I work in geriatrics and a good amount of people who suffer from Alzheimer's do this because it goes back to the basics that their minds have function of
Joe Battiloro you know my mom’s very last words were , thank you. It would have been her birthday yesterday and this bring all the love I feel full frontal for me. Take care.
She’s so sweet and polite saying things like “Pardon me, dear?” and “Well, thank you!”. It’s sad how these amazing people get taken from this disease .Yes, cause some can become aggressive .People who had aggressive personalities ,or do not know what is going on. I also knew of a guy who was a war vet,so he thought he was in the war.
Alzheimers is terrifying because the people are never really taken away like other forms of dementia. They're still themselves the whole time and are aware of their decline.
Almost everyone with Alzheimers will revert back to either their 20s or child years. As a Nurse, the most common "pattern" that I've noticed is this: The closer they were to dying, the more they would call out and/or ask for their mother. (90 years old calling out for "Mom!" ) It was heartbreaking. I would just sit with them holding their hands as long as time would allow. The only good part of the job that I felt true purpose in was simply being a comfort to them. Making them smile and laugh.
🤗Bless her heart ♥️! Wish I could give her a gentle hug. 😊. Christie Crawford ~ , You are a gift from God to your patients/residents! Ty! I've been visiting a relative[rip] who was Elderly and he would call out for his Mother too. :( . Nurses ARE the one's that keep our medical center's afloat! 😇🙏♥️✝️
Spoder Gibbs Don’t tell me to shut up and call me an idiot you loser.You don’t have the intelligence to know how devistating the disease is and how it impacts family members. I wouldn’t wish it even on you.
jimgag2 it’s okay to be lighthearted about the situation. You guys seriously need to chill. Of course this disease is serious, this comment didn’t make it as if it wasn’t. I myself smiled when she said “that’s a good one” because I think even SHE was being at least somewhat lighthearted about it. You just want to attack people and make yourself feel like a better person lol
Doesn't change the fact that she lived through them, and was happy during that exact moment! Memories may be forgotten, but once she remembered them, and she lived through them. That will never change.
Hi Everyone. Thank you for the many kind comments about my mother. Of course there were a few snarky ones too. My mother loved these conversations, she found this a pleasant way to engage. Some people may find this frustrating - and eventually, impossible. The donuts were always a plus. For those that have wondered, she passed away. Like many older people, she had a fall and that just took her down fairly quickly. For those of you going through this now, please know your experience is unique to you and extremely challenging. Do your best to show your love and have little or no expectations. You are not alone.
Unfortunately, cruel reality doesn't care about your wishful thinking. Body without brain and the ability to process information is just soul-less pile of meat. The intricate neural connections in our prefrontal cortex is what makes us human, with those connections gone, soul vanishes as well...
I despise Alzheimer's disease. That disease killed my grandmother this past weekend. But I do know that making frequent visits with your loved ones with this disease helps out with them remembering you. It may not bring their memory of you back completely but it helps
1 second they know and remember everything, next second they don't. Typically asking multiple things in a row, wears them out and makes their brain go blanc.
@@reign6of6e6terror it is sad, because the largest part of the disease they will be very aware of it. Aware they forget stuff, forget how to do stuff, know they will forget who their partner and children are. It is devastating. The last period, yes, they are barely aware of themselves. But until then, it's heartbreaking.
She is such an angel, she reminds me of my grandma who had Alzheimers for as long as i could remember. During my late teens my younger sister and i spent most of our days talking with her and giving her company since my parents had her move in with us so she could be with family. I remember one day in particular she thought she was 20 and thought we were her friends whose house she came over to, she was 90 at the time. She asked us to call her boyfriend, my grandpa, so he could pick her up and take her home. He died about 10 years prior so it was heartbreaking, but we kept telling her he was on his way over and “should be here soon”. She sat down and waited for him, and forgot a couple minutes after. She died a couple years ago but i still think about our days together.
I really love to hear that you looked after her and told her that your grandpa was ‘on his way’, my grandma passed 3 months ago and also suffered from this terrible disease. Similar to yours, whenever we would show her pictures or tell her something she really liked then she would say ‘I can’t wait to tell Henry this he’ll love it as much as I do’. Sadly Henry is my grandad who passed around 2 years ago, I really don’t think anyone should have to suffer from this xD
exactly, join her journey. and I was cringing a little when he kept asking her questions with food in her mouth, people with dementia are at greater risk for choking. but his love for his mother is evident and he'll be glad he has this video to cherish
@@searobean You're so right. When she said she was 22, asking questions of what she experienced when she was 22 seemed the obvious choice to me. But I bow before this mans dedication to his mother. I'd be interested to know if she had any children at 22?
