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MONTESSORI AT HOME: 5 Common Misconceptions... DEBUNKED!
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@MariaandMontessori 2 года назад

I'm going to add to that point of creativity because this misconception bothers me the most 😅 There is so much creativity that kids can and DO have with a lot of the materials even though they are closed ended. The extensions of pink tower and brown stairs. The extensions of knobless cylinders. The designs they can make with the metal inserts. And sometimes even creating their own work like listing all the animals they can think of in alphabetical order or making a solar system that's as large as they are. And not to mention the creative problem solving that is fostered in the class 😉 As for the pretend play and open ended aspect, I wanted to add that schools offering extended hours beyond that 3 hour work cycle, at least here in our area, very much do offer opportunities for that type of play! Obviously during outside time, but also indoors if kids are staying for nap/after nap, etc....we had board games, Legos, building blocks, train sets...they were taken out to offer that opportunity that Dr. Montessori expected the kids to have when they went home after the 3 hour work cycle with her. Some children choose those options, some head over to art, and some continue to explore the closed ended materials, but the option is definitely there for extended hours!

@HapaFamily 2 года назад

Thanks for adding this addition to the creativity perspective! There are inevitably always other great examples that I fail to remember when writing my outline for these videos, 🤣 so I appreciate that you’re able to come in here and add them for everyone to read! ❤️🙏Thank you!

@melody_shmelody 2 года назад

Yes! Problem solving boosts creativity. You are literally forcing your brain to think in new ways. Doesn’t get much more creative than that!

@brunettesweetie21 2 года назад

I do some montessori style things and some just "regular". My daughter plays with all kinds of plastic toys, her favourite is the play kitchen with plastic food and her dollhouses. I still do toy rotation, encourage her to dress herself, use the bathroom on her own, do a lot of practical life activities, do a lot of learning activities. I do believe if you want to add some montessori to your parenting then you can, but you don't need to be 100% with all the tools and materials and wooden toys and all that. I think that is also a misconception. I love following your channel for tips and tricks that resonate with me and only do those things in the montessori style.

@Sdween 2 года назад

Yes. Although important to note there are reasons nursery schools allow understanding of red rods before inviting the child to play with numbered rods. There is a logical sequence to the materials and all materials are important to developing areas the mind, skipping a few will also skip a few important developmental “milestones” in terms of logical understanding and thinking in the child’s brain and that is one worry in implementing the practice on a home based level however there are great resources to help parents at home with little ones: like this vlog and others, Lovevery play style boxes, and your nearest experienced montessori teacher.

@brunettesweetie21 2 года назад

@@Sdween red rods?

@Sdween 2 года назад

@@brunettesweetie21 Yes, the red rods and number rods are in the Montessori sensorial curriculum. Niuhuis most commonly makes them. They are a wonderful early learning tool to understanding length and size, numbers and counting in equal measure. But it is good to be aware that missing out on one set of rods, and buying another (of a higher developmental level), without first creating a fountational understandimg of the more basic concepts of size first can be disadvantageous.

@brunettesweetie21 2 года назад

@@Sdween oh okay, I haven't purchased any specific montessori style learning activities like this for our home

@ar_m 2 года назад

Great info! Thank you! Another misconception that I've seen far too much of, especially in online spaces, is that, if you can't afford all the toys and items in wood, metal, glass, etc., that you aren't really "doing Montessori." I've seen far too many people attack creators or other parents in comments that, if they can't get the expensive items, that it is not 'real' Montessori. It's gatekeeping and unfortunate. Using plastic or diy items because that's what the parent can afford is better than not doing it at all. I saw a comment recently where people jumped all over a mom for suggesting that legos were a great open ended toy just because legos are plastic. This behavior turns people off to Montessori and I really would like to see that change. Your channel is always very mindful of this and I really appreciate it. Any time people ask about Montessori, I send them to your channel because you are well informed, inclusive and understanding that not everybody can drop hundreds of dollars on toys or tools.

