Mom Lets Kids RUIN Dad's Work!?! 

Story 4: good apple based on my experience. I work outside the home everyday. I come home when my daughter gets out of school, fix dinner, then fight with her to do school work, shower, clean room etc. Then get up early the next day to get her up for school and start all over. It normally ends up in us yelling and tears. My husband always tells me to stop yelling and arguing with her etc. Told him it's not easy to do this everyday (she's a preteen). He said "put your foot down" so I told him to give me a day to "see how it's done". It ended with him yelling and arguing with her and her crying and arguing back. After ward it became a 50/50 job. If I'm helping with home work he does dinner and vice versa 😊

Story 4 she didn’t want a deep apologetic conversation she wanted him to say “hey OP I can’t deal with the kids I need help” which cold have easily been mute shout to your wife unmute finish the meeting and talk about it afterwards

Lindy sounds like the type of gf who would snap at Miles' actual sister for the sole offense of just saying hi to him lol

I disagree on #4. He didn't need to apologise in the moment, he just needed to say "hey, can you look after them for this meeting?". If she refused, then I think that would be pushing it too far.

Story #4 No! He is the bad apple. he said that he would take care of the kids all day to prove how easy it was. He threw down the gauntlet. It didn't go the way he thought and instead of asking for help he called her petty and doubled down on her being the problem.

Story #1 - This is a classic case of a sibling trying to take on the role of the other's parent. I guess I would give her bad apple, but the whole thing was so minor and not even worth an argument.

For the last story honestly with the last story I think letting him flop is how he is going to learn it took me being hospitalized for the people in my life to see how much help I needed how much worse would it have been if she had been out of commission for a significant amount of time, he would have flopped like my husband did and once I came back from the hospital people finally started helping me and stopped being so hard on me. I do admit that last story definitely hit too close to home but he needed to learn before there was real consequences

Story #2 - This is a tough one because I agree that OP is her own person and she has a right to choose not to attend an event that will make her uncomfortable. But I do also feel bad that it ended up hurting Miles's feelings, and that it was considered a family function. I wish OP had communicated to the entire group the extent of what was going on. But ultimately I land on good apple.

As a sahm mom of 3 little kids. I think she was really trying to make a point and was fed up with being underappreicated. There have been times when I have had a super hard day at home and ask my husband to pick something up on the way and he does. I think the only way that dad was gonna see how hard she works was to fail at what he thought was so easy

#1 - At least she wore jeans and a sweater, not head to toe black and a hoodie... it was up to the aunt to say something, not the sib.

Sorry, but disagreement on the last story. Was it petty of the mom to not help her husband? Yes, completely. Was it warranted? Absolutely, 100%. He literally asked for this, and he essentially said that she did nothing all day and that he could do what she did with no issue, because childcare is so easy. I have no pity for the husband. He made his bed, and she just let him sleep in it. He absolutely could have asked her for help, but he was stubborn. She wasn't asking for him to grovel and beg at her feet. She was just wanting him to admit he was wrong and/or ask for help. That's not a hard ask! It's not hard to go "Babe, I'm sorry, I was wrong. Could you please watch the kids while I attend this important meeting?". Seriously! If we're going to be making assumptions about this story, then let me make some of my own: based on the information in the story, and how the husband reacts, I don't think he helps out with the kids at all. If he was frazzled on the first task of the day, right out of the starting line, then he must never help out his wife. I wonder if he's the type of husband who brags about never having changed his kids' diapers. Of course, it's entirely possible that this was just an isolated incident, but that kind of frustration doesn't stem from nothing. This doesn't sound like a healthy marriage, but on the other end, I don't want to judge too deeply based on one story. This just raises red flags for me, because he's getting mad at her because of a challenge that he issued for himself, and he was too stubborn to admit he was wrong. As a spiteful person, myself, I would absolutely do the same. All she wanted was either an "I'm sorry" or "Could you help me?", but this absolute floppy banana was just too flapjacking stubborn. (I'm trying to cut back on my cursing) Edit: Oh, one part I forgot. So what if he makes more money than she does? Does that mean that her opinions and feelings are invalidated? No. Even if she was a stay-at-home housewife, she still deserves respect. Children can be complete monsters, even to their own family (source: I was forced to raise my three younger siblings while my egg-donor slept and did drugs/booze all day). You're right, marriage is a partnership, but though the husband is making more money, he's not pulling his weight with the kids and he needs to respect his wife, as well.

