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@BlessGodStudios Год назад

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@ForceOfLightEntertainment Год назад

I am single and a minister. It is a hard task to find someone to spend the rest of your life with anytime but especially as a Christian. Trusting God for a spouse has required more faith than anything in my walk with God.

@mjbelle23 Год назад

Same boat sister !!!

@chessygloyna8507 Год назад

Amen. I’m praying for a husband. Every man I’ve dated has been a disaster.

@staciyoung6469 Год назад

This is so sad. We will be praying for the singles in the Body to be married.

@ForceOfLightEntertainment Год назад

@@staciyoung6469 very appreciated 🙏🏻

@ForceOfLightEntertainment Год назад

@Tyler Lee I’m in TN. Yes, it is difficult.

@lindag9975 Год назад

None of us have any right to criticize any other Christian because of whether they were or were not able to get married. God doesn't like people piling onto His kids who are already hurt.

@helenlee5686 Год назад

Agreed! It’s one thing to criticize but another to provide genuine and helpful feedback on how to improve

@Sacred_Fire Год назад

@Helen Lee are you saying that single Christians need to improve?

@goodial Год назад

@@Sacred_Fire well all need to improve and grow, married people as well (as christians and as human beings). I'm single and I definitely need to improve.

@helenlee5686 Год назад

@@goodial what goodial said

@insaneoflex01 Год назад

It’s a sign of the times. When the bible says “the love of many will grow cold” it’s not talking about nonbelievers. Nonbelievers can’t love. It’s talking about the church. The church has lost it’s ability to love and the symptoms show in record porn use, self pleasure, fornication. All within the church. Most young men are suicidal and don’t have any meaningful relationships. Men can improve, but when you get so cynical it no longer matters when women look at you. Now, i just struggle with wanting to die sooner rather than later. Nobody in church wants or cares about having this real conversation and so I often find myself pissing in the wind. Hope y’all have a lovely day

@koalalou68 Год назад

Singles do not necessarily have more time on their hands than married folks but we do have more flexibility and freedom in regards to how we use our time.

@Channyb89 Год назад

Somebody gets it 👏🏾

@JB-pd3ir 2 месяца назад

Not necessarily. For one, they may have to work two or three jobs to get by (especially if they are buying a home). They may also be called upon to take care of sick family or friends (probably more so than people that are married). Not to mention, singles have no one to help them with everyday chores. I remember when my uncle became a widower he said that everything was harder because he now had to take care of everything by himself (I found that surprising as his wife had been sick for several years but I guess the little she was able to do helped out, not to mention just having the company along with him when he went to the store, etc.)

@FaithwWorks 28 дней назад

I’m sure there’s lots of old folks at church who would never want to feel like they’re imposing but really do need help with different things throughout the week

@esavannah98 Год назад

it is ghetto out here . i can confirm lol 💀 glad you came to your senses ruslan lol . finding a godly spouse feels impossible sometimes. good thing that with him all things are possible .

@LadyCoyKoi Год назад

The Bible never bashed on single people. In fact, it praises people who practice abstinence. Married Christians need to understand that the Bible itself stated that abstinence is the ideal. The Bible clearly shows preference for single, abstinence people, void of sins of the flesh. If they aren't able to control themselves, they marry to safe face before the Lord. Thank you for this podcast and showing that other side of Christianity. Many blessings. Bendiciones! Ephesians 5:3 3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. 1 Corinthians 6:19 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 1 Corinthians 7:2 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. Romans 12:1 1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God-this is your true and proper worship.

@seekingsnowflakes Год назад

Well, I want to push back on that because God also said to multiply and fill the Earth! And since most of us don't live in monasteries - where sexual temptations would be much lower - then we should remember 1 Corinthians 7:2 "But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.". In addition, this was written about 2000 years ago - before the invention of internet porn - so I can only imagine that being celibate now is quite a lot harder, but that's only my opinion aha.

@bvillebikelady3651 Год назад

You would not believe the search I had for a church as a single! The "church ladies" would block their husbands from so much as saying "Hello", throw random men at my head, lecture me on my duty to marry and have kids, and ignore me. I finally found a great, bible based biker church, where I can learn, serve as much as I'm able, and encouraged to grow in Christ. Still a bit of a misfit, but accepted and supported in the Lord.

@aerogers4117 Год назад

I wasn't called to be single for ministry, have been in church my entire life, but here I am at 65, never married.

@CookieMonstro21 Год назад

😭

@jeaninehicks2907 Год назад

Oh wow, why?

