Elia um, depression very much is a mental disorder. It’s also a feeling as someone can feel situational depression, but to flat out say that depression is not a mental disorder is incorrect.
Omg this is me. I'm seen as not being entirely emotionally stable or over sensitive most of the times it happens. I get frustrated, I cry. I get angry, I cry. I get excited, I cry. Been like this my whole life.
Same. A lot of people react negatively to tears Bc it makes them feel guilty but I literally can’t control it sometimes :/ I try my best to hold it back though (slow breathing)
My tear reflexes are so annoyingly fragile like my professor asked me why i decided to design a university focused on science & technology and I was tearing up while explaining the importance of S&T and how much it's so undervalued. I just wanted to answer his question properly, not cry as if i'm overly dedicated to science lol
Me too, it’s so annoying because people at school think I’m really sensitive and annoying but I’m not actually really upset about something but I just cry
I hate how mental disorders are glorified and are almost used as something trendy... especially anxiety and depression. I have Clinical Anxiety and Depression and Diagnosed between November of 2017 - February of 2018. Honestly, this glorification of it has worsened my symptoms and even with a therapist, I have seen small improvement of the span of 7-8 months which is how long I've seen my therapist. This glorification of mental health needs to stop if you want the ones actually sick to start to recover. It honestly hurts... a lot.
Techniwolf Please stick with ur therapy. It can get better. I deal with it on a daily basis and my family rarely discusses it. But with meds and therapy, im so much better than I was. I am not young (lol) and have had it most of my adult life so I'm not just staying it.
Same....I have social anxiety and I get so physically scared and sick to leave my house sometimes. I am now living on my own for university and it is so difficult without my parents taking care of me and dealing with panic attacks on my own when they happen although it has decreased since high school. But I don't talk to anyone at university and I feel so alone because I just can't talk to people and I hate when people who seemingly joke and use anxiety as a synonym for a feeling and throw the word around without knowing how life altering it can be and casualise it's meaning and struggle.
its so true!.... i work in psych unit , depression and anxiety can be overshared, over advertised and glamorized but yet psychotic and more severe mental illness is still stigmatized...
So true!! I'm a med student and we regularly have to talk to and examine different patients as "training". During our psychiatry section we went to talk to patients with BPD and afterwards I was so ashamed of how scared I had been beforehand. It just goes to show how little realistic knowledge the general public has about things like antisocial disorder, BPD, schizophrenia, DID, etc. Most people don't even know that with the right form of support you can lead an almost normal life as a schizophrenic person and way too many people think that DID and schizophrenia are the same, that BPD is the same as being bipolar, etc etc.
yes this heavily frustrates me. i have depression and anxiety with schizotypal personality disorder. but i don’t share the third diagnosis as it will literally make people avoid me as soon as they hear the word ‘schizo’. yeah i see and hear things but i’m so much more than that. i can and will talk about depression and anxiety occasionally if someone asks me about my scars or something but schizo is off the books because i know how stigmatised it is. one day it won’t be. i hope :(
I have a really strong dislike for Shane's docuseries. It rubbed me the wrong way that they were called documentaries in the first place because documentaries take YEARS and tons of research. I couldn't watch any part of the Jake Paul series after he threw the word Sociopath out there, he knows the significance and stigma around that word. Shane used the word carelessly and used fake science for views, diagnosis over the internet is not a thing.
Sorry to tell ypu but most Documentaries aren't about tons of research and objective information but rahter about telling a story and a narritve in a specific style
I know that documentaries aren't about objectivity, they are a means to display a message powerfully. They do however take research, if they are intended to make a real impact. Shane's series resembles more of investigative journalism because the focus was him, and his journey, not the work itself.
Also the word "sociopath" is not a clinical term it is "antisocial personality disorder". I am not going to take any documentary/docuseries seriously if they are going to throw around that word without understanding what it means/where it came from.
Idk when this series came out but my guess is gonna be shortly after the suicide forest debacle. Idk if Jake Paul actually has aspd but his content is tacky anyway and appeals to a certain psychological demographic that might skew sadistic, since it's mostly immature stuff and pranks and him being disrespectful like how he behaved at the fish market in Japan, treating it like a playground instead of a legit place of business for people and local fishermen! During the same trip.
There is a nice analysis that talks about how this question formulated and what the answer mean to the system of youtube. By Big Joel ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-QK0Qo-UAvc0.html
Another one that is heavily stigmatized that you did not talk about is autism. I have a form of autism but I would not come across that way, because many people have a very specific image about it. It is a burden to my life every day and I really do feel as if I am the only one who experiences this.
I am autistic too! I wish people talked about it more and made more neuro diverse representation in the media such as youtubers being autistic, seeing autistic characters on tv (that’s actually accurate and sees us as not caring and good at math and all that “typical” autistic) and more.
@@hannahrenee2677 I feel like some creators make characters on the spectrum and don't realize it due to our prevalence in the world. And people thought that those of us with high functioning autism just had personality quirks or were eccentrics until about 20/30 years ago when asperger's started being diagnosed. When I think of characters I think of characters like Luna Lovegood, Jane Eyre, Eliza Bennett, Ford Prefect and Spongebob. They are passionate/kind/observant/ caring people who see the world differently.
Borderline personality disorder is one of the most stigmatized mental illnesses out there. We're seen as crazy, volatile people that will only hurt, betray and abuse the people in our surroundings. And for sure, some BPD people without self awareness never get to the point where they start working on their behaviours. But many of us are in such incredible pain and fear that we don't have any control over, but still try our hardest not to let down those we love. With the right treatment, many get to the point where they no longer fit the symptoms of BPD, and are in a sense "cured". But if people constantly abandon you because they assume you are crazy and will only let them down, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I've seen so people who I thought were my friends become gradually freaked out by me when I confided I have BPD. They started to isolate me, ghost me etc. Like, I'd literally stub myself in the back before hurting the ones I love, and that's the problem. I'm not a freaking monster.