Story #4: what happens when mom is physically unable to care for the children? Yes, they both have poor communication and in this case she could have helped but someday she might not be able to. Income however has nothing to do with it. Mom is working 2 jobs. Small business owner and stay at home mom. That also saves a TON on daycare.

Story 4: the fact that he got angry at his wife instead of getting angry at the son who disobeyed him by interrupting his meeting shows how they became so undisciplined in the first place.

He said he could do it all, work from home and all the other things she did with the kids. She gave him what he said he could do, which obviously he couldn't, I say good apple.

Story number 2 needs to explain to the families that gf is attacking her and Miles is not acting to curtail it in any way that she can see and step back from the friendship until Miles wakes up to what gf is doing, but is good apple

#2 good apple. She didn't need to show him anything. If he wanted to see proof, he could've asked. He also could have, at the very least, ask the girlfriend about it.

Story #4: I think that since they agreed that he would take care of the kids all day to see how hard it is. She stuck to the agreement and he got mad. He needed to understand how much work she was actually doing so that he would appreciate it. It’s clear he didn’t respect what she does, so this was a much needed lesson. I don’t think he needs to get down on his knees and beg for forgiveness, but he definitely needs to apologize and admit that he was wrong.

Story #3 - OP is such a good apple! He showed more than a generous amount of patience with both the son's best friend and his mom. Also, the mom is clearly shady and just trying to muddy up the waters as an excuse to not honor her word.

You need to know what it's like being a mom before judging an overworked and under appreciated mom who's being disrespected towards her by her husband. He asked for the challenge and never apologized to her!!! He got what he deserved!

Story 3: OP needs to call the police Story 4: Op was a good apple pain creates change as Dusty Thunder would say.

Story 3 - Report it to your insurance. They have people for this. Literally. Get it off your desk. It's what you pay for. And their license is easy to get info from on their end.

Nah last story was a bad apple cuz he was basically saying that stay at home moms have it easy but then when he couldn’t handle it he threw a temp tantrum like a toddler and blamed the mom

For story 2 I say good apple. I probably would have handled this differently as well but that doesn’t mean I think she’s wrong for how she handled it. She may not have felt comfortable confronting it head on and she just wanted to get out of the situation. She may feel like Miles will be mad at her for calling out his girlfriend and she doesn’t want to lose her friend over this. I would have confronted it head on but I don’t think she’s wrong because she didn’t.

Firsts story bad apple. You forgot she also mentioned that she YELLED AT HER DAD too.

Story 1: Bad apple. My sister does this when the fam gets together and it drives me nuts, if the host doesn’t have an issue, it’s not an issue. And certainly isn’t her place to say anything. Story 2: Imma say crab apple for lack it information and possible lack of communication. Like she should have told Miles the full story and gave her reasons for not coming. Story 3: Good apple, until the damages are paid for there’s no reason the two can’t meet up elsewhere Story 4: I’d agree, if he didn’t double down. If he admitted it’s not as easy as he thought and asked for help then I’d feel different but he didn’t. He doesn’t have to grovel a quick simple “I need help please help.” Would have been enough. Good apple

26:26 EXACTLY!!! MOMS HAVEEEE TO DO THIS!!!! HE IS LEARNING WHAT IT IS LIKE TO BE A MOM AND A WOKRER… JUST LIKE HIM!!! THIS IS THE CONSEQUENCES OF HIS ACTIONS!!!! SOMEONE DADS AND MOMS DONT GET A CHOICE!!!! HE IS LEARNING TO BE A BETTER PERSON!!! HE DESERVES THIS!!!!!

