Story 1: You owe ZERO to parents for raising you. You owe ZERO to anyone EXCEPT yourself. Sister is NOT your problem. It's YOUR PARENT'S problem. Your parents aren't your problem they are their OWN problem. Cut them all off for good.
I'm glad you said something because I thought it was just me. But I'm just about done watching these because they're just either all fake stories or all written by doormats. This would never happen to me because I wouldn't let it.
Story 1: OPs parents didn’t pay for the house. He did. They used the fund he set up for them and then overdrew it. What a complete moron to let these people manipulate him this way.
OP is the biggest AH in this story. He needs to grow a backbone and follow through on his threat to cut off his parents. They never supported him or even treated him like a son; same with many family members listening to the sisters gaslighting. OP needs to cut everyone off and go NC. If sister got off her back (stop popping out babies) and worked she could get the things she wants. But obviously that’ll never happen.
@@darlingjewel6938 I would be interested in how the sister forged the docs that led to the money being taken out of the parents pension fund to pay the deposit for the house. Also wondering if the sister was stupid enough to think he would continue to pay into the pension fund, instead of doing as you so rightly suggest.
These stories are ridiculously funny, op at age 30 said he was forced to pay for his sister's wedding. I don't know what kind of 30 yr old alllows someone to force them to pay for anything with the money they've made.
His parents have programmed him to bend to their will since he was a child. It will probably take years of counseling for him to stop being manipulated by his mother's tears that are fortified by his father's disappointment.
Tell mommydearest & daddydearest that you’ll no longer be contributing to their retirement fund or any expenses. Your sister can now support them. Be sure you keep an eye on your credits& ID., make sure you have a good will that won’t let your sister, her children or your parents inherit anything
I agree with that suggestion. Cut them where it hurts the most .once he stops contributing to the pension fund and any xtrs plus go nc see if mom wouldn't think twice.
Story 1: The daughter could potentially be investigated and charged with elder abuse for manipulating her parents into paying from the retirement fund.
Unfortunately, the parents did that out of their own free will so this will be very hard to prove. My alcoholic bastard of a father put my grandma in hospital and changed the locks of an apartment she had 75% of and because she didn't want to press charges it took us 3 years to go through the courts and pay his 25% which he inherited from my grandfather just so she could enter it. At the time we realized he had sold absolutely everything electric, made wholes in the walls and shredded the carpets and curtains and anything else he couldn't sell, so the apartment was uninhabitable, but the lawyer said that even then will be hard to prove elder abuse, because the hospital thing was not recorded. And even now 5 years later she lives with my mother (her ex daughter in law) because even though I bought the electronic devices (kitchen, washing machine, hoover) it still needs a major renovation, furniture and everything textile to even begin to be considered a living space.
@@contractor1535, I’m guessing she lives in England because she calls it a “Hoover”, here in the USA we call them “vacuum cleaners”. So, I’m not sure how her daddy’s “political connections” would help, or hinder.
@@contractor1535 Not in politics, he just works with the police sometimes, this is how he jets away with not having a driver's license since 1988. Plus the police here are so incompetent they don't know how to sign on the dotted line literally, we had to submit documents for the court and 3 different officers had signed them in different parts of the margins but not underneath where the dots were, which led to another 3 weeks until someone with brains schooled them where they are supposed to sign.
@@michellemorrowallen8505 Actually I'n an American and I've come across a few people that do actually call vacuums a Hoover. The reason is because when Hoover Vacuum's were first being sold, they were so over the top expensive that it was considered a status symbol to own one.
Story one the op needs to learn to tell her parents no. Her sister is a leach and she will never learn to be responsible. Her sister needs to learn to live within her means and get a job. Op needs to go no contact with her toxic family.
@Diane Shaw, the OP is a man, (according to the animation) not a woman. *His* sister is a leach. Shoot, don’t you wish you or I could turn on the waterworks and get whatever we want?
I always find it strange when someone in these stories say they were forced to pay for something like, in this case, a sister’s wedding. Did they hold a gun to his head? Do like Nancy Reagan and just say no.
