From one autism mom to another, you're doing an amazing job. My daughter will be 14 this year, and I still deal with this. It's not as often as it was when she was younger. There is hope, and I commend you for being open and honest.
I’m 28 and I still have meltdowns so it’s not like it goes away ever but you can learn tools to calm yourself and know what is happening and what your triggers are
@@benbolt8849 idk if you’re asking me but if you are I think it depends. I have them a lot especially after moving out from home. I wasn’t taught how to handle them when I was younger so I’m just now learning skills to manage them. They can be very intense but I don’t harm myself physically like I did when I was a kid. It helps now that I understand why it’s happening
@benbolt8849 is very intense. My daughter can go months without having a meltdown, and BOOM 💥, she can have one that lasts for a few hours. And sometimes there is nothing I can do, but let her scream it out. As long as she is fed, has used the bathroom and has her tablet. There is nothing left for me to do.
You are truly anointed gifted loving Momma. God is definitely using you for His honor and glory. You are blessing so many people. I love your educational presentations. I am a retired educator working in different capacities and loved my job as Sped Ed working with LD/ ED and autistic middle school students.
I retired early to babysit my granddaughter. We found out that she jas autism and your videos are great. My daughter has taken steps to get the baby into behavior and speech sessions. These have been very beneficial and I continue to learn more about autism. My granddaughter is nonverbal, and it's very challenging. Thanks again for the great videos, sharing your story because it really helps...
Thank you so much for this video. My son has multiple meltdowns a days and I running out of options to help him through it but thanks to you I have more options. God bless all the parents with children in special needs because it’s not easy. But they are a blessing from God.
I’m a grand parent of a 9 year old who is none verbal. I’ve seen them - the meltdowns. Like you my daughter knows exactly what to do. I’m still learning I don’t see him that often. I love what I see you doing. Like my daughter it’s amazing❤
I have AuDHD (unfortunately diagnosed in my 30’s) and I find your videos help me understand myself more. I look back on my life and think “damn I was a psycho” but in reality it was just my AuDHD.
She was saying Cocomelone!!!! it's okay you were driving and she is so soft in her speaking...my Son is on the Spectrum, man this Spectrum is huge!!! No child is the same.
Such a great break down. This was so true to what happens. My son will be 8 soon and is mostly non verbal. While people SAY they understand, i know its hard for ppl to grasp whats going on unless they've experienced it themselves. While i know there is alot of discourse around "family channels" i appreciate the honest reality it brings forth. It's helpful to know me and my family are not alone in this journey. It's helpful to be able to find OUR COMMUNITY.❤
I love your channel and watching you as you navigate through the ups and downs of autism! I really excited for Mikko and all that she is learning as she's growing up ❤... A very lovely family!!
@@lloyddragon2036 that's what I typed but apparently my phone thought I wasn't spelling it correctly! Thanks so much for pointing that out... Where would I be without the spelling bee police!
When she was trying to speak in her car seat, it sounded like she was holding her breath. I do this all the time when I’m distressed - I don’t do it consciously. My whole body just feels tight and like it gets stuck. It might be good to teach her breathing exercises when she’s calm, and then you can reference them when she’s not calm. The not breathing always hikes my anxiety way higher and it feels like it’s out of my control, but the breathing part is in my control at least and it helps immensely.
Familiar scene. Good to understand that the meltdowns are not intentional as individuals with ASD struggle to cope. Thanks for spreading the info. Nt daughter is verbal and almost 7 years old. As she has gotten older I've noticed that my gentle presence and offers of support aren't as effective especially when I'm the cause of her distress - perhaps because I've denied her something, or she's upset over my tone or something I've said in the past... I've learned to give her space to go to her quiet place (under a blanket in her room, or to scream into a pillow). After a time I will check on her or she will ask for my presence and I will inquire how she feels. Most times she's able to ask "How do you think I feel?" when she's upset, rather than tantrum as she's learning how to better identify her emotions thanks to SEL prescribed in her IEP. It's helped me better what trigger her also.
Precious, I'm sorry that you and Mikko have to go through these meltdowns. I must be difficult. My compliments to you durimg the time that you are talking to the viewers and that is that I really like the way your hair looks. Mikko in the car with her adorable hearts sunglasses reminds us how special she is.
We taught my nephew to count his fingers to calm himself down. It's growing pains when they are that young. They stop once they learn the necessity of self regulation. Not all of them can learn this but Mikko definitely can.
I love your channel SO MUCH but I swear this is like the fourth or fifth video where Mikko is clearly asking for Cocomelon 🤣I'm too invested. Love your family!