If the aunt in the first story didn’t seem to care about the niece’s clothes, OP shouldn’t either

Story 1: crab apple for me. Didn’t need to do it in the moment. The parents are the bad apples, they knew the dress code and since it’s their child a minor they can force her to wear those colors . Story 2: sounds like Miles is in the honeymoon phase and really doesn’t care. I would do exactly what OP did. I would distance myself. Miles can’t have his cake and eat it too.

That last story, oh my... Who's thinking about the kids?? Forget about the parent's petty um stuff, like what?! Seems like both parents want to prove a point at the expense of the kids and i hate that😡

Story 1 classic sibling stuff Story 2 Lindy's reacting to Miles is sweet on OP? Story 3 I agree I have a similar rule that our 17 year olds 1 friend isn't allowed at our house unless one of us are home. He already damaged another friends house. Story 4 Stay at home parenting is a full time job. I say he's def crab apple therapy would be beneficial. I would have done what mom did

That is so crazy to me how she preaches not to add details to the stories. But she assumes that she did not talk to her brother about those messages or friend, and then rated them crab apple when she was totally in the right? That’s crazy. This is for number two.

Story 1: Bad apple it was her sisters CHOICE to wear what she wants.

Story 3: Good Apple; yeah, that ‘debt’ amount was BS, and I agree, go to small claims court, cause they won’t fall for the loan BS even if the story changes again.

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#4: Who makes what should not be an argument here. Sure the husband makes 2/3 if the family income, but OP contributes significantly by taking care of the children and home, not needing childcare or any other help in the home, possibly also saving money by shopping smart, usually cooking from scratch, etc. Financial contribution to the household is not just about income, but also about not spending and making smart choices. Using the fact that the husband makes 2/3 of the income as an argument completely diminishes and devalues the contribution of the wife. Secondly the choice to have children is made by both parents and the responsibility for raising them should also be shared. If the husband already gets frazzled at making breakfast and getting one child off the school, I wonder if he ever did these things before. At that moment the kids were not even misbehaving or being disruptive, they were just going through the normal everyday routine, yet it seems like the husband was already over his head.

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Story 3. It's 2 helicopter parents that both are in the wrong. The dad said he GAVE the car to his son. So sons responsibility to fix, to drive, to pay for, whole thing on son. The son at 22 should already have that car in his name and on his own insurance. The friends should be handling it between them. Sheltering both of the boys isn't teaching them to navigate the world. As soon as the dad gave the car to his son it's no longer his problem. The mom shouldn't be paying either. Land the helicopters and let the boys figure it out.

The last story I believe she was a good Apple. The dad got upset and said he wanted to prove it’s not that hard, but when it got that hard/harder than he thought it would be he got upset with his wife for not stepping in to help instead of being upset with his son who didn’t follow directions.

Story #4 also feels like minor child neglect tbh

Story 4: He is a bad apple. His priorities are clear. There is no other way to learn the lesson of how hard it is to work at home with a kid as a lone parent than to actively have to do it. She had to let him struggle. If his attitude doesn’t shift, he’s going to be a model of toxic masculinity for their kids.

Story #2 should be called a shrodingers apple, a its a good and bad apple based on the information in the "Box"

Last story: if it were me, and to be clear, my gf would never say that, but if she had, and we made this swap, I'd make her ask me for help by my body language, and then help. Are you familiar with what the Rock used to do to get the crowd to cheer back in his wrestling days? That would be me. Cupping my ear, "do I hear you asking for help?" Maybe I'm petty too but yes she'd need to ask in the moment. Then yes I would help and we certainly would have a serious talk about it afterwards.

I look forward to this every week!