@MariaandMontessori 2 года назад

It's a really unfortunate byproduct of Montessori exploding online, especially on platforms like Instagram and TikTok where everything is highly aesthetic and quick paced. The expensive items become the focus because...that's where the sponsorships lie. And that's all the audience picks up without researching further and then continues to perpetuate that. I've seen a good number of creators step up to combat this though and really try to bring the true Montessori method to light. Hopefully that change will trickle down soon 🤞🤞🤞

@ar_m 2 года назад

@@MariaandMontessori I truly hope so. I was watching a video on a channel I follow that focuses on learning through play and she went to ikea and showed Montessori inspired ideas from there that could be used at home. More than half the comments were about how uneducated she was because a few of the items she showed were plastic. One person even made fun of her because she didn't fully enunciate the T in Montessori in the video. It was vindictive and really could turn anybody off to Montessori if they thought that's how people acted that utilize the method. I had to chime in about how it was great that she showed all kinds of options so that parents can do what works for their budget. She isn't a Montessori channel but, even if she was, there's no excuse to call someone uneducated because they show plastic items or don't pronounce a word as crisply as they'd prefer. That's why I'm so thankful for those who are putting the information out there and are mindful that not everyone can afford the top of the line toys and tools. Like you, I hope that things trend back toward the true meaning of Montessori and less about the aesthetic or the " look how much better I am as a parent because I have all these things" mentality that is far too prevalent now.

@electricfishfan7159 8 месяцев назад

The parents who are that casually cruel to strangers online will never raise happy children, that’s the most sickening part.

@_imgracie 2 года назад

Hi Ashley! I would love to see a video on different Montessori careers. Like the schooling needed, maybe online degree options, average cost/earnings, the best states/countries to work in, and resources on how to find legitimate schooling etc. I’m not sure if that is something you’d ever be interested in making but as someone who majored in education and got halfway through my teaching degree only to be derailed by the pandemic which made me completely rethink my career choice as an elementary school teacher lol, I would love a video about this as it’s something I’m considering.

@Playing_with_a_Purpose 2 года назад

I love practicing the “pause” it’s truly amazing to see what children are capable of when you allow them time to figure it out

@angie_exe 2 года назад

I’ve been having trouble with help and my toddler recently, since she’s been quick to give up on a task, or ask for help with a task she’s already mastered, but I think I realize that she’s seeking help the way I do, and may feel she needs more attention or encouragement. Thank you for everything you do, you’re a lifesaver!

@allisoncooper3387 2 года назад

Ashley, you’re amazing, I love your passion and the way you articulate all the nuances. Love to you and your lucky family!

@RollingFishball 2 года назад

This is soooo useful! Even being a new Montessori teacher myself, I feel like I learnt some new things in terms of practical actions from this video! Thanks a lot!

@wholeheartedlybynadia 2 года назад

Thank you for these videos you’ve helped our journey

@jacquelineoforiamoafo123 2 года назад

Hello Ashley... Thanks for all your info. I'm really learning soo much from you on implementing Montessori with my baby girl. I, ve been watching you since I was single 😍😍🤩

@BeatrixFrancia 2 года назад

Great video!! I especially loved #5, as little interference as possible. Great job as always 👌

@TalkWithJoce Год назад

I deely appreciate this video! Giving them enough chance to do things in their own way feels so important. As an adult I've worked through a lot of anger over many times as a kid and adult people didn't do that instead trying to control, force, or push me into their mold instead of letting me be in my own process finding my own way. And times I did clearly ask for or need help and people close to me sometimes were super abandoning or neglectful in those moments or jumped in trying to take over and fix in ways I didn't want or ask for as if they knew my needs better than me (codependence). So how this video describes the approach is one that avoids controlling or codependence or blocking someone's learning and autonomy, though of course it looks different towards kids than with fellow adults. But I do think many adults tend to be overly controlling of children, like a constant dictating of what they should be doing. And not treating them as smart as they are. Of course the opposite of that is being so hands-off their need for care, connection, and safety from adults is neglected.