@jeaninehicks2907 Год назад

Actually I can imagine why…I’m currently 37 and was attempting to date, but there seems to be a disconnect/communication barrier /misunderstanding between men and women. I went on a date with a Christian man after two weeks of messaging and talking over the phone and he thought it was OK to kiss on me on our first date. I told him no but he still continued to kiss me on my lips, my face, my neck my back. He saw nothing wrong with his behavior. He tried to make it my fault and say “most women, love compliments and kisses.” Us single Christian women are doomed 😣

@aerogers4117 Год назад

@@jeaninehicks2907 I was at a older singles event with church and a lady ask what was wrong with me that I couldn’t find a guy to marry me. Note that she had been divorced 3 times and was there looking for a guy to be #4.

@jeaninehicks2907 Год назад

@@aerogers4117 Dang. Well there is nothing wrong with us ☺️. It’s the men 😂

@alaska_realtor Год назад

I’m a Christian and for a while I absolutely refused to date Christian women because I was treated better by women outside the church. In my experience, and it’s anecdotal and not statistical, Christian women have all the same standards as the non-Christians and they simply layer on top of that that you also must be a 10/10 Christian. Men who are good at putting on a show are picked and those who are upfront with who they are are usually shunned. I don’t know if Jesus would get a date in this environment 😂

@Phoebe907 Год назад

Lol, that’s some good food for thought. I see you live in Alaska! Me too! Just subscribed :)

@bruceboyer8187 Месяц назад

Sadly you are spot on

@mezmurplace9296 Год назад

Christian men, please don’t miss this opportunity. Brenda will be a wonderful wife ❤

@josephmungai1799 Год назад

No. I know enough to be afraid of a famous woman, she be a disaster I tell you. Controlling, manipulative, overly spiritual......as a Christian guy, I give her a wide berth

@jdkayak7868 5 месяцев назад

She said she doesn't want complementarian men which eliminates 2/3 of the serious Christian men out there who want a woman who believes in sola scriptura.

@bruceboyer8187 Месяц назад

No thanks 😊

@rayurbieta3037 Год назад

It’s tuff out here but I totally agree with working on yourself while being single. But to be honest it can be discouraging sometimes since I’ve been told to find a spouse while serving in a church and being in the right community, but the community and church that I’m involved in does not have anyone my age.

@sethsampica9320 Год назад

Yes! Same!

@marcushenry2072 Год назад

Date older girl or younger girl

@kahundumatengu3543 Год назад

Find a GOOD church with single people your age

@Ray-hw4ig Год назад

@@kahundumatengu3543 it’s not always easy to leave and find another church when u serve, I play piano I can’t just up and leave and look for a church with singles my age

@elaineweaver12 Год назад

If you’re in a bigger city, consider searching up local meetups to mingle in that aren’t on Sundays 😊

@Musiqbox087 Год назад

This episode needs a round of applause 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 it’s hard in these single streets.

@williamh9798 Год назад

Bruh there are fake Christian’s everywhere

@JMarie-th8xe Год назад

Yes, even ones that say that very statement, lol.

@KFontLab Год назад

Agreed

@ProJatior Год назад

We are absolutely talking past each other. One of my biggest fears in a relationship is being misunderstood and misconstrued and that being used against me as a man.

@PassionsForHer Год назад

I’m interested to know why that’s a fear you have?

@natalie972 Год назад

Literally same and I’m a woman

@ProJatior Год назад

@@PassionsForHer I feel like I might be easy to take advantage of. I’m extremely honest. Also autistic she might not want to hear all my honesty 😆

@prodigaldaughter5978 Год назад

I hate “Christian” dating apps lol a lot of men that are not Christians go on these apps to pick up a “good” girl. Yuck. I’ll wait for the lord to bring me a man of gawd another way lol

@unknown-vo3di Год назад

Try going to an orthodox church

@bellacortez Год назад

The horror stories I've heard from women about dating sites and marrying men pretending to be christian only to show their true selves after the vows.

@guzlemuzle Год назад

I mean not a single date ive been from the apps has been a virgin so idk why you be blaming men.

@eunicebediako4986 Год назад

Same here Sis! Honestly! There are moments when it seems like only a miracle during these times! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿😪🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

@marcushenry2072 Год назад

There are good men on those apps, y’all just always go for the 1% man who says they are “Christian “ but never served in ministry or led a Bible study

@seanyonthemic Год назад

Single and a bi-vocational ministry with two jobs (full time and part time) I would say it is difficult in this day day and age. I WISH I had found someone in my Bible college or had been better at putting myself out there then, but God is still on the throne and in control even when I find myself discouraged in this area of my life. Sometimes it leads to depression. This is an encouraging and relatable video.

@KFontLab Год назад

You are not the same person you were. Our time is not his time.

@codewithtae6637 Год назад

Whether you're looking for a spouse, a job, or a breakthrough, read proverbs 16:3 and proverbs 3:5-6

@TyVodd Год назад

Man proverbs 16 really spoke to me rn, of why so many things in my life seem to not be working out. Thank you & God bless you

@codewithtae6637 Год назад

@@TyVodd I'm glad it helped. The word of God is powerful! God bless to you as well.