As someone who truly has diagnosed ocd, I really appreciate you saying that people shouldn’t use ocd as a brand. They have NO idea what ocd feels like, and if they did they definitely wouldn’t make it into a brand, and just nonchalantly comment “oh yeah I just gotta quickly fix this because I HaVE oCd”
I struggle with mild depression and always feel like what I feel isn’t valid because my depression isn’t as bad as others. I think the mental health content surge overall hurt me as I feel it’s almost a race as to who can prove their more depressed than the other, as if they’re glamorizing depression and promoting the idea that if you aren’t depressed then your less human. However, some content creators out there have positively effected me. They talk about how their feeling and it reminds me that I’m not alone in this. Wait why am I saying all this? Anyway, I love your channel! Oh btw I haven’t even watched Shane’s videos because I A; don’t have any time to, and B; don’t want to watch him psychoanalyze someone for views and attention.
I can definitely relate to what you said. I've struggled with anxiety for 7 years now, but never been officially diagnosed because when it first got bad I thought there was something wrong with my heart like Tiffany said so I went to see my doctor and they just said it was a symptom of "a high achieving child." Now that I'm in college, I've started noticing symptoms of depression, but it doesn't feel bad enough to talk to anyone. Since I can still "function" it doesn't seem to be bad enough.
me too! i've only been getting panic attacks and depressive thoughts since a few months ago but i feel like it's just "oh you still can do this and that so you'll be fine" and i guess that's one of the reasons why i don't really open up to people about this.
I can totally relate! I had a friend who struggled with several mental illnesses and was super open about it. The first time I said I felt like I had anxiety and possibly depression, she completely dismissed my feelings. Three years later, I have only recently gone to see a therapist and been diagnosed with both anxiety and depression, which has damaged me pretty badly over the past few years mentally and physically. All of this because I wasn't presenting with the same severe symptoms she had.
It's a great thing you brought up the stigmatization of other "scarier" illnesses. It's amazing that on a wiiiide platform such as the internet, we can hear about depression and anxiety (even tho the stigma obviously isn't fully dispelled)! On the other hand, many other disorders I feel are not treated with the same compassion as the aforementioned. We still need A LOT of work on the ways we discuss personality disorders, dissociation/derealization, psychosis, addiction, etc. Many of the things we say ("crackhead", "psycho", "triggered") can be inadvertently harmful to those with more stigmatized mental health issues. It'll take a lot of work, definitely. Some youtubers I watch/used to watch but still find cool for talking about these things: AlexMax Han: talks about DID, sometimes trauma, overall positive mental health messages. Maya Imani Amani: topics mainly revolving around her life with schizophrenia, but also speaks on her personal traumas, bipolar disorder. Often very raw, so approach carefully. LikeKristen: videos mainly about anxiety and depression, but she also talks a lot about PTSD and self harm. Laura Lejeune: pretty laidback presence to her vids. She often shares her own recovery stories of eating disorders, self harm, and depression/anxiety.
It’s crazy to looks back to a few years ago; I saw a video talking about PTSD and I though “maybe that’s what I have” and then pushing it out of my mind until a year and a half ago when I was diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety, and depression. It does upset me when people make jokes about depression because it’s “relatable”.
it used to frustrate me as well, but i've kinda come to accept that it's a coping mechanism in most cases. Making jokes is actually how i started opening up about my depression to my friends. I get why it's upsetting though for some people because that shit is definitely not funny when you're going through it lol
@@jasminem812 I think you just need to be aware of those around you so as not to hurt anyone's feelings. But other than that I can see how joking can be therepeutic for some.
Actually, people who make regular jokes about depression, suicide or harmful/dark actions tend to be more lilely to suffer from depression or other illnesses, it is like a silent scream for help
I feel like nobody really talks about mental health in everyday life which isn’t right. Having good mental health is just as important as having good physical health. Ive seen so many people who bury their anxiety and problems including myself and it always blows up in your face, talking about it is something that should be accepted. The society we live in can be cruel and people feel ashamed about it, although they shouldn’t be. If your still reading this just know that if you wouldn’t say something to a friend to yourself don’t say it to yourself, you are with yourself all the time, be a friend to yourself. This advice are things I as well need to work on, it’s all a work in progress
Yo Tiffany, you should look into Betterhelp and how its a shady company that is a sponsorship for many youtubers. There is some tea about it in the lasted episode of the Baited podcast.
Off topic: Your teeth are looking so great and I love your sweater On topic: I really, really enjoy your “internet analysis” videos and hope you can make more!
im afraid trisha is a troll and a really good actress...for example like a lot of her break ups have been for views, but im not for sure, i dont regularly follow up with her
It’s even more messed up to think everything is real...in fact it’s easier for me to believe it’s fake, because if it’s real then someone needs to help her
I’ve had my tinfoil hat on for years when it comes to Trisha lol. I think it’s all (or mostly) staged, that she’s playing a character or something. If so it’s an impressive performance, but morally I’m not sure if faking all that is a good thing.
My at the time closest friend, after watching Shane Dawson’s sociopath videos told me I was definitely a sociopath. And it took me a long time to see myself as not one. Just because I’m quiet and sometimes a little mean doesn’t mean I have the condition. And just because she wants to be a doctor does not mean she is all knowing and can diagnose me. I have forgiven her. But others might not have. So yeah definitely don’t diagnose someone if you aren’t a professional haha.
Yeah. I was super depressed for a while (formally diagnosed) and I remember hearing stuff about sociopaths and then thinking I was one because I "didn't really feel emotions" and was numb, but that was just a symptom of my depression instead! I definitely feel more comfortable leaving these things to the professionals who have years of training and experience.
Even if someone's a mental health professional, you can't and shouldn't try to diagnose someone who's not your actual patient because casual socialization doesn't provide the proper environment for a diagnose. Also, friends and family can't be your patients because you're previously biased towards them. If you think someone could benefit from some help (don't we all?) the responsible thing to do is point them to the direction of a fellow professional, maybe someone who's specialized in what you suspect they can be struggling with and for the love of god keep your suppositions to yourself at least until there's a formal diagnose.