I'm that petty I would have showed up at miles Birthday party and hang on to his every word just to piss her off

Ngl it’s weird for Rebecca to not be sitting criss cross 😂

2:25 Rebecca, you mispronounced fuming. It’s a long U, like fume.

I have to respectfully strongly disagree on the second story. I had a similar situation happen with someone in my life who unfortunately married said psycho, even though I told my bf at the time just how incredibly horrible toxic person they were involved with it only cost me the death of that friendship because I could not stand by anymore and see that crash anymore. You can try and believe me I tried, a lot, people just can’t see it when they are in love. So just because he didn’t get away from that person doesn’t mean she didn’t care or give it her all.

4: the title made it sound like she purposefully riled them up and let them in. I don’t think he understood how much work taking care of the kids was. I’m also still not convinced that he learned what he was supposed to. He was expecting her to swoop in like supermom when they made a deal. In fact, I bet that he was waiting for her to just do it without him saying anything. I think that they need to work on their communication and understanding of each other Question for you, Mrs. Rogers: would she have still been the bad Apple if she had removed herself from the household that day? Like gone to an outside workspace and let him deal with everything? That way she would not have been present during the situation

1. Crab apple 2. Good apple 3. Good apple 4. Crab apple

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First story crab apple. I get where OP was coming from but she could have done it better. Story 2: I've literally read similar stories on Reddit where OP showed the best friend the messages and the friend was like "Maybe you are secretly in love with me and my partner is on to something." Yep there are people out there like that so Good apple. Story 3: Good apple full stop. Story 4: I've heard this one before, actually earlier today. They both are awful, her for letting her child cry, him for assuming he could do what she does but better. So bad batch. She should have left for the day to give him the full experience without making her look like a fool by not helping her kids.

For the last one- *technically* according to what the husband said, the wife could have been out of the house. The wife's point wasn't even that he had to stop everything and grovel/ apologize; but just even ASKING her to help him. It seems absurd to me that if it *really* was a situation where his job would be in jeopardy that he couldn't excuse himself for a second- mute and at least ask his wife to help him out.

1. Crab apple 2. Good apple 3. Good apple 4. Bad apple

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Story 2: Good Apple; it’s weird that Miles doesn’t seem to understand that OP doesn’t want to upset his relationship, since he knows his GF doesn’t like his friendship with OP. Regardless if OP showed Miles the comments, he is at least somewhat aware of the situation and still doesn’t understand how OP feels.

Last story - sometimes, you have to let them fall on their faces for them to see how much it hurts.

Story 1: You're so right Rebecca! Let the parents be the parents. If the little sister asked for advice, that'd be different. But she didn't! (I've also never heard of a dress code for a baby shower. It's hard to dictate what other people wear, especially if they don't have it in their wardrobe already.) Story 2: Good Apple. It sounds like OP has never handled something like this and was doing the best she could. Lindy is a Bad Apple and needs to get over herself. But, Miles is a Crabapple for not taking OP's concerns more seriously. He needs to understand that this isn't something Lindy is likely to get over, she'll just keep building this fake "relationship" in her head. Eventually, it'll break up the friendship unless, as you suggested, OP presents all of Lindy's actual communications to Miles and he takes them seriously. I do like your approach to also present the evidence to the other family members who care about Miles and get their help with him. Story 3: Again, you're oh so right! Story 4: GOOD APPLE! She wasn't the one who challenged Him, He was trying to throw in Her face how easy it is to take care of the kids and work at the same time. (If it was the former, I might agree with you.) She also wasn't thinking he should grovel, just ask for help. It could've been as simple as, "I'm really worried the kids will interrupt my next meeting. Would you please watch them during the meeting?" Taking the letter at face value, OP says she would've said yes right away. Good stories this week! Keep it up. So many people adore this series!