@TyVodd Год назад

@@codewithtae6637 I didn't even realize your name until now. Ironic I've been trying to get an opportunity in the software dev field, and it just hasnt worked out. Thanks for your encouragement

@codewithtae6637 Год назад

@@TyVodd My pleasure! Are you on LinkedIn?

@jamiajoyjohnson4818 Год назад

It was extremely difficult for me until I finally gave it to God. I believe He has a plan for my love life (esp since He told me years ago, twice, to be patient, everything will be ok), but the more I fought to do things my way, out of my own understanding, the more of a delay I was causing in that area of my life. I was finally able to release everything, truly heal, truly learn patience, truly learn to trust God, so now, although I'm still single, it doesn't bother me at all, because I know God's got me in the palm of His hand and everything will go according to His plan for my life :)

@JakeBrian Год назад

I think you’re right on with this man We need men who take on responsibility, love accountability, and adore the Lord. Everything else fixes itself

@prodigaldaughter5978 Год назад

"Adore the Lord" I love that! Yes we do need more men like that!

@reenitakeys3099 Год назад

Yes!!

@insaneoflex01 Год назад

yes that is all good, but it attracts women who've made mistakes and are single mothers (from my experience). The single women without children go after the man that will make them single mothers. I want to have OUR firstborn and not MY firstborn. I getting too jaded from these sorts of conversations.

@JakeBrian Год назад

@@insaneoflex01 so men that take accountability and love the Lord make single mothers? Math isn't adding up here

@kevatsavedbyYeshua Год назад

There are so many issues. If you’re pretty pretty, you will have a lot of options. Think of the women who are married to the pastors and leadership in your church. If you’re not typically pretty/handsome it takes even more time to find someone. Like many men and women in the church think like the world. Interracial relationships happen but eh, in the church it’s still though depending on where you live. Colorism… Financial gaps, level of dedication to the lord…. Man so much

@JMarie-th8xe Год назад

If that is your picture, you ARE pretty pretty! But yes, there's always a barrier. Mine is being 39 year old single mother who has chosen to remain celibate unless married. So that's finding a needle in a haystack for me also. I hadn't considered the other factors that make it hard.

@em77775 Год назад

I'm not so sure it's colorism but some people might find others from another ethnicity attractive but might feel like they might not relate as much or have too different cultures/lifestyles

@jayfreeman5117 Год назад

I agree, especially with the interracial dating part.

@dmorcos001 2 месяца назад

I'm just gonna say as handsome man, it is much harder to find someone than a girl who is pretty pretty. I have yet to meet a gal that is christian and very pretty who is single because they get snatched up with the snap of a finger. This is a contrast I see clearly between attractive men and women

@tracyhope123 23 дня назад

@@dmorcos001have this same exact problem 😅

@naomi9449 Год назад

Being single in my early 20s is so confusing. Cause half of my friends are getting married and the other half aren’t. I don’t want to be single but I also don’t know if I’m in a place where I can hold my standards. I’ve done the online dating and it’s treacherous it’s actually the worst experience I’ve ever had in my life. Online dating has become a game at this point for me but it’s not really anymore to me. There’s guys at my church but they already found a girl or they’re not looking for a girl like me. So I’m kinda stuck in this place where I’m unsatisfied but wanting to be okay where my life is right now relationship wise.

@frankmawoza4208 Год назад

Hi Naomi, nice to meet you, i just read your comment. Do you have any social links I can reach you on so we can hopefully change this situation?

@everyevery6136 Год назад

What do you mean by not looking for a girl like you?

@josephbrandenburg4373 Год назад

Yeah, same here. And it doesn't help when pastoral council is the same tired "don't idolize the relationship", "focus on friendships", or better yet "just wait on God" (while the church - that is, his body on earth, does precisely nothing to help).

@candacesmith5572 Год назад

Girl yes I have tried most of the same dating ones too. Abstinent and most times got the same. Yeah guys don't believe you're abstinent, but then they're like wait you're for real🏃So I have just learned to embrace this season. Enjoy the healing heart stays open to show love. It may happen, but if it doesn't it is well with my soul.

@maybellinelover Год назад

I met my husband on Facebook dating. I liked that it felt more casual. Since I was already on Facebook, I didn't feel like I was doing something out of the ordinary.

@2breezyrn74 Год назад

We tried to tell you Ruslan

@helenlee5686 Год назад

Right? It’s ghetto out here 😂😂

@bearpreaching2778 Год назад

"Be willing to become part of the top 30% of earners." So what would your advice be for men making below that? Cause there necessarily has to be a bottom 70% in society. A common theme I hear from, especially redpill spaces, is the idea of being essentially top dog and any less means you don't deserve to have a family. Surely there is more to life for the average guy than simply being a worker drone till old age takes us?