A Cote I’ve had depersonalisation for quiet a while and finding someone who talks about the disorder that isn’t discussed enough has 100% made me feel less alone and a lot better about the situation
A Cote when i was still undiagnosed for general anxiety with severe panic disorder in like,,,year 8 i was dealing with hallucinations and depersonalization daily and it was tErrifying for me. watching dodie’s stuff and learning that it was just a symptom/ a mental health issue and i wasnt,,,insane was so helpful ✨💕
My question is: why is there so much depression and anxiety these days? I mean what's the cause of that? Is there any correlation with social medias, occidental's lifestyle? I mean its either these disorders have always existed (duh) but just now people feel like its ok to open up about it (and it obviously is) or the disorders have been amplified somehow.. does this make sense?
It's all of those things, but IMO it's also a symptom of advanced capitalism. Check out neo-liberalism, you might be interested in the correlation of our society's current lifestyles and the rise in mental health issues.
We also need to take into account the rise of global population, it's gone from under 3 billions in 50ies to almostb 7,7 billions now. Even if % of mental illnesses decreased (I really have no idea) it would look like there's much more depression, anxiety etc now.
I think with so many mental health videos, people start to think they have one too even when they don’t. They think if you cry sometimes it is automatically depression. Sometimes, in my opinion, it’s a little bit over shared. People like to diagnose themselves with shit and that makes it hard for people with actual problems to want to get help
@@tarantulakat There's a very important difference between going through a rough patch in life and being mentally ill. Nobody said to dismiss anyone that's struggling. It's just that the general public is becoming too ignorant of what some mental illnesses actually are. Plus, the misuse of these terms (such as equating anxiety to nervousness or depression to sadness) is trivializing what some people have to suffer from on a daily basis.
Also, I think usually what happens to people who ARE actually mentally ill is they have a hard time accepting it and taking care ofbit. Because it's so painful. It feels like it will last forever and there's no way out, so why bother trying... Idk. All these things are on a spectrum, after all. People will deal with it their own way. It's just that I think that whoever is truly suffering will do their best to keep their suffering a secret and at bay, just as far away from them as possible.
It kinda undermine ppl with real diagnosed mental illness i dun think i have any mental illness becoz i’m quite a optimistic person but after i hear so so many ppl my age saying they’re “depressed “ or “ suffering through anxiety “ so on and it makes me roll my eyes every time i see another person since we duj really have psychiatrist or psychologists open for a majority in my country lol 99% of them are definitely self diagnosed becoz there’s no way a 16 yr old had the chance to go see a doctor right now lol ( at least in my country i guess )
I understand that they glorify mental illness but this has caused many people problems and everybody who say "the ones who are really depressed" honestly just triggers people to become more ill so they don't fell like they're lying. That's how I feel anyway all these people who say "you're not depressed" or "it is something much more complex" just makes my mild depression and social anxiety worsen. It's is not for you to decide how ill is actually ill.
Abirami Baskar yes! Also, a lot of this “you’re not really ill “ prevents people from expressing how they feel. It’s ok to joke about something as a coping mechanism. It’s not ok to joke about something you don’t have or don’t understand. But lots of people confuse the two as the same thing and attack anyone who does it.
I definitely think undiagnosed people should preface with "self diagnosed" rather than just "diagnosed" in case their self diagnosis is incorrect, otherwise they risk trivialising people who actually have said illness.
@@justperpetuallybothered3474Yet people who admit they are self diagnosed are ridiculed/not taken seriously because they just assume they are "looking for attention"
@@Kirgaby you're making sweeping generalisations. People who have been formally diagnosed get upset when self diagnosed people are insincere about not being professionally diagnosed because they CAN be wrong. There's a huge difference between a mental illness and briefly feeling down, sad, frustrated, scared or self conscious in response to something in your environment. It's like all these RU-vidrs claiming to have anxiety because they're just having a shit week. It's not the fucking same and it's trivialising
@@justperpetuallybothered3474 Yes the can be wrong but if someone thinks they might have a mental illness like anxiety and depression, even if they are not diagnosed, then we should NOT just dismiss it because they are not diagnosed. Also anxiety and deoression are pretty common and I don't think that everyone in youtube is just faking or claiming to have anxiety just because they have been feeling bad recently, you can't know for sure uf they are lying or just self diagnosing And even if they are wromg, you can't just get upset, what you can do is guide them, and make them know that they are or might be wrong and that they need to look for help.
@@Kirgaby you're putting words in my mouth because you want to argue. I'm not saying to DISMISS people who feel like something is wrong. I NEVER SAID THAT. YOU said that. I'm merely saying they need to make distinctions between self diagnosed and professionally diagnosed. Lots of mental illnesses overlap in symptoms but they ARE different and you could easily be misdiagnosing yourself altogether because you are not an expert! I'm also NOT making assumptions about whether or not a person is legitimately feeling bad. I'm saying that people who have NOT had the years of training and experience to diagnose mental illness should always remember that. Depression, whether or not it has a label on it, is STILL depression, but at the end of the day I always valued the assessment of multiple mental health professionals because I only thought I was stressed and maybe had anxiety. Turns out I had anxiety and host of other mental illnesses as well, and they needed professional treatment! Even my own suspicions about myself were way off. And I was suffering because of it. The WRONG diagnosis could lead to DEATH. Especially if said person is taking/not taking medications, prescribed or not. That is why it is SO important to get professional help. If you suspect you have something wrong, REACH OUT. There are free online services and other opportunities depending on where you live. Don't just self diagnose or make uneducated guesses. Actually connect with the people who want to help you. And the truth is, mental illness is being trivialised. People love making off hand comments about being depressed when they do not suffer from said illness, particularly on social media for clout and to boost engagement or views. It's something that has occurred on RU-vid countless times and has been criticised by prominent RU-vidrs. Fashion labels and indie brands make clothes that romanticise and thus mock mental illness sufferers. TV shows and media misrepresent mental illnesses, like 13 reasons why, then have the audacity to call their toxic trash fire groundbreaking and progressive. And that's the tea. I'm greatful people are more open regarding mental illness, but there is a downside to the way the labels of debilitating conditions are being liberally and haphazardly thrown around. A self diagnosis is not enough to treat mental illness, and I speak as a sufferer who is extremely grateful to be alive today.
