@@bakhy.zI agree that *some* women take it to an extreme, but it’s just pattern recognition at that point. It’s not all men, but a large portion of them making women feel uncomfortable or even unsafe. Even some of the good ones have toxic tendencies, which goes for women too, however, we’re conniving whereas men can be outright violent.
As a man, I have never felt as though I have fallen “victim” to a man hating culture. My parents raised me to be respectful and kind and due to that, received respect in return. It has nothing to do with your gender identity and all to do with how you choose to treat people
You are Not Part of the Problem you are part of the solution ❤so we don't hate you and maybe this woman will raise her boy Differently and He will be hated cause we don't Hate all Men just the Mean ones or the Problematic Ones
Being respectful is good. You can chose to be kind and most families raise their kids to do this. But to pretend like the rhetoric within the emerging culture does not villanise all men, especially white me suggests to me that perhaps, you are not as perceptive as you think. Wait until some woman makes up any accusation about you and you will get it. Believe all women... WHAT DO YOU THINK THAT IS?
You obviously don’t know any men in the corporate world. Or in the educational field. Or in the airline industry. You probably don’t have an issue if you’re gay or beta maybe?
You saying that proves you go into it thinking most men aren’t respectful responsible and loving so you DO have a pre existing prejudice 🤷🏽♀️ if someone where to say you need to teach your daughter morals and self respect and values you probably wouldnt like that they implied such stereotypes and THAT is her point exactly.
@@KatarinaCarson next you’ll say most blacks don’t know the laws😳😒 you count an entire group of people out that makes you the problem🤷🏽♀️ just because it’s men doesn’t make it right and that’s Abby‘s point. There are awful men in the world yes but we currently live in a world where men are painted as the villain before they can open their mouth especially white men which are what her baby is. As a black mom 20 years ago when I had my children I felt the same fear Because back then the prejudices were not on our side like they are today,People have so many preconceived notions on what “that group” is capable of. That is a prejudice whether you feel you have reasons for having that prejudice or not that is a prejudice. I’m not saying trust all men I’m saying stop demonizing them this is an infant who has not yet done a damn thing and people are commenting that he needs to be taught right as if that’s not a given. They are speaking like that simply because he is a man. To imply men are less capable of being loving or compassionate is exactly the same as implying young women are less capable of being intelligent and strong we are not the preconceived notions people make of us and we have to stop doing it to other people.
@@katiebugg7018 men always like to say " we are protectors " only when they wanna feed their ego but when it's time to protect us from their own kind blood xy Chromosomes , they turn blind eye.
@@mariahstromeyer5871because 98% of women report being sexually harassed or assaulted. Numbers don’t lie. We’re not saying it’s not an issue, but it’s mainly women.
Did she ever say that women are safe bc they're women? No. She doesn't have a daughter. She has two sons and she's allowed to talk about how it how it makes her sad that her son's feelings will be ignored without acknowleding every single sexist problem in the world.
@@mariahstromeyer5871 statistically speaking, men also get murdered and SA’d by men more than at the hands of women. obviously not saying it doesn’t happen at the hands of a woman because that would be stupid and untrue. that’s the point. that men are mainly the perpetrators.
I feel like you as a guy arent hearing it in real life cause girls aren't saying straight to your face it's behind your back, I always here girls saying to other girls about hating guys it's a pretty toxic mentality, there are problem from both front never assume one as it easier than the other
@@mckaylaprouty I’m a gay guy. Im around girls when they’re having the conversation they don’t have around straight guys. Like, I’ve heard intimidate things and they’d be 1000% more likely to talk man hate in front of me, if they had any, before topics regarding yeast infections, pregnancy scares, the nitty gritty of the nasty and all sorts of family drama. People are not actually there actually hating men like that. Even if it does happen and you hear it, just take it as they’re not talking about you. It’s very “#notallmen” if it don’t apply, pass right on by.
Tell your son not to talk about his sex life on social media, then maybe he won't receive the backlash your husband is facing. Everyone out here is trying to look out for this girl and she's so blind.
Wow, this is such an out of touch take. Modern women don’t hate men, we just have expectations about how we should be treated by them. Take the time to study how women have been treated by men throughout history. Even in recent history. We have been dominated, used, and abused - and in many cultures still are. Raise your son to be a man who treats all people well, and he will have nothing to worry about. But if you raise a misogynist, he deserves every bit of criticism coming his way.
Don’t forget to raise a daughter that way too- they can’t be brought up thinking that they are so good and popular, thinking they are better than everybody else. That’s what most of the girls in my school are like, and it’s obnoxious. Clearly some parents can’t do their job properly.