@itsspencerlee Год назад

As a fellow LA dweller.... it is possibly the most difficult city to date in as a real Jesus follower... on top of it just being difficult in general on 2023.

@12magner05 Год назад

Dating apps as a concept can be toxic. The subtle mindset they encourages is this:”I have plenty of options on this app. I need to find what’s right for me, and what fits my preferences.” And then when you start a relationship all you’re thinking about is yourself. Your preferences. Your pleasure. Is that true all the time? No. But be wary.

@travisrose7164 Год назад

Being single in these times does kinda suck, especially since before I surrendered my life I was an out of control atheist that only did hook up culture. Now I'm 36, heavily covered in tattoos(like sleeves, full head, the works), and attend a church that consists primarily of college students and married people. But, I do know that God will provide for me when the time is right.

@prodigaldaughter5978 Год назад

Hey listen that's just a part of your testimony! My young adults group is made up of college students and married couple. I feel you on that

@nessparadis6948 Год назад

What’s a full head?

@travisrose7164 Год назад

@@nessparadis6948 not my face or neck, but where the average hairline is and my ears.

@keyshield5777 Год назад

This is so true it's tough and crazy out here for Christian singles!!!

@ms_opera_glam Год назад

I love Brenda!!! Glad you had her on here. Good conversation so far.

@spicygingercat Год назад

I’m a 31yo woman and I just got engaged to a 24yo godly man that I met on Hinge. I had to date a lot of frogs before I met my prince, but it is possible 😂 and sometimes in ways you wouldn’t expect. I did not expect to end up with a guy that much younger than me but alas, that is what God had for me 😊

@kevinklein9565 Год назад

Bumble is not when random person pops up on a camera. Just like most apps, but tailored towards woman’s comfort

@helenlee5686 Год назад

The title of this should be maybe zach was too hard on single Christians with the whole “it’s a you problem” 😂

@Jacobashymo Год назад

Real talk though girls were more interested in sex on Christian mingle than on tinder or bumble when I was dating

@LaMarieOne Год назад

That is sad

@cptheartist Год назад

I love this video. Ruslan's face in here is priceless 😂

@BlessedBaeLLC Год назад

Brenda give me hope in my walk. Ima keep waiting and praying❤

@jennysteward1675 Год назад

Flexibility is not a thing women would like. Flexibility is necessary for a woman. Can’t be a help meet if I can’t maneuver.

@MyriamBernard13 Год назад

I’m late to this but wanted to say, LOVE seeing more women on the show! I know this channel focuses on Men (as it should, I totally get it and don’t mind!) but still nice to see every now and then :)

@christianserna9528 Год назад

Hey Ruslan this is a good one, gracias

@joshualewis8923 Год назад

For girls, the challenge is finding a guy that has character and is serious For guys, there are two different challenges, roughly depending on your age: under 27: being attractive/wealthy enough to date the girl you’re looking for 28+: finding a girl with character, one who either never had a party phase, or who repented from it

@yblackie Год назад

Lol I get the difference between under 28 and 28+ men, but shouldn't the challenge be, finding someone who is serious about their relationship with Christ? I feel like having to do some digging or detective work about the girl's past is a waste of time and effort, particularly when it's impossible to know someone's heart.

@NoName-sp5dp Год назад

It’s not hard to find someone that has repented from anything. Idk where you’re hanging out

@1989pfrost Год назад

I would think church would be a good place to meet someone who shares your faith.

@mora945 Год назад

No in my opinion this is no longer the case. There are not that many single men in church compared to women. And then you have to factor in age, preferences and then the persons willingness to connect.

@Infrazale Год назад

@@mora945The male to female gender ratio of church is determined by age. Churches, in most case, are comprised of men under 30 and women over 40. Can't expect those two to partner up.

@KFontLab Год назад

There are plenty of men and women that are in church, but the life they live could be very different from yours. Just because people attend doesn’t mean they really down for that life forreal

@bruceboyer8187 Месяц назад

You thought wrong 😅

@jadedrac0 Год назад

Yeah it’s really tough. I’ve been doing ministry since my early 20s ywam missions, youth ministries in America, lived in South Korea for awhile and started a suicide prevention ministry was really successful . I come back to the usa around 2016 and finally decide to work on my own future Im 29 at the time I go to trade school learn welding and start trying to date. I had no problem connecting with “christian” women on dating sites but most are single mothers and some I dated were sexually aggressive wanting to do stuff. I finally meet one I feel like I could marry but find out she’s been lying about some serious stuff so I was crushed. I do think there’s a hint of truth to what the redpill community has been saying dating in your early 30s as a man is a nightmare. I’ve decided to go back into the mission field again, I just don’t feel like rolling the dice on something God never promised but pursuing God with everything I got I’ll never be disappointed. I think it would be more helpful to encourage young men to the mission field these days rather then prepare them for marriage after all Jesus did say the labors in the field are few and we should focus on the Kingdom of God not our own little kingdom’s

@josephbrandenburg4373 Год назад

It's not a mutually exclusive decision. Plenty of people work for the kingdom of God precisely through the means of raising their families. Besides it's hard to apply this advice. What exactly does it mean to go into ministry? The answer is different for everyone.