@Dana-mb1hd 2 года назад

Ashley your videos help me be a better mama thank you 💜🙏

@sharalli3112 Год назад

1:18 Children can do whatever they want / Montessori is too strict 3:47 No room for creativity 7:55 Pretend play is not allowed 12:31 The goal of Montessori is to create little adults 14:30 We shouldn’t help our child with things they can do on their own

@Leanneishere 2 года назад

I’ve actually seen in a Montessori documentary a guide stopping the child imaginary play with work material. The documentary is called Let the Child be the Guide. I’m glad to know most guides don’t do that.

@HapaFamily 2 года назад

That’s really interesting! I wonder if there may have been a more specific reason for the guide’s decision. I’ll have to watch this documentary, I didn’t even know it existed! ☺️

@Leanneishere 2 года назад

@@HapaFamily if you do watch it, I would love to hear what you think about it!

@eliana.pipes.creates Год назад

Thank you for the lovely video Ashley! It would be great if you could add timestamps to the video so that it would be easier to click through each of the 5 misconceptions more easily, and reference them for friends when I send the video! I'm a note taker and in informational videos especially I find that separated timestamps make it so much easier to listen and rewind to understand section-by-section. Thank you for your channel!

@WondaElizabeth 2 года назад

Your videos are so helpful. Thank you!

@elizabethmacken7779 2 года назад

A misconception common in my country about Montessori is that there’s no warmth in the care of the child in a classroom, if a child wants a hug for instance a guide won’t give it to them, or won’t let a child sit on their lap while reading a story. While obviously in a home environment there is warmth and affection I did work with one Montessori trained teacher who definitely discouraged displays of affection, a child wanted to sit on my lap while we were outside and the lead teacher came out and told me to let her sit by herself as she’s going to school next year. Of course this is one anecdote but I was wondering what it’s like in a typical Montessori classroom? Is it actually a misconception in a classroom setting or is there some truth, or does it depend on the classroom?

@Sdween 2 года назад

This. When I was a new teacher at my placement, I was surprised to see this approach for the first time too, it took a couple weeks of witnessing to understand. Previously been a nanny, I was used to cuddling little ones. I was told not to have anyone on my lap in the morning when children arrive, I felt that a little cold as it was the children themselves who greeted me with a hug and wishes to sit on my lap (of course). Other teachers would remind children:” H. You have big legs for touching the floor when you sit on the chair properly” or “M. If you rest your back to the backrest, your legs should touch the floor nicely”, always with a bit of a smile and a hint. The children know the rules of the classroom and are excited to follow them most of the time. They take pride in independence and their skills. When it came to a child who was feeling lonely or sad, often in a reading corner, we were encouraged not to solve the problem with physical contact - but in the reading corner we had a guide for emotions for them to identify how they feel, it was also a soft, dimmed space for them to be able to take a break in. We were not teaching them that problems are solved by us. The guides. The teachers. We were teaching them that they can find solutions to their problems themselves. And that they always have support around, helping them find their way if they get lost.

@SalomeHanka Год назад

@@Sdween Hm, I never thought of it like that, but it makes sense. However, is there any "mechanism", that would teach children, when NOT to rely on themselves? Like how to find the line, when trying on my own just doesn't do anything and I really need to seek help from a trusted adult.

@Sdween Год назад

@@SalomeHanka In the classroom activities, almost all Montessori apparatus have an in-built “control of error” which can be considered as a guiding mechanism, meaning that the activity really mostly has one way of how it is done. If you try do it in any other way, then it does not work or is not done according to learning objective. So very often, children listen to their intuition or gut feeling. For example - knobbed cylinders. The objective is taking out the knobbed cylinders and placing them back into their slots. If a child tries any other activity with them, like imaginary play, the “mechanism” then logically guides the attention back to placing cylinders back into empty slots - or the child can turn to an adult for assistance and ask what they can/should do. I hope I was able to explain with some logic here.

