Men's guide to menopause 

No sex, no kissing, no physical intimacy for over 7 years. She has been in Peri for 10 years and doesn't look like it is ending soon (as her OBGYN says she is not close to Menopause). Cuddles? yeah - she doesn't want to touch, next to each other or anything. Just like an emotionally withdrawn mannequin. I am trying to get her to see a Peri/Menopause specialist (NAMS certified) - but that is always met with defiance, anger and opposition. I am at a loss - looking at 22 years of marriage and family just being lost. She will not avoid bad foods, sugar or other - won't take any of the supplements I have stocked up on - just opposing anything to help. She hasn't even told her OBGYN about her total loss of libido and desire - and we are on year 10 - like she wants to hide it and not deal with it in any way.

I’m a bloke watching this possibly going through the pre-menopause, my partner says she’s no idea what’s wrong with her, she’s 49 soon how do I tell her to go for a blood test, she has a GP appointment in 2 weeks, Wednesday she told me I may not be the right guy for her, then Saturday she says baby hang on in there I love you so much, she’s told me she hates college since her mood swings I’m getting to know a different person she was nothing at all like she is now, she says it’s not just me it’s everything, her family, college, myself she says she’s not even replying to people and that’s not like me

iv just watched this and its very transparent and insightful .... my partner has gone through the menopause for the last 9 years including HRT and its very strange for me to watch it from the outside looking in.... this clip is very educational for men... you should be on TV.

I believe the menopause ended my relationship with my ex Partner..

Hello Nicki. I am currently going through some issues with my wife that she has a lot of symptoms of the menopause stages. I want to give you a quick guide to all that my wife has gone through in the past few years. 1) She had lost custody to the oldest daughter shortly after we met. 2) her mom past away suddenly out of nowhere. 3) 2 weeks after that her grandma passed away due to cancer. 3) we have had financial difficulties due to the court hears of the custody battles. 4) the father of the oldest daughter is a narcissist. Everything has been going great between us in this time frame. She always has nothing but great things to say about me to others and tells me that she could not ask for anything more from a husband and stepfather. Just last night she had a moment where her emotions spiraled down. She came to talk to me later the next morning to say that she has no idea how she feels it has been feeling about us and she needs time apart to get herself and thoughts squared away. She knows she needs help and I am trying to be supportive it it’s hard when I can’t be there for her. She has had a lot of peri menopause or premenopause symptoms for about at least a year or 2. What advice can you give me to help support her it tough times like this when we have had little issues or arguments in the past. Like I said we have been great! Thanks again for reading this. Looking forward to hearing back from you!

Thank you for the video on how men can be supportive to the ur partner in peri menopause. Could you also do a video please advising women on how to make things easier on men, and how women shouldn't think they have a pass to mistreat and disrespect their man while in menopause? Women still have responsibilities towards their men during this I think.

I find it quite remarkable how menopause is selective, she never has an issue with anyone else so, also I find the name (men o pause) perfect for these symptoms... I see how NOT blaming her is correct but that's difficult when she treats me with suck crazy anger, she treats me like she hates me so how can I be that loving person to her when all I get is either silence or crazy outbursts, I love her so much for now but when she starts I can go weeks without talking to her... In a word I'm lonely... She's 51 im 46 I know this isn't the right way to deal with it but soon I'll need to walk away from a 28-year relationship, thats painfull...

Yes, I need to spend all of my time supporting my wife while I'm unsupported.......Is this video for Men or women?

So you like all the other videos put everything on the men to do more. We have done all the supporting we can do and still nothing. We are 10 years in and hasn’t gotten any better. All I keep hearing is help and support her. Nothing about help and support for men

There are very few insights as great as this! 😮thanks

Thankyou, really useful video.

Great video, just what i needed to understand and help my wife. Thankyou

I’m frustrated that nobody replied to this. I am in a similar boat and feel helpless.

Yes .

If shes makes your life hell, not her fault, but it's no way to live especially if she won't get help. My mother was abusive towards my father during her menopause and made his life hell. Only so much you should take. It's not your fault either. If it is a problem may have to think about yourself and leave. Odd's are she would.

I do everything in the relationship, Romance, massages, take care of her, calm her, ect.. name it I'm the night in shinning armor. 39 attractive and 16 years younger. I've been in the friend zone for 12 of the 16 years. After spoiling her with love, patience, romance etc...every day. Once a month I finally explode and basically have to beg for her to get in the mood, nothing else worked. I''m doing everything selflessly but everything is always about her and how she feels and what she wants to do. Mens love is unconditinal but a women just want to get more from us. Spoiling her with love does not work to get anything in return. If I start to treat my partner like she treats me will that work? I could start getting critical of everything she does, ignore, not touch her or even compliment.... Let me know if anyone else tried this sort of reverse psycology. She doesn't need to do anything to get my love and maybe thats the problem. She's never felt neglected, rejected or unloved like she makes me feel every single day and I keep coming but I'm getting tired of the loneliness. Ideas?

Even if the man is super supportive and does everything right by her.. its still over for him.. perimenopause signals the eventual end of the the relationship.. even if you stay together it's not the same anymore.. it's just kinda ruined

Okay , so men have to be supportive . Who supports the man?

I can't believe she didn't mention the importance of building a proper 'man cave' in order to survive this marital apocalypse.

Damn, so what’s the motivation for us men? Is there light at the end of the tunnel? Like will she be on normal again?

You can tell her, I’ve tried, but she won’t listen to you either…….

Almost every woman, on the topic of menopause, which concerns men generally starts with so, men, menopause, smile, ha ha. Like it’s some joke. Please be serious. IT’S NOT A JOKE. It’s a nightmare when your wife hates you (me). Stop being flippant about it. It only makes men hate it more. Ha ha! Stop it! I need support also. I mean it! Knowing what’s happening with my wife is not the support I need. Everything you are suggesting I’ve done for 25 years. It doesn’t help. Sorry.

buy a sporty car and find a yonger woman

My wife age 57 is going through menopause and it is ruining our marriage of 30 years she is not the woman I married all those years ago she has changed so much I think I am falling out of love with her and losing my patience at the same time I haven’t had sex in a few year’s now something is going to have to give and I have talked to her but apparently my needs are not important in this sexless relationship there are other things she can do that don’t involve vaginal penetration she can do oral? Or even anal she did all that before menopause I don’t know how much longer I can hold on? I have expressed my concerns that’s all I can do

Make a Man cave. Get a hobbie (biking, fishing, gym) Stay out of Her way Beer No matter what you do and how good you may be ... It will be your fault

So get a girlfriend. Got it.

Will you honor her and take care of her from. menopause to death. That's a long time being celibate.

Yes, husbands patience patience patience ... bow to the wife become her slave , serve her, get no sex/intimacy then after you have supported her for years there is a very good chance that she take your money and leave.