Just because someone doesn't have a gun to their head doesn't mean he wasn't force. Since he was a child he was bullied, guilt trip, and mentally manipulated into doing what they wanted. So all they had to do was apply a little pressure to force him to do what they want. There are all types of manipulation that don't require a gun to the head to force some one to do what you want
Cultural beliefs do come into play here. These stories are not usually from the US or Western Europe. As you look at Middle Eastern, African, or Asian cultural beliefs, it will fall on the son to provide for the family. Although to be fair, generally when a sister marries she then becomes a part of the other family and isn't considered a financial burden on her birth family. For example, here in the US it would take about 30 days to buy a home. This sister and her husband managed to purchase one in the time span of what appears to be a few weeks. That is not something you would expect in Western culture. Additionally, there being enough money in either of the parent's pension plan to cover a house payment when the son is only adding contributions is a bit unrealistic with Western culture housing prices. But of course this assumes the story is even true to begin with. There is a possibility it is all fan fiction.
@@Orsonfoe We know why he does it through manipulation, that does not mean it's force... When people say forced to do in situations like this, they aren't forced, they are manipulated into doing..
@@superdave8248 Manipulated into but not forced. I know exactly what you mean about true or not.. I see SOOOO many stories that are just flat out not even possible 🤣🤣
Story 1: Things to learn from OP's actions. First Mistake: Being a pushover doesn't get you the money back and when you give money to anyone let them know upfront it's a loan they will need to repay and set a time limit, Never say the words "It's a gift" behind the load because those words alone disqualify you from getting it back, and Also keep a log of it in the form of a Money Order or Check. This will come in handy later as a receipt if they refuse to repay it or they lose memory. Second Mistake: When manipulated shut it down quick by telling them to stop or leaving ASAP especially if they know what they are doing and use the phrase "Don't worry, You can afford it." or hold things over your head that got them out of trouble at moments they know they're about to be shut down. Third Mistake : While making a fund for your parents is a smart move for their golden years keep in mind warning them not to inform the irresponsible/ entitled family member about it will fall on dead ears especially if it's an entitled sibling because one or both parents seem to always talk no matter what. Because the entitled sibling knowing their parents always know what buttons to push to get their way. Fourth Mistake: While Elder abuse does exist so does the emotional damage in bulling adult children into supporting their entitled family sibling so if they guilt trip you just cut them off... all of them! In the end, if your parents spend up the funds you saved up and created for their future for the sake of a favored child... it's their bed to lie in and if they say the words "You owe them" in any conversation just go no contact.
These really are insane.. You're a grown ass man but you were FORCED to pay for a wedding for your sister, not your child, your sister!! Say NO!! That's it, nothing else.. Just plain ol, NO! She's 32yrs old and if she wants a, wedding, you can give a couple thousand if you want.. The audacity and entitlement of some people is just ridiculous.... Pay for her wedding, put your life on hold.. Buy her a house, put your life on hold... Yea, ok, this is ridiculous period and I don't feel bad for people that allow themselves to be doormatted CONTINUOUSLY!! She can work so get off her ass and support her marriage and children!!! The mom is a HUGE manipulative and toxic witch!!
So many of these family dramas stem from one person being bullied or harassed into giving huge financial gifts. Gifts are given from the heart of the giver. Not stolen from one who earns it.
I feel bad for Op's sisters husband but some of the fault does go on him for not sticking up for his family and Op seems to have a bit of a weak spot to his mom. Also if i'm living in a flat why in the greens gods hell would i put a loan on a house for someone else.
Story1- Stop blaming your parents for a decision you made. No one can force you to do anything you don't want to do. If you CHOSE to pay for your sisters wedding than that's a choice you made. No one forced you. You chose to do it. You didn't have to clean up her messes. You chose to do it. No means No. Don't be a pushover.
first story, just say no, simple as that, i said no and kept saying no after my family tried to force me, since they couldn't physically force me they tried emotional blackmail, like usual, but this time i just said "nope!" then left the house, (even though it was my house)
"So yet again my entitled sister wins." Nah. Mom and Dad won't be around forever and when that happens the sister tries to shove her way into OP's life, she will find it's not that easy. Even if she got other relatives on her side, she's not going to be winner. You can only win so much before it's time to take a loss. She's only got herself to blame for that no matter how hard she tries to deny that.