@SalomeHanka Год назад

@@Sdween Thank you for your reply. I know about the control of error in the classroom, I was more curious about not-shelf activities. How can the child identify the point, when it should stop the activity and go to the guide. How to tell, that his abilities for this particular problem are not enough yet. I will try to make some examples, but i never saw a real Montessori classroom, so they may be a bit off...: 1, The child took out all the letters from the moveable alphabet. Put some back incorrectly and the rest doesn't fit, yet the child can't come to the idea, that those letters it put back (because these do fit) are at wrong places. The child is busy with the activity for a long time, no improvement though. 2, The child sweeps the floor, but the mess is for some reason sticky, doesn't get cleaned, just moved there and back. 3, Unknown to the child (and the guide), the activity it is working with, is broken, therefore undoable. 4, Lets say that a child comes from bad family background. Does it have a chance to share with the guide, if home-problem arises? 5, One child sees other child crying. What is it expected to do?

@Sdween Год назад

@@SalomeHanka These are great questions, thank you for putting them out. From where I see it, the Montessori method comprises of three key principles: the prepared environment, the role of the adult and the individuality of the child. Therefor depending on the child’s age, developmental level and experience with a certain activity, and the structure of that activity, they may be able to tell if they are having “success” with it. The adult/guide/teacher/carer in the environment is there to facilitate independent learning where possible. Following the child’s interests and developmental needs…

@panayotadestiny5125 2 года назад

Try to stop a kid from imaginary play! My kid drinks water and goes wow I really like this milk!

@nikkis1359 2 года назад

Could you please talk a bit about practicing the Montessori approach in the case there isnt space for a separate nursery.. how do we go about setting up a sleep space within the parents then…?

@AG-hx6qn Год назад

Thank you so much for this. I got so discouraged due to my assumptions and lack of answers. :(

@Nikita-ox5si 9 месяцев назад

Even though i've watched a good chuck of your videos i think i may have had some of these misconceptions. Thank you for clearing the one close-ended play and not helping.

@ana-mariasocol5742 2 года назад

Hi Ashley! Even though we won't see the girls anymore, do you think you could keep showing us their shelfs every once in a while or talk about what activities they engage in? Thx

@jackieshomechildcarespace9822 2 года назад

Great video…

@staceychan2281 2 года назад

Hi Ashley! I love your videos! Please could you help me to settle a debate I am having with my husband? Should we stop letting our pets sleep in our room who currently sleeps in our room every night, if we want our daughter to sleep in her room and not ours?

@cosminam4551 2 года назад

Hi! Where can I find the Montessori Curriculum? I would like to learn more about it! Thanks! ❤️

@bettertogether749 2 года назад

Thinking along the lines of make-believe and fantasy, does the Montessori approach have a “Santa”? How would a Montessori family handle who “Santa Claus” is? Something I’ve always wondered about. Thanks! Love your channel!

@esthersalcove2650 2 года назад

She addresses these things in this video: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-XCyYVMwfoN8.html

@zahraghasemi1010 2 года назад

What should we do if the kid doesn't show interst to close ended toys at all? Should we continue to offer or should limit the opend ended plays?

@15lissydoll Год назад

I have a question, regarding the last point of helping your children. what if you know your child can do something but they start asking you to do it for them all the time? Would you just say something like, how about we do it together? To get them back on track or is it ok to just keep continuously help them?

@lbz8548 2 года назад

Hi Ashley, many thanks for this great video. A question, what if my toddler requests that i help her with taking off shoes and clothes almost every day not just once in a while. should i still help her every time she asks. I have been trying to hold boundaries here but sometimes this ends up with a tantrum.

@julial.b.6800 2 года назад

I had a similar problem a while ago and I found that it was the shoes themselves. So I took my little guy to the store to pick some shoes (gave him 3 options to try), and it worked really well. Turns out he was having trouble wedging his ankles into the back, and he chose shoes with velcro in the back.