The look of despair in her eyes while shes trying to find answers. It can actually scare a person with Alzheimers. Make her as comfortable as possible 🙏🏻
THANK YOU! Very few noticed it, bu you did. He certainly meant well, he obviously loved his mom deeply. But it's good to kind of badger someone with Alzheimer's, she doesn't know her last name, that's clear, why shame her over it? Rest in peace, dear lady.
Oh she's such a Dear Lady. My Mom is 87. She lives in Portage, MI. I am blessed that she is extremely healthy, mobile, and very high functioning. We send you our hugs and much respect, Steve.
“How old are you?” “22..” She’s such a gem! I would’ve played along like, “Well darling, you are only as old as you feel.” Lol! Seriously though, what a terrible illness. May God continue to bless, and guide you both along the journey. 💕
I LOVE how she says “thank-you” so sweetly after a bit of help remembering names and such! I can only hope to be like her if I follow the statistics of probability that I will develop a dying brain eventually. Is dementia, a dying brain, really worse than some other ways to end our time on earth, if we are surrounded by people who share their love with us? We have time to say goodbye while those who were estranged have a second chance, an opportunity to return like a prodigal child...
When she asked, "How old am I right here??" Pointing to her heart. She seems to have been saying, ' I am young-at-heart! Bless her heart. My Mother has Alhzheimers, now. 💔😭
The most devastating thing I've ever experienced was the day I asked my mom "do you remember my name?" and she just stared at me. It's heartbreaking to see someone go through this, she seems very strong for how gentle she comes across, I wish you strength for whatever your future holds.
Her loving and nurturing energy is very much still there, I feel it intensely. I’ve worked with patients who share her diagnosis, and without a doubt, angry and narcissistic people deteriorated a lot faster and were miserable, whereas loving and caring people were happy till the end.
During one of the most important times of my life, in regards to establishing a career, I took care of my Grandmother with Alzheimer's. No other family members offered to help, and they sure were happy that the grandson was taking care of it so they wouldn't have to. Upon her death, I was told to begin thinking about finding another home as they wanted to sell the house. It's 5 years later and the house still sits, showily degrading. I eventually got my Bachelor's degree to teach Spanish and lived/traveled throughout Latin America for several years. It's been hard getting back on track as I have nothing on my resume for those 5 years. I felt like I was in prison (because leaving her would mean the family would send her off to some nursing home), but I love my Grandma. It's been several years since and what I can say is this: I am happy that I was there for her and was the only face she recognized. When she was afraid, she would calm down by seeing me and knowing I was there. Although it was very difficult, I'll truly cherish those memories we shared together. I love you and miss you, Grandma. Although she became progressively worse, she never forgot how to play the piano and she remembered lyrics quite well!
“How old am I here?” Very interesting way of phrasing for her. I’m intrigued on where else she goes when she’s not here. Hell knows I’d be reliving my 20’s if I was in her position
I wish my grandma was like this. She always gets annoyed when anyone implies she doesn't remember something and is really prideful about it. So it's hard to be around her because she's constantly complaining and getting irritated. But she's also really stressed out because she doens't know where she is. I feel really sorry for her and it's heartbreaking to visit. :(
Trust me dementia hits everyone differently and at different times. Your grandma's behaviors were caused by her illness and I am sure if she knew she was behaving like that, she wouldn't want to behave in that way to you. It's very hard, for both the person with dementia and the people around them. But know that even if she acts completely different than how she used to be, she's still your grandma on the inside. The one who you used to know when you were young.