Yeah, but there are also plenty of women on social media and off it these days, who throw "misogynist" out like it's applicable to men for wanting them to do literally anything. Or wanting these women to see consequences for being horrible themselves, etc. Or just saying anything negative about a female, in general. So yes, while there are certainly any number of women that just have expectations, it's a tad ignorant to pretend there aren't also women who are just misandrists.
Abby is literally stating facts. She was talking about the man’s side of society, she never said women weren’t hated or whatever. I stand by Abby because she made a valid point. People really need to stop trying to make people out as rude or inconsiderate. You can’t please everyone 🤷🏻♀️
I agree, bc she’s right. People are unnecessary mean to a lot of men. Saying things like “all men suck” and shit like that is just not true at all and annoying. Yes, unfortunately a lot of women have bad experiences with men but the same can be said on the other hand. Men can be abused, raped, and taken advantage of too but it’s not as “exposed” bc they’re silenced or not believed, unreported completely. We just need to push more love and acceptance out and raise better humans. I have full confidence that they’re gonna raise their son right, and she shouldn’t have to worry about this!
i understand where she’s coming from but in a society where women and non-men have been and continue to be systemically oppressed for so many decades and centuries, people making jokes about men is not in any way comparable in damage it does as a whole.
Yall need watch out for the T’s. Yall women have enough stressful things in ur life and i hate when men put on dresses and say they are women. They are slowly taking away ur sports and ur culture. Women are beautiful creatures and a man in a dress isnt the same.
I just watched a man at a restaurant talk about himself for an hour and a half before the young lady came up to my bar and asked for help getting out of the situation because the guy was an absolute creep. If you want boys and men to be treated with respect and dignity than these MOMS AND DADS better start teaching your sons, to treat other people with respect and dignity.
Period. Men have no respect for women, sometimes not even other men and they are ever held accountable. Raise a son that is respectful and kind to women and all other people and women will not hate him, simple as thta
And parents need to teach their daughters not to be witches. I see WAY too many witchy women who are never held accountable and are ruled by their petty emotions.
holy shit this is the most tone deaf thing i’ve ever seen 😭 society does not hate men just cus ppl on the internet express their frustrations with them. men will always be in power so don’t act like they will struggle with that
She doesn’t want her son to grow up and have his mental health issues not be taken seriously. I’m a woman and even I see these issues. It’s important to talk about mental health but men are supposed to only be seen as tough and if they shed a single tear they are feminine now. It’s not fair.
@@blazer9547 because listening to brain dead privileged influencers feign concern over their child’s upbringing is irritating to me but thanks for replying to my year old comment really appreciate it 👍👍
@@HatSports but feminism is the movement that tells men it's okay to cry. It's the toxic masculinity types that tell men that crying isn't masculine. Most of my male friends come to me instead of their male friends when they want actual support and comfort about their mental health.
as a guy, i haven’t met i singular person that hates me because of my gender, but maybe that because i’m not very masculine🫢, either way ur son will be fine
She has a point. It’s so socially acceptable for people to say “all men are trash” and so many people don’t bat an eye to it. Edit: my comment is about the hate that men face because this video is about men. Just because I acknowledge that some people shit on men unfairly does not mean I don’t think women have our own adversities.
@@Kate-be3ec I think on twitch they did this experiment, where basically they typed 2 prompts into chats. One about hating men one about hating women. Over and over again only the chats about hating women were removed by Chat bots. Meaning they were programmed to do that
Okay but it was socially acceptable to beat women and tell them they belong in a kitchen or deserved to be raped and murdered bc they want equality but nobody batted an eye about that. I see where people are coming from but come on!!! Does nobody else see this?? We are babying men because they feel victimized by women because they are sick (of) actually being victimized by men. I feel like I’m losing my mind because nobody else sees it. Like no it’s not right for people to say “all men are trash” but men got away with abusive behavior and words for over 12,000 years and we were supposed to just shut up and take it.
I mean she’s right. I had to drop a friend because she called my husband who grew up extremely poor and had to join the military at a young age to help support his family a white privileged male when she met him for the first time. Didn’t even let him open his mouth to get to know him first. The automatic disrespect is a serious problem.
Honestly, I feel like there is more the story because there is no way. Someone who is your friend just walked up to your husband and from no where killed him a privelleged white man
I’m glad you dropped that friend. To give you another perspective as well, there are more types of privileges other than being poor or rich. When someone calls another person a “privileged white man” there’s a good chance they’re saying that man was privileged enough to never worry about the color of his skin, or even feel in danger because of it. The average black man most definitely will. It’s also not 100% clean cut. It’s complicated. And assuming someone is completely privileged in a general sense is… very strange? I can’t imagine how the conversation even got there.
