Aaron visits to diagnose the ghost in the machine. I cook carrots and cauliflower. I make grilled cheese. I talk about how grandma is doing. Happy Monday. B&B affiliate link shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=127457...
Yes! And continue doing it periodically. I worked in senior care for a long time and UTIs make symptoms either worsen or make it look like they're having symptoms of something else.
I have been a geriatric nurse for over 30yrs. I have spent a lot of time with individuals diagnosed with many forms of cognitive impairment. There are good days and bad days. Fixation on things from the past is common and can prove challenging for family members. Your approach was great. It can be frustrating as they become fixated on one specific thing and attempting to redirect has not proven to be successful. Joining them in their journey is best until they can move on to another topic or return to a present state of mind.
June, I love how you’re so honest about your feelings. It’s ok to blame someone for another’s death. I haven’t shed one tear since my granny died, she was so awful to my father when he was sick. I love you! And yeah…we missed Aaron
I sleep better just knowing you and arron are still good friends..LOL....I like to relax after a hectic day and listen to your stories....you are so real...we went thru the same shit with our 98 year old GMA..crazy how your GMA has such insite...at that age their minds head back towards almost infant like stages...don't let anyone tell you that you aren't an awesome thoughtful caring person....it shows thru even when u are abit cranky...
Great to see and hear Aaron hanging out with you June. You have wonderful camaraderie. You guys talking make an engrossing show. Your self analysis is an important reason to tune in. Thx!
I hear what you went through with your grandma and I wish to have a grand daughter like you one day. You are a very patient and loving person June! Very genuine, patient and loving. And the world needs more people like you!!
I've read through the comments and appreciate everyone sharing and of course June's sharing as well. Dementia is a really hard journey and I remember the time in my life where I couldn't get enough information on how to help my dad. I can share a few things here in hopes that those that need it will see it. Teepa Snow has content that is helpful in positive care and understanding the why, how, when of caring for our loved ones and covers redirecting hallucinations. Another thing I learned first hand was TV was often a negative influence and the stories and news would creep into my dad's reality. Watching positive things makes a huge difference. 💟
I remember having a dementia episode bc of some medical issues and you're right, the TV does seep into your "reality" and I remember having vivid memories that I could only later contribute to a mixture of what was really happening and movies that were on in the background.
June dealing with the death of our family members literally makes us grow up...its sooo hard to all of a sudden be thrust into this responsibility...especially when you dont have children of your own....i went thru the same experience when my mom was dying....it is exhausting and no one understands until they go thru it...but then you go thru it and you make it thru and it does change you...i relied on god to get me thru it and that personally helped me....find whatever helps you and embrace it...we are human and we have emotions and we are not perfect...we can only do our best....sending you a big hug...lots of love to you
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When my father in law got confused, it often turned out to be either a urinary tract infection or dehydration. We got into a cycle where he would get bad and demanded the Assisted Living call an ambulance. He would get there and they would give him IV hydration, monitor and then send him home. June, you are doing great in a difficult situation. The caregiver of the elderly often get the stick... I did everything I could to improve my fil's time in Assisted but was lambasted for any number of reasons. All you can do is brush it off, form your boundaries and assess the situation. Is there any chinese speaking social organizations available that can visit her? That may also be an issue as she is surrounded by people that can't speak her language, so she lives in her head.
My grandmother and my dad both had dementia. Its so difficult. You have to try to not take the things they say personally or literally. Not easy i know. They so are confused. And i agree with what some others said about a UTI or something similar. I hope they will check her for an infection. Hang in there. ❤
June, my mom died of Alzhemers last year. Find someone going through the same journey, or an group of dementia caregivers. It really helps with the stress and you will know that you are not alone.
Aaron is right. RU-vid algs push content that people engage with the most -- good OR bad. The fact that controversial content is "pushed" is simply a reflection on the type of content people consume. Humans like watching and reacting to controversial stuff. In essence, we are the problem -- algs are just highlighting this inconvenient truth.
an umbrella is useful and also helps with feeling of safety-its great that you are engaging with her and being honest and helpful-people with dementia can get lonely and she will feel that you are a kind presence
Your a beauty in braids❤ and I totally agree with he frustration you feel with grandma. With my mom I have been through similar things. Just breathe, and have faith that everything will be OK.