I was recently diagnosed with OCD which as I talk with my therapist I see it’s something I’ve lived with my entire life... OCD is SO different for everyone and very nuanced!! To start off, I am the LEAST neat and organised person I know! I’m a disaster! But I still have the obsessions and compulsions that have at times destroyed my life and other times I could barely tell I had anxiety. As someone who has had some form of anxiety ( diagnosed with GAD, OCD, excoriation disorder, panic attacks and depression that came from dealing all this other crap) my entire life, it’s interesting to hear people talk about it. I don’t always see myself in these people, but it’s nice to know I’m not the only one! It’s weird that this is a “trend” now though. I’ve been like this my whole life and now is when it’s okay and normal to talk about. I like the progress but it has its issues! Medication has done me wonders and I feel so blessed to have been able to go on it!
I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder and anxiety during my freshman year of college and I honestly have to thank RU-vid for saving me. I remember watching videos on depression at the time and it was what gave me the courage to tell my parents and get the help I needed. I used to go days upon days wishing I was dead and thinking of ways I could kill myself. But when I saw these videos of some people talking about their depression it made me feel less alone. I've noticed that there is a trend more with people opening up about mental health these days and I'm glad for that because it's literally what saved me and perhaps this can save many others as well and encourage them to get the help they need. But on the other hand I don't like seeing how sensationalized it's becoming and how many youtubers are obviously using mental health for click bait and views.
zynbw yes shout out to marie senechal! although she may post both the negative and positive (mostly positive) there are some wonderful youtubers out there who have really helped cope. living well with schizophrenia is another wonderful channel as well
For anyone reading this... Just because someone has "Low-Empathy," it doesn't make them a monster! I know plenty of people with low-empathy disorders who decide that acting in a generally moral way is just better for society as a whole, and better for them, because they're treated more kindly in turn. People with low empathy can do all sorts of jobs that softies like myself just can't do, like veterinarian work, or caring for the terminally ill. It DOESN'T make them a horror-movie """"psycho"""" who murders indiscriminately.
7:00 Yes, that's spot on. People should aware that mental health issues or other disabilities ARE medical issues, and should be diagnosed by ONLY medical personnels who are qualified in that field. I have depression and autism, but it doesn't mean that I know enough to classify someone else whether they have or not. The closest I can do are to suggest that they MIGHT have disorders and to encourage them to seek medical helps. You still need real and qualified doctors to diagnose you.
i literally came to your channel when you posted about your uni's rejections and honestly? you are so much more than your bad days and this video is the perfect example of how amazingly you can articulate complex issues and discuss those subjects, pointing out the good and the bad. your "internet analysis" series is a gamechanger in this community and i can't wait for more!
Well it's actually not surprising that a lot of YTers have anxiety. It's one of the most common mental illnesses affecting more than 40 million adults in the U.S. And over 16 million adults in the U.S. suffer with depression. These are very common mental illnesses.
Going full time content creator can also be a soul-destroying job depending on the type of content you produce. If your channel is based on drama, clickbait, or inauthenticity, then over time this wears you down mentally. You also might objectify yourself in order to optimize for clicks. RU-vidrs are simultaneously expected to be “real people” and “profitable products”.
lmao what a shit take. There IS a problem with how some RU-vidrs handle mental health but to be like 'oh now EVERYONE has one' is dumb as fuck. Ever thought that maybe that's just because as the stigma around it diminishes more people feel comfortable opening up about it?
As someone with anxiety, I'm simultaneously saddened and comforted when someone I admire opens up about struggles with mental illness. I'm saddened because mental illness suuuuuucks, and I don't like that this person or that person struggles with it. I'm comforted because it reminds me that I'm not alone, even when the disorder is so different from mine. I've been watching the vlogbrothers since 2008, and every time John references his anxiety and OCD, I feel that. When boyinaband talks about his depression, I sympathize. I'm so glad that he and JaidenAnimations made a song about eating disorders--both the thick of it and seeking to get better--because that helps de-stigmatize eating disorders and helps viewers who may be struggling. As for even-more-stigmatized disorders, I've recently subscribed to two channels run by people with DID, The Entropy System and MultiplicityAndMe. Unlike other disorders (btw I do know people irl with bipolar disorder; I say that because you mentioned it in your video), I don't know anyone with DID (as far as I know). I just knew that "whatever the media says about it is probably wrong." Their channels are mainly informative, and I've learned so much about DID from these people.
I agree with almost everything except the first point! "Professionals" misdiagnose patients all the time, and telling people to trust them more than they trust themselves can be kind of gaslighting to people who have experienced that. Don't get me wrong, I am a huge advocate for therapy and psychiatry, but just like with any profession, there ARE still bad ones out there. We should go with our instincts, and if we feel that our doctor is misdiagnosing us or not taking us seriously, then that's a red flag and we need a second opinion. My best friend was misdiagnosed with ADHD for years, it turns out she had bi-polar 2. Another friend was misdiagnosed with bi-polar 1 when she had BPD. I once had a therapist tell me my eating disorder in 8th grade was a result from not washing the dishes often enough lol. Sorry for the rant, because I seriously love everything else about this video!!!
completely agree, i had to go to my family doctor 3 seperate times to even get a referral to a therapist because he didnt believe i was depressed for some reason. I was literally the lowest i had ever been and that experience gave me such bad trust issues with doctors and mental health professionals. Not being believed when you are sincerely crying out for help when even mustering up the strength to seek help took all your energy is one of the worst things ive experienced. Trust yourself, you know if something isnt right most of the time. Fight for yourself.
