but he was working hard and had a bright future in front of him. Also, I support the idea of waiting a while before getting married, but many people don't have the time to wait 5 or 10 years if they still want to have a family. Anyway, after a year or two the latest you should know whether your current partner is the one you want to marry. If you're not sure by then, it's a waste of time to stay with them.

This is the same reason why I waited 9 years to get married. Btw I always have people say they want a relationship like ours. Well our priorities were ourselves financially, then work each other into the mix. We are crazy good at communicating with each other too.

I can't forget how I caught my cheating ex-partner. He was a good liar and I had to get evidence... I got help from an ethical hacker... The hacker helped me get his texts and social media conversations he had with other men while I was busy at work... You guys can try him though his Instagram @westhack000 Sometimes stuff like this is very disappointing but with time, things will get better.

Jean Ohara talk to him and tell him how you feel, hopefully he’ll understand.

Guess you know how men feel

Divorce her