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People think that not taking care of your hair because of depression is crazy but completely forget the fact that too many people kill themselves because of it as well. :(
reminds me of this tweet i saw a while back that said something like "'omg you get so depressed you don't brush your teeth?! gross!' people get so depressed they k¡ll themselves janet"
yeah and these people managed to find the bravery to go out in public with these mats to ask for help with their hair! Like BRAVO for the fight here - but also, who expects them to fight through regrowing their hair if you shave them bald?
Yeah self care and hygiene are the first things to slip when you get depressed, every little thing can seem insurmountable when you are depressed. You guys helped her self confidence immensely!
Y'all really are angels. I know the pit of darkness they endure. It's so hard to find your way out. Bless you for having a no judgement zone. Thank you. 💕
I grew up with a sister so depressed she wasn’t taking care of herself. I saw her hair get really matted too and she did end up shaving it. Sure the hair problem was solved, but she had 0 confidence and was afraid to leave our house afterwards. It was devastating to her, and made her depression even worse. Going through the knots can give hope to the people that need it the most. So good on you for doing this! She’s doing a lot better now as well.
people who think that those who struggle to care for themselves are lazy, are extremely privileged. they should be informed how lucky they are to be able to maintain "basic hygiene" before they go shame someone who is couragous enough to reach out for help. as someone who is disabled and mentally ill, there are plenty of days (sometimes weeks) where i dont brush my hair, teeth, or change my clothes. i have a loving partner who is able to help me when i struggle, but many people don't. regardless of someone's situation, you shouldn't be commenting on how you think they should live their life. there is no set way to go through life, and a lot of people need to be reminded of that. mind your business if you cant bring yourself to be kind.
I often have long periods when I don't shower, change my clothes, brush my teeth etc, only when I'm going somewhere. My family knows that I suffer from mental illness, my mother her self has had a perennial depression. I still get no understanding or empathy from them, they just think it's disgusting. I don't know what to do or say to make them or her understand, it's not like I WANT to live like this. I'm 32 years old and have lived back home again since 7 years back when I got sober from drugs and alcohol. It's gotten pretty lonely since I lost all my "friends".. You would think that at least mom would understand, but no 🙁
@@chaozinga I feel you. I’ve been there myself, and it can feel so isolating when no one understands what you’re going through and just assumes the worst about you and why you’re not taking care of yourself. I also lost all my friends after a long bout with depression because I was ashamed to let them see me in that state. It can be so hard. Hang in there and I wish for you to have better days ahead. ❤️
For some people, shaving their head and starting over is the best option. They need a fresh start and want a huge visible change to show the significance of their new start. But for most people, that would feel like giving up on the idea of being themself again. It can feel like losing something precious to them. And for them, keeping their hair is like a comfort blanket, carried over from before. From when they were healthy. It can make them feel like they have something 'normal' to hold on to, for when they're better again.
She didn't / doesn't have energy to take care of herself. So glad there are people like you who save the hair of people like her and give them a new reason to smile and maybe start healing, because there is no need for more trauma.
this poor girl, the hair breakage and everything. i hope she’s doing better. sometimes just getting your hair done and self care really gets the ball rolling. she’s so brave
Love seeing people with compassion. If depression and struggling mentally is what has gotten their hair in that shape.. could you imagine how their mental health would be if you shaved their head? Shaving ones head is never the answer. Patients, kindness, and a little love...
Yes and reading thru the comments on theirs and others matted hair being brought back to life by kind hair dressers willing to help only to have ignorant judgmental ppl shame them in the comments it breaks my heart bc u just know they’ve heard it all before and tell it to themselves and don’t need strangers to say it once again
I have struggled with depression for 2 years and I still struggle to take care of myself, this morning I brushed my teeth for the first time in months, I’m so proud of everyone who has overcome their depression or has depression, because you are all superstars and I love you ❤️❤️
🫂💚🙏🏻💚🫂 sending you love & hugs! Been struggling bad about 4yrs, since my autoimmune conditions got worse & made mobility extremely painful... You are not alone 🫂🫂
I can understand how that can happen. When depression hits a person it’s like all a person can do is sleep. Bravo to her for sharing her story!! These ladies are amazing
My hair once looked like this because of the depression, and no matter how many womens I would go to, they never could fix it. eventually i had to cut it off completely and start to wear a wig. sometimes people who have depression can't get out of bed. they need to stay focused on how to stay alive and survive the day. it's not that they don't care about themselves, they simply can't get themselves to do something they don't have to do to survive, and even those are sometimes too much.
I made this comment 13 days ago. I received some feedback on how I might work things out myself because I could not afford to try to find someone to help me and then pay for that help. I couldn't physically untangle myself, but so grateful someone had tried to help that I got busy with my scissors. My daughter also helped. I now have 1 inch long hair all over my head. I feel like a new woman. I went to the doctor today and am being set up with home health to assist with bathing and grooming. I'm so grateful I am not alone. I want to thank everyone for sharing their stories. I you gave me courage.