Story 1: I'm interested in how the person was so stuck on the 'rule' that people were told to wear certain colours. As an autistic woman, I would have been very confused as to why my sibling couldn't follow the rules. Not to say the person is autistic, but just as a way of saying that not everyone understands that some rules are flexible. Not to say that the person should have yelled at their sibling like that, so to me that suggests they were a crab apple

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Story 1: I would have gone with crab apple. Personally I don’t think it was the OP’s place, but it wasn’t the sister’s place to show up like that without a warning. I think if it was that big of a deal the aunt would have said something, but I also think it isn’t ok for the kid to just do whatever they want especially because they didn’t get permission and it’s not their shower.

Story 1: that girl is 100% going to grow up to be a narc.

story 3: i believe you can still file a police report, look up the statute of limitations first tho

3rd story good apple. Mother is bringing up a separate issue with loan.

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The first story reminds me of a time when I was 13. My parents were divorced. My mom had custody but because she had to work, my dad took me to my school function. It was a big deal. We were really pushed on public speaking. That night we were being judged, on our speeches, by college professors, at college standards. I wore makeup, fixed my hair and wore the nicest every day clothes I had, as I had no special occasion clothes. My dad stopped me, in his truck, to tell me how disappointed he was. ‘Why would I bother putting on makeup if I was going to dress like I didn’t care?’ I am 50 now. This still makes me tear up. For real?? I’m a kid. How is it my fault my parental units didn’t help me get anything nicer to wear??? Maybe someone should have had a discussion with and gone shopping with this girl. I’m betting there were several perfect compromises, should someone have taken the responsibility that truly is not held by her.

Story #4 has me a bit flummoxed as to good apple vs. crab apple. On one hand both parents are being stubborn at the expense of the kids. On the other hand, Dad was visibly frazzled after getting one kid to school and canceling meetings. He basically offered her a day "at the office" and she took him up on it. Yes when she saw the overwhelm she should have initiated the conversation rather than waiting for him to initiate the conversation, but there should have been communication with OP before the meeting if it was really that important to his job security. Husband seems like he is shoving blame on his wife for his own stubbornness. Husband also could have picked and chose which day he planned to do this experiment instead of just staying home that specific day. Also, beforehand, the wife should have warned him about any pitfalls he might experience. Saying something like "telling them to leave you alone won't work." Also during this imaginary conversation she should have highlighted what she was waiting for in order to quit the challenge and step in to help. Saying something like "I know how demanding our kids can be. If you decide you can't do this or you want to just focus on work, here's your out." Also, "I know your work provides a lot of our joint income, if there's a time where doing this experiment will threaten your job security, say something and I'll take over." Yeah fathers should get a day to experience the trials of working from home with the kids able to interrupt and demand attention. It seems to give the majority of them new perspective and appreciation. OPs husband on the other hand is so detached from childcare and quality time with his children that he wants to gaslight his wife. She obviously does nothing at home all day, yet the kids are cared for and fed. Another question: how long is this dad's commute? 3.5 to 4 hours? He normally gets home at 8 or 9 pm? If it's a typical office job that ends at 5, that's excessive of a commute. Also what is happening to dinnertime? The kids are probably having lunch around noon, why is OP waiting for her husband's commute to be done before considering food for her kids? If a family eats when they should be sleeping, no wonder the kids seem undisciplined and unruly. It's not just adults that get hangry and irritated with each other. A lot more thought should have gone into this than "My wife has it easy. I could do it no problem if we switched" and "My husband is so stupid, let me watch him fumble everything and see if he realizes how much I actually do." I'm sorry but couples should switch roles occasionally and not let the misunderstandings fester into this train wreck. If she had a major illness he'd have to adjust on the fly. What in the world happened with his job during the pandemic? How did he deal with working from home in the past?