I don’t think most people just hate men. People hate negative things certain men have done to them and are holding those men accountable. I don’t love or hate any person based on their gender, it’s their actions that will help me make the decision. If they don’t want their son coming into a “man hating culture” they should raise him to be a good person.
I think it may have started out this way but now it has gotten to the point of not just hating what men have done, but also hating men and masculinity. This is coming specifically from gen z which I am a part of, it’s just not cool to be masculine
Yes people can hate negative things about men. Valid. But the problem comes in when no one hates negative things women do. Last time I checked, anyone can be a bad person 🤔
@@raquelb.9338uh I mean everyone just has different preferences- just bc some girls aren’t interested in men who hunt or go to the gym or other things you describe as ‘masculine’ doesn’t mean that all women hate men. Everyone just has there own preferences for partners and that is perfectly ok :)
A lot of people do hate on men, simply cause they're men tho. Remember the kill all men thing? When men started saying "kill all women" they got flamed for it.. both men and women go through different types of judgement, but its certainly true that men do get hated simply cause some women think theyre all the same
i think realistically she’s right. when and if i have a son i will sit down with him and say , people will say things like men are trash, kill all men. but you are going to continue to be a respectful polite young man. you will not hurt anyone no matter the gender and you will respect women. that’s what you have to do now.
People will say things like men are trash and they shouldn’t cry but people will do things like kidnap and assault young women so it really sucks either way and you’ve gotta know that the words and stuff just roll off when you know your values and have integrity.
These are extreme examples, and the same is said in reverse about women by extreme incels. It’s shitty but it’s not an issue men and men alone face tbh - doesn’t detract from the fact it’s wrong to say it about men but I don’t think people tend to consider the amount of violence there is against women in terms of language used and actual physical violence too.
Honestly, this is what you do now. Women say these things because they are scared. Well, at least I know I’m scared. Seeing good men out there doing good things help me feel less scared of men. It’s hard when you’ve experienced and seen so many women be abused or assaulted by men to remember that good men exist.
Basic respect for humans will do. Beware of making him think women should be put on a higher place; I know men who have suffered greatly learning the hard way that women don't always have their best interest in mind as they do.
Teach your child to be responsible. I have seen trashy men and women who think they are always right. And im sitting over here like "is it ok for you be a criminal? Is it ok for you to be a bully? Is it ok for you to cheat? Is is ok for you to be racist and ignorant? Is it ok for you to be a creepy stalker?" People think their bad habits arent an issue but it is.
She isnt talking about holding them accountable lol holding anyone accountable is a no brainer. Shes refering to hating men literally just for being men...especially white men who are shitted on daily and noone is standing up for them
@@scaleyscaley8027Anyone who SA's or assaults someone else has to be held accountable. Naturally they have to speak up for that to have consequences though and traditional ideas that encourage toxic masculinity keep them from reporting it and speaking up, as well as people that should be protecting the victim from taking the issue seriously. On the other end it is often more likely for a rape situation to occur the other way around since the majority of men are physically stronger (due to height, different hormones etc) than women and therefore more likely to be able to fend of a (female) rapist. Women often times do not have that privilege when the rapist is a male. So there is a reason why the discussion is somewhat focused on rape happening to women.
@@nacumendu3930People hate women literally just for being women. The reason for this "man-hating culture" is misogyny. If men didn't treat women so poorly, then this culture wouldn't be such a thing. It's not right to hate on anyone for their gender obviously, but that's why it's this way.
If America hates men with the amount of rape and assault that happens there that's unpunished then wtf is my country for actually putting rapists in prison when we give proof 😂
@@sakg12 men do have it rough with things as do woman but men are supposed to be strong and show no emotion except if it’s to show love for a girl 🙄 woman want to be equal to men and yes I’m grateful for living in a time where I have rights but I believe woman are pushing this feminist thing to far
@@frenchy1987i believe you’re living to much online. The world without the online part is nothing like how you describe it. + it’s only even a tiny western part online 99% of the world is not like that
She’s a new mommy, cut her some slack. She’s just worried about her baby boy, and she’s in space( on their podcast) they created to speak their minds… I saw this the day it came out, and as a 28 y/o with no kids, I still understood where she was coming from when she said this.
We don’t hate men. We are just asking for the respect and equality that we deserve. There are SO many wonderful men out there (my dad, and son being two of them) who fight for women’s right, while being very strong men.
The one time I’ll agree with this woman. The amount of social media influencers, tv shows, and movies that now openly put men down is really sad. When people started fighting for women they did it by invalidating/dehumanizing men. There is no overall stereotype we should be pushing onto men, yet society is. There are good people, and bad people that’s it. There are no good or bad genders.