What do you think about those videos claiming: You're not depressed, you're just sad (I've seen a few of those) or claiming that antidepressants don't work and it's all just a matter of mindset. Personally I think that's super dangerous, because I feel it could stop people from getting help.
I've never been on any antidepressants but I've had some dark times. Usually bettering my physical health (sleep and outdoor time running around) are the best remedies for me and I find brings me back to where I want to be. But just because i find my way out without medication doesnt mean it's for everyone. I dont make videos, much less any content about mental health, but if i were tasked to do that I would try to speak from the angle of "this is just me, but try this and this first, cut back on alcohol if that's something that could cause it (I am not talking about full alcohol addiction, that's another thing, just cutting back on mild alcohol use), be as healthy as you can and if that all still doesnt work, then time to see a professional..." because professional help can be expensive and before you do that, it might be worth it to consider balancing yourself out first and trying to improve in areas if there are gaps there that can be improved like diet, exercise, all that lot. But in my hypothetical video I'm talking about hosting, I would never outright denounce the credibility of professional help.
i think that the problem is also that instead of looking around and acknowledging that a lot of (especially young) people struggle with mental health issues in this time (bc of things like capitalism, the competition state, alienation, uncertainty, the problems w social media and so on) and in this trying to find a sort of common understanding or solidarity, some people on social media like to frame it as a thing that makes them "special" or something to use for views. a lot of people struggle w depression & anxiety. its an epidemic at this point, and using those words to promote your own individuality or some kind of brand is not really helping anyone i think.
I feel like one of the least talked about mental disorders (at least on youtube) is ADHD. People often dismiss ADHD as just a silly thing and it can be very difficult for those of us who are struggling with it.
With my experience having bipolar disorder and adhd, seeing videos from other people with the same conditions has helped so much. However, I do notice there isn't as much content regarding more "serious" and stigmatized disorders. I see so many videos/stories about depression (which is great), but not nearly as much about bipolar disorder which is also a major mood disorder.
I would love a video on social media's impact on mental health! I'm doing a masters in drama and theatre and I just had my exams in arts based research this week, and my research topic of choice was what working on youtube, specifically "vlogging" or making your life your content and therefor work, can do to a person, how it can impact their mental health, lives and relationships.
I think one of the best RU-vidr that talks about all different kinds of disorders and different abilities is Special Books by Special kids - it’s a really wholesome show that shows varying mental, psychological, physical, etc. disabilities in an informational, respectful and personal way!
I definitely agree about negative stereotypes about certain mental illnesses. I have BPD and it gets a really bad rep so I talk about it on my channel and that helps me and hopefully others. BPD does not make me a bad person.
I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder and Persistent Depressive Disorder in recent years and I actually used to do videos about having depression and anxiety issues. Though that was years back on my original channel (think how long ago 2007 and 2008 feels to me at this point lol) and it was more about social anxiety. It is nice about having people you can relate to with this sort of thing and knowing you're not alone.
My attacks usually happen to me when I sleep or try to sleep too. If something were actually wrong with my heart I would just think it's my anxiety lol. My palpations get bad when I get low on water or vitamin D. You could be lacking in something nutritionally, it definitely helps me when I make sure I'm eating and drinking right. Otherwise I'm more prone to attacks. You will be okay, you will make it. Hope this helps anyone 🖤
You should definitely do a vid on the impact social media has on mental health! I used to watch you when I started school as a freshman in college and I think that’s how I found you. Just catching up on your vids, I love the internet analyses.
My struggle with panic attacks are always not taken seriously because I didn't look sick enough to those around me, let alone making a video about it. So I usually just suffer alone
I’ve been reading a book by Ken Norwood titled Rebuilding Community in America that really opened my eyes about how important meaningful human relationships are to our mental health. This book proposes that as house sizes get bigger, we live increasingly isolated lives. Depression rates are increasing and it could be because of the way we’ve structured our society. Maybe a reason why social media is so popular is because we’re all yearning for more human connections. We can’t always depend on our families to provide all of our emotional support we need. So this book is all about how co-housing/small village communities can bring together diverse groups of people that wouldn’t normally socialize. Like an older widowed woman sharing their large home with a single parent family. It’s also great for the environment!
Brené Brown said something that I think about a lot when seeing videos like these: "vulnerability is not sharing on social media" (not an exact quote but something to that effect). I think that if you truly aim to share in vulnerability you have to opt out of screens and editing tools and boundaryless sharing. Anyone can act out their mental illness for attention or gratification but it's not the same as being real, I know because I made the same mistakes thinking I was being vulnerable when I wasn't. I had problems but I only showed what was comfortable for me to share and not the real painful stuff, you know? It's not the same. Being vulnerable is to share within healthy boundaries and to *take a risk* because you're not sure that what you say will be well received. When we share on social media we usually calculate the response we will get for sharing certain stuff and it's so easy to create the sort of response you want from people by adjusting the way they will see you. You can't do that in real life when you are being real with someone you trust in an intimate emotional situation. You can't share a real connection with thousands of strangers over the internet whom you only know by their likes and comments, that's not intimacy and therefore vulnerability can't happen and thus none of the social media shares are truly raw and real. Though it's easy to mistake it for something real, I think about that when vloggers end their videos with: "I love you guys", I don't think you love me because you don't even know me. And if you did know us all intimately- would you still claim to love us? I don't think so.