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Story 4: Op's husband is incredibly selfish and underestimated how much work Op puts into managingthe home. He belittled her and said he was going to prove she was lazy. If he had let go of his pride and acknowledge he was wrong, she would have helped him. He brought the situation on himself and then got mad at his wife. I think they need marriage counseling, because clearly they have some underlying issues that need to be resolved. They should be a team in this, but I don't think Op is a bad apple for holding to an arranged agreement because her husband was unwilling to admit the task of caring for the children was harder than he thought. Would I have handled this differently? Yes, at some point I would have asked if he felt he was struggling and needed some assistance. After his meeting, I would have a conversation about the situation, and how what he said was hurtful and ask for an apology. I'm sure the husband felt embarrassed, but that would have been avoided if he hadn't been a jerk in the first place.

Story #1: Is the aunt upset? If not, what shes wearing is irrelevant. Even so, its not the sister's business. What the other girl is wearing has ZERO negative impact, so the sister is so rude and self-important. It's not hurting anyone therefore it's not a problem!

Married couples talking to each other? WHAT A CONCEPT!

Story 2 - You are presuming some interesting things about men and what they'll justify to themselves in the name of holding onto a relationship. I have no doubt that she showed him the messages, but the girlfriend has her own hold on him for reasons we all understand, and like many guys before him he's probably thinking "I don't want to lose this girl so it's really not a big deal." "Hurting his feelings" is about the only thing that might cause him to pull his head out and realize that the GF is a actually a destructive force in his life. The car wreck story - always get their insurance. I don't care if it's your grandma. That's what it's for. Let the insurance companies fight over fixing the car and move on.

Story #4- I think the fact that you don’t have kids is showing a lot in this story. Having children is a full time, unpaid, unthanked job. So she has a full time job on top of her part time small business. I totally see where you’re coming from! It was petty, and I probably would have given into taking care of the kids again myself. But it is completely wrong of the husband to come home and start berating OP when she’s also been at work all day. Yeah husband is hungry, does he not think she is? He made his bed, and he was made to lie in it. He said she does NOTHING all day with two little as running around. He made arrangements to work from home that day knowing he had two meetings to attend. It’s not her fault he chose to be rude and petty on an important work day. She is entirely justified to kick back and handle nothing (as long as the kids aren’t physically in danger) while he deflates his own selfish ego. I apologize if this sounds passive aggressive, this man just really made my blood boil. Any anger that may come off of this is directed at him. While I don’t agree that she is even a crab apple, I do understand where Rebecca is coming from, especially not having experience with full time childcare.

Where that last couple is concerned, I certainly hope this was a one-off. Seriously immature behavior on the part of both. He knows his youngest child and knows he's a handful, so he also knows his wife goes thru it every day with him. She knows his job is 2/3 of their income and anything that negatively impacts his employment is a bad thing. They both deserve a time out and then a session or two of couples conflict resolution therapy. Srsly.

also i can understand the parent stepping in bc like i have cousins who have gotten into wrecks and the parents have stepped in bc it can be scary but they all went the proper route with insurance and all that

The car issue is two separate issues. Money loaned between the friends 1. And 2 the money for damage caused by the friend to parents car

Im going to put a twist on #1: aunt was reaching a bit to tell people what to wear. Not everyone has a particular color or color range or type of clothing in their closet. The most i would ever tell folks for an occasion is " kinda dressy, wear church clothes."

Story 1: Bad Apple; it isn’t OP’s party, it isn’t up to her to call anyone out for how they were dressed.

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Story 2: I’m on the fence. Leaning good apple based on the question although I agree it could have been handled better.

