@@SALmetalseven Know that it's common for your emotion to take over, So ignore it and Immediately use your logic/common sense when talking with other people.
@@SALmetalseven before losing ur head think there are 2 ways to go about this. Logicly or emotionally. Stop and think what way it will pan out for both subjects and then you will realise that logic will win. It may hurt the other person but In the long run it benefits both parties. It took me yrs to master this and now I wounder why ppl around me can't do the same.
Challenge yourself. Do things your mind tell you can’t do. Btw, being able to control yourself actually gives you self-confidence. *You can’t have confidence in yourself knowing you can’t control yourself.*
*Mastering emotions demands a lot of introspection:* - dealing with past baggage - processing all emotions, feeling them - understanding that nothing in life is personal Understand yourself - understand others
One thing that taught me about self-control is delayed gratification, especially with things like sex, entertainment, music, indulgence of a favorite snack, watching a favorite TV show or movie, etc. Moderation is key in enjoying anything in life, and when you practice self-control you will start enjoying things even more because you deny yourself from time to time of the things you really love, gaining a deeper appreciation of them. Plus, it will prevent you from becoming addicted to things that normally are enjoyable but could potentially become harmful if you over-indulge or abuse them. Really loved the positive & peaceful vibe at the end of the video, by the way!
I recovered from 11 years of eating disorders (anorexia and bulimia) with "accidental" intermittent fasting (meaning that I didn't consider this practice as a diet or a lifestyle shift) The result was a total recovery and my relationship with both food and my body has been perfect ever since. Lately I lost appetite and haven't been eating much and the former me would have fallen into anorexic behaviours, probably followed by bulimic crises after a time. But I've been just great. I have the biggest energy and mental clarity before I actually eat my first meal of the day (I usually eat only once). This practice taught me patience, self control and self consciousness. I hope my message helps anyone who struggles with eating disorders or have terrible eating habits.
@@adansoto5974 I would suggust you not to go too extreme and try fasting., instead try tackling the root problem... Streets... You can use meditation.... Music... Etc yk... If stress build up in your body it can manifest itself in many forms... So please take care of yourself and member that balance is key... Nothing extreme or really gonna help control ed.. Because it itself is very restrictive... Hope you have a great day✨
Man I was without a phone/technology for 3 months once and everything was so amazing I was way more active and had sooooo much relaxation and I was aware of my surroundings it was surreal and I want that back Tbh I gotta limit phone time but it helps me research things like this which is a big thing and to keep in contact with those I care about so thats the main thing
I found it really liberating when I got to 20hr. At times I run out of things to do. Only thing that is frustrating is watching everyone around me still stuck on the hamster wheel eating multiple times a day.
I find stoicism really hard. I can do all the external stuff. I fast regularly, take cold showers in winter, I train physically hard and I'm not attached to material wealth. However, it's the devils in the mind that I struggle with. I've been through a series of abusive relationships that really tested me. It's a constant struggle to maintain a state of calm. Sometimes I win but sometimes I lose and when I lose I go off the rails. I drink smoke and am crippled with depression, anger and rage. The rational part of my brain sees it but I'm overwhelmed by my emotions. The words of great stoics don't cut the mustard when I'm in those states. Like a storm I have to ride it out. I fear it may destroy me in the end.
Be patient with yourself, bro. It helps me to keep a physical reminder on myself at all times, like a bracelet or necklace. If I visualize it, it helps solidify the message in my mind better. I hope this helps.
I've been struggling with overwhelming emotions too and I started reading dialectical behavioural therapy workbook for the past few weeks and it's helping me understand myself and my emotions better. Try reading books and implement the methods listed as much as you can. Once you start doing the inner work, you'll see the difference in the way you react to things. And don't worry, it might not seem like it but we can do anything we set our minds to. We are stronger than we give ourselves credit.
I think this was Seneca, but the quote basically goes “nothing is more inspiring than to see a good man struggling against adversity.” Hang in there bro
Sometimes expressing how you feel about something with someone you’re close with and trust helps you to cope and understand the “why it happened” better, making you more ready for the next time :)
Thank you for this video - I had an interaction with a nasty customer yesterday who nearly made me cry, but I will learn to not take these negative interactions personally through Stoicism and self-control.