I ❤ It how supportive gentle loving and kind You are with Mikko She is so precious and growing up so fast 🥹 Thank You Your Husband Mikko Siblings for making videos allowing us and educating us May GOD Continue To Bless This Beautiful Family ❤✨☺️ 🙏🏽🙏🙏🏻
Thank you so much for doing this, Precious. My first personal experience with autism was overwhelming. I wish I'd had your videos then. I'm glad I have them now. I''m so much more understanding and patient with my grands, now that I know what they're going through. All the best to you and your beautiful family.
I am 69 years old and had a meltdown with one of my siblings today. We are human and sometimes we do let go of some steam. Mikko will be fine, she is handling it in a different way. May God continue to give you the strength at this time.
I love to watch you with Meeko your patience with her is amazing. I send your videos to my daughter whom is autistic as well. She uses sign language with her and that seems to work well.
I think some kids just need a calm, safe room to go to where they cannot hurt themselves. They can calm themselves down as a parent trying to calm them down can be overstimulating and add to the sense of being overwhelmed,
I have 2 grandsons I live with that are on different functioning levels of autism ages almost 12 and 13. They are my world along with the rest of my grandkids. Thank you for spreading information and awareness. Your little girl is absolutely adorable.
As an older sister to an adopted child who has behavioral issues I truly appreciate you sharing your story and tips and tricks. It’s taken me a long time to learn and stay regulated when my sister has a meltdown. But sharing what it’s like having children with behavior issues or autism etc are has helped me to understand better. I like that you share about them bling being able to share there emotions and express them. Thank you for sharing your story. Mikko is making such amazing progress and I hope and pray that she continues to make or by leaps and bounds.
Aww I know these all too well! You're so patient and awesome, my daughter is now 5 and has become far more verbal just in the last year! 🙌 Taking her off milk was the best thing we could've done. She is still struggling potty training, especially with getting dressed (or wearing clothes in general) and most hygienic stuff has been the most challenging 😢 I do believe that in time after all her therapy it will improve. I am so nervous about sending her to an ABA therapy school, but I do believe they can help not just her, but us all to better understand her struggles. It's been such a long journey to finally get answers about her condition. Praying for you guys 💕🤗
A few month ago my son had a meltdown and it was hot sommer and all windows are opened... one of the neigbours called the youth welfare office, cause they were worried about a child , they didnt know he is autistic... now they have noticed it and all is good but sometimes the people who dont know about our son thinks we are bad parents and this is the most challanging part of having a autistic child in my opinion , the other people who think our child is just naughty. 😮
My granddaughter is 5 and she is going through a phase where she won’t wear clothes in house just underwear but you can get them on her to go outside. When she is having a meltdown her mom has to take her out of the situation to a quieter place and also deep pressure. I was watching 90 day fiancé, I think this weeks and there is a guy on there that is on the autism spectrum and he was explaining what it is like to live with it and he said when the smoke alarm goes off it’s like hitting him in the head with a hammer. He also said the lights hurt him and that he can hear the buzzing of electricity and it bothers him. It was interesting hearing from a person that can explain it. Does she have earphones to block out some sounds?
My son has meltdowns to routine and expression. If he not sure how to express he gets angry because he knows that emotion or sad. He now can say I don't understand this feeling help. We sit with him and hold him and let him draw. He feels better even if he doesn't understand or we don't. It's okay I don't understand it's not okay I ignore it.
I feel you babe. ❤️ I actually have similar meltdowns, I am 57, especially to sound like certain types of music. They overwhelm me to the point of full out screaming. They are also pretty painful sometimes and can exhaust me to the point where my entire day is ruined. I have to rest for the rest of the day. I also can have headbanging meltdowns as well and they are also debilitating. If you want to know more about my meltdowns as an Autistic adult, let me know and I will send you the link to my meltdown video on my channel. Definitely reach out to Autistic adults about our experiences.❤️
Let her cry and scream don't make her stop. Let her feel. We want our children to be in tune with their bodies this means allowing them to feel & being there to hold the space, no matter how big the emotion. Forcing them to stop feeling is essentially silencing their voice & force them to hold it in.
So for autism we have trouble regulating our nervous systems and go into fight or flight. Some may cry and scream until they hurt themselves or pass out. At some point you have to try to redirect and reset the brain. Deep breathing is great for that
😮 when my autisc son act out I mimic him .. and tell him I'm nuts too😅 he usually start staring at me like 👀 then I sit him in a chair and be super quiet until he cry it out. I say as soon as you're done. we'll sit here. 😢😮 when your done 👀 👀 .