Lol, you know what she won? She won the responsibility to take care of their parents finances in the near future, and OP won the freedom of doing that because he had already done so. I can't wait for karma to show it's face soon 😂 it's gonna be hilarious
The OP started to show some mettle, but unless he resolves to cut them off completely the sister will continue to win..over and over. The fact that he needed to call a meeting with extended family to say no proves how weak he is. When he cuts all ties financially...and if needed all contact, then he can be free to live his life, and actually do the family a favor. Now he is just an enabling simp...pretty much good for no one..including himself.
I. Tired of people saying they were “forced” to do something . They weren’t! I don’t see a gun to their heads! Instead they were pressured and could say no
Story 1 :- OP, please learn to say NO and mean it. As I have said before “no” is a sentence in itself. If anyone says anything about this loan/starts crying about / calls you selfish/demands that you apologise to whoever or in any way tries to guilt you, “NO!”. Every time. If you don’t respond in any other way(it’s a bit like a bairnie asking “why?”after every answer!!!), they won’t find anything to hang their cajoling onto. The first few times WILL be hard, but keep on going. OP, NTA,however mom, dad and sister are all entitled, narcissistic, selfish, spoiled NASTY AHs. And she is now going to not invite you to her SECOND baby shower?? Tell her you want that in writing!
Story 1, NTA. Mom didn't get along well with the rest of the family. Hmm, I wonder why that is. Oh yeah, because actual people don't like toxic people. Not surprised that egg donner tried to manipulate everyone by crying and saying that she feels like a burden on her son which is BS. I think sister is a narcissist because she didn't like that she heard the truth so she slapped op and then tried to attack him. Then threatened him when she was stopped by her husband. I would tell the parents off and threaten to cut off the funding. If they refuse to stop cut it off and cut contact with the parents and narcissistic sister.
And now he feels bad for making her cry. GAWD I wanna shake him and yell at him that his mother's crocodile tears are a tactic. Women have used that one for centuries to manipulate men. If it was me, I would have said "You ARE a burden". But then I didn't have a particularly good relationship with my mom. I had no problem telling off my mother if she was being intrusive. Way back when my wife asked me why I can't have the kind of relationship with her mother as I do with mine. I asked her "Do you want me to treat your mother the way I treat mine?" She thought about it for a minute or so and then said "No, never mind"
@@rolandhansen812 same. I wanted to shake him at that part too. And b*tch slap his sister when she tried to attack him because she didn't like the truth.
If someone demands something from you be it family, or otherwise what is the worse that could happen if you say no... The trash takes itself out? Well that would be very nice.
2 stories about 2 spineless men who allow themselves to be walked all over and taken advantage of. Story 1: That guy needs to cut all contact with his toxic family. They are NEVER going to look at him as anything other than their personal ATM! And Story 2: That guy needs to repossess the car and press the charges against them for threatening him! Sheesh! Then he needs to get the heck out of dodge and never look back!
if someone is always getting into trouble and YOU fix it for them ... How can they learn. in a way all of this is sort of your fault for trying to buy your family. while it is good of you to take care of them. if they keep asking for more, you need to stop.
With a family like his I would say....BYE BYE for LIFE!!! Good grief. Well if he guy's name is on that car he will be financially responsible for any accidents and he does need to file a stolen car report for sure.
If any item she has in her possession and something happens-you are held responsible. Someone shot or car accident with injuries to name two. Your life will be ruined with years of bills to pay. Does she even have insurance?
I think the entitled sister might regret her decision when the entitled parents have to move in with her and her husband when they can’t afford their own home. I’d love to see THAT update! 😂
He should tell her congratulations Thankyou for deciding to take care of mom and dad in their old age. Take there retirement account and they are living with you.
Story 1 I'd be calling up the parents and letting them know that I will be cutting off all money to them from any pension fund that I set up and they can go ask SISTER to bail them out because I'll be filing a NC against both them and SISTER. Ohhh and I'd text SISTER to let her know that I'll be filing a law suit against her and parents to get my money back.