@@lilyanna.delacruz I don’t agree with family vlogging. The parasocial relationships, and predators on the internet aren’t safe for children who cannot consent to being watched by strangers. A personal Facebook/social media account with just close members is fine. An open platform for literally anyone, is not. You don’t know who may be watching family channels with potential nefarious intentions. They hand them all their child’s info that they would need to do something scary.
@@Catmesp she may not fully understand the dangers yet… it’s taken many years for me to learn the dangers of letting kids online and it was the norm for millennials. My kids never had their own accounts but most of my friends kids had social media from when they were babies. It was the norm for so long, and I have seen good come from family posts… but in the last couple years more and more bad has come from them (and I don’t know if the good is worth the risk of the bad). She may decide to stop showing the kids regularly eventually if she’s treated with respect while being educated of the dangers. Her heart is big when it comes to her kids so I expect her content will change as she learns. The world is a scary place sometimes, and how to protect our babies is a learning process.
@@byronic0967 when men generalise women, and claim "women do x y z", i dont get offended. why? because that does not apply to me. "women are dishwashers" ok? Im not. I know I'm not. so the statement doesnt apply to me. "men are shit." ok? am I a shit man? do i practice behaviours that cause others pain but i've been taught its fine because im a man? the answers no? then if i'm not a shit man, that statement doesnt apply to me. that seems like a skill issue and if the shoe fits, you throw a tamper tantrum or get insecure, if it doesnt, you take pride in that and move on. simple
The thing is women are more privileged in society now. We’ve grown into a “hate men” culture and now women can do or say whatever they want about men. Easily have men arrested for crimes they haven’t committed solemnly because we live in a world now where women “do no wrong”
@@byronic0967 brother rarely is anybody hating men irl or in other countries that arent america. its just a chronically online thing to see and talk about
Honestly she's not wrong. I have 2 boys myself and it's scary and sad. But we also have the opportunity to teach our boys how to treat/talk to girls/women. Both should give respect to each other.
no whats scary and sad is that little girls have to grow up in a society that either sexualizes or infantilizes them SOMETIMES ITS BOTH and either way they're still not taken seriously and have their rights taken away this world will never cease to not "baby" men while women continue to die at the hands of them
@@Bella-wz9xw no what’s scary is how delusional some of these people are. We don’t sexualize usually in our heads we don’t think as women as incapable sex toys we just don’t like putting burdens on others and it’s other than having sex we often are usually thinking about random stuff. The problem is that women hear issues that happens to others or hear about really bad men and just think it’s all of them. None of the men I meet say how women are incapable I’ve only met one who said that a woman was incapable and that’s beacause it was the bosses daughter who just started learning how to do the field.
She's just lucky because she found her husband young and he treated her really well. She hasn't had to deal with the other 99% of men who aren't like that. Lol
That generalization you’re doing is exactly what she’s talking about. For every crappy man there is a crappy woman, but we don’t hear or accept men talking about woman as being “99% trash”. We would call that misogynistic.
@@Bizz293I work in a male dominated field and have heard men of all ages make nasty generalizations about women. I was at lunch with coworkers the other day and a man literally said that there are no decent women born after the mid 90’s and that women these days just want to use men for their money and sleep around. None of the other men at the table called him on it either.
@@nuggs9999 I don’t spend a whole lot of time on social media, so no. There are dumpster fire men and women of all ages out there. Often times they end up dating each other, because no normal well adjusted individual wants anything to do with them.
It's not about him being a man or his gender. The "I hate men" mindset comes from having interacted with poorly raised, unkind, hateful, childish, *whatever else you want to throw in there* men. It's about who they've grown to be as a person and a toxic mindset closely shared amongst some grown men. It's not their biology but their personality.
How so? There are 295 countries in the world and in most of them (if not all) men have more rights than women. Abby was only right in a small part of the online part, and only in a small part of the west. The real word is nothing like that.