These words of the Stoics are very wise but like any wisdom can be problematic to implement. Why am I complaining, when a very busy guy like Marcus Aurelius, who had much on his plate, lived the Stoic life? I never lived the meditative life until now at 73 yr old. As I look back at all the wisdoms, like Henry David Thoreau's, "most men lead lives of quiet desperation," it is hard not see my life as a workaholic was programed into me by nature and nurture. I can talk about the rationalization of responsibility for duty, honor, family, and country but in the end it comes down to how we judge ourselves. I have finally come to a realization that the only truth each of us can achieve is that of the self and even Buddhism tells us that is, "anatta."
@@optimusprimevil1646 Great question. My therapist at the VA, as I was a Captain in the USAF during Vietnam, asked me the same question. Would I change anything? I wish I had clearer sight. I wish I was less idealistic and less naive. I would have married later but wouldn't have had my beautiful daughter who has taught me what a broken heart feels like. I am glad I have the life I do as I still have a chance to learn and find meaning in creative acts.
@The Fall of New Babylon Thank you for your insight. I have found my belief grounded in evolutionary psychology and related fields which finds meaning in procreation. Beyond that, the creative acts while alive is meaningful. As far as consciousness goes I might entertain pan-psychicism. The idea of soul and spirit would take definition.
Your part about "being content with what we have while being less dependent on what we think we need" is very true. My road bicycles I ride with are not the latest top-of-the-line machines. They are 10 and 20 years old with 10 speed gearing. Yet I consistantly leave very good riders behind or at least keep up with them and they have the latest equipment. Same as for my running gear and shoes. Yes, my shoes are last season's colors, but I can still train comfortably and with a smile on my face and a huge smile in my heart. Amazing feeling.....
the base of this topic starts and ends with fasting and what it does not only to your body, but your mind as well. Fasting is medicine in it's own right and takes some discipline to complete, but well worth it once you get over the initial hurdle.
This is one of my favorite videos of yours! Everytime i feel impulsive and out of control, i go to this discourse to help remind myself to stay balanced. Thank you 🙏
There are needs of the body often expressed in emotions & feelings There are needs of the mind often expressed in thoughts & will You should not ignore either but ultimately the 'YOU' must be the arbiter. You'll find especially if you have allowed either or both to have control at different times in your life that it's the middle ground that's best. Don't ignore the needs of either but, don't let either control you. But together they make you what you are a 'human'. This is of course is easier said than done. Sometimes it takes a lifetime!
I support your views on stoicism and practice these beliefs myself. As a US Marine I have had to regularly endure up to 3 days of fasting for training and combat situations. I can confirm by the second day it fells more manageable, but in no way feels easy or blissful. Your body is constantly reminding you of your need for fuel, it hangs in the background and speaks louder at times. I also practice intermittent fasting on a daily basis because of an assortment of beliefs. Neither of these situations are simple, there is a definite difference in the way you feel properly fueling your body throughout the day and when you don't. Don't believe me, eat a sugary snack halfway through your day of fasting and notice how you feel. I have experimented with this several times to truly understand what is what in reference to fuel consumption (that is what food is). Im explaining all this because people who lecture on this topic always down play the constant difficulty with adopting this discipline. Starving your body even a little releases a myriad of chemicals telling you to stop what you are doing. You can not stop that. You can however control the urge, you can manage the discomfort and in time feel more comfortable with these sort of situations but it is never easy. There is always some sort of difficulty in forcing your body to so what it doesn't want to. I want anyone new to this to understand this so they don't feel they are not doing it right or failing in some way.
I completely agree with you that fasting is a great choice for practicing self-control and enhancing mind power. I've been exercising fasting form some time now and I've found myself able to let go of certain things that had gripped my mind before.
The Dunedin longitudinal study followed all born in the city in 1972, over 1000 participants. They found that more than any other trait, self control in childhood determined the most successful adults in the study.
"Let us become intimate with poverty , so that Fortune may not catch us off our guard. We shall be rich with all the more comfort if we once learn how far poverty is from being a burden". Seneca
Self control is a missliding title, it's just about been patient, Your self controls you, then you just need too accept and learn how to be more patient.
Stoicism is about self control. It's not a misleading title, if you want a video about patience you should look somewhere else. Stoicism has nothing to do with patience
I want to teach how to prepare for fasting. I fasted FOR 3 DAYS!!!!! I remember last year hitting 310+ and not quitting about 4 burgers (I'm telling you my life) and fries, I dont care for soda. I lost 50lbs. I am fasting for 4 days, today I finished my first. I know i can go for over a week, it does not bother me what so ever, if it bothers you you need to slow down, and try again, you'll get rid of headaches and stomach pain transfers to thirst. Its a self sensibility improvement.