I think most everyone’s first anxiety/panic attack is the worst if not one of the worst attacks you’ll ever have. I’ll never forget the first time I had one. I was a majorette in the marching band, halfway through our season and my junior year, I’d been doing it for 6 years at that time. I never really got nervous, let alone anxious about performing and I wasn’t feeling that way on that day either. We were marching down from our school to the football field right before the game and all of the sudden out of nowhere I just started crying harder than I ever cried, hyperventilating, shaking, my throat tightened and so did my diaphragm and I absolutely lost my shit. I had to fall out of line and went immediately into my coaches arms because she knew there was something wrong. It made absolutely no sense whatsoever, wasn’t a big game or performance, nothing out of the ordinary. Looking back tho, I was in a mentally and physically abusive relationship and at the point where both of our parents forbidden the relationship and any and all contact, however- we still were sneaking around to see each other and this was around the time I started abusing prescription painkillers which could also explain it. It was a hard time for me as a teenager but I’ll never know or understand what brought that on. I’ve had many since then and have learned to cope and deal with my anxiety, thankfully and with the help of great therapists and support from the people who love me most. We need to destigmatize mental health as a whole tho and help others understand it’s okay to need help and it’s okay to accept it.
This is a great video and a very important one. Sharing is great, but oversharing can be both detrimental to the youtuber (or person sharing) as well as the audience. Also, taking a little time to reflect on bad times is necessary and will help to find what helped and what you've learned through them. Thanks for this vid! Was great. Would watch again!
I don’t get why someone would use, glorify or say they have a mental illness when they don’t. If you feel ready to talk about it, do it. Open up to a close one it doesn’t even matter whether it’s your mom, dad, significant other or just a friend. Talk to a professional, get a diagnosis and start working on your problems. It takes time, strength and a lot of effort, but it’s worth it. I’ve been suffering from depression and anxiety since kindergarten, so I know how shitty that is. Fortunately, Germany has great healthcare, so I have the help I need and I’m grateful for that. And I’m sorry for others that feel or go through the same. I wish everyone the strength they need to overcome their struggles. Don’t self diagnose, get help from a professional. I wish you the best. 🥰
This video is so important. I was diagnosed as bipolar when I was 18, I'm now 24 and I still struggle with people's misconceptions of it. A lot of people have their own thoughts on certain disorders or they make jokes about certain disorders, for example, the amount of times I've seen posts on facebook saying 'this weather is so bipolar' or 'my mood is so bipolar'. It honestly pisses me off so much. Yes I do have mood swings like everyone else, but when I'm having a 'high' moment as I like to call it, I'll spend thousands of pounds on things that are not necessary, which puts me into debt, I'll start crazy projects that I'll never complete, (I was convinced I could build my own mini home/start a documentary series/quit my job and start my own business), I can't sleep because I have so many thoughts going round my head. I've been hospitalised because I got so low I stood on the edge of a bridge with a noose around my neck for three hours in the pouring rain. I've overdosed on my medication a couple of times just to stop my mind from running. Even if saying this changes one persons misconception, I'll know it's worth it. Thank you for making this video, I honestly wish more people were like you.
I'm so sorry :( I'm from Switzerland and here everybody gets insurance. So I feel so grateful to live here. I hope one day your country will do what I needs to give insurance to everybody. Hope you are feeling good and send you loads of courage!
If you’re in the United States, apply for Medicaid (if you’re not a minor) Even if you make too much, you can sometimes qualify for subsidized health insurance. Medicaid does cover mental health (it’s considered a specialist), but sometimes it’s hard to find a therapist or clinic who accepts Medicaid. It’s still better than nothing.
Dear 13 year old girls, just because you like Billie Eilish does not mean you have depression. Also, I don’t mean if you are diagnosed. Some teenagers assume they are depressed because they see a post or they listen to sad music. Of course if you are diagnosed that’s a whole new story
I'm a little afraid of opening up to people about having major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder because they will think i'm faking it. When i told my friend about my disorders he thought i might have been faking it and i get why he thought that. Its sad that there are so many lies being passed around that people don't believe you when you open up about having a disorder.
I have been diagnosed with a mental illness and some of videos here are very helpful, particularly those that are by actual professionals and those that seriously discuss it to educate or to share how they cope. I just don’t like it glorified by some RU-vidrs.
I’m a creator with bipolar one, ptsd, and anxiety (diagnosed in 2018) I started posting about my mental illness in 2018.. YOU’RE absolutely correct I wanted to start in 2011 and I was too scared bc I wasn’t diagnosed and had no reason to other than just getting my feelings out then in October 2018 I got out of the hospital after a month and realized I needed a community so I’m so glad you’re talking about this! I’ve noticed it’s been glorified it’s so weird to me
I feel like many influencers develop anxiety due to the negative feedback. Unfortunately,there are people who hate just for the sake of having something to do and it effects people differently.Someone takes it like a critic to become better and someone takes it much harder.
I love this new style of analysis video your doing! 💯 so well put together. Now im going to have to go back and watch your whats wrong with me videos ❤️
the problem has now become that depression and anxiety and so glorified that if someone who actually suffers from these tells people they’re automatically dismissed for being an attention seeker
I love these discussion videos and your words are so articulate. I agree with a lot of things you said. I like how people are talking about mental illness or health more now instead of shaming or demonizing people with mental illnesses but I also think normalizing too much can be a downside because people will self-diagnose or diagnose other people by watching one or two videos on a mental illness. Also I think it’s important to understand the different types of stigma. For example people with Depression or Anxiety do not get the same type of stigma as people with personality disorders, dissociative disorders or people with psychosis like DID, BPD , schizophrenia and more. People with Depression or Anxiety from my experience and from what I’ve seen get called overdramatic or that they are just doing it for attention while people with schizophrenia or personality disorders for example are seen as dangerous, abusive or violent. Everyone experience is different so this isn’t true for everyone but this is generally how it is and not all stigma is the same.
I wish I could reflect on my own depression and anxiety more and share it - but I often block it out / can't remember those periods well, even when I'm going through a severe panic attack sometimes I feel like I'm blacking out / can't control what is happening. I also feel like I don't fully understand my own anxiety and depression so therefore how do I explain it fully to others in a helpful way. Love this video!