@@cobito9301 lol she was talking about the US. And the US has 50 states, you calling them all the same? Get in the real world. If you give me a state, i can give examples Different state = different rules And i am in Belgium 💀
@@cobito9301 i wrote a whole thing for the person that answered me that i’m wrong and now their comment is gone 🥲🥲 Still going to post this anyway Although the pay gap is slowly, but surely narrowing, the progress made in the last two decades has nearly stalled. According to the Pew Research Center, American (US) women working full- and part-time in 2022 make 82 cents for every dollar earned by men. To put that number in perspective, women made 80 cents to the dollar in 2002 and 65 cents to each dollar in 1982. It's an even grimmer picture globally: Women worldwide make an average of 20 percent less than the amount paid to men, according to a release from the United Nation's International Labor Organization. Black women have to work 21.5 months to make what white men did in a year according to the Institute for Women's Policy Research (the current numbers place them as earning $0.63 for every dollar earned by a white, non-Hispanic man). When comparing all women workers regardless of how many hours they worked, that number is even steeper, especially for other women of color. Post Covid-19, Latina women make $0.49 for every dollar, Asian American and Pacific Islander women $0.75 cents for every dollar, and indigenous women $0.50 to every dollar, per research from the National Women's Law Center. Workplace sexual harassment and assault is so common that it's driving women, en masse, to resign from their jobs. Reporting such abuse is often unattractive for women due to retaliation and lack of consequences for abusers. Thus, victims feel that in order to prioritize their safety, they must face unemployment, job insecurity, and pay cuts―not to mention the financial sacrifices they make by giving up equity and the potential for upward mobility once they leave their companies. Although women make up nearly 51 percent of the U.S. population, only 28 percent of Congress is comprised with woman. And pls, this is in almost all countries in the world that woman are underrepresented. Go check out hdr.undp.org/data-center/thematic-composite-indices/gender-inequality-index#/indicies/GII, GII, an informatice scame of gender inequality ‘measured’ allover the world. I’m not against men. I simply think there should be equality between sexes. Denying the problem isn’t going to help.
The fact people think what she said was rude or wrong or anything except a mother worrying for her son, who she will raise to be a good male in the world. Proves her point 100%.
I think Abby dosent even have to worry about people hating her son. As long as her son is a respectful normal person he will be more than okay. I dislike men who treat me like shit for no reason. I do not hate all men.
@@Sassysonia1234 you must be an #AWFL … White men can’t even get jobs, scholarships, work in the airlines, education field… I’m not talking about specific individuals that you know know, a teacher that’s doing well! Pull your head out because it’s been been happening for over two decades
I mean Abby isn’t wrong. Our current society literally promotes shaming men to be monsters, abusers, oppressors. To the point where misandry is seen as progressive and okay. There was the “k1ll all men” movement not too long ago. It’s just crazy how normalized it is. But of course, it will be ignored with biased counterpoints and random accusations. And no, Abby isn’t disagreeing that women have struggles too. But let’s be honest, we really do have a man hating culture. Especially for Gen Z - Millennials
Abby's incredibly tone deaf here. Like I understand that as a new mom she wants whats best for her son but people don't hate men they hate brats and useless men who don't take accountability for their actions etc. Not good men.
We also live in homes built by men during times when there was no way to protect themselves from falling from big heights. Men also fought and died in wars to protect their families and homes. Men did a lot more than you think, and they sure as f didn't have it easy either. Both sides have different struggles and they are BOTH JUSTIFIED.
Abby….. keep preaching. She is 100% true and it’s a problem. I get some men are disgusting but doesn’t mean all of them are. In our society women were targeted for so long and now that women are about to get revenge we are😢
How? All she says is only true for the online world. And only a tiny tiny part in the west. The real world does NOT hate men. Men have WAY more rights in most countries.
@@rokosbasilisk1529 Yes, people are trashing good men. Matt is a good man and he gets hated on all the time. My dad was hated on for, he also is a good man. I see it all the time, it breaks my heart because I also have a son.
@@rokosbasilisk1529 people are trashing good men by generalissimo and putting all men into the same category. Generalizing helps no one when it comes to things like this and it only causes more division and harm to the good men that exist.
I think as a married couple on social media she can see whether she gets more hate or her husband. In one video where they talked about their household chores distribution people jept telling her to „run“ and what a bad husband matt apparently was, where she had to do a follow up video talking about how she is really happy with it being this way
You do realise unequal distribution of household chores is a huge issue in heterosexual relationships? Those comments may have been a bit exaggerated, but they have a point. Men are applauded for literally doing the bare minimum, especially when it comes to being a parent and house work.
Both genders are being hated on for a lot of different reasons and we have a huge war going on between men and women online about who is worse and everybody’s pointing fingers. It’s so sad.
Ok but like everyone is being hated. Women are hated. Men are hated. Gay people are hated. The young, the rich, the old, the poor, absolutely everyone. I understand that she wants her son to have a good influence growing up, but there is a difference in between people hating and throwing names and lives being threatened. Not saying male lives aren't threatened, but the intensity from the "hate all men" campaigns came because of how men responded to them and we are just failing to aknowlage that, men embracing toxic masculinity to show how they're still in power over the misandrists, litteraly makes men more scary, and empowers ill willed individuals to do more ill will because now we're supporting this toxic masculinity under the pretext that were hating men too much. All while actual hate crimes are happening, sex trafficking for both men and women is at an all time high. Stop the hating. Stop the sides.
