My step up dad met my mom with with 3 kids from 3 baby daddies. If there is anything my mom did well for us, it is getting us this man. The absolute love of my life. I was 8yo when he came into our lives. It was God ordained because I can't imagine what our lives would have turned out without this man. My dad passed away 2 years ago, an absolute heart break. But because of that man, me and my siblings grew up in a loving family. He gave us a home, a surname, a family. Our kids grew up grandparents. We have a home to go to. God did us a solid with my dad. Love him forever ❤❤❤
Ohh what a beautiful story❤ all we need is to completely surrender to God, take all our fear, concerns and worries to Him and trust Him to grace us with all that we ask Him for❤ He has our best interest at heart and He knows what's best for us more than we do❤
I also have different baby fathers so I resonate with this topic. To add on Ongezwa’s words, ladies, be open to the fact that God CAN give you a perfect man for all your circumstances. Sometimes he might not necessarily come packaged like what you expect but he will be exactly what you need because it all happens in God’s divine timing. All the best!
Hi there Amanda I had my daughter from a previous relationship and my daughter's dad was never in her life. My now husband which is even of a different race to me I'm Coloured and my husband is a Afrikaaner white guy. He entered my daughter's life at the age of 3 years old. He has a son from his previous marriage. We have been together for little over ten years. I made it known I don't want more kids than my daughter due to the fact that her father has not been in her life. Our marriage is not perfect, but our marriage works for us. My daughter has always stayed with me and still does, I don't force my daughter to call my husband dad cause she has to establish her own relationship with him and they have found they own feet. Due to him been a parent he knew from our first proper date that our dates had to be child friendly. We still together, he is the reason I learnt to understand my daughter's psychiatrist problems,. Our relationships has a lot of boundaries as it relates to our ex's who we have kids from and disciplining of kids and the role of a step parent. When my daughter's school HOD racially profile my daughter she felt comfortable to tell my husband first, when my family members made were putting my daughter feel uncomfortable she felt comfortable to tell my husband so these issues could be addressed, just few examples of the . My husband has even assisted me in getting my daughter father in seeming the importance in just calling his daughter and making him understand how much it would mean to my daughter cause honesty I don't want maintenance money so he can stop avoiding calling his daughter., and now my daughter's father actually calls her since the beginning of this year. There are hope for marriage for single mothers. Not all single dads are our deadbeat angels.
Sorry Mandy ,I don’t mean to be rude , with your next collaborations try to speak English to accommodate your viewers all over the globe. Love and light ❤
Hi Mandy. I've been following you for over 2 years now and this will be my first time commenting. Having watched your last vlog where you complained about no longer making as much money as before, I'd suggest you consider starting a podcast. Your focus could be around the struggles of single motherhood as well as success stories of blended families, where everyone involved, Babby Daddy, Baby Mama and their significant others, all have an understanding and maintain healthy boundaries even as they play their respective roles in raising the children. This conversation just gave me this thought and i thought i bring it up to you. I know you'd succeed at it because you tell your story so well and communicate clearly, which makes me appreciate and enjoy you, even though my circumstances are completely different- an almost 30 yr old lady, married for almost 2 years now and a mother to a 1 year old baby boy. Love from Zambia 🇿🇲
Hey hey👋. A mom of two on the road to marriage with a childless man. It had been the most genuine, free going, nurturing journey. He is patient enough to take the cues from me & the kids and leads from there and it has been the most fulfilling thing to watch. Them being themselves & him coming into his teaching & leading role without causing any uncomfortabilities to anyone. I don't think my journey is unique, there's a person out there for you Mands ❤
I also come from a blended family with 4 half siblings & three step siblings. Watching my step father parent us, according to our individual needs while loving my mom has kept my faith going.
Me being a 27 single girlie with no kids being obsessed with Mandy and now Ongezwa❤ You ladies are teaching me so much about womanhood & motherhood. Thank you ❤
This was such a dope collaboration. I love how you guys say "baby mamas are very peaceful until they mess up"...like baby daddies should just keep ipromises from their end then there wouldnt be any problems
Am not even finished watching the video but am laughing at the look in Mandi's face when Noluthando says am not bringing my children into my marriage. its tricky ladies but I share Mandi's sentiments as a mother of a 3 year old I do not think I want to get married as I dont see myself staying without my child. disrupting the life of my kid for something that might not even work, I always think about the resentment that some children have towards their parents who have left them to get married. But no judgement we all have different perspectives about life and certain situations.
@@Nonkosi_M778 Another thing is when you have kids your life doesn't revolves around only you but your kids also, every decision you take you have to think about how will it affect your kids in future.