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Story #1: I've got TWO bad apples on this one. One for the dress code of pastels for a baby shower. Just yuck. Double yuck when you have 2 nieces that are either in an emo phase or just came through one. Makes me wonder if she picked it on purpose to try and get the niece "to dress like a girl". And yeah, the sister needed to see through this and left her sister alone. Story #2: I'm fine with either crabapple or good apple. The bottom line is that OP fell for the girlfriend's trap and now looks horrible to her friend and families. Hopefully, when the girlfriend runs the course, and they always do, she can return to being a friend and they can laugh about the party. Story #3: Always, always, always file the claim with the insurance because people who rush to "Oh, please don't report this. I'll pay cash for the repairs." No, no they won't. And yes, the only option you have now is small claims court which is going to be a hassle. I'm going Crabapple just because you never negotiate with people over this. It never works. Story #4: I'm going to have a left-field take on this one as I'm betting she left something out on this based on the comment that "He likes working in the office (vs staying at home).". I think he sabotaged the day on purpose to eliminate his ability to work from home at all because she's been pushing him to do it more. He'd hoped the canceled meeting would be enough, but getting interrupted with the boss was the cherry on top. Plus, what kind of office job has you getting home at 8? So that husband of hers is a walking red flag IMO. So much so that I'm going good apple. Should she have stopped the younger one loudly enough so he knew she did? Absolutely, and that would have been the correct answer. But I can see where she's coming from.

Story #4 Lack of communication - like a phone call to do take out for dinner- then risk his job to make a point - bet the one thing hubby l learned is to never work from home again!!!

Story #1: Crabapple! And that’s mainly because this didn’t affect OP at all. I do understand that OP was looking out for the aunt, which is why I’m not voting Bad Apple. If the aunt didn’t say anything, or kick her out of the party, then she probably wasn’t that upset about it. Honestly I was kind of teetering between good and Crabapple, but after hearing your analysis Rebecca, I’m solidified on Crabapple. @5:54 what are you talking about? Your hair looks awesome 🤩. Story #2: Good Apple! Lindy started the conflict. Miles might have to choose between Lindy and OP. If he chooses Lindy, that’s fine, but then he’ll have to understand that she’s going to be in his life less than she already is. This is hard to relate to because I never had a long time female friend. I do have a friend that Ive known since I was 3, if not 2, but he’s also a male. I’m debating whether I should go to his next birthday party, but that’s not because of his wife. She is a very nice woman, and I’d even bet she’d take my side if he and I were fighting(we kind of did at his last party, hence why I’m questioning going next time). Story #3: Good Apple! This sounds like a typical Judge Judy (or People’s Court) case. Possibly other court shows, but I only watch the above two. This doesn’t change my vote, but I’m wondering, did OP’s son admit to the loans his friend made him? If so, the son can just fork over $700 to OP and his wife, making them whole, and then he can settle the rest with his friend. Even if that’s not the case, the friend owes OP, not the son. Rebecca, I agree with your advice 100%. Maybe even take it to one of the court shows. From what I heard, the shows pay for the judgement so OP’s friend wouldn’t be out anything either. Story #4: Good Apple! I’m not married nor do I have kids, but if I did, I would never tell my wife that being a SAHM is easy. However, I do live with my mom, and she pretty much does all the housework while I work full time. It’s not that I don’t want to help her, I’m either too tired or I ‘wouldn’t do it right.’ Either way, I appreciate everything she does. In this story, he accepted a challenge OP knew he could not do. All he had to do was admit he was wrong and OP would have gladly stepped in. The fact that his work day was ruined is his fault alone, and if it even led to him getting fired, well then who’s the breadwinner now? @27:40 you’re not supposed to be on your phone while driving, Rebecca! Is that not a law in North Carolina? I got 3 Good Apples and 1 Crabapple. You just gave the last story a crabapple to avoid the curse, didn’t you Rebecca? I appreciate the well wishes, but honestly I’m not a big fan of raisins or bubble tea. Still waiting to hear my story on here!