That’s perfectly normal for your grandmother , they know somewhere in there that their not themselves and it’s very frustrating for them when they can’t remember. You really shouldn’t be asking them to remember, you have to enter their world now. ❤️
Nathan, I won't be able to keep visiting my Mum when she gets to that point. I'm very easily hurt and traumatized. When she gets to the point that she no longer recognizes me, I will say goodbye and then go no contact. What doesn't kill me traumatizes me and scars me for life. I've had enough hell in my life without having to see Mum not recognizing me. And when she gets to the point that she hallucinates I DEFINITELY don't want any more contact with her. (She's not there yet but I'm preparing myself to say goodbye to her soon and go no contact.) There's enough rubbish in the world without Mum going insane in front of me! I don't even have siblings to lean on. I wish Dad had had dementia instead, because he was a religious fanatic and I didn't like him much. He wasn't abusive, but he annoyed me. (God this, God that.) No, I didn't want to hear that, and I don't miss Dad. Good riddance, I prefer Mum and always did. I'm Mum's girl, not Daddy's girl. I'm sooooooooooo sorry Mum is not of sound mind. This ORDEAL (not "journey", doggone it) with my Mum is absolutely torturing me!!! I don't believe in being strong/positive/resilient. I believe in crying and having a pity party!!!😢😭💔
The last time I visited my MIL with advanced Alzheimers she asked me if I would like a chocolate and it was just as lucid as she would have asked when she was well. It will stay with me forever. She had no idea who I was but still, she offered to share her chocolates... bless her heart. I think the lucid moments are the most difficult but also very special - just a small reminder of who they once were and how that person is ever present but in ever diminishing moments.
It's horrible for the observer, but a good percentage of sufferers are not unhappy at all. They just need to be very well cared for and every day is a happy day, much like being a child again. It's really a second childhood in some cases. We have to cling to the positives.
My mother has an Alzheimer and is 87 as well. Conversation with her looks just the same, and my mom is nice, warm, thankful and beautiful just like yours. She can’t name or remember anything, but I know that our presence feels good and special to her, just like when she was healthy, as I see it in her eyes and happy responses. She can’t find the words to say who I am but she feels who I am. . Thank you for sharing your conversation with your mother.
My dad is about where this woman is. Very sad thing to go thru. Sorry about your Dad. My Dad came back for two minutes during a conversation. It was like he never had Alzheimer's, he asked if there was a pill that would let him just go to sleep and not wake up. At that moment he knew, but minutes later he had all forgotten.
To ANYONE affected by this, please try to remind yourself, LOVE is not a "thought" in one's mind but a "feeling" in one's heart! Alzheimer's may steal their memory BUT they will ALWAYS love you in their heart. That's a bond that NO ONE and NOTHING can steal. ❤
My grandfather just passed. We were very tight he raised me and was like my father. I’m 25, he was 88. He passed on Christmas Day. He was just like this. So polite and kind and such a pleasure to talk to. Thank you for the video. It really brightened my day. God bless you and Ms. Charlene.
I tend to agree about the questioning, based on experience as a full-time caregiver to my mom. Each patient is different, so there is no "one size fits all" approach, but mom HATES being questioned, to the point of being nasty and then withdrawing. There's a lot of detective work that goes into reading and communicating with dementia patients, especially as the disease progresses. Mom will tolerate a maximum of three questions and then the excrement hits the fan. But again, every patient is different.
@Klaa2 Dementia is a syndrome, not a disease. ... Dementia is a group of symptoms that affects mental cognitive tasks such as memory and reasoning. Dementia is an umbrella term that Alzheimer's disease can fall under. It can occur due to a variety of conditions, the most common of which is Alzheimer's disease
It affects everyone differently. My grandmother had alzheimers for a long long time. It was very slow progression. She was happy for all of it, dancing, singing. It was only the last two weeks which were sad as her body began to fail, but she was almost 100 years old, so I don't even think she would have moaned about that.
Kid I went to school with. His grandfather had alzheimers. He woke up one morning and had forgot he ever learned English. He spoke German only for the rest of his life. Eventually it erases your entire life.
Awww, your Mother is such a lovely, kind and beautiful lady! You are blessed to have grown up under her wing. So glad I stumbled upon your channel. God Bless You!
This reminds me so much of the last few years of my mother’s life. Pleasantly confused, but remained gentle and polite. So happy to see that she does not seem to be grieved at all by memory loss. My mom forgot that she couldn’t remember, which made her life so much calmer.
She's beautiful..enjoy every day with her! Mother's are such a blessing..I miss mine so much..what I wouldn't give for another day here with her! Best part is ..I'll see her when I meet up with her in heaven. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MOM!
She is a beautiful woman, she is radiant even here. You were blessed to have such a person as a mother. My condolences for your loss, and my sympathy for the time "without expectations" that you lived through.