Update its my 5th day and I lost 60lbs now, may gain a little because I am not retaining water, its hard to est pink salt and I need to get a safe formula so I'm not interumpting the fasting
Your salad at the end looks really tasty also love your videos dude reality has been a rough one to deal with lately essentially this year your videos are helping I appreciate your time 🤙
I'm very happy that this channel is growing in the way it should. I remember clearly when there was a small group of us here and now its reaching different people. I'm happy for you einzelganger.
I find it funny how the stoics said it's within our nature to act virtuously when conveniently it's their definition of virtuous, there are plenty of people that naturally act in a manner contrary to that of the stoic because it is natural. The stoic mindset is one of the least natural mindsets you can have that has to be drilled into to fight off our natural urges to feel fully.
It's very simple, actually. These are instant noodles from Indomie. The flavor is 'soto'. Boil them with some Chinese vegetables and a few eggs, and it's done. I like to mix it up with white rice as well.
In another comment, @Mind Now notes that one thing needed to develop self-control is deliberate practice. I tend to agree, but there’s a problem. Deliberate practice involves, among other things, persistently, over a sufficient period of time, pushing oneself to the edges of one’s comfort zone. But what is needed to do that kind of thing? Why, self-control of course. So it seems that in order to achieve self-control, one must first have self-control!
A cat was sent to me since the last 3-4 days ... I have food pellets I haven't fed to the dogs for sometime. So I felt more than happy to feed the cat if its comfy with this food. It was. However, to my dismay, I see how demanding the cat is incl. attempting to bite me when I failed to feed it (meaning caught up with other chores that demanded my attention). As I sat long enough, I knew I have a limited energy for now and that has to be channeled for activities that really needs me. I thanked the cat for reminding me to let go. She has folks to feed her or adapt to what's given than demand. Sometimes we need to be self-preserving. Enjoying my hermitage for now.
Following your good flow is your purpose, the ups and downs are ok, stay focused and manifest regardless of how we feel or outside circumstances ... Living in the end, it is done ...
The alternative would be to let it out and kill native wildlife. It's best to keep it inside. And slowly in europe laws are changing in banning cats from being 'outside cats'. they do unbelievable amounts of harm to ecosystems, and if I had my way, I would disencourage breeding cats and import most of them back to africa (yes, they are not genetically far enough from their ancestor to NOT survive this transition. They haven't been bred as long as dogs). The risk of having them has resulted in many exinct species... and they're not even useful for rodent control, there is no evidence that back it up. Which makes me cringe when I see people own barn cats, they are better off using rat traps And I'm saying this as a cat lover. But this is the best thing to do for nature's health in the long run. Either you keep your cat indoors, or continue harming the earth because of the feelings you're projecting on them.
Great video, but I have to say. prolonged poverty sucks. It is a hindrance to everything you try to do.and puts endless obstacles in your way. The easy often becomes difficult and the difficult often becomes simply impossible when you do not have the resources to deal with life's various situations. Once you are down, it is very, very, hard if not impossible to pull yourself back up. Stay down long enough and it is likely you will never rise again. This world is cruel and gets crueler by the day.
Dan Harris Believe in God. Pray and have hope, faith. It keeps the consciousness of the mind alive . For once the mind believes there is no hope , people consider suicide . Give God a chance
Ha, yeah. The end mentioned poverty, but fasting for days when you regularly can afford healthy food is not poverty and to conflate the two is a little odd lol. Just a blind side I guess.
Self control isn't an illusion, it's a constant and a distraction. It's not about whether or not you control yourself, of course you do (aside from events this like seizures). It's about what you do, the choices you make. You can choose not to eat for 72 hours or you could choose to eat, either way you make the choice. One choice isn't more self controlled than the other. It's more revealing to look at the reason, the antecedents and consequences of a choice or action rather trying to attribute it to something other than the self.
“Be content with poverty??” I think not. Let us demand that the powerful share their wealth and the bounty of earth with all and not to give us crumbs of what they have stolen. There’s PLENTY for all. Life is challenging as is without hunger and poverty.