@jadedrac0 Год назад

@@josephbrandenburg4373 when I say mission field I’m talking about talking about reaching the unreached people groups in different countries ,the Great Commission, Jesus’s final command. This is dangerous work and is more practical as a single person rather then a married person with a family. While being married is great the Apostle paul said it is better to be single so that your attention is not divided between a man’s focus on God and a man’s focus on his wife and the need to provide.

@josephbrandenburg4373 Год назад

@@jadedrac0 going across the world, learning a difficult foreign language, adapting to an alien culture... none of this seems like a very good idea for people who are suffering from loneliness. Also it takes a certain kind of skill that not everyone has. I'm not really disputing the need to send people out. But I don't think that single people who are longing for a spouse will be much better able to focus on God's kingdom than married people. Besides I think people ignore the context of that bit in Corinthians. Paul's other writings reveal a high view of marriage (especially Ephesians 5). The epistle to the Corinthians was written in a time and place of great persecution, and in fact, Paul makes it clear that the passage following 1 Cor 25 is his judgement, and not a command from the Lord. He starts by saying "Because of the present crisis..." -- it's not meant to be universally applicable.

@KiearraDScruggs Год назад

She had a better view of Facebook dating than me, I have been as specific as I possibly could be and men would still say outlandish things to me that, that pure debauchery, utterly immortal and it be weird because my Profile constantly chance to be more and more specific to it just being, I'm a born again Christian, to admitting my abstinent, to straight up saying don't say anything to me dirty or inappropriate and somehow they find their way around. One guy got mad at me because I'm saving myself until marriage and hit me with the "Well what if you never get married?" thing, I'm still gonna obey God. 😊 I brought up Paul saying that it is better to be single in the means to explain more it turned into I'm brainwashed and brutally trying to diminish Paul. Facebook dating 🥴was definitely not worthwhile for me. On the Christian apps they say they’re Christian and then try to still talk inappropriately, like why are you here? 😭But there's an app called the SexlessTribe specifically for Christians who are saving themselves until marriage that is pretty good. It's more of a forum page app, like Twitter rather than Facebook because you can meet likeminded friends on their too.

@m_jay5 7 месяцев назад

As a man being "friendzoned" on more than one occasion all through my late teens and 20s has made me completely bitter because it's nothing more than a sad reminder that I've never been able to succeed in having a successful relationship with a woman! :/ Now I'm in my 30s - Being single and in your 30s in the church is just depressing, part of the reason I've been watching online sermons at home for years now. The church has also failed to help people meet their future spouse so is it any wonder that more Christians have resorted to online dating apps :/ and then we can't forget men can't even safely ask a woman out anymore all thanks to the feminism / metoo movements

@CharTheStarMeetsLadyBleak Год назад

I really think it is harder for men to be husbands than before because the system was made for them, plus it is WAY more expensive to raise a family. It takes alot more intentionality to create the life you want. We really need matchmakers today

@tiffanyagyarko6295 Год назад

greattt episode... please def have more female guests...this podcast episode with Brenda made me subscribe after like a year or two of seeing your channel around :) !!

@minimatemasterworks Месяц назад

We're still pretending women do all the householed chores because women said they do all the chores in a survey? Man what a world it would be if that were true.

@Saint.questions Год назад

Thank you. That was insightful.

@judon4908 Год назад

"I tried online dating during the pandemic." 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

@tina27luv Год назад

Curious how is that a red flag? People weren’t meeting in person during the pandemic so that was the space to connect.

@judon4908 Год назад

@@tina27luv The Pandemic was definitely not the time to be connecting with new people, it was a time to refrain from meeting new people and limiting time with familiar people. For someone to be actively seeking to meet new people in a time when a conversation could possibly kill you and your family is definitely a red flag in my book.

@Gino597 Год назад

I've been single for 13 years i don't have a wife or kids, i guess I'm not ready for commitment but i shouldn't beat myself for that.

@NathanMarchandAuthor Месяц назад

“Top 30 percent of earners.” Translation: Get rich if you want to get married. 🙄

@Blacknight6577 Год назад

I been married for 5 years and knew my wife for 7 years. That being said, I can understand what she’s saying and the struggles so idk what it’s “hard to understand”. I mean it’s not that different from like 10-15 years ago except it’s more social media focused. That and probably cus I watch videos about people talking about this dating era and how it sucks. I do feel sorry for them honestly and even if I was single today I would still do what I did before and just meet people in person than online or at least I wouldn’t just jump into dating online right away and meet people online to build a friendship.