Ok come on that’s absolutely ridiculous, so what if they made a T-shirt saying ‘aloha dudes’?! There’s people dying in Gaza and THIS is what people choose to be offended by? All of us who stand in solidarity with Palestine were their flag or even their clothing to show our support, and guess what, we’re not even Palestinian! Everyone needs to get a grip.
Are we in a man hating society, or are we finally calling out toxic men who are abusive. Not to say toxic women dont exist, but like, what is she talking about? i haven't seen men being hated on simply for being men, and more for how they choose to control their selves. Edit for grammar
No men are hated on if they are too nice, men are hated on for supporting their own rights men are hated on for having an opinion men are hated on for being manly (literally being men) please open your eyes and realize “feminism” is NOG about equality for all but only getting equality when it benefits them and keeping men oppressed in ways they have always been oppressed (both genders are oppressed)
The belief in privileges, such as male privilege, allows those who feel victimized to treat the so-called privileged unfairly. Like, for instance, assuming that all white men are racist, or all men misogynistic or unworthy of their positions in life. This is why Marxism is horrible; it breeds divides where divides already naturally exists, as well as creates new ones.
@@Perpetuallytrying no holding men accountable would be saying “17% of men rape and should be put to death for it” (real number and my real belief) instead we live in the “yes all men” and “KAM” world THIS IS NOT HOLDING MEN ACCOUNTABLE THIS IS HATING MEN AS A SEX FOR WHAT LESS THAN 1IN 5 DO!!!
I’m a woman and I fail to see where the lie is…? I’m not particularly a fan of these two - or any “family blogger” for that matter - but she is not wrong here with regard to the pervasiveness of hate/negativity toward men in America (with a special focus on those of Caucasian descent). From depictions in entertainment and the mainstream media (including the largest of social media platforms), to the current format of our education system, to inequity and bias re parental rights.. and just the general expectations we have for men, coupled with an overall lack of support… it’s everywhere and nobody wants to see/admit it. Then you have a complete juxtaposition in society’s treatment of women today. We are practically coddled in comparison. And in a supreme lack of self-awareness, instead of realizing this, we respond with the most recent wave of “feminism” which is nothing more than a perversion of its valiant precursors. It has proved incredibly destructive in the process and, ironically, the long-term harm is more to ourselves than anyone else. The men on whom we blame all our problems are just collateral damage.
Abby's right. Right now everything is about race or gender. There is nothing wrong with hoping that your child doesn't get judge because of his gender, or the color of his skin etc... Right now you can pick men apart over their looks, their job, their weight, their everything. If you dare do that to a woman or trans woman you would be instantly hated or cancelled etc. People talk about love, acceptance, compassion, body positivity, safe places and blah blah blah... But that is only done for certain people. And if you are a man, a woman who likes being more of a traditional person\wife or conservative people or a Christian... Well you are screwed because they sure don't have the same acceptance for people that are different than them. They sure don't keep that same energy across the board for everyone. They are very entitled hypocrites that are filled with hate and are very judgemental and unaccepting. So they literally will go against everything they claim they stand for unfortunately. Smh!
@@owatson7648 yes they do. The courts, corporations, social media etc have all repeatedly discriminated against men. It’s definitely ingrained in our society. I have seen it multiple times with my own eyes. Men’s lives and careers have been ruined by vain, greedy, vapid, stupid selfish women and there was nothing they could do about it. Men can get physically abused by women and no one bats an eye. But some guy catcalls a woman and everyone goes ape shit over it. Not to mention the fact that a woman can sexually assault a man (even on live television) and there’s barely a fuss. But if a man does what the woman did? Men get treated badly. They are condemned far more than women. Even when doing the same things.
When violence against women drops, when men sexualizing women from the moment they hit puberty stops, when equal pay exists. I’ll quit bitching then. Yes yes poor men being called out.
Violence against women is higher that is true. But women sexualize men as well after puberty that is not a gender only thing, and the equal pay argument although it still exists we all have to admit that it's getting better and better. And still it's not a reason to look down on a child because they are going to become an adult man. There are bad men and there are bad women.
I dont agree or disagree but as a woman I would say there's inequality and we all know man has more freedom than woman. Also it's true her kid doesn't have to grow up like this but changes need to be made, like not murdering women and job inclusion and fair pay
She is stating facts. I say this as a woman who has watched other women make false assumptions about men, and treat them horribly for things they do themselves. Abby is not saying that women have things easy and are not sometimes treated poorly, she is just stating her worries as a parent. If she had a daughter she would probably realize the same thing.
the fact that talking about how she wants her "son" to be treated right, and not unfairly because of his gender is so controversial for some just proves her point.