My favorite boba tea is either lavender black milk tea or Thai tea! 25-50% sweet of course, depending on the mood 🧋🧋

In story 4 the husband said he could do it kept going on about how she did nothing and doesn’t do anything for there family however she does the most more then him. Then he proceeded to get more angry when he realizes that he can’t do it and he should value her but instead of saying I’m sorry or I didn’t understand how much you do or say I didn’t realize what you have to deal with he got mad the mom slayed and is a good apple and the husband is jerk and simple minded

As someone who can't ignore things I can say denial is often not something we can help someone else overcome no matter how much information you provide or how its presented. Most of the time the munipulator twists things so much it makes no difference. The fact he expects her to change is the problem not what was said to him. It sounds to me that his hope is the trap in this abuse situation.

Interesting stories. Very nuanced. I love bubble tea and I love raisins. My go-to bubble tea is Taro but I will usually try every flavor of bubble tea. Especially seasonal or limited bubble tea flavors.

#1- bad apple, you don’t tell me what to wear. It’s a choice for dress code. If it’s formal, ok, if it’s conservative attire, ok. Colors-NOOOOO. You want us to match, nnoooo.

Story one: as I told my kids. We are the parents. Also it’s up to kid. I’d be happy my kid is going. As long as she’s comfy and looking respectful. Presentable it shouldn’t matter.

Story #1: Bad apple, but not a bad person. If the parents weren't saying anything to OP's sister, then it probably wasn't a big deal. Or if it was a big deal and the parents disregarded it for whatever reason, OP is still not the mom and should have let it go. As the eldest kid in my family (I have four younger siblings) and also a bit of a control freak sometimes, I used to struggle a lot with trying to parent my siblings over really little things. At some point though, you just have to learn to let things go. If it were a big deal your parents or another adult will handle it.

I have a question, and I don't mean this disrespectfully, why does Rebecca pronounce (fuming) few-ming like fum-ming?

Story 2: NTA Because she was asking if she was the bad apple for missing the birthday party. And she definitely was not. People like Lindy consume so much energy. I do not think OP was the bad apple for not wanting to entertain this on her weekend.

#4 Dad 100% bad apple!!! He downgraded the importance of stay at home parents; that their worth is only monetary. He said he could do it and he couldn’t. The little interruption during the meeting with his boss probably caused him to get some teasing for a week or so-but wouldn’t cost him his job. And I guarantee he wouldn’t say anything about how easy it is for his wife to be home. Also, it sounds like this is a common theme with dad downplaying her worth or work at home-whether with the kids or her business. If I had been the wife, I would have left for the the house for the same number of hours that the husband is gone. And then brought dinner home that night.

Story #3. The dad is not a bad apple. He is a good apple. The situations are separate.

1. bad 2. good 3. good 4. good

For story number 2 I feel like the lady would’ve been like “she’s getting into things that aren’t her business cut her out of your life.” She is quite delusional so 🤷‍♀️

2:26 did she mean fuming. fume ing

Story #4: I feel like this is one of the few times when the situation could have been helped buy the wife being snarky with the husband. "What's the matter sweetie. Feeling a little overwhelmed I can give you a hand. All you have to do is (depending on her specific mood at the time) apologize/ask for help..."

For story #4: Honestly I cannot see both of them as crab apples. I think both of them are in the wrong, and not precisely under the objective of the wife to prove a point, but because both of them were disrespectful towards each other. The wife by messing on the job of her husband when there was a bigger issue in which can affects their future detrimentally, and for her husband that he is non-appreciative of all the work that his wife puts not only on the household shores, but also on their children, their family as a whole. For me personally...I find that disgusting, inappropriate, it just...it just something that I would never do, like never...NEVER! especially if it can affect my children's future, you know what I mean? If she just proved her point for a while and then came to him and told him like: "Now you understand how hard this is?" (maybe not under that tone, but just to point out the fact that how hard pay attention to their children is) "I didn't liked how you spoke to me the other day, would you apologize for me? I can take on this now for the rest of the day" Just a healthy conversation expressing your feelings and, at the same time, being understanding on him.. Well..at least that what I would do 😅I wouldn't stand even an hour if I see the love of my life struggling that bad..I would feel terrible! 😭