Mom, Stop Blaming Us For Dad’s Death 🥲💔 | KARAMO 

Ikr it's insane 😮

That's how Narcs are. They can fool the world with their fake vulnerability but they evil .

Mental illness in our culture is ignored or swept under a rug! Jesus I hate to say that I know how the daughters feel! But you must let go of what no longer serves you and still love from a distance.

i mean she literary js said she docent like them because she feels that their the reason for her husbands death so she's obvusly gonna be mad

@@hayleymcneill189 but why lie saying you want to fix the relationship?

This moment was litterally too much, she even scared me through the screen. Something is so wrong with this woman, I don't ever think simple therapy like Karamo did will fix anything about her. And after that, she mumbled something like, straight into her own daughter's eyes "I will beat you up" as if it wasn't enough I'm seriously worried about these girls' mental health

It’s funny of what she said bc it’s on tiktok

@@yuniqueee.2raww 😂

That's Black Mom's for you, they are evil

I felt threatened . My parents never talked to me like that ever. This is an abusive violent parent

That’s the vibe I get

That is something I have noticed about black mothers especially from that generation; when they have girls they treat them like competition especially when the father stays around and when they have sons they try to train them to be their husbands.

It’s parents they view their children as competition or threats to their happiness that are part of the problem, and it’s too common in black families (moms and dads, both)

@Nick-ei8lt Why does everything bad have to be black-washed? Like this has nothing to do with black culture and everything to do with toxic family dynamics. Which you can find among the black community but also EVERY other community that is composed of HUMANS. Pls stop with the slander you’re not helping anybody. Quit finding every excuse to create a “safe space” per se to hate on black people and especially black women. It’s very disheartening how quick people are to jump on the bandwagon of hate but refuse to acknowledge what that behavior is rooted in, and it’s almost always pain.

@@Nick-ei8ltthat kinda racist

Yes I saw that too and it broke my heart. Daughters SHOULDNT be scared to talk the truth toward their mothers but unfortunately it happens like this situation :(

facts! you can tell her mom did some damage to her.

I noticed that as well, she tried to silence because she knows she’s done more harm to her. She told her to sit down as soon as she stood up to speak and purposely tried to cut her off while she’s speaking 😢

Also, as soon as the mom got up to walk behind them in the end she sat up so she wouldn't touch her.

It was so sad to watch. Until Mom gets herself some help and let that evilness go, these daughters need to stay away from her and love her from a distance. She is so toxic.

Very true

Amen!

Yesssssssss

Yes girlll

Yes

It takes strength to be that person, I would have walked away and left her to her own devices. I would tell my father I'm sorry but to fulfill your dying wish would put my mental health at stake

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@@LadyLoverShae Yeah! It totally does! It’s not fair to the daughter at all!

Yes, you hit the nail on the head. She is the truth-teller of the family.

Allow?

She sound like she's from Detroit and Chicago

From personal experience probably not entirely cause the change has to come from her. She needs to sit and try to understand where they are coming from and she never will because she doesnt want to understand

Exactly. I have a parent with narcissist tendencies. They are so draining. I say cut ties with these people. Parent, friend or foe.

Sadly you’re right and I am still healing from that to this day 😢

That was my thought right away, she's a narcissist and probably always was. Perhaps it was thr husband who kept things in check but now he's gone and the daughters don't have that buffer. And she said she wasn't gonna look after her grandchildren either. She seems to be violent ant they would do better to stay away from her.

Just heartbreaking to watch I cried for them 😢

Not trying to be funny but she probably beats the breaks of them kids 😢 she don’t give a damn obviously. Just sad AF. So many women wish to be able to have kids and give them love while some are able to have them but treat them like this lady treats her kids.

Look at how she told the youngest I’ll pull your braid out your head on national tv.

@@darisleidyperez1502 My nephew’s wife lost their 1st baby 2yrs ago, and is in the hospital right now after an ectopic surgery. We need to cherish and treasure our children, because they are a gift from God. Thanks sis. and have a blessed weekend!

@@philomenaezeh7770 only thing I can say is she will reap what she sews. The man above always sees everything. Blessings 🙏🏽🙌🏽

@@darisleidyperez1502 Amen 🙏

I grew up with this type of mother. Deep, deep, deep, rooted pain here. Generations of pain. The only thing to do is to walk away, I'd at all possible. WALK AWAY😢😢😢

The mom js pissed me off. My angers would never.

No we all have our on place !