I made videos about mental health, specifically my experience with bipolar disorder, in 2012 and 2013. Not on this channel, but on a second one. I felt like I needed to talk about it because I knew that there were a lot of people who suffered from it. Those videos were up for several years, and it was good. I have them private now because honestly, it's 6 years later and I would like to redo them from an updated perspective. I was worried that this video was going to say that sharing mental health stories was bad, because we've all worked so far to come this far.
This is kinda unrelated but therapists are getting so used to treating people with depression and anxiety that they ignore other mental health issues and just assume it’s depression and anxiety so I agree that people should talk about other mental health issues
Two more things: 1) Pushing people out who don’t fit the textbook definition of that particular mental illness instead of accepting that people’s disorders manifest in a spectrum. I’ve been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder of the lowest degree which explains why I’ve never had an anxiety/panic attack. 2) People who self-diagnose themselves with depression when they might just have seasonal depression or situational depression. If your disposition changes with the seasons or depending on what’s going on in your life then you’re not depressed, you’re just a human being going to though a trying time.
you're so genuine in your videos, and it's really refreshing to hear about your experiences. i hope you are finding good ways to keep yourself mentally healthy, and i am always rooting for your success!
love that lil hit of smooth sade. ANYWAY ive watched so many of ur vids the past couple days, specificlly the internet analysis series, thank u for sharing ur thoughts info knowledge etc on those subjects! it's something i think about a lot, mostly because im an older student and i also work in a "trendy" retail store and i interract with gen z kids on an almost daily basis who didn't have a distinction of pre internet/post internet life? and i find it all super weird especially when it comes to self image/self esteem etc. anyway thank you hope u have a good day!!
Such an important topic. Many people only discuss it after a celeb suicide or for some reason then it's over. Those of use that do suffer from depression and or anxiety wish we could just forget about it. Ur approach was great. And I highly recommend finding a great therapist and if u need meds, a psychiatrist to manage them. Not all docs are qualified to give them and therefore don't follow up on the effects or if ur compliant. Many insurance companies in the US are horrible about it. They stigmatize u from the jump. Many people can't get qualified help cause it's not covered or only covers 6 visits a year. What? So not right. Anyway, thank you so much for addressing this and starting a REAL discussion about it.
as a recovering anorexic, i’d really like to see more people open up on eating disorders. and to break the stigma of all of us restricting food or being too skinny - i’d love to see someone with binge eating disorder open up because some people don’t understand that there’s many different aspects to an “eating disorder” , even someone with osfed would be amazing. eating disorders have the highest rate of death (usually by suicide) at 20% and that’s disgusting and needs to be discussed. thank u for coming to my ted talk & i don’t want pity points lmao i just want to spread the word.
I find whenever I do a video about my experience with OCD it's very therapeutic, just to talk to someone even if that someone is just a camera. Knowing people will watch it, and then getting those comments of people who relate and knowing I helped them not feel so alone, yeah I agree, it helps me not feel so alone too.
It is so important to find a GOOD therapist! My first one was so awful she should have had her license taken away from her. Because of her, I went into depression for 2 years and stayed in an abusive relationship because she made me think it was normal. If something feels "off" or you have a weird feeling in your gut about a therapist, make sure you find a different one!
Yes, medication can help and you are not less for needing it. I had to try a few different ones before I found one that worked but I got through it with my amazing family and the odd friend and a great counselor. I tried a therapist but they kept trying to tie everything into the fact that I have no want to date anyone and it was so weird I walked out of the office, which is something I totally encourage you to do if a health professional who is supposed to listen to you ignores what you are trying to say. As a christian I decided to see what local churches offered and ended up meeting with a really great counselor. I always felt the extra pressure to try and be happy because that's what the general north american christian culture pushes. It was so refreshing to talk with someone who both went to university to become a therapist and understood the fact that my beliefs are an important part in my healing. I've done my best since then to share some of the passages we went over on my facebook to let people know that if you are depressed and a christian that's okay. We were made to be able to feel all emotions and just because a few of them knock you down doesn't mean you're defective. For my fellow christians out there, ask your leadership team, pastor, or priest if they would be able to take the topic on as a sermon because it's one of those things that we hear about from the world's point of view but rarely do we hear about it in church from a biblical perspective. Oh and if anyone tries to give you grief about how you must not be praying enough tell them to go study Job because they're being about as helpful as his friends
Kati Morton? A professional? Lmao, those words together almost made me started laughing... of course, this video was made at least a year before she got exposed, so I don’t have any problem with this
My first panic attack was in middle school and it woke me up too. I was watching netflix with my mother and dozing when I suddenly woke up with a start. My heart was absolutely sprinting. I asked her if she was shaking her leg, as she was prone to, but I realized it was my heart, which caused me to panic more. I had been struggling with anxiety related to health for about two months at that time. My mom told me to take deep, painfully slow breaths and try to calm down, which worked. I have never had my heart speed up like that again, but I fight anxiety to this day. For three years it was horrid and unbearable, but now I only get anxious every now and then. So many people were supportive and my mom pushed me to face what made me anxious.
I remember seeing Charlie McDonnell’s I’m Scared video once and thinking it was crazy a RU-vidr was able to vulnerably express about those kinds of feelings online like that. He’s often been quite open about those kinds of things in his life and I appreciate that. I’m glad there’s this kind of landscape where it’s ok to talk about these feelings now. Takes a lot of balls to talk about it.
I have PTSD and anxiety. I used to have what was basically a mini heart attack. It started to become so frequent (more than 2x a week at it’s worst) and it was so scary. The doctors couldn’t find what was wrong and eventually wrote it off as panic attacks. Thankfully, when I went to get my stomach checked for ulcers, I had an attack that was monitored and they found out what was wrong and I’ve had surgery that almost completely fixed it. I just have heart skips now. Sometimes though, I’ll have really bad anxiety about my health , like even if I get dizzy when I stand up too fast, it sets it off. I’m healing though. It’s less overwhelming.