@lbz8548 2 года назад

many thanks. she actually can easily put on and take off her shoes- it’s not something that she struggles with. i was thinking perhaps she’s doing this to re-connect with me after she comes back from the daycare. not sure. yesterday she did take off her shoes and clothes on her own. ❤️

@englishbysanja4539 2 года назад

LBZ my 4-year-old does the same! She can put her clothes on, but she always asks for my help (this started 3 months ago). 🤔

@MiaRoberston Год назад

I would definitely say that it is very likely that she is doing it as a way to connect with you 🥰

@zk.13 2 года назад

I wanted to ask you about pretend play, did you experience any pretend play from kylie after watching Harry potter? My daughter watched something similar, and now she wants to pretend she is one of the characters , we always remind her that it's not real but we encourage her by playing along. I feel that's really healthy but not sure if i should keep playing the role with her

@karlagrandjean2287 2 года назад

I have meant to ask before your opinion on Dr Seuss books.

@amg4098 Год назад

My daughter loves pretend play. One of her favourites was to pretend to go on back in time for a dinosaurs adventure as she loves dinosaurs, also because she's seen a TV show called 'Andy's dinosaurs adventure'. Is this in line with Montessori principle? Dinosaurs don't exist anymore but they did.

@viktorijastudio8085 2 года назад

Like 3🤩🤩🤩

@amoresalute6889 Год назад

Hope someone has a video on Montessori and Santa Clause. I am curious what the thoughts are on this because it was something I was always uncomfortable with especially since I am not religious and Santa to me is like teaching about an invisible man in the sky most people call god.

@Data90 2 года назад

I had a question about the baby doll stuff. Hubs and I are raising our little one gender neutral as well as Montessori. We mainly don’t focus on the gender side of toys and clothes. Well lately we noticed that our little one doesn’t like to play with dolls. They prefer their vehicles, blocks, dinosaurs, etc. We were told that we need to try to get them to play with dolls to get them to “pretend” that they are a real thing. But it isn’t what they are interested in. They do have dolls, but only special ones and they can stay on the shelf untouched for several weeks. I tried explaining this to the doctors or their occupational therapists but they want us to keep trying. I am at a loss at what to do.

@haleymglick 2 года назад

In regards to fantasy, I wonder the Montessori approach to holidays that have fictitious characters or western culture characters like “the tooth fairy”.

@amandagastrich4171 2 года назад

Same question for me! Montessori means grounded in reality, but how do you approach that when society frowns upon it as “destroying the magic” of the fantasy of the Easter Bunny/Santa/Tooth Fairy/etc.?

@HapaFamily 2 года назад

I’ve actually talked about this topic before, in a few of my older videos. ☺️ Here is one of them: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-XCyYVMwfoN8.html

@InnuendoGirl Год назад

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@bibbedyboo3532 2 года назад

2yr old only throws any toy all over the floor or puts them in piles, rarely plays with them any other way and if I try to play say with blocks, he will kick them down and all away from me. He will treat a car like a block, not like a car no matter how many demonstrations. He only likes outdoors, screen and education time and books and jumping on me, but hardly at all toys.

@melissaferguson7630 2 года назад

Will you be changing the name of your channel to Montessori at Home now or keeping the Hapa Family? Also would love some advice on how to give freedom within limits when outside their normal environment. At our house we have everything child sized, we don’t keep a lot of clutter and my kid’s have boundaries but they are mainly allowed to play with anything we have. The kitchen is also set up for them to access on their own- ages 2 and almost 6. However when we visit my mother her house is FULL of clutter and kickknacks and I spend my entire time there trying to keep my 2 year old from touching stuff which then makes my mother feel there’s something wrong with my son (she works with troubled kids) or that I’m just a bad parent and don’t “discipline” (she means punish) my kids properly.

@haleymglick 2 года назад

Sounds like your mom is from the generation of “touch me nots” (pointless objects everywhere that are breakable) I think it’s more of your mom’s responsibility to provide a space that’s safe for a two year old, however maybe implementing some of verbiage like “those are grandmas things and I can’t let you touch them” will both clue you your child that they don’t belong to them AND clue to your mom that her house is full of temptations for your child.

@melissaferguson7630 2 года назад

@@haleymglick yes that’s my thoughts too! And yeah it’s only my mother. My father even told her to put away all her breakables and she said no my children need to learn

@brunettesweetie21 2 года назад

Maybe instead of telling them to stop touching things, tell them to be gentle with those items and handle them slowly because they can break