@@britney3750 prayers extended to you and your family ❤🙏🏽

@@britney3750 Praying for you baby

@@britney3750 girl listen I have a toxic mother. Move forward no contact she's evil. No excuse to why she's treating you all like that!!!! Narcissistic mothers are real but your health and sanity is important. ❤️

@Britney my heart goes out for you all. I pray your mom realizes she's pushing y'all away before it's too late.

grief is grief but it's more in this situation. I lost my husband when I was basically still a kid I was 19. Even I didn't handle my grief by abusing people. And I was a kid who had no emotional intelligence whatsoever. This is a grown woman. It's clear to me that she has been like this since before the passing of her husband and only gotten worse since. She clearly pulls them in by pretending that she wants a relationship with them and that she's changed and as soon as they show up she begins abusing them again like every abuser. Something like this is probably never going to be fixed. Because they will never feel safe around her ever again.

i co sign on dat!

Perfectly said

@@Lina_unchained the youngest daughter has never felt safe. She was even attempting to abuse her as she left the stage.

@@Monkeybread31 exactly that's my point they're never going to forgive her because they're going to do the work at unpacking their pain and she's not going to change and all of that hurt all of that abuse is never going to leave them and so they will never trust her or feel safe with her again even if she does begin doing the work eventually

The mom is selfish and no help for her.

There is help for the mother if she is willing to acknowledge it and receive the help. However, there are many layers of pain that need to be peeled back.

@@standupbcounted2420 Black People don't believe no help

Absolutely! She is an angry, hateful person in general. Had to be hell growing up w her. I feel sorry for her daughters.

They need to cut her off and love her from a distance. This is WHO she is.

Facts

She needs Iyanla Vanzant.

​@@bohlalenchabeleng1370spot on!!!!!

Her behavior is that of a mentally deranged abuser. That's dishing out her insecurities on her daughters. She needs to be committed for psychiatric help.

It’s ironic she calls her daughters evil repeatedly but I have never seen such true, unbridled evilness in someone’s eyes as I can see in this “mother” like it’s literally scary to look at this woman’s face.

@@Alexxxxxxxxxx3577 I was called a b word, wicked, evil, all because I reported her for my brother saying she chased him with a weapon. Talm bout “why did u come to me”? Ma’am I’m not going to negotiate with someone who’s done it before, and could’ve potentially killed a child..

She may be feeling guilty for the way she treated her husband. Also seems like she’s jealous of the relationship between dad and the daughters…very sad

Yes and she is not sad because she misses him,she has guilty conscious and now she wants to blame her daughters because she knows she's the one who is responsible for her husband's death.may God have mercy on that evil mother.

Yes I can tell that nasty hateful attitude has been there for years, the name calling oh I know she was beating on them as kids.. I would leave her evil a** right where she is trust me and gone on about my life!! I know that pain all too well.💔

Or they'll purposely turn your children against you. It's too dangerous a situation.

It's not so much hatred for daughters. It's hatred for self

This is example of love self more than a man

I agree 100%

Yes that was my thought that she is jealous of her daughters and especially their relationship with their father. This is so sad and unfortunate.

Absolutely 🎯

Absolutely. That's the first thing that came to mind as I was watching it. Sad...toxic behavior.

took the words right out of my mouth!!

That’s exactly what I think it is. I also think that rings true in relation to the father. I don’t think she wishes her daughters loved her more, I think she didn’t want to share the father’s love with her daughters.

It looks like they never had her

Y'all been acting like this. Yall were really raised to believe everything momma and big momma and madea say is perfect and everything they do and say is justified. There are no men in these households because no one wants to walk on eggshells for some fat, black, angry woman who you can't say nothing to. They go they whole lives w/o nobody poppin them in that smart ass mouth so they think their bad. Those days are over.

Yes!!!!! I was thinking the whole time, why not have a professional on the show that can actually help this family!

I would love to hear how her relationship with her mom was

@@TheRayofsunshine01 I think he was/is a licensed mental health professional.

Im a mental health therapist too and my observation is that the mother is a narcissist/psychopath. She's been mistreating her daughters ever since they were little and, probably her husband. No kind of therapy will help her because in her mind she's right and everyone is not. She's evil and can't love. Bad seed. Her daughters should be educated about that disorder.

Na this woman is evil

That's Normal being Black

@@knightclassic1 not really

@knightclassic1 Your statement is very biased. This is not normal behavior in black families or any other families. This has nothing to do with race.

@@standupbcounted2420 Yes it does, I'm from Chicago so I've seen it all.