@KFontLab Год назад

That’s the problem though people are not putting in the work or get to know people for real. It’s like rush-rush. There are definitely men and women who are great that are still out there, but God has to be included in the process. Blessings to you guys❤

@khathuluvhimbi7977 Год назад

Video quality is 🔥

@moniquehazzard1383 Год назад

I’m sooo glad you talked about encouraging single men to prepare to be husbands. Likewise single women need to prepare to be wives. Women should focus on cleaning out baggage from previous men, especially Dads and exes. Are you still angry? Still complaining? Still hurt? Ask God to help you process thru the emotional layers and find healing. One of the top qualities a wife can have is an easygoing forgiving heart. This is what God taught me before I met my husband. Now we’re 9 years strong!

@Dannean7 Месяц назад

I agree Facebook Dating actually gave me a solid experience. The men were not a match but I had some solid dates.

@BlessedBaeLLC Год назад

Because its hard out here fr...

@JasmyneContours 2 месяца назад

May we please factor in the ratio between men to women? Consider the men who: ☑️ take female identities ☑️ want homosexual relationships ☑️ are Married ☑️ Scared to be Married ☑️ Don't Want Marriage It's impossible for us to all find our life companion. We have to find intimacy with God and learn how to survive on our own.

@glstka5710 Месяц назад

1:13 I moved from L A to the Philippines in 2010. don't want to go back.

@johannes6760 Год назад

All the churched dudes I know would never consider dating a female who's a preacher.

@haydenyates1746 5 месяцев назад

Good

@theduke6174 Год назад

She was all over the place, is this the best you could offer us Ruslan ??

@maxineadderley5378 Год назад

Let's be blunt here, there are many women who stayed home to “raise children “ only at taxpayers' expense with multiple children and no father in the house, so this does not apply to all mothers. Too many people are having children because they are biologically able to but not responsible for their provision

@BlackMist123 Год назад

Fantastic point!!

@dahliaherrod4301 Год назад

How would you like these women to proceed forward if they've now given their life to God?

@NoName-sp5dp Год назад

@@dahliaherrod4301exactly. Idk what this comment was supposed to. Do

@NoName-sp5dp Год назад

What is taxpayers? Many single mothers pay for their own children. Your comment is very ignorant

@samuraishogun8395 Год назад

I am a christian who was born not being able to have children. I know its not impossible for me to find a partner but it has proved (so far) impossible to keep one, especially when a woman figures out she only has so much time to have a child ,then realize they will never have my child. I don't despair because my siblings all have children and all of their children, i know will be saved by god because of me. Weather or not i am single is completely meaningless to me because god told me what my purpouse is. Somehow you have missed a part of his message to you i think. I know you will see this so I pray you give some thought about my story and maybe you will find that piece of the message you are missing.

@audiojake8 18 дней назад

So she is saying she doesn't want to stay home and raise her child after six years or so?

@Yiyosarante1 Год назад

Try putting the ending comercial first maybe 🤔

@thegamingkitchen8429 Год назад

Its called christian mingle.

@joelfeddersen6136 Год назад

Please see if you could interview Joe Heschmeyer, Jimmy Akin, Michael Lofton or Scott Hahn

@MikeDonesVisuals Месяц назад

I wonder why don’t just invite Fresh and Fit to your podcast since you mention them a lot? Most likely a better conversation than always having an echo chamber.

@bruceboyer8187 Месяц назад

Love that you tell men to be the top 30% earners so mom can be mom and dad can home and do chores after being the sole provider and at record setting levels, don't ya know 😅😅😅

@chrisbrass8930 Месяц назад

l won't say that I'm as pure as the wind driven snow, but I will say that the only premarital sex I've engaged in was when my girlfriend initiated it. No more, I learned the hard way, if she won't respect my boundaries prior to marriage, she won't respect them after marriage. My last girlfriend I broke it off when she tried to pressure me into sex after telling her no, I want to wait until marriage. Told my ex wife the same thing but compromised my values just get her to stop. Sorry to be the outlaw here, but modern women are, in my opinion, just as bad as the men, maybe even worse because if you set up boundaries, they are offended and take it personally

@glstka5710 Месяц назад

2:04 Online dating - BIG MISTAKE.