I try but my son just pushes me away then it seems like I’m forcing him to hug me or calm down it’s really uncomfortable and it makes it worse I really don’t know what to do
Does he have an occupational therapist? My grandson's OT helped us a great deal with approaches to help with his particular meltdowns. I so love how this channel continues to remind us that each child is different and each one will respond differently to approaches. Hang in there and keep trying sending love.
Sometimes touch is overwhelming when you are having a meltdown. Find his triggers. If you can get him to breathe it will help him immensely. The struggle may be getting him to slow down enough to breathe when he’s already in fight or flight mode. Best time to practice grounding skills is when he’s calm. He’s not going to learn when his brain has already shut down but if he has habits he may be able to latch onto them in a crisis.
I’m a registered nurse with 2 children on the spectrum and a melt down can look like a tantrum to the untrained eye. No one child had a meltdown the same as others . 😊
A child doesn’t doesn’t throw a tantrum if they’re over stimulated, they don’t throw a fit if there’s too much noise and/or too many people around, they throw a tantrum when being told no or they’re trying to get their way………..but when they’re autistic, then you’ll see them have meltdowns like this, when overstimulated etc. A meltdown & a temper tantrum are 2 different things ❤
In these videos, you say that she has "tantrums" because she's non-verbal and in later videos she's sounding out words and even letters!! So which one is it??
Hello! I pray that you are having a blessed day and wanted to encourage you to seek Jesus Christ if you haven't already. He wants a personal relationship with you, as His precious child 🙏💗 God bless you! 😊
I KNOW it’s hard nurturing a child with special needs. On camera, you hardly ever smile “loving” at her, or cuddle her with love, and she can sense that. Your expression is always stern and emotionless. She doesn’t seem to like or have fun being around you. Just being real.... Is this channel and her autism really about you?
Mom really comes off as someone who wants someone to need them and is missing something. She rarely smiles and when she does, it seems forced. The whole family is demanded to cater to her obsession with Mikko. Just appears to be a very dull, unhealthy environment. Just saying, I think she would benefit from speaking with a specialist.
Based off your videos, Mikko usually cries when she's not getting her way. Thats not a meltdown. Edit: Every example of "meltdowns" that Mom has presented in this video were past occasions of Mikko not being able to do whatever she wanted to do. Besides the one with the fireworks and the one of Mom doing her hair. And in the one with the fireworks, Mikko wasn't even crying. She just wanted to stay in the living room, but Mom didn't allow her to sleep there for whatever reason. But every other video was Mikko not wanting to listen to Mom's direction. That is not a meltdown. That is a typical kid being a kid and wanting their way.
@@kimt.6322 Not true, I actually have a 14 year and dealt with the same exact things. Many parents of autistic children blame everything on the child's autism and think that autistic children "can't control" certain behaviors, but that's a common misconception. If you look at the videos, Mikko isn't crying because of a new situation, or not being able to speak, she's crying when Mom is trying to control the situation and guide Mikko. She cries when she doesn't get her way. I'm not just making this up, watch the videos and see for yourself. Autism doesn't mean that they don't have neurotypical behaviors. Autism does not mean that they are unknowing. These aren't all meltdowns. It's Mikko being a typical 4 year old not getting her away. She's a smart girl, and everyone seems to dumb her down because she's been labeled as "autistic".
Agreed, I've noticed this as well. And like the person who originally commented, I am speaking from experience and not just observing without having dealt with and raised (an) autistic child(ren) myself. We aren't saying this to be negative or mean in any way, just giving another viewpoint because autistic children are still just that- children - who get upset, want to have their way, act out, misbehave, throw tantrums, etc. In no way are we trying to condemn Mikko or take away from how great of a mother she has.
You can't speak the truth without someone telling you that you have never dealt with autism, you don't know what you're talking about, I've seen several commenters call people "ignorant" when they say this..... We live in a society now where people, for the most part, want everything sugar coated with a big cherry on top! Edit: My point is proven in the comments 👇
@@wvgirl7264 Right! I don't agree with how Mom is portraying autism. It's alot of misinformation and if people follow this, they're going to end up with a big problem on their hands. It's scary. She's basically telling folks to treat their autistic child as an incompetent being. Following this type of mindset is harmful to the child and the parent.
Who needs you? When you make a list, remember Mikko means as much to her people as you do to yours. But I suppose that's what adoption is for. If you couldn't handle it, give them to someone who would love like they deserve. 🤷