She Probably Treated That Poor Man Like Crap! I Wouldn't Claim Her As Mother!😠😠😠

You are so right

Pot always call the kettle black - it's the mother who is evil. They need to let her gooooo. The mother need good consequence s. That's a woman with a lot of pathology. She used to cuss the Dad too.

Her Ass Would Be Alone For Good F Her!

@@celestecruthird7842 one of the young ladies said she did

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I said the same thing.. like they lost their daddy and you blame them for it.. that’s the most evil shit ever

Yep… I was told many times as a child “because you are the child and I’m the adult I don’t have to explain anything to you.” You should WANT an understanding with your family. You shouldn’t laugh at them and mock them when they cry. My mom threatened me, hit me with spoons, called me fat and the b word… did all this same stuff. It’s sad. Ever since my sister had a baby I’ve been triggered as hell about my mom watching him bc of how hateful and careless she can be.

You are so right

Exactly. It makes you feel so bad and alone .

Fr tho

We do laugh at her 😂

@@britney3750 girl, y’all need to adopt me as y’all sister! I love her 🤣😂

@@lovey_charm she said she love you too boo

Ain't nothing sweet about that lady

Literally telling them she doesn’t love them but saying she wants to “fix” her family? Threatening them ? I say cut her off for your mental health at this point abuse is never okay no matter who it is

She is mentally ill. She needed therapy probably long before she had children !

i said i dont see how he helps at all honestly

@@yolandayolanda7486 He didn't help them.. The hatred that the mother had for her children was too real.. Like what do you say to that? What on earth can you do with that as an outsider?

I was waiting for someone to say that mom was jealous of the dad's love for his daughters. That was probably always the case. Resented them, never wanted them, they divided up the Dad's attention and love, she's bitter he's gone and she blames them. The lack of love she feels is her own. Maybe she can't fathom how her daughters could love her when she knows she never gave them love. The husband's attention and love was probably all mom ever wanted and now she's "stuck" with the kids she was jealous of, resented, and never seemed to love in the first place. Like a hurt little child.

Definitely

I was thinking this exact same thing. That’s usually the cause of this type of mentality. The root needs to be exposed and treated.

I agree! That's what I said as well. She has hurt that she hasn't dealt with in years and has been projecting it on her girls and probably her husband as well. 😥

U right. He's gonna be blue in the face & that lady still gon be hateful..

Hurt people, hurt people. The cycle continues with her daughters. They are now traumatized themselves. Hopefully they will get help so they don’t do this to their own kids.

This💯💯

Exactly

Mom needs to turn things around before she pushes them all away.

@@michelleterrell5133 it’s way too late, seems like she’s stuck being a bitter old woman

When she says “fix” she means for her daughters to comply to her treat like before. Now they’re speaking up more and defending themselves and she doesn’t like it.

Tbh it should be all communities whether it's black or white. Even white people like myself have issues with their own parents when trying to explain my feelings to them especially my mom and they don't listen at all After awhile I stopped even when I moved out.

It’s 2022. Let’s normalize recognizing that black communities have the exact same issues as other communities. Much love 🫶🏾

This lady ain’t normal? A mother is not supposed to show hate against her offspring, she is literally calling her daughters evil! She is in a sick manic state and she needs help. Her husband/their fathers death most of really brought out her craziness

@@ShyLittle88 Unfortunately the black community specifically is really bad for neglecting the feelings and thoughts of their child and treating them as less. Not to mention how normalized physical abuse as “discipline” is.

@@LA-fr4gp speak for urself and stop speaking for the. Black community. We dn not share the same thoughts

Yeah, but she has to go back to her house. I hope she can get her own place soon.

Yes exactly!

She is abusive and I am talking about physical and mental abuse ,that’s pretty obvious

Right. They need to run

amen. he was wrong in my eyes for how he approached that. all the way wrong

Exactly....we need to stop this for real....and let these relationships go....stop trying to make folks stay in connection with what is killing their inner spirit....

Tell my Momma that, please.

@@tolithalarkins2643 yes well mama doesn’t care anyways..life goes on

iam parying for the 👪

Think mom has mental health issues

Exactly 💯

Always the root or the seed..

She feels remorse for treating the husband bad as well, and is taking out on all of them

The first few sentences made my stomach turn... I thought your daughter sent you that because you somewhat act the same way towards her... I don't know you but thank you for being such a wonderful mother to her... You turned the narrative for real... I'm 18 and my mom has always acted like this towards me and it makes me fear ever becoming a mother... I really don't want to become her... And will most probably cut her off sooner than I would've loved to

@@okuhlentuli9093 don't ever fear of becoming a Mother. The Beautiful thing I've learned is I don't ever have to walk in my mother's footsteps. I wish I had a Mother to talk to and be here for me. I don't and I'm okay. I know my daughter will have me until I stop breathing. I don't care what obstacles get in the way my daughter will always know I will never treat her like she is nothing.