Yeeey. Hi SisMandy.soo I am the person who will watch read comments like and go.i was soo sad mawucabanga ukuyeka RU-vid but I understood where you were coming from, currently going through the same but we will soldier on. Soo I was like why engenzi ama sit down or collaborations.i was even willing to be your first guest 😂. Much love ❤we really appreciate what you do,you healing some of us.
This has been such a nice conversation Amanda. However, we kenyan babes have struggled to follow through. The South African words we don't get it😅😅😅 Pls next collabo, more English. Wishing you the very best. Lots of Love ❤
Ohh I strongly believe emtshatweni mna and as a mother of 3 I've been told countless times and sometimes iza shady ngoba I will not take ukugezeleka. My own mom have reminded me countless times. I remember one instance at church where kwenziwa umzekelo ngabantu abangaghandi madoda, and the 2 ladies endihlala nabo in the first rows were a good example and were mentioned by name, xa efika kum kwavele kwabakho imoment of silence because being a single mom simple means uyathanda amadoda to some, especially ebantwini abadala. Ohhh mna ndizotshata shame and onengxaki or ocungba I don't deserve it makalungise intliziyo yakho kwangoku ngoba ndiyamethemba owam uThixo, ngoba He is going to break protocol sana🙌
Mandy ❤ Ongezwa ❤ its true what is she saying ....my father told me that make home for your kids and then when you get married move out of their home ..because obviously after you raised them i will want my love life😊.that time i didnt understand him ...but as my kids are older make sense.....give love a chance ❤😂😂😂
I'm here ....and what a beautiful collaboration. Congratulations to you Amanda and Ongezwa aka City Mom. I'm glad you guys are bring such content, well know and very relatable. For me as a mom os 2 in a relationship with the father of my last born, I'm always asked I did I managed to get him while I already had a kid + plus he already have kids ( guys why do ppl always forget that guy's also have kids from different ladies) and they still get to be normally in a new relationship and as for a woman there's always a defect I guess. It is doable Mandy, very doable trust me, and believe you can get married, you may not want it but you may find someone who loves you that much. It's not a big thing but it's something I believe that brings specially to our kids when they are small a huge help, educating is not easy, yooo Amanda 😂😂😂😂😂😂 It comes with a lot of struggling, not impossible of course but it helps having that figure beside. My current relationship is the one a didn't dream of but it gave me the support and security I most needed at the time, and the family structure I did need for my daughter and now my son. Thank you girls.....❤
Ey Mandy .I was in a relationship for 4years.the fourth year we moved in together i have 2kids.. early these years he told me he wanted me alone not with my kids and what broke me down my last born he loved my boyfriend he even called him dad. Still now I can't erase these words from my mind..I moved back home my father welcomed us back but now he's want us back by his house.in don't want to take back my kids to him cause I fell he won't love them like before we moved in with him
I loved this collaboration ❤ I think my view lies somewhat in between your views. I would never leave my baby, even if I have bought him a home, he needs his mom. If I do meet a man, he would need to effortlessly fit into our lives and would need to be someone I can trust around my child. If he expects me to compromise on my relationship with my baby or in any way choose him instead of my child, I am gone!
😂😂😂😂😂 yhoo Ongezwa I was with you but now changing sides i am with Mandy when you say Ufuna babby daddy you make sure you get him no no ...i dont want to date a man with kids😂😂😂
Single mums will alwys have to make a decision thinking of their children first unlike when u are single without babíes its just you to think about.So its hard your children have to be happy
I delayed watching this video but am so glad i eventually did. As a single mom of one, I have a lot to learn from you ladies and I thoroughly enjoyed this.
Happy women's day ladies Wow, what a powerful sitdown bathong. I love what Ongezwa said that we all deserve to be loved irregardless of the number of kids we have. I believe in love and I know that there's someone for me out there.❤❤❤ Thank you for this and it's a beautiful women's day gift for us single mums❤❤❤
This is so educational ladies! Life orientation should include such clips and ladies you can facilitate the discussions. Consultancy please! Nibahle ladies. Love and God bless
You know what guys one day niyobathola o guy abazonishada trust me. Mna when I met my late husband I had a 3 year old son & yena he didn't have any child. We dated & he loved my son as his own. We got married sahlala sonke & sabanomntwa a baby girl so nje guys it's possible. Unfortunately my husband passed on. I don't see myself getting married again ke kodwa🙆🙆
I loved the vibe you 2 ladies had. It’s nice to hear a different perspective like eka Ongezwa. Like Mandy, I don’t know how it would work adding a man into the life my child and I already have. I guess we’ll figure it out ngingayithola indoda.