I'm sorry if I am spamming you, but ever since that Kibbe's body types video where you said you don't feel ellegant and sophisticated, I keep seeing you in these symetrical and relaxed soft classi lines and it just blows my mind how much we can have a totally different perception of ourselves to other perceptions of ourselves - if that makes any sense
You forgot about people who have mental illness getting triggered by all the negativity online. I often fall into people’s posts on Instagram and other social media that trigger my anxiety/depression/eating disorder and it makes me feel worse and I can be completely happy and then see one of these posts and I get sooo triggered
last year my friends "diagnosed" me with depression and my respond was always "you're not a professional you don't know what you're talking about." and now i feel very depressed and out of place. though i wouldn't say i have depression, i still have those thoughts in my head that bugs me everyday.
Man, only a few minutes into the video and I feel like sharing this. Thanks for creating the safe space needed to discuss this kind of stuff. I was unofficially diagnosed with PTSD when I was ten - only unofficial because the psychiatrist in question was to ‘personally involved’ to be allowed to give an official diagnosis. Something I only just came to understand recently was the symptom of Dissociation. I cannot remember a period in my life when I looked in the mirror and genuinely saw myself. There was nothing *wrong* with my reflection, I knew it was mine, but it just... didn’t connect with it. I recently learned what Dissociation actually is, and learned that it can be a symptom of PTSD, and came to understand that that’s what I was dealing with. A certain aspect of Dissociation, specifically Depersonalization. However, once I learned that, I began to experience Dissociation as a whole more frequently - or maybe just noticed it more frequently? I’m unsure which. I have a therapist who I have spoken with in an off for the past year or two (after finally being able to tell my family that things were going downhill again), but I haven’t seen her since before I had this revelation. I’ll probably schedule something with her soon, just to get her up to speed on this new development, but I don’t know when that will be.
I read the title of this and knew it would be good.. but honestly yeah i can relate about having panic attacks in my sleep and then going to a doctor thinking there was something wrong with my heart.. I was also only about 8 years old when it started so I had no idea what anxiety was :/ crazy to think it can start at such a young age!
i dont think theres necesarily anything wrong with self dx-ing provided you do enough (good) research, esp. if doctors arent accessible to you for whatever reason. Good research can include reading/watching multiple perspectives of people with a disorder/condition, reading articles about it, or even getting yourself a pdf copy of the dsm v (which psychs use to diagnose!) and reading it carefully. obviously theres a danger of misdiagnosis/overdiagnosis, but it can also be really helpful to find a community to talk to or coping methods that can help. (it should hopefully be obvious that self medication is dangerous and that you shouldnt do that) EDIT: 100% agree that you shouldnt diagnose others unless you are their doctor.
Mai Li Ra the thing is that even doctors can’t diagnose themselves so the average person definitely cannot. And there’s a difference between someone saying “I think I have...” and “I have...”
@@895princess yes theres a difference between a formal diagnosis and a self diagnosis, and they serve different functions but self dxing can and does have an important place in peoples mental healthcare. also depending on what it is, its not necessarily intensely difficult. i thought i had depression bc i had (insert symptoms here) and when i finally made it to a psych she asked if i had any mental illness and said "i think i have depression bc of [symptoms]" and she goes "yep sounds like u have depression" and put it in my file. she didnt interrogate me or make me sit thru [x] number of sessions, she trusted that my understanding of my own symptoms was accurate.
@@tunelessmelody I think there is also the aspect of while self-diagnosing depression or anxiety is understandable, and as someone who doesn't support self-diagnosis, I can brush off people doing it for the most part. I don't like when people self diagnose with any disorder, but depression and anxiety can be seen as more cut and dry for symptoms. I really take issue with the people who diagnose themselves with disorders like OCD, ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, etc. People have confirmation bias and therefore cannot see the full picture. Also, in your example you used the phrases "I thought I had" and "I think I have". Those are perfectly acceptable and useful ways to phrase it. It's recognizing that you weren't completely sure. Recognizing that something is off is a very important step in treatment. (And I do realize that there are a lot of barriers to treatment which is a big issue that needs to be dealt with.)
@@895princess i have just seen a lot more people self dx (even less cut and dry things, as you say), find a community, and be able to be helped by them to either manage symptoms, understand symptoms, or, get advice on seeking professional help. It is much more common to see someone describe a symptom and someone else who has it explain what it is than to see someone just go decide they have a certain disorder. I've never really seen someone incorrectly dx and then have that have serious ramifications. Obviously there's some confirmation bias there but I've seen it be useful too much to just dismiss it. (It's particularly common in the austistic community since many psychs just wont diagnos it unless you fit their notion of what it should look like, which is often a young white boy who has trouble socializing.)
It's so hard to show or document mental health. Just trying to get it across. When it's bad you struggle to want to pick up the camera. Anyone that is documenting their journey with any illness is amazing. Great video🙌🤙
Wow, this is exactly the content I want in my life right now! I’m so happy I stumbled across your channel while trying to figure out what VSCO girls are! 😂 Thanks for making great videos. I can tell I’m going to be doing a lot of binging in the near future!
Man, I'd be really interested to see a study regarding these issues and freshmen year of either high school or college. I wonder if it's common for these issues to be exacerbated by those life events. I personally had an INCREDIBLY similar situation to yours, where early to mid freshman year of college I started getting panic attacks (like you, I thought my heart was all fucked up). It suuuuuuuucked. Thanks for creating this vid, it was really eye-opening.
When it comes to mental health, multiplicityandme is amazing! Jess (and the alters) has done an amazing job documenting and educating on DID, a disorder that’s HEAVILY stigmatized. Definitely worth a watch and see how far she (they, really) has come along.
i had my first thought about anlive myself at ten years old. for me it was so normal to always feel no joy, no excitement, no positive emotions at all. the awareness that start spreading help me a lot
I don’t really ever comment on video, but I really loved this video. I really like your internet analysis videos, please keep them up!! You’re doing amazing ❤️