Yall are angels. Im literally crying right now. I barely got out of bed for 2 years... this is exactly how my hair was. When you are struggling to just convince yourself to stay on this earth 24/7, hair doesnt matter! I had ONE person that offered to try and help me. We got some out, but just cut most of it off. You cant even fathom how much you are doing for these people!❤
I’m really proud of her for seeking help & so thankful that there are ppl who care enough to do this type of work. When I was in my last depressive episode, I had trouble getting out of bed. & wouldn’t leave the house for months. I couldn’t do anything let alone prioritize self care. One of the steps I took to motivate myself was going to a stylist/salon to have my hair done. I used to dye & cut my own hair all the time, but I lost interest in it. Now I look forward to my appointments & leaving the house. It’s boosted my confidence & helped me start caring about myself more. I’ve even started driving again. It was a 1st step that led to a lot of positive changes for me. I hope this can do the same for her.
Not me crying because I have an appointment to get my head shaved broke my back in a car accident it was bedridden for a year after that I was depressed for the next year I can't afford to get all the way out to you unfortunately 😭. Thank you so much for helping people because I know this will kill me I'm native American and we do not cut our hair I'm going against everything
Any chance ur near sc? I'm needing mine done too and my mil tho I love her dearly is like just shave it! 🥺 If ur anywhere near close maybe we could help eachother
Thank you! No one can understand what it is like to be alone and trapped in your head with no way out. It takes so, SO, much to ask for help. Especially from this position. Thank you for your healing work, your advocacy, and your servants' heart. May God bless you and your team and clients.
Seeing the outgrown roots are not that long, I get that in about a month, it indeed matted fast. Depression is tough, one of the last things on your mind is your hair. Hoping she feels better now!
Different people have different rates of growth, and if she was unable to care for her hair, she was probably not eating nourishing food, which would further slow growth.
I remember I helped a client in need. She was so greatful with tears of joy after. She was in the hospital recovering for a month. She was growing out her natural curly hair from a relaxer. It brings so much joy helping someone🙏💜🙏
A year ago I was just like this lady. I finally got better after my boyfriend of 13 years died. I cut all of my very long hair off and moved back in my mom and I e been so happy every since. The old environment and situation I was in was killing me
I think during Covid many more of us have seen this . Thank goodness for all of the kind ,professionals who truly care . A neighbor had a helth crusys abd was in a hospital for months ,they took suvh good care of her but neglected her hair . A wonderful hairdresser took on the prihect with such kindness and empathy .
Thankyou for speaking on this. I've had this kind of depression and if you've never experienced this, you cannot know how hard it is to even get out of bed. Much less care for the self that you hate.
I have autism and adhd, and ive always struggled with brushing my hair regularly. My hair gets tangled very fast. I used to get mats in my hair all the time. Now, i try and brush or put my hair in braids, especially when in a depression spiral, though it doesnt always work. Youre doing so much for these people ❤
Completely agree and thank you for this. I have a family full of neuro divergent people who struggle with anxiety and depression. Being apart of it and witnessing mental struggles is the only way to even try to understand how it can go sometines.
I have been there. My hair looked like that once too and when I was finally ready to take care of it me and my mum spent 1 whole week brushing it out. I'm so grateful that she was there for me because it literally felt like a physical representation of my depression that I was carrying around with me. Sometimes when I get down it starts creeping back to getting like that but thank god I am well enough these days to take care of it before it gets to that stage again. Thank you for these videos, its so important for stuff like this to be seen as when it was me in that position I really felt like I was the only person in the world 'gross' enough to allow it to get that bad, now I feel a lot less alone! Xxx
Back when I was unmedicated for my depression, I didnt even know I had mats, i just thought that my braid extensions were supposed to take that long to remove, you guys are life savers❤
these videos y’all do, it gives me motivation to brush my hair. It’s been four days since I’ve had the energy to brush it. It’s getting pretty bad, but I’m going to stop doom scrolling and do something about it. I’m sure you all already know this. But you’re changing peoples lives by offering these services. You’re able to make such an impact on the quality of life for these people. You’re offering hope and confidence. You can’t put a price on that. Lord Bless your team. Thank you guys.
I can attest to this happening when my hair was matted....especially when I was experiencing bouts of depression and didn't realize how much you're emotional state is based on every facets of your life. 😢❤
Poor souls, God knows what they went through to come to this point. You and your team are doing a fantastic job to give them more of theor self confidence back by making their hair look so nice. Thank you ❤
Thank you for posting this. The empathy & compassion coming from you is unfortunately rare. I'm just about to start freeing my partner from the matted lump that started out as his ponytail. Thanx
You are doing so mutch fore this people! I have been depprest so many times, fore years sometimes. And you dont have the strength to take care of your self. You are sent from haven girl,s❤️🙏🏼
I'm taking a mental health class, and keeping up with self-care habits is a super common struggle with depression. Learning that has helped me feel less ashamed that I'm dealing with it myself right now.