@robinconnelly6079 4 месяца назад

I watched most of this video and I get the general idea. For the record, I am happily in a relationship today but was single for many years. I have been a radical Christian for more than 40 years. I spent a lot of time in youth ministry and later I ran singles goups. I have deeply studied the bible on this and also marriage counseling and dating counseling. I noticed how you poo pooed the guys who were saying "you married in highschool, you know nothing". I need to shock you. They are 100% right. You know nothing. You are speaking into a world you have never experienced and, honestly, man, you are a bit cocky. Let's be real. Please go and do some research. A TON of research. You've brought a lady on to prove some of your points. And she is pretty cool and what she says is perfectly fine and Im not faulting anything said here but this is ONE lady. You need to interview 100 ladies. You need to start discussion groups and get the truth out. And they need to be 100% honest. Please do not draw far reaching conclusions from this one interview. This lady does not speak for all women. She's actually one of the cool ones, by the sound of it. What you say about moving men in the direction of being more manly, protector, provider etc sounds really good. I think there is a lot that can be achieved by being "the guy who's there" helping the guys who want to be there. But please be VERY VERY CAREFUL. You are NOT living in this world. I think (i don't know because only a woman could judge this) you are an "elite". Very attractive. The 1% that all women are shooting for. You have no idea what its like to be "mr average" in this toxic world of today's daing. It is not a bed of roses, believe me. Its very easy to judge from your perspective. There is a danger that you will choose sides in this instead of being objective about everything, I think you are already being somewhat judgmental. I don't know what you said in previous videos but it probably was not very good if they reacted like that. Many, many married pastors make the same mistakes you are making. There is very little good advice out there for singles. Most of it is the blind leading the blind, Im sorry to say. By comparison, the world of marriage counseling is very well covered. Brilliant, actually. It's common for marriage counselors to think they know it all when it comes to singles. Huge damage has happened as a result. Please listen to me. You are welcome to connect with me on LinkedIn. The pic is the same. I often do this but no one ever does connect. But maybe you will.

@JohnBaptist702 Год назад

Would you mind interviewing a single man as well? MOST women have it easier (NOT ALL) when it comes to dating than men. Especially men who are considered conventionally attractive with a decent amount of money to their name have a seriously hard time. There is a serious difference between how men and women date and it would be more helpful for me as a single man to hear another single man’s story.

@AtTheRim_ Год назад

How can you ask a woman this question knowing men have it extremely harder dating single in this generation 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ the ignorance to this topic actually bugs me yo😭😭😭

@johnmckenna1776 Год назад

Today's church is filled with tares (weeds) & wheat. In this environment you are going to have all kinds of trouble & hardships, as the light and the darkness have nothing in common. Look at Jesus teachings in *Matthew 13 the entire chapter. Then look at Jesus explanation of this parable of the wheat & tares. "Then he left the crowds and went into the house. And his disciples came to him, saying, “Explain to us the parable of the weeds of the field.” He answered, “The one who sows the good seed is the Son of Man. The field is the world, and the good seed is the sons of the kingdom. The weeds are the sons of the evil one, and the enemy who sowed them is the devil. The harvest is the end of the age, and the reapers are angels. Just as the weeds are gathered and burned with fire, so will it be at the end of the age. The Son of Man will send his angels, and they will gather out of his kingdom all causes of sin and all law-breakers, and throw them into the fiery furnace. In that place there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth. Then the righteous will shine like the sun in the kingdom of their Father. He who has ears, let him hear. Matthew 13:36-43 ESV

@fi_gabor7851 Год назад

I am single 36 year old women and the Red Pill guys are heavy in the dating pool. Im in DC btw.

@Uwanasora Месяц назад

Just was in DC with a friend, and she said that most guys on the dating apps in that area are heavily liberal. Kinda surprised to hear you say they are all red pill.

@treydee8442 Год назад

This is hilariously ironic … he downplays Andrew Tate and Kevin Samuels and in the same breath said he prescribes his followers work on being “ protector , provider and priest “ while they are single and to go to therapy. That’s literally the exact same message the Kevin Samuels taught , just branded differently.

@rachelrobinson2636 Год назад

Girl please repent 🙌 love you

@glstka5710 Месяц назад

2:08 And you avoided the Christian app?!?! No wonder it was a disaster - Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 2Cor6:14

@dcb6729 Месяц назад

Red pill speaks facts. Sorry it hurt your feelings. 😏

@jvolstad 5 месяцев назад

LA Christians? How about grace, unmerited favor?

@BruceJC75 Год назад

At a certain age it becomes too late for a relationship for men and women. At 35, it’s without a doubt, too late for me.

@whenyouwishuponastar6643 Год назад

No dating after 35?? What?? How old are you? 35 is still somewhat young.

@lipshine1 Год назад

All things are possible though God.

@racpatrice Год назад

Don't say that brother; the Word of God teaches that we are snared by the words of our mouth. Speak faith instead. I know it's tough...I'm 37 and single so yeah I get it. A female Christian friend of mine got married last year at 50yrs old! God is able.

@sjg5994 Год назад

Omg....no it's not. Seen toooo many stories of older people finding someone. It just because more of a challenge because the older we get the less we're willing to compromise on things. That's the problem. We still have to compromise.

@BlackMist123 Год назад

I say 50 for men and 30-35 for women if they want a family.