But we love fighting in the bottom of the boat for the crumbs... Yeah, I think he's conflating poverty with what it's like to fast for a couple of days. Pretty comical in that absurd, dark way I like👻
Have all the "powerful" and rich individuals stolen what they have? Is every rich man crooked? Or, is it possible for a rich and powerful man to actually have earned that which he possesses? If so, why would we demand anything that we haven't earned ourselves, from a man who has?
Content isn't bad but sometimes I like being impulsive. It's fun. *Too much* self control can be problematic at times. Boring and dull. Monotonous. This comes from someone who had lots of self control as a martial artist and I rarely was impulsive. It's about balance for me. Neither is good or bad and if we do too much of both, there are problems. Just my views I'm not gonna go back and forth. Self control. 😉
The other day I was talking to a neurosurgeon, a very young and bright fellow. He said that memory, or rather the neurons containing memory, are not in one area. The eye, the ear, the nose, all the five sensory organs in your body have a different sort of memory. But they don't yet know for sure. So we have to get more answers. As I see it, everything is genetically controlled. That means you don't have any freedom of action. This is not what we have been taught in India - the fatalistic philosophy. When you say that there is no freedom of action, it means that you have no way of acting except through the help of the knowledge that is passed on to you. It is in that sense, I said, no action is possible without thought. Any action that is born out of thought which belongs to the totality of knowledge is a protective mechanism. It is protecting itself. It is a self-perpetuating mechanism. You are using it all the time. Every time you experience anything through the help of that knowledge, the knowledge is further strengthened and fortified. So every time you experience greed and condemn it you are adding to its momentum. You are not dealing with the actual greed, anger or desire. You are only interested in using them. Take, for example, desirelessness. You want to be free from desire. But you are not dealing with desire but only with the idea of `how to be free from desire'. You are not dealing with something that is living there. Whatever is there or happening there cannot be false. You may not like it and may condemn it because it doesn't fit into your social framework. The actions born out of the desire may not fall into the society's framework which accepts certain actions as socially acceptable and certain others as anti-social. But you are concerned only about values. You are concerned about grappling with or fighting that which you condemn. Such a concern is born out of culture, society, norms, or whatever. The norms are false and they are falsifying you. ....
Checking in from Bermuda 🇧🇲. I went to Amsterdam in 2008. Such a beautiful place. happen to be there for koninginnedag , didn’t plan it! Thank you for your videos🙏
Fasting also includes the types of food that you eat. You can try being a vegetarian. You might also cut out sugar completely. A low fat diet is also a healthy fast.
I think the basics a modern individual would require (physically) to stay alive is water, food and movement to keep the body functioning, by keeping the flow of energy consistent. Mentally we require human companionship but it is not necessary for an individuals survival. We make use of shelter, clothes to survive the elements, and tools for various reasons but first and foremost as weapons. With these things we assure our survival but they are not necessary. After that we are bored. Finding the basics does not take very long, especially today, so people are extremely bored and will do anything to stay active, like over eat. People feel they must fast (and today we should) but it is because excess exists. Even if there was no capitalistic system overproducing, creating excess, and so waste of unsold products, the earth would still have plenty for people to get bored fast. Previous civilizations are veidence of this. At some point a culture within the human organism began preaching a "limited resources gospel” that has infected modern people’s dna, so that a hustle/do or die/by any means necessary mentality and life style is seen as mandatory for survival. I do not believe working is some sort of universal requirement to make us “better” people. There is no such thing as a better person, as it is said in the philosophy of my ancestors, all is “Teotl" or, "Sacred Energy", and although the organism is made up of individuals, it is all Teotl, nothing more and nothing less. There is no energy that is more sacred than the next. All creation is related. Meaning =. The source is a mystery so there’s nothing to worship. The obvious thing is that there is a creation and that movement is required for life to exist, so if anything moves you, be moved to be creative and leave behind art, songs, and memories of the good times you created. My personal philosophy is that- It is better to live in a "savage" nature, than to live under the “laws" of savage men.
That is a great summarization of some key concepts of stoic philosophy. Great job. I'll check more content on your channel. It certainly seem to be one of those rare ones.
This is me not looking away from the ads and commercials, even checking out the shopping websites for what's on discount and still not buying anything on Black Friday.
I have heard claims of better focus and energy from water fasting. But I tried it. I managed to do 60 hours. I was SO tired and dizzy, and my mind went fuzzy to the point that it started to play tricks on me, including forgetting what day it was.....