WHERE THE HELL do you find all these spineless men?!! If you take out a loan..thats one think..but your FAMILY expecting you to pay the loan off every month on top of it is not helping somebody!!
Mom hollering she took care of the son so she had a day. That was her job. She choice to bring him into the world. An she doesn't have no say in his money. He worked for it. Same on her for playing favs. Shame on anyone does that.
Story 2: Give them the numbers of homeless shelters, the welfare office, adoption agencies, churches etc, report the firearm and car stolen, Once they get arrested their housing problems are taken care of.
If the parents feel so bad for her why don't they take out the loan for her house????? It's bc they know she won't pay for it or be grateful for it. She irresponsible, why should she get a house. Where's the dad of the baby at?
As long as he’s not paying for it he shouldn’t care. His parents should use their money to pay for the house. Whether it be their savings or pension fund. It doesn’t matter. If they want her to have a house then they should pay for it, not try to force their son to do so.
1st story you need to tell your sister that it was a her problem not a you problem. You made your first mistake by helping her. Tell your sister to put the baby up for adoption. Tell mom to mind her own business.
This story is unreal, who asked ever asked for a house. You're family, your responsibility and no others responsibility. No excuse. You want a house buy your own house period
So if the second story was true he need to get that car out of his name if she gets into a accident he will be responsible for all injuries that happen.
You anyone anything, unless you choose to gift them. Making a person choose between SO or family is horrible. Prices of gifts isn't something you can demand and you need to appreciate the fact that you got one.
If my fiancée uninvited my family & cut them all off because they aren’t buying wedding gifts consider that wedding cancelled & that entire relationship over. You’ve lost your mind thinking you can do as you please with my family.
There must be millions of aunt Bea's in the world. I even had an Auntie Bea. Beatrice must have been a pretty common name. I used to think only me and Andy Griffith had one.
Sister can’t afford a house so if she and her husband want one she should go back to work let parents watch kids since they want to enable her and her husband is not smart why would he allow her to emasculate him The entitlement is outrageous OP stand your ground let your parents finance her life
With the last story OP ducked up not pressing the friend to press charges and not repossessing the car as he just showed that they can still get away with shit (ESPECIALLY PULLING A GUN ON SOMEONE) and getting no real consequences.
Story 1 has a simple solution. OP takes his parents to court for any of the over drafts/extra money they die from him, force the debt onto them, and shuts down the fund while placing a restraining order on both of them and the sister. Let them wallow in the mess they made while washing hands of them.
Entitled Mom & Sister: Buy your sister and husband a house pleeeeeasee. Average person: No. EM&S: How dare you say no to us, you're being selfish. Average person: What part of no you didn't understand??? EM&S: We'll cut you off . Now are you going to sign???? Average Person: FUCK OFF AND LOSE MY NUMBER !!!!!!
I didn't get much from my family but my entitled sister did. She totally took advantage of them. It wasn't till my Dad died that any of the family realised what she was like. She stole all their valuables. I love my life and what I have achieved for myself and living over 500kms from them all
And the first story it is pathetic that the parents gave the daughter that money it's a slam to their other child. They just went through the back door and that Op will end up paying the parents back in the end. Unappreciative and entitled parents will never end up if their backup funds will keep coming.
The key thing is to realize early on that your own family members are toxic. Then you have to find a way out. Once you live without the negativity for a few months you'll realize "I feel much better now." I'm never going back.
The entitled sister got the house from the parents' pension he needs to stop giving them money and stuff and what's going to happen is the parents are going to end up living with title sister because of this whole fiasco... well, they made their bed let them lay in it. BTW thier abuse is never gonna stop! The only way to stop it is to walk away, seriously cut all ties with them.
OP made a mistake in the beginning and stated that his mother had just had her 3rd baby by her boss so this means that all of them(her brothers and sisters) all belong to their mother's boss. Because if this is true then they all belong to her boss not her then husband and from the illustration they all have blonde hair not dark brown like their father. Wow what a hell of a story
Your mother destroys all your relationships intentionally. And you're a fool to let her get away with it. She doesn't appreciate you except for your money. You need to go no contact with the entire crew. Your brother in law should file for divorce and go no contact.