Thank you ❤️🥺

@@okuhlentuli9093 Your welcome 😊

Real heavy on the "love from a distance"!!! Because this has opened my eyes that I am grateful for my mother, I'm 16 years old and this just horrified me because my momma has never ever done anything related to this ever.

This is so DEEP, that last line. I never thought about it like that. You're probably right too. Wow.

I was thinking the same thing.

@@hawtnsweet right omg

Wholeheartedly, I agree.

Straight up!!! I’m tired of people living off of the strength of “family” when family can show such a disgust towards you ESPECIALLY children you brought here to earth ESPECIALLY when you have no reason or it’s every one of the kids, you hate them all but you are holier than thou…… it’s abusive and sad and you can find family in strangers more than that mom so connect as sisters and be your own village because dad was a saving grace but he’s gone now 😞

That entire statement 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

@@mimicoquillionmondesir507Makes me sad 😢 So disgusting

Exactly people get so wrapped up in titles, before anything you human . I will cut you out my life quick

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THIS!!! is i’m getting mistreated idc who it is if you don’t want to fix it or it’s not fixable, we’re done. family or not

HUGE Facts protect your PEACE at all cost

thats why i hate the saying “blood is thicker than water”

I cut my relationship with my mom and sister a few years ago and felt instant relief. This is a permanent separation and I have no desire to see or talk to either one again.

Agree - they need to grieve and heal their mother wound

And die knowing no one gives a shit about her feeling because she’s a mom, that’s why she doesn’t care about theirs😀

Yesssss💯

On my soul. Havent talked to my mom in over a month

@@britgaddis Sorry sis, therapy helps

I really feel for them, when my bro passed away,this year my own mother blame for his dead and call me all kinds of names, I was grieving in the side also depressed, it not easy,I understand what her daughters go thru each passing day.i just said my mum need help,but it not easy for me, I don't know what to do,I keep asking myself if am the cause of my bro dead, I just don't know what to do. Deep down am in pains,I just keep to myself at home

I agree the dad was the glue that held it together so sad

I’m so proud of your mom and y’all tooo she a real queen for staying strong so long just for yalll😕❤ Rest In Peace to your father

she is loved but she don't love noone, neither here husband

Absolutely RIGHT

ain’t no love atp.

Amen 🙏🏼

No love there.. u haven't been through it so u probably wouldn't understand the deep trauma.

Nope abuse is abuse. You don’t love your abuser from afar, even if it’s your own family or your own blood.

They're alive....thats all the credit I could give this so-called mother.

This is how my mom treated me🤷🏽‍♀️ when I left and got away I stayed away! I refuse to be a punching bag because she’s hurting!

@@loveandmarriage8041 I’m sorry 😢

@@loveandmarriage8041 I’m glad you got away and you are better

@@loveandmarriage8041 I’m so proud of u, genuinely ❤️

💯

Yessssd

She need to have Iyana Vanzant call her a gutter snipe

Those poor kids!

You don’t have no ptsd 😂 watch the vid n calm down

Sadly most blk mothers are narcs

And other female family members

Why? I'm in Australia and don't understand why this awful Mum and her vile behaviour would be the "reality of so many little black girls"? Surely, there's a mix of amazing, great, good, average and horrible Mums. This woman seems competitive with her daughters and her words are so cruel. My father was a cruel and violent man yet I was lucky enough to have an incredible Mum. Girls need their Mums to love, support and build them up. I wish these girls well. Take care. 🐨

You said it!! My mom hated me because of my light skin tone and hazel eyes but the reason she got with my dad was to avoid having darker skin children which is what her mother did also. It literally made me hate myself and everything about me because I couldn't understand why she would call me horrible names, make fun of me and say horrible things about lighter skinned people. She was jealous but I don't understand that. My 18 year d daughter looks just like a younger me, but I'm so proud of her and I love her to death and would never try to destroy her.

@Cali Classic well they didn’t say all the black girls , they said MANY..so how about you don’t just speak at all

That part

When her health fails… Cholesterol is a muthafuxka…

She won't. This is like my grandmother. She will die with her bitterness and delusions

Nope. there are people out there who has no kids at all and are doing just fine in their old age

Shell definitely regret it one day,she has forgotten that she's not getting any younger.