I mean I understand your love for your son and husband, he’s a great guy and you have a beautiful son. But it’s not the same, they’re good people and as long as they’re brought up to be respectful, people will respect them back. People aren’t hating men, they’re hating the toxic culture of men in general. It’s different to hating a cohort of people based on gender. I think that’s why people were activated by these comments. Of course, say what you like, but just be prepared for people to respond. ❤ said with love and respect.
How can you hate a “toxic culture of men” without hating the very object of that culture? This comment is kind of ignorant and just sounds good, but it doesn’t really mean anything except “we can hate men, suck it up”.
@@APLW33 It is possible to dislike the toxic culture of men without hating men as a whole. Toxic culture refers to specific behaviors and attitudes that are harmful and negative, and it is essential to address and eliminate these behaviors and attitudes to create healthier interactions with everyone. It is important to recognize that not all men participate in toxic culture, and many men actively work to promote inclusivity, equality, and respect. Disliking toxic culture does not mean disliking men as a whole, but rather recognizing the harm that certain behaviors and attitudes can cause. I hope that makes sense.
@@cmoore7518 ur literally so wrong it’s sad af. woman also hate good men babe. Where tf have u been lately??? Not just the “toxic ones” talk consider anything toxic if it’s not your way. I’m a woman to I see it all the time. Y’all woman are JUST as shitty as those toxic men are probably worse it’s sad. Most y’all woman think y’all deserve EVERYTHING when most y’all are literally the worst. So no it doesn’t matter good woman or men your still treated like shit.
No it is not, women are more likely to get almost everything in a divorce and leaving men with hardly anything. Not to mention that women are more likely to get the children in a divorce even if they are unfit to parent the kids. I read an article a while back stating that a young child under the age of three was found dead in the apartment for days while the drug adict mother took off some where. All because the court did not want to give the child to the father even though he was fit. There was also another case similar to this one.
Birds of a feather flock together. Simple as that if a “good man” is knowingly friends with a “bad man” that “good man” isn’t good. Men do everything but hold each other accountable.
What did the baby do? Did he cry to be fed and it signifies the acceptance of the patriarchy? Of course when a baby girl does it, she’s just queen who knows what she wants.
People don’t hate men. Men are taught to act anyway they want to without regard for others, and so they do…and that’s what people hate. Suck it up. If you don’t want people to hate your son, teach him to be a good person, and they wont
1st of all, not ALL men are "taught to act anyway they want to without regard for others" that is very much a stereotype that has been created in people as they see certain people around them or online. Imagine this situation. someone tells a pregnant woman who is expecting a male to teach him to be a good person and then that same person tells another pregnant woman who is expecting a girl to teach her to be a good person. the 1st situation is more common but in reality it depends on the upbringing of a person if they're male, female or any gender. my point is not to defend any wrong doing a male has done to a female i understand that male ab*** is more exposed on the internet and irl but we cant assume a baby that is not even born yet to NOT be taught about being a good person and in the future might do wrong doings. That is the point im trying to prove. any person can do something wrong regardless of their gender and their upbringing is a vital role.
She shared her opinion!!!!!!! Everyone can have a opinion!!!!!!!! I hate that people think there opinions are the only ones that matter and if anyone else dares to think differently is wrong…. That’s crazy
She’s just trying to say a lot of people especially women talk trash abt men just because of OTHER men that do stupid things and are mean. So I believe what she is saying is that she wants other men and women to love and like her son even tho some men are mean because she will make sure her son treats women right.
shes right. when i was in highschool 3 years ago i had the mindset of “fuck men” because of what i see on the internet, constantly shitting on men & i thought every single man was bad ( also including in i grew up with a single mom so i had lots of resentment towards men growing up) . When covid hit, “ kill all men” started, more hate towards men were happening & i started to fall more towards that. once i deleted tik tok and formed my opinions off of my OWN experiences, everything changed. my male friends were more protective of me , my grandfather & uncles made me feel more loved & safe & much more. now dont get me wrong, men should be held accountable for their actions & they aren’t perfect as we know BUT they arent all bad. I no longer hate men & it has helped my relationships as a straight person strive way more when you dont have resentment towards the poor actions of other men. Please do not act like society doesn’t hate on men just as much as women. we all have our own struggles and will never understand what its like to be the opposite.
it’s weird because like I know what she’s trying to say in the context of what they were talking about but I think saying we live in a “man hating culture” is just the totally wrong way of addressing the problem.