My experience with my family made me relate so much with you. I really admire you in all your strenght and honesty. Thanks so much for sharing and making me fell less alone. Keep it going, I'm actively rooting for your happiness. ❤❤❤ (Sorry for the broken english. Brazillian here 😅)
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. You are totally right about what you said about longevity. I think actually you are the best person - to have all this on your plate and doing it alone. Sometimes it is just a matter of just taking it hour by hour, doing things for yourself too. wildly hard sums it up.
June im currently going through this. My mom just died and now its up to me to work with my grandma to wrap up her estate and all her belongings and my grandma is moving and all this mess and i understand how they drove each other crazy but i also am trying to gain clarity and adjust to my new reality.
There are so many things that we say and do when we are going through emotionally sensitve things. My Grandma was diagnosed with Alzheimer's not very long after Grandpa died. It is normal. It is important to have partners with the nurses like the one you had through this episode. You are grieving for your Mom and going through all the steps of grief. Its frightening to see the people you looked to as you grew up being so fragile. So give yourself a break and rely on your friends like Aaron. You are strong,June. ❤❤❤
How awful dementia is! Just heartbreaking. The frustration; fear; confusion; paranoia; irritability; mood swings; anger, shame... Hard to see a loved one suffer so. Equally hard to cope with the mood swings and anger of that loved one without reacting and without being crushed emotionally. Sending love. ❤
My mom is the same way with her things...someone breaks in every day and steals everything. She tries to call the police multiple times a week. It's very common with dementia sufferers.
Aaron really sold those pickles and spices. You influenced me to buy almost $80 worth of spices with your deinfluencing reverse psychology. Thanks for keeping it real. Dealing with aging Asian parents and they can be such stubborn toddlers. I'm with you! But even though they may not give us the emotional feedback we need to keep spirits up, without our gulit, anger and ego we must strive to show love and service! It is hard and I haven't been able to let go of ego but with intention and meditation we can do it! Maybe. Or at least try.
Hi June I looked after my aunt same age last year and she was diagnosed with dementia. She also accused my 16 year old niece of stealing her clothes, underwear. And she also complained the year before of her brain not working right. it is so scary
I have a couple of thoughts, but I’m gonna start with one. As a restaurant manager in the Pacific Northwest and the Midwest for 36 years, I have seen several people come back and work at the same job two or maybe even three times.
Ignore my comments abt Aaron. It ain't none of my business and I love you and will follow you anywhere. You are my fav. Wishing you the bestest happiest life.
Anytime you feel that Grandma is acting up or strange get her checked for a U.T.I. both of my grandma's had this problem. She'll be a new woman after having antibiotics.
I took care of my grandmother. This kind of crap is normal unfortunately. All you can do is breathe and keeping doing what’s best for her. My grandmother was a diabetic and tried to eat a diet of mostly bananas and sweet potatoes, she had heart disease so the extra potassium didn’t help. I was the villian every time I stopped her and her aid for, buying those two items.
I can understand how stressful that can be. It’s normal and human to lose patience like that, I hope you can forgive yourself when that happens and just try your best to do better next time and the time after that. I did have a few bust ups with my 97 year old grandaunt when she went off about seriously weird things, I also think she was too afraid to acknowledge she was so old and kept thinking she was 40, 50, 60 basically re-living her glory days. It made it easier for her to deal with life that way. To pretend most of her family and friends were still alive. That was one tough lady but she still needed that break from reality to carry on.
My last employer had to replace all their employees (havent actually replaced them yet...)over the last eyar cuz the new owners...but they didnt understand that they were the problem. Lol
Does your apartment have air conditioning? Probably the reason you are hot is because you are cooking. It was good to see Aaron and that you have remand friends.
June, it sounds like Grandma has Lewy bodies dementia. I’m so sorry June. She doesn’t know what she is doing but I really sympathize with what you are going through. This is a tough one. I live with a 94 1/2 year old so I do understand. 💜
Idk but it broke my heart for June when I heard Aaron say he might have dinner with someone later. It made me sad for her because I can see that there's still feelings for him.😢
I was wondering if perhaps your grandmother is getting enough fluids. If she is not sometimes that can cause and electrolyte imbalance which may the irritability and confusion. It can be quite common in elderly. It can also cause a urinary tract infection which can add to the symptoms.
Man.. when you’re 90+, your brain can come up with some seriously strange things. Mainly influenced by emotions and feelings. My grandma only lost her grip on reality in her final three weeks, just months after she turned 90. Because she was on a liquid diet she kept fantasizing about food, even saying she managed to eat a whole turkey that I had cooked just for her! Never mind the fact that I only ever make it for Christmas and this was over a month before Christmas. But it made her happy and distracted her from the mundane routine and bland soups and lack of any kind of excitement in her life at that point.