It’s okay to say I love you but she don’t have to be in their life.

Agreed. I think he took it too easy on her. Instead of holding her accountable, he coddled her and made it the daughter’s responsibility to coddle her too.

See my whole thing is I agree with you, the only thing I didn’t get is one of the daughter that the mom blames for the father death said the mother seen him breathing like that all day and didn’t decide to get him the oxygen. So why blame the girl ? That’s what I want know. This whole situation is so sad.

He needed to see just how far gone (narcissistic) she was. At first she responded positively, creating a false narrative to appear engaged with him and the process. Then later she totally renegged showing her deception. His mistake was giving her responses anything more than face level

@@kclittylife7519 I understand totally where you are coming from. I see Karamo's therapy tactic as well. Love conquers hate! Repetition changes behavior. Constantly reassuring mom that they love her may not be therapy for her, she may never change. However, because they are genuine it will be helpful mentally for them. 💝🙏

Exactly!!!!!

I feel like she's always expressed it, but the daddy was the shield. Now that he's gone, there is no one to stop or buffer what she says and the abuse

Exactly 💯💯💯

Exactly. The youngest one said she's been called "B****" since she was a young child. This lady has been abusing her daughters for years. She's just got a "good reason" for her behavior right now. I pray for healing here, esp for each of these 4 beautiful daughters. Karamo is off track on this one. This is not caused by grief.

No doubt! She’s resented them since she had them.

Then walks off stage still threatening the youngest daughter. While mom is talking about her house and keys I'd be giving them back to her with a quickness. They should protect their peace and focus on their kids and their mental wellness. They can't mom and she's toxic so she can decide to work on healing or have no one at all.

@@michelleterrell5133 👏🏾 👏🏾👏🏾

I heard her say that, and I'm like she's shifting the blame off of her conscience

I also heard the mom say she didn't want her daughters around.

I also heard the daughter say she treated the father bad, too.

It is real but honestly I see this dimension in my own family but not currently. This used to be us in the past but not as harsh. I can tell it’s both the mother and the kids that are too prideful and clash too often. The daughters talk back which makes the mother mad ESPECIALLY since she’s in front of people which can hurt her pride and make her feel embarrassed which is why she reacts like that. I also see myself in the younger daughter (my past self) as she’s crying and trying to put the blame on the mother but not talking to her nicely/respectfullly either. I can truly say they all need to heal and grow from this because they have so much love for eachother.

@@blckbun the daughters have a right to express themselves and be heard. They are only trying to say “STOP MISTREATING US, calling us evil and liars because it’s not true.” That’s not being prideful. their souls have been crushed by the monster mother. They are hurt while their mom is being demonically dismissive and cruel.

Honestly..I think the mom has some mental disability issues. How she talked and acted. She is not all there

@@shicashake-gz2pmI agree!!!!

@@shicashake-gz2pmor she’s just mean.

@@jahnoyawalker4227to b mean & have a spirit like that you have to have an illness it’s giving evil not too mention she’s been like this it’s just worse the dad gone they said she even treated the dad wrong when he was here she’s sick & she need to seek help immediately

I couldn't have said it any better!! They will have to grieve her while she is still alive and ghost her for their sanity. Continue to build their sisterly bond and help each other out (financially, babysitting, advise etc) and leave their toxic mother alone.

Your absolutely correct!! That’s why GOD kept giving her girls to🤣🤣She hates self. The love that Man had for his daughters is because he seen her in them. He loved that woman because she loved him so. She didn’t like sharing his love she wanted it all for herself. If she had a boy she would have been fine.

@@lakeetiacarter4548 you said nothing but facts! Sadly my sister in law is experiencing that with her mother.

We is ❤❤❤thanks

@@jamiearnold9159 love you girls and you're amazing beautiful woman each and every one of you. don't ever let her make you feel less babes. stick together and if a no contact relationship has to be the way you live until she stops hurting y'all then it is what it is. yall can't keep accepting abuse being hurled your way. you are too too precious for all this pain 💛 Love from the UK

Yes we is……

I am so happy/proud of all of you! There is nothing more beautiful than sisters who have one another! There is that saying “hurt people, hurt people,” your mom just needs her healing.

Definitely gotta be strong 💪🏾

Thanks❤❤

Yes someone said it. She needs deliverance

Yes that almost demonic when she was yelling sit down! That is a stronghold

She needs absolute diliverance spirit of jezebel and the father ahab 😢

Yes! Deliverance

Lmao.. right.

No fr

Absolutely the truth

They never apologize