God Bless you praying for these young ladies HELP me pray for each one of them Please Don't be ugly and talking about these young ladies this could be your daughter your sister your aunt even your mama so please be kind and love them through prayer
Genuinely, at my lowest points, I just gave up and shaved my head. I'm starting to take care of my hair more now, but it's still hard to just get up and take care of myself. Depression and disability are rough to go through and just know that there are people out there who are willing to help
only reason my hair didn’t end up like this when i was depressed was because i was a 6th grader scared to be judged. i had smaller hidden mats in my hair but i always got them out before it got noticeable because i was scared. however other unseen hygiene disappeared during that time. i showered maybe once every 2 weeks and brushed my teeth even less, even only using water when i did. i had to have the rest of my baby teeth pulled because of how bad the cavities were, the cavities were visible holes in my teeth that caused me pain day and night. it was terrible and i still struggle with personal hygiene today but i’m glad there’s people like this salon helping people through it ❤️
These videos give me an insight into how they saved my neighbors hair. I’ve been curious for years but have more of a clue now. :) (neighbor was caught in a house explosion/fire. She was less injured than you’d expect but being a teenage girl, was horrified that her hair had fused to itself from the heat. It took 3-5 people working 10 hours but they managed to only need to shave a thin strip.)
I’m so sorry that you went through that woman 😢 I can’t understand a little bit on how or why But you appear to be climbing back up from rock bottom ❤you got this you can’t stop now I know it must be hard but you do got this
people really don’t understand how terrible depression can get, i didn’t brush my teeth for a few years because of it. my hair only got done because other people scheduled appointments for me and drove me to them. when you’re living in that kind of state, taking care of yourself/your hygiene stops mattering.
I feel that so hard. Depression plus sensory issues has gotten my hair in some unfun places. I’m doing alright with it now, but it’s still a struggle to wash it and I don’t brush it everyday. I really hope this helped her get a fresh start, or at least feel somewhat better ❤️
Most people dont know what depression really is like. You cannot even do the simplest thing, no strenght or motivation. She must have been so depressed to not even have the strenght to comb her hair. Courageous to go to the hairdressor to ask them to help her! Her hair came out great!
Honesty love watching these and seeing you help people. Just want to mention when i think, "shave it", thats just what i would do. Thats what would make me feel good if i was coming out of a bad depression. I often consider shaving my head just when i get too hot or have a headache. I know other other people wouldnt think that, im just explaining my (and possibly others) knee jerk reaction.
Also telling them to shave is just so so rude. If they (as a depressed, or recently depressed person) managed to get their butt to that salon and sit there for a full work day (you couldn't get me to do that now, and I'm fine) they clearly deeply, deeply care about having their hair like it is.
And when depression is the cause of the knots, shaving the hair is a huge self esteem hit and can make it so much worse. Depression is fought with small wins and big wins, not defeats, failures, or giving up. And shaving the hair would be the opposite of a win.
people will judge someone for being depressed and not being able to take care of themselves, BUT DEPRESSION KILLED PEOPLE!! they’re trying to survive!! brushing their hair is the least of their worried
This reminds me of when I was 7 and I got my Nana's tiny round brush stuck in my hair to the scalp and the wonderful woman my mom took my to took 5 hours detangling it while I sobbed about losing my hair. She was an absolute angel
🤔♥️You guys at Tone Hair Salon are amazing helping these women band together detangle their hair and restoration the women's confidence back. These women went from Salon to Salon asking to get their hair done but some of these Salons choose to turn them away. People like myself battle Mental Health Challenges for various reasons. We don't know what these women went through so have a open mind and compassion for some people who have Mental Health Challenges it could be your family and close friends maybe going through the same position.
I could easily get that depressed I sometimes I have to actually force myself to brush my hair and then I can go weak sometimes when I'm in the middle of going through a depression and it comes in waves
I've had some bad mats because of my depression and just not wanting to take care of myself, let alone take care of my hair. I did have most of it shaved off but that's because I wanted it shaved. I now do undercuts and with my amount of super thick hair it is best for me. I also do not get mats like that anymore. Thank you for caring.
A question out of the blue - how are you liking your undercut? Does it genuinely help with reducing some of that thickness at the nape and overall make things easier to manage on a day to day basis? Do you have to go back in for reshaving often? I ask because I am in a similar situation and have been sitting on the idea of an undercut for a few months now. Super duper thick curls, spotty mental health, and used to treating a hair wash with the same enthusiasm as changing multi-cat litter boxes. Just wanted to get real thoughts who actually went through with the cut for the same reasons I want to. 🥰
Hair really is the first thing that's neglected. I remember going 2-3 weeks without doing anything to mine but throwing it up into a bun or ponytail. It was hard to detangle so I couldn't possibly imagine these lovely ladies pain.
For years i never understood why people stop to take care of themself. Until i got a taste of deppresion myself. You really only can understand if you experienced.
This is so heart warming, I have very thick hair and fire about 3 years, I couldn't get them out, I had to cut them out and seeing these videos really helped me ❤❤