Your mum would’ve wanted you to be happy above all things, you going to live with her as she requested would unlikely change anything about her fate, but might’ve been either a very good or very bad memory for you to hang onto. Just spending more time together doesn’t necessarily make anything better but older people seem to think it does, I just think if both are not in the right mood and frame of mind to reconcile then it’s just an extended torture.
What you’ve done for your Grandma is admirable💕 I know you guys are close but , Aaron is clearly slightly toxic…for sure. Sorry, I don’t comment often and I’ve wanted to say so for a while
hey June. just wanted to pop in the comments to say, i'm sorry if anything about my side of the interaction with the other user was the bigger problem for you. in my eyes, this was a user who 99% of the time is making comments like this in chat. comments that seem to go against what a wide part of your user base finds triggering. and i don't think i'd ever said anything about it before, but this particular comment just seemed over the top to me . ... but, i'm also recently learning about myself that sometimes i get triggered for myself and others and jump in trying to help save/protect/defend people when really i should just keep my big mouth shut and not make a tense situation worse . it's not ever my intention to make a tense situation worse, and it certainly wasn't here, but that seemed to be the result regardless and for that i really am sorry💛
This is a long long time ago but my grandmother passed 6 months ago and was like this the last year of her life. I didnt help much but i helped a little daily. She would talk about seeing through the walls to see the houses a quarter mile away on the main road flying 50 feet off the ground. She would talk about going to the bank the other day (she was bedbound) or that she had bought another present swore she wrapped for christmas (we moved them from her bed to their spot in the bedroom and we didnt hide any. It was a lot of you hate me, i hate you, and i want to die. I mourned her death and selfishly wished i cohld have more time wirh her but was also relieved both selfishly and because shes no longer unwell and lost in her own mind.
You're doing great! Try not to take what Grandma says to heart. My grandmother in her 90's was exactly the same! She claimed that someone snuck in and stole all her jewelry. Then we would find the jewelry and show her. She also kept a lot in the safe. Her mind was fine except her paranoia went through the roof. It's normal for elderly people.
I think instead of rewarding the crappy content only by # of views and engagement in the form of stupid comments complaining about the content (because it's click-bait or controversial), they should multiply the # of views by the net likes (the number of "likes" minus the number of "dislikes".) Yes we need a dislike button. So if more people "dislike" the content than "like" the content (as would occur for most clickbait), then they get zero money. If on average, a lot more people "like" the content than "dislike" the content, then the creator makes good money. More money would go to the people creating good content that people like and it would put a lot of the crap creators out of business, to raise the overall experience of the platform. Oh and to be clear, I would like your videos! (and only mention the above because you were talking about social media early in the live and it made me think about how to make more good content and less garbage!)
Or maybe it was a token of gratitude for Aaron helping her with the buggy laptop/computer? There is no need to dramatize and overthink everything. + not all the break ups have to be toxic.
@fatimadzhaborova9865 I asked questions. So why are you making assumptions and judging that? Perhaps you should follow your own advice about over dramatizing something. You likely didn't, however, because you see how my questions are ones MANY people would ask considering.
@@annangel1005 I have not dramatized anything. I just see two people who are able to manage their friendship after the break-up. And no, I do not consider questions about their personal life as considering. That is just my personal opinion and I am aware not everybody has to agree with it. Can you please explain how your question is logic then? She is making him lunch because he is going to have dinner with another woman? How does it make sense? There is no hate or anything. I am just trying to understand what you mean.
@fatimadzhaborova9865 You're assuming I knew they broke up. So, don't ask me to explain my question when you're the one who ASSUMED I was passing judgement about her making dinner for an ex. I didn't know they were broken up, I hadn't seen her videos in months.
I think you should be with Aaron when you are with him you get a lot of follows. Yes, it is, I think you're right, if you don't mind me asking, "Do you and Aaron see each other more often? Do you thank getting back together
Hi June found out I have 3 kidney failure 🤪diet change is needed now,🥱,, loved your videos as yoe should remember you have said my name out and answered a few of my questions thank you for that . I'm so glad we have computer engineers in our life been with mine for 30+ years he is a wonderful man. Thanks for the Aaron visit I enjoy him, glad he is in your life friends with benefits I guess they call it. yes you made the right decision on smoking on You tub I used to but not anymore . I have asthma born with it's because mom and dad did cigarettes . See you when I can June out for now an old lady friend . and your meal is something I to will eat except the chorizo your meal looks yummy to.