@johannes6760 Год назад

Some people should never be married. Stay single. It’s not the epitome of all that is glorious in life.

@robinconnelly6079 4 месяца назад

In addition. Just making a point here. The advice you're giving to men about getting in shape and all. When I met my girlfriend of today I thought to myself "ooh she's really hot, I'd better get in shape" and I said I'm going to start working out again and get a 6 pack. And she said "Nooo don't loose your podge, I like it". I have a dad bod. I go through periods of no exercise (mostly when business takes over and I'm flat out busy) and periods of regular exercise where I'm health conscious and all. I look after myself but I'm not a discipline freak. The point is, you don't understand women. You understand your wife. Maybe she wants a ripped guy. Everyone to his(her) own. But most women want a guy who is HEALTHY. (It's about who he is and what he does more than shape. The MIND). Lots of women find a dad-bod quite sexy. You are giving the advice to men that you think women will be attracted to because that's your experience. You look at a sexy woman and you know that comes from a lot of working out and discipline. So you assume that a guy must also do that to be attractive to women. Very common male mistake. But you're teaching it as truth. It's not. A man needs to work mostly on his MIND to attract women. Inner strength, confidence, find himself, core values etc. only about 25% of women are big into the shape like men. Women, by comparison should concentrate on the SHAPE. Men don't really notice if she's healthy or not. I'm just emphasizing my point in my previous post about that fact you really need to do a lot of homework before your broadcast your understanding of this subject to the world. There are going to be a lot of other things you've got wrong aswell. A good start would be "Mars and Venus on a date" by John Gray. Read it. STUDY it. Take my other advice about group research and so on. Then add your own unique perspective and you will be GREAT on social media.

@Arcanon10 Год назад

Kinda-Christian is not Christian. Christ is either everything, or He is nothing.

@arcguardian Год назад

Men want flexibility too lol.

@jasonbirchoff2605 Год назад

umm... am I crazy... how can you be "dating in the church" if your on a dating app with everyone who is not in the church. shouldnt you be utilizing church networking events to identify potential mates. not dating apps. I can see how Facebook dating could help with this. because it reinforces real life network. but the other apps should be verboten for a christian trying to date. How is that not like known common knowledge for this young lady.

@velasquezcarter2963 Год назад

I believe she mentioned that the men she was selected had “ Christian “ in their bios. plus with church events your going to build relationships and understanding of God , not dating ..

@glstka5710 Месяц назад

1:53 You want to get married but your dress and style is an example of why I went to the Philippines to find a wife. Women in the USA are men with slightly different body parts. Filipinas know how to be feminine.

Год назад

Stop accepting coffee dates that's your first problem

@ethanweber6744 Год назад

Huh why??

@BlackMist123 Год назад

@@ethanweber6744 I'm getting get the bag/gold digger vibes.

Год назад

@@BlackMist123 gold digger is not accepting coffee dates lol. The bar is in hell ajaaa. Yall have fun getting what you deserve

Год назад

@@ethanweber6744 high effort usually equates high care. Don't settle for anything less. It's not just about the money it's the intent, effort level and consistency. Cheap effort he probably doesn't really like you like that

@johannes6760 Год назад

Riana only accepts first dates of a $20k boat cruise and a $5k candle lit dinner.

@nwp9062 Год назад

To be fair, you haven't been on the dating scene for 20 years. Let's talk about HoeFlation,. Men today have to work 5 times as hard for women 20 times worst than their Great Grandfathers were able to get. Most modern women have been Ran through. They are not wife material. Let's bring on Men , to counter the dilutional womenist position. Bring on Men that have been through the bias family courts, and been destroyed by modern women. Bring on Divorce attorneys that deal with the modern women disasters. And to be honest, there is no God in Divorce court. The judge does not ask the woman if she is a Christian and why she is breaking her vows. 80% of divorces are filed by women, so don't disparage men's reality by labeling them in some dismissive way.

@em77775 Год назад

Everyone always wants to point out how women are the main ones filing without wondering why? The big reasons why are probably because the men are absolutely treacherous, abusive, neglectful and unfaithful, and the woman tried and tried and tried for years and years because all women really want is to be loved and cared for and have security and the man simply won't. It's not the story that keeps getting spun out there by the red pill dudes who think they just want to go and find someone "better." Although if you've had a horrifically abusive and unfaithful man, just about anyone off the street would be better than the last.

@nwp9062 Год назад

@@em77775 Men already figured out why women are the ones filling for divorce. It's called hypergamy. As for women complaining about cheating men. 90% of women are throwing PP at the top 10% of men. So why would women expect those BIG D DADDIES to be faithful when they're getting all the PP? if women want a faithful man, then be content with an average man. Try dating the dude working at Taco Bell. He'll be faithful, but women say No way to those faithful guys. Right?