Loved the conversation. Serious topic and quite fun to listen to. Baby mama here and you're right, once you try put in you 2c comment bathi "shutup wena you have 2 different baby daddies" 🤣 #newsubbie
I have a 3 year old and I’m in a relationship with a man who doesn’t have any children. Lol I could never leave my son at home (no matter the age). Should I get married to this man, I’m taking my son with. Women who leave their kids behind are so brave 🥹
Mandlangisa sthandwa sami sithatha ama notes to both of you moms I'll always stay strong vumela inhliziyo yakho mandy love you with all my heart ukhona unkulunkulu akalahlani akafakani emahlonini babes.❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
Guys I watch both your channels.... Ya'll think too deep about this. You will marry well and your husbands will love, and treat you and your children well. I was raised by a mom and step dad and my loving step dad passed on and for most past of my life, I was raised by a single mom. Guys you'll be alright futhi nizomangala. You're amazing women maarn ♥️♥️♥️
indont usually comment but i just came across this vid... guess what after this vid ndiyo suscriba kwakho ONGEZWA gel wena undim va. mandy i hope by the time i finish watching uzobe uyi changile mind my darling. i love you ladies
I loved this so much ladies ❤❤❤❤❤ I had a good laugh on the note uba eka baby mama no baby daddy ayipheli yey ninyanisile and I think nam Mandy even though I have 2 kids with 2 baby daddies if I am getting married it will be with a man with no child 😂😂😂😂 lovely sit down girls .
On TikTok there is a lady called village step mom , she stays with kids of her husband . I think it’s 4 or 5 if I’m not mistaken. But she’s really raising her husbands kids. I don’t know the background story of how those kids stayed with her and not their mothers.. but it is possible I guess
Ongezwa is me. Am a single mother of two boys and no matter what these men have put me through I want to get married and I would really love to see myself walking down the isle nje.Love is very very beautiful and no past experience should stop us from believing in love❤❤❤
I have been pursued by men who have never married, wanting to marry me. Who says no one wants to marry single mums? I bet it’s the women! Jealous ones at that. It’s all projecting Mandy. Don’t let those voices make you see yourself in that way! You deserve EVERYTHING your heart desires! And with God, NOTHING is impossible. You are special.
🎉🎉🎉this chit chat I'm the 3rd wheel rolling with you ladies,tell angezwa all her kid's ages similar to my kids all of them ❤❤❤you ladies 😊what a combination 👏 😉 👍 8
I love how you both want to khulisa your kids. I am so obsessed with raising my daughter recently broke up with her dad. Its quite peaceful though. Secured a house for her i am happy with how god is helping ne raise her. Im ready to have another though😂😂😂.
Ongezwa I get you but what if you get married next year the 2 boys bazobe bebencan bazohlala nobani? Even if ulubanzi is 10 years but still mncan u 10yrs.
It's possible to get married nabantwana, I know someone that got married with her 3 kids and the guy also had 3kids yole blended family icute. So sana we we still have value whether want to get married with our kids or not..I am really enjoying these collaboration ❤
Watched the colab from Ongezwa it was lit and today this one is also on Fire🔥🔥. We need more of this colabd very informative and relatable. Mandy your hair babes please plug me
😅😅Not even half way through this vlog already bursting out in laughter I totally relate n I want to say wit 3 baby daddies I'm a quarter inch to the the celebration of my first wedding so keep believing ur going to get married if it's wat u wish pray n believe u want for urself Much love ladies ❤❤
I love how Ongezwa thinks about working for yout kids and making sure they are okay financially so they don't shrink in the presence of your husband. Truth is that kids do grow up and live their lives wena you're left there all alone.
I was lucky enough that me and baby daddy's wife get along. It didn't start like this though. So me and guys where married before we had our daughter and we raised her together until she was six and broke up after that. The break up was very peaceful even. No bad vibes. I don't even call ke mna. ND if anything needs to be done, I talk directly with the wife. Daddy gets feedback from wife. ND it works for me
@@TheMillennialMom1 believe you me, it's peaceful. We even shock the baby daddy. Someone even called me to ask me why the wife posted me on my birthday. ND I was like, guys we family. We both have kids with this man. ND he loves his kids to bits. There is no need for us to fight. But it's true that the baby daddy is the only person who can make sure we respect each other. Cos if he had bad mouthed me to the wife, I'm sure we wouldn't be here
I think Ongezwa is still inlove with one of her baby daddy's.She said she knows when to get them whenever she want. I think the girl is still waiting for the marriages to fail and then she get in.Gooduck City mom. But becareful if they really want to stay with you or jst want nice time only. Goodluck thou.
@@zuzuh5755 lol why is this always the go-to? It’s always “baby mamas are still inlove”. She was agreeing with my point that men never fully let go on their baby mamas. Men always “want their families back”. We were saying that basically men are easy. Also, Ongezwa’s baby daddies asked for her hand in marriage first, if she was that inlove with them, she would’ve married them. The narrative of baby mamas wanting their baby daddies back needs to end.