It’s really not if more people would pay attention to the way women have started treating men they can’t even look at women without a women yelling out it’s disrespectful or disgusting there’re looking at them mens feelings are constantly pushed off and no one cares and have you seen the way so many of these women now brag about using men for there money then leave or they are constantly mad there man is not doing enough when there doing everything at this point many women and the values they have are shit
@@Sydneyworsham16I think that's the biggest thing. Men and women have shit values that translate into men hating women and women hating men. I don't necessarily think all men are hated, but I do think the crappier men that treat women like garbage or objects are. I understand both sides.
@@Sydneyworsham16you are thinking online. The world is nothing like how she describes. Only true for a very very small part There are 195 countries in the world and in most of them (if not all) men have more rights than women.
What Abby said here was absolutely false and disgusting. We don’t live in a “man hating culture”, we just finally live in a culture that’s starting to hold men accountable for oppressing women. The reason she even said this was because women on TikTok stood up for Abby when Matt himself made a video saying Abby does the grand majority of the work to take care of their baby. And because Abby’s upset about women asking if husbands do the same amount of work as their wives do. There’s nothing man hating about that. And Abby blamed women feeling this way on them in Abby’s eyes “projecting their own unhappiness in their relationship or in maybe being a single parent”. Which is such a stuck up and ridiculous and insensitive thing to say. No one’s saying this out of jealousy of Matt and Abby’s marriage, people are simply fighting for equality. But of course equality always feels like oppression to those who are use to being privileged. I followed and supported Matt and Abby for years even when they did a few other small problematic things, but this was the last straw for me. I will never support these people again and I hope they lose their platform. And if Abby is so worried about her son, maybe she shouldn’t be showing his face to the world, using him for content, and telling the world his full name and city/state where he lives. Abby needs to take responsibility and stop furthering the oppression of women. This behavior of hers is deplorable.
@@Yongchi97 You’re not just asking a question, you’re purposely being inflammatory. There’s nothing here to be obsessed with. Abby said something very wrong and I acknowledged it. If you don’t like that, too bad.
@@rebecaa7482 ok so you're not. Women who are truly oppressed don't have time of day to comment these things. Educate yourself on the hundreds of woman being killed in Iraq or other countries instead of bashing a poor woman who's worried fir her son's future
@@Yongchi97 As I said; you weren’t asking a genuine question. You were just being inflammatory. And now you’re strawmanning and it’s weak. Women are oppressed in America too. Women are being killed here too. There are wage gaps, sexism in just about everything in which women pay the price for, rape victims being blamed for what they were wearing, etc. There is absolutely no evidence whatsoever however that men are oppressed here in any way. We do not live in a “man hating culture”. That’s garbage. We unfortunately very much still live in a harmful patriarchal society. And Abby’s not “a poor woman who’s worried for her son’s future”. She’s the one who is clearly uneducated on this, and she’s the one being misogynistic. In context of this whole spiel she went on, Abby blamed single parents and other people with no evidence whatsoever to back that up. So why don’t you care about those mothers then? She’s upset that men are being held to the same standards as their wives. As I said in my above comment; equality feels like oppression to those who are use to privilege. And you can look at the comments on Matt and Abby’s own short of this clip; ru-vid.comy1mFdngbaPI?feature=share there’s many comments of people there, men and women alike, who see the truth of this the same way I do. And Matt and Abby chose to put this on the internet, therefore they voluntarily opened themselves up to criticism. And I gave valid criticism. I did not cross any lines and I did nothing wrong. If you believe this ridiculous and harmful narrative Abby is pushing then that’s your problem, and you’re the one who needs to be educated. Have the day you deserve.
I feel the same What Abby is saying is only true for a small part of the west and only in the online world. In most countries men have way more rights.
She is a young mother who was talking about the downsides of the life of a man. Since she has a little boy, all she wants to to protect him. I really don’t think she deserves the hate she is getting.
@@roselyngomez3271 omg are you not understanding my point?? who do it more? who are statistically more likely to do it? i don't see any female serial killers as much as male.
when women complain about men who are sexist or do shitty things, it’s because enough men do those things that it can be encapsulated in the form of a blanket/general statement. obviously women know not ALL men are bad, but the guys that aren’t assholes, the genuinely nice guys that aren’t misogynist, won’t get all defensive when they hear those statements because they’re secure in who they are. a guy who knows he isn’t a sexist douchebag won’t take immediate offense to those complaints since he knows they don’t apply to him. there are so many great guys i know that understand this, they’re real gems honestly. while her concerns as a mother are valid, i think it boils down to this: don’t raise your son to be an asshole who treats women like shit and he won’t be treated like he’s an asshole. women know good guys when they see them, contrary to popular belief.
Its simple. Raise him the best you can. If you dont agree with women hating men then he will learn to stay away from those specific women who may take it “too far” for ur liking. Good men arent hated. They just dont seem to be the majority
